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As I've never done this or likely ever to do this myself (playing as a single with a couple), I'm curious what singles like or dislike of the dynamics between a couple.
A recent meet commented how well we got on as a couple and that made his experience much better. He explained some couples have jealously issues.
So I'm intrigued to hear the good and the bad. Over to you  |
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over a year ago
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I've met 2 couples. Both times it was definitely a 3 way thing. I felt no jealousy in the air and all everyone cared about as we all got enough pleasure.
I think a lot of talk and text before the meet gauges that |
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You need to feel totally at ease with the couple so best to meet first if it feels a bit weird on the meet it's a no go . Don't want to cause more friction than there already could be . Most successful are mostly arranged by the man in mmf situations . Don't know about ffm ? |
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"I've only met one couple. Felt like some human sex toy not an equal. Sadly it'seems put me off for life xx
That's what we do but never had any complaints...in fact just the opposite."
But with men or women? |
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Sometimes it feels like Youre there for them not for the enjoyment of everyone.
Sometimes the girl is clearly just going along with it, has no interest in girls other than to give the evil eye whenever they go near the man!
When a couple has good energy between them you feel included in their relationship while Youre with them. Like they both really appreciate you and go out of their way to make sure you know that. It kinda makes you feel a bit special. |
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"You need to feel totally at ease with the couple so best to meet first if it feels a bit weird on the meet it's a no go . Don't want to cause more friction than there already could be . Most successful are mostly arranged by the man in mmf situations . Don't know about ffm ? "
That's intriguing. What tends to happen if the women makes the arrangements then in your experiences ? |
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I have encountered the jealousy issues, but I always made it their problem and not my own. Fortunately it has been rare.
As far as couples go, I really like the dynamic and rarely do I feel anything other than involved and equal. There is also something unique about being invited into a couples intimate space and provided they are solid, that can be a special place to be in.
To be honest threesome fun has been some of the most fun I have had so far. Even more so than the MFFF's I have done when I swung with my female other half in the past.
Perhaps I have been lucky. |
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"As I've never done this or likely ever to do this myself (playing as a single with a couple), I'm curious what singles like or dislike of the dynamics between a couple.
A recent meet commented how well we got on as a couple and that made his experience much better. He explained some couples have jealously issues.
So I'm intrigued to hear the good and the bad. Over to you "
I generally only have sex with couples (as a single) when I'm already good friends with them.
For instance I sometimes sleep with two of my partners and their girlfriends. And occasionally I sleep with two of my friends who are married to each other.
In each case I've known them at least a couple of years and I know that they're good people, they're genuinely into it, and they're not doing anything to please their partners, just themselves. |
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"I've only met one couple. Felt like some human sex toy not an equal. Sadly it'seems put me off for life xx
That's what we do but never had any complaints...in fact just the opposite.
But with men or women?"
Both...but we are their sex toys too...and that's a good thing. |
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I have had good and bad couples meets. The good ones are when they both want to play. The bad one was when she was not keen and it was for his benefit. That one did not get past a social |
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I have done a 3 sum quite a few times and all worked out great .nobody left out and all enjoyed it .I think best to chat to both of them. See if you connect with both so you feel comfortable .I also recommend social first .  |
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"As I've never done this or likely ever to do this myself (playing as a single with a couple), I'm curious what singles like or dislike of the dynamics between a couple.
A recent meet commented how well we got on as a couple and that made his experience much better. He explained some couples have jealously issues.
So I'm intrigued to hear the good and the bad. Over to you "
My experiences have been largely good - but I think That's because I only tend to play with couples at clubs and parties - where I can see that they're 'sound' as a couple, that they're both into it - and that there's attraction and chemistry on all sides! My last was on Saturday at a club and it was great!  |
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"I've only met one couple. Felt like some human sex toy not an equal. Sadly it'seems put me off for life xx
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After reading some other posts now, I'm curious what they did to make you feel like a toy ? |
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After reading some other posts now, I'm curious what they did to make you feel like a toy ? "
Many couples treat you as if you're solely their for their pleasure. That makes you feel like a sex toy.
Some people are into that - and that's fine. But many other people are not.
For instance, I start to feel like just a sex toy if they're telling me how the night will happen. Or telling me at length the things I will do to them, or they will do to me. Or if they try and pay all my 'expenses' (I don't have 'expenses' - having sex with people is a hobby not a business). Or if they generally don't take my feelings into consideration at all.
Mostly though they make me feel like just a sex toy if they are incredibly protective of their relationship. Like, 'you're not allowed to do X because that's OUR thing'. As if their relationship is so fragile that it might fall apart because you say or do the wrong thing. Then you're just an aid to get them off, rather than a person who has been invited to share in their relationship. |
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Exactly this. Dictating what THEY wanted to do and how it'd pleasure him for me to do this that and the other to her. I can't explain it really. Talking only to one another during the act, In a way I think I can only liken how I felt a bit to when you're in town with a friend and they see another friend and you have to stand there looking at pigeons whilst they chat. Ha
Just all about them. A weird feeling |
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After reading some other posts now, I'm curious what they did to make you feel like a toy ?
Many couples treat you as if you're solely their for their pleasure. That makes you feel like a sex toy.
Some people are into that - and that's fine. But many other people are not.
For instance, I start to feel like just a sex toy if they're telling me how the night will happen. Or telling me at length the things I will do to them, or they will do to me. Or if they try and pay all my 'expenses' (I don't have 'expenses' - having sex with people is a hobby not a business). Or if they generally don't take my feelings into consideration at all.
Mostly though they make me feel like just a sex toy if they are incredibly protective of their relationship. Like, 'you're not allowed to do X because that's OUR thing'. As if their relationship is so fragile that it might fall apart because you say or do the wrong thing. Then you're just an aid to get them off, rather than a person who has been invited to share in their relationship."
I can remember many years ago on a meet with a couple as part of a couple myself. It all went horribly wrong when they decided to enact something with me (fem) that they had discussed between them before the meet. Sadly they hadn't asked me and it wasn't something I liked at all  . So yes I felt like a toy on that occasion I guess.
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"Exactly this. Dictating what THEY wanted to do and how it'd pleasure him for me to do this that and the other to her. I can't explain it really. Talking only to one another during the act, In a way I think I can only liken how I felt a bit to when you're in town with a friend and they see another friend and you have to stand there looking at pigeons whilst they chat. Ha
Just all about them. A weird feeling "
Ah yes I can understand that. Not good. Pity it put you off  |
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Never had bad experiences with the couples I've met. One of the couples my only fault is he gets jealous with kissing his gf and doesn't allow it, that's the only off putting thing for me and they tend to leave after shagging instead of enjoying the rest of the night socially and possibly playing a few more times the same night. Then again they have kids so I understand.
I prefer to meet couples who've made proper arrangements to look after the kids for the evening or couples with no kids. |
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I think from the single male side of things the best couples meets I've had have been the ones where we've chatted quite a bit on here first and I can get a real feel for what they're looking for and into prior to us meeting - the actual meet then goes so much easier and the chat and sex flows much better as there's no last minute worrying about why we're all there and who's into what etx |
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I had a great teacher in my first step into the lifestyle, the guy contacted me by phone and talked through what he liked, his wife liked and what I was looking for, extra communication early on us the secret to success.
I would agree with bunnyhop we are all equals and the couple need to be fully confident with each other and not one -sided, you can understand that by having a few chats before meet!
I have swung as a couple and we only ever took that step into the sexyland when we were happy with the person joining us  |
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