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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah. Marc  |
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everyone I've played with has been out of my league....
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All of my meets from here have been above my normal sexual encounters |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah. Marc "
Aah, sweet  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. |
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No. Leagues are for football teams. People can't be classified like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would any one think that someone is out of their league?
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
out of interest how does your partner feel about this?  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
What harm would it do to you to send that wink? If it's likely to be physical then don't. Otherwise, just do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get ya big boy pants on, send her a message. What's the worst result? She deletes it unread. No dramas, you've not lost anything.
On the flip side, you've everything to gain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it anyway OP, what is there to lose? She might say yes. If she doesn't, then you're in exactly the same place as you are now.
Leagues are in your head.
You may not be her type.
But don't believe that anyone is better than you though. Think positively, be respectful and who knows?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think there's a single person on here that is out of my league. Others may disagree but that's their insecurity issue, not mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah. Marc
Marc! "
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Oh I told someone I thought I was punching above my weight once  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league??
out of interest how does your partner feel about this? "
She's super relaxed. We're both hugely happy and confident in our relationship. In fact, the one time I made a similar comment, whilst clubbing, she went out of her way to make sure we played with the couple in question. |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league??
out of interest how does your partner feel about this?
She's super relaxed. We're both hugely happy and confident in our relationship. In fact, the one time I made a similar comment, whilst clubbing, she went out of her way to make sure we played with the couple in question. "
I understand wanting to see your partner enjoy themselves. It's the league thing I don't get, but you're happy and that's all that counts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think there's a single person on here that is out of my league. Others may disagree but that's their insecurity issue, not mine. "
Is that so?  |
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I may be on my own with this but I think winks are pointless, Most people don't even look at them or they get so many you would just be lost with among all the others, I don't bother sending or looking at them, If they can't be bothered to send a message I wont reply to one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first laid eyes on one lady I thought what the hell are you doing meeting me, but I've met her more than once now so I guess she can't have been thinking the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think there's a single person on here that is out of my league. Others may disagree but that's their insecurity issue, not mine.
Is that so? "
I don't buy into the league bollocks so yeah. I think it's in people's minds borne out of feeling inferior to others. |
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"I don't think there's a single person on here that is out of my league. Others may disagree but that's their insecurity issue, not mine.
Is that so?
I don't buy into the league bollocks so yeah. I think it's in people's minds borne out of feeling inferior to others. "
I think most people have some sort of insecurities, its how they deal with them that matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I may be on my own with this but I think winks are pointless, Most people don't even look at them or they get so many you would just be lost with among all the others, I don't bother sending or looking at them, If they can't be bothered to send a message I wont reply to one "
I totally agree ... lazy way of saying hello .. when the messages are free lol .. don't see the point in them at all ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wink, message whatever.
I don't think it's insecurity, but maybe it is.
The point is that I sort of feel I have to be 'realistic'. But perhaps, in the Fab swinging context, that's an invalid concept.
Hence putting the question out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One thing I've learned over 3 odd years on fab is that there are no leagues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. "
Completely this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are definitely leagues I have 4 women on my hotlist that are out of my league but yes I look at their profile all the time and dream!!! |
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By *heffmMan
over a year ago
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You are only in the league you put yourself in, so called premier league are non league in some aspects |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One thing I've learned over 3 odd years on fab is that there are no leagues. "
And even if there was, sometimes a minnow from non-league can cause an upset in the cup against the big-boys! They simply raise their game |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just saying those women are looking for single guys I'm a single, I'm young clean in decent shape, ok looking but they are out of this world and out of my league. But the fantasy is nice! |
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"Wink, message whatever.
I don't think it's insecurity, but maybe it is.
The point is that I sort of feel I have to be 'realistic'. But perhaps, in the Fab swinging context, that's an invalid concept.
Hence putting the question out there"
I sort of understand what you mean by being realistic. We would be daft to contact someone asking for a 35 year old gym fit couple for instance. But to me by placing yourself in a league lower than someone else on the basis of how attractive "you" perceive them to be is assuming that you know what "they" will find attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Push the button OP. No one is out of anyone's league! May be have a word with your internal valuation. She may be thinking just the same about you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I may be on my own with this but I think winks are pointless, Most people don't even look at them or they get so many you would just be lost with among all the others, I don't bother sending or looking at them, If they can't be bothered to send a message I wont reply to one "
We totally agree with that....very rarely even look who has winked ....if they want to connect then the least they could do is send a msg |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thankfully my partner and I aren't out of each other's league for that would be a disaster
Other people's leagues aren't important to us
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
Yeah i have. Fortunately for me, people confuse 'reading a lot of books' with 'intelligence'. If i have a good conversation with someone then eventually gloss over my personal flaws.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes lots of times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know what.. you never know till you try!
