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Why is it so hard for single guys to get a chance with couples?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand* |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
who says they aren't interested.... just because you can't first contact them, it doesn't mean if they are interested in you and your profile that they can't contact you...
maybe they are doing the searching..... |
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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago
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We dont block single guys. Thats why we are on here. N go to clubs for guys for my wife. I love watching. Unless there is something on there profile wot duznt suit us. N how they come across to. I know there are a few what dont do single guys any favours. But we tend to them out. Eg. We had a message tho the other day just saying. Do you guys want a fuck. That sort are deleted straight away. We have met some great guys on here. And at clubs |
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Most? Sweeping statement! Many couples are looking for something quite specific and prefer to search for themselves. Others may only meet in clubs, at parties or events that cater for their specific requirement. My recommendation? Read profiles fully and check you're what folk are actually looking for and you can contribute to a fun meet for all of you. A bit more info on your own profile about what your y can offer might help too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
A lot of couples block single males due to the sheer volume of messages received on a daily basis. They just go looking for one when and if desired xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It probably because most couples seem to want to meet a unicorn** not a man.
I say i specifically do not meet couples but i still get loads messaging me saying come and join us.
** = unicorn is a single bi female who wants a MF+f meet. |
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'Not looking for single guys' just means 'we don't accept first messages from single guys' .
Lots of those couples do meet single guys, they just want to search for them themselves or meet them ad-hoc at clubs. |
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"I get the same results any suggestions ready to discuss"
Read your own profile as if you were a couple wanting to meet a single guy. How does it stand out from the crowd? What do you have to offer a couple? Do you tailor your messages so that couples know you are exactly what they're looking for as described on their profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A single guy may simply not fulfill their needs. There's no great conspiracy against them. If you want success, make yourself stand out from the 1000's of other single men offering the same things as you. Be irresistible and for the couple to be saying to each other 'we have to meet this guy'
It's a total waste of time and energy to whiningly bleat about not being able to meet the others. |
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As a guy that was on here as part of a couple and is now on here as a single, it's a massive difference.
Couples profiles get that many messages that looking through all of them sometimes can actually be really hard. But being on here as a single guy, a group which must make up at least 80% of all profiles, means that your profile has to reflect well on yourself from the off (Something I myself hasn't got the hang of myself! Haha) |
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It's harsh but I would suggest the main reason the op can't get meets is because he is a 53 year old curvy man with only a pic of his cock. Given that single men wanting to meet women and couples out number women and couples wanting to meet single men by about ten to one his chances are something between remote and zero. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Why is it when men find out I find it hard to meet someone I like I get told 'maybe your too fussy?'.....No that is why I have toys!
I have my standards and wont drop them, why is that so hard to comprehend?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
Are you saying because they are on Fab they have to meet single men? |
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"You can always have sex with couples or goto a club or do dogging or lower your values and fuck a really ugly girl and then walk home with shame flashbacks like a Vietnam vet "
He's 53 and "curvy". On a site like this where because of the ratios even the less attractive women and couples can get hot men, he has little or no chance here. He is best going to a greedy girls night at a club where all comers are welcome. |
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"It's harsh but I would suggest the main reason the op can't get meets is because he is a 53 year old curvy man with only a pic of his cock. Given that single men wanting to meet women and couples out number women and couples wanting to meet single men by about ten to one his chances are something between remote and zero. "
Is this me in ten to fifteen years.. I must grt rich |
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
Because the men in couples normally run their Fab account and in they ain't into MMF etc it ain't happening. Doesn't fill up inbox etc and echoing other stuff said above.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are 2 main reasons a couple would have cause to pursue a single man in the swing scene. One is if they are interested in MMF threeesomes, and the other if they are interested in cuckolding. If the couple are not interested in either, then I guess they would have no need for a single male. It's nothing against single men, it's more about what the couple's interests and fantasies are. There however plenty of couples who do enjoy pursuits that require a single man, therefore will look for the right kind of man who is able to meet their needs and fantasies.
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We like meeting single guys. But finding single guys that can actually cut it, is quite another thing.
I think most read FAB with their dicks in their hands, so once they've done the deed, the requirement for the meet they've signed up to, has gone.
By far more guys are just talkers on here than actually want to meet.
Having said that, the little gems we do meet remind us why we are here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are 2 main reasons a couple would have cause to pursue a single man in the swing scene. One is if they are interested in MMF threeesomes, and the other if they are interested in cuckolding. If the couple are not interested in either, then I guess they would have no need for a single male. It's nothing against single men, it's more about what the couple's interests and fantasies are. There however plenty of couples who do enjoy pursuits that require a single man, therefore will look for the right kind of man who is able to meet their needs and fantasies.
Mrs"
 as above
And nobody,that i know of,joins a swinging group to give "a chance" to anybody,male or female.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see plenty of couples profiles on here looking for single guys. Had some great meets with couples on here. "
I've mostly met with couples over the years.
