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By *aughtyguy1 OP   Man  over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge

Ladies I am wondering what the opinion is of women on bi or bi curious guys... many women won't meet these type of guys but are happy to meet/talk with bi/bi curious women even if their straight..

There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Absolutely nothing wrong with bi guys in my opinion. I love em

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By *aughtyguy1 OP   Man  over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge


"Absolutely nothing wrong with bi guys in my opinion. I love em"

Such a shame your not local to me I must live in the wrong part of the country......

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By *a Fee VerteWoman  over a year ago

Limbo

I look at every man as an individual whether he's straight or bi. And pursue him (or not) dependent on mutual attraction, consideration, intelligence and so on.

I think *some* people see bi guys as higher risk and/or somehow 'tainted' if they've played with guys, though that play can take many forms of course. There may also be an element of homophobia in the attitudes of some. But personally, I weigh up risk in the same way for bi men as I do for straight which is where honesty, communication, responsibility and safe sex comes in.

Regardless, it's not worth getting upset about people who avoid bi guys for whatever reason. particularly if that's due to ignorance or bigotry in some cases. Would you really want to meet that type of person anyway? There are plenty of people who *are* open to meeting bi men so concentrate on finding those

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Have no issue with bi guys at all I think guys or couples where the male is straight seem to think they are going to be pounced upon lol

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By *irty-milfCouple  over a year ago

edinburgh

We are on fab to live out our fantasies and being honest we simply have no bi guy fantasies.

Since there are plenty of straight guys we don't need to play with bi guys.

It is not about fear of infections etc. Its only fantasy.

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By *opsy RogersWoman  over a year ago

London


"Absolutely nothing wrong with bi guys in my opinion. I love em

Such a shame your not local to me I must live in the wrong part of the country......

"

Just because she likes bi men, doesn't mean she likes you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nothing at all , so much easier and lots more fun when you don't have to think about who is playing with who's bits n bobs xx

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By *i winkersCouple  over a year ago

manchester

Like someone said I used to just avoid people who don't meet bi guy's.

They have a close minded view on it and even in 2017 some think bi guys all fuck other men without protection.

I particularly dislike the profiles that state no bi men but tbe female is bi but thats ok.

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By *aughtyguy1 OP   Man  over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge


"I look at every man as an individual whether he's straight or bi. And pursue him (or not) dependent on mutual attraction, consideration, intelligence and so on.

I think *some* people see bi guys as higher risk and/or somehow 'tainted' if they've played with guys, though that play can take many forms of course. There may also be an element of homophobia in the attitudes of some. But personally, I weigh up risk in the same way for bi men as I do for straight which is where honesty, communication, responsibility and safe sex comes in.

Regardless, it's not worth getting upset about people who avoid bi guys for whatever reason. particularly if that's due to ignorance or bigotry in some cases. Would you really want to meet that type of person anyway? There are plenty of people who *are* open to meeting bi men so concentrate on finding those "

Thank you for your message I wouldn't want to meet that type nor would I get upset I was just wondering what it was. I always practice safe sex at all times no exceptions and don't see why if I would play with a bi guy that would make me any cleaner or dirtier so to speak by as you say people's perceptions ah well here's trying to find those women x

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By *aughtyguy1 OP   Man  over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge


"Absolutely nothing wrong with bi guys in my opinion. I love em

Such a shame your not local to me I must live in the wrong part of the country......

Just because she likes bi men, doesn't mean she likes you."

Wasn't assuming she would just stating there doesn't seem to be many willing to that live local to me

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By *aughtyguy1 OP   Man  over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge


"Like someone said I used to just avoid people who don't meet bi guy's.

They have a close minded view on it and even in 2017 some think bi guys all fuck other men without protection.

I particularly dislike the profiles that state no bi men but tbe female is bi but thats ok."

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By *onny MCMan  over a year ago

Crawley


"Ladies I am wondering what the opinion is of women on bi or bi curious guys... many women won't meet these type of guys but are happy to meet/talk with bi/bi curious women even if their straight..

There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was? "

Find the thread on unconventional crushes from yesterday, there's a hilarious comment in that on this subject.

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By *onny MCMan  over a year ago

Crawley


"I look at every man as an individual whether he's straight or bi. And pursue him (or not) dependent on mutual attraction, consideration, intelligence and so on. "

I've posted this on a few threads on this subject. It's all anyone on here is really asking for.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I like some straight men.

I like some bisexual men.

Their sexuality has nothing to do with whether I find them attractive or not.

To me it would be like only being attracted to left handed men and saying no right handed men.

That has nothing to do with what makes a man attractive to me.

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By *opsy RogersWoman  over a year ago

London


"Absolutely nothing wrong with bi guys in my opinion. I love em

Such a shame your not local to me I must live in the wrong part of the country......

Just because she likes bi men, doesn't mean she likes you.

Wasn't assuming she would just stating there doesn't seem to be many willing to that live local to me "

No, that's not what you said.

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By *ainbow_RoadWoman  over a year ago

Brighton

For me a guy being bi is a bit of a positive. In fact it's something I look for, they are way more likely to be open minded in my experience

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a collective, nothing. Individually, loads of possibilities.

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By *arnaclebillMan  over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Ladies I am wondering what the opinion is of women on bi or bi curious guys... many women won't meet these type of guys but are happy to meet/talk with bi/bi curious women even if their straight..

There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was? "

Surely it's just personal choice. Just the same as some people won't meet Asian or black people.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There's something for everyone on here. You just have to find it.

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By *i 69Man  over a year ago

luton


"Absolutely nothing wrong with bi guys in my opinion. I love em

Such a shame your not local to me I must live in the wrong part of the country......

Just because she likes bi men,

doesn't mean she likes you.

"

Lol

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By *opsy RogersWoman  over a year ago

London


"There's something for everyone on here. You just have to find it. "

There certainly is

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By *i 69Man  over a year ago

luton

I really respect everybodys preferences....

If some one mails and says you not my type.....no problem....plenty of different people here with different fantasys and kinks...

Id still be friendly and still would like to be friends...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There is a lot of ignorance when it comes to bisexuality.

Some people believe that bi guys can't keep their hands off the straight guys in a mfmf swap.

Some women say they are put off by sucking a cock that has been used for mm intercourse. As if straight men never go to botty country with their female partners.

Then there is the perception that bi men are effeminate. I mean that just makes me cry and go through all the tissues in my handbag!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There is a lot of ignorance when it comes to bisexuality.

Some people believe that bi guys can't keep their hands off the straight guys in a mfmf swap.

Some women say they are put off by sucking a cock that has been used for mm intercourse. As if straight men never go to botty country with their female partners.

Then there is the perception that bi men are effeminate. I mean that just makes me cry and go through all the tissues in my handbag!"

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield

Might have been touched on in the 10 threads about it this week....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A guy being bi would never stop me meeting him. Why should it? I'm bi! The only thing to stop me meeting a bi guy is because I'm not attracted to him.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley

It is their choice not to want to meet bi men or short men or fat men or old men or whatever men

I will meet bi men as much as I will meet straight men. But I will only meet straight men when with my boyfriend as in the past, the accidental touching happened one too many times for us to think that it was 'accidental'. And that ruined the evening for us

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It is their choice not to want to meet bi men or short men or fat men or old men or whatever men

I will meet bi men as much as I will meet straight men. But I will only meet straight men when with my boyfriend as in the past, the accidental touching happened one too many times for us to think that it was 'accidental'. And that ruined the evening for us"

The accidental touching may have been because the guy was a brain donor not because he was bi. Most of my mfmf encouters are straight and I have no interest in the guy whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Many people, both on FAB and in "real life" dislike homosexuality in men (and to a lesser extent in women)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Oh yeah and another point of ignorance it that some people don't see they difference between gay men and bi men....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Oh yeah and another point of ignorance it that some people don't see they difference between gay men and bi men.... "

Both are "MSM". Many people's issue is with male/male sexual contact, so for most people gay or bi is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hi

I have to say 99% of e mails I get are from " straight" men.