Stuff like this is where a heavy case of the fuckits can go a long way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only whenever I meet a 'real' girl.  |
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"One thing I've learned over 3 odd years on fab is that there are no leagues.
And even if there was, sometimes a minnow from non-league can cause an upset in the cup against the big-boys! They simply raise their game"
Of course nothing helps the promotion prospects of those minnow teams like an unexpected injection of cash. |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
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Leagues???
Been relegated more times than i can count |
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Everyone is available to everyone else
You just have to find the right key
It may not be easy but it is possible |
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if there are there are loads of different leagues at the same time though... are we talking about looks, experience, a specific kink?
I can feel out of my league in any of those categories... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive. |
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive. "
I also feel it's very insulting to people they've already met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive. "
Can I say on your behalf that you are very attractive 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yea, I got very lucky, she married me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive.
Can I say on your behalf that you are very attractive
- Mrs. J -"
On my behalf? No, of course you can't! 
I'm not entirely convinced you worded that response correctly, but I think I get the sentiment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh god yes. Everyone I've met i think that they'd never fancy me from the start. But that's an opinion based on how I think I look, compared to the good looking guys here. But miracles happen. They talk to me and who knew, they like me enough to go for a coffee, and that's when I hypnotise them.
Go for it. Send a message or it's already a no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive.
Can I say on your behalf that you are very attractive
- Mrs. J -
On my behalf? No, of course you can't!
I'm not entirely convinced you worded that response correctly, but I think I get the sentiment "
OK, I'll say it on my behalf then; x
- Mrs. J - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a "league" is subjective.. Mrs p4k is smoking hot, im a pretty standard bit of rough.. i fully understand the initial draw to is as a couple is via Mrs p4k and thats great, but once we have met most girls/cpls can see why we make such a good pairing and love us both equally.. unless they like to squirt, then they love me a bit more.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive.
Can I say on your behalf that you are very attractive
- Mrs. J -
On my behalf? No, of course you can't!
I'm not entirely convinced you worded that response correctly, but I think I get the sentiment
OK, I'll say it on my behalf then; x
- Mrs. J -"
Well thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive.
I also feel it's very insulting to people they've already met. "
Yes I Have a huge issue with this. I think it is too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Justice league |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone I've played with is out of my league |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone I've played with is out of my league "
Hurry up and visit london |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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99% are out my league |
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I have played with guys and gals I thought out of my league.....
And have played with some I thought I was better than.... Now I jusy have fun and see who I click with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did used to think I am not hot enough/fit enough/fun enough/smart enough for a person’s attention.
And, I still struggle a little with my body image issues and self-esteem just like many others do. But I’ve realised that we are all human beings with worth, beauty and charm, even though our insecurities may tell otherwise. I'm not now in the mindset that there are Leagues based on the shape of someone’s body or how hot they look.
So, I have definitely changed my opinion on this subject and now think that no one can determine who is in a certain league, because leagues don’t exist.
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I've been so pleasantly surprised by how high my league reaches on here....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think in terms of leagues at all, just mutual attraction. This isn't football! |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
Yep, I'm married to her |
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The only thing that makes her out of your league is your own mind... |
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I always say go for it ! Who knows what their preference is eh ?
But myself personally rarely check winks a message get you further |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes definitely send a message, you never know. A wink would seem too casual and lazy to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only thing that makes her out of your league is your own mind... "
We have photographic evidence  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have. And after a good flirt i sometime succeed |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
I don't believe in leagues. You are assuming that you know what type of person she wants.Be confident about who you are. |
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"I don't believe in leagues. You are assuming that you know what type of person she wants.Be confident about who you are. "
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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"Yeah. Marc "
Iam sure he thinks the same of you unless he is silly and that seams unlikely. Your HOT! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think on fabs you have few types of people. The ones who go based on looks only, the ones who go on your veries and if you look like a good shag, the ones who want to get to know you better and would only sleep with the ones they liked personality wise, and another group are the hedonists, who wouldnt exactly sleep with everyone but just enjoy sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. After a social I never hear from them again |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
Where the streets have no name |
Maybe this can seem pretentious, but I think nobody is out of my league.
