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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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so your looking frustrating isn't it trying to find someone for such a arrangement……?
so to keep things interesting and not just a list of people saying this is what a want which could be true or just a ploy to get past someone's defences yes I'm a cynic when it comes to sex .
I'd like people in there own words to add a few lines as to why they think the search is not working out for them so far and why they feel its so hard to find such a person .
To start the ball rolling I will give my own back story and a reason why I think people find it so hard to find a FWB ,
I joined the hoi polloi on here well over two years ago,
I'm a top who had a sub FWB she was out of this world totally into me and I was totally into her very sad story but it came to a end due to something out of ether of our control .
Now naturally I was devastated by that turn of events after a few months I thought ok I will go on line and try to find someone else . Now the truth is I was not over her at that point in time it took me around a month of being on here and one meet to realise I was not ready to move on so I left the site leaving my profile just sitting here ,
Then around September of last year I came back on here and didn’t message anyone randomly stayed in the forums only messaging and answering messages about forum topics or status posts .
I made a friend in that time on here had a few socials with her attended her birthday bash as I carried on looking for a FWB ,.
I went on socials with other ladies but I always held back turning down invites to play because my gut instincts said no always trust your gut people , these socials allowed me to realise I was ready for the commitment of taking on a new sub FWB unlike the first time over a year earlier when I was not due to being emotionally closed off ,
So to cut a long story much much shorter I have found my fwb she is a wonderful sexy little minx who can be a bit bratty which I enjoy , so there is hope for everyone looking . I am proof of that but I think the one thing that really stops or hinders FWB searches is to do with people not letting their guards down for fear of being hurt that’s one of the main reasons I feel its hard to find a FWB and that’s my answer as to why people struggle in their search .
Are you looking for a FWB post away and discuss why you think its so hard to find one after all your words may resonate with someone which may lead to you finding your fwb ,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm finding it hard as I'm married. But he knows and he's looking for same but I don't want a poly relationship but a FWB who we can go to clubs together etc but most want more which is fair enough or maybe I'm more choosy than I realise hmmmm |
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Yes very hard to find on here!!!
It's a one stop shop sex site where most members don't want anything regular yet their profile says otherwise or they just can't handle a woman like me - probably the latter!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't find it frustrating at all. Easy to find people to have ongoing connections with if you have a social circle full of the right kinds of people.
The key, I have found, is building that social circle with the kinds of people who enjoy naked-time with others. Eventually your friends will do the work for you: "oh I met this nice guy last week, he's not into what I enjoy, but I said I'd put you guys in touch because I thought you'd have fun together" and the like. |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"Interesting story....I think it's so difficult to find FBs/FWBs on here because in my experience they are always looking for the next best thing."
you mean the next conquest true I personally avoid and have turned down invites to play from such individuals due to me valuing myself higher than they obviously value me .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm looking for a FWB, thought I had found a good one but distance & his relationship status has caused many issues for me.
Ideally I want someone local, that is available a few times a week but is also up for 'dates' as the F bit of FWB.
Obviously attached guys can't be seen in their local area, I work nights which causes issues & I have a young child.
Being a fatty & not everyone likes that.
I often feel like I'm in the single guys corner where there's little interest
It's very very difficult to find someone decent that can fit in to my life!  |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm looking for a FWB, thought I had found a good one but distance & his relationship status has caused many issues for me.
Ideally I want someone local, that is available a few times a week but is also up for 'dates' as the F bit of FWB.
Obviously attached guys can't be seen in their local area, I work nights which causes issues & I have a young child.
Being a fatty & not everyone likes that.
I often feel like I'm in the single guys corner where there's little interest
It's very very difficult to find someone decent that can fit in to my life! "
your right things are often complicated which can make things hard but some people prefer things that have to be worked on because the hardship gives the relationship more meaning making the whole thing more uplifting on a personal level . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to find a regular fwb and if she played elsewhere that would be fine too.But ideally someone easy to talk to, have a laugh with, treat with respect and some great sex too. As a single guy it's tough to prove you're genuine, but that is understandable x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm looking for a FWB, thought I had found a good one but distance & his relationship status has caused many issues for me.
Ideally I want someone local, that is available a few times a week but is also up for 'dates' as the F bit of FWB.
Obviously attached guys can't be seen in their local area, I work nights which causes issues & I have a young child.
Being a fatty & not everyone likes that.
