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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get the whole personal preference thing and do respect it. But we are a bi couple looking for bi people. We get a lot of orally bi guys (fair enough, not for us, but I respect that)
What we also get a lot of is guys who will do everything except kiss Mr N. They will kiss me but not him then happily eat his ass.
I'm curious about the rationale? Why is kissing the line in the sand?
Are you not gay or bi if you don't kiss? Is it just an intimacy thing?
Can the bi boys explain please? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never understood it either. But then I love kissing!
I also have never understood people who will meet up, do everything and anything in bed but won't kiss... That would ruin it for me.
Each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have never understood it either. But then I love kissing!
I also have never understood people who will meet up, do everything and anything in bed but won't kiss... That would ruin it for me.
Each to their own"
Ruins it for us too. I now have to ask potential meets. If they don't kiss, we don't meet. I get quite insulted on Mr Ns behalf. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have never understood it either. But then I love kissing!
I also have never understood people who will meet up, do everything and anything in bed but won't kiss... That would ruin it for me.
Each to their own
Ruins it for us too. I now have to ask potential meets. If they don't kiss, we don't meet. I get quite insulted on Mr Ns behalf."
Same. I had arranged to meet a couple then found out they didn't kiss. Thanks but no thanks!
In my mind it's the warm up. And you should never exercise without warming up. |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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Lots of guys will do everything but kiss another man. I guess it's too intimate and maybe it's something that reminds them of their relationship with women. I respect boundaries very much so would not want to force the issue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lots of guys will do everything but kiss another man. I guess it's too intimate and maybe it's something that reminds them of their relationship with women. I respect boundaries very much so would not want to force the issue. "
We respect it too and simply choose not to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've run into this a lot, in fact I'd say it's the norm, which for me is disappointing. That said, I'm not too keen on facial hair. I totally respect other people's choices though. I guess some people just find it a turn off. |
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The last bi 3 some i had she was taking turns sucking us both and then he just grabbed me and started kissing me was my first time but just went with it 
Certainly do it again as kissing always turns me on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get the whole personal preference thing and do respect it. But we are a bi couple looking for bi people. We get a lot of orally bi guys (fair enough, not for us, but I respect that)
What we also get a lot of is guys who will do everything except kiss Mr N. They will kiss me but not him then happily eat his ass.
I'm curious about the rationale? Why is kissing the line in the sand?
Are you not gay or bi if you don't kiss? Is it just an intimacy thing?
Can the bi boys explain please? "
This has usually nothing to do with being gay or bi or whatever label you want to stick on it.
It's usually more to do with the intimacy of kissing than anything else. Yes rimming and fucking are pretty intimate things to do, but kissing is on a different level.
Lots of men and women choose not to kiss for these reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement "
I'm a bit like that with women. Sometimes I crave a pussy to lick, but never really felt like kissing a woman. |
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"The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement "
^^ This. It's all about the cock here too. Never had any issues but then most meets we have tend to be in a club. Never seen men kiss in a club - I wonder why? Maybe I'm never in the right place at the right time! J (her) |
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I don't get this at all, in fact its one of the few reasons I will turn away from a meet or walk away from someone in a club.
I have a friend who sometimes won't kiss and says its just something they find too personal... But they happily give bjs... I don't get the logic. |
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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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"Lots of guys will do everything but kiss another man. I guess it's too intimate and maybe it's something that reminds them of their relationship with women. I respect boundaries very much so would not want to force the issue.
We respect it too and simply choose not to meet them. "
no kissing no meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although i have met guys that do not kiss i always prefer those that do.
Yes its intimate, but then sex is an intimate act. I do not fancy men in a romantic way but i do find a good snog incredibly sensual and a part of the sexual build up.
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"A damn good snog is the ultimate turn on for me, I no longer like to meet those who don't kiss. It's also why I don't meet people with beards or stubble as that feels very unpleasant. "
Oh??
I love the feeling of coarse beards and stubles on my skin.
Love kissing - and sucking the tongue while at it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement
^^ This. It's all about the cock here too. Never had any issues but then most meets we have tend to be in a club. Never seen men kiss in a club - I wonder why? Maybe I'm never in the right place at the right time! J (her) "
It's down to attraction. Genuinely bi men are attracted to other men and can kiss them. Straight men who are aroused by the man/man sexual act can do anything but kiss.
From my own perspective as a bi guy, I can have sex with a man I am not attracted to. I could suck off Jabba the Hutt if he had a nice enough cock. But not kiss him. |
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"The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement
^^ This. It's all about the cock here too. Never had any issues but then most meets we have tend to be in a club. Never seen men kiss in a club - I wonder why? Maybe I'm never in the right place at the right time! J (her)
It's down to attraction. Genuinely bi men are attracted to other men and can kiss them. Straight men who are aroused by the man/man sexual act can do anything but kiss.
From my own perspective as a bi guy, I can have sex with a man I am not attracted to. I could suck off Jabba the Hutt if he had a nice enough cock. But not kiss him."
Well I suppose his cock is far enough away from his ugly mug to ignore it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends, anything I'd do with a woman, I'd do with a guy, I just have to be in the right mood.