Other question is if that person deserves the effort to reach her and eventually,take the risk to be rejected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to think that a fair few of my meets were "out of my league", and that I was just being extremely optimistic when messaging them.
But upon chatting, building a rapport, meeting for a social and having a laugh together, I realised that I'd just been putting myself down, rather than putting them up on a pedestal so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Judging by my lack of responses, everyone must be out of my league ?? |
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. "
So do you think there are no correlations between how an external group would score a photo of someone between 1-10? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics.
So do you think there are no correlations between how an external group would score a photo of someone between 1-10? "
I couldn't care less how someone rated my photos. If no-one likes them, too bad! |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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"No. After a social I never hear from them again "
Clearly they recognise that you are way out of thier league.
Or you are attending the wrong socials.
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"One thing I've learned over 3 odd years on fab is that there are no leagues. "
Agreed!
Although I tend to be attracted to a certain age bracket/type on here, I do venture outside that if someone appeals to me!
I've met guys who I find attractive but others wouldn't, and men who are 'drop dead gorgeous' and had great meets with most of them!
I'm far from 'all that' myself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate to say that anyone is out of anyone else's league.
I have been surprised that I have had attention from ladies that I didn't think would look twice at me though. But little surprises like that can make you smile And give you a tingle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think better than "out of your league "
Could be you! Think that they'd say no?
Well that's life? we always think why would ppl get back in touch or get in touch but hey presto they do !
Just go for it !!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't ask you don't get op! Remember confidence and personality wins every time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. After a social I never hear from them again
Clearly they recognise that you are way out of thier league.
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I meant the other way round. Ah well... |
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Go on OP. Mail her. We are rooting for ya x |
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics.
So do you think there are no correlations between how an external group would score a photo of someone between 1-10?
I couldn't care less how someone rated my photos. If no-one likes them, too bad!"
Not related to my question but thanks for sharing your feelings |
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We were in Chams Newport some years ago when a very very good-looking couple came in. We can remember fancying them desperately but saying to each other that they were out of our league.
Literally less than five minutes later we were having sex with them. One of those instant encounters where you find out their names afterwards.
We've stayed friends and in fact we're out to dinner with them (and of course lots of sex) this evening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it is related, as what others think is of no consequence when discussing attraction, which is subjective. It's not worth basing one's self-esteem on the views of strangers. This is also related to the "league" topic. |
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"I think it is related, as what others think is of no consequence when discussing attraction, which is subjective. It's not worth basing one's self-esteem on the views of strangers. This is also related to the "league" topic."
We could do a pretty simple scientific study where 1,000 people all viewed a selection of photos and were asked to rate them from 1 to 10. If there was no such thing as leagues then the results would be randomly distributed. Since tests like this have already been done, we know that there are objective criteria that make some people more conventially attractive than others (e.g. facial symmetry). Whether or not people want to know their score or accept it is irrelevant to the fact that we can produce correlations that prove the existance of conventional attractiveness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
Hello Mr G,
There are no leagues other then the one you have created.
You said she is far out of your personal league... therefore you are already restricted by your own mindset. She has no idea you are interested in her nor does she know you have your own personal league
You obviously want her soo badly that you created this thread. If you can get over the fear of being ignored or deleted by her then make contact.
Unless you prefer to continue to be a thinker (fantasiser) what if..............
She replies to you and wants to play
Here are your options:
- You continue to do nothing therefore you get nothing
- You make contact, but nothing happens therefore you get nothing. However can still fantasise and think about her.
- You make contact and the following happens...
There is another option...
Tell us who she is and we can sort this out for you
PM me and I can try to get her in here so she can have her say. I bet she can't wait to get into your personal league! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why anyone on here doesn't just give it a go?
The worst they can do is say no.
You might find youre just their type and "leagues" are just a thing you made up to have an excuse to be a chicken. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive met a few who are out kf mine.
Some might say im out of theirs.
In reality theres no such thing as leagues. |
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"Ive met a few who are out kf mine.
Some might say im out of theirs.
In reality theres no such thing as leagues. "
Except in football. I know that because he has his nose stuck to the TV everytime his team is moving up the league table
- Mrs. J - |
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over a year ago
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Never think any woman is out of my league just think they have bad taste in men when they refuse ha ha |
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over a year ago
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I just think I am out of most woman's league there's far to many options I suppose for then and us average ppl don't get a look in |
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over a year ago
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There's definitely leagues on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah, nobody should think that I'm out of their League |
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over a year ago
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Aren't we all in the same league? The swinging one |
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There obviously are leagues, it's why Kendall Jenner won't reply to my dms lol |
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over a year ago
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. "
Agree with this.
