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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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guys is it wrong to pay for sex? its kinda a fantasy of mine to do it and i have actually done it a few times does it make me a creep? and ladies whats your opinion on it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not wrong... go for it if thats your thing.
Amsterdam... has a great red light area... very clean and all types of ladies. "
Now my bro went there and said there was one lady in grey underwear picking her toenails in the window! 
I don't think theres anything wrong with paying for sex at all |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"not wrong... go for it if thats your thing.
Amsterdam... has a great red light area... very clean and all types of ladies.
Now my bro went there and said there was one lady in grey underwear picking her toenails in the window!
I don't think theres anything wrong with paying for sex at all "
she caters for toe nail and grey underwear fetish people..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not wrong... go for it if thats your thing.
Amsterdam... has a great red light area... very clean and all types of ladies.
Now my bro went there and said there was one lady in grey underwear picking her toenails in the window!
I don't think theres anything wrong with paying for sex at all "
We watched one eating a bag of crisps, pausing now and then to pull her knickers aside to attract the passing gents 
Paying for sex doesn't make you a creep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"guys is it wrong to pay for sex? its kinda a fantasy of mine to do it and i have actually done it a few times does it make me a creep? and ladies whats your opinion on it?"
if you wanna try it, go for it !
i only ever paid once and that was with a 'rent boy'
i did it not for the kink but to satisfy my curiosity as to whether or not i could have sex with a guy
i didn't want to go into gay bars and going back 11/12 years the online link ups were not very well developed so i thought going to a 'professional' was the best option |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is it wrong... you can kinda go shopping for just the Right girl...pick the Right talents...
I love the idea of paying for a girl as a present for my master... even found one or two that are exactly what we are looking for...
Would rather if I'm honest pay for a girl.. as otherwise master is expected to take them out first... and even most swinging ladies we meet don't want to go straight to the sex bit... so it just cuts out the unneeded bits and gets straight to the deviant parts..
I'm planning on paying for two girls for master... and can't wait.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"guys is it wrong to pay for sex? its kinda a fantasy of mine to do it and i have actually done it a few times does it make me a creep? and ladies whats your opinion on it?"
Of course it's not wrong to pay for sex. You want sex, they want money - everyone happy!
The men who think they're the big man by saying "I've never paid for it" are arrogant men, who have either lied for it "of course I'll respect you in the morning, darling" or who masturbate a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i met a guy from here when i first joined and part of the deal for him was to leave me money ........i didnt ask for it in any way ,and i would have met him anyway , but it was part of the fantasy for him ...i didnt mind ... never felt cheapened by it ..just treated my self with the money ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paying for sex is perfectly fine. Why take the chance on picking someone up with all of the associated expense (buying drinks, taxis etc). At least you know what you're getting and how much it's costing you up front!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"not wrong... go for it if thats your thing.
Amsterdam... has a great red light area... very clean and all types of ladies. "
had four nights and four girls!!!! some good times!! when in Rome do as the Romans do 
you pay in live one way or the other so why not pay for what you like??? no not wrong and not a perv, creep etc just human!  |
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Very good question! If you are generous person - go for it - remember - ladies need to have a nice lingerie, parfume, shoes, boots, stockings - so if guys do want to see ladies sexy they should to think that our expencies for sexy appearance are rather high - just google sites for special clothes and so on... We are doing our best for you! and ripping fantastic stockings on you!!! xXx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"guys is it wrong to pay for sex? its kinda a fantasy of mine to do it and i have actually done it a few times does it make me a creep? and ladies whats your opinion on it?
Of course it's not wrong to pay for sex. You want sex, they want money - everyone happy!
The men who think they're the big man by saying "I've never paid for it" are arrogant men, who have either lied for it "of course I'll respect you in the morning, darling" or who masturbate a lot."
There are lots of men who've never paid for sex in the sense of physically handing over coin of the realm to the other party.
Paying for it indirectly, meals, theatre, cinema, weekends away and so on? I doubt many of us haven't.
A knew a Master at Arms whose parting advice to ratings on a run ashore was 'you'll pay for it - one way or another'. |
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By *awlMan
over a year ago
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pay for sex? hahaha... ive been paying for sex since the day i got married, cost me everything i had......It gets better, the wedding cake reacted with the wifes sex drive, ( ive got out of date condoms) and its still costing me. maybe i should take her back to the shop. But you all know im only joking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paid for sex once, when she told me what services were on offer, I decided to go for a BJ only, I guess I lost my nerve in having full blown sex, at the end she got me to finish myself off by hand, so not good value and would not not try again, but then that was almost 15 years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"pay for sex? hahaha... ive been paying for sex since the day i got married, cost me everything i had......It gets better, the wedding cake reacted with the wifes sex drive, ( ive got out of date condoms) and its still costing me. maybe i should take her back to the shop. But you all know im only joking."
pahahahaha  ledge |
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As long as the woman involved is old enough and doing it of her own free will, and not being run by a pimp, then it's not wrong, after all it is the oldest profession!
