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over a year ago
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Anal, I'd never let anyone do that to me other than Fred, but he's more than welcome to give to others if he/they want. He doesn't particularly like going down on other women, it's not to say he won't it's just less likely, which is a shame as I loce to watch that. |
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We started out with rules but they all ended up out of the window when we were having fun. The only solid restriction for me is our house, we could accommodate but won't, I don't want to share my bed with someone else and don't want to mix personal life with swinging life. |
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We keep our relationship just for ourselves. By that I mean our marriage, the day to day intimacy, affection and communication and what we consider to be the physical expressions of that e.g. holding hands, kissing.
I'm well aware that lots of people will say that fucking is more intimate than those things but to us that's confusing fucking with making love.
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"We keep our relationship just for ourselves. By that I mean our marriage, the day to day intimacy, affection and communication and what we consider to be the physical expressions of that e.g. holding hands, kissing.
I'm well aware that lots of people will say that fucking is more intimate than those things but to us that's confusing fucking with making love.
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love this. Some things to think about. Totally agree theres a difference.  |
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"We started out with rules but they all ended up out of the window when we were having fun. The only solid restriction for me is our house, we could accommodate but won't, I don't want to share my bed with someone else and don't want to mix personal life with swinging life. "
Yes...absolutely agree you home is your family unit. |
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"If it is people we know then they can have everything. New friends do get the odd restriction till we know them properly."
Sounds like the best way to go. Having restrictions but trust gets you more. I believe there are some things to keep to your marriage too . Thankyou |
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I was close to meeting a couple until they told me i could only kiss the fem. It was to be full sex with the guy but no kissing. I found it off putting if im honest. Kissing is very much part of the fun for me but I guess its different when meeting another couple as Youd still have your own partner for kissing. |
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"I was close to meeting a couple until they told me i could only kiss the fem. It was to be full sex with the guy but no kissing. I found it off putting if im honest. Kissing is very much part of the fun for me but I guess its different when meeting another couple as Youd still have your own partner for kissing. "
Our first ever meet was with a single guy who said he didn't want to kiss before we even mentioned it. It really is a case of no right and no wrong way of doing this swinging lark |
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"I was close to meeting a couple until they told me i could only kiss the fem. It was to be full sex with the guy but no kissing. I found it off putting if im honest. Kissing is very much part of the fun for me but I guess its different when meeting another couple as Youd still have your own partner for kissing.
Our first ever meet was with a single guy who said he didn't want to kiss before we even mentioned it. It really is a case of no right and no wrong way of doing this swinging lark "
Exactly. Theres plenty of people who will match what youre looking for so if youre not happy then move on  |
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"I was close to meeting a couple until they told me i could only kiss the fem. It was to be full sex with the guy but no kissing. I found it off putting if im honest. Kissing is very much part of the fun for me but I guess its different when meeting another couple as Youd still have your own partner for kissing. "
I have to agree with this, i find if you don't kiss it all seems a bit robotty, kidsing gets us both proper turned on! So I'm not sure we could meet anyone that didn't kiss.
I'll only do anal if the cock isn't huge 
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I cant so anal very easily and need to trust the person so while not a rule its rare we do it with someone else fucking me there .
For me its intimacy. Thats for Mr... but he is intimate with all. X |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Our home, It's our place where we shut out everything so even if the kids were not here being babysat we still wouldn't accommodate here.
Anal was a "Just for us" & still is for H unless she's giving with her strapon 
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"I was close to meeting a couple until they told me i could only kiss the fem. It was to be full sex with the guy but no kissing. I found it off putting if im honest. Kissing is very much part of the fun for me but I guess its different when meeting another couple as Youd still have your own partner for kissing.
Our first ever meet was with a single guy who said he didn't want to kiss before we even mentioned it. It really is a case of no right and no wrong way of doing this swinging lark
Exactly. Theres plenty of people who will match what youre looking for so if youre not happy then move on "
I wish more people understood this. |
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"We normaly keep kissing between just us. Just one of things that we like to keep to just us"
Us too. Kissing is for just us. Lots of guys have backed out of meets or blocked us when we say this which is fine, as many have respected this and still had an amazing time regardless. |
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"Yes our money lol
as true yorkies being like scots we have to agree with you in fact feeling quite ill at thought i might have to share cash!!!!!!! lol "
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Theoretically there is nothing sexually or emotionally we keep just for ourselves. We don't feel we need to. What we feel we have that separates our relationship from any other relationships we may have, is that we have kids together, we've built a home together, we'll grow old together, we put each other first. The list goes on and on. On choosing this lifestyle, we would not restrict our fun with others, not to mention restrict the enjoyment of a new partner (because lets face it we want our playmates to have maximum enjoyment too), in order to keep something back for ourselves. We feel we have so much that is exclusive to us anyway, that there is no need to make a formal decision to keep a sexual activity back. We also have no issues with me becoming infatuated with someone, or either of us seeing people alone, (although the latter took time to build up to). And here's the real taboo - we might even do things with other partners that we don't do with each other! But we feel thats the beauty of swinging - it extends the possibilities and the pleasures and the variety, both sexually an emotionally, but without infringing on our marriage.