I often feel like I'm in the single guys corner where there's little interest
It's very very difficult to find someone decent that can fit in to my life!
your right things are often complicated which can make things hard but some people prefer things that have to be worked on because the hardship gives the relationship more meaning making the whole thing more uplifting on a personal level ."
Show me these people & I'll doff my hat to you Sir!  |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"I'm looking for a FWB, thought I had found a good one but distance & his relationship status has caused many issues for me.
Ideally I want someone local, that is available a few times a week but is also up for 'dates' as the F bit of FWB.
Obviously attached guys can't be seen in their local area, I work nights which causes issues & I have a young child.
Being a fatty & not everyone likes that.
I often feel like I'm in the single guys corner where there's little interest
It's very very difficult to find someone decent that can fit in to my life!
your right things are often complicated which can make things hard but some people prefer things that have to be worked on because the hardship gives the relationship more meaning making the whole thing more uplifting on a personal level .
Show me these people & I'll doff my hat to you Sir! "
they exist trust me I am proof of that . I don't run from the fact something maybe hard for a verity of reasons as long as I feel the other person is pushing the right buttons for me I will commit to the arrangement .
I'm a all or nothing kind of guy in all honesty in everything I do . |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
Lancashire |
There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket! |
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket! "
Surely that is a relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are looking for a friend who we, either together or separately, meet often and ocassionly share intimate moments with. We are not talking about polyamory; just a deep friendship. So far, no luck. Hope she is out there, somewhere
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket! "
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting story....I think it's so difficult to find FBs/FWBs on here because in my experience they are always looking for the next best thing."
 this is absolutely bang on..glad it's not just me that thinks this x |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l "
Tell me about it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it! "
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm also after the fwb thing, I did have one last year which was great but it didn't work out. There are quite a few guys who say that's what they want but actually just want a shag, or maybe they are just saying it to me!
I have limited free time, so to spend sometime with someone when I'm free doing the "date" stuff and then lots of naughty stuff would be ideal. I really enjoy sex but I don't really want to spend all my free time just in bed. When I explain this I regularly get told I'm on the wrong site, I should be on a dating site (well I am but never any joy), Dating to me is seeing someone once or twice a week maybe, which at the moment I can't do.
I remain ever hopeful that someone who gets that, and doesn't mind all my wobbly bits will come along and surprise me! |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what. "
i have a math formula for distances if the round trip is 4 hours i want 8 hours of toping time 
very few can keep up but when i find one who can well i want her and only her all the bloody time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's difficult to form something deeper when i only have every other saturday night free. No one wants a fwb that's part of day to day family life.
In a way that's a shame. I've no desire to play families. And none to hurt my kids. But 'normal' friends can pop round for a coffee or a glass of wine.
I think i'm only just in a place where my ideal scenario involves something more personal, though. And ready to offer a little more intimacy to the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what.
i have a math formula for distances if the round trip is 4 hours i want 8 hours of toping time
very few can keep up but when i find one who can well i want her and only her all the bloody time "
I could have more play time with my top. Good luck at finding someone who can. |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to form something deeper when i only have every other saturday night free. No one wants a fwb that's part of day to day family life.
In a way that's a shame. I've no desire to play families. And none to hurt my kids. But 'normal' friends can pop round for a coffee or a glass of wine.
I think i'm only just in a place where my ideal scenario involves something more personal, though. And ready to offer a little more intimacy to the right person."
how often you are able to meet the right person for you does not matter in my experience well it doesn't factor with me .all that matters is the fact they meet you as regularly as they can ie as regularly as their life circumstances allow and that you stay in close contact with each other in-between those meets . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what.
i have a math formula for distances if the round trip is 4 hours i want 8 hours of toping time
very few can keep up but when i find one who can well i want her and only her all the bloody time
I could have more play time with my top. Good luck at finding someone who can. "
Sorry little bitch been cheeky. I enjoy been with you handsonJohn I could have more play time with you if we could. So we make the most of what we got. XXXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what. "
2 hours drive is fine for some but when you total that over a couple of meets a week that's 8 hrs driving!
Far too much with the time I don't have.
I need local |
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By *vetteBondTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've come here in the specific hope to find a FWB. I've completely given up all hope of an actual LTR. No guy's gonna have me round for tea at his folks so I'm resigned to be his dirty little secrete. |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what.
2 hours drive is fine for some but when you total that over a couple of meets a week that's 8 hrs driving!
Far too much with the time I don't have.
I need local"
I'd be happy to drive an hour each way but would prefer it to be reciprocal though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's difficult to form something deeper when i only have every other saturday night free. No one wants a fwb that's part of day to day family life.