They say the yare straight, and I look at their verifications, they have met loads of couples who dont want to meet bi men.

But behind the scenes these " straight " men are as Bi as the rest of us

They just lie about it to get their leg over

Shame they are cowards and cant be honest

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"Oh yeah and another point of ignorance it that some people don't see they difference between gay men and bi men....

Both are "MSM". Many people's issue is with male/male sexual contact, so for most people gay or bi is irrelevant."

If the man was gay, he wouldn't be involved sexually with a woman anyway.

That tends to be the issue of discussion on here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There's a lot of people out there who don't swing because they think swinging means dropping your keys in a hat at a party. If they knew what it was really about some of them might give it a go.

Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter.

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"There's a lot of people out there who don't swing because they think swinging means dropping your keys in a hat at a party. If they knew what it was really about some of them might give it a go.

Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter."

The key word there is 'logic' . Most sexual attraction and activity isn't based on logic....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of people out there who don't swing because they think swinging means dropping your keys in a hat at a party. If they knew what it was really about some of them might give it a go.

Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter.

The key word there is 'logic' . Most sexual attraction and activity isn't based on logic...."

If they aren't attracted to them that's different to excluding them because of some urban legend that's so ridiculous it's laughable.

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By *opsy RogersWoman  over a year ago

London

It's a bit like when the bloke at the outreach GUM clinic I go to asks me if any of the men I've had sex with, have had sex with men.

Oh how we laugh!

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


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Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter.

The key word there is 'logic' . Most sexual attraction and activity isn't based on logic....

If they aren't attracted to them that's different to excluding them because of some urban legend that's so ridiculous it's laughable."

Sure.

I mean what's logical about being liked being spanked, or liking BBW, or liking blondes or tattoos etc etc etc

It's all in the mind. Some women don't like the idea that a man would find another man sexually appeally and them too. Logically different things. It doesn't have to be prejudicial, sexual attraction is a strange beast.

By urban legend are you talking about STIs??

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"It is their choice not to want to meet bi men or short men or fat men or old men or whatever men

I will meet bi men as much as I will meet straight men. But I will only meet straight men when with my boyfriend as in the past, the accidental touching happened one too many times for us to think that it was 'accidental'. And that ruined the evening for us

The accidental touching may have been because the guy was a brain donor not because he was bi. Most of my mfmf encouters are straight and I have no interest in the guy whatsoever."

For us, it is no longer worth taking the chance; there are plenty of straight men who I can play with in a threesome with my boyfriend

When on my own, I will meet with a bisexual man as then his sexuality makes no difference to me. But I have no desire to see two men having sex, infact, for me, it is a turn-off

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By *weetsundayWoman  over a year ago

ipswich

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By *weetsundayWoman  over a year ago

ipswich

It's a fantasy of mine to be with a pair of bisexual men. Oh yes please! I don't know about any stigmas. I just know how hot the thought makes me lol!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple  over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"It's a bit like when the bloke at the outreach GUM clinic I go to asks me if any of the men I've had sex with, have had sex with men.

Oh how we laugh!"

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By *aughtyguy1 OP   Man  over a year ago

suffolk/essex/cambridge


"It's a fantasy of mine to be with a pair of bisexual men. Oh yes please! I don't know about any stigmas. I just know how hot the thought makes me lol!"

Have privately message you

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By *ink Panther.Woman  over a year ago

Preston


"Like someone said I used to just avoid people who don't meet bi guy's.

They have a close minded view on it and even in 2017 some think bi guys all fuck other men without protection.

I particularly dislike the profiles that state no bi men but tbe female is bi but thats ok."

Well that's a bit of close minded view to quote you, that most certainly is not the reason I have no interest in bi guys!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter.

The key word there is 'logic' . Most sexual attraction and activity isn't based on logic....

If they aren't attracted to them that's different to excluding them because of some urban legend that's so ridiculous it's laughable.

Sure.

I mean what's logical about being liked being spanked, or liking BBW, or liking blondes or tattoos etc etc etc

It's all in the mind. Some women don't like the idea that a man would find another man sexually appeally and them too. Logically different things. It doesn't have to be prejudicial, sexual attraction is a strange beast.

By urban legend are you talking about STIs??"

I've met a lot of people. I've never met one who was so irresistible that I could help myself from touching them. So to the males of these couples who think they are so sexy that I won't be able to help myself 'accidentally' touching you..... get over yourselves! You aren't as good looking as you think you are.

I might be bi but I'm 99% about the girls and only 1% about the guys. So to have someone tell me I'm going to be trying to touch a guy when I've got a naked women in front of me just makes me laugh.

If you are hetrosexual are you also unable to help yourself with the unsolicited touching people of the opposite sex?

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter.

The key word there is 'logic' . Most sexual attraction and activity isn't based on logic....

If they aren't attracted to them that's different to excluding them because of some urban legend that's so ridiculous it's laughable.

Sure.

I mean what's logical about being liked being spanked, or liking BBW, or liking blondes or tattoos etc etc etc

It's all in the mind. Some women don't like the idea that a man would find another man sexually appeally and them too. Logically different things. It doesn't have to be prejudicial, sexual attraction is a strange beast.

By urban legend are you talking about STIs??

I've met a lot of people. I've never met one who was so irresistible that I could help myself from touching them. So to the males of these couples who think they are so sexy that I won't be able to help myself 'accidentally' touching you..... get over yourselves! You aren't as good looking as you think you are.

I might be bi but I'm 99% about the girls and only 1% about the guys. So to have someone tell me I'm going to be trying to touch a guy when I've got a naked women in front of me just makes me laugh.

If you are hetrosexual are you also unable to help yourself with the unsolicited touching people of the opposite sex?"

Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


"Ladies I am wondering what the opinion is of women on bi or bi curious guys... many women won't meet these type of guys but are happy to meet/talk with bi/bi curious women even if their straight..

There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was? "

Some women believe it to not be Alpha or a real man to play with other men. I think that can come from all sorts of things media, culture, history upbringing, TV, films etc.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No problem meeting bi or bi curious guys. I actually get excited about meeting them and hearing what they like and what turns them on .. i.e sucking cock.

Cant help it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Sure everyone has different tastes and if it isn't for you it isn't for you. But some of the reasons that people give for specifically excluding bi men defy logic.

Personally I'm not complaining. There are so many couples who have bi male fantasies that the few who exclude us really don't matter.

The key word there is 'logic' . Most sexual attraction and activity isn't based on logic....

If they aren't attracted to them that's different to excluding them because of some urban legend that's so ridiculous it's laughable.

Sure.

I mean what's logical about being liked being spanked, or liking BBW, or liking blondes or tattoos etc etc etc

It's all in the mind. Some women don't like the idea that a man would find another man sexually appeally and them too. Logically different things. It doesn't have to be prejudicial, sexual attraction is a strange beast.

By urban legend are you talking about STIs??

I've met a lot of people. I've never met one who was so irresistible that I could help myself from touching them. So to the males of these couples who think they are so sexy that I won't be able to help myself 'accidentally' touching you..... get over yourselves! You aren't as good looking as you think you are.

I might be bi but I'm 99% about the girls and only 1% about the guys. So to have someone tell me I'm going to be trying to touch a guy when I've got a naked women in front of me just makes me laugh.

If you are hetrosexual are you also unable to help yourself with the unsolicited touching people of the opposite sex?

Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice."

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nothing is wrong with them, they simply aren't for everyone

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?"

No, you can't. But this topic has been done to death. There are hundreds of answers and counter answers on those threads.

As with most things in swinging, I like people to make their own choices, respect everyone and respect others choices.

Obviously you are free to continue the discussion on your thread too.

Have fun.

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By *andi_shopWoman  over a year ago

rotherham

Bi or straight I don't care as long as they are hot

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?

No, you can't. But this topic has been done to death. There are hundreds of answers and counter answers on those threads.

As with most things in swinging, I like people to make their own choices, respect everyone and respect others choices.

Obviously you are free to continue the discussion on your thread too.

Have fun."

Thank you for this permission. You are very gracious.