G had a girlfriend who had been a working girl in Amsterdam for a while, working in a flat with another couple of girls. She said it was fun and easy money. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paying for sex is fine, in reality there's 2 options (ok I know there's more but for the purpose of this post...)
There's the date with someone relatively in your league, wine, dine, make polite conversation, impress and flirt, with no guarantee of even a peck on the cheek.
The there's pick the most attractive (to you) person on offer, hand over your money and get exactly what you paid for, no strings.
I had a work colleague who went out to the pubs and clubs with his mates, then at the end of the night went to a local massage parlour and filled his boots.
It took all the pressure off trying to get off with girls and could focus on having a good laugh with his mates.
...although he's now 40 and still single...that may be the flaw in his plan. |
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"I had a work colleague who went out to the pubs and clubs with his mates, then at the end of the night went to a local massage parlour and filled his boots.
It took all the pressure off trying to get off with girls and could focus on having a good laugh with his mates."
Perfect moment of clarity there. Coudl easily argue that your friend has it right, his money is his own, can do as he pleases, enjoy time with his friends, doesnt have to put up with moaning and expensive girls, doesnt have to worry about his missus getting fat and ugly. He then gets to choose a stunning girl who is paid to pleasure him in any way he asks without any emotional ties, unexpected pregnancy, mood swings etc...
love it
(waiting on the female flaming now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as the woman involved is old enough and doing it of her own free will, and not being run by a pimp, then it's not wrong, after all it is the oldest profession!"
I don't think there's anything wrong with either paying for it or being paid.
Does it really make such a difference, being paid or 'doing it for free' like people do on here?
But for girls that are forced into it... That's a whole different ball game and I'm against that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I ended up single again id:
1: Get a separate shag pad from my home
2: Pay for sex when I felt like it or have anything else lined up
3: dress as a (convincing if possible) TV as from the TV's I've spoken to they get inundated with offers of sex from men, women and couples
4: smile more
Have I been thinking this through waaay too much? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've paid for sex for quite a long time. I'm not proud of it, and used to beat myself up over it. I now realise that its probably a more honest transaction than trying to 'pull' a girl in a club. You both know the score, and its far less complicated than dating. Its not very good on the old bank balance though! lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see anything wrong with those that pay for it or get paid. Yes I'm a bit biased. But as long as everyone is getting what they want then fine
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive paid for sex too, when i was a kid, but something you have to consider is what are they doing with the cash??? Buying drugs, obviously a bad thing and destructive!!! Paying for educational purposes, can lead to good things. As i stand here, right now, i do not pay for sex, why?? because its so unforfilling and pretty hollow. There is definetly something about handind hard earned, for something you shouldnt pay for, sorry to harp on!!!!!!!!!!!!1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I totally agree. It is very unforefilling. Thats what makes it quite addictive. You're always hoping that the next time will be better but it very rarely is! I used to pay for sex pretty regularly, but i'm trying to wean myself off it now as i can't afford it!! I know deep down its not forefilling and the fact you're paying for it does cheapen the experience  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no problem with it, there are escorts on site who use it for personal play only and keep business and private fun separate, closed minded people always name and try to shame these on site which is wrong, as long as they don’t sell them self’s on site which isn’t allowed, I paid for sex once, not because I had to but because I wanted to know how it felt and the sex was amazing..if honest best yet with no strings that comes to bite you back in the ass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How did you feel paying for sex? Its interesting to hear women's opinions and experiences on paying for sex. The common perception is that blokes are the only ones who pay for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've not paid for it for myself but have for a partner. I didn't really have an issue. We looked and found who we wanted and then he enjoyed them
To be fair we had planned ffm plays like this as its just easier and less hassle to pay for it. It's pretty easy to find the girls that like me do it because they enjoy sex. As there is no point otherwise.