Believe you're out of a persons league and you will be.
Nothing worse than self criticism. |
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I've met two gorgeous women on this site (and am about to meet a third) who are around half my age and who, in vanilla life, I might have considered to be way out of my league |
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over a year ago
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I have never ever felt any guy on fab is out of my league and I sincerely hope others feel the same.
We are a' Jock Tamsons bairns'! |
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over a year ago
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Wonder what league I'm in? |
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over a year ago
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"Wonder what league I'm in? "
Think I'm in the southern league division 1 - 8th level in the football pyramid. |
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over a year ago
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Most I meet on here probably wouldn't look twice at me in normal life and yes I'd say a few where out of my league. But we both use each other for sex and get what we want so I have no problem with it |
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over a year ago
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Some guys are out of my league. I just theres no way they would want to play with us.
But then most guys wouldn't look twice at me down the street. Dunno what it is? I have to find peole attractive to play with them. |
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"I think it is related, as what others think is of no consequence when discussing attraction, which is subjective. It's not worth basing one's self-esteem on the views of strangers. This is also related to the "league" topic.
We could do a pretty simple scientific study where 1,000 people all viewed a selection of photos and were asked to rate them from 1 to 10. If there was no such thing as leagues then the results would be randomly distributed. Since tests like this have already been done, we know that there are objective criteria that make some people more conventially attractive than others (e.g. facial symmetry). Whether or not people want to know their score or accept it is irrelevant to the fact that we can produce correlations that prove the existance of conventional attractiveness. "
True, you could do a scientific study but I'm sure you, and all of us, have seen couples in clubs and even in our local high street who do not match in terms of conventional attractiveness. Attraction is a mysterious thing, hard to pin down logically, with a lot to do with the subconscious and individual need. Therefore, I suggest any idea of "leagues" is completely fatuous and we should all go for whoever we fancy, and see what happens. |
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Lately, I don't even think I'm playing the same sport. |
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"No. Leagues are for football teams. People can't be classified like that"
...and if you do class people like that then...wow. |
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I message guys all the time that I see as out of my league and they do reply back
People see different things in us that we don't see ourselves I think |
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over a year ago
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Yep..he has been my fwb for 8 months now...still have to pinch myself now and again |
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"I think it is related, as what others think is of no consequence when discussing attraction, which is subjective. It's not worth basing one's self-esteem on the views of strangers. This is also related to the "league" topic.
We could do a pretty simple scientific study where 1,000 people all viewed a selection of photos and were asked to rate them from 1 to 10. If there was no such thing as leagues then the results would be randomly distributed. Since tests like this have already been done, we know that there are objective criteria that make some people more conventially attractive than others (e.g. facial symmetry). Whether or not people want to know their score or accept it is irrelevant to the fact that we can produce correlations that prove the existance of conventional attractiveness.
True, you could do a scientific study but I'm sure you, and all of us, have seen couples in clubs and even in our local high street who do not match in terms of conventional attractiveness. Attraction is a mysterious thing, hard to pin down logically, with a lot to do with the subconscious and individual need. Therefore, I suggest any idea of "leagues" is completely fatuous and we should all go for whoever we fancy, and see what happens."
The correlation does not need to be perfect for leagues to exist. If the correlation was less than 0.5 then that would be evidence there is 'no such concept as leagues' or 'leagues are just in your head'. A correlation above 0.6 would prove the existance of leagues. But anyone with a gram of common sense already knows that men who look like eric pickles have limited options and that's all leagues mean. |
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"I think it is related, as what others think is of no consequence when discussing attraction, which is subjective. It's not worth basing one's self-esteem on the views of strangers. This is also related to the "league" topic.
We could do a pretty simple scientific study where 1,000 people all viewed a selection of photos and were asked to rate them from 1 to 10. If there was no such thing as leagues then the results would be randomly distributed. Since tests like this have already been done, we know that there are objective criteria that make some people more conventially attractive than others (e.g. facial symmetry). Whether or not people want to know their score or accept it is irrelevant to the fact that we can produce correlations that prove the existance of conventional attractiveness.