Since you cannot tell if someone is bi just by looking at them but you can tell if you are attracted to someone to just by looking at them. So to compare a bi man to a BBW etc isn't correct.

With most bi men you probably wouldn't know they're bi unless they told you. Which is probably why so many of them hide their sexual preference on fab to avoid unnecessary predjudice.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nothing wrong with you at all just preference and hubby won't play in there presents knowingly as totally straight

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


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Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?

No, you can't. But this topic has been done to death. There are hundreds of answers and counter answers on those threads.

As with most things in swinging, I like people to make their own choices, respect everyone and respect others choices.

Obviously you are free to continue the discussion on your thread too.

Have fun.

Thank you for this permission. You are very gracious.

Since you cannot tell if someone is bi just by looking at them but you can tell if you are attracted to someone to just by looking at them. So to compare a bi man to a BBW etc isn't correct.

With most bi men you probably wouldn't know they're bi unless they told you. Which is probably why so many of them hide their sexual preference on fab to avoid unnecessary predjudice.

"

Yeah the looks thing isn't right it's more the idea. A lot of people wouldn't know Marlon Brando was bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with you at all just preference and hubby won't play in there presents knowingly as totally straight "

I rest my case

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?

No, you can't. But this topic has been done to death. There are hundreds of answers and counter answers on those threads.

As with most things in swinging, I like people to make their own choices, respect everyone and respect others choices.

Obviously you are free to continue the discussion on your thread too.

Have fun.

Thank you for this permission. You are very gracious.

Since you cannot tell if someone is bi just by looking at them but you can tell if you are attracted to someone to just by looking at them. So to compare a bi man to a BBW etc isn't correct.

With most bi men you probably wouldn't know they're bi unless they told you. Which is probably why so many of them hide their sexual preference on fab to avoid unnecessary predjudice.

"

Take it in annoffended way if you choose. All I'm saying is this question has been discussed hundreds of times with the same types of answers.

Playing the 'prejudice' card might seem like a quick win, but it's actually counter productive. I know lots of people who won't knoingly play with bi men and they are far from prejudiced.

Basically you want people to accept your sexual preferences and they do so. But you don't want to accept theirs.

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By *nsert user name hereMan  over a year ago

Manchester


"

Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?

No, you can't. But this topic has been done to death. There are hundreds of answers and counter answers on those threads.

As with most things in swinging, I like people to make their own choices, respect everyone and respect others choices.

Obviously you are free to continue the discussion on your thread too.

Have fun.

Thank you for this permission. You are very gracious.

Since you cannot tell if someone is bi just by looking at them but you can tell if you are attracted to someone to just by looking at them. So to compare a bi man to a BBW etc isn't correct.

With most bi men you probably wouldn't know they're bi unless they told you. Which is probably why so many of them hide their sexual preference on fab to avoid unnecessary predjudice.

Take it in annoffended way if you choose. All I'm saying is this question has been discussed hundreds of times with the same types of answers.

Playing the 'prejudice' card might seem like a quick win, but it's actually counter productive. I know lots of people who won't knoingly play with bi men and they are far from prejudiced.

Basically you want people to accept your sexual preferences and they do so. But you don't want to accept theirs."

End of the day they choose not to, nobody tells u who to meet so why do you feel the need to with others?

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London

Adore bi guys myself.

Those small minded folk who say they only play with straight chaps are kidding themselves of they think they're all straight

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Ok, but I never mentioned the bi guy mauling the straight guy.

I'm trying to get across it isn't necesarily down to logic or prejudice.

Can you see if someone is bi just by looking at them?

No, you can't. But this topic has been done to death. There are hundreds of answers and counter answers on those threads.

As with most things in swinging, I like people to make their own choices, respect everyone and respect others choices.

Obviously you are free to continue the discussion on your thread too.

Have fun.

Thank you for this permission. You are very gracious.

Since you cannot tell if someone is bi just by looking at them but you can tell if you are attracted to someone to just by looking at them. So to compare a bi man to a BBW etc isn't correct.

With most bi men you probably wouldn't know they're bi unless they told you. Which is probably why so many of them hide their sexual preference on fab to avoid unnecessary predjudice.

Take it in annoffended way if you choose. All I'm saying is this question has been discussed hundreds of times with the same types of answers.

Playing the 'prejudice' card might seem like a quick win, but it's actually counter productive. I know lots of people who won't knoingly play with bi men and they are far from prejudiced.

Basically you want people to accept your sexual preferences and they do so. But you don't want to accept theirs."

Actually I said I accept other peoples preferences.

So why are you reading a thread thats been discussed to death? Why do have a problem with me partaking in the discussion? How many of the threads on the forum are unique?

So to summarise. Everyone is entitled to their preference. To say one person is like this because someone else who fell under the same category did it is pretty much the definition of predjudice.

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

With most bi men you probably wouldn't know they're bi unless they told you. Which is probably why so many of them hide their sexual preference on fab to avoid unnecessary predjudice.

Take it in annoffended way if you choose. All I'm saying is this question has been discussed hundreds of times with the same types of answers.

Playing the 'prejudice' card might seem like a quick win, but it's actually counter productive. I know lots of people who won't knoingly play with bi men and they are far from prejudiced.

Basically you want people to accept your sexual preferences and they do so. But you don't want to accept theirs.

Actually I said I accept other peoples preferences.

So why are you reading a thread thats been discussed to death? Why do have a problem with me partaking in the discussion? How many of the threads on the forum are unique?

So to summarise. Everyone is entitled to their preference. To say one person is like this because someone else who fell under the same category did it is pretty much the definition of predjudice."

I didn't clump people together by their actions. I just said the knowledge of what they like might be off-putting to some women. That's not prejudicual.

I think you are referring to another poster who mentioned her husband being accidentally touched by a bi man in an mmf. I can't answer for them. Remember all couples don't think alike or have the same experiences.

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By *ilk_TreMan  over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Hi

I have to say 99% of e mails I get are from " straight" men.

They say the yare straight, and I look at their verifications, they have met loads of couples who dont want to meet bi men.

But behind the scenes these " straight " men are as Bi as the rest of us

They just lie about it to get their leg over

Shame they are cowards and cant be honest "

Who are YOU to decide when somebody should come out?

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley

Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hi

I have to say 99% of e mails I get are from " straight" men.

They say the yare straight, and I look at their verifications, they have met loads of couples who dont want to meet bi men.

But behind the scenes these " straight " men are as Bi as the rest of us

They just lie about it to get their leg over

Shame they are cowards and cant be honest

Who are YOU to decide when somebody should come out? "

Don't you love that we are so often told to be honest and open about our sexuality by people who keep the fact that they're swingers a secret. Ironic or what?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality"

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed. "

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I would assume that people on a swingers site that meet strangers for sex are open to most things.

So I assume that everyone is Bi or at least Bi Curious.

I identify with being straight but I have done "sexual acts " with other women.

When I'm in the moment and its horny- why put a label on it?

Why does the stranger I'm fucking need to know my sexual history?

I dont care about theirs!

I have safe sex - and I hope that when I meet someone they're into me.

I dont care what gender they have fucked in the past.

It depends what you want from an internet swinging site ..

I would hope that most of us can be honest and open minded - but the world isn't like that - just use your spidey senses

X

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By *otgirl32Woman  over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"Ladies I am wondering what the opinion is of women on bi or bi curious guys... many women won't meet these type of guys but are happy to meet/talk with bi/bi curious women even if their straight..

There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was? "

LOVE bi men

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By *egs11ABCWoman  over a year ago

Aberdeen

My profile says that but I'm afraid for.me.it's very personal reasons. When u find out ur husband is having an affair with a young guy it scars u somewhat especially as i was in hospital giving birth to his daughter at the time!!

