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Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha  |
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over a year ago
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We're quite lucky that this rarely happens to us. On the odd occasion it does, it's usually from a profile that's questionable to if it's actually a couple. |
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"Hi op
I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.
You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.
So it will appeal to men .
Miss"
Yeah that's why we mentioned it was probably our fault it's occurring so often. Maybe we should remove the majority of solo photos. But Mrs likes to post sexy snaps of herself often as I am not playing with other females seems pointless for solo photos of myself. But I get where you're coming from. We'll scale back slightly and see what happens. |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
All the time. |
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Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed 
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink "
May have to try this reply ourselves |
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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink "
Lol yeah I do the same thing as well. They assume they are talking to Mrs despite the fact it is me 95% of the time on this profile.
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one of our pet hates is couples who message and have public pics of both, but then only send pics of the woman.
like they expect Eve to just turn up and fuck who ever she comes with 
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink "
haha I do this.. "yeah sure mate, but don't tell the wife. she doesnt know I'm bi" haha they so go running. 
Adam. |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
Yes, we get a lot of messages from guys who clearly only respond to the profile picture and not read our message. Or say ask if I'm free but not want to know about Mr N. |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
All the time, I think it's pretty rude TBH. |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha
All the time, I think it's pretty rude TBH."
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
I just assumed they were all calling me sexy 
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink
haha I do this.. "yeah sure mate, but don't tell the wife. she doesnt know I'm bi" haha they so go running.
Adam."
Haha that's a good one ... I can be a bit of a wind up so catch me in a mischievous mood and I'm away  |
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Happens a lot to us..
Yes i am active on thr forums more than dax but dax tends to manage the mailbox apart from messages i am involved in.
Its on our profile we only play as a couple and it is not just rude but actually quite insulting especially with hun, babe, ect ect...chose your term of endearment
Boo x
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"Hi op
I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.
You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.
So it will appeal to men .
Miss"
Spot on. Lots of couples seem to hide the male half when it comes to profile pictures. |
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"Hi op
I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.
You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.
So it will appeal to men .
Miss
Spot on. Lots of couples seem to hide the male half when it comes to profile pictures."
They do. Many profiles only have pics of the female half too.
We have had several messages in which only female pictures were sent to us.
Makes me angry ha ha.
Eve. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It is equally frustrating when you start messaging back and forth with a couple and it isn't clear whether you are conversing with him, her, or both.
If only one of you could write in pink, the other in blue and... what colour for a MF couple? Haha, answers on a postcard... |
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Initially, we prefer that the messenger addresses the both of us. If 'him' answers, he always declares that it is him. I don't
If the messenger then only writes to me, ignoring the fact there is two of us, then he gets ignored in return.
There's a hotwife couple on here that, in one of their pics, states quite clearly - he's not giving you permission to fuck his wife, he's giving his wife permission to fuck you. There's a difference |
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"Initially, we prefer that the messenger addresses the both of us. If 'him' answers, he always declares that it is him. I don't
If the messenger then only writes to me, ignoring the fact there is two of us, then he gets ignored in return.
There's a hotwife couple on here that, in one of their pics, states quite clearly - he's not giving you permission to fuck his wife, he's giving his wife permission to fuck you. There's a difference"
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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink "
We tend to answer in the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just recently we have received lots of messages from cpls who only want to play with the female even though the profile gives no indication of her playing on her own |
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink
We tend to answer in the same way."
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
Yes we get this all the time, why do guys assume it's just the female on line? If they can't be bothered to address us both then for me it's an easy no thanks. |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
Yes we get this all the time, why do guys assume it's just the female on line? If they can't be bothered to address us both then for me it's an easy no thanks. |
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"Had one this morning saying hi gorgeous bet you would love to feel my cock in you ...
I replied as tho he had addressed it to Mr and said hi thanks for the compliment but I'm
straight ... you was addressing that to me wasn't you and not Miss Pink ?
Profuse apologies followed
All in a lighthearted way but a gentle reminder that we BOTH read the messages and I actually find it more offensive that they are mainly addressed to me than he does
Pink "
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By (user no longer on site)
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We get it a fair bit and I find it quite disrespectful. Yes our pics are mostly of me (her) but that's because we are mostly looking for single guys, and if they read the profile we're clear that we come as a pair. I think for the guy who said he wants to know who he's talking to, why? Both probably read it and I think we both deserve the same level of respect. If you wouldn't want to message it to him why is it OK to message it to me? |
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By *ucy. AlCouple
over a year ago
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
That is so true men from couples have messed us loads of times saying hi babe do u fancy a shag xx |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
tbh I would usually address the f in a couple but if the m is friendly and chatty I will happily carry on chatting, as long as m accepted the fact I'm straight |
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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OP, it happens quite often, we either recieve messages from the male half of a couple, who have a fetish for watching their wives with a black man or there dream is to have sex with a black woman. We had to block single men unfortunately, the messages became overwhelmingly annoying.
