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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"In my opinion these profiles sound like a sex toy with an instruction manual"
Some people feel the need for long profiles, to make it quite clear what they are looking for, unfortunately, others don't always read them, so waste their time and the profile holder's time, by messaging someone who there was no likelihood of meeting.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im talking about the really really long ones seriously whats the point? You only get to know a person once you get chatting to them.
People might say so much about themselves but could turn out to be something different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my opinion these profiles sound like a sex toy with an instruction manual"
Yep life would be so much better if you guys if you could just browse the Fab catalogue and pick your free fuck - after all that's what Fab is there for isn't it? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im talking about the really really long ones seriously whats the point? You only get to know a person once you get chatting to them.
People might say so much about themselves but could turn out to be something different "
We don't want to chat. We want to get the important information across in one go, so that we don't have unsuitable guy's messaging us, which intern wastes our and their time. That works very well for us, and we're never without fun when we want it.
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Im talking about the really really long ones seriously whats the point? You only get to know a person once you get chatting to them.
People might say so much about themselves but could turn out to be something different "
But within that profile, they will stress what their expectations are from a meet, if you don't match their criteria, what would be the point in you contacting them. I agree that some could turn out to be something different, as you say, but if there is no compatibility, what's the point in making contact, in the first place. |
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"Im talking about the really really long ones seriously whats the point? You only get to know a person once you get chatting to them.
People might say so much about themselves but could turn out to be something different "
Some of us aren't interested in chatting to someone if there's no common interest .
So a detailed profile will out many of those who won't be right , if they bother to read it .
The fact that you say you won't bother reading long profiles is very common on here . Fair play for being honest about it though . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honesty im one of those guys who will skim a profile.
I will message but if i dont get a reply i dont bother. I just move along to the next. "
one in a million then hey  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"In all honesty im one of those guys who will skim a profile.
I will message but if i dont get a reply i dont bother. I just move along to the next. "
Seems like a waste of time to me 
Sounds as if you think this is Argos, look at the pics and think I want this one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't read them then but also don't expect a reply 
Err i think i already mentioned that im not bother if i dont get a reply"
Yes you posted at exactly the same time as me
Seems like you're willing to message anyone on the off chance of a reply. Maybe if you actually took the time to read a profile your chances of communication would actually improve and you'd also be wasting far less time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In all honesty im one of those guys who will skim a profile.
I will message but if i dont get a reply i dont bother. I just move along to the next.
Seems like a waste of time to me
Sounds as if you think this is Argos, look at the pics and think I want this one "
But what would you want me to do read a bedtime story about how a person wants to swing or get chatting? |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Don't read them then but also don't expect a reply
Err i think i already mentioned that im not bother if i dont get a reply"
Op, you have been here one week, with respect, you have a lot to learn. If you are not prepared to read a long profile then I think you will struggle to get any meets and if you can't be bothered, then why are you on here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't read them then but also don't expect a reply
Err i think i already mentioned that im not bother if i dont get a reply
Op, you have been here one week, with respect, you have a lot to learn. If you are not prepared to read a long profile then I think you will struggle to get any meets and if you can't be bothered, then why are you on here?"
Ive been on and off the site due to commitments if i was stick with one profile id probably have been on here over a year |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't read them then but also don't expect a reply
Err i think i already mentioned that im not bother if i dont get a reply
Yes you posted at exactly the same time as me
Seems like you're willing to message anyone on the off chance of a reply. Maybe if you actually took the time to read a profile your chances of communication would actually improve and you'd also be wasting far less time "
Thanks for the advice |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"In all honesty im one of those guys who will skim a profile.
I will message but if i dont get a reply i dont bother. I just move along to the next.
Seems like a waste of time to me
Sounds as if you think this is Argos, look at the pics and think I want this one
But what would you want me to do read a bedtime story about how a person wants to swing or get chatting?"
Read the bloody profile, it will let you know if you are compatible or not! Quite simple really 
Females and couples get pissed off when it is clear men have just ignored what they are looking for |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Don't read them then but also don't expect a reply
Err i think i already mentioned that im not bother if i dont get a reply
Op, you have been here one week, with respect, you have a lot to learn. If you are not prepared to read a long profile then I think you will struggle to get any meets and if you can't be bothered, then why are you on here?
