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Why do people do winks?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away."

The only reason is laziness

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By *kippy99Man over a year ago

Sunderland

If the person is miles away i so I sometimes just to let people know i like their profile . Yes i can the pics x i suppose it is lazy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the winker. Some do it to show interest, others do it to show appreciation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Call it laziness if you like but shouldn't it be considered a "starter", in the same way a smile or hello to someone you see in real life?

And for those who don't like winks how many happily put flirty emoji etc on the end of posts?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We like to send winks as an invitation to look over our profile to see if there's enough initial mutual attraction to advance to messages and potentially more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like to send a wink as it shows initial interest if get a wink back (never happens though) then I'll follow up with a message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I ignore all winks as I think it's lazy. The majority have no profile or pics so I'm hardly going to wink back. I'd like to be able to turn winks off permanently

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By *emptd2Man over a year ago

Brum for Xmas

"We like to send winks as an invitation to look over our profile to see if there's enough initial mutual attraction to advance to messages and potentially more

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Maybe there should be a variation to winks, the ability to add an emoji as an example. At the moment, it sounds like we have to guess the reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Winks aren't rocket science. Surely they just mean "hey I like your, profile check out mine"? I can't think of any other reason for winking. ..although I have been known to wink those that rant about receiving them just to amuse myself

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

To show an interest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Winks aren't rocket science. Surely they just mean "hey I like your, profile check out mine"? I can't think of any other reason for winking. ..although I have been known to wink those that rant about receiving them just to amuse myself

And I might even add sending them just to confuse those that are easily confused. ..

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By *emptd2Man over a year ago

Brum for Xmas

"Maybe there should be a variation to winks, the ability to add an emoji as an example. At the moment, it sounds like we have to guess the reason."

No need to guess, if they're winking at you it means they like you.

If they just liked your photos they'd just fab. Just think of it like this:

A fab is a wink for photos

A wink is a fab for profiles.

Unless I'm mistaken?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just never think to look at my winks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Completely agree with first statement and PMS with second.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No idea. Don't even look at them.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"We like to send winks as an invitation to look over our profile to see if there's enough initial mutual attraction to advance to messages and potentially more

This

If they wink back I'll message them, if they haven't already messaged

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We like your oxymoron, lol

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

"Maybe there should be a variation to winks, the ability to add an emoji as an example. At the moment, it sounds like we have to guess the reason."

I think there should definitely not be an option to send emojis. Surely these are the laziest way of communicating an emotion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tee hee, I like it.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

We dont mind winks,as long as they have read our profile and we may be a match.

most we end up ignoring though

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We send winks. Call it lazy if you want. We use it as an ice breaker, and if people like what they see then we're more than happy to send a long non-lazy message. Our profile is very informative, so don't really see the point in repeating ourselves just to prove we're not lazy. We nearly always get a message in response to a wink, so works for us. On the occasions that we haven't had a response to a wink, we assume we are not what they are looking for at that moment in time.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

I wink to say that I like your profile. It saves me the time of writing a message, also saving you the time to delete it.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Omg I might start winking to amuse myself when I can't sleep lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please don't discourage people from winking, love it when I get one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So we've had numerous threads where people ignore messages but winks are lazy.

So what's the answer or are some on the cheeky vimtos, lol

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Please don't discourage people from winking, love it when I get one!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We see who's as someone showing an interest and gives us chance to read their profile to decide if we want to message them.

We happily accept winks

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By *ungunjasMan over a year ago

Kettering

Do not mind Winks, giving or receiving.

Nothing lazy about Winks, simply a way of showing interest and appreciation ...

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By *omerladyWoman over a year ago

Taunton

Winks just seem to be a source of irritation for me.

I get the concept of them but the people that send them to me seem to have their own idea of how they work.

I have lost track of the number of times in the past where I have received a wink, looked at the profile and felt there was something. I then bother to send a message, usually a decent one only to find it deleted or even myself blocked in some cases.

Yesterday I got winked by two couples where I had been through this before. Thank god for private notes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Winks just seem to be a source of irritation for me.

I get the concept of them but the people that send them to me seem to have their own idea of how they work.

