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By *ouste OP Couple
over a year ago
Newark |
We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!"
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all.... |
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over a year ago
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Causes much trouble!
Couple I knew....they played separately at parties etc...but only with full knowledge and consent. But, a couple of years back....I was meeting a woman from Droitwich, the guy of the couple was having a social meet with another lady we knew mutually. We all met up in Malvern for a drink. He was supposed to be giving me and lady 1 a lift back to mine, then taking lady 2 back to her hubby (he doesn't swing but knows she does). However he became rather insistent on wanting to come in with lady 2 to have some naughties. When this was denied he did a runner....leaving me with both ladies.
Lady 1 knew his partner very well..... info got back to her...they are no longer together!
Not saying you should pass on info...depends how well you know them I suppose! |
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over a year ago
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!"
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
Buckley North Wales |
Thats a tricky place to be. Are you sure that it was actual cheating and not playing alone or some other life style spin. If it definately was cheating (which seems daft if your already swingers).
Then you have to go with your conscience on this one. If you don't feel comfortable with them or one of them it will be noticed. It will also take any pleasure out of a meet. You are doing the right thing. |
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By *ouste OP Couple
over a year ago
Newark |
Glad so many of you agree with our feeling, we could just not face both of them knowing what the other is doing behind there partners back. Yes we 100% know it's not an arranged separate meet. We feel it's best to avoid them. We can't stand this sort of thing as there is no need! |
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over a year ago
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all...."
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience. |
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By *aggersMan
over a year ago
portsmouth |
"Glad so many of you agree with our feeling, we could just not face both of them knowing what the other is doing behind there partners back. Yes we 100% know it's not an arranged separate meet. We feel it's best to avoid them. We can't stand this sort of thing as there is no need!"
On a different note are you two going to the Lincoln social on the 1st April ? |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience. "
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones. |
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By *ouste OP Couple
over a year ago
Newark |
"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones."
We can just see it will all end in tears. Just so wrong they will continue to meet other couples and maybe cause more upset somewhere else too. |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience. "
I agree, but I have my tin hat on as I always get a personal attack for expressing my opinion on this. Of course swinging couples are like any other. Swinging doesn't make them closer or better or more in love or more trusting. Many claim it does though, although I am not sure who they are trying to convince. We would have the same relationship if we didn't swing. Saying that, our swinging is bi only ... as certain things we keep for us. |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones.
We can just see it will all end in tears. Just so wrong they will continue to meet other couples and maybe cause more upset somewhere else too."
Well, as I said in my first post its best not to get too involved in other people's dramas. You aren't responsible for their actions and you dont know their private dynamic. As long as you're not directly involved . |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
I agree, but I have my tin hat on as I always get a personal attack for expressing my opinion on this. Of course swinging couples are like any other. Swinging doesn't make them closer or better or more in love or more trusting. Many claim it does though, although I am not sure who they are trying to convince. We would have the same relationship if we didn't swing. Saying that, our swinging is bi only ... as certain things we keep for us."
I think you'll find that swinging couples are perfect and superior in everyway compared to our less evolved monogamous cousins!  |
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By *ouste OP Couple
over a year ago
Newark |
"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones.
We can just see it will all end in tears. Just so wrong they will continue to meet other couples and maybe cause more upset somewhere else too.
Well, as I said in my first post its best not to get too involved in other people's dramas. You aren't responsible for their actions and you dont know their private dynamic. As long as you're not directly involved ."
We just want to avoid and no longer want them as part of our lifestyle. We feel sorry for the innocent half of the couple though, as he feels we have walked away for no reason. |
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over a year ago
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones.
We can just see it will all end in tears. Just so wrong they will continue to meet other couples and maybe cause more upset somewhere else too.
Well, as I said in my first post its best not to get too involved in other people's dramas. You aren't responsible for their actions and you dont know their private dynamic. As long as you're not directly involved .
We just want to avoid and no longer want them as part of our lifestyle. We feel sorry for the innocent half of the couple though, as he feels we have walked away for no reason."
The male of any couple who know you will now view his partner suspiciously.
