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Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock |
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock"
Why would we want to do that? We treat single men on the swing scene as human beings and the ones we play with we treat as friends.
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When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy. |
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it varies...we only look for bi guys...its amazing how many of them go from bi to bi curious to thought about sucking a cock once in 1997 to might let buns suck them if they're balls deep in boobs...  |
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock
Why would we want to do that? We treat single men on the swing scene as human beings and the ones we play with we treat as friends.
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I think he was being sarcastic.
Anyway, i think it depends how specific you want to be. Fab is full to bursting with single guys, all bursting at the seams to meet couples. |
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock
Why would we want to do that? We treat single men on the swing scene as human beings and the ones we play with we treat as friends.
I think he was being sarcastic.
Anyway, i think it depends how specific you want to be. Fab is full to bursting with single guys, all bursting at the seams to meet couples. "
I'm sure it was tongue in cheek but with an element of truth, as couples do have a bad reputation for treating singles like commodities. But ive already done a thread on that subject lol
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock
Why would we want to do that? We treat single men on the swing scene as human beings and the ones we play with we treat as friends.
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Just a bit of sarcasm, Like you have said there is a lot of Men to choose from, From a personal point of view there just needs to be a mutual attraction between me and the Female and be able to talk with the both of you, It would be very of putting if there was no communication between me and the Male |
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"When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy."
It must be difficult when there's two people you need to get on with. The same applies with couples meeting couples. I imagine it is easier meeting singles. |
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As a single male, I find I find couples to be either put off because I'm bi, or put off as I'm not bi enough.
I'm attracted to women more than men, but enjoy playing with men as well.
I'm not going to jump over a lady to get the straight male half.
But I'm not going to ignore the lady, or put on a show for her if he is also bi. |
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Really really hard if you are choosy
Swinging for us is really a necessity it's a choice when we want to be extra naughty
I don't want to have sex with someone I don't fancy the pants off ... we have the best sex so it has to be someone that really ticks all the boxes.
Sometimes I do actually wish I wasn't so fussy so it was a hell of a lot easier  
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We don't meet many but when we have its either part of a couple where they are happy to play apart or from meeting at a larger organised social. The forums help too as ing out mechanism. |
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We don't find it a problem to find single guys to join us ( and no that's not because we aren't 'picky'). However as it's only me they actually 'play' with , that does make it easier . |
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By *itnkatCouple
over a year ago
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Met 3single guys we hoped would be friends one got a gf left Fab one moved with job and the other was in demand so hard to rearrange another meet gave up after that |
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over a year ago
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I love the dynamic of a couple who are open and relaxed with their sexuality.
I know as i am Bi that many will not want to meet me, but i have been lucky in the past to know some wonderful couples.
Shame these days its hard to find them.
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"Surely it should be very easy for couple and women on fab. Look for who you like message asking 1 or 2 questions depend on respond proceed.
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Yes it would probably be easier if we just wanted a man to come over, fuck me and go. Finding men who are willing and able to give more than that takes a bit more time. Although not difficult once the connections are built up.
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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(Mrs)"
Well within 2 weeks given your availability and work schedule I'm hoping to change that very quickly.
I hope you're both very well. J |
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"When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy.
It must be difficult when there's two people you need to get on with. The same applies with couples meeting couples. I imagine it is easier meeting singles."
It's far easier meeting singles I've found.
The other thing I noticed about couples who contacted me was that a lot of the time it was about what the guy wanted. So although I'm straight (not fab straight proper old fashioned straight) and would only be playing with the woman it was very much about what I would do with her to please him and fulfill his kinks. That's ok to a certain degree but what turns me on is pleasing a woman and giving her what she wants, not her husband so much. Maybe that's why I'm not really suited to meeting couples. |
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock
Why would we want to do that? We treat single men on the swing scene as human beings and the ones we play with we treat as friends.
I think he was being sarcastic.
Anyway, i think it depends how specific you want to be. Fab is full to bursting with single guys, all bursting at the seams to meet couples.
I'm sure it was tongue in cheek but with an element of truth, as couples do have a bad reputation for treating singles like commodities. But ive already done a thread on that subject lol
Mrs "
Well that's the beauty of humour, it can put across an uncomfortable truth in an easily manageable way. If it's done right.
Sorry if this is taking the thread of track, but doesn't everybody treat others like commodities on here to a certain extent?
We do our best to be respectful to everyone, regardless of gender and relationship status.
We've had problems in the past with emotional attachments, so sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. |
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I think the problem for me is that in person I connect with people really well and have a good laugh...on websites and messages it's not as easy for me to connect, so perhaps that's off putting to couples |
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Not as easy as you would think.
You have to find someone you are attracted to, who gets on with you both and has the right availability.
We find that going to clubs is a better option for finding single guys.
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"When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy.
It must be difficult when there's two people you need to get on with. The same applies with couples meeting couples. I imagine it is easier meeting singles.
It's far easier meeting singles I've found.
The other thing I noticed about couples who contacted me was that a lot of the time it was about what the guy wanted. So although I'm straight (not fab straight proper old fashioned straight) and would only be playing with the woman it was very much about what I would do with her to please him and fulfill his kinks. That's ok to a certain degree but what turns me on is pleasing a woman and giving her what she wants, not her husband so much. Maybe that's why I'm not really suited to meeting couples."
