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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The more time spent on here without a meet, the more I'm beginning to consider it, especially when half of newbies are offering certain services.
Anyone ever gone down this road?
Apologies if I can't say any of what I've said above lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, never have and never would. I've nothing against it but I don't think it would do anything for me. I like the thrill of the chase and the chemistry of it all, handing over cash for sex without any groundwork just wouldn't work for me. I'd rather just wank myself silly. Good luck tho. There are plenty of massage parlours about that will relieve you of your cash for a happy ending.  |
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Umm what services are they offering?
If anyone is charging for anything sex based on here then admins need to be informed.
If your struggling to get a meet then go to a club or social and start putting some leg work in |
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There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Cynical or just practical? |
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"There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Cynical or just practical?"
Practical. I'm partial to a happy ending massage about once a month. I live to think I'm generous and considerate in bed so sometimes it's nice to hand over some cash, cut the crap and be selfish. The cash enables me to act a way I'd never act on a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your thoughts guys, it's seems it's not as 'seedy' as I first though. I'm still a little reluctant however. Any other advice for a first verification? I know the obvious answer is to attend clubs etc however I feel I'd be so out of place in that kind of surrounding x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks for your thoughts guys, it's seems it's not as 'seedy' as I first though. I'm still a little reluctant however. Any other advice for a first verification? I know the obvious answer is to attend clubs etc however I feel I'd be so out of place in that kind of surrounding x"
Clubs, socials, even getting involved in the forums here is a great way to get to know people and spark conversations that could lead to a meet.
You've not asked for profile advice so none can be given, but in general terms always remember the three P's:
Profile - Write one that helps you stand out from the crowd, shows off your personality, tells people who you are, what you're looking for, and most importantly what you can offer.
Pictures - Take some that show off your body, not your cock!
Patience - As a single guy, you're in the majority of users of this site, so getting meets will take time and patience for most of that group.
Remember (and act where necessary) all of those, and you'll be on the right lines, but nothing is guaranteed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Make sure you give it everything you have got,the twice I have been the once she give me my money back and said,I should pay you,and would I come again 
....just before you woke up? "
it is my wife lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Again thanks for all the advice, I think a profile re-write along with some social encounters is the way I'm going to play it for the next few weeks.
Of course any offers will be welcome lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People pay for a massage, or to be waited upon, seved so what's the difference.
You pay for a service that you enjoy without all of the messing around wondering what you will get if anything.
Does not have to be seedy just pure pleasure that you want when you want it just understand that's all it is, and no she does not want anything more than the money
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Cynical or just practical?"
Very practical. His logic is exactly why I will never become married! I've made my life the success that it is all by myself. No way will I risk losing any part of it ( nor lose my kids inheritance), just because of a male gold digger! Yes they exist as much as the feminine version does. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Interesting point you make here Louisa and I don't think anyone can argue against it. You seem like a switched on lass and I'd love to get to k ow you a little. I'm j.briggsy on kik if you ever fancy a chat, I'm a big boy and can take it if not xxx
Cynical or just practical?
Very practical. His logic is exactly why I will never become married! I've made my life the success that it is all by myself. No way will I risk losing any part of it ( nor lose my kids inheritance), just because of a male gold digger! Yes they exist as much as the feminine version does. "
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"Again thanks for all the advice, I think a profile re-write along with some social encounters is the way I'm going to play it for the next few weeks.
Of course any offers will be welcome lol x"
What is the chuck scene?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's nothing wrong with paying for, but if that's the case then Fab is the wrong website, as it is not an escort site. I do feel that some guys on Fab do treat this site as though it is a escort service except the women come for free. Those men probably really should consider whether they would be better off elsewhere and paying for a service instead of expecting it for free on a swinging website.
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"Nah, exploiting people with so few options in life that they resort to sex work does not turn me on."
That assumes that only the exploited work in the sex industry.
I'm sure some are but I'd not assume all are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nah, exploiting people with so few options in life that they resort to sex work does not turn me on."
For some it's extra money, on top of their main job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nah, exploiting people with so few options in life that they resort to sex work does not turn me on."
Some actually enjoy thier jobs strange but true, not all of them are junkies and some have quite good educations.
In my past I have known a few working ladies not in a customer client situation and they could have worked in many fields but chose escorting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Again thanks for all the advice, I think a profile re-write along with some social encounters is the way I'm going to play it for the next few weeks.
