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By *amieT86 OP Man
over a year ago
Stockton |
So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
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"Yeah and what's worse, iv done stuff with a few guys and soon as i cum I feel sick with my self! Instant regret, why am I so strange "
that's guilt. Keep doing it and it will wear off. Or stop. Accept your sexuality, it's not actually a very big deal. *looks down* - nope, not a big deal at all....
Don't bother labelling yourself, just be you and be more uniquerer than anyone else. Be confident and proud of yourself. You're judging yourself by other people's standard and opinions. Judge yourself by your own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
Would you give head or accept head from a bloke.
I don't know maybe part gay I'm not sure but you would let a guy fuck you so I would say gay bisexual tendencies maybe.
No idea sorry I wish I could give a correct answer maybe ask a Dr on someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah and what's worse, iv done stuff with a few guys and soon as i cum I feel sick with my self! Instant regret, why am I so strange "
I think that would be me! That's why I haven't done anything yet but I find a cock really interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect most guys are bi curious, you just have the balls to open up about your kinks. I've known many men who are the intimate macho men but when it comes down to it they are all willing to suck cock if I give them the order |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"orally bi"
You're definitely not "weird" . Many men although they broadly adhere to the heterosexual label but with orally bi tendencies enjoy receiving skilled and enthusiastic oral attention or perhaps even giving it.
Don't label yourself, if you feel heterosexual broadly defines you it probably does.. just enjoy those moments for what they are without too much scrutiny or existentialist crisis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not weird.
Sexuality is on a scale. We're all somewhere between 100% gay or straight. Fab doesn't allow for a percentage, and it changes week to week anyway!
It would be easier if people weren't judging but it soubds like you're dealing with accepting yourself.
Good luck, and have fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
I know exactly what you mean mate! I'm similar, just get very horny thinking about a guy(s) wanking and cumming over my face and neck! And then sucking their limp and cummy cocks. Think I might be weirder   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not weird.
Sexuality is on a scale. We're all somewhere between 100% gay or straight. Fab doesn't allow for a percentage, and it changes week to week anyway!
It would be easier if people weren't judging but it soubds like you're dealing with accepting yourself.
Good luck, and have fun!"
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By *amieT86 OP Man
over a year ago
Stockton |
"I'd go with bi selfish or hetero flexible if you need to label, or you could just say you like what you like  "
What is this hetero flexible I keep hearing about? Again bi selfish I don't think so, I would rather give a bj then get one? lol it's abit gay letting a man suck me... |
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By *amieT86 OP Man
over a year ago
Stockton |
"I suspect most guys are bi curious, you just have the balls to open up about your kinks. I've known many men who are the intimate macho men but when it comes down to it they are all willing to suck cock if I give them the order "
Really? Is that true? If so it makes me feel better |
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I'm very much the same, but have the cd kink too.
As my male self I'm straight and alpha! Not interested in men at all.
But Katie is very cock hungry! Can't get enough!
Like you I'd never kiss a man, the thought makes me cringe. I only play with men when in clubs and dressed - I will only arrange meets with ladies and T-girls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are whatever you think you are. Other people will make up their own mind
We consider any man who has any kind of sex with another man/TV/TS and also has sex with women, as bisexual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Really,refreshing to read this thread, I'm in almost the exact same position. Although I have no interest in anal. More oral if anything, no idea, something fascinates me but dunno what as I don't find men attractive. Do what makes you happy I suppose. Good luck in your quest. |
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By *s.KerryTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't stress over it. Why put a label on it? You like what you like and don't like what you don't like. If you don't like men don't sleep with men."
How very true Some members apparent necessity to 'label' either themselves or others just makes me laugh.. As the song goes "I am what I am" etc etc  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Really,refreshing to read this thread, I'm in almost the exact same position. Although I have no interest in anal. More oral if anything, no idea, something fascinates me but dunno what as I don't find men attractive. Do what makes you happy I suppose. Good luck in your quest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't stress over it. Why put a label on it? You like what you like and don't like what you don't like. If you don't like men don't sleep with men.