Completely agree with you that you should not be pursuing couples, as it sounds like the dynamics of playing with a couple don't particularly excite you. At least you are honest, and don't use couples in order to get some sex from the female. Nothing worse than a single man who joins a couple and would prefer the husband to sod off - which is probably one of the reasons couples find it difficult.
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"I think the problem for me is that in person I connect with people really well and have a good laugh...on websites and messages it's not as easy for me to connect, so perhaps that's off putting to couples "
Perhaps going to organised socials or clubs would be a good option for you. A lot of guys are like yourself. |
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock
Why would we want to do that? We treat single men on the swing scene as human beings and the ones we play with we treat as friends.
I think he was being sarcastic.
Anyway, i think it depends how specific you want to be. Fab is full to bursting with single guys, all bursting at the seams to meet couples.
I'm sure it was tongue in cheek but with an element of truth, as couples do have a bad reputation for treating singles like commodities. But ive already done a thread on that subject lol
Mrs
Well that's the beauty of humour, it can put across an uncomfortable truth in an easily manageable way. If it's done right.
Sorry if this is taking the thread of track, but doesn't everybody treat others like commodities on here to a certain extent?
We do our best to be respectful to everyone, regardless of gender and relationship status.
We've had problems in the past with emotional attachments, so sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. "
In all honesty, I'm not sure we do. I know my husband and I are a bit different, but I think we genuinely treat our swinging friends as friends. It doesn't mean we wouldn't end a relationship if it became unviable. But a lot of men wouldn't want what we offer, and would prefer to be treated like commodities.
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"When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy.
It must be difficult when there's two people you need to get on with. The same applies with couples meeting couples. I imagine it is easier meeting singles.
It's far easier meeting singles I've found.
The other thing I noticed about couples who contacted me was that a lot of the time it was about what the guy wanted. So although I'm straight (not fab straight proper old fashioned straight) and would only be playing with the woman it was very much about what I would do with her to please him and fulfill his kinks. That's ok to a certain degree but what turns me on is pleasing a woman and giving her what she wants, not her husband so much. Maybe that's why I'm not really suited to meeting couples.
Completely agree with you that you should not be pursuing couples, as it sounds like the dynamics of playing with a couple don't particularly excite you. At least you are honest, and don't use couples in order to get some sex from the female. Nothing worse than a single man who joins a couple and would prefer the husband to sod off - which is probably one of the reasons couples find it difficult.
Mrs"
What I did enjoy a lot was the one time I was part of a couple meeting another couple. That was a totally different dynamic and one that was much more exciting to me. I think you're right about guys who shouldn't be meeting couples, I think there are a hell of a lot that do but aren't really suited to it. Probably why it's not as easy as you would think to find a single guy who is compatible. |
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"When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy.
It must be difficult when there's two people you need to get on with. The same applies with couples meeting couples. I imagine it is easier meeting singles.
It's far easier meeting singles I've found.
The other thing I noticed about couples who contacted me was that a lot of the time it was about what the guy wanted. So although I'm straight (not fab straight proper old fashioned straight) and would only be playing with the woman it was very much about what I would do with her to please him and fulfill his kinks. That's ok to a certain degree but what turns me on is pleasing a woman and giving her what she wants, not her husband so much. Maybe that's why I'm not really suited to meeting couples.
Completely agree with you that you should not be pursuing couples, as it sounds like the dynamics of playing with a couple don't particularly excite you. At least you are honest, and don't use couples in order to get some sex from the female. Nothing worse than a single man who joins a couple and would prefer the husband to sod off - which is probably one of the reasons couples find it difficult.
Mrs
What I did enjoy a lot was the one time I was part of a couple meeting another couple. That was a totally different dynamic and one that was much more exciting to me. I think you're right about guys who shouldn't be meeting couples, I think there are a hell of a lot that do but aren't really suited to it. Probably why it's not as easy as you would think to find a single guy who is compatible."
That is exactly why it's harder than it seems. Hundreds of guys looking for sex reduces down to maybe a handful, when the men who aren't genuinely interested in couple play are eliminated.
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"When I joined I was looking to meet couples but since taken it off my profile. The way a few couples approached me put me off the idea and have stuck to singles since. I also found I was very picky about what couples I would want to meet, finding a woman I wanted to play with who also had a partner I would feel comfortable with wasn't so easy.
It must be difficult when there's two people you need to get on with. The same applies with couples meeting couples. I imagine it is easier meeting singles.
It's far easier meeting singles I've found.
The other thing I noticed about couples who contacted me was that a lot of the time it was about what the guy wanted. So although I'm straight (not fab straight proper old fashioned straight) and would only be playing with the woman it was very much about what I would do with her to please him and fulfill his kinks. That's ok to a certain degree but what turns me on is pleasing a woman and giving her what she wants, not her husband so much. Maybe that's why I'm not really suited to meeting couples."