True, you could do a scientific study but I'm sure you, and all of us, have seen couples in clubs and even in our local high street who do not match in terms of conventional attractiveness. Attraction is a mysterious thing, hard to pin down logically, with a lot to do with the subconscious and individual need. Therefore, I suggest any idea of "leagues" is completely fatuous and we should all go for whoever we fancy, and see what happens.
The correlation does not need to be perfect for leagues to exist. If the correlation was less than 0.5 then that would be evidence there is 'no such concept as leagues' or 'leagues are just in your head'. A correlation above 0.6 would prove the existance of leagues. But anyone with a gram of common sense already knows that men who look like eric pickles have limited options and that's all leagues mean. "
I've no idea who Eric Pickles is, but I take your word for it! |
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"No. Leagues are for football teams. People can't be classified like that
...and if you do class people like that then...wow. "
It not classifying. It just a loose term of expression to denote the fact that, in my personal view, there are a lot of men and women who are far more conventionally attractive than I am. |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
Not really. Know a few people who think they are out if our league, but truth is they are delusional. |
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A woman I went to school with... I had a crush on her since I was 12... 9 years later danced with her at night club. She informed me I was going home with her... She told me she should have given me a chance years ago... Fast forward to present day, she still remembers that night |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
Is that based on physical appearance?,someone being out of your league because if they happen to be an arse,crap in bed,no conversation skills etc..would you stil consider them out of your league? |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league??
Is that based on physical appearance?,someone being out of your league because if they happen to be an arse,crap in bed,no conversation skills etc..would you stil consider them out of your league?"
Very, very good point. I'm talking physical attributes only. In other metrics I don't have a problem at all.
This is a really interesting idea. On the face of it, what I've just said could be construed as really shallow. But, then again, this is a swingers' site and it's all about the fucking. Or is it? |
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It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site! |
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"No. Leagues are for football teams. People can't be classified like that"
It's a much better way of describing attractiveness than as the typical 1-10 scoring system pissed lads use.
One person's ten is not anothers, and one person's 8 might be another dudes ten. Leagues are less subjective, as even if someone's not your type you can still say if they're? in a top league. |
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"It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site! "
No. Not relevant at all... Except to mention that she's probably more interested in being popular than actually meeting. |
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over a year ago
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If I'm being truthful and honest...
9 times out of 10.
I feel I'm out of my league. |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league??
Is that based on physical appearance?,someone being out of your league because if they happen to be an arse,crap in bed,no conversation skills etc..would you stil consider them out of your league?
Very, very good point. I'm talking physical attributes only. In other metrics I don't have a problem at all.
This is a really interesting idea. On the face of it, what I've just said could be construed as really shallow. But, then again, this is a swingers' site and it's all about the fucking. Or is it?"
Yes it is about fucking..but there has to be a connection of the minds too. What I was trying to say is even if the person in question is hot. Then that alone to me wouldn't put them out of my league. Initial attraction would make me think wow but because of my earlier point about conversation skills etc,is why I think nobody is out of anyone's league as nothing is based or can be based on looks alone |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league??
Is that based on physical appearance?,someone being out of your league because if they happen to be an arse,crap in bed,no conversation skills etc..would you stil consider them out of your league?
Very, very good point. I'm talking physical attributes only. In other metrics I don't have a problem at all.
This is a really interesting idea. On the face of it, what I've just said could be construed as really shallow. But, then again, this is a swingers' site and it's all about the fucking. Or is it?
Yes it is about fucking..but there has to be a connection of the minds too. What I was trying to say is even if the person in question is hot. Then that alone to me wouldn't put them out of my league. Initial attraction would make me think wow but because of my earlier point about conversation skills etc,is why I think nobody is out of anyone's league as nothing is based or can be based on looks alone "
Which is why leagues are bollocks |
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Totally agree Leagues are bollox
You can find someone you view way out of your league lookswise only to discover they have no personality/conversational skills which ironically makes you totally out of their league!
The best is when you meet people you feel totally out of your league lookswise then they turn out to be a great conversationalist too |
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"I always believe that when people refer to leagues, it's solely based on looks/physical shape, what they look like and how they perceive what the person they're interested in's type maybe.
I'm always a little off put by such comments, I mean I wouldn't like someone to assume on my behalf who I might and might not find attractive.
Can I say on your behalf that you are very attractive
- Mrs. J -
On my behalf? No, of course you can't!
