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By *kultra OP Couple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this. |
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
I gained much more confidence when I stopped caring what people who aren't my nearest or dearest thought of me.Life in general became much better when I stopped giving a shit about what others thought of me,the only opinions I care about or take any notice of are those of the people I love.
Doesn't work for everybody but it worked wonders for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks like you're well on the way to overcoming those groundless fears xx
You have a figure that cries out adore me 
Aw thank you so much ?? "
Total pleasure - thanks for sharing such enticing pics xx |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
Just remember that the majority of people feel exactly the same. It's one of the reasons I love lingerie. I prefer a sussie skirt to a belt since it covers my stomach. Knickers on over rather than under and they can be removed without me having to get totally naked. Full corsets - just pop my boobs out of the top or wear an underbust one and take my bra off. Still not naked. Once I'm enjoying myself I seem to stop caring though and everything comes off. But I like the security of concealment, at least at first.
Saying all of that, I have been to a few naked clubs; I was bricking it but it was liberating rather than terrifying. I don't think I could have done it when I first joined the site though. Baby steps. |
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By *kultra OP Couple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
"Everyone has their hangups whether they show it or not. What one person sees as a issue others may not though. "
I agree don't get me wrong I am a confident person. I think once I've got over the first time nerves I may be fine. |
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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this.
I gained much more confidence when I stopped caring what people who aren't my nearest or dearest thought of me.Life in general became much better when I stopped giving a shit about what others thought of me,the only opinions I care about or take any notice of are those of the people I love.
Doesn't work for everybody but it worked wonders for me "
I had a partner (now ex) who told me i needed to exercise and loose weight and it killed what confidence i had. I stopped caring what everyone else thought and now my confidence is so much better than it ever has been before |
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By *kultra OP Couple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
"Just remember that the majority of people feel exactly the same. It's one of the reasons I love lingerie. I prefer a sussie skirt to a belt since it covers my stomach. Knickers on over rather than under and they can be removed without me having to get totally naked. Full corsets - just pop my boobs out of the top or wear an underbust one and take my bra off. Still not naked. Once I'm enjoying myself I seem to stop caring though and everything comes off. But I like the security of concealment, at least at first.
Saying all of that, I have been to a few naked clubs; I was bricking it but it was liberating rather than terrifying. I don't think I could have done it when I first joined the site though. Baby steps."
Thank you this is really helpful. I have been looking at buying more lingerie. It is my tummy I get the most self conscious about so being able to cover it (at least at first) would help.
In every other aspect of my life I am confident and don't care about other people's opinion other than the ones of my nearest and dearest.
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"Everyone has their hangups whether they show it or not. What one person sees as a issue others may not though. "
This is so true, I've got bits of me that I think are awful but I don't think about them and they don't get noticed  |
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We both had body confidence issues before we started going to clubs. Our local club is a spa with playrooms so your mostly naked as soon as you enter. Seeing so many different naked body shapes and sizes all totally relaxed really helped. Seeing people much larger than we were being so care free in their own naked skin was so liberating. Literally no one batted an eyelid.
We have a few vanilla friends who know what we do and they're horrified at the thought of being naked like that themselves. They believe they'd have to spend weeks dieting before they could do it.
It is a huge gear change to go from regular society where we're told that we have to hide our shameful bodies if they're anything less than photoshop perfection, to one that's so accepting. The only way to experience it is to try it at your own pace |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be happy in your skin x
I'd be overjoyed to be pressed against yours xxx
Thank you  "
It'd be an honour and a massive boost to my own body confidence xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your skin/body is just the wrapper for the real you.
True sexiness comes from within.
There are gym bunnies who'll never be sexy as they'll never be happy with themselves and those regarded as overweight who can't help but be sexy because they are.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you tried exercise? It helps for everyone
Not quite sure how to take this comment but yes I am doing and eating healthily"
Thought that too lol
Never mind you certainly inspire vigorous exercise and appear to have a strange craving for salad now too  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
We all have them, I am a short arse, I am 5'1 petite about 7 ish stone, no kids but I still think my stomach is my problem area purely because it is squidgy and I have spare tyres, some men like me, but I still can't get over my hang ups, but that is what they are.....Mine,
Just learn how to wheedle out the insincere crap and you'll be fine but don't rely on here to build up your confidence levels without a HUGE pinch of salt lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well looking at your pics I like a lot on here would be more than happy to have the honour of having fun with you.I don't think you should worry to much about it just enjoy yourself. I know I have my hang ups as well but if I don't try I will never know what I've missed out on. Hence why I'm back on here.