Not all couple are like that though |
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One would have thought it would be pretty easy and straightforward given the number of single men on here. However, like everything else, there are so many filters to go through (looks, build, appetites, kinks, personality, location, age etc etc) that eventually that large number goes down to, probably, quite a small number that are local enough and fit the bill. It will depend on exactly what you want out of the meet. As others have observed, there are a lot of men who put Bi or BI curious down - but all that means is they are trying to widen the scope of ladies they would like to meet. They are not really genuinely bi. But then you find a lot of couples profiles are only men. Proper fucking minefield at the end of the day. 
Have been fortunate enough to meet a few couples and it has been a great experience - plus we all got on. So, yes, it is possible but may take a bit of trial and error to find what you really want. Worth it when you do though! |
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I think it is hard both ways, for genuine single guys to meet nice couples and visa versa, a lot people on here don't help in giving a good rep to either. I have been fortunate and met some lovely couples who we have had great time on a social and fun level. Also just to chat with now on messenger apps |
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
I would imagine that's because every couple is different."
True. Couples are going to have different reasons of course, it fluctuates with us.
But if a guy is clueless from the very beginning, it's an uphill struggle. |
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
I would imagine that's because every couple is different.
True. Couples are going to have different reasons of course, it fluctuates with us.
But if a guy is clueless from the very beginning, it's an uphill struggle. "
Each couple will have a slightly different dynamic. We enjoy different dynamics with the different men we play with. But there has to be a dynamic of some description, and the man has to enjoy whatever that dynamic is. A man who enjoys and understands the basic dynamics can usually adjust to suit the variations of many couples.
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
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If you were trying to describe the dynamic of playing with a couple to a single man what would you say it is that he needs to grasp?
I'm not being difficult, i'm genuinely fascinated with these types of discussions. we've got our first MFM threesome in just over a week and it 'seems' we have the right guy. In terms of experience and temperament he seems a good fit. He appears to have listened to what we want out of it and taken on board the couple of rules we have so it's all good do far but I'm just wondering if there is anything else we should have considered regarding the actual dynamics when the 3 of us are playing? |
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By *az1Man
over a year ago
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Hey I'm looking for a couple for regular meets. I've been in this scene and the swinging lifestyle for a while now so am quite experienced and got plenty of ideas, some of which I've put on my profile if anyone would like to read x |
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In answer to the OP we found it difficult to find someone at first because we naively presumed that single guys who were attracted to C, and who stated that they were into MFM threesomes, would be happy to meet us. However the ones that had no experience of MFM would go silent once we got to the nitty gritty of arranging dates.
Now that we only talk to guys who have experience of MFM it seems to be much easier to arrange things, in our admittedly limited experience so far. |
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
If you were trying to describe the dynamic of playing with a couple to a single man what would you say it is that he needs to grasp?
I'm not being difficult, i'm genuinely fascinated with these types of discussions. we've got our first MFM threesome in just over a week and it 'seems' we have the right guy. In terms of experience and temperament he seems a good fit. He appears to have listened to what we want out of it and taken on board the couple of rules we have so it's all good do far but I'm just wondering if there is anything else we should have considered regarding the actual dynamics when the 3 of us are playing?"
First of all, very pleased you have found a great guy who understands what you want. After 4 years of doing this, guys like that are there, but it's not instant. When I talk about a man who understands and enjoys the dynamic, what I mean is they enjoy playing with the couple. This is very different from playing with female and the partner just happens to be there. When men enjoy the dynamics of MFM play they would actually want the man there. One of the mistakes single men often make once mobile numbers are exchanged is only chatting to the female part of the couple. The male part of the couple must be included because he is important if the threesome is to flow.
Don't get me wrong, this thread is not me venting frustrations on how hard it's us to find a suitable threesome playmate. After 4 years we have developed some exellent friendships and contacts, so we can normally get some fun when we want. But it took us a while to build to that, with many disappointments on the way.
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
If you were trying to describe the dynamic of playing with a couple to a single man what would you say it is that he needs to grasp?
I'm not being difficult, i'm genuinely fascinated with these types of discussions. we've got our first MFM threesome in just over a week and it 'seems' we have the right guy. In terms of experience and temperament he seems a good fit. He appears to have listened to what we want out of it and taken on board the couple of rules we have so it's all good do far but I'm just wondering if there is anything else we should have considered regarding the actual dynamics when the 3 of us are playing?
First of all, very pleased you have found a great guy who understands what you want. After 4 years of doing this, guys like that are there, but it's not instant. When I talk about a man who understands and enjoys the dynamic, what I mean is they enjoy playing with the couple. This is very different from playing with female and the partner just happens to be there. When men enjoy the dynamics of MFM play they would actually want the man there. One of the mistakes single men often make once mobile numbers are exchanged is only chatting to the female part of the couple. The male part of the couple must be included because he is important if the threesome is to flow.
Don't get me wrong, this thread is not me venting frustrations on how hard it's us to find a suitable threesome playmate. After 4 years we have developed some exellent friendships and contacts, so we can normally get some fun when we want. But it took us a while to build to that, with many disappointments on the way.
Mrs"
I agree in that totally, usually good just having a group chat between all 3 |
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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(Mrs)"
Finding one us like falling of a log...
