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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems a lot of people on here who message us have lots of verifies but when you read it's 'social' only
We've met recently .. they said wanted to play but since then...loads of excuses but still having socials !!
Are they just fantasists ?
I know it's each to their own and all that but what can you get off on from it
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I work away from home during the week and there is nothing more depressing than finishing work then going staring at 4 walls in a hotel room. I meet for socials so that i don't die from boredom.
That said, if it looks like it is progressing further i would definitely roll with it, not run away! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont mind to have a social - but time is precious so its often a social with a view to play on the night if we can as its often hard for all to get times to match - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's also an element of meet for a social to see if the other person is what they seem online. If they are then things may progress, if not then rather than offend, just don't go any further than a social.
If you get lots of social meets but no sex, maybe you should update your profile or upload some more recent photos. |
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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago
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"Seems a lot of people on here who message us have lots of verifies but when you read it's 'social' only
We've met recently .. they said wanted to play but since then...loads of excuses but still having socials !!
Are they just fantasists ?
I know it's each to their own and all that but what can you get off on from it
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Think alot of people love the idea but then when crunch timecomes...  |
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When I displayed my verifications it was only the social ones as all anyone needed to know was I did exist and turned up, especially as they had to travel to me.
I would also do a lot of social meets with a view of meeting when my daughter went back to uni.
The people I met knew the score and we're prepared to wait. As long as all parties are fine with the arrangements there shouldn't be a problem.
If something doesn't suit you/fit your timetable try and sort that out prior to meeting socially so you don't waste your own time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seems a lot of people on here who message us have lots of verifies but when you read it's 'social' only
We've met recently .. they said wanted to play but since then...loads of excuses but still having socials !!
Are they just fantasists ?
I know it's each to their own and all that but what can you get off on from it
Think alot of people love the idea but then when crunch timecomes... "
Agree all their verifies displayed and all just social ..
After we met they were keen to meet but keep saying ... no time
However 4 meets since .... all social
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As regards the published veris, maybe people don't want to have background checks done. It's possible to look through people's veris to see how good they were in action, so only publishing social meets proves their existence and willingness to meet without giving their sexual ability a score. |
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"Seems a lot of people on here who message us have lots of verifies but when you read it's 'social' only
We've met recently .. they said wanted to play but since then...loads of excuses but still having socials !!
Are they just fantasists ?
I know it's each to their own and all that but what can you get off on from it
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Some like the idea of a meet for fun but don't really have the real desire to go through with it. I would agree people should be a little more honest it would stop a lot of time being wasted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Without trying to sound boring, it's sometimes a lot of fun to meet likeminded people for a drink meal. No one other than those we have met/swung with knows of our interests so it's nice to chat to people about it. If it goes somewhere then great, if not then a lot fun can be had with a social without having to take your clothes off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without trying to sound boring, it's sometimes a lot of fun to meet likeminded people for a drink meal. No one other than those we have met/swung with knows of our interests so it's nice to chat to people about it. If it goes somewhere then great, if not then a lot fun can be had with a social without having to take your clothes off!"
Totally agree with this. We find it hard getting out together as we have kids so a social is a good way for us to meet see if we click and feel comfortable then maybe sugar meeting alown. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of people enjoy the scene, the thrill of it, going to clubs & parties, meeting up with people to talk about the scene but never play, hence some people will just have social only verifications, we've no problem with that as long as they make it clear in there profiles and don't try to meet us x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lots of people enjoy the scene, the thrill of it, going to clubs & parties, meeting up with people to talk about the scene but never play, hence some people will just have social only verifications, we've no problem with that as long as they make it clear in there profiles and don't try to meet us x"
 this !!
It's the pretence of wanting to play that I find odd |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I work away from home during the week and there is nothing more depressing than finishing work then going staring at 4 walls in a hotel room. I meet for socials so that i don't die from boredom.
That said, if it looks like it is progressing further i would definitely roll with it, not run away!"