Of course any offers will be welcome lol x
What is the chuck scene?
Sally"
Sally, this is similar to the cuck scenario, however small (vertically challenged) persons are tossed around the room whilst sexual encounters are taking place.
Apologies as I could have explained this a lot better in my profile xx |
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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago
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"Nah, exploiting people with so few options in life that they resort to sex work does not turn me on.
That assumes that only the exploited work in the sex industry.
I'm sure some are but I'd not assume all are."
I would say it's say to assume the vast majority would rather be doing anything else over wanking off yet another sweaty balding businessman who thinks he's doing her a favour.
Let's not pretend it's the same as a waitress serving you a plate of sausage and mash.
And let's not but into the fantasy it's like pretty woman or some other mainstream potrayl of sexy prostitution. These women have usually been abused, trafficked, coerced, addicted to drugs or forced into it to pay of debt. Regardless of how glam they might look.
I that turns you on, fair play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We once paid for a girl to join us, so that i could watch my man take another woman while i pleasured myself.
Huge let down, she was mid 30's and very pretty but constantly complained that my husbands penis was too big for her.
We both got frustrated and definately will not repeat. Obviously all will not be this way but it is alot of money for an unhappy ending  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We once paid for a girl to join us, so that i could watch my man take another woman while i pleasured myself.
Huge let down, she was mid 30's and very pretty but constantly complained that my husbands penis was too big for her.
We both got frustrated and definately will not repeat. Obviously all will not be this way but it is alot of money for an unhappy ending "
As you've described above, all seems well in theory, but it all depends on what happens on the meet. Do you mind me asking if it was a lot of cash you parted with?
To the single male, what you've described sounds delightful xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We once paid for a girl to join us, so that i could watch my man take another woman while i pleasured myself.
Huge let down, she was mid 30's and very pretty but constantly complained that my husbands penis was too big for her.
We both got frustrated and definately will not repeat. Obviously all will not be this way but it is alot of money for an unhappy ending
As you've described above, all seems well in theory, but it all depends on what happens on the meet. Do you mind me asking if it was a lot of cash you parted with?
To the single male, what you've described sounds delightful xx"
Well we booked her for the evening but sent her home after 2 hours and paid... enough  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nah, exploiting people with so few options in life that they resort to sex work does not turn me on.
That assumes that only the exploited work in the sex industry.
I'm sure some are but I'd not assume all are.
I would say it's say to assume the vast majority would rather be doing anything else over wanking off yet another sweaty balding businessman who thinks he's doing her a favour.
Let's not pretend it's the same as a waitress serving you a plate of sausage and mash.
And let's not but into the fantasy it's like pretty woman or some other mainstream potrayl of sexy prostitution. These women have usually been abused, trafficked, coerced, addicted to drugs or forced into it to pay of debt. Regardless of how glam they might look.
I that turns you on, fair play."
I think you have a very narrow and out dated view of escorting. There's lots of very normal, well off people that do escorting because they actually enjoy it. Just because someone pays it doesn't mean you have to do whatever they want. Like any job if you don't want to do something you can say no! |
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Very practical. His logic is exactly why I will never become married! I've made my life the success that it is all by myself. No way will I risk losing any part of it ( nor lose my kids inheritance), just because of a male gold digger! Yes they exist as much as the feminine version does. "
Once you live with someone for 6 months you are effectively married and they can sue you for half of everything. Not quite as easily as a divorce but it does happen. |
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I think it's a very practical solution to someone who has a need and either can't be bothered or hasn't got time to arrange a fab meet. I don't know why some people view sex workers in such a negative way.
Just like arranging meets on here, make sure you limit your risks as best you can. |
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Many years ago I (male half of couple writing here) went through a phase of using working girls when away from home on business. I enjoyed the variety and the chance to fuck younger women than my ex and others I'd had affairs with. Some were in the game for fun as well as money; for example one girl I visited several times had open heart surgery when younger, said it changed her life and that she now lived for pleasure. She was well-educated, didn't really need the money, and wanted her punters to take time and make her cum too rather than just humping her and leaving.
if you treat working girls like human beings and not just as sex-objects most will respond in kind. There are some 'hardened' ones about for sure, but most of those I used were nice women, happy to provide a service which many men appreciate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very practical. His logic is exactly why I will never become married! I've made my life the success that it is all by myself. No way will I risk losing any part of it ( nor lose my kids inheritance), just because of a male gold digger! Yes they exist as much as the feminine version does.