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality"

A man who is physically sick if another man touches him needs a good therapist I think.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

A man who is physically sick if another man touches him needs a good therapist I think. "

That is just your opinion. Straight men do not want to be touched in a sexual sense by other men. Those who do not mind, aren't straight

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better"

I think everyone is on a bi scale somewhere and I am not a gay man having a fantasy. I rarely play with other women at clubs as often I find bi women very pushy. My bi man doesn't play too often with men and neither of us fancy every other man or woman we meet. I agree with the getting naked thing though, I don't get naked in clubs as I don't want strange random men or women touching or seeing me

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

I think everyone is on a bi scale somewhere and I am not a gay man having a fantasy. I rarely play with other women at clubs as often I find bi women very pushy. My bi man doesn't play too often with men and neither of us fancy every other man or woman we meet. I agree with the getting naked thing though, I don't get naked in clubs as I don't want strange random men or women touching or seeing me"

I think you are wrong. There isn't any sliding scale for straight people. Bisexual people may or may not be on some sliding scale. I don't know about that

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

I think everyone is on a bi scale somewhere and I am not a gay man having a fantasy. I rarely play with other women at clubs as often I find bi women very pushy. My bi man doesn't play too often with men and neither of us fancy every other man or woman we meet. I agree with the getting naked thing though, I don't get naked in clubs as I don't want strange random men or women touching or seeing me

I think you are wrong. There isn't any sliding scale for straight people. Bisexual people may or may not be on some sliding scale. I don't know about that"

There is a Kinsey scale but you can be a 1 which means exclusively heterosexual which I would put myself in that category.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

I think everyone is on a bi scale somewhere and I am not a gay man having a fantasy. I rarely play with other women at clubs as often I find bi women very pushy. My bi man doesn't play too often with men and neither of us fancy every other man or woman we meet. I agree with the getting naked thing though, I don't get naked in clubs as I don't want strange random men or women touching or seeing me

I think you are wrong. There isn't any sliding scale for straight people. Bisexual people may or may not be on some sliding scale. I don't know about that There is a Kinsey scale but you can be a 1 which means exclusively heterosexual which I would put myself in that category."

I think that the 'sliding scale' mentioned here is not the Kinsey Scale which states that people are either heterosexual, homosexual or somewhere in between

On FabS threads it is usually meant that *nobody* is straight; everyone is bisexual to some degree or another. And that is absolute nonsense

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better"

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

I think everyone is on a bi scale somewhere and I am not a gay man having a fantasy. I rarely play with other women at clubs as often I find bi women very pushy. My bi man doesn't play too often with men and neither of us fancy every other man or woman we meet. I agree with the getting naked thing though, I don't get naked in clubs as I don't want strange random men or women touching or seeing me

I think you are wrong. There isn't any sliding scale for straight people. Bisexual people may or may not be on some sliding scale. I don't know about that There is a Kinsey scale but you can be a 1 which means exclusively heterosexual which I would put myself in that category.

I think that the 'sliding scale' mentioned here is not the Kinsey Scale which states that people are either heterosexual, homosexual or somewhere in between

On FabS threads it is usually meant that *nobody* is straight; everyone is bisexual to some degree or another. And that is absolute nonsense"

oh the fantasy fab scale

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By *ngeluk69Woman  over a year ago

Near enough

I like men... I don't give a flying fuck if they are straight, bi, gay or whatever

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't. "

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

I think everyone is on a bi scale somewhere and I am not a gay man having a fantasy. I rarely play with other women at clubs as often I find bi women very pushy. My bi man doesn't play too often with men and neither of us fancy every other man or woman we meet. I agree with the getting naked thing though, I don't get naked in clubs as I don't want strange random men or women touching or seeing me

I think you are wrong. There isn't any sliding scale for straight people. Bisexual people may or may not be on some sliding scale. I don't know about that There is a Kinsey scale but you can be a 1 which means exclusively heterosexual which I would put myself in that category.

I think that the 'sliding scale' mentioned here is not the Kinsey Scale which states that people are either heterosexual, homosexual or somewhere in between

On FabS threads it is usually meant that *nobody* is straight; everyone is bisexual to some degree or another. And that is absolute nonsense oh the fantasy fab scale "

Yep; the FabS 'straight' man

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By *llNatural36FWoman  over a year ago

Denbighshire

Just personal preference for me, I'm here to satisfy my needs and fantasies and that doesn't mean I'm narrow minded or under any illusion of I might catch this that or the other. I just be honest from the start and I wish everybody luck

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?"

I am not comfortable around straight men in a sexual setting .... bi men all the way

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?"

It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting? It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think. "

I am sure you are correct about the 1-6. But whatever the scale, on FabS it is misrepresented as somehow proving that *nobody* in the world is 100% heterosexual and that *everyone* is bisexual to some extent

That is just wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting? It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think.

I am sure you are correct about the 1-6. But whatever the scale, on FabS it is misrepresented as somehow proving that *nobody* in the world is 100% heterosexual and that *everyone* is bisexual to some extent

That is just wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men"

Wasn't trying to be too pedantic just thought you would get pulled on it quickly. Oh I agree completely and it is false hope.

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting? It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think.

I am sure you are correct about the 1-6. But whatever the scale, on FabS it is misrepresented as somehow proving that *nobody* in the world is 100% heterosexual and that *everyone* is bisexual to some extent

That is just wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men"

Or women?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?"

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting? It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think.

I am sure you are correct about the 1-6. But whatever the scale, on FabS it is misrepresented as somehow proving that *nobody* in the world is 100% heterosexual and that *everyone* is bisexual to some extent

That is just wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

Or women?"

That is possible too, however, I have not noticed any bisexual or lesbian women using that argument

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The usual meltdown from the usual suspects, unable to cope with the reality of life outside their echo chambers / safe spaces.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting? It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think.

I am sure you are correct about the 1-6. But whatever the scale, on FabS it is misrepresented as somehow proving that *nobody* in the world is 100% heterosexual and that *everyone* is bisexual to some extent

That is just wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

Or women?

That is possible too, however, I have not noticed any bisexual or lesbian women using that argument"

Maybe they don't need to. How many profiles have you seen excluding bisexual women?

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting? It's actually 1-6 so even the Kinsey scale isn't as broad as some think.

I am sure you are correct about the 1-6. But whatever the scale, on FabS it is misrepresented as somehow proving that *nobody* in the world is 100% heterosexual and that *everyone* is bisexual to some extent

That is just wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

Or women?

That is possible too, however, I have not noticed any bisexual or lesbian women using that argument"

Because straight women dont have a complex about bi women? There are pushy people everywhere, bi or straight

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse."

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought"

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Has anyone noticed how many bisexual women there are on fab compared to how many bisexual men there are? Is our society a society that sees sex between two women as erotic and sex between men as disgusting? If it were the other way around I bet the ratio of bisexual women to bisexual men would swap with it.

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By *op gooserMan  over a year ago

chester


"Has anyone noticed how many bisexual women there are on fab compared to how many bisexual men there are? Is our society a society that sees sex between two women as erotic and sex between men as disgusting? If it were the other way around I bet the ratio of bisexual women to bisexual men would swap with it.

"

Well a lot of women don't realise they are bisexual till their BF/ Husband suggest they try swinging

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

"

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

"

But the point is, it isn't an argument and it can't be sensible or ridiculous. It's someones personal feeling about what excites them sexually. Trying to convince someone to be not turned off by something doesn't make sense.

Many women have posted on these threads saying the thought of a guy being involved with another man turns them off that guy. Others love the idea. Both are equally valid. They are sexual emotions. There isn't a right and a wrong.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Has anyone noticed how many bisexual women there are on fab compared to how many bisexual men there are? Is our society a society that sees sex between two women as erotic and sex between men as disgusting? If it were the other way around I bet the ratio of bisexual women to bisexual men would swap with it.

