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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any advice from experienced fabbers. (Play nice please)
If those pesky feelings start appearing is it best to walk away,or carry on an see what develops? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Depends on the circumstance and whether both you and the person you have feelings for are ready (and able) to act on them. Just because this is a swingers/NSA site doesn't mean that feelings and indeed relationships can't come out of it. There are plenty of couples with profiles on here, who met here. |
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"We know a couple who met at a swinging party, became an item, married had kids, have a lovely marriage and still swing.
It can work. If you do decide to "see where it goes" then the best of luck.
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Here I'm assuming the OP has got to first base.
Apologies if I"ve miss understood the post. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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dunno. for me, i enjoy having feelings and don't feel a need for them to go anywhere, for them just to 'be'.
do you feel like you'd have to have some kind of relationship with someone you care for? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt"
I just have done in a very open and honest message x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x"
Good 
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x"
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x"
Well done, I hope it goes the way you want it too, but if not at least you know you did what was right for you and can make a decision from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today "
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol "
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
"
Aww, well at least you know.. it would be worse to build it up in your head and then be let down x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
Aww, well at least you know.. it would be worse to build it up in your head and then be let down x"
I feel let down. Doubting every word he said to me now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
Aww, well at least you know.. it would be worse to build it up in your head and then be let down x
I feel let down. Doubting every word he said to me now.
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I'd say don't over think it, but that's always easier said than done isn't it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
Aww, well at least you know.. it would be worse to build it up in your head and then be let down x
I feel let down. Doubting every word he said to me now.
I'd say don't over think it, but that's always easier said than done isn't it x "
Yeah just a bit.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
Aww, well at least you know.. it would be worse to build it up in your head and then be let down x
I feel let down. Doubting every word he said to me now.
"
Big hugs  xx
People's feelings change. He may be telling the truth but he got over it. Crap I know. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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It's a bummer when real feelings creep in especially if it's not reciprocated. I think in fabland you have to establish early on how things are going to work to avoid any misunderstandings. It is what it is.
It might be difficult OP but you'll pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Will you continue to meet each other?
I'm not sure I can now after what's been said x
I can understand that I think I'd be the same "
Its bad enough when I see I've a new message on here,that sickly nervous feeling thinking it might be him.
I can't see him not with how I feel. I know he does maybe have feelings,and maybe its for the best to walk away x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a bummer when real feelings creep in especially if it's not reciprocated. I think in fabland you have to establish early on how things are going to work to avoid any misunderstandings. It is what it is.
It might be difficult OP but you'll pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on!!! "
Thanks and you're totally right x
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"Will you continue to meet each other?
I'm not sure I can now after what's been said x
I can understand that I think I'd be the same
Its bad enough when I see I've a new message on here,that sickly nervous feeling thinking it might be him.
I can't see him not with how I feel. I know he does maybe have feelings,and maybe its for the best to walk away x "
It's not easy though eh,but if it's not right for him then it's best you move on for your own sanity |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Will you continue to meet each other?
I'm not sure I can now after what's been said x
I can understand that I think I'd be the same
Its bad enough when I see I've a new message on here,that sickly nervous feeling thinking it might be him.
I can't see him not with how I feel. I know he does maybe have feelings,and maybe its for the best to walk away x
It's not easy though eh,but if it's not right for him then it's best you move on for your own sanity"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
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At least he's being honest now. He's not leading you on. Only you can decide what's best for you going forward. It's hard I know.
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"Tell them what's going on and decide between? you. For all you know, they feel the same.
If they don't, you at least save yourself some hurt
I just have done in a very open and honest message x
Good
It's scary but it's the right thing.. hope it works out for you x
I've had a reply,but too scared to open the message.
Jeez I need to give my head a shake today
Do it.. like pulling off a plaster lol
Just have done. He can't do us.
But worst thing is is that he said previously he felt the same.
Aww, well at least you know.. it would be worse to build it up in your head and then be let down x
I feel let down. Doubting every word he said to me now.
"
I always doubt what men say to me when they hope to have sex with me. There are many that will say what they feel needs to be said in order to get a shag.
But I am a suspicious realist. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"I always doubt what men say to me when they hope to have sex with me. There are many that will say what they feel needs to be said in order to get a shag.
But I am a suspicious realist."
i'm the same. especially more so when you see guys easily go off and do with someone else what he said wanted specifically with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"dunno. for me, i enjoy having feelings and don't feel a need for them to go anywhere, for them just to 'be'.
do you feel like you'd have to have some kind of relationship with someone you care for?"
Me too I suspect the op bungled this by getting too heavy too soon, talking about partnering off and getting serious. Just linger in those lovely feelings, lap them up, maybe intimate you're feeling a lovely sense of connection. Then when you feel it's all getting a bit much back off and cool off. Easier said than done I know... but most worthwhile things are  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"dunno. for me, i enjoy having feelings and don't feel a need for them to go anywhere, for them just to 'be'.
do you feel like you'd have to have some kind of relationship with someone you care for?
Me too I suspect the op bungled this by getting too heavy too soon, talking about partnering off and getting serious. Just linger in those lovely feelings, lap them up, maybe intimate you're feeling a lovely sense of connection. Then when you feel it's all getting a bit much back off and cool off. Easier said than done I know... but most worthwhile things are "
Well its all over anyway,so this post seems pointless now.
I didn't rush into anything. He was more full on than me |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"dunno. for me, i enjoy having feelings and don't feel a need for them to go anywhere, for them just to 'be'.
do you feel like you'd have to have some kind of relationship with someone you care for?
Me too I suspect the op bungled this by getting too heavy too soon, talking about partnering off and getting serious. Just linger in those lovely feelings, lap them up, maybe intimate you're feeling a lovely sense of connection. Then when you feel it's all getting a bit much back off and cool off. Easier said than done I know... but most worthwhile things are
Well its all over anyway,so this post seems pointless now.
I didn't rush into anything. He was more full on than me"
that can actually be a red flag, when someone falls for you really early. mostly everyone tends to become infatuated as they start to fall in love with someone but if they think they love them without really knowing them then they just like the idea of being in love and not ready to fall.
i also think you never fall out of love, that's another sign you didn't really love someone or they didn't really love you, if those feelings go/end easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes I feel like a strange human being with unexplainable emotions that confuse the shit out of me!!!!
So, I'm never letting myself go there again....slightest hint, twang, fuck that guy has flipped my heart kind of emotion....I have to walk away.
There are only so many shards of one's heart to be taken!
Friendship and great sex = my swinging life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We met here and two years later we are still going from strength to strength
Kinky 
I'm not sure that's going to help the op at this moment in time."
I don't see why not. We met, developed feelings for each other, chose to get together and are still together to this day. Was just one example that if you choose to run with your feelings that it can work for some |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sometimes I feel like a strange human being with unexplainable emotions that confuse the shit out of me!!!!
So, I'm never letting myself go there again....slightest hint, twang, fuck that guy has flipped my heart kind of emotion....I have to walk away.
There are only so many shards of one's heart to be taken!
Friendship and great sex = my swinging life."
If I have another meet,my guard will be up.
I've nothing else left to give right now,as he was like someone I'd never met before,and was everything I'd ever wanted.
Don't think I'll ever fall like this again. |
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"Sometimes I feel like a strange human being with unexplainable emotions that confuse the shit out of me!!!!
So, I'm never letting myself go there again....slightest hint, twang, fuck that guy has flipped my heart kind of emotion....I have to walk away.
There are only so many shards of one's heart to be taken!
Friendship and great sex = my swinging life."
Perfect words |
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