Once you live with someone for 6 months you are effectively married and they can sue you for half of everything. Not quite as easily as a divorce but it does happen."
No he can't. I can prove everything I have, I paid for by myself without any help financially or any other way from any future boyfriend, before he came into the picture. I wouldn't allow anyone to take what's rightly my kids belongings. Any person that does that or tries, is utterly discusting.
Helps if any future partner of mine owns his own property and never sells it.
I'm sure prenuptial agreements of sorts are legal within the UK. Plenty of ways to protect ones finances. Ridiculous that we have to protect ourselves in this way these days. |
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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago
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"I think it's a very practical solution to someone who has a need and either can't be bothered or hasn't got time to arrange a fab meet. I don't know why some people view sex workers in such a negative way.
Just like arranging meets on here, make sure you limit your risks as best you can. "
I don't view sex workers in a negative way. I judge the fuck out of those that use them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's a very practical solution to someone who has a need and either can't be bothered or hasn't got time to arrange a fab meet. I don't know why some people view sex workers in such a negative way.
Just like arranging meets on here, make sure you limit your risks as best you can.
I don't view sex workers in a negative way. I judge the fuck out of those that use them."
In what way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Make sure you give it everything you have got,the twice I have been the once she give me my money back and said,I should pay you,and would I come again "
Jackanory |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's a very practical solution to someone who has a need and either can't be bothered or hasn't got time to arrange a fab meet. I don't know why some people view sex workers in such a negative way.
Just like arranging meets on here, make sure you limit your risks as best you can.
I don't view sex workers in a negative way. I judge the fuck out of those that use them."
Why?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a hotel is a hundred quid a night .
going out for a nice meal and drinks is a 100
a good night in the pub is also a hundred
so if you fancy a fling for a hundred its no big deal right...........
not that i have as i just have a quick wank and put the hundred in my piggy bank or go to the pub . |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"There's nothing wrong with paying for, but if that's the case then Fab is the wrong website, as it is not an escort site. I do feel that some guys on Fab do treat this site as though it is a escort service except the women come for free. Those men probably really should consider whether they would be better off elsewhere and paying for a service instead of expecting it for free on a swinging website.
Mrs"
Well said! |
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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago
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Why? Because someone who is at ease having sex with someone who's consent is on the handing on over of money is not the type of person I regard particularly highly.
I don't judge the woman who work within the industry (I've worked with many), most feel they have no other choice.
But the men that exploit that? Yeah, I will judge. Regardless of the anecdotal 'they all love it really' stuff you'll hear, rest assured most would rather not be doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"a hotel is a hundred quid a night .
going out for a nice meal and drinks is a 100
a good night in the pub is also a hundred
so if you fancy a fling for a hundred its no big deal right...........
not that i have as i just have a quick wank and put the hundred in my piggy bank or go to the pub ."
I think sex is never really free. One end of the scale is dating and going on a date costs money. The other end of the scale is hiring an escort, which obviously costs money. Men can pick women up on a night out, but the night out will cost money and he will probably have to buy her a drink as part of the chat up. There is an illusion that Fab is access to free sex, but there is the cost of travel, hotels, entrance fees to clubs, buying drinks on social meets etc etc. Weighing all these things up, I would have thought if it's just sex and nothing else the guy wants and they are not interested in swinging, then hiring an escort is a very sensible option.
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"Why? Because someone who is at ease having sex with someone who's consent is on the handing on over of money is not the type of person I regard particularly highly.
I don't judge the woman who work within the industry (I've worked with many), most feel they have no other choice.
But the men that exploit that? Yeah, I will judge. Regardless of the anecdotal 'they all love it really' stuff you'll hear, rest assured most would rather not be doing it."
I don't think they love it but lot's of people don't love their job. I always have a conversation with then to make sure they are being forced to work there (i.e. trafficking) but otherwise it's a business deal like any other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why? Because someone who is at ease having sex with someone who's consent is on the handing on over of money is not the type of person I regard particularly highly.
I don't judge the woman who work within the industry (I've worked with many), most feel they have no other choice.
But the men that exploit that? Yeah, I will judge. Regardless of the anecdotal 'they all love it really' stuff you'll hear, rest assured most would rather not be doing it."