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it was fantastic sex and the guy was a real gent, didnt feel wired at all paying for sex,i got what i wanted and so did he and we both left with smiles, i keep intouch with him to this day as a friend and he still excorts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met some really nice girls (escorts) and had a great time with them, but when they leave it all feels a bit empty! Its like you're pretending to be in a relationship for that hour, and then when they get up and go it can leave you feeling quite empty. Is that soft, or does that make some sort of sense? I believe the term used is 'the girlfriend experience'. Its a bit sad really...i'll admit that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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maybe they like the sensual time too, all excorts are not the same,am sure you will see this if you see them, if you have a one night stand or reg fun with a fuck buddie it can also feel you empty so no differance as i see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex prefers paid girls to normal girls as says they are more honest and the sex is better
I think we need to lose this attitude about paying for it. It's a service. Same as anything else. I have met some amazing guys when working who could pull easily out in the real world. But find paying for it less hassle.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah, i've met escorts who say they enjoy the sex and are getting paid for something they enjoy doing. I know the cynics will say they're lying just to try and get you to see them again, but i genuinely believe some escorts do enjoy their work and see it as a bonus to get paid for it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have nothing against paying for sex or receiving money for it.
Never done it myself but if I was single I may.
Shaz has been offered money a few times a while back when younger and on the scene but always said no, if the guys had been nice looking she might of done though.
As long as the one being paid is doing it for herself and not being pushed into it by someone or an addiction then I don't see anything wrong with it. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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At the end of the day, if you've got to pay for sex you've got problems. Either problems with esteem, trust or your _iew of the opposite sex.
I've no problem with the profession though people who see people in this profession, need professional help IMO
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the problem, and I certainly don't see why anyone who pays for sex, or has paid for sex, should feel bad about it.
It's choosing to use an available service to fulfill a need. It doesn't mean that the client has to pay for it, just that they'd rather avoid the hassles associated with other methods.
Dating, relationships and going out on the pull all have related costs anyway.
I agree it's a very honest arrangement, as long as everyone involved is willing and happy, (and of legal age, obviously!)
The types that look down upon and sneer at anyone who pays for it always make me wonder what is really going on in their heads and if that's the real issue.
People who pay for it have problems? Seems to me that they might actually be the most sensible of the lot. As for it being bad for the ego, why should it be? They want uncomplicated, good sex on their terms and they pay for a service that provides that.
It's like paying for the services of a cleaner to make daily life more enjoyable, or paying a mechanic to repair your car so you can spend your time doing things you want to do. I don't see why, just because it's sex, it's any different to any other service.
The only problem I see on this thread are the comments about being left feeling empty once the escort leaves. That suggests to me that the person wants a relationship, rather than uncomplicated sex, and should be looking for a relationship (in pubs and clubs or via hobbies or on online dating sites or wherever) rather than trying to use bought sex to fill the gap.
If you want more than uncomplicated sex then paying for it probably won't satisfy the need. Otherwise, it seems like a viable option to me.
Incidentally, I've never paid for it but I might, if I thought it would address whatever my need, or desire, was at the time, and if I was in a position to do so. I wouldn't see any shame in it. |
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"How did you feel paying for sex? Its interesting to hear women's opinions and experiences on paying for sex. The common perception is that blokes are the only ones who pay for sex. "
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They really don't need to. They don't even need to join sites like this either to get sex, only need to walk out the door and within a few mins ...hey presto. |
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"At the end of the day, if you've got to pay for sex you've got problems. Either problems with esteem, trust or your _iew of the opposite sex.
I've no problem with the profession though people who see people in this profession, need professional help IMO
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no that is simply not true ... some guys just like to cut out the bullshit of hours spent in a pub telling a girl how amazing and beautiful she is .. buying meals and all the rest of it wen all they actually want is a shag !
there just more honest and cut straight to the chase in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see a problem in paying for sex, it is a service, solely offering the sexual act without any form of attachment.
I wouldn't ever choose to do this as a profession but for those who do so and are good at it, then all well and good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the end of the day, if you've got to pay for sex you've got problems. Either problems with esteem, trust or your _iew of the opposite sex.
I've no problem with the profession though people who see people in this profession, need professional help IMO
no that is simply not true ... some guys just like to cut out the bullshit of hours spent in a pub telling a girl how amazing and beautiful she is .. buying meals and all the rest of it wen all they actually want is a shag !
there just more honest and cut straight to the chase in my opinion "
^^^ this
We contemplated doing a TS together in Amsterdam when we were there, had a good perv but chickened out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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About 5 years ago, me and an ex went to Amsterdam for a long weekend, and while we were there, we shared a Ts for a few hours as a fantasy.
I enjoyed it a lot, he didn't so much lol!
I've also "charged" a guy for sex, it was roleplay, but he still left money, and I thought "mmmmm shoes!" hee hee x |
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