How very true Some members apparent necessity to 'label' either themselves or others just makes me laugh.. As the song goes "I am what I am" etc etc "
Perhaps it is because some people do not wish to meet with people of certain traits, whether it be height, weight, sexual orientation, ethnicity, gender, etc. And these people might feel that it is their right not to meet or to meet with certain types of people for recreational sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
I know exactly what you mean. As I'm the same. However I love to experiment with dressing fem too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
You are an attention seeker  |
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By *amieT86 OP Man
over a year ago
Stockton |
"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks
You are an attention seeker "
Haha possibly, but probably not. If I could switch my desire for cock off I would, as it fills me with shame after I do anything, but when super horny it's what i think of, sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People mention ' no labelling ' needed, however fabs makes it difficult to find what we are looking for without labels. As mentioned in previous posts,you would need about 50 drop down options to cover every sexual Orientation on here. |
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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago
Bournemouth/ Fuerteventura |
"You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
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(Mrs) love this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
Very much the same here. Not too fussed what I'd label myself as though. It is what it is and hopefully there are couples who feel the same as me. |
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
You're probably the same as most blokes, me included. My tastes fluctuate but it's mostly driven from fantasies, we're just the blokes that admit it and do something about it. I've had incredible meets with guys, or couples and I often fantasise being fucked by a guy, but I don't fancy men, I don't really find them attractive. What I love is how different people, of any gender, can make me feel amazing and I can make them feel amazing too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks
You're probably the same as most blokes, me included. My tastes fluctuate but it's mostly driven from fantasies, we're just the blokes that admit it and do something about it. I've had incredible meets with guys, or couples and I often fantasise being fucked by a guy, but I don't fancy men, I don't really find them attractive. What I love is how different people, of any gender, can make me feel amazing and I can make them feel amazing too. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
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He is attracted to men though, otherwise he wouldn't do what he does with them
He's bi |
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By *amieT86 OP Man
over a year ago
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"You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
He is attracted to men though, otherwise he wouldn't do what he does with them
He's bi"
No, did you not read the thread? I'm not attracted to men, a mans face/body does nothing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
He is attracted to men though, otherwise he wouldn't do what he does with them
He's bi"
Do you masterbate? Are you attracted to your hand? Do men who have sex with blowup dolls find them attractive. What about fleshlights, dildos....?
OP please do not let the backward thinking of people who have stolen their mindset from the 18th century put a label on you that doesn't belong there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think your overthinking it. Your on a swingers site? If you had to catagorise I would say bi curious, until proven either way?
Just relax, and be yourself |
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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago
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"Yeah and what's worse, iv done stuff with a few guys and soon as i cum I feel sick with my self! Instant regret, why am I so strange that's guilt. Keep doing it and it will wear off. Or stop. Accept your sexuality, it's not actually a very big deal. *looks down* - nope, not a big deal at all....
Don't bother labelling yourself, just be you and be more uniquerer than anyone else. Be confident and proud of yourself. You're judging yourself by other people's standard and opinions. Judge yourself by your own. "
This - if you feel "weird" then god I need serious help  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So can someone help out, I'm in a relationship with a woman, I fancy women and love all things sexual with women. But I also like cock, BUT! I don't find men attractive, like at all, don't want to kiss etc, literally just like cock?! So what am I? Would that be Bi? I wouldn't like to fuck a guy but would probably let one fuck me...
Appreciate any advice! Thanks "
Greedy, you're just greedy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People who repeatedly and willingly engage in same sex activity are not straight regardless of whether they fancy the other person or not ...... sexuality and physical attraction are not the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
He is attracted to men though, otherwise he wouldn't do what he does with them
He's bi"
Men who have sex with other men, however those other men may be dressed, are not straight
Whatever else they might be, they are certainly not heterosexual; except for on this site ofcourse, where it seems that they think they are and some try to convince others, that they are straight. That is their prerogative. Ours is that we do not consider them to be straight
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You are what psychologists are starting to call SMSM. Straight men who have sex with men. There is nothing wrong with you, human understanding just hasn't caught up with human sexuality yet.
If you look at Fab guys there are hundreds of profiles of guys saying the same thing.
It is your attraction that determines your orientation, not your behaviour, fantasies etc. If you're not attracted to men you are still hetrosexual.
He is attracted to men though, otherwise he wouldn't do what he does with them
He's bi
Men who have sex with other men, however those other men may be dressed, are not straight
Whatever else they might be, they are certainly not heterosexual; except for on this site ofcourse, where it seems that they think they are and some try to convince others, that they are straight. That is their prerogative. Ours is that we do not consider them to be straight
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If something is certain then it isn't up for debate. The term SMSM comes from a respected expert in male sexuality and has published his ideas in a Psychology Today blog. You might be dead right and he might be dead wrong. But at least he doesn't express his opinions as certainties.
One thing is for sure. There is a large community of males who engage in or fantasise about male/male sexual activity while at the same time do not identify with gay or bisexual men. I believe OP may be one of these people.
If he believes the people on here who tell him that his thoughts or actions determine his sexuality and not his attraction, he will sooner or later find himself in a bi situation that he is not comfortable with and be accused of "pretending to be bi" to get to the female of a bi couple. |
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