Finding a good one, now that's the trick! |
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I was a coupled guy introduced to the scene and my partner and I met other couples and singles . Since we went or separate ways early last year as a single guy it's been really difficult to arrange a meet with couples on this site. I'm genuine and good fun to be with
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"I was a coupled guy introduced to the scene and my partner and I met other couples and singles . Since we went or separate ways early last year as a single guy it's been really difficult to arrange a meet with couples on this site. I'm genuine and good fun to be with
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Didn't keep in touch with the couples you played with in the past? |
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men. |
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men."
Digressing a bit, but that's what I like about the forums. Chocolate Rod, what you described above is what you understand and get out of the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. And if the husband/partner weren't there, then those specific dynamics that you enjoy would not exist. Of course every couple is different, and you will get a slightly different experience from each couple. But the fundamentals that you highlighted will happen each time. Many guys don't get anything out of the husband being there, so they may as well just have a 1 to 1. These guys don't get the dynamics of 3-way play. And there's nothing wrong with that - we don't really get the dynamics of couple swaps, therefore we don't try.
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men.
Digressing a bit, but that's what I like about the forums. Chocolate Rod, what you described above is what you understand and get out of the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. And if the husband/partner weren't there, then those specific dynamics that you enjoy would not exist. Of course every couple is different, and you will get a slightly different experience from each couple. But the fundamentals that you highlighted will happen each time. Many guys don't get anything out of the husband being there, so they may as well just have a 1 to 1. These guys don't get the dynamics of 3-way play. And there's nothing wrong with that - we don't really get the dynamics of couple swaps, therefore we don't try.
Mrs"
I'm the opposite way round. I like a man who will please my partner. Sometimes I might only watch.
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men.
Digressing a bit, but that's what I like about the forums. Chocolate Rod, what you described above is what you understand and get out of the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. And if the husband/partner weren't there, then those specific dynamics that you enjoy would not exist. Of course every couple is different, and you will get a slightly different experience from each couple. But the fundamentals that you highlighted will happen each time. Many guys don't get anything out of the husband being there, so they may as well just have a 1 to 1. These guys don't get the dynamics of 3-way play. And there's nothing wrong with that - we don't really get the dynamics of couple swaps, therefore we don't try.
Mrs"
I see what you are saying. I guess you have experience of many different single guys. I don't! As you said, there has to be something different with playing as a MFM than just having sex with a 1 on 1. Otherwise whats the point. For me, its the "taboo" aspect. For my couple friend, I am sure its the same. Likewise, its playing with uninhibited woman who is taking what she wnats I do like getting a thrill from the whole thing - whether its a spitroast - or even if I playing with a lady while her husband watches. The mere fact he is there, watching makes the whole dynamic so much more erotic
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men.
Digressing a bit, but that's what I like about the forums. Chocolate Rod, what you described above is what you understand and get out of the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. And if the husband/partner weren't there, then those specific dynamics that you enjoy would not exist. Of course every couple is different, and you will get a slightly different experience from each couple. But the fundamentals that you highlighted will happen each time. Many guys don't get anything out of the husband being there, so they may as well just have a 1 to 1. These guys don't get the dynamics of 3-way play. And there's nothing wrong with that - we don't really get the dynamics of couple swaps, therefore we don't try.
Mrs"
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
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This is very very true.
An infuriating aspect is when a single guy just doesn't get it that they might be one of more than 50 who have recently contacted for a meet.
Or couples, especially those with kids have prior obligations to fulfill i.e. family life, before they can get round to swinging.
We can't always oblige when the request comes in "are you free to meet tonight?" and then they get abusive when you decline their offer.
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Relatively easy, I'd have thought. They only have to ask me "
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men.
Digressing a bit, but that's what I like about the forums. Chocolate Rod, what you described above is what you understand and get out of the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. And if the husband/partner weren't there, then those specific dynamics that you enjoy would not exist. Of course every couple is different, and you will get a slightly different experience from each couple. But the fundamentals that you highlighted will happen each time. Many guys don't get anything out of the husband being there, so they may as well just have a 1 to 1. These guys don't get the dynamics of 3-way play. And there's nothing wrong with that - we don't really get the dynamics of couple swaps, therefore we don't try.
Mrs
I'm the opposite way round. I like a man who will please my partner. Sometimes I might only watch.
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Not opposite to you in the least. If my husband isn't being pleased then neither am I. In fact one of the greatest turn-ons is watching my husband with someone else, and I wish I did that more often - but that's a topic for another day. |
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I have been asked by 2/3 couples.. 1 I would have considered as got along with the male.. you have to have a connection with both parties in a seperate way. Not an easy situation to get right in my opinion |
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Its interesting discussion, having player with several couples, I have to say that each couple is different. And being a guy who likes MFM encounters, I certainly getting off on the fact hat I will be "fucking" a lovey wife - while here husband watches - knowing, that as soon as I stop, he will slip in. For me, there is something very erotic about a women who enjoys being "fucked" by two men.