"

I agree with you on this one

The reason for this could be something to do with, "eeeewwww, bum sex". Whether that is true or not, that is the general perception of bisexual men

Generally, the most bisexual sexual act between two women, is oral sex. Generally, in my limited experience, it stops at caressing and kissing, which is considered "not too bad"

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By *inky-MinxWoman  over a year ago

Grantham


"There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was? "

I think a lot of bi guys assume this is the case because they aren't getting meets?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right"

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple  over a year ago

Bristol

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan  over a year ago

salisbury

I'm bi, but I'm also a bit of a cunt.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple  over a year ago

Bristol

Nothing wrong with bi guys, had few ask if I'm bi at clubs and all were very polite when I said nope. Wiggles dosnt care if you are hi or straight.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

"

I am not defending her as nobody needs to be defended. If that is what she thinks then that is her right. Like said earlier by another poster, sexual preferences do not need to be rational nor need to be explained

I wouldn't call the two points (1 and 6) as 'extremes'. These are simply denoting 100% heterosexuality and 100% homosexuality (or 100% homosexuality and 100% heterosexuality). And yes, it must be a continuum for the people in-between the two points; I don't think bisexual people are only 2, 3, 4 and 5; there must be 2.1, 2.11, 2.115, etc too. I think I am a 3.5

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


" I'm bi, but I'm also a bit of a cunt. "

Where on the 1-6 kuntsey scale are you?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Has anyone noticed how many bisexual women there are on fab compared to how many bisexual men there are? Is our society a society that sees sex between two women as erotic and sex between men as disgusting? If it were the other way around I bet the ratio of bisexual women to bisexual men would swap with it.

I agree with you on this one

The reason for this could be something to do with, "eeeewwww, bum sex". Whether that is true or not, that is the general perception of bisexual men

Generally, the most bisexual sexual act between two women, is oral sex. Generally, in my limited experience, it stops at caressing and kissing, which is considered "not too bad""

Strange one of the biggest complaints about bi nights from women who go there to see bi action is that there's not much anal. Amazing how reality disagrees with perception.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Shit,wished I still lived near Ipswich x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

But the point is, it isn't an argument and it can't be sensible or ridiculous. It's someones personal feeling about what excites them sexually. Trying to convince someone to be not turned off by something doesn't make sense.

Many women have posted on these threads saying the thought of a guy being involved with another man turns them off that guy. Others love the idea. Both are equally valid. They are sexual emotions. There isn't a right and a wrong."

totally this

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men"

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking? "

Yes, it is your wishful thinking

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan  over a year ago

salisbury


" I'm bi, but I'm also a bit of a cunt.

Where on the 1-6 kuntsey scale are you?"

A good 4 - 5.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

This argument is odd!

Unless youre being prejudiced why does anyone care what gender anyone has fucked in the past?

Unless you want a relationship- and clearly that's not what this site is about

Im actually a little sad that some people here are so homophobic

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By *inky-MinxWoman  over a year ago

Grantham


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking? "

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

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By *ilk_TreMan  over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

Yes, it is your wishful thinking"

I literally LOLed! Thanks for the comedic relief!

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

Yes, it is your wishful thinking"

Ok then. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

I am not defending her as nobody needs to be defended. If that is what she thinks then that is her right. Like said earlier by another poster, sexual preferences do not need to be rational nor need to be explained

I wouldn't call the two points (1 and 6) as 'extremes'. These are simply denoting 100% heterosexuality and 100% homosexuality (or 100% homosexuality and 100% heterosexuality). And yes, it must be a continuum for the people in-between the two points; I don't think bisexual people are only 2, 3, 4 and 5; there must be 2.1, 2.11, 2.115, etc too. I think I am a 3.5 "

I didn't state that you were defending her. I stated you were defending her ignorance. She wasn't expressing her preference. She was dogmatically regurgitating urban legend as if it were fact. My experience of male bisexuality is that it's mainly oral. This is based on what I see at a bisexual evening once a month.

As for being on that scale there is at least one accademic study which suggests that most people would be bisexual if not for repression and other factors such as lack of sexual opportunity. Freud believed in innate bisexuality so it's not a totally unheard of viewpoint.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan  over a year ago

salisbury


"This argument is odd!

Unless youre being prejudiced why does anyone care what gender anyone has fucked in the past?

Unless you want a relationship- and clearly that's not what this site is about

Im actually a little sad that some people here are so homophobic "

You'll get used to it. After a while it just washes over you like a stranger's fart on a tube train.

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay "

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

nothing wrong at all - i have a gay son - but it does nothing for me sexually and have no desire to be with a guy that is bi - ive always felt that way

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

I am not defending her as nobody needs to be defended. If that is what she thinks then that is her right. Like said earlier by another poster, sexual preferences do not need to be rational nor need to be explained

I wouldn't call the two points (1 and 6) as 'extremes'. These are simply denoting 100% heterosexuality and 100% homosexuality (or 100% homosexuality and 100% heterosexuality). And yes, it must be a continuum for the people in-between the two points; I don't think bisexual people are only 2, 3, 4 and 5; there must be 2.1, 2.11, 2.115, etc too. I think I am a 3.5

I didn't state that you were defending her. I stated you were defending her ignorance. She wasn't expressing her preference. She was dogmatically regurgitating urban legend as if it were fact. My experience of male bisexuality is that it's mainly oral. This is based on what I see at a bisexual evening once a month.

As for being on that scale there is at least one accademic study which suggests that most people would be bisexual if not for repression and other factors such as lack of sexual opportunity. Freud believed in innate bisexuality so it's not a totally unheard of viewpoint."

I haven't seen much male bisexual 'action' but when I have, it too was oral sex. Perceptions are generally not based on reality; these are usually extrapolated by she said this and he said that

Freud believed in lots of things; sometimes a cigar is just a cigar; a Cancer-promoting device

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it. "

How do you know this if they don't act on it?

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By *inky-MinxWoman  over a year ago

Grantham


"I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it. "

I suppose by definition the spread would be lots more people not at the ends

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

How do you know this if they don't act on it?"

Social conditioning keeps people from doing so, either way.

There are numerous studies on innate bisexuality. On homophobes too

http://m.huffpost.com/uk/entry/7816390

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

How do you know this if they don't act on it?

Social conditioning keeps people from doing so, either way.

There are numerous studies on innate bisexuality. On homophobes too

http://m.huffpost.com/uk/entry/7816390"

Hufffpost! Yes, very 'scientific'

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

I suppose by definition the spread would be lots more people not at the ends "

3.5s must be the majority

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?"

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

How do you know this if they don't act on it?

Social conditioning keeps people from doing so, either way.

There are numerous studies on innate bisexuality. On homophobes too

http://m.huffpost.com/uk/entry/7816390

Hufffpost! Yes, very 'scientific' "

Can only post news links here, hence the link reporting on three different university studies. Though not Sydney University. Would that be acceptable?

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Has anyone noticed how many bisexual women there are on fab compared to how many bisexual men there are? Is our society a society that sees sex between two women as erotic and sex between men as disgusting? If it were the other way around I bet the ratio of bisexual women to bisexual men would swap with it.

I agree with you on this one

The reason for this could be something to do with, "eeeewwww, bum sex". Whether that is true or not, that is the general perception of bisexual men

Generally, the most bisexual sexual act between two women, is oral sex. Generally, in my limited experience, it stops at caressing and kissing, which is considered "not too bad"

Strange one of the biggest complaints about bi nights from women who go there to see bi action is that there's not much anal. Amazing how reality

disagrees with perception."

We have been to loads and hardly ever see any at mainstream clubs bi nights ....that is the reality

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking? "

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

How do you know this if they don't act on it?

Social conditioning keeps people from doing so, either way.

There are numerous studies on innate bisexuality. On homophobes too

http://m.huffpost.com/uk/entry/7816390

Hufffpost! Yes, very 'scientific'

Can only post news links here, hence the link reporting on three different university studies. Though not Sydney University. Would that be acceptable? "

No, it would not be as these 'studies' are generally biased and out to prove or disprove something. These are simply an extrapolation of a small sample and are based on what those people say and they could be lying or exaggerating

Better approach is to ask someone about their sexuality and believe what they tell you. They know their sexuality better than you know their sexuality

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

I am not defending her as nobody needs to be defended. If that is what she thinks then that is her right. Like said earlier by another poster, sexual preferences do not need to be rational nor need to be explained

I wouldn't call the two points (1 and 6) as 'extremes'. These are simply denoting 100% heterosexuality and 100% homosexuality (or 100% homosexuality and 100% heterosexuality). And yes, it must be a continuum for the people in-between the two points; I don't think bisexual people are only 2, 3, 4 and 5; there must be 2.1, 2.11, 2.115, etc too. I think I am a 3.5

I didn't state that you were defending her. I stated you were defending her ignorance. She wasn't expressing her preference. She was dogmatically regurgitating urban legend as if it were fact. My experience of male bisexuality is that it's mainly oral. This is based on what I see at a bisexual evening once a month.

