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So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude. |
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"So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude."
Can you not ask prior xx |
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"So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude.
Can you not ask prior xx"
Well that's why I'm asking this question to be honest. I was exchanging messages with somebody. Then i politely asked and they blocked me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You defo need to ask as it's certainly not something that can be prevented, not for me anyway.
I wouldn't be offended though, it's not for everyone and can be a pain with a endless mess and wet patches but you get over that when Fucking someone who loves it. If they're squeamish and don't like it then it wouldn't be half as much fun!
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"It's not something that has happened to me but would probably end the meeting for me if that happens while I was licking her cunt  "
so you are expecting women to hold back their orgasm. Im sure most would rather you just didn't go down there
Personally its rare I orgasm or gush full stop with anyone but my Partner... and I would hold back or stop them if i got close. But i know im unusual or odd which ever way you want to put it |
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"So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude."
Bit of a niche market for people who enjoy having their face pissed on I would imagine ?  |
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"So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude.
Can you not ask prior xx
Well that's why I'm asking this question to be honest. I was exchanging messages with somebody. Then i politely asked and they blocked me. "
Their loss Xxx |
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I don't think it's quite as simple as 'ladies who gush/squirt and those who don't'
Some gush/squirt far more easily than others. I never gush during oral. It takes very deliberate/concentrated effort with fingers in exactly the right spot with a guy who knows what he's doing. Ie it's never an 'accident'. I do gush slightly on a guy's cock when I'm riding it (as I orgasm) but I've yet to meet a man who hasn't loved that!
So you're not just asking if they gush/squirt - but how easily! See what I mean?
Oh and btw - the fluid I emit is clear and virtually odourless - NOT pee - but I still wouldn't like a mouthful of it either!
Peachy xx |
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I love it if i can make a woman squirt through just oral its the ultimate for me and doesnt happen often, usually need some sort of penetration to find the spot and thats if they do squirt. One ex who squirted didnt let me make her come through oral for ages because ex boyfriends had made her feel self concious about it. Youd have to be careful how you word it and make it straight thats its not a bad thing just not for you. |
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By *emel9Man
over a year ago
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There is also the issue of the first timer. Someone that has never done it before, but then suddenly does in the moment.
Those who can have to do it for a first time 
So you could ask, and still get a face full. |
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"It's not something that has happened to me but would probably end the meeting for me if that happens while I was licking her cunt so you are expecting women to hold back their orgasm. Im sure most would rather you just didn't go down there
Personally its rare I orgasm or gush full stop with anyone but my Partner... and I would hold back or stop them if i got close. But i know im unusual or odd which ever way you want to put it"
You're not odd, but it's my personal prefference as you have yours xx  |
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"Thanks everyone. I think i will carry on asking. Seems like i just asked somebody who was very easily offended. "
Great question, glad you asked it. 
I really don't like it either but I don't want to offend anyone. I'm ok watching from afar but not up close.  |
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"It make's a change to see a different question regarding squirting actually,rather than the usual is squirting wee.
Is it wee though ? "
Erm no it's not |
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"Thanks everyone. I think i will carry on asking. Seems like i just asked somebody who was very easily offended. "
I think all you can do is ask, it's like any other preference in my mind, good luck |
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i would say im cumming - give said person time to move face out of the way or place my hand over - but as this is not 100% guaranteed you either avoid squirters or adapt the play - more to girlie play than licking pussy |
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"So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude."
did not think you could squirt just with oral? Thought you had to hit "the spot"
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I don't usually squirt from oral alone, but I still warn a guy when he goes down that he may get wet. Not everyone enjoys it, and I certainly don't want to make a mess of the bed that I'll be sleeping in.
I can stop myself if I want to so it's not an involuntary action...and neither is it pee!  |
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My god I think I have heard it all now. I'm sorry but some of the comments from some of the single blokes just make me laugh. Is it wee? I would just stop.lol I'm sorry but you would be chuffed you got your first meet.Stop day dreaming lads believe me when I say it's great when you make your partner squirt, it's not wee at all and not all women can do it I would say about 20%. If you dont like it just ask her it's easy.plus out of that 20% I would say only about 20% can do it through oral.so that is only 4% of all women. |
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For what it's worth my opinion is bring it on......I love giving oral and if a woman wants to squirt/gush as she is excited/enjoying what I'm doing......then that is just fine by me!!! Maybe I'm just weird...  |
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I don't orgasm with oral or intercourse but I do gush if I'm fingered hard I don't Squirt at all so I'd just tell the guy to avoid Fingering me hard then you'll be safe. |
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"My god I think I have heard it all now. I'm sorry but some of the comments from some of the single blokes just make me laugh. Is it wee? I would just stop.lol I'm sorry but you would be chuffed you got your first meet.Stop day dreaming lads believe me when I say it's great when you make your partner squirt, it's not wee at all and not all women can do it I would say about 20%. If you dont like it just ask her it's easy.plus out of that 20% I would say only about 20% can do it through oral.so that is only 4% of all women."
It comes from the bladder. It is wee mixed with fluids from a gland. Ask your doctor. |
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"My god I think I have heard it all now. I'm sorry but some of the comments from some of the single blokes just make me laugh. Is it wee? I would just stop.lol I'm sorry but you would be chuffed you got your first meet.Stop day dreaming lads believe me when I say it's great when you make your partner squirt, it's not wee at all and not all women can do it I would say about 20%. If you dont like it just ask her it's easy.plus out of that 20% I would say only about 20% can do it through oral.so that is only 4% of all women.