For the sake of everyone, speak up or "Block" & move on.
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones.
We can just see it will all end in tears. Just so wrong they will continue to meet other couples and maybe cause more upset somewhere else too.
Well, as I said in my first post its best not to get too involved in other people's dramas. You aren't responsible for their actions and you dont know their private dynamic. As long as you're not directly involved .
We just want to avoid and no longer want them as part of our lifestyle. We feel sorry for the innocent half of the couple though, as he feels we have walked away for no reason.
The male of any couple who know you will now view his partner suspiciously.
For the sake of everyone, speak up or "Block" & move on.
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Naming and shaming is banned so they can't speak up.
Why can't they have moan, everyone else on these forums do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i can tell you from experience, my wife and i were swingers for 20 yrs until i found out in December she had been playing behind my back for six months under the pretence she was visiting her ailing father...........filthy cheating bitch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah i got made redundant from a good job and been struggling to find something else, so instead she went looking for something else..........still a bitch |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
People swing for all sorts of reasons not all of them good ones.
We can just see it will all end in tears. Just so wrong they will continue to meet other couples and maybe cause more upset somewhere else too.
Well, as I said in my first post its best not to get too involved in other people's dramas. You aren't responsible for their actions and you dont know their private dynamic. As long as you're not directly involved .
We just want to avoid and no longer want them as part of our lifestyle. We feel sorry for the innocent half of the couple though, as he feels we have walked away for no reason.
The male of any couple who know you will now view his partner suspiciously.
For the sake of everyone, speak up or "Block" & move on.
Naming and shaming is banned so they can't speak up.
Why can't they have moan, everyone else on these forums do.
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I didn't mean to stop anyone moaning, it helps to share the moan.
Point noted re naming & shaming.
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience. "
Is that a spider sense? Does it come with other abilities?
I'm sure for some it maybe an attempt to save a relationship, but you've been very unlucky if they are the only couples you've met.
Not sure why a last ditch attempt to save a relationship would classify as a comedy moment though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It obviously makes you feel uncomfortable and you so strongly disagree with it then you shouldn't meet them again. No need to be judgemental though as you don't know what is really going on in their marriage. |
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"It obviously makes you feel uncomfortable and you so strongly disagree with it then you shouldn't meet them again. No need to be judgemental though as you don't know what is really going on in their marriage."
Ah be judgemental everyone is. Let me find my stone I feel like casting some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair play to you OP you must have some morals regarding cheating for this to bother you, which is rare these days.
We'd feel the same.
Don't let anyone tell you that cheating is normal or acceptable if you feel otherwise. Rise above it |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all....
I always sense from the few couples I have met, it's a last ditch attempt to save the relationship, and an excuse to cheat, and makes me laugh, "we are very much in love, happily married couple" really??????? just my experience.
Is that a spider sense? Does it come with other abilities?
I'm sure for some it maybe an attempt to save a relationship, but you've been very unlucky if they are the only couples you've met.
Not sure why a last ditch attempt to save a relationship would classify as a comedy moment though? "
I think they were meaning that the comedy comes from the couples who insist they are madly in love and have the perfect marriage, when it's obvious it is the opposite. That is quite laughable, not the fact the marriage is on the rocks. |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
So the couple is not really madly in love with each other? Oh the shock horror as normally the couples are so secure! Seems this is real life after all...."
Lol yep. I've heard this over the years. Like the old adage " couples that play together, stay together" and it's not always true. My previous swinging partner cheated on me badly. And I know others who have had problems.
OP just leave them to sort themselves out, however if they're on FAB they do of course have access to forums too  |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!"
There could be a number of reasons why the party did it. Maybe asking them rather than just rejecting them would be a good place to start. My partner hasn't been well for the last 3 years. We have gone from having a very active sex life 2 or 3 times a day. To once every 2 or 3 months. I get to the point sometimes that I could quite happily go out and shag anything that moved just because I crave the attention. Toria |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!