This is the exact same for me. Happy to progress if there's a connection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't bother verifying someone for just a social, there is no point. People want to know if you are sexually active , good at it and reliable..... well us genuine swingers want to know that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I have both social and play veris but I dislike reading the latter on others profiles generally (even when it's hinted at in a clichéd fashion - just say you fucked, we all get it  ) so don't really display mine.
I think that's true for a few with social only veris.
As far as your situation goes OP, make it clear you're actually looking for play and not endless socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op in your case I'd say the person or couple in question simply doesn't want to play with you but doesn't have the balls to tell you. They've then gone off searching for someone they do want to play with and have ended up meeting a line of unsuitable people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't play with anyone, unless I've met them socially and established we like each other.
Veris to me, are simply verification that a profile is a genuine representation of that person - nothing more.
I don't want to read graphic descriptions of your previous conquests and if someone left me one like that, I wouldnt publish it, either.
Some of my best encounters don't have veri's, because fun between friends, is nobody else's business - and therefore doesn't need to be publicised.
Some social veri's are from organized social events, not from meets which didn't result in subsequent play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op in your case I'd say the person or couple in question simply doesn't want to play with you but doesn't have the balls to tell you. They've then gone off searching for someone they do want to play with and have ended up meeting a line of unsuitable people. "
This
I meet for one quick social. If I meet them again then it's to play |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Op in your case I'd say the person or couple in question simply doesn't want to play with you but doesn't have the balls to tell you. They've then gone off searching for someone they do want to play with and have ended up meeting a line of unsuitable people. "
We haven't chased them
They message us saying keen to play
We actually like socials & if we do play after great
If we don't .. we've had a nice evening out with likeminded folk
That's not the issue at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't bother verifying someone for just a social, there is no point. People want to know if you are sexually active , good at it and reliable..... well us genuine swingers want to know that. "
verifying someone for a social is just as good as the ones verified shagging, least you know there genuine, but i dont get the cam verifications because you have never met them and could be someone totally different to what is on there profile. you can verify someone genuine on cam. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't bother verifying someone for just a social, there is no point. People want to know if you are sexually active , good at it and reliable..... well us genuine swingers want to know that.
verifying someone for a social is just as good as the ones verified shagging, least you know there genuine, but i dont get the cam verifications because you have never met them and could be someone totally different to what is on there profile. you can verify someone genuine on cam. "
typo,,, how can you verify someone genuine on cam? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ask them to write something while on cam or hold a certain item. It verifies them as much as confirming they look like their pictures and may be polite etc"
then that might insult them, and i certainley wouldnt do it, i rather be veried by meet you know its genuine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't always post veris if we meet after a social, there's just as much value in the social veri as far as confirming we are who we say we are and are as our pics (and personally I think what passes as a good meet for one could be less fun for another)
Also it's a lot easier for us to find time and have the ability to meet socially, I'd be disappointed with a half hour meet but that's fine for a Do we click? coffee.
That said they may be making excuses, personally I wouldn't be pushing to arrange a meet but if they came up with a date and time that worked would probably go for it if we were interested in them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op in your case I'd say the person or couple in question simply doesn't want to play with you but doesn't have the balls to tell you. They've then gone off searching for someone they do want to play with and have ended up meeting a line of unsuitable people.
We haven't chased them
They message us saying keen to play
We actually like socials & if we do play after great
If we don't .. we've had a nice evening out with likeminded folk
That's not the issue at all "
We certainly understand what you mean, even if others don't.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Op in your case I'd say the person or couple in question simply doesn't want to play with you but doesn't have the balls to tell you. They've then gone off searching for someone they do want to play with and have ended up meeting a line of unsuitable people.
We haven't chased them
They message us saying keen to play
We actually like socials & if we do play after great
If we don't .. we've had a nice evening out with likeminded folk
That's not the issue at all
We certainly understand what you mean, even if others don't. "
TY
Many just read two words and go off at a tangent |
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