Ive been on and off the site due to commitments if i was stick with one profile id probably have been on here over a year "
Then you should know how this site works and remember that you are one of many single guys. The successful single guys are the one's who take the time to read the profiles to see if they are compatible and would then contact that profile, to see if they would be interested in further contact/chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is how I check a profile before i message:
1. What sex they are looking for
2. The age they are looking for
3. If they dont like asians i dont bother messaging
4. Short description worth a read
5. Long profile i message them saying please sum it up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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too lazy to read a profile makes me think you would be lazy elsewhere
Who would be interested in someone so selfish and disrespectful towards another person preferences? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't read them then but also don't expect a reply
Err i think i already mentioned that im not bother if i dont get a reply"
Those that don't care tend not to be very serious about meeting. Men who want to have fun with quality people would not take the view that theywill'justmove onto the next profile - because the next profile will probably reject them too
Mrs
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"This is how I check a profile before i message:
1. What sex they are looking for
2. The age they are looking for
3. If they dont like asians i dont bother messaging
4. Short description worth a read
5. Long profile i message them saying please sum it up lol"
And why would they need to 'sum it up' lol |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"too lazy to read a profile makes me think you would be lazy elsewhere
Who would be interested in someone so selfish and disrespectful towards another person preferences?"
This is what I was thinking too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"too lazy to read a profile makes me think you would be lazy elsewhere
Who would be interested in someone so selfish and disrespectful towards another person preferences?"
Please tell me how it is disrespectful for not reading a profile.
Disrespect is when you constantly bombard some with messages when one was enough |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"too lazy to read a profile makes me think you would be lazy elsewhere
Who would be interested in someone so selfish and disrespectful towards another person preferences?
Please tell me how it is disrespectful for not reading a profile.
Disrespect is when you constantly bombard some with messages when one was enough "
I would say one message would be disrespectful if you are too lazy to read a well thought out profile. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Is that a good thing for you op? With such variety here, most things can be used to help to refine your choice of potential partners."
This. Hopefully Op you can see that the responses on here are pretty much the same and you can see why these people are successful in their meets. We all have learnt to read profiles and make informed choices as to whom we approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"too lazy to read a profile makes me think you would be lazy elsewhere
Who would be interested in someone so selfish and disrespectful towards another person preferences?"
Exactly.
But then I guess he's just after an 'off the shelf' woman for his desires - you know, like the ones you pick up on street corners or drug dens! Maybe he likes them not to have needs, or a personality, or standards.   |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"too lazy to read a profile makes me think you would be lazy elsewhere
Who would be interested in someone so selfish and disrespectful towards another person preferences?
Exactly.
But then I guess he's just after an 'off the shelf' woman for his desires - you know, like the ones you pick up on street corners or drug dens! Maybe he likes them not to have needs, or a personality, or standards. "
I think you could be right! |
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Op - I've read the rest of the posts here now, since my earlier one.
Single guys here often struggle to know what to write when contacting someone new, especially when they probably won't be the only guy messaging that day (there could be many tens per day). The fancy a fuck messages are often first to get ignored. The writers who've not read a profile will join them.
The sum it up for me types, blocked.
If I had an automated answering service for people contacting me here, like companies do when you're on hold, I'd make callers listen and select from a variety of options so that I could screen people who might pester me from wasting my time.
It could work on profiles similarly, so that only people who have accepted the suitability of meeting all of the profile requirements are then able to write and send a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really should shorten mine...
You have more than just photos? I hadn't noticed
Tut tut, you know it's naughty not to read! "
Some people read palms, I read bums  |
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By *w214Couple
over a year ago
Wirral |
"Op - I've read the rest of the posts here now, since my earlier one.
Single guys here often struggle to know what to write when contacting someone new, especially when they probably won't be the only guy messaging that day (there could be many tens per day). The fancy a fuck messages are often first to get ignored. The writers who've not read a profile will join them.
The sum it up for me types, blocked.
If I had an automated answering service for people contacting me here, like companies do when you're on hold, I'd make callers listen and select from a variety of options so that I could screen people who might pester me from wasting my time.
It could work on profiles similarly, so that only people who have accepted the suitability of meeting all of the profile requirements are then able to write and send a message. "
LOL, he's not gonna read this is he. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I assume that if you are too lazy to read about me in my profile then you will be too lazy to find out what makes me tick in the bedroom too.
Men who read our profile and send us a message that lets us know they have taken the time to do so, go to the top of the pile.
Eve. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I assume that if you are too lazy to read about me in my profile then you will be too lazy to find out what makes me tick in the bedroom too.
Men who read our profile and send us a message that lets us know they have taken the time to do so, go to the top of the pile.
Eve."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honesty you come across as very arrogant and self righteous, I wish you the very best of luck here, your gonna need it. "
That about covers it up, and it is not even long!
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"In all honesty you come across as very arrogant and self righteous, I wish you the very best of luck here, your gonna need it.
That about covers it up, and it is not even long!
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I would just say...knob |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get the feeling the OP just wants a rise from everyone...move on to a more interesting thread guys . For the record Mines long....i think it clearly saves people time in the long run |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a reasonably long profile, you could probably read it much quicker than the time it takes to exchange several messages. Anyone who goes against what is asked in our profile will automatically get ignored. If they can't be arsed spending 5 minutes reading then we aren't suitable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op - I've read the rest of the posts here now, since my earlier one.