In a way that's a shame. I've no desire to play families. And none to hurt my kids. But 'normal' friends can pop round for a coffee or a glass of wine.
I think i'm only just in a place where my ideal scenario involves something more personal, though. And ready to offer a little more intimacy to the right person."
we're lucky, we have a lot of friends exactly like that through this scene. We don't go looking for it, it just seems to find us. Maybe it's easier because we're a couple. Maybe people just like being our friends but with all of the deliciousness that ensues from having another side to that relationship. It has to be people who can keep things very compartmentalized but then who don't find it strange that the potential for fucking your friends is on the table. |
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"We are looking for a friend who we, either together or separately, meet often and ocassionly share intimate moments with. We are not talking about polyamory; just a deep friendship. So far, no luck. Hope she is out there, somewhere
- Mrs. J -"
This is exactly what we are looking for, you could not of described it better.
Good luck and hope we all find what we are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what.
2 hours drive is fine for some but when you total that over a couple of meets a week that's 8 hrs driving!
Far too much with the time I don't have.
I need local
I'd be happy to drive an hour each way but would prefer it to be reciprocal though "
An hour would be my max driving time.
But then you have to find somewhere if you're meeting halfway, and most probably in a place you don't know!
Maybe I'm too picky |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
You sound perfectly just what I'm after!
Distance is a bugger :l
Tell me about it!
Distance is nothing if you want it you will do anything to get it. I should know my gorgeous fwb drives 2 hour just to come see me his the best I will do anything for him to keep him as my friend. Want you gorgeous no matter what.
2 hours drive is fine for some but when you total that over a couple of meets a week that's 8 hrs driving!
Far too much with the time I don't have.
I need local
I'd be happy to drive an hour each way but would prefer it to be reciprocal though
An hour would be my max driving time.
But then you have to find somewhere if you're meeting halfway, and most probably in a place you don't know!
Maybe I'm too picky "
Me too and halfway meets aren't something that work on a regular basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a lass I see, that I met of tindr and we get on great, though for both of us work gets in the way, either with it my being unable to accommodate living on a barracks or her shift pattern changing daily, so we don't see each other regularly. The whole being unable to accommodate on my behalf is what I believe put people off me, it's kinda a pain if it's always their house or a hotel I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm defiantly looking for FBs/FWBs or however you want to term it.
I don't want to sleep with a string of women, did plenty of that when I was younger and looking back the sex was crap.
I'd rather get to know someone over time and the sex Is always better for it.
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Like most people distance is the major factor, I don't get in from work until 5pm on most days so travelling for a few hours isn't a option as I would like to spend 2-3 hours in her company,
I have "Ideally looking for local Women, Maybe a fwb or 2 to explore/share our fantasies and build up a toy/Lingerie collection, Visiting swinging clubs and the odd weekends away" on my profile, and that would only work if we really connected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been looking to build sexual friendships. We've found a big hurdle to that, however, is that couples act as a couple and don't let others into their intimate world. We've had some success by having socials where we sit with each other's partners and so can essentially connect with them and have a better chance of wooing them. But there's still a lot of fakeness and standoffness where couples don't really act as normal human beings.
So we've now decided to start meeting separately, and already it's like night and day, with individuals connecting much more directly and honestly with us each. Ironically, then, we feel far greater hope of building mutual sexual friends by playing separately than together. That's where we're at  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I'm finding it difficult at the moment because of my availability and not being able to accommodate. My ideal fwb would be a shift worker who could accommodate and still meet my preferences (tall etc).
Sometimes I think I'm asking too much but I've had 3 perfect fwbs in the past so I know it's possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket! "
Sounds like an open relationship to me |
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By *ik MMan
over a year ago
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"There seem to be a few similar type threads to this of late which actually gives me some hope.
After much thought I've basically worked out that I'm now looking for a non relationship type relationship. I'm not sure Fab is capable of giving me what I want yet when I use conventional dating sites it is me who cannot give the women there what they seek.
Personally I want to find some intimacy as well as sex and the non relationship can't be a hidden secret- it would be nice to go on dates and socialise in the real world too.
It would be even better if they liked or wanted to explore clubs and not be averse to me flirting with other women nor me to their flirts. Perhaps I'm asking for too much here, pass the straightjacket!