I'm not entirely convinced you worded that response correctly, but I think I get the sentiment "
I suppose it always helps if a profiles content states whether people have a certain preference in looks/physical shape |
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Personally, we have found that those that class themselves as a gorgeous couple etc teens to be the ones we'd never want to meet, even if we were in the league. Beauty on the outside is absolutely no indication of how beautiful they actually are. Truly beautiful people are the whole package not just looks or fit bodies etc. Some of the most beautiful people we've met are ordinary looking with ordinary bodies but fantastic personalities. We prefer them |
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All the time.. especially when we see people playing in clubs and feel too shy to go over! Then we always get messaged the following day asking why didn't we say hi!! It's terrible... but I think it's because I lost over 7 stone and growing up from the age of 15 I was 17 stone so in my prime years of sexualisation I was bullied and made to feel like nobody could ever fancy me... yet I'm still that same girl now, weight lost, boobs fixed.. whatever.. i will always have my fat girl personality and that's why Irish fell in love with me in the first place.
How can you know if you have incredible sexual chemistry just by looking at a picture..
There is so much more to it... we have had an incredible variation in shapes sizes races and we've enjoyed them all equally... at the end of the day, were all just here to have a bloody great time!
So wink away OP... and if they don't give you a chance.. fuck em! You're somebody else's cup of tea and always remember that.
Leagues, shmeagues.
Blondie xx |
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"All the time.. especially when we see people playing in clubs and feel too shy to go over! Then we always get messaged the following day asking why didn't we say hi!! It's terrible... but I think it's because I lost over 7 stone and growing up from the age of 15 I was 17 stone so in my prime years of sexualisation I was bullied and made to feel like nobody could ever fancy me... yet I'm still that same girl now, weight lost, boobs fixed.. whatever.. i will always have my fat girl personality and that's why Irish fell in love with me in the first place.
How can you know if you have incredible sexual chemistry just by looking at a picture..
There is so much more to it... we have had an incredible variation in shapes sizes races and we've enjoyed them all equally... at the end of the day, were all just here to have a bloody great time!
So wink away OP... and if they don't give you a chance.. fuck em! You're somebody else's cup of tea and always remember that.
Leagues, shmeagues.
Blondie xx"
Well you are one sexy lady ...can totally understand why Irish fell for you! |
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Seriously ?
If people think they are above or below anyone else , they aren't for us .
And we play with lots of people , all equally as hot as each other . There's no such thing as leagues in swinging as far as we are concerned . |
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"Seriously ?
If people think they are above or below anyone else , they aren't for us .
And we play with lots of people , all equally as hot as each other . There's no such thing as leagues in swinging as far as we are concerned ."
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"It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site!
No. Not relevant at all... Except to mention that she's probably more interested in being popular than actually meeting. "
How does that work? If you're popular, you're not interested in meeting? |
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over a year ago
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I'm punching with daisy and so are any of the lucky guys she gets to play with in my opinion x |
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over a year ago
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If you think that someone is out of your league then they probably are, but that's your judgement not theirs.
The only leagues when it comes to attraction are those you create in your own head. |
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My Mrs ........ but thankfully she doesn't see it that way, and doesn't believe in this league thing !! |
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
why do you say out of your league? What makes you think someone is too good for you? It's all about low self esteem. No one is better than yourself. Always remember that Don't put yourself down. There's enough people in the world that will do that. No one's too good for anyone!!....just saying lol. X |
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"All the time.. especially when we see people playing in clubs and feel too shy to go over! Then we always get messaged the following day asking why didn't we say hi!! It's terrible... but I think it's because I lost over 7 stone and growing up from the age of 15 I was 17 stone so in my prime years of sexualisation I was bullied and made to feel like nobody could ever fancy me... yet I'm still that same girl now, weight lost, boobs fixed.. whatever.. i will always have my fat girl personality and that's why Irish fell in love with me in the first place.
How can you know if you have incredible sexual chemistry just by looking at a picture..
There is so much more to it... we have had an incredible variation in shapes sizes races and we've enjoyed them all equally... at the end of the day, were all just here to have a bloody great time!
So wink away OP... and if they don't give you a chance.. fuck em! You're somebody else's cup of tea and always remember that.
Leagues, shmeagues.
Blondie xx"
totally agree with you. As far as them saying why didn't you say hi, why didn't they say hi too lol. Takes two people to make a conversation |
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"Seriously ?
If people think they are above or below anyone else , they aren't for us .
And we play with lots of people , all equally as hot as each other . There's no such thing as leagues in swinging as far as we are concerned ."