Single guys here often struggle to know what to write when contacting someone new, especially when they probably won't be the only guy messaging that day (there could be many tens per day). The fancy a fuck messages are often first to get ignored. The writers who've not read a profile will join them.
The sum it up for me types, blocked.
If I had an automated answering service for people contacting me here, like companies do when you're on hold, I'd make callers listen and select from a variety of options so that I could screen people who might pester me from wasting my time.
It could work on profiles similarly, so that only people who have accepted the suitability of meeting all of the profile requirements are then able to write and send a message.
LOL, he's not gonna read this is he. "
Haha love it???????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my opinion these profiles sound like a sex toy with an instruction manual"
Well if there's an instruction manual for a sex toy why wouldn't there be one for a potential sex partner worth more than a toy? It's just a little easier when you already know a few vital likes & dislikes rather than spend hours interviewing each other or worse, doing things your new friend doesn't like. You can spend your precious time meeting someone who shares similar interest rather than waste each other's time. Instruction manuals rock! |
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Some of us have different aspects to discuss. A long profile also acts as a mode of selection... quality men, who are really interested and willing to put in effort read them. The Ines that don't I couldn't be bothered with. If mine is split into what I look for in regards to fbs and in regards to subs it isn't that long. Both are very different. Should I change it to 'woman not looking for any more men' just to keep those that find reading a challenge happy? Nah I'll keep it thanks
"Im talking about the really really long ones seriously whats the point? You only get to know a person once you get chatting to them.
People might say so much about themselves but could turn out to be something different "
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Ah you've been here a week so you're an expert! Isn't it better to put exactly what I'm interested in rather than say you contact me when I'm not sexually attracted to short men? Then I can spend all day telling men I'm not interested because I'm not attracted to them? Isn't it better to read it than be told it? I don't have time to reply to the number of messages I'd receive if my profile wasn't detailed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Put it this way. If someone said to me try this film or play this game i would read all about it to know if am even going to like it. If i hadnt seen a trailer and decription was " good film " and thats it i would not wanna know tbh |
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Exactly Chris, the same with mine. I can't be bothered or have the time to tell goodness knows how many people every day I'm not interested in them. Or have time or patience to answer the 'but why not?' Messages. Who really wants to be told that someone isn't sexually attracted. If I saw a male profile saying he was looking for slim, toned women I wouldn't contact him. I don't need him to tell me I'm too fat for him, I know that myself. Been here about eight years and think I've pretty much sussed my profile profiles with hardly anything on them make me think boring profile, boring person with nothing much to them x |
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"Exactly Chris, the same with mine. I can't be bothered or have the time to tell goodness knows how many people every day I'm not interested in them. Or have time or patience to answer the 'but why not?' Messages. Who really wants to be told that someone isn't sexually attracted. If I saw a male profile saying he was looking for slim, toned women I wouldn't contact him. I don't need him to tell me I'm too fat for him, I know that myself. Been here about eight years and think I've pretty much sussed my profile profiles with hardly anything on them make me think boring profile, boring person with nothing much to them x"
I agree to a certain extent. I try not to judge a book before its cover, but since this is a site where people come so they can meet people to make them cum I think putting a little but of an effort into letting others know what your after doesn't hurt and taking a few minutes to read someone's profile can only be beneficial to the reader at the end of the day..
People rush to get a msg or wink or response or whatever, then spaz the fuck out when they dont...
Take 2 minutes to state your crap, take 2 minutes to read someone elses. If im gunna fuck someone three ways towards the weekend I wanna know what that persons about way before getting down to the deed. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"We have a reasonably long profile, you could probably read it much quicker than the time it takes to exchange several messages. Anyone who goes against what is asked in our profile will automatically get ignored. If they can't be arsed spending 5 minutes reading then we aren't suitable "
This......^^^^^ |
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This type of guy is why a lot of couples won't except messages from single males anymore
Also found it funny he keeps leaving the site and rejoining
Is that because so many people block him
After reading his posts we just have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In all honesty im one of those guys who will skim a profile.
I will message but if i dont get a reply i dont bother. I just move along to the next. "
That explains your lack of veri's then  |
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We Put at end of profile a code word... saying start message with said "code word".... all messages with out this just delete.... then you know who has took time to read your profile instead of just looking at pics lol x |
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"In my opinion these profiles sound like a sex toy with an instruction manual"
You're missing the point as in some cases they are just that!!! And instruction manual on what they like/dislike
I for one love reading profiles as it gives you an insight to the person behind the pics and some can be a genuine turn on! There are some that just wine and wine on with a massive list of don't's! But some can be insightful and entertaining!