It comes from the bladder. It is wee mixed with fluids from a gland. Ask your doctor."
You might not do it yourself but I know for a fact it doesn't come out the urethra. It comes out the fanny. A completely different hole X |
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"My god I think I have heard it all now. I'm sorry but some of the comments from some of the single blokes just make me laugh. Is it wee? I would just stop.lol I'm sorry but you would be chuffed you got your first meet.Stop day dreaming lads believe me when I say it's great when you make your partner squirt, it's not wee at all and not all women can do it I would say about 20%. If you dont like it just ask her it's easy.plus out of that 20% I would say only about 20% can do it through oral.so that is only 4% of all women.
It comes from the bladder. It is wee mixed with fluids from a gland. Ask your doctor."
it doesnt for me.. as it comes from inside my vagina... not where my pee comes from |
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"My god I think I have heard it all now. I'm sorry but some of the comments from some of the single blokes just make me laugh. Is it wee? I would just stop.lol I'm sorry but you would be chuffed you got your first meet.Stop day dreaming lads believe me when I say it's great when you make your partner squirt, it's not wee at all and not all women can do it I would say about 20%. If you dont like it just ask her it's easy.plus out of that 20% I would say only about 20% can do it through oral.so that is only 4% of all women.
It comes from the bladder. It is wee mixed with fluids from a gland. Ask your doctor. it doesnt for me.. as it comes from inside my vagina... not where my pee comes from "
Correct. Ive gushed and no urine comes out just clear liquid which has no real scent |
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"It make's a change to see a different question regarding squirting actually,rather than the usual is squirting wee.
Is it wee though ?
Think we all know the answer to that! "
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"So I'm bi and I enjoy going down on ladies. But I really don't like them squirting, it would make me feel ill to experience it and it's putting me off being with a woman as so many seem to do it now. Personal preference. So how do i get round this without being rude."
I'd get the conversation to orgasms, and then I'd say "have you ever managed to squirt when you cum".
This implies you haven't, but doesn't make it look like your against the idea, and if the girl says no you're into a winner, if she says yes, you can then say "ahhh, I'm really not sure how I'd react to that, it's not really my thing. Do you always squirt when you cum". |
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I've only squirted through vigorous fingering and hard fucking.
Someone just licking my pussy wouldn't do it.
Everyone is different.
A woman squirted over my face once, luckily we were in a hot tub so it washed right off and didn't bother me too much x |
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"My god I think I have heard it all now. I'm sorry but some of the comments from some of the single blokes just make me laugh. Is it wee? I would just stop.lol I'm sorry but you would be chuffed you got your first meet.Stop day dreaming lads believe me when I say it's great when you make your partner squirt, it's not wee at all and not all women can do it I would say about 20%. If you dont like it just ask her it's easy.plus out of that 20% I would say only about 20% can do it through oral.so that is only 4% of all women."
I'm in the 4% then my partner loves it...although he does compare it to water boarding when I'm sat on his face and it happens |
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There seems to be a lot of misunderstanding in this thread.
Some people think it's the same as peeing, which it isn't.
Some people, including the OP, think that it's voluntary, which it isn't, at least for me. Sometimes it happens, sometimes not. If you're going to relax and enjoy yourself, you can't just turn it off.
And some people think it coincides with orgasm, which (again, at least for me), it doesn't.
Anyway, to answer the original question, I think nobody would be offended if you just said "Do you ever gush or squirt?". There are enough people who love it (including me) that no-one is going to feel deprived.
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"It's not something that has happened to me but would probably end the meeting for me if that happens while I was licking her cunt so you are expecting women to hold back their orgasm. Im sure most would rather you just didn't go down there
Personally its rare I orgasm or gush full stop with anyone but my Partner... and I would hold back or stop them if i got close. But i know im unusual or odd which ever way you want to put it"
No you cretin. Women can orgasm without squirting... no one is telling them not too. Just asking do they.
Girls who squirt generally have to have a specific set of buttons pressed. Granted some just do but that's a minority... why inflame a thread with 's your asking her not to orgasm'... no, she's not. Clown.
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"There seems to be a lot of misunderstanding in this thread.
Some people think it's the same as peeing, which it isn't.
Some people, including the OP, think that it's voluntary, which it isn't, at least for me. Sometimes it happens, sometimes not. If you're going to relax and enjoy yourself, you can't just turn it off.
And some people think it coincides with orgasm, which (again, at least for me), it doesn't.
Anyway, to answer the original question, I think nobody would be offended if you just said "Do you ever gush or squirt?". There are enough people who love it (including me) that no-one is going to feel deprived.
Janet"
Bang on. |
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I gush sometimes during sex, or the ol magic fingers technique, but never from oral. It's completely involuntary so nothing to be done about that OP. I don't know about you ladies but it's not an orgasm, for me that's an entirely different feeling. Love it though! |
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Can't beat a good squirt!! I have to be totally relaxed for it to happen, and for my man to give me a damn hard fingering... but when it happens... wow... that reminds me, I must wipe the wardrobe doors down! Lol |
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I'd get the conversation to orgasms, and then I'd say "have you ever managed to squirt when you cum".
This implies you haven't, but doesn't make it look like your against the idea, and if the girl says no you're into a winner, if she says yes, you can then say "ahhh, I'm really not sure how I'd react to that, it's not really my thing. Do you always squirt when you cum". "
I like this. I'm doing this. I felt i was being too blunt before. But this is a great suggestion. Thank you.
As the thread has gone on it seems some women can control it and some can't. Which has confirmed what i thought already. So putting it the way you suggest is the best way i think. |
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