As for being on that scale there is at least one accademic study which suggests that most people would be bisexual if not for repression and other factors such as lack of sexual opportunity. Freud believed in innate bisexuality so it's not a totally unheard of viewpoint.

I haven't seen much male bisexual 'action' but when I have, it too was oral sex. Perceptions are generally not based on reality; these are usually extrapolated by she said this and he said that

Freud believed in lots of things; sometimes a cigar is just a cigar; a Cancer-promoting device "

It is bi oral only because it is still not acceptable in clubs, especially where women like to be the focus of attention, that men can play. Many women and couples are outraged when they see anal sex between men and so it is not acceptable at a club. It happens, but not in these mainstream clubs. We are very picky which bi events we go to, and we go to ones where male bi play is not limited to oral but can also include anal

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true"

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us "

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true"

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I do, I think sexuality is on a continuum and some of us are at the very ends of straight or gay

I'd say very very few people are truly one end or the other. Most just don't act on it.

How do you know this if they don't act on it?

Social conditioning keeps people from doing so, either way.

There are numerous studies on innate bisexuality. On homophobes too

http://m.huffpost.com/uk/entry/7816390

Hufffpost! Yes, very 'scientific'

Can only post news links here, hence the link reporting on three different university studies. Though not Sydney University. Would that be acceptable?

No, it would not be as these 'studies' are generally biased and out to prove or disprove something. These are simply an extrapolation of a small sample and are based on what those people say and they could be lying or exaggerating

Better approach is to ask someone about their sexuality and believe what they tell you. They know their sexuality better than you know their sexuality"

The Sydney ref was a joke. I should have added a winky smile I guess.

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?"

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

I am not defending her as nobody needs to be defended. If that is what she thinks then that is her right. Like said earlier by another poster, sexual preferences do not need to be rational nor need to be explained

I wouldn't call the two points (1 and 6) as 'extremes'. These are simply denoting 100% heterosexuality and 100% homosexuality (or 100% homosexuality and 100% heterosexuality). And yes, it must be a continuum for the people in-between the two points; I don't think bisexual people are only 2, 3, 4 and 5; there must be 2.1, 2.11, 2.115, etc too. I think I am a 3.5

I didn't state that you were defending her. I stated you were defending her ignorance. She wasn't expressing her preference. She was dogmatically regurgitating urban legend as if it were fact. My experience of male bisexuality is that it's mainly oral. This is based on what I see at a bisexual evening once a month.

As for being on that scale there is at least one accademic study which suggests that most people would be bisexual if not for repression and other factors such as lack of sexual opportunity. Freud believed in innate bisexuality so it's not a totally unheard of viewpoint.

I haven't seen much male bisexual 'action' but when I have, it too was oral sex. Perceptions are generally not based on reality; these are usually extrapolated by she said this and he said that

Freud believed in lots of things; sometimes a cigar is just a cigar; a Cancer-promoting device

It is bi oral only because it is still not acceptable in clubs, especially where women like to be the focus of attention, that men can play. Many women and couples are outraged when they see anal sex between men and so it is not acceptable at a club. It happens, but not in these mainstream clubs. We are very picky which bi events we go to, and we go to ones where male bi play is not limited to oral but can also include anal "

I think (infact, I know) that most mainstream clubs do not permit male bisexual acts on their premises. What I saw was at private parties. But as I stated, male bisexual sex is a turn-off for me so I don't go to places where this happens and therefore accept what you say. But then you are stating that the perception is correct. And as I said earlier, that *may be* the reason for the negativity from the majority of heterosexual people

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again"

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Bisexual men, by definition are attracted to other men too. Some straight men do not want to be naked and in close proximity with them, as in a threesome. It is not 'prejudice'; it is their preference and their right and they exercise that right

Some straight men feel physically sick if another man touches them; more so if it is known that he is bisexual. It doesn't matter if "males of these couples" are sexy or not to other men

Frankly, I don't think that having a sense of 'entitlement' which is displayed on these threads by some, helps them win any arguments

Granted that we do not know in a club whether a man is bisexual or not. But we do know from their profiles here. In a club we state that we are only looking for straight men and hope that he isn't lying about his sexuality

What I am going to tell you now is going to horrify you. My girlfriend and I go to clubs and swing and I DON'T wear a sign around my neck confessing that I am bi!!! On top of that we swing with other couples without them ever knowing that I am bi!!! Everyone has fun. It's terrible.

There's a common belief that no one is completely straight and that we're all on a sliding scale. If they're right you're pretty screwed.

I am not 'horrified'. I would like to think that when we meet a man in a club and after the usual conversation indicate that we are only interested in straight men, he would, if bisexual, have the decency to decline our invitation to join us

These sliding scales are just gay men's fantasies. You believe in whatever you want to believe in if it makes you feel better

If someone asks me if I'm bi I am honest and tell them. But I don't introduce myself and say hi I'm bob I'm bi just the same way as I don't tell them how many people I've had sex with before I met them.

The scale I am refering to is the Kinsey scale which was developed after one of the largest sex surveys ever done. I don't need to feel better about anything. I am comfortable with who I am even if you aren't.

As I explained earlier, the Kinsey Sacle is 1 heterosexual, 10 homosexual and then some people are somewhere in between. It does not state that nobody is 100% straight and that everyone is bisexual. That is where the Gay man's fantasy takes over in thinking that everyone is bisexual to some degree or another

I am comfortable with who you are. Are you comfortable with the fact that some straight men do not want bisexual men in a sexual setting?

Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats - guess who?

I've stated it over and over are you just ignoring that? I don't have time to spend with all the people who love that I am bi. Why would I waste it on someone I disgust?

I am not propsing that I force myself on straight men. The topic of this thread is why do some people say they won't meet bi men. My answer is some people are like you and it's just not your thing. But others are anti bi because they believe ridiculous things based on the actions of a few. I go to bi night every month and have a good laugh at those dogmatic statements as they are disproven en masse.

Correct. Men and women are either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. Bisexual people do not 'disgust' me. Being bisexual myself, I like meeting bisexual men and women, when on my own

What you have failed to accept is that some of what you think are 'ridiculous things' are not ridiculous at all. Some straight men do not want the company of a bisexual man in a sexual environment and in close proximity. Some don't want it at all; some decide that they do not want it after an unpleasant experience

That is not anti-bi just as a previous poster who will not meet straight men, is not anti-straight; that is just her preference and her right; no justification from her is sought

I have said on numerous occasions that I accept and respect that some straight men don't want to be involved with a guy who has had experiences with other men.

But take for example a woman who says I don't want to suck a cock that's been in another guys bum. Lets examine that. Well firstly a lot of bi guys won't do anal. What about men who put their penises in womens bums? Is there a huge difference? It's a ridiculous argument yet that's one of the reasons I have been given.

It is not the reason why, as a couple, we won't meet bisexual men. I don't have the reason you have cited. The woman stating that reason is probably the best person to explain why she feels that way

But I would hazard a guess and think that bisexual men are a turn-off for her. Whilst I meet bisexual men when on my own and when he is by himself, I do not desire to watch two bisexual men have any kind of sex with each other

We all have different preferences and all those preferences are valid in their own right

You can defend her ignorance to the death or you can accept that she only believed it because someone else said it. That was just one example in a multitide of examples.

Back to the Kinsey scale. It might only be marked 1-6 but Kinsey himself described it as a continuum. You might be at one extreme or the other but you're still on that scale.