Couples who block single guys either...want to meet other couples/women
Or want to do the looking themselves.
It ain't rocket science. |
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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"It probably because most couples seem to want to meet a unicorn** not a man.
I say i specifically do not meet couples but i still get loads messaging me saying come and join us.
** = unicorn is a single bi female who wants a MF+f meet. "
Ditto! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to have it where single guys could contact us, but then we got bombarded with one line messages from pictureless profiles- or constantly asked 'can you meet now' clearly showing they hadn't read the profile. But we are still very much up for meeting single guys and we've got one single lad who is a genuine friend now and a great playmate- we just look for them now and reach out if we find one that takes our fancy. $- |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
It's a question of numbers sometimes. We block single guys for a while, then when we're in the mood to meet we unblock for a couple of days then try to deal with all the mails. After just 3 days I've got 65 unread mails in my inbox. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We used to have it where single guys could contact us, but then we got bombarded with one line messages from pictureless profiles- or constantly asked 'can you meet now' clearly showing they hadn't read the profile. But we are still very much up for meeting single guys and we've got one single lad who is a genuine friend now and a great playmate- we just look for them now and reach out if we find one that takes our fancy. $- "
We do the "put the word from our profile text in the subject heading" thing on our profile, and out of the 65 mails we've had in the past few days NOT ONE of them has the right word. |
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"We used to have it where single guys could contact us, but then we got bombarded with one line messages from pictureless profiles- or constantly asked 'can you meet now' clearly showing they hadn't read the profile. But we are still very much up for meeting single guys and we've got one single lad who is a genuine friend now and a great playmate- we just look for them now and reach out if we find one that takes our fancy. $-
We do the "put the word from our profile text in the subject heading" thing on our profile, and out of the 65 mails we've had in the past few days NOT ONE of them has the right word."
Jupiter! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are really two groups saying no messages from single guys, ones who aren't looking for MFM/ MMF in which case why on earth would they give you a chance, and those who are interested in meeting single guys but do the searching themselves rather than getting tons of awful messages to sift through to find the gems. Best thing you can do is make your profile stand out for the right reasons. |
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
We meet single guys, but have recently blocked them from messaging us and have decided to have repeat meets with the friends we've made, or to do the search ourselves. The reason being (as you've pointed out), we had quite a few messages from guys who haven't clearly read our profile, are fantasists, send several unsolicited pictures of their cocks or who show no effort in writing a decent message or profile and think they can get away just writing in text speak or a couple of words. No disrespect if that's how they are, but not for us. We realise that there are decent and respectful guys out there, so to save theirs and our time, we do the searching ourselves. |
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We have nothing against single guys but its not what we are looking for on here. We only meet other couples and only swap ff.
Everyone is here for different reasons, and theres someone for everyone on here.
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
The men in couples feel threatened and worried that their wives will leave them. Or, in our case, we have a different taste in men and I am worried my OH will run off with the single man involved .... if he is bi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we are here mainly for the single guys but do get fed up with the lack of wanting to read the profile and the stupid hi hows u or fancy a fuck ..lol can be brain draining sometimes but saying that the good by far out do the bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
We definatley welcome single guys, so much so that we don't go to the couples only sessions at our local club.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*We definatley welcome single guys, so much so that we don't go to the couples only sessions at our local club. "
We're the same. Can't stand couple's night at clubs. And when we have a party we always recruit in 2 or 3 extra guys. We believe a good party has more men than women. Has to be the right kind of men though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
Because they get inundated with tons of messages from single guys.
So they prefer to use their filters to block them as they prefer to message the single guys that are of interest to them.
I use that option myself for women too . As I prefer to choose who I get mail from |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lots if advice and I get what everyone is saying about the numbers game. Changed my profile slightly and will put up more that just dick pics.
Thanks again all |
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*
who says they aren't interested.... just because you can't first contact them, it doesn't mean if they are interested in you and your profile that they can't contact you...
maybe they are doing the searching....."
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Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. "
Whats the point in allowing single males to message you then if you dont meet them ? |
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple. "
But you have 54 verifications from men  |
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple.
But you have 54 verifications from men "
The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple.
But you have 54 verifications from men
The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile. "
No wonder single guys get confused then  |
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple.
But you have 54 verifications from men
The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile.
No wonder single guys get confused then "
It's not exactly difficult. Our profile says I (Candy) was on here as a single and met men, it says we're not looking for single men, and I believe there is a warning when someone sends a message that says 'stop! This profile isn't looking to meet men, do you still want to message?'. It's not rocket science. |
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
To be fair you've only been here 9 weeks and your profile doesn't stand out from the many many single guy profiles on here.
And although fair play for putting on your profile that you're bisexual, that will scare a lot of couples off, who simply won't meet a bi guy!
And as others have said, the messages simply don't stop coming with silly one liners.