Yesterday I got winked by two couples where I had been through this before. Thank god for private notes

I have the same thing. Winks are great to see if there is mutual interest. But when I get a wink then email and like you, put some effort into it, to get nothing back is baffling!

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By *ascade35Man over a year ago

Alnwick

I'm happy to receive winks and as has been previously stated, I like others, use winking as a way of gauging interest from other fabbers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away."

Because they dont really think about it.

They just go through profiles winking as they go hoping for a response.

Doesnt mean anymore than that.

Bit like cut and paste messages they send out to anyone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To say they may be interested take a look, to say they like your profile and then fab your pic . Just remember they may be 100's miles away but they may also be in your area for many reason weekend away, some type of club gathering as an example we travel uk wide with our classic car groups

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By *andomfodCouple over a year ago

walsall

We use it as an icebreaker, for instance if we are visiting a club, we will wink a few profiles of people planning on visiting the club, just with a view to starting a little bit of conversation to get to know people as we don't know many yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get winks sometimes. And I very much appreciate them.

I don't really understand peoples downers on them. They do have a purpose in the grand scheme of things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To show an interest "

We do the same, some of us aren't overly confident (mr) to just send a message

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

I'd love to rec a few winks even if it never lead to further chats or a meet

What's the harm in making someone smile for a few seconds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Occasionally I look at my winks. Sometimes someone attracts my attention and I wink back. It's a way of drawing attention to your profile, especially if you can't message someone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the person is miles away i so I sometimes just to let people know i like their profile . Yes i can the pics x i suppose it is lazy."

"Depends on the winker. Some do it to show interest, others do it to show appreciation."

These are the correct answers. I send 2 or 3 winks out noe and then but usually to people on friends list too just to let em know O in the mood

I freely admit it's lazy, sometimes I don't always want to start off a full blown conversation, fucking sue me. It's sometime s a quick way to see if they're interested after checking you out too.

I'm starting to use it more and more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never used them, I never will. Always delete them without looking who sends them.

I would hope, and certainly the person I'm most likely to be attracted to would simply message me expressing an interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never used them, I never will. Always delete them without looking who sends them.

I would hope, and certainly the person I'm most likely to be attracted to would simply message me expressing an interest.

I never send them either .

But then again I hardly message anyone either because Im a miserable bastard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never used them, I never will. Always delete them without looking who sends them.

I would hope, and certainly the person I'm most likely to be attracted to would simply message me expressing an interest.

I never send them either .

But then again I hardly message anyone either because Im a miserable bastard.

I message, I just don't wink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe there should be a variation to winks, the ability to add an emoji as an example. At the moment, it sounds like we have to guess the reason.

No need to guess, if they're winking at you it means they like you.

If they just liked your photos they'd just fab. Just think of it like this:

A fab is a wink for photos

A wink is a fab for profiles.

Unless I'm mistaken?"

Very Much this

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By *onsaiMan over a year ago

Denton

Well I do it 1 because I'm quite shy until I get to know the person and 2 just because I think that person is pretty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally as it's any easy way to see whether or not your advances will be welcomed, there are so many ladies or couples on here that complain that a single man isn't what they seek, yet there profiles are pretty unambiguous, so a wink is a good way to see if they would like to chat.

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By *unlovinguy_68Man over a year ago

nottingham

This is not me throwing a negative aspect on this, but is that button not there for a reason, maybe it was suggested as a lighthearted ice breaker a while back similar to other forum suggestions you see.

Personally from me I see it as the fact that women/cpls I like must get swamped by messages, so it's just a polite hello, I like what I've read and seen in your profile and if they respond then we're off and onto the next stage of communication.

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By *uralRobMan over a year ago

Ludlow

I use winks a lot , it's just a way to say I like what I read in the profile and see in the photos. If a profile makes me smile then I like to let that person know and I would hope it would give them a boost to know poeple like what they read and see. It's just adding to the fun

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By *londie8399Couple over a year ago

blackpool

We use winks to show were intrested in their profile, if they wink back then we would send a message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no idea..the rare occasions ive looked at them ,theyre from people miles away, or blank profiles.so i dont bother looking on the whole..