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"Theoretically there is nothing sexually or emotionally we keep just for ourselves. We don't feel we need to. What we feel we have that separates our relationship from any other relationships we may have, is that we have kids together, we've built a home together, we'll grow old together, we put each other first. The list goes on and on. On choosing this lifestyle, we would not restrict our fun with others, not to mention restrict the enjoyment of a new partner (because lets face it we want our playmates to have maximum enjoyment too), in order to keep something back for ourselves. We feel we have so much that is exclusive to us anyway, that there is no need to make a formal decision to keep a sexual activity back. We also have no issues with me becoming infatuated with someone, or either of us seeing people alone, (although the latter took time to build up to). And here's the real taboo - we might even do things with other partners that we don't do with each other! But we feel thats the beauty of swinging - it extends the possibilities and the pleasures and the variety, both sexually an emotionally, but without infringing on our marriage.
Mrs
Mrs"
I applaud you for this.. and wish that I could be like this.. but it works for you. and may not for someone else.. but this would be the ideal.. but I dont think emotionally I would handle. |
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By *icpl81Couple
over a year ago
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We started out with quite a few rules and we're soft swap only. No kissing went after our first meet, felt werid not to kiss our playmates.
We have yet to have our first full swap meet but is happening very soon. We've spoken in depth about what we're both comfortable with because let's face it sex is suppose to be enjoyable and amazing for all involved! I want my partner to give both members of the other couple pleasure, they are not our playthings for our pleasure! But also receive pleasure in return, we believe a certainly amount of going with the flow is needed for a meet to go well and for all parties to get what they want and need from it.
The only things we won't be doing with others are bareback - that is for us only, the risks along with it are too high, even if playmate are 'clean' the risk of pregnancy is not something we want. And sleeping. Cuddling up in bed and falling to sleep at night, waking up to that person is special to a relationship. In our personal opinion anyway.
In truth thou there is not right or wrong way to swing! It's about getting out of the experience what you seek and being secure in your relationship whatever boundaries are in place, communication! Always communicate and no the limits of all involved before playing - her xx |
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"We started out with quite a few rules and we're soft swap only. No kissing went after our first meet, felt werid not to kiss our playmates.
We have yet to have our first full swap meet but is happening very soon. We've spoken in depth about what we're both comfortable with because let's face it sex is suppose to be enjoyable and amazing for all involved! I want my partner to give both members of the other couple pleasure, they are not our playthings for our pleasure! But also receive pleasure in return, we believe a certainly amount of going with the flow is needed for a meet to go well and for all parties to get what they want and need from it.
The only things we won't be doing with others are bareback - that is for us only, the risks along with it are too high, even if playmate are 'clean' the risk of pregnancy is not something we want. And sleeping. Cuddling up in bed and falling to sleep at night, waking up to that person is special to a relationship. In our personal opinion anyway.
In truth thou there is not right or wrong way to swing! It's about getting out of the experience what you seek and being secure in your relationship whatever boundaries are in place, communication! Always communicate and no the limits of all involved before playing - her xx"
I think you've hit the nail on the head about not treating friends on the scene as 'playthings' for your pleasure, and that, within reason, sex should be a 2-way process of giving and receiving. It's probably a bit different for couple swaps, because if one couple has things they don't do with other people e.g. kissing or penetrative sex, then at least everybody can kiss or have sex with their own partner, so no one goes without. I think it must be harder for a single person joining a couple and them being the only one in the trio who's not allowed to do something. And less face it, although I'm sure there are exceptions, such rules tend to be rules set by couples not singles. Although it's totally their choice to agree to that situation, its probably partly why couples who meet singles are often tarnished with the reputation of treating singles as playthings.
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"We started out with quite a few rules and we're soft swap only. No kissing went after our first meet, felt werid not to kiss our playmates.
We have yet to have our first full swap meet but is happening very soon. We've spoken in depth about what we're both comfortable with because let's face it sex is suppose to be enjoyable and amazing for all involved! I want my partner to give both members of the other couple pleasure, they are not our playthings for our pleasure! But also receive pleasure in return, we believe a certainly amount of going with the flow is needed for a meet to go well and for all parties to get what they want and need from it.
The only things we won't be doing with others are bareback - that is for us only, the risks along with it are too high, even if playmate are 'clean' the risk of pregnancy is not something we want. And sleeping. Cuddling up in bed and falling to sleep at night, waking up to that person is special to a relationship. In our personal opinion anyway.
In truth thou there is not right or wrong way to swing! It's about getting out of the experience what you seek and being secure in your relationship whatever boundaries are in place, communication! Always communicate and no the limits of all involved before playing - her xx
I think you've hit the nail on the head about not treating friends on the scene as 'playthings' for your pleasure, and that, within reason, sex should be a 2-way process of giving and receiving. It's probably a bit different for couple swaps, because if one couple has things they don't do with other people e.g. kissing or penetrative sex, then at least everybody can kiss or have sex with their own partner, so no one goes without. I think it must be harder for a single person joining a couple and them being the only one in the trio who's not allowed to do something. And less face it, although I'm sure there are exceptions, such rules tend to be rules set by couples not singles. Although it's totally their choice to agree to that situation, its probably partly why couples who meet singles are often tarnished with the reputation of treating singles as playthings.
Mrs"
Thank you! Exactly. But unfortunately a lot do see playmates as playthings! Share the love! Make sure everyone is enjoying the play not just the couple. I'd personally be gutted if our playmate didn't have an amazing time! X |
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I don't do anal but I don't do it with Adam either. I don't enjoy it.
We don't accommodate even if we are able to at times. It's our family home and it's where u go to shut the door on the world and just be with my three favourite people. I don't want memories of others in it.
Bareback sex. We only bareback with each other.
Make love. There is a difference between passionate, rough, kinky sex etc and making love.
Cuddles, sleeping, spooning, forehead kisses etc. The little affection things we save for just the two of us.
Eve. X |
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