Nice tits (I know I have nice tits), love to fuck you (I'm sure you would) etc!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our profile doesn't stop single guys from messaging, but we're not interested in meeting single guys. Not because there's anything wrong with them, just because that's not the kind of play we're interested in as a couple.
But you have 54 verifications from men
The profile was a single fem profile for many years before it got turned into a couple profile.
No wonder single guys get confused then
It's not exactly difficult. Our profile says I (Candy) was on here as a single and met men, it says we're not looking for single men, and I believe there is a warning when someone sends a message that says 'stop! This profile isn't looking to meet men, do you still want to message?'. It's not rocket science. "
Unfortunately we aren't dealing with rocket scientists but desperate walking hardons looking for sonewhere to dump their muck |
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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago
Dorset |
Because we put ourselves out there to include some of them in our playtime, and yet again they let us down, full of talk till we arrange a meet, then drop off the radar or just don't turn up, too busy wanking probably. |
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Probably because 95% of single guy's Don't read and understand profiles properly, we do meet up with single guy's now and then but the vast majority are not making any effort at all with their opening message |
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By *sAllowedCouple
over a year ago
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We don't block single guys unless they are rude or pester, however we do ask they read our profile and prefer a wink so mrs can check out whether they are for her. Occasionally we get an original message which again if it makes the mrs laugh we can forgive the fact we have said we will find you. But in general if we are out and mrs see a single guy she likes then she can play and I will often get envloved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is not realy up to scracht "
Not sure I know what that means?
Not up to scratch how? In that you don't get a meet every time you message a woman or a couple? Have you ever tried stopping a woman or couple in the street and asking them to jump into bed with you right there and then?
This site is fucking awesome, dare I even say Fab, you got to make the effort, appreciate that the numbers are stacked against you as a single guy, and don't take it too seriously. Aren't we mainly here for fun, not hassle and stress.
If you're finding you're not getting meets or people chatting to you, look at the reasons why that might be, but don't hold other's accountable for it, it's all down to how you engage with people.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*
The men in couples feel threatened and worried that their wives will leave them. Or, in our case, we have a different taste in men and I am worried my OH will run off with the single man involved .... if he is bi "
Got more chance of H running off with another woman! But its a risk I'll just have to take
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Well guess what we seek? However first put off is no profile pic (even a cock pic is better than a silhouette) then profile has no pics, need to show off the goods. "
Nice bike! First year? Red/white scheme, the "wanted" colour, made a few quid on one of those last year & bought two yzf750's
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well guess what we seek? However first put off is no profile pic (even a cock pic is better than a silhouette) then profile has no pics, need to show off the goods.
Nice bike! First year? Red/white scheme, the "wanted" colour, made a few quid on one of those last year & bought two yzf750's
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Saw a lovely mint LC 350 yesterday in red & white.
Completely original apart from Allspeeds.
Brought back happy memories |
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
You may want to try social events near you. At least you become a real person and more than a profile, and who knows what may happen after! Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most couples profiles seem to block single guys, any reason anyone can give why we're excluded? I appreciate there may be a bad apple or two every now and then but there are genuine guys out there *waves hand*"
It's simply not what they're looking for, it's often the people who've been swinging for years. Newer couples are more likely to be open to the idea; I just happen yo usually meet them and have a good time with them. |
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"Reasons we've blocked single guys:
1) ##########################
2) Most don't care about anything except their own needs/desires"
So are you say your not here to satisfy your own needs/desires? Are you one of the golden couples that are here only to fulfil the needs of their chosen playmates?
Two many couples are here for 2) as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So are you say your not here to satisfy your own needs/desires? Are you one of the golden couples that are here only to fulfil the needs of their chosen playmates?"
We're here for meets where everybody is satisfied.
It's a huge turn-off (and quite rude) when somebody says "I want", "I need" etc
Look at the pegging topic for example, a couple of dozen guys who'd no doubt be happy to be pegged by Mrs SKC but bring absolutely nothing to the party.
We wouldn't dream of trying to meet someone without making sure their needs are fulfilled as well as ours. Surely that's basic social skills? Which sadly seem missing from a fair few people on this site. |
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Seriously OP How would anyone know your genuine. Shadowman, no pics of what you look like or have to offer, no info in your profile.
But at least M will be happy you've not revelled your real identity 007. |
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We meet single guys .
Meeting them is always a three way equal fun time for everyone .
But we agree there are some couples who see single guys as a plaything for them . Some guys don't mind that , but we always hope he guys we meet go away afterwards feeeling they've had an equally as memorable meet as us . |
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Possibly because you don't have a vagina.
What is there for a straight guy in the couple, who isn't a cuck, who doesn't get off in watching his Mrs have fun with another guy, where there isn't another woman for him to have sex with.
For this guy, you bring nothing for him so why should they meet a single guy if they are interested in a straight swap with a couple. |
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