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I wink to show I've seen something of interest in the profile, but if I'm winking and not emailing.. It's because I'm not sure enough that I'll be of interest

If i get a wink back, I'll message... And the same with those that wink me... I'll look at their profiles and wink back, or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I usually send a wink firstly to say I like the profile and secondly so they can have a look at mines. If a get a wink back or see that you've looked at my profile I'll then send an introductory hello message.

I see the wink as the same as a "smile across the bar" or a "cheeky hello how are"

Don't understand why some think it's lazy. Get over yourselves... lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wink just to let people know that I like what I see, I consider it non intrusive and requires no effort on behalf of the receiver.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

Dunno , maybe they want us to look at them. I always forget to look. Maybe of course they are people that cannot message me

oops never thought of that.

Just think I missed out on tons of messages by not looking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dunno , maybe they want us to look at them. I always forget to look. Maybe of course they are people that cannot message me

oops never thought of that.

Just think I missed out on tons of messages by not looking

That's the last time I wink you cinnamon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't see a problem with winks and we will wink back if we like the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see it as an initial indicator of interest. I usually send them when I don't have time to message, due to work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never had one mail back from a wink. And yet again i have had 3 people sending? a rude message because i never answered theirs.

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By *aggersMan over a year ago

portsmouth

"I ignore all winks as I think it's lazy. The majority have no profile or pics so I'm hardly going to wink back. I'd like to be able to turn winks off permanently

I kinda like winks it's not lazy to send someone a wink at all just shows you that they've actually looked at your profile and like what they see and if they get a wink back shows there's a mutual interest to start talking ... mainly for the guys who are either a bit shy or had they're messages ignored so feel what's the point ..I however will send a wink followed up by a message

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By *aggersMan over a year ago

portsmouth

"We don't see a problem with winks and we will wink back if we like the profile. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hope this regenerates this thread!

So I've had a wink off a certain guy I've had my "eye on"...

He's looked at me a few times. Fabbed a pic. Then today I have a wink!

So I send him a message. Something simple, like an acknowledgement.

He's read it........and that's it. Not deleted. Just lingering there. Have been online since ( it was a few hrs ago). I'm confused

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuck

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By *utronicMan over a year ago

derby

"I hope this regenerates this thread!

So I've had a wink off a certain guy I've had my "eye on"...

He's looked at me a few times. Fabbed a pic. Then today I have a wink!

So I send him a message. Something simple, like an acknowledgement.

He's read it........and that's it. Not deleted. Just lingering there. Have been online since ( it was a few hrs ago). I'm confused

Could be a bit of a winker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope this regenerates this thread!

So I've had a wink off a certain guy I've had my "eye on"...

He's looked at me a few times. Fabbed a pic. Then today I have a wink!

So I send him a message. Something simple, like an acknowledgement.

He's read it........and that's it. Not deleted. Just lingering there. Have been online since ( it was a few hrs ago). I'm confused

What a lucky guy!

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By *annygirlCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"Call it laziness if you like but shouldn't it be considered a "starter", in the same way a smile or hello to someone you see in real life?

And for those who don't like winks how many happily put flirty emoji etc on the end of posts?"

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By *annygirlCouple over a year ago

Belfast

"We use winks to show were intrested in their profile, if they wink back then we would send a message."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope this regenerates this thread!

So I've had a wink off a certain guy I've had my "eye on"...

He's looked at me a few times. Fabbed a pic. Then today I have a wink!

So I send him a message. Something simple, like an acknowledgement.

He's read it........and that's it. Not deleted. Just lingering there. Have been online since ( it was a few hrs ago). I'm confused

Could be a bit of a winker

Could be! Has put me right off now. I ain't chasing.....hell no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is stated clearly in the FAQs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope this regenerates this thread!

So I've had a wink off a certain guy I've had my "eye on"...

He's looked at me a few times. Fabbed a pic. Then today I have a wink!

So I send him a message. Something simple, like an acknowledgement.

He's read it........and that's it. Not deleted. Just lingering there. Have been online since ( it was a few hrs ago). I'm confused

What a lucky guy!

I'm too confused.

no luck here!

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By *oyle_45Man over a year ago

Worthing

Maybe he doesn't want to seem too eager?

Maybe he is working on his response?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It wasn't me....I'm a year to old.....but I'm down your way for a week in Sept!

