Cheating is being deceitful and keeping things from your partner to get your fun for whatever reason you're doing it
Swinging is something your open and honest about it with each other so you can share the experience as a couple |
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"Ok im not sure how to put this but trying to explain how swinging isnt cheating to a vanilla friend. Can someone help me explain haha. Shes not judging us just i dont get how to explain it haha x"
We call it "ethical non-monogamy". The ethical part comes from the honesty. Swinging is not a free for all, my wife and i still have boundaries. Being honest and staying within your boundaries is whst seperates it.
The non-monogamy part is the fucking.
If you've ever been cheated on, try and reflect seriously and objectively on what hurt you more - the sexual act itself or the deceit? That's how i came to realise monogamy wasn't for me. |
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"Ok im not sure how to put this but trying to explain how swinging isnt cheating to a vanilla friend. Can someone help me explain haha. Shes not judging us just i dont get how to explain it haha x"
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"Ok im not sure how to put this but trying to explain how swinging isnt cheating to a vanilla friend. Can someone help me explain haha. Shes not judging us just i dont get how to explain it haha x
We call it "ethical non-monogamy". The ethical part comes from the honesty. Swinging is not a free for all, my wife and i still have boundaries. Being honest and staying within your boundaries is whst seperates it.
The non-monogamy part is the fucking.
If you've ever been cheated on, try and reflect seriously and objectively on what hurt you more - the sexual act itself or the deceit? That's how i came to realise monogamy wasn't for me. "
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"Ok im not sure how to put this but trying to explain how swinging isnt cheating to a vanilla friend. Can someone help me explain haha. Shes not judging us just i dont get how to explain it haha x
We call it "ethical non-monogamy". The ethical part comes from the honesty. Swinging is not a free for all, my wife and i still have boundaries. Being honest and staying within your boundaries is whst seperates it.
The non-monogamy part is the fucking.
If you've ever been cheated on, try and reflect seriously and objectively on what hurt you more - the sexual act itself or the deceit? That's how i came to realise monogamy wasn't for me. "
I was cheated on before and tbh it was the lie. He hid it from me for months, if he told me straight away id not be impressed but i wunt have been as pissed off as i was :-/ tbh since meeting spice on here this is the happiest ive been with someone even in our vanilla life x |
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"Ok im not sure how to put this but trying to explain how swinging isnt cheating to a vanilla friend. Can someone help me explain haha. Shes not judging us just i dont get how to explain it haha x
We call it "ethical non-monogamy". The ethical part comes from the honesty. Swinging is not a free for all, my wife and i still have boundaries. Being honest and staying within your boundaries is whst seperates it.
The non-monogamy part is the fucking.
If you've ever been cheated on, try and reflect seriously and objectively on what hurt you more - the sexual act itself or the deceit? That's how i came to realise monogamy wasn't for me.
I was cheated on before and tbh it was the lie. He hid it from me for months, if he told me straight away id not be impressed but i wunt have been as pissed off as i was :-/ tbh since meeting spice on here this is the happiest ive been with someone even in our vanilla life x"
Exactly. My first love cheated on me and the only bit that hurt was that she lied about it for so long and made up stories to cover it up. I felt stupid for believing her lies. As it turns out, if she'd just been honest about it then we'd probably be in a happy cuckold marriage by now!! |
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Here's how it is for us -
Let's say you normally dance together as a couple. It's great, you know each other's moves and timing and you enjoy dancing together.
Then imagine meeting another couple and swapping dancing partners for one dance in the evening. It's exciting, you all get to dance with a new partner and see your own partner enjoying themselves immensely too. Perhaps you each learn a few new moves and things to try.
Then you go back to your own partner for the last dance and it's the best dance ever.
It's like that. |
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"Cheating is being deceitful and keeping things from your partner to get your fun for whatever reason you're doing it
Swinging is something your open and honest about it with each other so you can share the experience as a couple "
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"Here's how it is for us -
Let's say you normally dance together as a couple. It's great, you know each other's moves and timing and you enjoy dancing together.
Then imagine meeting another couple and swapping dancing partners for one dance in the evening. It's exciting, you all get to dance with a new partner and see your own partner enjoying themselves immensely too. Perhaps you each learn a few new moves and things to try.
Then you go back to your own partner for the last dance and it's the best dance ever.
It's like that. "
I really like this actually x |
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"Here's how it is for us -
Let's say you normally dance together as a couple. It's great, you know each other's moves and timing and you enjoy dancing together.
Then imagine meeting another couple and swapping dancing partners for one dance in the evening. It's exciting, you all get to dance with a new partner and see your own partner enjoying themselves immensely too. Perhaps you each learn a few new moves and things to try.
Then you go back to your own partner for the last dance and it's the best dance ever.
It's like that. "
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"Here's how it is for us -
Let's say you normally dance together as a couple. It's great, you know each other's moves and timing and you enjoy dancing together.
Then imagine meeting another couple and swapping dancing partners for one dance in the evening. It's exciting, you all get to dance with a new partner and see your own partner enjoying themselves immensely too. Perhaps you each learn a few new moves and things to try.
Then you go back to your own partner for the last dance and it's the best dance ever.
It's like that. "
Just without your clothes on
Nice analogy, by the way. |
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"Here's how it is for us -
Let's say you normally dance together as a couple. It's great, you know each other's moves and timing and you enjoy dancing together.
Then imagine meeting another couple and swapping dancing partners for one dance in the evening. It's exciting, you all get to dance with a new partner and see your own partner enjoying themselves immensely too. Perhaps you each learn a few new moves and things to try.
Then you go back to your own partner for the last dance and it's the best dance ever.
It's like that. "
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