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When to Verify?
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Do you verify when you've chatted, when you've met, when you've played, or all of the above?
We've tended to do a social and not verify until we've had fun - is that wrong?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the individual, happy to verify after a social meet but will state that was what it was in the verification.
I generally dont verify if not asked to do so though as Im not that fond of them to be honest |
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When you know the person/couple are genuine I think.
I don't think verification is supposed to be an account of what they're like in the sack - what works for one person may not for another after all. So if we meet someone and know they are who they profess to be on their profile we'd verify. If they're pleasant company we'd also mention that as well but I won't give a blow by blow account (no pun intended) on what we got up to
If you choose to verify using a different criteria then who's to say that's wrong |
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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago
We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !! |
People do like to vari others when they've met socially but again meeting with someone dosent nessesaraly mean that will play, all it does is show you that they are real people ,like camming or phoning shows you because surley after youve played with someone only then can you say that they are 100%genuine but its a difficult 1 mind and it will be good to see the response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we got told due to new changes that have happened in fab the varification by webcam dont realy stand , but that was there own opinion.
i dont think any one actully knows now to be honest. we normal verify via cam then write a verification we wont veri in meeting in person as it looks like another nothch on the bed post so to speak |
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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago
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i tend to only give verifications to those i have met in person be that socially or for more. always state when just socially. but even then how that person behaves with you could be different than with another. |
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"i think there going to be alot of diffrent answers to this question "
You're right ... some will only verify someone as genuine if they play whereas I think the fact we meet someone socially but don't play doesn't make them (or us)time-wasters or fake we just may not click with each other.
I've seen verifications where every 'ooh', 'ahh', lick, suck and blow has been recorded - I don't see that as relevant but who am I to say they shouldn't big someone up in that way? I just don't think it's necessary - but that's only my opinion, for what it's worth. |
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"Do you verify when you've chatted, when you've met, when you've played, or all of the above?
We've tended to do a social and not verify until we've had fun - is that wrong?
any ideas fellow members? "
Wrong ?...there isn't a rule book,though plenty seem to believe otherwise. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only verify when I've played. I don't cam anyway (my cam was last used in 2003 and has been in a box of cables and stuff since then). I won't go into graphic detail but I will verify if they were good social company as well as a good shag.
(I've had one meet that went disastrously awry just as we were getting down to business - I had to ask him to leave and needless to say I didn't verify him but as he already has veris I didn't feel bad about it. I couldn't have said anything beyond "yes, he exists, he turned up on time" anyway as I couldn't say anything nice about him. I've also had a couple of meets where the man was rubbish in bed and I didn't verify.)
The one no-play veri I did was for a couple I know socially through elsewhere. It was a bit of a surprise when I saw them on here even though I knew they swing. I think it was more a shock for them, though, as they didn't know I do. They were new on Fab so I verified them purely on the social level because they are good, honest, reliable people as well as friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i think there going to be alot of diffrent answers to this question "
As many as those that post! 
I personally don't like them as able to make my own mind up about people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whilst we veri and like to be verified we must say when perving..... er looking for friends / a meet we don't read the veri's except for a quick glance as everybody has different tastes"
This is true. While I do use the veri system quite alot, I don't actually put more store into those left by others. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I am very much like Sirena, in that I don't verify a crap meet. What would be the point? They wouldn't put it on their profile if I did anyway.
I do ask for veris and always wish I waited til I get them because more often than not the guy forgets and I don't like asking again. And I really wish we could delete them off their profile when they turn out to be idiots after the first meet.  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I am very much like Sirena, in that I don't verify a crap meet. What would be the point? They wouldn't put it on their profile if I did anyway.
I do ask for veris and always wish I waited til I get them because more often than not the guy forgets and I don't like asking again. And I really wish we could delete them off their profile when they turn out to be idiots after the first meet. :-
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If you block them your verification goes off their profile x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I am very much like Sirena, in that I don't verify a crap meet. What would be the point? They wouldn't put it on their profile if I did anyway.
I do ask for veris and always wish I waited til I get them because more often than not the guy forgets and I don't like asking again. And I really wish we could delete them off their profile when they turn out to be idiots after the first meet. :-
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If you block them your verification goes off their profile x"
Oh really??? 
But then it will come off mine too. Hmmm, what to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am very much like Sirena, in that I don't verify a crap meet. What would be the point? They wouldn't put it on their profile if I did anyway.