Digressing a bit, but that's what I like about the forums. Chocolate Rod, what you described above is what you understand and get out of the dynamics of playing with an MF couple. And if the husband/partner weren't there, then those specific dynamics that you enjoy would not exist. Of course every couple is different, and you will get a slightly different experience from each couple. But the fundamentals that you highlighted will happen each time. Many guys don't get anything out of the husband being there, so they may as well just have a 1 to 1. These guys don't get the dynamics of 3-way play. And there's nothing wrong with that - we don't really get the dynamics of couple swaps, therefore we don't try.
Mrs
This is what I was trying to get across in my earlier, comments. Classy swingers as usual have put it across much better "
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Maybe what I'm trying to say is, it is harder to find a man for a theeesome in comparison with the numbers of men on Fab, because many will say they will do a threesome, but really they just want to fuck the lady and don't care if the man is there. Some would rather the man not be there at all. Men who genuinely enjoy threesones, especially straight men are a relative minority. But on the positive, there are some super guys out there.
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I suppose I'm at an advantage being bisexual but I would have thought it's the whole dynamic of having fun with 2 other people so the guy gets pleasured as well as the lady but I guess that's more difficult for a straight guy. Saying that, I've had sex with straight couples before and just warned the guy beforehand that any accidental body to cock contact was just that, accidental. All 3 of us enjoyed it. |
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This is what I was trying to get across in my earlier, comments. Classy swingers as usual have put it across much better
It wasn't me. It was Chocolate Rod's example who helped me articulate that "
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"I suppose I'm at an advantage being bisexual but I would have thought it's the whole dynamic of having fun with 2 other people so the guy gets pleasured as well as the lady but I guess that's more difficult for a straight guy. Saying that, I've had sex with straight couples before and just warned the guy beforehand that any accidental body to cock contact was just that, accidental. All 3 of us enjoyed it. "
That is because 1 man alone doesn't have enough cocks, fingers or tongues - 2 men are required. Of course total self-indulgence for the lady |
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"I suppose I'm at an advantage being bisexual but I would have thought it's the whole dynamic of having fun with 2 other people so the guy gets pleasured as well as the lady but I guess that's more difficult for a straight guy. Saying that, I've had sex with straight couples before and just warned the guy beforehand that any accidental body to cock contact was just that, accidental. All 3 of us enjoyed it.
That is because 1 man alone doesn't have enough cocks, fingers or tongues - 2 men are required. Of course total self-indulgence for the lady "
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This is what I was trying to get across in my earlier, comments. Classy swingers as usual have put it across much better
It wasn't me. It was Chocolate Rod's example who helped me articulate that
Ah yes very true - kudos to chocolate rod "
Glad that I could help
But it does surprise me that single guys want to play with a couple as a way of just getting the lady by herself. I mean tinder is for meeting single women for a 1x1 and a lot easier if you just want straight sex. Meeting couples should be something different. |
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Ourselves having posted many meetings since January last year without any luck whatsoever,unless we hold a party,but on occasions like to meet for a drink first and take it from there to no avail and as for them accommodateing forget it lol |
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"I suppose I'm at an advantage being bisexual but I would have thought it's the whole dynamic of having fun with 2 other people so the guy gets pleasured as well as the lady but I guess that's more difficult for a straight guy. Saying that, I've had sex with straight couples before and just warned the guy beforehand that any accidental body to cock contact was just that, accidental. All 3 of us enjoyed it.
That is because 1 man alone doesn't have enough cocks, fingers or tongues - 2 men are required. Of course total self-indulgence for the lady "
Yes - for me - its the thrill of playing with a "greedy" lady. I remember once just joining a couple I know well, and just watching them fuck. It was a real life porn show. It was a thrill watching them and knowing that when he stopped and pull out of his good lady, and then I would slip in! |
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This is what I was trying to get across in my earlier, comments. Classy swingers as usual have put it across much better
It wasn't me. It was Chocolate Rod's example who helped me articulate that
Ah yes very true - kudos to chocolate rod
Glad that I could help
But it does surprise me that single guys want to play with a couple as a way of just getting the lady by herself. I mean tinder is for meeting single women for a 1x1 and a lot easier if you just want straight sex. Meeting couples should be something different. "
It's the changing nature of swingers sites. We got into this a long time ago, and the single guys on those sites we're purely interested in couples.
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
If you were trying to describe the dynamic of playing with a couple to a single man what would you say it is that he needs to grasp?
I'm not being difficult, i'm genuinely fascinated with these types of discussions. we've got our first MFM threesome in just over a week and it 'seems' we have the right guy. In terms of experience and temperament he seems a good fit. He appears to have listened to what we want out of it and taken on board the couple of rules we have so it's all good do far but I'm just wondering if there is anything else we should have considered regarding the actual dynamics when the 3 of us are playing?
First of all, very pleased you have found a great guy who understands what you want. After 4 years of doing this, guys like that are there, but it's not instant. When I talk about a man who understands and enjoys the dynamic, what I mean is they enjoy playing with the couple. This is very different from playing with female and the partner just happens to be there. When men enjoy the dynamics of MFM play they would actually want the man there. One of the mistakes single men often make once mobile numbers are exchanged is only chatting to the female part of the couple. The male part of the couple must be included because he is important if the threesome is to flow.
Don't get me wrong, this thread is not me venting frustrations on how hard it's us to find a suitable threesome playmate. After 4 years we have developed some exellent friendships and contacts, so we can normally get some fun when we want. But it took us a while to build to that, with many disappointments on the way.