So you have less 'regard' for the 'punter' than the 'prostitute'  . Unless they are being trafficked most prostitutes in this country are not 'forced' into anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why? Because someone who is at ease having sex with someone who's consent is on the handing on over of money is not the type of person I regard particularly highly.
I don't judge the woman who work within the industry (I've worked with many), most feel they have no other choice.
But the men that exploit that? Yeah, I will judge. Regardless of the anecdotal 'they all love it really' stuff you'll hear, rest assured most would rather not be doing it.
So you have less 'regard' for the 'punter' than the 'prostitute' . Unless they are being trafficked most prostitutes in this country are not 'forced' into anything "
I agree, I've no doubt there are many prostetutes earning a very good living when they could have had a fairly dull job with long hours earning relatively little. Most people will put up with the low paid long hour job, but some decide they don't want to.
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"Why? Because someone who is at ease having sex with someone who's consent is on the handing on over of money is not the type of person I regard particularly highly.
I don't judge the woman who work within the industry (I've worked with many), most feel they have no other choice.
But the men that exploit that? Yeah, I will judge. Regardless of the anecdotal 'they all love it really' stuff you'll hear, rest assured most would rather not be doing it.
So you have less 'regard' for the 'punter' than the 'prostitute' . Unless they are being trafficked most prostitutes in this country are not 'forced' into anything
I agree, I've no doubt there are many prostetutes earning a very good living when they could have had a fairly dull job with long hours earning relatively little. Most people will put up with the low paid long hour job, but some decide they don't want to.
Mrs"
A good case study is to look at somewhere where operating brothels isn't illegal and is licenced, like the Netherlands or Germany. What you generally find are the girls are from poorer countries (e.g. Eastern Europe) earning way more money than they could at home. They don't love the job but would rather do it than clean toilets for a fifth of what they can earn as a sex worker. If you treat them well and make yourself look presentable then there are worse jobs out there... |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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I do it regularly. I'm a married man in a sexless marriage (with kids), I have no desire to abandon my wife and family, but I like sex. So why not?
Why do I pay for it? Because there is no alternative for a man in my position. You only have to read the comments on here about "married cheaters" to understand why. To me, looking for free sex on FabSwingers is like playing the lottery, I have no realistic chance of success. But at least it's free (unlike the lottery), so... why not give it a go?
I've had some great times with some good people. Even if I find a fuchbuddy, there are some escorts that I would want to carry on seeing occasionally.
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"I do it regularly. I'm a married man in a sexless marriage (with kids), I have no desire to abandon my wife and family, but I like sex. So why not?
Why do I pay for it? Because there is no alternative for a man in my position. You only have to read the comments on here about "married cheaters" to understand why. To me, looking for free sex on FabSwingers is like playing the lottery, I have no realistic chance of success. But at least it's free (unlike the lottery), so... why not give it a go?
I've had some great times with some good people. Even if I find a fuchbuddy, there are some escorts that I would want to carry on seeing occasionally.
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Hows the quality in shepton mallet though? It's not exactly a hot bed of clunge is it? Or do you venture over to Glastonbury and get yourself some hippy pussy? |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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Heh. If only the hippies of Glastonbury were as much into "free love" as they claim to be!
Bristol is excellent for escorts, but apart from the expense, I also have to be careful with the afternoon-off required, or I might need to have a very difficult conversation with my family about why Daddy can't get time off work to go on holiday this year. That's why, if I ever find a regular fuckbuddy, she has to be more local than that.
And there really doesn't seem to be anything happening around here.
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"Umm what services are they offering?
If anyone is charging for anything sex based on here then admins need to be informed.
If your struggling to get a meet then go to a club or social and start putting some leg work in"
And why is that? It's one of the oldest jobs in the world. There is no shame in it. I think it should be legal |
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"Umm what services are they offering?
If anyone is charging for anything sex based on here then admins need to be informed.
If your struggling to get a meet then go to a club or social and start putting some leg work in
And why is that? It's one of the oldest jobs in the world. There is no shame in it. I think it should be legal "
It is legal, running a brothel is illegal as is curb crawling but there's nothing illegal in paying to access Mary Jane rotten crotch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's nothing wrong with paying for, but if that's the case then Fab is the wrong website, as it is not an escort site. I do feel that some guys on Fab do treat this site as though it is a escort service except the women come for free. Those men probably really should consider whether they would be better off elsewhere and paying for a service instead of expecting it for free on a swinging website.