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By *RayMan over a year ago

essex

"We like to send winks as an invitation to look over our profile to see if there's enough initial mutual attraction to advance to messages and potentially more

This "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I hope this regenerates this thread!

So I've had a wink off a certain guy I've had my "eye on"...

He's looked at me a few times. Fabbed a pic. Then today I have a wink!

So I send him a message. Something simple, like an acknowledgement.

He's read it........and that's it. Not deleted. Just lingering there. Have been online since ( it was a few hrs ago). I'm confused

What a lucky guy!

I'm too confused.

no luck here! "

He's the lucky and quite possibly stupid one...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never used them, I never will. Always delete them without looking who sends them.

I would hope, and certainly the person I'm most likely to be attracted to would simply message me expressing an interest.

This is exactly what we do. Any winks sent are ignored as we get so many and ANYONE that sends friend requests without talking gets ignored.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a wink, just a hello, we maybe interested in knowing more, kinda thing

Frankly though when you get a wink from 100+ miles away you wonder why, supposse you could get into a conversation along the lines of " You are a fair distance away, but we are sure we can sort something" knowing full well nothing will come of it, it passes the time.....

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

We like a good wink now and then

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By *ittletonCplCouple over a year ago

cannock

I prefer a wink to a friend request with no messaging first. I'll quite often reply to a wink with 'thanks for the wink' or a few fabbed pics - but a 'cold call' friend invite doesn't deserve any response apart from maybe block! What's appealing about someone with no communication skills?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe he doesn't want to seem too eager?

Maybe he is working on his response?"

He can crack on then

not playing games. It's weird!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a lazy message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its a lazy message

It's ok now. My gut told me months back that this guy thinks he's something. Just confirmed.

Next!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see them as show of interest?

I very rarely repsond to them unless it has something to do with a forum thread, but even then it's unlikely I'll respond

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its time to do away with winks on the site it looks like people don't get get why people use them and think its being lazy or the site can have a box to tick to get them or not

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

I don't see a problem with winks, I like to give and receive.

I feel that it's sometimes less intrusive to send someone you like the look of a wink rather than a message. Each to their own, you'll never please everyone all of the time

Like I say, I do like to receive them too....(tumble )

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I don't see a problem with winks, I like to give and receive.

I feel that it's sometimes less intrusive to send someone you like the look of a wink rather than a message. Each to their own, you'll never please everyone all of the time

Like I say, I do like to receive them too....(tumble )

HG"

I like giving and recieving too, even from hundreds of miles away

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

"Its a lazy message

It's ok now. My gut told me months back that this guy thinks he's something. Just confirmed.

Next!

One thing I will say, when you are on your phone it is quite easy to miss the winks notification. You get a message and the big yellow box tells you you have a message, however the wink box can be easy to miss!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away."
at less you get winks i do not on here

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

"I don't see a problem with winks, I like to give and receive.

I feel that it's sometimes less intrusive to send someone you like the look of a wink rather than a message. Each to their own, you'll never please everyone all of the time

Like I say, I do like to receive them too....(tumble )

I like giving and recieving too, even from hundreds of miles away

The beauty of a wink, distance doesn't matter

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By *nglishdoodMan over a year ago

Morristown

I love getting winks...it tells me my subsequent approach will probably be welcomed.

Why would it be any different to getting a wink across a crowded pub? Don't you wink haters remember how exciting that is?

Like many of the features on here it's been somewhat spoiled by lazy arseholes unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't do winks ...dont look at them either

Only know if someone's winked at me and says on there profile when they last winked and last chatted etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we get a wink from another couple and we like what we see, we wink back and leave it up to them to make contact via a message

- Mrs. J -

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By *picy boyMan over a year ago

London

No rocket science...

For me it's just like smiling in the street, a little sign of appreciation, at least to let the people know that for me, their profile stood out from the crowd...

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By *cunnylassCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"If we get a wink from another couple and we like what we see, we wink back and leave it up to them to make contact via a message

- Mrs. J -"

We do this too especially with single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to take the view that they were intended to indicate interest, but on.my time here I have found that there seems to be a lot of different reasons and that the readon I might have sent a wink to someone might be different to why someone might send me one.