Mrs"
Thanks
I did ask the guy at the social if he had a particular 'thing' for MFM and he said not really, even though his veri's are heavily weighted toward couples. To be honest, as long as he's sensitive to what the wife and I want and we're all enjoying it, I'm not too bothered if he would rather I wasn't there as long as he doesn't communicate that to us somehow during play. I appreciate though that if he does genuinely have a thing for MFM it's likely to be more enjoyable for us.
Also, given that we're totally new to this scenario I can see that my view on this might well change with experience.
Great thread. I've really enjoyed reading everyone's views on this, thanks all |
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This is what I was trying to get across in my earlier, comments. Classy swingers as usual have put it across much better
It wasn't me. It was Chocolate Rod's example who helped me articulate that
Ah yes very true - kudos to chocolate rod
Glad that I could help
But it does surprise me that single guys want to play with a couple as a way of just getting the lady by herself. I mean tinder is for meeting single women for a 1x1 and a lot easier if you just want straight sex. Meeting couples should be something different. "
It's not something we can prove. It's more of a feeling we've had during communications (not recently) that the man regards my husband as surplus to requirements, but is prepared to put up with him in order to fuck me. I've also got that impression from some profiles which imply that couples are an afterthought, but they are really looking for a lady. Some guys say they use Fab as opposed to to Tinder because they feel Fab is better for the NSA element. But the was a thread not to long ago where most men confirmed they would rather play with a single woman than a couple. |
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
If you were trying to describe the dynamic of playing with a couple to a single man what would you say it is that he needs to grasp?
I'm not being difficult, i'm genuinely fascinated with these types of discussions. we've got our first MFM threesome in just over a week and it 'seems' we have the right guy. In terms of experience and temperament he seems a good fit. He appears to have listened to what we want out of it and taken on board the couple of rules we have so it's all good do far but I'm just wondering if there is anything else we should have considered regarding the actual dynamics when the 3 of us are playing?
First of all, very pleased you have found a great guy who understands what you want. After 4 years of doing this, guys like that are there, but it's not instant. When I talk about a man who understands and enjoys the dynamic, what I mean is they enjoy playing with the couple. This is very different from playing with female and the partner just happens to be there. When men enjoy the dynamics of MFM play they would actually want the man there. One of the mistakes single men often make once mobile numbers are exchanged is only chatting to the female part of the couple. The male part of the couple must be included because he is important if the threesome is to flow.
Don't get me wrong, this thread is not me venting frustrations on how hard it's us to find a suitable threesome playmate. After 4 years we have developed some exellent friendships and contacts, so we can normally get some fun when we want. But it took us a while to build to that, with many disappointments on the way.
Mrs
Thanks
I did ask the guy at the social if he had a particular 'thing' for MFM and he said not really, even though his veri's are heavily weighted toward couples. To be honest, as long as he's sensitive to what the wife and I want and we're all enjoying it, I'm not too bothered if he would rather I wasn't there as long as he doesn't communicate that to us somehow during play. I appreciate though that if he does genuinely have a thing for MFM it's likely to be more enjoyable for us.
Also, given that we're totally new to this scenario I can see that my view on this might well change with experience.
Great thread. I've really enjoyed reading everyone's views on this, thanks all "
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We are finding it nigh on impossible to find a long term FB.
Not short of people who would shag a whale (sorry if that is your thing, just not ours ) or people who want a shag and want it NOW! Also people willing to travel hundreds of miles or just completely unsuitable.
Unfortunately we are a bit fussy in what we are looking for and finding it very difficult 
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"We are finding it nigh on impossible to find a long term FB.
Not short of people who would shag a whale (sorry if that is your thing, just not ours ) or people who want a shag and want it NOW! Also people willing to travel hundreds of miles or just completely unsuitable.
Unfortunately we are a bit fussy in what we are looking for and finding it very difficult
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I haven't seen anyone willing to shag marine life ? Or is that your ever so lovely way of describing a fat person |
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This is what I was trying to get across in my earlier, comments. Classy swingers as usual have put it across much better
It wasn't me. It was Chocolate Rod's example who helped me articulate that
Ah yes very true - kudos to chocolate rod
Glad that I could help
But it does surprise me that single guys want to play with a couple as a way of just getting the lady by herself. I mean tinder is for meeting single women for a 1x1 and a lot easier if you just want straight sex. Meeting couples should be something different.
It's not something we can prove. It's more of a feeling we've had during communications (not recently) that the man regards my husband as surplus to requirements, but is prepared to put up with him in order to fuck me. I've also got that impression from some profiles which imply that couples are an afterthought, but they are really looking for a lady. Some guys say they use Fab as opposed to to Tinder because they feel Fab is better for the NSA element. But the was a thread not to long ago where most men confirmed they would rather play with a single woman than a couple. "
I am sure you are right. And those men are in for a big shock. Am pretty sure that getting sex on tinder is a lot easier than playing with a couple. I guess those guys are / have been in for shock. And you are right, for those men the husband is surplus
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"Surely it should be very easy for couple and women on fab. Look for who you like message asking 1 or 2 questions depend on respond proceed.
