"They usually mean people who aren't in to swinging or fetish.
I think its quite a patronising term myself."
I don't see it as patronising. I agree there may be a better term. But the alternative of calling people who don't like swinging/ fetish 'normal' would make us.... abnormal?
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"They usually mean people who aren't in to swinging or fetish.
I think its quite a patronising term myself.
I don't see it as patronising. I agree there may be a better term. But the alternative of calling people who don't like swinging/ fetish 'normal' would make us.... abnormal?
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I don't call other people normal either. Just because people don't swing doesn't mean they have a normal sex life...whatever that is.  |
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring!  "
Nah, it means people who can have fantastic passionate sex without the need of any fetishes, fantasies, props or pretenses!
Vanilla and proud of it here!!   |
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring!
Nah, it means people who can have fantastic passionate sex without the need of any fetishes, fantasies, props or pretenses!
Vanilla and proud of it here!! "
You have had some meets so you would not be classed as Vanilla |
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring! "
It doesn't mean that but people do often use it to imply that people who don't have sex in the same way they do are boring. Which is a shame. |
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring!
Nah, it means people who can have fantastic passionate sex without the need of any fetishes, fantasies, props or pretenses!
Vanilla and proud of it here!! "
Ooh I like,I'm gonna go for that  |
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"I'm happy to be called vanilla. I'm not a swinger
You are on a swinging site and have over 20 verifications if your not a swinger what are you lol "
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring! "
You mean theres more than one position ?
You heathens ! |
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Vanilla isn't a derogatory term to us . It simply means someone who isn't in the lifestyle ( whatever that is ) .
And for a swinging site , there are lots of vanilla people on here , which some may think is odd . Others may see it as perfectly ok , as some have said on this thread , they are vanilla and proud |
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring!
Nah, it means people who can have fantastic passionate sex without the need of any fetishes, fantasies, props or pretenses!
Vanilla and proud of it here!!
You have had some meets so you would not be classed as Vanilla "
Yeah I am - even according to the BDSM test!!
96% Vanilla
90% Submissive
71% Primal (Prey) |
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For me it's just short hand. Vanilla means you're an ice cream purist, not like me who prefers mint chocolate chips with nuts and raspberry sauce. Also a flake. And someone better tie me up and feed me. |
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"It means people that only have sex in the missionary postition for the sole purpose of procreation...
In other words boring!
Nah, it means people who can have fantastic passionate sex without the need of any fetishes, fantasies, props or pretenses!
Vanilla and proud of it here!! "
Nothing wrong with Vanilla! We constantly get asked "What we're into" like it's mandatory to want more than swapping. |
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The complete opposite of myself. Which isn't necessarily a bad or a good thing.
And that's not to say I don't enjoy vanilla sex either as I very much do. But I also adore indulging in lots and lots and lots of other unspeakable acts that are anything but "vanilla"... |
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By *ibBethCouple
over a year ago
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Love raspberry ripple an mint choc chip.... Mr whippy can also be good to. Lol. Vanilla i take as missionary position..... Dont like it too much myself, but i love people rights to choose what they like . beth x  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Vanilla was originally a phrase coined by the BDSM community to describe non-BDSM people. For some reason the swinging community has decided to call non-swingers 'vanilla', even though there is no reason to. Might as well call them muggles and be done.  |
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"Vanilla was originally a phrase coined by the BDSM community to describe non-BDSM people. For some reason the swinging community has decided to call non-swingers 'vanilla', even though there is no reason to. Might as well call them muggles and be done. "
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"Vanilla was originally a phrase coined by the BDSM community to describe non-BDSM people. For some reason the swinging community has decided to call non-swingers 'vanilla', even though there is no reason to. Might as well call them muggles and be done.
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Been to a fair few swingers clubs and most of what I see there is totally vanilla to me. Nothing outside of what I would have been doing for years, before being on the scene. |
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By *andlebarMan
over a year ago
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The tern vanilla simply means someone who is not a swinger.. if you are not part of the "lifestyle" you probably wouldn't even have heard the term.. it's not a derogatory term. Just a term to differentiate.. and if you are on this site ..particularly if you have had multiple meets. You aren't vanilla.. |
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"The tern vanilla simply means someone who is not a swinger.. if you are not part of the "lifestyle" you probably wouldn't even have heard the term.. it's not a derogatory term. Just a term to differentiate.. and if you are on this site ..particularly if you have had multiple meets. You aren't vanilla.."
im afraid i think its rubbish that no-one not in the 'lifestyle' would know the term..its very commonly used nowadays...look in any womens magazine and you'll probably find it..and the more its widely used,the more meaningless it sounds to me.. |
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"I don't swing... and I don't agree with that definition.
So what did you do on your meets with swingers  "
I just have regular 1 on 1 sex in private with as few people as possible, some of them happen to be swingers, most have not been, just other singles looking for fwb like me. |
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"I don't swing... and I don't agree with that definition.
So what did you do on your meets with swingers
I just have regular 1 on 1 sex in private with as few people as possible, some of them happen to be swingers, most have not been, just other singles looking for fwb like me. "
So you have sex with swingers you find on a swinging site, so no you are definitely not a swinger lol |
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