What is perhaps somewhat frustrating is when someone sends you a wink and you respond with a message which ends up being completely ignored.

More recently I have reigned in my use of winks, restricting them to profiles that I find that I might be interested in but need more information to go on in order to compose an appropriate message.

I've now reached the point, however, as many others have, where I will no longer respond to winks and am no longer sending any myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I never ever did get a reply but I've worked out why! It's because I have bobbed hair

he prefers ladies with long hair. So I'm assuming he clicked wink by accident and then confirm by accident. Very easily done!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away."

I suppose a light hearted call for attention. To judge mutral interest before they invest too much.

As to winks from a far I guess its about attracting attention and making online friends rather that any serious intention to meet. After all some people like the online socialising and meeting sexy likeminded people aspect of Fab. I have had a couple of winks from people 100s miles away. I am fine with it and it's rather faltering.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away.

The only reason is laziness"

Of course not. It may be just 1 (one) of the many reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away."

To say that you have a nice pair of tits!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away."

Why not. Expressing and interest without being intrusive or wasting your time by writing a message that isn't reciprocated perhaps

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"What are people's reasons for sending winks? We're intrigued, especially if the other person is hundreds of miles away.

Why not. Expressing and interest without being intrusive or wasting your time by writing a message that isn't reciprocated perhaps "
That's why I send them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A wink is like an eye contact in a bar. If it's mutual, I can move to a conversation.

Way less intrusive that starting a chat straight away.

Obviously, when people don't check winks or deem them as lazy, the opportunity to utilise winks is lost.

Distance isn't always a problem. People travel so someone from Cornwall may wink to a profile in Inverness as a first point of contact for a potential future meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I ignore all winks as I think it's lazy. The majority have no profile or pics so I'm hardly going to wink back. I'd like to be able to turn winks off permanently

I've just put you to the test.

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A similar thread..

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/643452

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Well I never ever did get a reply but I've worked out why! It's because I have bobbed hair

he prefers ladies with long hair. So I'm assuming he clicked wink by accident and then confirm by accident. Very easily done!

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The short bobbed hair would be a reason for me to send you a wink!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I never ever did get a reply but I've worked out why! It's because I have bobbed hair

he prefers ladies with long hair. So I'm assuming he clicked wink by accident and then confirm by accident. Very easily done!

The short bobbed hair would be a reason for me to send you a wink!

Ironically I am growing it out...

But his missed this boat

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Well I never ever did get a reply but I've worked out why! It's because I have bobbed hair

he prefers ladies with long hair. So I'm assuming he clicked wink by accident and then confirm by accident. Very easily done!

The short bobbed hair would be a reason for me to send you a wink!

Ironically I am growing it out...

But his missed this boat

"
Ah that's a pity. I love short hair in a lady. A lady with short hair anyways gets a second glance from me. Not sure why it turns me on so much but I do love it...

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

I actully wonder to the hostily on here towards winks? I have seen many profiles saying winks will be ignored (or words to that effect). But as someone else has pointed out it's like making initial contact across the bar. I know people who will look at the profile of someone who has sent them a message before they read the actual message. Therefore if the OP is not what their looking for they delete without reading. That must be frustrating if someone has put a lot of time and effort into a mesaage. Surely sending a wink is a far better way to judge mutual attraction and would save the workload on the inbox?

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By *mokey_KinksMan over a year ago

Essex

i love a wink, shows that someone like to look of me or liked my profile i would then message them back and chat, and i do the same if i like a profile i would wink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I bulk delete all winks. I don't even look through them. In fact I wish there were an option to switch them off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send them when I can't be arsed to write a message.

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By *iss InnocenceWoman over a year ago

Coventry/Bristol

I wink to say I like they profile/pic's if I get one back then I will message them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I send them when I can't be arsed to write a message. "

This too

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By *axandbooCouple over a year ago

Bristol

We use them to test the water to see if there is a mutual attraction

Boo x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use them to gauge interest. A simple wink back and I will message them.

It does become rather soul destroying putting in the effort to read and understand someone's profile, construct a friendly, appropriate message and then see it either deleted or left unread.

Sending a wink simplifies this process somewhat for me x

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