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Yes it would probably be easier if we just wanted a man to come over, fuck me and go. Finding men who are willing and able to give more than that takes a bit more time. Although not difficult once the connections are built up.
Mrs"
But the problem could be women or couples waiting for the right guy to message them. Instead, it will be better and favour the women or couples to send the message first due to the amount of junk mail women receive. Send the message to a few guys you fancy and decided based on rapport, you ask question leading to what you want so it doesn't become fuck and go. I think too many people want to play game and faff around which is time wasting. |
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"Surely it should be very easy for couple and women on fab. Look for who you like message asking 1 or 2 questions depend on respond proceed.
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Yes it would probably be easier if we just wanted a man to come over, fuck me and go. Finding men who are willing and able to give more than that takes a bit more time. Although not difficult once the connections are built up.
Mrs
But the problem could be women or couples waiting for the right guy to message them. Instead, it will be better and favour the women or couples to send the message first due to the amount of junk mail women receive. Send the message to a few guys you fancy and decided based on rapport, you ask question leading to what you want so it doesn't become fuck and go. I think too many people want to play game and faff around which is time wasting."
When things go quiet with our regulars (i.e. not available, or depressed, or stressed with work or got a girlfriend etc) and we need to replenish the Rolodex, we might wink at a profile that we like the look of. But it's true, we don't go out of our way to find new men, because after 4 years of doing this we have enough connections. Certainly don't faff around waiting for the right guy. Why would I do that when I can have several lovers 
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Not short of people who would shag a whale (sorry if that is your thing, just not ours ) or people who want a shag and want it NOW! Also people willing to travel hundreds of miles or just completely unsuitable.
Unfortunately we are a bit fussy in what we are looking for and finding it very difficult
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Having look at your profile - I can see that it is going to be difficult for you to find a FWB for your lady. I was the FWB for a married lady years ago(part of how I got into swinging) but it worked because her and her husband lived in London. So basically she had many more opportunities to find the exactly the type of guy she was looking for. Like you, I would love to find another couple just like that again- but even in big city like London, hard to do |
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" I haven't seen anyone willing to shag marine life ? Or is that your ever so lovely way of describing a fat person "
It is only you mentioning Fat people! |
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" I haven't seen anyone willing to shag marine life ? Or is that your ever so lovely way of describing a fat person
It is only you mentioning Fat people!"
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Not short of people who would shag a whale (sorry if that is your thing, just not ours ) or people who want a shag and want it NOW! Also people willing to travel hundreds of miles or just completely unsuitable.
Unfortunately we are a bit fussy in what we are looking for and finding it very difficult
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I haven't been able to find a long term fb either despite looking for over a year! It's not that I'm undateable just very avoidable |
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It's very easy indeed .
And before you start saying it's because we aren't picky , or don't have standards , bollocks . We know what we like , and what we can offer , and have absolutely no problem finding the right kind of guys to join us .
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It's very easy indeed .
And before you start saying it's because we aren't picky , or don't have standards , bollocks . We know what we like , and what we can offer , and have absolutely no problem finding the right kind of guys to join us .
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It's very easy indeed .
And before you start saying it's because we aren't picky , or don't have standards , bollocks . We know what we like , and what we can offer , and have absolutely no problem finding the right kind of guys to join us .
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We are finding it difficult to find someone who matches what we are looking for but I guess being new we are maybe being a bit too cautious. We do get a lot of offers from people who arent at all what we want though  |
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"Maybe what I'm trying to say is, it is harder to find a man for a theeesome in comparison with the numbers of men on Fab, because many will say they will do a threesome, but really they just want to fuck the lady and don't care if the man is there. Some would rather the man not be there at all. Men who genuinely enjoy threesones, especially straight men are a relative minority. But on the positive, there are some super guys out there.
Mrs"
That's what I mean by all couples being different.
We simply don't have *that* problem because we look for men who are primarily into men in order to *all* enjoy the threesome. |
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I have been lucky in all the couples i have met both socially and sexually.. I didn't get to understand that couples have boundaries and signals when meeting single guys. For me its alright talking on fabs or on cam but meeting in person so so different. Personally i like to know the male of the couple and as long as both are comfy then go with the flow. If nothing happens fair enough. Just enjoy the company. You only live once. |
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It's very easy indeed .
And before you start saying it's because we aren't picky , or don't have standards , bollocks . We know what we like , and what we can offer , and have absolutely no problem finding the right kind of guys to join us .
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"Maybe what I'm trying to say is, it is harder to find a man for a theeesome in comparison with the numbers of men on Fab, because many will say they will do a threesome, but really they just want to fuck the lady and don't care if the man is there. Some would rather the man not be there at all. Men who genuinely enjoy threesones, especially straight men are a relative minority. But on the positive, there are some super guys out there.
Mrs
That's what I mean by all couples being different.
We simply don't have *that* problem because we look for men who are primarily into men in order to *all* enjoy the threesome."