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Slightly O.T. sorry.
This actually touches on another issue; as I've always wondered about the hypocrisy (or is it).
Middle aged/older wrinlkley fat guy goes off to Thailand, Phillipines or Eastern Europe and purchases (for want of a better word) because of his relative wealth a younger wife. Society generally looks down on this because it can be seen as abusive etc. Snide comments etc. from others back home. The subject of jokes on comedy shows etc. Mail order bride jokes/slurs etc.
Rich, ageing, wrinkly rock star aquires much younger wife from UK or abroad presumeably also because of his purchasing power and the tabloids lap it up and he's viwed as a celebrity and nice guy.
What's the difference?
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"Slightly O.T. sorry.
This actually touches on another issue; as I've always wondered about the hypocrisy (or is it).
Middle aged/older wrinlkley fat guy goes off to Thailand, Phillipines or Eastern Europe and purchases (for want of a better word) because of his relative wealth a younger wife. Society generally looks down on this because it can be seen as abusive etc. Snide comments etc. from others back home. The subject of jokes on comedy shows etc. Mail order bride jokes/slurs etc.
Rich, ageing, wrinkly rock star aquires much younger wife from UK or abroad presumeably also because of his purchasing power and the tabloids lap it up and he's viwed as a celebrity and nice guy.
What's the difference?
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In my experience its only middle aged/older wrinlkley fat women who look down their noses at it because it reduces their appeal in the dating market. Other middle aged/older wrinlkley fat guys tend to look at the middle aged/older wrinlkley fat guy and say "lucky bastard". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you venture over to Glastonbury and get yourself some hippy pussy? "
We're the only hippy pussy we've met on this site. Not that we've met ourselves... well not since we last ate some of those weird hippy biscuits   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I'd rather wait for consensual, mutual fun than have someone perform a service for me.
Perhaps there's some link between lack of success and that viewpoint? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen plenty of escorts before I found out about this site. I would say 90% of those I've seen have been good (includes a fair few UK pornstars too).
Seeing an escort is like seeing anyone else on here or in the dating scene: there are plenty of fish, you got to make sure you pick the right one.
I would echo what others have said: Go to events/clubs and be yourself. I would say add some profile pictures of something other than your cock. Not saying you have an ugly cock, but it won't get you very far. |
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Are you still playing as a couple too, as that should be easier than a single guy looking - depending on everyone's tastes.
Adults are free to engage within the law consensually as they wish - and this is right. Commercial agreements elsewhere are fine. Report any fab user who wants anything like this to admin, to maintain site standards. Lots of new profiles in your area like this? Some targeted effort.
I recommend improving your action here - adding more photos so that we find you more of a pull etc. Block anyone who discusses money and report to admin - if you don't, it may be why your area is being targeted as they think they're almost getting your business. Fab rules are explicitly clear - it is absolutely not acceptable in any form.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"There's nothing wrong with paying for, but if that's the case then Fab is the wrong website, as it is not an escort site. I do feel that some guys on Fab do treat this site as though it is a escort service except the women come for free. Those men probably really should consider whether they would be better off elsewhere and paying for a service instead of expecting it for free on a swinging website.
Mrs"
Some of the messages I receive I feel like they think this site if more like the argos catalogue, flick through the pages and say I want that one! And I want it now!  |
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over a year ago
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"Nope, I'd rather wait for consensual, mutual fun than have someone perform a service for me.
Perhaps there's some link between lack of success and that viewpoint? "
Hopefully most guys on Fab have your view. But from time to time we get random messages asking to meet for sex, and that same message has probably been sent to hundreds of other profiles in the hope that by playing the numbers game one fish will bite. These guys are not asking to meet to see if we mutually want to have sex, they are asking to have sex with me whether or not I fancy them. They don't care if if it's mutual as long as they get sex. They would probably get someone much hotter that me, at a time of their convenience, without having to chat, if they paid for it. There are guys on Fab who I believe want a free prostitute.
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"There's nothing wrong with paying for, but if that's the case then Fab is the wrong website, as it is not an escort site. I do feel that some guys on Fab do treat this site as though it is a escort service except the women come for free. Those men probably really should consider whether they would be better off elsewhere and paying for a service instead of expecting it for free on a swinging website.