I am not defending her as nobody needs to be defended. If that is what she thinks then that is her right. Like said earlier by another poster, sexual preferences do not need to be rational nor need to be explained

I wouldn't call the two points (1 and 6) as 'extremes'. These are simply denoting 100% heterosexuality and 100% homosexuality (or 100% homosexuality and 100% heterosexuality). And yes, it must be a continuum for the people in-between the two points; I don't think bisexual people are only 2, 3, 4 and 5; there must be 2.1, 2.11, 2.115, etc too. I think I am a 3.5

I didn't state that you were defending her. I stated you were defending her ignorance. She wasn't expressing her preference. She was dogmatically regurgitating urban legend as if it were fact. My experience of male bisexuality is that it's mainly oral. This is based on what I see at a bisexual evening once a month.

As for being on that scale there is at least one accademic study which suggests that most people would be bisexual if not for repression and other factors such as lack of sexual opportunity. Freud believed in innate bisexuality so it's not a totally unheard of viewpoint.

I haven't seen much male bisexual 'action' but when I have, it too was oral sex. Perceptions are generally not based on reality; these are usually extrapolated by she said this and he said that

Freud believed in lots of things; sometimes a cigar is just a cigar; a Cancer-promoting device

It is bi oral only because it is still not acceptable in clubs, especially where women like to be the focus of attention, that men can play. Many women and couples are outraged when they see anal sex between men and so it is not acceptable at a club. It happens, but not in these mainstream clubs. We are very picky which bi events we go to, and we go to ones where male bi play is not limited to oral but can also include anal

I think (infact, I know) that most mainstream clubs do not permit male bisexual acts on their premises. What I saw was at private parties. But as I stated, male bisexual sex is a turn-off for me so I don't go to places where this happens and therefore accept what you say. But then you are stating that the perception is correct. And as I said earlier, that *may be* the reason for the negativity from the majority of heterosexual people"

So which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Is it the club goers who dont want to see it or the clubs that don't want to allow it ... whose attitude drives it? We avoid these mainstream clubs for this reason. To be honest, nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement"

"just another opinion of yours" sound pretty personal to me. Well, I can't see the difference from someone saying bi male fantasy is that all men have an element of bi ... and the reverse which is straight men fantasy is that not all men have an element of bi. Flipping your own opinion back at you .... how does it sound?

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true"

I am straight and accept there is a spectrum. It scales from 0 to 6, but are you saying you only think it goes from 0.5 to 6?

MrB

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?"

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

I am straight and accept there is a spectrum. It scales from 0 to 6, but are you saying you only think it goes from 0.5 to 6?

MrB"

I didn't say the increments were 0.5, they may be hundredths or thousandths? Seriously though, I think one statement is as ridiculous as the other, but some people find one so much more acceptable without thinking through the implications

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex"

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement

"just another opinion of yours" sound pretty personal to me. Well, I can't see the difference from someone saying bi male fantasy is that all men have an element of bi ... and the reverse which is straight men fantasy is that not all men have an element of bi. Flipping your own opinion back at you .... how does it sound? "

I believe when bisexual men say that they are bisexual; I don't suggest that they are liars and are actually straight

So, what makes you think that straight men are lying when they say that they are straight

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces. "

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement

"just another opinion of yours" sound pretty personal to me. Well, I can't see the difference from someone saying bi male fantasy is that all men have an element of bi ... and the reverse which is straight men fantasy is that not all men have an element of bi. Flipping your own opinion back at you .... how does it sound?

I believe when bisexual men say that they are bisexual; I don't suggest that they are liars and are actually straight

So, what makes you think that straight men are lying when they say that they are straight"

I think sexuality is fluid, changes over a lifetime and due to circumstances of the play

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement

"just another opinion of yours" sound pretty personal to me. Well, I can't see the difference from someone saying bi male fantasy is that all men have an element of bi ... and the reverse which is straight men fantasy is that not all men have an element of bi. Flipping your own opinion back at you .... how does it sound? "

Oh, by the way, straight men do not fantasise about whether other men are straight or not; they have no interest in other men

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense"

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces. "

Now I am confused. Where did anyone suggest that bisexual men are 'lepers'?

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement

"just another opinion of yours" sound pretty personal to me. Well, I can't see the difference from someone saying bi male fantasy is that all men have an element of bi ... and the reverse which is straight men fantasy is that not all men have an element of bi. Flipping your own opinion back at you .... how does it sound?

Oh, by the way, straight men do not fantasise about whether other men are straight or not; they have no interest in other men "

So no straight man fantasies about another straight man fucking his wife/gf

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

I am straight and accept there is a spectrum. It scales from 0 to 6, but are you saying you only think it goes from 0.5 to 6?

MrB

I didn't say the increments were 0.5, they may be hundredths or thousandths? Seriously though, I think one statement is as ridiculous as the other, but some people find one so much more acceptable without thinking through the implications"

I didn't mean the increments. It goes from 0 to 6. Therefore you can be 0 or 6. I.e completely straight or completely homosexual or anywhere inbetween, but either 'extreme' is on the scale.

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Now I am confused. Where did anyone suggest that bisexual men are 'lepers'?"

It is an analogy? If they aren't allowed to indulge in male on male play in mainstream clubs for fear of offending the mainstream straight clientele, how exactly should they be termed? Welcome?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

You have proof of this or is this just another opinion of yours?

Depends .... do you have proof to back up your opinion? Is it just me on this thread that has an opinion, or everyone? I am feeling it is getting personal again

Yes, I do. Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

I don't understand what you mean by 'personal'. I asked a question in response to your unverified statement

"just another opinion of yours" sound pretty personal to me. Well, I can't see the difference from someone saying bi male fantasy is that all men have an element of bi ... and the reverse which is straight men fantasy is that not all men have an element of bi. Flipping your own opinion back at you .... how does it sound?

Oh, by the way, straight men do not fantasise about whether other men are straight or not; they have no interest in other men "

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it .... "

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs"

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

wishful thinking by some gay and bisexual men

You keep repeating this. I think you flatter yourself. Not all gay/ bi men want to fuck every man alive.

I'm a woman and do not believe for one second that anyone is 100% straight or gay. Is that my wishful thinking?

I think it is wishful thinking by some straight men that some men are one hundred percent straight. It's not true

I am straight and accept there is a spectrum. It scales from 0 to 6, but are you saying you only think it goes from 0.5 to 6?

MrB

I didn't say the increments were 0.5, they may be hundredths or thousandths? Seriously though, I think one statement is as ridiculous as the other, but some people find one so much more acceptable without thinking through the implications

I didn't mean the increments. It goes from 0 to 6. Therefore you can be 0 or 6. I.e completely straight or completely homosexual or anywhere inbetween, but either 'extreme' is on the scale."

That is just one measurement scale, one example .... one way of labelling people

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ladies I am wondering what the opinion is of women on bi or bi curious guys... many women won't meet these type of guys but are happy to meet/talk with bi/bi curious women even if their straight..

There seems to be a real stigma surrounding guys of these sexualitys and just wondered why that was? "

My wife likes bi guys but finds bi gals a pain.

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs""

Do you really think most people don't want to see it?

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London

Was about to back out this thread but just saw this


"

Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

"

Are you serious? Most of the men I play with are bisexual. But list themselves here and tell folk when asked that they're straight. Yes it's dishonest but they stay in the closet because of judgment. Because they're catering to their current audience.

Amazing that the mainstream sees us here as sexual deviants or libertines but actually, just as narrow minded as them out there.

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By *unandbuckCouple  over a year ago

Sheffield


"

Oh, by the way, straight men do not fantasise about whether other men are straight or not; they have no interest in other men

So no straight man fantasies about another straight man fucking his wife/gf"

That doesn't automatically infer any bisexuality in either of the men.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs"

Do you really think most people don't want to see it? "

Ask the club owners if most people want to see it. If most want to see it then the clubs would surely want to let more bisexual men have sex with each other on their premises. It will mean more revenue for them

You wrote: "Is it the club goers who dont want to see it or the clubs that don't want to allow it ... whose attitude drives it? "

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs"

Do you really think most people don't want to see it?