Oh, I see what you mean. We're less specific and will do any kind of threeway arrangement, depending on our mood, stage of development, and what the man has to offer. So true, that does potentially open us up to men who aren't really into it at all, especially with men who are totally straight. |
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Bit off topic but thats a shit load of drugs and hair product in your most recent public pic lol |
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I have been lucky in all the couples i have met both socially and sexually.. I didn't get to understand that couples have boundaries and signals when meeting single guys. For me its alright talking on fabs or on cam but meeting in person so so different. Personally i like to know the male of the couple and as long as both are comfy then go with the flow. If nothing happens fair enough. Just enjoy the company. You only live once.
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"Maybe what I'm trying to say is, it is harder to find a man for a theeesome in comparison with the numbers of men on Fab, because many will say they will do a threesome, but really they just want to fuck the lady and don't care if the man is there. Some would rather the man not be there at all. Men who genuinely enjoy threesones, especially straight men are a relative minority. But on the positive, there are some super guys out there.
Mrs
That's what I mean by all couples being different.
We simply don't have *that* problem because we look for men who are primarily into men in order to *all* enjoy the threesome."
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Bit off topic but thats a shit load of drugs and hair product in your most recent public pic lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single male but old and it seems very hard for single males to make contact with couples on here "
But ridiculously easy the other way around given the ratios |
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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Bit off topic but thats a shit load of drugs and hair product in your most recent public pic lol
The mirror makes it look more. Should have tidied my dressing table lol"
Have to say I wasn't focused on looking at the dressing table! |
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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago
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"Just message admin on the type of single Men you like and they will package us up and send you a few in the post, You can just send the ones you don't like back, As they will just be rebranded as used stock"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe what I'm trying to say is, it is harder to find a man for a theeesome in comparison with the numbers of men on Fab, because many will say they will do a threesome, but really they just want to fuck the lady and don't care if the man is there. Some would rather the man not be there at all. Men who genuinely enjoy threesones, especially straight men are a relative minority. But on the positive, there are some super guys out there.
Mrs"
Guess I'm in that minority then..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"given that there are hundreds of single guys to choose from on Fab?
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we have trouble finding a genuine single guy who can accom in our area ,they agree to our requests what we want ect and say yes to everything ,then you give them day and time then the excuses cum out as to why not that particular time ect,
some have even blocked us when we ask them for an address to meet them |
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I am a mature guy who used to do MFM threesomes as part of a couple. We met a lot of guys socially, but fucked a few. We did end up with a couple of guys as regulars.
Now I'm looking to join a couple as I single guy I believe I could use my previous experience to help all three of us.
The dynamics will be different for each couple so as the outsider in the partnership it is up to me to try to understand and fulfil their needs. Although I would hope a couple would also try to fulfil mine.
Yes, there has to be a chemistry and sexual attraction between all three in a mfm even if the men aren't bi. They still have to be comfortable with another man's nakedness, and skin to skin contact between the males is inevitable.
Then of course there is the problem of arranging dates and times that suit all 3 people. Even once a date and time has been set life has a habit of throwing shit at arrangements. You can decline an invitation for another acceptable social situation, it's harder when you want to swing. This can happen to both couples and single guys. If the reason is plausible for cancelling, and every effort made to contact the other party then a little understanding is called for.
Sorry to ramble on |
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"It's difficult finding guys who understand the dynamic of playing with a couple.
I would imagine that's because every couple is different.
True. Couples are going to have different reasons of course, it fluctuates with us.
But if a guy is clueless from the very beginning, it's an uphill struggle.
Each couple will have a slightly different dynamic. We enjoy different dynamics with the different men we play with. But there has to be a dynamic of some description, and the man has to enjoy whatever that dynamic is. A man who enjoys and understands the basic dynamics can usually adjust to suit the variations of many couples.
Mrs"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am a mature guy who used to do MFM threesomes as part of a couple. We met a lot of guys socially, but fucked a few. We did end up with a couple of guys as regulars.
Now I'm looking to join a couple as I single guy I believe I could use my previous experience to help all three of us.
The dynamics will be different for each couple so as the outsider in the partnership it is up to me to try to understand and fulfil their needs. Although I would hope a couple would also try to fulfil mine.
Yes, there has to be a chemistry and sexual attraction between all three in a mfm even if the men aren't bi. They still have to be comfortable with another man's nakedness, and skin to skin contact between the males is inevitable.
Then of course there is the problem of arranging dates and times that suit all 3 people. Even once a date and time has been set life has a habit of throwing shit at arrangements. You can decline an invitation for another acceptable social situation, it's harder when you want to swing. This can happen to both couples and single guys. If the reason is plausible for cancelling, and every effort made to contact the other party then a little understanding is called for.
Sorry to ramble on"
No need to apologise, some good points. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are finding it difficult to find a genuine man to join us for a hotel meet in Guildford on the 29th. Any of you men with experience of mmf and under 40 want to help us out?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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TBH and truthful it can be a bloody nightmare to find a genuine guy to meet a couple so we tend to have regular guys we meet with.
Trying to find a genuine bi guy is even harder work, we have mail from quite a few guys who say they play bi in a message but profile says they couldn't go near another guy during a meet.... Ahem you are meeting a couple there is bound to e at least one other guy there unless of course they are the type of guy that wants to meet a couple but only wants the female half to be there !!  |
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