'All equally as hot as each other' implies that you measure hotness. Which, of course, we all do to some extent. |
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"Personally, we have found that those that class themselves as a gorgeous couple etc teens to be the ones we'd never want to meet, even if we were in the league. Beauty on the outside is absolutely no indication of how beautiful they actually are. Truly beautiful people are the whole package not just looks or fit bodies etc. Some of the most beautiful people we've met are ordinary looking with ordinary bodies but fantastic personalities. We prefer them "
Totally agree. |
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"It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site!
No. Not relevant at all... Except to mention that she's probably more interested in being popular than actually meeting.
How does that work? If you're popular, you're not interested in meeting? "
It doesn't. It's a pile of poorly generalised crap. |
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"If you think that someone is out of your league then they probably are, but that's your judgement not theirs.
The only leagues when it comes to attraction are those you create in your own head. "
I like this |
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"It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site!
No. Not relevant at all... Except to mention that she's probably more interested in being popular than actually meeting.
How does that work? If you're popular, you're not interested in meeting?
It doesn't. It's a pile of poorly generalised crap."
Actually it was a flippant throw away comment aimed at those that appear to make being at the top of hot pics some sort of profession but if you wanna make more of it be my guest |
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"If you think that someone is out of your league then they probably are, but that's your judgement not theirs.
The only leagues when it comes to attraction are those you create in your own head.
I like this "
I've many things in my head. Made up leagues are the last thing I need. |
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"If you think that someone is out of your league then they probably are, but that's your judgement not theirs.
The only leagues when it comes to attraction are those you create in your own head.
I like this
I've many things in my head. Made up leagues are the last thing I need. "
Haha |
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"It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site!
No. Not relevant at all... Except to mention that she's probably more interested in being popular than actually meeting.
How does that work? If you're popular, you're not interested in meeting?
It doesn't. It's a pile of poorly generalised crap.
Actually it was a flippant throw away comment aimed at those that appear to make being at the top of hot pics some sort of profession but if you wanna make more of it be my guest "
Yaaay! My very own it's just a joke response. Finally! |
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We're currently celebrating that we both managed to get out of league 5 on FIFA ultimate team last night.
We have been trying together for the last three months so we celebrated hard last night.
FIFA leagues are the only leagues I'm interested in right now.
Blondie xx |
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When using the out of my league statement for me it simply down to reading the Woman's profile, 6packs, big cocks, Men over 6ft etc and looking at her previous meets, Its not that I feel inferior to her/them am just what she is looking for.
You cant really compare one on one meets to being at clubs as a lot of people will act on impulse when in a club situation |
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I don't know about leagues OP but if I feel that they won't be remotely, realistically interested in me (only looking for white, size 6/8 women and all veris confirm that as an example) I don't bother. Maybe it's just cutting my nose off to spite my face but meh? |
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"It's perhaps relevant to mention that her top pic has been fabbed 12,700 times. So, I'm guessing I'm in competition with about 50% of the fabbers on this site!
No. Not relevant at all... Except to mention that she's probably more interested in being popular than actually meeting.
How does that work? If you're popular, you're not interested in meeting?
It doesn't. It's a pile of poorly generalised crap.
Actually it was a flippant throw away comment aimed at those that appear to make being at the top of hot pics some sort of profession but if you wanna make more of it be my guest
Yaaay! My very own it's just a joke response. Finally! "
It's bound to happen eventually when you jump on every little thing. Well done! *insert slow clap emoji here* |
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"Yaaay! My very own it's just a joke response. Finally!
It's bound to happen eventually when you jump on the odd inaccurate thing (as you don't commemt on many threads). Well done! *insert slow clap emoji here*"
FTFY and thanks. |
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"Yaaay! My very own it's just a joke response. Finally!
It's bound to happen eventually when you jump on the odd inaccurate thing (as you don't commemt on many threads). Well done! *insert slow clap emoji here*
FTFY and thanks. "
Anytime |
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After years of being told I wouldn't be attractive to anyone when we joined here I did think that many were well out of my league.
Now I think its more of a level playing field, I have been pleasantly surprised by the interest shown in me. Though do recognise that in real life not all of it would be forthcoming. X |
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After years of being told I wouldn't be attractive to anyone when we joined here I did think that many were well out of my league.
Now I think its more of a level playing field, I have been pleasantly surprised by the interest shown in me. Though do recognise that in real life not all of it would be forthcoming. X |
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There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back  Put me off doing it again. |
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"After years of being told I wouldn't be attractive to anyone when we joined here I did think that many were well out of my league.