Ask the club owners if most people want to see it. If most want to see it then the clubs would surely want to let more bisexual men have sex with each other on their premises. It will mean more revenue for them

You wrote: "Is it the club goers who dont want to see it or the clubs that don't want to allow it ... whose attitude drives it? "

"

So I have asked the question ... be interested to see if it is actually banned at clubs. Not all people go to clubs to be seen though. Most male on male play we have been involved in has been behind closed doors

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Was about to back out this thread but just saw this

Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

Are you serious? Most of the men I play with are bisexual. But list themselves here and tell folk when asked that they're straight. Yes it's dishonest but they stay in the closet because of judgment. Because they're catering to their current audience.

Amazing that the mainstream sees us here as sexual deviants or libertines but actually, just as narrow minded as them out there. "

So, you are suggesting that most bisexual men are liars? But then these are not straight men. You are proving my point

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"

Oh, by the way, straight men do not fantasise about whether other men are straight or not; they have no interest in other men

So no straight man fantasies about another straight man fucking his wife/gf

That doesn't automatically infer any bisexuality in either of the men."

But their fantasy is a hetero one, hence the man is performing a 'straight' sex act

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs"

Do you really think most people don't want to see it?

Ask the club owners if most people want to see it. If most want to see it then the clubs would surely want to let more bisexual men have sex with each other on their premises. It will mean more revenue for them

You wrote: "Is it the club goers who dont want to see it or the clubs that don't want to allow it ... whose attitude drives it? "

So I have asked the question ... be interested to see if it is actually banned at clubs. Not all people go to clubs to be seen though. Most male on male play we have been involved in has been behind closed doors"

But if it is not banned, then what is the point you are making?

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By *awandOrderCouple  over a year ago

SW London


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs"

Do you really think most people don't want to see it?

Ask the club owners if most people want to see it. If most want to see it then the clubs would surely want to let more bisexual men have sex with each other on their premises. It will mean more revenue for them

You wrote: "Is it the club goers who dont want to see it or the clubs that don't want to allow it ... whose attitude drives it? "

So I have asked the question ... be interested to see if it is actually banned at clubs. Not all people go to clubs to be seen though. Most male on male play we have been involved in has been behind closed doors

But if it is not banned, then what is the point you are making?"

I am investigating, not point scoring

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"Was about to back out this thread but just saw this

Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

Are you serious? Most of the men I play with are bisexual. But list themselves here and tell folk when asked that they're straight. Yes it's dishonest but they stay in the closet because of judgment. Because they're catering to their current audience.

Amazing that the mainstream sees us here as sexual deviants or libertines but actually, just as narrow minded as them out there.

So, you are suggesting that most bisexual men are liars? But then these are not straight men. You are proving my point"

I'm suggesting that believing people because they tell you something does not make it so. Not all straight men are 'straight'.

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Was about to back out this thread but just saw this

Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

Are you serious? Most of the men I play with are bisexual. But list themselves here and tell folk when asked that they're straight. Yes it's dishonest but they stay in the closet because of judgment. Because they're catering to their current audience.

Amazing that the mainstream sees us here as sexual deviants or libertines but actually, just as narrow minded as them out there.

So, you are suggesting that most bisexual men are liars? But then these are not straight men. You are proving my point

I'm suggesting that believing people because they tell you something does not make it so. Not all straight men are 'straight'. "

Straight men are straight. Straight men who have sex with other men are not straight. It is quite simple, really

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?

There are places for bisexual men to visit. Not everyone wants to see two men having sex just as not everyone wants to see 'vanilla' heterosexual sex

Bi men are the lepers of the swingers world then? Thank goodness .... as those vanilla sex acts shoved in their faces.

Who said Bi men were lepers?

That statement makes no sense

Because male on male play is banned in mainstream vanilla clubs because certain people don't want to see it ....

It is not some people who do not want ito see it; it is the majority who do not want to see it; just like you stated that "nothing turns me off more than seeing the vanilla sex that goes on in these vanilla clubs"

Do you really think most people don't want to see it?

Ask the club owners if most people want to see it. If most want to see it then the clubs would surely want to let more bisexual men have sex with each other on their premises. It will mean more revenue for them

You wrote: "Is it the club goers who dont want to see it or the clubs that don't want to allow it ... whose attitude drives it? "

So I have asked the question ... be interested to see if it is actually banned at clubs. Not all people go to clubs to be seen though. Most male on male play we have been involved in has been behind closed doors

But if it is not banned, then what is the point you are making?

I am investigating, not point scoring"

I didn't think that anyone on this thread was 'point scoring' neither did anyone, apart from yourself, suggest it

So, what are you investigating?

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By *iSTARessWoman  over a year ago

London


"Was about to back out this thread but just saw this

Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

Are you serious? Most of the men I play with are bisexual. But list themselves here and tell folk when asked that they're straight. Yes it's dishonest but they stay in the closet because of judgment. Because they're catering to their current audience.

Amazing that the mainstream sees us here as sexual deviants or libertines but actually, just as narrow minded as them out there.

So, you are suggesting that most bisexual men are liars? But then these are not straight men. You are proving my point

I'm suggesting that believing people because they tell you something does not make it so. Not all straight men are 'straight'.

Straight men are straight. Straight men who have sex with other men are not straight. It is quite simple, really"

Hang on, you said the way to know someone is straight is to ask them. It's clearly not.

You're making no sense and not listening.

Enjoy the rest of your evening

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By *ed wineMan  over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I didn't know there is something wrong...

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley


"Was about to back out this thread but just saw this

Straight men say that they are straight and I have no reason to suggest that they are not

What is your reason to suggest that they are not?

Are you serious? Most of the men I play with are bisexual. But list themselves here and tell folk when asked that they're straight. Yes it's dishonest but they stay in the closet because of judgment. Because they're catering to their current audience.

Amazing that the mainstream sees us here as sexual deviants or libertines but actually, just as narrow minded as them out there.

So, you are suggesting that most bisexual men are liars? But then these are not straight men. You are proving my point

I'm suggesting that believing people because they tell you something does not make it so. Not all straight men are 'straight'.

Straight men are straight. Straight men who have sex with other men are not straight. It is quite simple, really

Hang on, you said the way to know someone is straight is to ask them. It's clearly not.

You're making no sense and not listening.

Enjoy the rest of your evening "

And you said said that bisexual men lie about their sexuality

I said that straight men don't

You have a nice evening too

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Omg!

Yaaaaaaaaaawn!

I wont ever get back the time I spent reading that drivel

So many bores and homophobes on a site where were all meant to be open minded and having fun!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why are bi men so hung up on wanting to have sex with women that have no sexual interest in them?

Because we are hoplessly attracted to stupid ignorant people?

Actually I wasn't aware that this is an attribite particular to all bi men. Thanks for enlightening us

Enlightened in what way?

I'm merely asking why so many bi men, obviously not all,but judging by the amount of threads here on fab,there are a hell of a lot of bi sexual men bemoaning the fact some women have no interest in them sexually.

So I'm asking why?

Why do they want sex with someone that has no sexual interest in them?

Or is it only bi men allowed a lifestyle choice?"

If you had said 'some bi men' I might have agreed with you. But you didn't you just said 'bi' men.

You have made a dogmatic statement saying that I do something that I don't. You must excuse my need to point out that you are wrong.

There is a misconception that bi men need to have a guy in the equation to enjoy sex. This isn't true. I am bi yet most of my sexual encounters are hetrosexual. I go to bi nights but even at those bi nights most of my fun is one on one with a lady.

Every now and again I have a salad. Am I now a vegetarian? Should I be banned from barbeques?

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By *osieWoman  over a year ago

Wembley

All I can see is hetero-phobia on this thread. Nobody has been disrespectful or rude or called bisexual or gay men liars. In-fact, everyone believes that bisexual and gay men are bisexual and gay because they say so

On the other hand, some people have been very offensive to suggest that those women who are in heterosexual relationships with their partners must be delusional because their boyfriends and husbands are liars as *no* male on this planet can be straight. How on Earth does some stranger know more about my boyfriend than I do; has he been b*gg*ring her behind my back? I'll 'interrogate' him tonight

Just because these women have not in relationships with heterosexual men but with homosexual or bisexual men instead, does not mean that heterosexual men do not exist!

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