Mrs
Some of the messages I receive I feel like they think this site if more like the argos catalogue, flick through the pages and say I want that one! And I want it now! "
I know, find it insulting. These guys should be honest about what they are looking for and pursue the appropriate course to get that, instead of cluttering up a swingers site. But I guess they don't want to pay for it.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"There's nothing wrong with paying for, but if that's the case then Fab is the wrong website, as it is not an escort site. I do feel that some guys on Fab do treat this site as though it is a escort service except the women come for free. Those men probably really should consider whether they would be better off elsewhere and paying for a service instead of expecting it for free on a swinging website.
Mrs
Some of the messages I receive I feel like they think this site if more like the argos catalogue, flick through the pages and say I want that one! And I want it now!
I know, find it insulting. These guys should be honest about what they are looking for and pursue the appropriate course to get that, instead of cluttering up a swingers site. But I guess they don't want to pay for it.
Mrs"
Of course they don't want to pay for it, but they have no qualms about making me free like a free prostitute |
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"Nope, I'd rather wait for consensual, mutual fun than have someone perform a service for me.
Perhaps there's some link between lack of success and that viewpoint?
Hopefully most guys on Fab have your view. But from time to time we get random messages asking to meet for sex, and that same message has probably been sent to hundreds of other profiles in the hope that by playing the numbers game one fish will bite. These guys are not asking to meet to see if we mutually want to have sex, they are asking to have sex with me whether or not I fancy them. They don't care if if it's mutual as long as they get sex. They would probably get someone much hotter that me, at a time of their convenience, without having to chat, if they paid for it. There are guys on Fab who I believe want a free prostitute.
Mrs"
Seems like MOST think that way actually. There's very few that think it should be mutual fun. |
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"No matter how you look at it we all pay for it.
No we don't.
Ohhh yes we do"
They said we ALL pay for it
And quite correctly the response is no we don't
And my perspective is the sex industry should be totally legal in the UK , with regulations and safe guards
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"Nope, I'd rather wait for consensual, mutual fun than have someone perform a service for me.
Perhaps there's some link between lack of success and that viewpoint? "
That's probably a correlation but we don't stuggle for meets, i just see them as two seperate things. |
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Doubt it'll make an iota of different on here I've paid for it because I struggle a lot for meets on here, and I suffer from social anxiety so can't get dates.
For those who were saying that escorts are trafficked or being forced into it - Google "SAAFE" which is a forum for escorts by escorts and gives them advice and stuff. |
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"There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Cynical or just practical?"
Practical lol |
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"There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Cynical or just practical?"
I'm on fab cause I can't be doing with relationships so I see nothing cynical about this Very practical |
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over a year ago
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There used to be a FF couple local to me that would sometimes post status updates late at night asking for guys to bring them a packet of fags or a bottle of vodka or both for sexual favours!
They didn't appeal to me but that's pretty cheap if you're already thinking of paying for it n you're not fussed where you stick your dick!
Not very classy but you get what you pay for eh......a Jeremy Kyle style threesome! |
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"Many years ago I (male half of couple writing here) went through a phase of using working girls when away from home on business. I enjoyed the variety and the chance to fuck younger women than my ex and others I'd had affairs with. Some were in the game for fun as well as money; for example one girl I visited several times had open heart surgery when younger, said it changed her life and that she now lived for pleasure. She was well-educated, didn't really need the money, and wanted her punters to take time and make her cum too rather than just humping her and leaving.
if you treat working girls like human beings and not just as sex-objects most will respond in kind. There are some 'hardened' ones about for sure, but most of those I used were nice women, happy to provide a service which many men appreciate. "
Exactly, there are escorts that willingly do the job and enjoy it.
No i certainly wouldn't condone seeing anyone trafficked but from what I've been told by men who use escorts, is these girls are obvious to spot and therefore avoid. Most men would sooner enjoy the company of a lady who is equally having fun after all. |
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over a year ago
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Like most things there are good and bad, most that I have met are good and enjoy there job and go out of there way to please there clients,after all they want them to come back, |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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Well, of course the ladies on Fab aren't prostitutes, but this isn't regular dating either: it's supposed to be about casual sex, not finding a soulmate. I guess some people struggle with an appropriate code of etiquette for this!