There could be a number of reasons why the party did it. Maybe asking them rather than just rejecting them would be a good place to start. My partner hasn't been well for the last 3 years. We have gone from having a very active sex life 2 or 3 times a day. To once every 2 or 3 months. I get to the point sometimes that I could quite happily go out and shag anything that moved just because I crave the attention. Toria "
I quite agree, we all have our reasons and choices to make.
I've made mine and happy with them xx |
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"Fair play to you OP you must have some morals regarding cheating for this to bother you, which is rare these days.
We'd feel the same.
Don't let anyone tell you that cheating is normal or acceptable if you feel otherwise. Rise above it "
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By (user no longer on site)
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all of us work within our own moral parameters. You are more than within your rights to choose to no longer meet people because they have gone outside of them. they're no longer the people you thought they were, dont fit your dynamic and you no longer wish to see or play with them. This is okay and you don't have to justify your thoughts or feelings to them or anyone else. |
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"all of us work within our own moral parameters. You are more than within your rights to choose to no longer meet people because they have gone outside of them. they're no longer the people you thought they were, dont fit your dynamic and you no longer wish to see or play with them. This is okay and you don't have to justify your thoughts or feelings to them or anyone else. "
Exactly .It's all very well people saying not to judge however we all have our own moral judgement! |
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"We just found out a couple who we have known a while, one of them has been cheating on the other behind their back. It has really put us off the couple and no longer have any intentions on seeing or playing with them again due to this. How does everyone else feel about this? We just can't face how one of them play happy families while shagging behind the others back!"
if they read this then I think you just let the cat out of the bag
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The whole purpose of being here is to be able to be non monogamous in a non judgement way. Consent is key, if a primary partner is unaware, they do not consent to the risks brought their way. Because of that we refuse to play with anyone in a relationship with a none aware, none consenting partner.
Be honest. Be true to yourself. |
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By *ouste OP Couple
over a year ago
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We have just walked away from them and avoiding them, its not our business and don't want to be involved. They have taken it fairly bad though as we have not told them why. Its not our place to tell them! |
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"Cheaters on here makes me sick
Bitterness and anger isn't an attractive quality either, just saying."
The question of consent is high i. this situation. How important is consent say in a BDSM scene and how little regard is given to the consent of a non aware partner. |
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"We agree op, you could well be dragged into the drama , when it all comes out,especially if you are friends and you knew one was cheating in the othe"
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"We agree op, you could well be dragged into the drama , when it all comes out,especially if you are friends and you knew one was cheating in the othe"
And especially as youve posted about in on a public forum. You may well of caused a lot of heartache for a lot of people. Hardly being discrete. |
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"We have just walked away from them and avoiding them, its not our business and don't want to be involved. They have taken it fairly bad though as we have not told them why. Its not our place to tell them!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh the outrage.
You know diddly squat about the dynamics of someone else's relationship so don't dwell on what might be happening, it's probably nothing like you are imagining anyway.
Message the couple a simple thanks but we're moving on type text and then block.
You can then get on with meeting someone who suits your preferences.
End of drama.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Simple advice keep your distance and don't get involved...I am sure the couple in question will resolve their issues in time. Decision is yours on how the relationship evolves during the turbulent times and after...hope it helps
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"Ah super, today's 'cheaters' thread!  "
Nope you are late to the party.
It was yesterdays thread.
If people want to cheat that's their choice, I don't see why anyone feels that cheaters should carry some clause that no one should comment about their activities.
Humans tend to gossip about each other. Is it any of my business if I see a friend d*unk and wasted, no do people gossip about knowing that their friends and colleagues were d*unk hell yes.
Cheating ain't any different to any other activity or choice. the it's none of your business excuse does not apply in any other walk of life. |
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"Fair play to you OP you must have some morals regarding cheating for this to bother you, which is rare these days.
We'd feel the same.
Don't let anyone tell you that cheating is normal or acceptable if you feel otherwise. Rise above it "
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Swinging. Is no different to other walks of life,some people are always going to cheat regardless of their relationship and are plain greedy.
Just block and move on op,dont get caught up in their drama.
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"Swinging. Is no different to other walks of life,some people are always going to cheat regardless of their relationship and are plain greedy.
Just block and move on op,dont get caught up in their drama.
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