"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
Wow there is definitely no reason to be conscious about ur body it looks fantastic id certainly love to get my hands on it.. |
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From what I can see you have a lovely figure! Even people with the perceived perfectly toned body have body hangups I think everyone does!
I hate my stomach That's my hangup
So just try and overcome them and get out there on a few socials and clubs You'll soon see how appreciated you are |
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
I'm the same. Before joining fab I never took my top off in front of strangers. I don't think I would now,but on fab it's different, noone knows who I really am so I'm not really bothered if I look shit |
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
Body confidence.... Oh yes. I know all about that one.
How did I overcome it? I haven't. I just realized that if I don't accept myself for who and what I am, if I spend my time hiding away until that day everything is perfect, then I'll never leave the house.
So, one day, cliché I know, but I said "fuck it". I'm Transsexual. I'll never have a cute cis-girl body. I'll always have bits that are a little "butch" shall we say. But because I don't care, the men I meet and the people in the street don't even notice. And because they don't notice my confidence increased to the point where I change the things I can, accept the things I can't, and understand the difference between the two (mostly)
Enjoy girl. Some of us will never have a body like yours. No matter how much we wished as a child.
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I will not bother too much about it ,there are lots of nice guys looking for sweet ladies like you and will show you love just the way you are, you can wear a sexy night gown in the club and just pull it up when you want to play and reveal boobs also . Don't stand near the skinny ladies when you are in the club stand on your own with your husband and your fans will locate you. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"Have you tried exercise? It helps for everyone
Not quite sure how to take this comment but yes I am doing and eating healthily"
exercise can improve mental well being also, they might have meant that as well as overall body shape improvements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have massive body confidence issues. I've grown and fed 4 babies. My body will never be the same again. By meeting people my confidence has increased as they don't seem at all bothered.
I also use lingerie until I feel confident enough to remove x |
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By *kultra OP Couple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
Thank you everyone for your lovely comments. I suppose the general consensus is that if I don't care then nobody else will and if they don't care, why should I? I love the suggestion of using lingerie to my advantage, I will definitely try that. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to post so thanks again xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really hope sugar spots this post so many positive views really nice to see. After having our kids sugar hates her tummy and boobs dont matter how great shes looking i tell her all the time but she cant see what i see. She is some times put off meeting because people seeing her body. |
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
having a good perv on fab usually helps most ppl. U see the sexiness in all shapes n sizes of real men n ladies n realise no1 is media perfect. Your very sexy btw  |
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this."
Over time I have learned not to let it show. |
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"Hi everyone. I'm new to this world (although my husband created our profile a while back). After having 3 children my body and gaining weight I never lost my body confidence suffered and the thought of letting anyone other than my husband seen me naked would terrify me. That's why it has taken a long time for me to come round to the idea of trying swinging. My body confidence has improved massively but there are still areas of my body I am self conscious about and I do worry about it. Has anyone else had this problem and managed to overcome it? If so, how on earth did you do it? Lol. I am so nervous about meeting others but I really want to do this.
Body confidence.... Oh yes. I know all about that one.
How did I overcome it? I haven't. I just realized that if I don't accept myself for who and what I am, if I spend my time hiding away until that day everything is perfect, then I'll never leave the house.
So, one day, cliché I know, but I said "fuck it". I'm Transsexual. I'll never have a cute cis-girl body. I'll always have bits that are a little "butch" shall we say. But because I don't care, the men I meet and the people in the street don't even notice. And because they don't notice my confidence increased to the point where I change the things I can, accept the things I can't, and understand the difference between the two (mostly)
Enjoy girl. Some of us will never have a body like yours. No matter how much we wished as a child.
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Thank you for posting this. I too am hugely guilty of hiding myself away (mainly due to a couple of hurtful comments from someone very close to me telling me I was more attractive pre children).
I know I will never be that confident slim 18 year old again but I guess it is what it is.
As you say, change the things you can and leave those you can't.
Blimey. We were tough on ourselves aren't we? Xx |
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