In my case, whenever I book an actual prostitute, I always send a message entitled "Are you available on Friday at 3pm?" or whatever. Thet's what they want: no timewasters, no messing about, proceed to a firm booking as quickly as possible.
Obviously, Fab requires a different approach! So I might try to engage her in chat regarding soemething she mentioned on her profile, and I'll try to arrange "a drink and a chat" rather than anything of a sexual nature. I treat it more like dating.
Still doesn't seem to get me anywhere though... but I expect that's more to do with my situation (a "married cheater") rather than my approach.
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In my case, whenever I book an actual prostitute, I always send a message entitled "Are you available on Friday at 3pm?" or whatever. Thet's what they want: no timewasters, no messing about, proceed to a firm booking as quickly as possible.
Obviously, Fab requires a different approach! So I might try to engage her in chat regarding soemething she mentioned on her profile, and I'll try to arrange "a drink and a chat" rather than anything of a sexual nature. I treat it more like dating.
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Nobody likes a timewaster.
My style is always like the first quoted paragraph above and yet not into any kind of financial arrangement.
But then, I'm not a female either.
The best message would be :
FAF @ 3pm Friday 28th Apr? Attached torso pics.
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"There was a well known millionaire businessman back in the 70s or 80s(still around I think) who used to pay prostitutes to live with him on a regular basis.
When asked if 'that didn't cost him a lot of money'? he replied that it was cheaper (and a lot less hassle) than getting married and having his wife potentially take half his fortune.
Cynical or just practical?"
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over a year ago
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"No matter how you look at it we all pay for it.
Not us"
It's true...everyone pays for it. I think if you looked at it as many do by their comments of "We all pay for it", you may understand what they are saying.
Financially isn't just the way some pay but most on here pay for it by paying club fees, hotel costs, travel etc etc...then you have the cost of time due to hrs spent searching, chatting, etc. Then there's the emotional and mental frustrations of fake profiles, liars, and time wasters and maybe worry of being caught and for some the worry of catching something and having to explain that to someone. .....I could go on but we all pay for it in some ways.
So anyone saying they don't pay for it are living in a cloud. |
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over a year ago
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We all pay for it. Over two marriages I lost two pubs,and 3 houses. Think I would have been cheaper using sex workers over the years. And wouldn't have had To go through the emotional turmoil to boot |
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"No matter how you look at it we all pay for it.
Not us
It's true...everyone pays for it. I think if you looked at it as many do by their comments of "We all pay for it", you may understand what they are saying.
Financially isn't just the way some pay but most on here pay for it by paying club fees, hotel costs, travel etc etc...then you have the cost of time due to hrs spent searching, chatting, etc. Then there's the emotional and mental frustrations of fake profiles, liars, and time wasters and maybe worry of being caught and for some the worry of catching something and having to explain that to someone. .....I could go on but we all pay for it in some ways.
So anyone saying they don't pay for it are living in a cloud. "
We visit swinging clubs; we don't have any of the hassles you may have. We visit night clubs and restaurants too. So you are correct that we pay for it as we do pay in restaurants too. Except that we don't pay each other for sex; that comes part and parcel of our relationship |
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"No matter how you look at it we all pay for it.
Not us
It's true...everyone pays for it. I think if you looked at it as many do by their comments of "We all pay for it", you may understand what they are saying.
Financially isn't just the way some pay but most on here pay for it by paying club fees, hotel costs, travel etc etc...then you have the cost of time due to hrs spent searching, chatting, etc. Then there's the emotional and mental frustrations of fake profiles, liars, and time wasters and maybe worry of being caught and for some the worry of catching something and having to explain that to someone. .....I could go on but we all pay for it in some ways.
So anyone saying they don't pay for it are living in a cloud. "
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"No matter how you look at it we all pay for it.
Not us
It's true...everyone pays for it. I think if you looked at it as many do by their comments of "We all pay for it", you may understand what they are saying.
Financially isn't just the way some pay but most on here pay for it by paying club fees, hotel costs, travel etc etc...then you have the cost of time due to hrs spent searching, chatting, etc. Then there's the emotional and mental frustrations of fake profiles, liars, and time wasters and maybe worry of being caught and for some the worry of catching something and having to explain that to someone. .....I could go on but we all pay for it in some ways.
So anyone saying they don't pay for it are living in a cloud. "
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