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We Put at end of profile a code word... saying start message with said "code word".... all messages with out this just delete.... then you know who has took time to read your profile instead of just looking at pics lol x"
Same here and yet they still say loved reading your profile
Errr you didn't read shit mate
and then I get why did you delete me.
I so don't have time for those fuckwits |
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We Put at end of profile a code word... saying start message with said "code word".... all messages with out this just delete.... then you know who has took time to read your profile instead of just looking at pics lol x"
Yea and if they've got their wits about them guys can just go straight to the bottom of the profile for the code word and just use it without reading a damn thing so it's pretty pointless |
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I think it shows some effort and tells the reading that there's something more about the person !! I do it to sell myself and start a conversation usually all rather daft !!! It's not a dating site I know but you need conversation and spark !!! If your not arsed then go a club a be human and talk to people !!!
There's a but, most women couples are not bothered about a males profile txt just what they look like and how they come across on first message !!!
I like reading profiles and I like reading verifications too  |
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"In my opinion these profiles sound like a sex toy with an instruction manual
You're missing the point as in some cases they are just that!!! And instruction manual on what they like/dislike
I for one love reading profiles as it gives you an insight to the person behind the pics and some can be a genuine turn on! There are some that just wine and wine on with a massive list of don't's! But some can be insightful and entertaining!
AJ"
Well said !! I agree totally and as for a list of instructions on some profiles each to their own !! As long as their genuine and not got the dreaded princess complexion !! |
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"I think it shows some effort and tells the reading that there's something more about the person !! I do it to sell myself and start a conversation usually all rather daft !!! It's not a dating site I know but you need conversation and spark !!! If your not arsed then go a club a be human and talk to people !!!
There's a but, most women couples are not bothered about a males profile txt just what they look like and how they come across on first message !!!
I like reading profiles and I like reading verifications too "
That's not strictly true. I like reading the text of everyone's profile, especially single males.
It usually lets me know whether I will be comfortable around them.
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"I think it shows some effort and tells the reading that there's something more about the person !! I do it to sell myself and start a conversation usually all rather daft !!! It's not a dating site I know but you need conversation and spark !!! If your not arsed then go a club a be human and talk to people !!!
There's a but, most women couples are not bothered about a males profile txt just what they look like and how they come across on first message !!!
I like reading profiles and I like reading verifications too
That's not strictly true. I like reading the text of everyone's profile, especially single males.
It usually lets me know whether I will be comfortable around them.
Eve"
I know what your saying but I did say most not all, I've had women and couples messaging saying great profile but not for me.
But I agree with the comfortable bit, it's an insight into that person! |
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What is the problem??
I am always unsure why people use CAPITALS..
I would only read a long profile if a pic or wink sparked some interest.Even then if I wasn't interested,I wouldn't read it all,but even the very long ones take less than 5 mins to read.
Have fun.. |
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We have a long one and it works very very well for us The concept is that it filters out the semi-literate and lazy, while also explaining the kind of people we're looking for.
Got to admit that the OP's profile is short and to the point. Ironically, he's looking for someone "like minded" but then goes on to state that he's not going to explain what he's like before meeting... which is going to make it very hard for a prospective meet to figure out whether she's like minded!
Ah well, there's someone for everyone! Wishing you luck for your honesty |
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Op you've been on here a week ,what makes you think your an expert ? Next week im expecting to see a post from you whining about never getting a meet and the week after some half arsed moan that its because your asian. Just remember these words ITS YOUR ATTITUDE that stopped you getting any . |
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Why do people send you messsges with out a single pic... and expect a reply...as if your gonna meet anything that breaths because it's a swing site, if you never had pics , would they have message you ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be annoying when some claim to read all profiles ok but if you add em on whatsapp kik or any other messenger tone changes to send me pic please more pics please. I dont really care how long it takes to get a meet. I like the site anyway allways active forums and have spoken to some really nice people we both have. If a meet happens in the near future it happens. I dont login to fab desperate for a meet etc i enjoy the site. |
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"It can be annoying when some claim to read all profiles ok but if you add em on whatsapp kik or any other messenger tone changes to send me pic please more pics please. I dont really care how long it takes to get a meet. I like the site anyway allways active forums and have spoken to some really nice people we both have. If a meet happens in the near future it happens. I dont login to fab desperate for a meet etc i enjoy the site."
seems right way for myself or as my fella just enjoying the site chats and forums and see what may or may not happen meets wise. |
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I prefer a long profile to one that says,will fill in later or ask.
At least it gives a hint of what they are into and like,plus only takes 2 mins to read
We would pass by a really short one ,that didnt tell us anything
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