I do ask for veris and always wish I waited til I get them because more often than not the guy forgets and I don't like asking again. And I really wish we could delete them off their profile when they turn out to be idiots after the first meet. :-
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If you block them your verification goes off their profile x
Oh really???
But then it will come off mine too. Hmmm, what to do."
I hate this. I saw someone here very regularly for 5 months and we became a proper couple for a while but then we split up and it ended really badly. I asked him to take my veri of him off his profile because of this but he refused, probably because he only had one other, so I ended up having to block him which I didn't want, and it took his veri of me off mine. And because I blocked him he got really pissed off and now won't talk to me at all, which is probably not what either of us wanted really.
I'd really like veri givers to be able to withdraw a veri, which you can't under the current set-up. This seems wrong that you can only remove veris by blocking, which may not always be the ideal option. |
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We very when we have meet socially, its more to prove that the person/couple are genuine. I wouldnt put up play veri's as its no one else's buisness who we play with and i like to keep it that way. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I hate this. I saw someone here very regularly for 5 months and we became a proper couple for a while but then we split up and it ended really badly. I asked him to take my veri of him off his profile because of this but he refused, probably because he only had one other, so I ended up having to block him which I didn't want, and it took his veri of me off mine. And because I blocked him he got really pissed off and now won't talk to me at all, which is probably not what either of us wanted really.
I'd really like veri givers to be able to withdraw a veri, which you can't under the current set-up. This seems wrong that you can only remove veris by blocking, which may not always be the ideal option. "
Blocking does seem a bit drastic for basically just wanting to not be tied to someone because they were less of a arsehole for one evening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you verify when you've chatted, when you've met, when you've played, or all of the above?
We've tended to do a social and not verify until we've had fun - is that wrong?
any ideas fellow members? "
probs best to wait till you have met - they could be timewasters!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Once you are verified, I don't see the reason or advantage of having continuous verifications.
Surely if you're genuine today, you are going to be genuine tomorrow? Also, just because you had a good time with Mr & Mrs A, it doesn't mean that someone else will.
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"Do you verify when you've chatted, when you've met, when you've played, or all of the above?
We've tended to do a social and not verify until we've had fun - is that wrong?
any ideas fellow members? "
Only after a meet.
The majority of the guys I meet prefer discretion and I would not compromise their wishes by verifying their profile without asking if it was ok.
OK they have the option to include the text or not but personally I don't see the point in writing one unless it is likely to be shown at some point.
If I want to address the fact that I enjoyed a particular meet, I would send the other party a private message.
I have only swayed from this once and that was because I was a newbie's first meet and he asked if I would verify the fact that he was genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know verifications are a bit like marmite but I like to read other people's verifications. As a single girl it just gives me that little bit of extra info that could be the deal breaker as to whether I meet or not. I know everyone is different, but until you actually meet someone for the first time all you can go on is the profile, messages and verifications. |
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"I know verifications are a bit like marmite but I like to read other people's verifications. As a single girl it just gives me that little bit of extra info that could be the deal breaker as to whether I meet or not. I know everyone is different, but until you actually meet someone for the first time all you can go on is the profile, messages and verifications."
I like to read them too! |
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"Once you are verified, I don't see the reason or advantage of having continuous verifications.
Surely if you're genuine today, you are going to be genuine tomorrow? Also, just because you had a good time with Mr & Mrs A, it doesn't mean that someone else will.
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"Once you are verified, I don't see the reason or advantage of having continuous verifications.
Surely if you're genuine today, you are going to be genuine tomorrow? Also, just because you had a good time with Mr & Mrs A, it doesn't mean that someone else will.
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That's why we pay little attention to other peoples.i must own up to simply displaying mine cos its fab when ppl say nice things !i am a simple soul,easily pleased! |
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"Once you are verified, I don't see the reason or advantage of having continuous verifications.
Surely if you're genuine today, you are going to be genuine tomorrow? Also, just because you had a good time with Mr & Mrs A, it doesn't mean that someone else will.
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Yes but say someone found 2 or 3 people who they could meet regularly however for whatever reason, a while after first meeting these people and getting verifications from them, they were looking for a new playmate.
People who they contact now will only see verifications which are quite old and might assume that there's a reason for this and be put-off by it.
Not saying this is the case, just feeling a bit mischievous tonight |
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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago
We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !! |
Well we are happy to give and receive varies tbh and if ppl av spent the time to put 1 up for us it seems rude not to display it beens they put the effort in and yea i would agree that some are smutty as are some of ours but if they engoyed that much carry on we say we cant help it if we are awsome lol |
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seems resonable 