Basically don't expect a full on snog, if we've only exchanged hellos 
Also I'd say kissing is one of/if not the most intimate thing, so I can understand some peoples hesitance, but not to rule it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's down to attraction. Genuinely bi men are attracted to other men and can kiss them. Straight men who are aroused by the man/man sexual act can do anything but kiss.
From my own perspective as a bi guy, I can have sex with a man I am not attracted to. I could suck off Jabba the Hutt if he had a nice enough cock. But not kiss him."
That last bit was funny 
And tbh from my point of view (Alex) sucking/ playing with a guy isn't a problem at all but couldn't kiss a guy mouth to mouth ..... for me that would be too much intimacy, I know my wife loves kissing during meets just not for me. |
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"I only ever seem to be able to find orally bi men which is a bit of a shame,still great but to find a fully bi guy with no barriers seems hard to meet."
If only i could find a woman like you. I would love to kiss a guy with you. Kissing is such a turn on. |
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i'm in the no kissing camp still with men... i suppose i see it more as a romantic act than a sexual one (i get that sexually it does feel great though). i can say i have had one very play orientated meet with a female where kissing didn't seem right either... so i guess for me its about my romantic interest as well as sexual...
i wouldn't rule it out with a man though... as i'm finding my views flux on such things over time. |
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"The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement
^^ This. It's all about the cock here too. Never had any issues but then most meets we have tend to be in a club. Never seen men kiss in a club - I wonder why? Maybe I'm never in the right place at the right time! J (her)
It's down to attraction. Genuinely bi men are attracted to other men and can kiss them. Straight men who are aroused by the man/man sexual act can do anything but kiss.
From my own perspective as a bi guy, I can have sex with a man I am not attracted to. I could suck off Jabba the Hutt if he had a nice enough cock. But not kiss him."
I'm not sure I understand you. Only genuinely bi men will kiss another man as long as they're attracted to them? Perhaps that's where we've been going wrong... he's not bi, he's a straight man who likes to play with attractive cocks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The Monkey doesn't kiss guts...its simple, he's bi, lives all aspects of bi play but just doesn't fancy men...its a purely sexual urge for him and it's very cock centred...its never been a barrier to meet and our meets seem to have a great time. If it puts people off meeting, then so be it, but nobody has ever stipulated it as a requirement
^^ This. It's all about the cock here too. Never had any issues but then most meets we have tend to be in a club. Never seen men kiss in a club - I wonder why? Maybe I'm never in the right place at the right time! J (her)
It's down to attraction. Genuinely bi men are attracted to other men and can kiss them. Straight men who are aroused by the man/man sexual act can do anything but kiss.
From my own perspective as a bi guy, I can have sex with a man I am not attracted to. I could suck off Jabba the Hutt if he had a nice enough cock. But not kiss him.
I'm not sure I understand you. Only genuinely bi men will kiss another man as long as they're attracted to them? Perhaps that's where we've been going wrong... he's not bi, he's a straight man who likes to play with attractive cocks! "
I think you have to be attracted to someone to enjoy kissing them. So in the case (obviously not ALL cases) where the man just enjoys the sexual act without finding the man himself attractive it makes sense if he doesn't want to kiss.
In my own experience I have found kissing a man to be a totally different experience to kissing a woman. |
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As I have fantasised a romantic liaison with a Man (in certain cases fellow TGirls and Women) , kissing is certainly a big turn on for me in fact so much that the porn I watch generally it's the kissing (TGirl with a Man) that I climax too.
I don't actually find two men kissing that attractive, unless there is a feminine element to one of them. For me the whole scenario of being seduced or romanced requires more intimacy and for me kissing is the most intense part.
*hot flush
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kissing and tongue play is such an important part of most of my play with guys. Passionate, intense mouth, tongue and lip contact while our hands explore each other. I love to kiss a guy after he has been sucking my cock, or I his. An intense french kiss after either or both of us have swallow the other's spunk is so horny. It may not be for you, and there are some guys I haven't wanted to kiss, but with the right guy........  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fully bi.
I respect others wishes with kissing but to be kissed by a guy while his wife watches is really hot!! Especially when she gets aroused by it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have asked this question too and i eigher get the answer its because of stubble ( although im so baby faced i shave like once a fortnight and even then there isnt much to shave hehe ) or some of the real honest men will say they feel its the ultimate betrail of their wife/girlfriend like somehow them cheating is ok aslong as they dont kiss |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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Nope sorry cant help here. I love kissing cant see the pleasure in sex without it to be honest.
Stubble is a pain mind if the guys pressed to hard or rubs his face on mine its a bit sandpaper.
I have a beard but never had complaints from the Ladies so assume its fairly soft. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not attracted to guys but I've had my cock played by a guy in an mmf situation and enjoyed. I'd explore it more but as I'm not attracted to guys per se im not so inclined to kiss another guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get the whole personal preference thing and do respect it. But we are a bi couple looking for bi people. We get a lot of orally bi guys (fair enough, not for us, but I respect that)
What we also get a lot of is guys who will do everything except kiss Mr N. They will kiss me but not him then happily eat his ass.
I'm curious about the rationale? Why is kissing the line in the sand?
Are you not gay or bi if you don't kiss? Is it just an intimacy thing?
Can the bi boys explain please? "
I'd kiss him he looks very kissable. |
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