Sounds like an open relationship to me "
It's not meant to, I'd be more than happy to go exclusive if things developed that way. It's complicated, I get that... |
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over a year ago
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I feel that being a younger, single male that I am not at the top of most females list. It would be nice to find a FWB local to me, of course to have great sex – but it would also be nice to enjoy one another company and laugh along the way.
This has proved extremely difficult however, due in part to there being a lot of time wasters on here.
The waiting continues..  |
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Ideally I'm looking for someone regular as I did previously meet my fwb through here and we became exclusive with other.
Not only did we have fun in the bedroom but also outside too. I do enjoy the social side as much as the naughty side
Hopefully I'll find someone just as open minded again my quest continues x |
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"so your looking frustrating isn't it trying to find someone for such a arrangement……?
so to keep things interesting and not just a list of people saying this is what a want which could be true or just a ploy to get past someone's defences yes I'm a cynic when it comes to sex .
I'd like people in there own words to add a few lines as to why they think the search is not working out for them so far and why they feel its so hard to find such a person .
To start the ball rolling I will give my own back story and a reason why I think people find it so hard to find a FWB ,
I joined the hoi polloi on here well over two years ago,
I'm a top who had a sub FWB she was out of this world totally into me and I was totally into her very sad story but it came to a end due to something out of ether of our control .
Now naturally I was devastated by that turn of events after a few months I thought ok I will go on line and try to find someone else . Now the truth is I was not over her at that point in time it took me around a month of being on here and one meet to realise I was not ready to move on so I left the site leaving my profile just sitting here ,
Then around September of last year I came back on here and didn’t message anyone randomly stayed in the forums only messaging and answering messages about forum topics or status posts .
I made a friend in that time on here had a few socials with her attended her birthday bash as I carried on looking for a FWB ,.
I went on socials with other ladies but I always held back turning down invites to play because my gut instincts said no always trust your gut people , these socials allowed me to realise I was ready for the commitment of taking on a new sub FWB unlike the first time over a year earlier when I was not due to being emotionally closed off ,
So to cut a long story much much shorter I have found my fwb she is a wonderful sexy little minx who can be a bit bratty which I enjoy , so there is hope for everyone looking . I am proof of that but I think the one thing that really stops or hinders FWB searches is to do with people not letting their guards down for fear of being hurt that’s one of the main reasons I feel its hard to find a FWB and that’s my answer as to why people struggle in their search .
Are you looking for a FWB post away and discuss why you think its so hard to find one after all your words may resonate with someone which may lead to you finding your fwb ,
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I've given up. Too bloody complicated and confusing |
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"It's difficult to form something deeper when i only have every other saturday night free. No one wants a fwb that's part of day to day family life.
In a way that's a shame. I've no desire to play families. And none to hurt my kids. But 'normal' friends can pop round for a coffee or a glass of wine.
I think i'm only just in a place where my ideal scenario involves something more personal, though. And ready to offer a little more intimacy to the right person.
we're lucky, we have a lot of friends exactly like that through this scene. We don't go looking for it, it just seems to find us. Maybe it's easier because we're a couple. Maybe people just like being our friends but with all of the deliciousness that ensues from having another side to that relationship. It has to be people who can keep things very compartmentalized but then who don't find it strange that the potential for fucking your friends is on the table. "
I am ok with friends like that but it's a very recent thing. I've been incredibly keen to keep the 2 parts of my life separate while i came to terms with changes.
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I had a FWB years ago, it was one of those things that ended up slipping into a ltr. Something I wasn't expecting what so ever, it ended fairly recently after three years together.
Would I be open to another fwb situation? Sure, the only problem is, who is going to put up with the likes of me lol?
I think "be like water" works well here. If it happens, then it happens but I'm not going to actively look for it or pursue it - I don't need that sort of disappointment. |
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"I had a FWB years ago, it was one of those things that ended up slipping into a ltr. Something I wasn't expecting what so ever, it ended fairly recently after three years together.
Would I be open to another fwb situation? Sure, the only problem is, who is going to put up with the likes of me lol?
I think "be like water" works well here. If it happens, then it happens but I'm not going to actively look for it or pursue it - I don't need that sort of disappointment. "
I think that's the best attitude to have, both here and in life in general. "Be like water" is a wonderful phrase. |
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We are looking for the same for Mrs.
We thought it be a simple thing to fulfil (straight guy looking for FWB's) but most guys just seem to want a quick shag.
We have so much more to offer than just that. Real friendship and dates, fun which it's meant to be plus an honest and open relationship between the 3 of us.
Loads of dreamers and timewasters but the one elusive FWB Is hopefully still out there and localish. |
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