We have a simple rule, nobody is eft out. If only one within the couple is attractive, we politely decline. -Marquis |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
We are very similar, Frisky rarely uses Fab. I have more online time than her and she gets fed up with the " wanna fuk" messages that people send as soon as they know it's the female online... |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha
We are very similar, Frisky rarely uses Fab. I have more online time than her and she gets fed up with the " wanna fuk" messages that people send as soon as they know it's the female online..."
It's such a shame but I guess it's something we have to put up with. We've just started deleting messages directed at just one part of the couple, unless we're in a playful banter mood like some of the profiles that have replied on this thread |
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over a year ago
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We had a couples profile for 3 years. I don't remember ever getting a mail just addressing me. However all our pics were both of us together.
Lots of couple profiles look like just a single woman. No wonder people get confused. |
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"one of our pet hates is couples who message and have public pics of both, but then only send pics of the woman.
like they expect Eve to just turn up and fuck who ever she comes with
Adam "
Even now I just ignore couples where there's no man pics. It's fucking rude to expect me to want to meet someone I haven't seen. |
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"one of our pet hates is couples who message and have public pics of both, but then only send pics of the woman.
like they expect Eve to just turn up and fuck who ever she comes with
Adam
Even now I just ignore couples where there's no man pics. It's fucking rude to expect me to want to meet someone I haven't seen. "
Sarah gets frustrated with some couple profiles being all female. We at least like to see both of the people we would potentially meet or it can lead to awkward no's later |
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"Hi op
I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.
You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.
So it will appeal to men .
Miss
Yeah that's why we mentioned it was probably our fault it's occurring so often. Maybe we should remove the majority of solo photos. But Mrs likes to post sexy snaps of herself often as I am not playing with other females seems pointless for solo photos of myself. But I get where you're coming from. We'll scale back slightly and see what happens. "
Having fewer pics wont make much difference, you will still get the same sort of messages lol.  |
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Yes we have the same problem , most messages come from the males with a little x on , I tell them on site they are talking to male half and to keep the kisses for the wife till we meet , and as for the number who ask to meet wife alone thinking they are talking to wife just get deleted ?? |
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"Hi op
I would say that they may address just mrs as the majority of your pics are of her.
You can't really see which of the males on your profile is mr.
So it will appeal to men .
Miss
Yeah that's why we mentioned it was probably our fault it's occurring so often. Maybe we should remove the majority of solo photos. But Mrs likes to post sexy snaps of herself often as I am not playing with other females seems pointless for solo photos of myself. But I get where you're coming from. We'll scale back slightly and see what happens.
Having fewer pics wont make much difference, you will still get the same sort of messages lol. "
Yeah we've realised so thought sod it, We'll keep posting whatever photos we like and live with it  |
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We don't get this too often luckily. We do have a lot more picture of me (female) than my other half but that's because we enjoy taking photos of me! Should we try and take more male ones?
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"I can't speak for others but if I'm messaging a coupes account, I address them both. After all, if I'm intending on playing with them as a couple, I think it's just rude to only address the female"
ditto, manners cost nothing |
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"Curious to know if this happens a lot to other couples but do you find a majority of the messages are aimed just at the female half of the couple from guys and couples at times?
We find this a little frustrating as we're a couple and prefer if we're both addressed as if Mr replies, who does a majority of the time as he has more free time than I do, people just stop replying. Must admit it may be our own fault as majority of our photos are just of me as Mr only plays with me on our meets but I enjoy showing off haha "
We find it's only from single guys, and it does start to grate you after a while, we will admit. So much so our stock reply has become
"We are a couple"
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To be fair to the men that mail couples- all couples are different. The men might think it's polite to ask the man in the couple for permission to shag his wife. Or they might think that because they want to shag the woman they need to talk to her directly. They can't really win. |
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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago
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We have had similar situation with males sending messages focussing only on Andrea but gradually people are accepting us as a couple. We did have one who just didn't care about me in the relationship and said so in very direct words realised He got blocked.
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