Now I think its more of a level playing field, I have been pleasantly surprised by the interest shown in me. Though do recognise that in real life not all of it would be forthcoming. X "
I think your last sentence is probably true of most of us. I'm fully aware that not many 25 year old men would approach me on a night out . It doesn't mean I'm out of their league or they mine though. |
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over a year ago
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You just need to be confident xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again."
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work. |
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over a year ago
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again.
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work."
I agree that's the better way to look at it.
It's when I look at a female profile, she's gorgeous and great bod but then has a list of her requirements for a man, 7ft tall, abs, 10" cock etc. that makes you feel like you're not in their league, it shouldn't but it does. |
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again.
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work."
Every night Eric Pickles looks at a picture of Anna Kournikova and says "I know you're not out of my league but we're just not compatible" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is equal, there are no leagues. People are attracted/ not attracted to different qualities in each individual. My ex husband is the polar opposite to my previous long term relationship. I was drawn to completely different qualities in each. I've found the same with the people I'm met from here, I don't think any of my meets have been similar in personality or appearance. Good luck, I hope it works out for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again.
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work.
Every night Eric Pickles looks at a picture of Anna Kournikova and says "I know you're not out of my league but we're just not compatible" "
I was talking in the context of here an what people have written on their profiles, of you actually read what the guy wrote. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again.
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work.
I agree that's the better way to look at it.
It's when I look at a female profile, she's gorgeous and great bod but then has a list of her requirements for a man, 7ft tall, abs, 10" cock etc. that makes you feel like you're not in their league, it shouldn't but it does."
But that's not a league that's their preference, you don't match it, that's all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone on here is out of my league unfortunately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't see ourselves as any better than anyone else and we also don't see anyone else better than us so we're on an even playing field
Kinky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again.
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work.
I agree that's the better way to look at it.
It's when I look at a female profile, she's gorgeous and great bod but then has a list of her requirements for a man, 7ft tall, abs, 10" cock etc. that makes you feel like you're not in their league, it shouldn't but it does.
But that's not a league that's their preference, you don't match it, that's all."
Damn. So many people on here are out of my preference.
I feel better now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a number of women near me who I like the look of, physically and facially very attractive to me. However, because of what they have written in their profile I will not message them, just the way they come across, what they are asking for makes me think I'm not in their league.
I have done it once and got a particular nasty reply back Put me off doing it again.
You could look at it another way that you're just not compatible as opposed to being out of 'their league.'
If I read one slight thing on a profile that makes me think hmmmm....i won't go there no matter how hot the guy is because I know it won't work.
I agree that's the better way to look at it.
It's when I look at a female profile, she's gorgeous and great bod but then has a list of her requirements for a man, 7ft tall, abs, 10" cock etc. that makes you feel like you're not in their league, it shouldn't but it does.
But that's not a league that's their preference, you don't match it, that's all.
Damn. So many people on here are out of my preference.
I feel better now.
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By *akahCouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
Nobody is out of anyone's league. We are all different and looking for different qualities. Some people prefer personalities over looks while other people are just looking for attractive people to have fun with. But one persons attractiveness can be totally different to the next persons. That's what makes us all unique and sexy in our own way x |
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"Nobody is out of anyone's league. We are all different and looking for different qualities. Some people prefer personalities over looks while other people are just looking for attractive people to have fun with. But one persons attractiveness can be totally different to the next persons. That's what makes us all unique and sexy in our own way x"
All other things being equal, what probability would you put on a girl like Anna Kournikova finding something unique and sexy about a guy like Eric Pickles? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody is out of anyone's league. We are all different and looking for different qualities. Some people prefer personalities over looks while other people are just looking for attractive people to have fun with. But one persons attractiveness can be totally different to the next persons. That's what makes us all unique and sexy in our own way x
All other things being equal, what probability would you put on a girl like Anna Kournikova finding something unique and sexy about a guy like Eric Pickles? "
Itd be diirrrttyy |
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By *lexis99Woman
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think leagues exist except in our internalisation of our own relative attractiveness. And we can be our own worst critics. "
Completely agree with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mr (G) posting here.
There's a woman on Fab who is so far out of my personal league that there's no point even sending her a wink. Nevertheless, I still keep thinking (fantasising) if only.............
Has anyone here ever got lucky and played with someone way out of their own league?? "
You may think she's out of your league but you should give her a chance to say one way or the other. We all have different tastes x |
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