Well, I have a lady friend, we've known each other for 7 years. We often end up in bed and have zero secrets from each other. She has other boyfriends and she knows I swing.
She is always really turned on by the thought of swinging but is painfully shy with her body (but she is stunning) I know myself well enough that swinging is part of who I am.
I think her confidence would soar as a swinger with my encouragement and she sees that in theory.
We both know we'd end up an item if it came to pass....
What to do and how to proceed?
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"Can you not just suggest a club, socially. Say to her to just give it a shot. If it's still not for her then it's cool, at least she's tried?.."
I think that might be the way forward, never been much into clubs myself preferring private parties but i think you may well have the answer there |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Dip your prospective toes in and try Bristol Gardens? The play happens away from everyone and very much behind closed doors by invitation only and it's a really chilled place to hang out. Plus there are usually people of all shapes and sizes there and the public areas aren't all about sex. As a gateway into nudity it's great; I have always been a keep as much lingerie on as possible girl but in that situation I didn't feel self conscious at all once I got over the initial drop the towel and get in a hot spa thing. |
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"Well, I have a lady friend, we've known each other for 7 years. We often end up in bed and have zero secrets from each other. She has other boyfriends and she knows I swing.
She is always really turned on by the thought of swinging but is painfully shy with her body (but she is stunning) I know myself well enough that swinging is part of who I am.
I think her confidence would soar as a swinger with my encouragement and she sees that in theory.
We both know we'd end up an item if it came to pass....
What to do and how to proceed?
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what do you want to do, what does she want to do?
Once you've established that and if you both feel similarly have a chat about how to proceed. If you both decide to swing together and she's not confident about her body take her somewhere that she can remain clothed until she feels comfortable. |
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over a year ago
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"Can you not just suggest a club, socially. Say to her to just give it a shot. If it's still not for her then it's cool, at least she's tried?..
I think that might be the way forward, never been much into clubs myself preferring private parties but i think you may well have the answer there"
Well there's zero pressure to play and also she'll see so many different body types. Gotta be worth ago. To me it's just like going to any other club except if you do fancy someone or what to play together you don't have to go down a back alley haha
Clubs are cool. Think they're the perfect starting place.  |
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"It's simple, talk to her.
We don't know her, you do.
We talk often, she is desperate to get stuck in, but lady body issues hold her back. I reassure her because the is truly gorgeous"
Body issues can be difficult to overcome and not as simple as taking her somewhere that other people are naked |
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"Dip your prospective toes in and try Bristol Gardens? The play happens away from everyone and very much behind closed doors by invitation only and it's a really chilled place to hang out. Plus there are usually people of all shapes and sizes there and the public areas aren't all about sex. As a gateway into nudity it's great; I have always been a keep as much lingerie on as possible girl but in that situation I didn't feel self conscious at all once I got over the initial drop the towel and get in a hot spa thing."
Being that we're both in the Brighton area I did suggest that, Ive been to BGHS many times. But I think she would prefer to "dress to kill" and cover up her perceived wobbly bits at first. She has a killer body but i totally get her body consiuousness
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"Dip your prospective toes in and try Bristol Gardens? The play happens away from everyone and very much behind closed doors by invitation only and it's a really chilled place to hang out. Plus there are usually people of all shapes and sizes there and the public areas aren't all about sex. As a gateway into nudity it's great; I have always been a keep as much lingerie on as possible girl but in that situation I didn't feel self conscious at all once I got over the initial drop the towel and get in a hot spa thing."
I like the sound of this place. Don't mind playing in front of people but sometimes it would be good to be more discreet |
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"Dip your prospective toes in and try Bristol Gardens? The play happens away from everyone and very much behind closed doors by invitation only and it's a really chilled place to hang out. Plus there are usually people of all shapes and sizes there and the public areas aren't all about sex. As a gateway into nudity it's great; I have always been a keep as much lingerie on as possible girl but in that situation I didn't feel self conscious at all once I got over the initial drop the towel and get in a hot spa thing.
Being that we're both in the Brighton area I did suggest that, Ive been to BGHS many times. But I think she would prefer to "dress to kill" and cover up her perceived wobbly bits at first. She has a killer body but i totally get her body consiuousness
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Totally get this! Go for it, ask her.. |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
You could as a suggestion show her fan and let her have a look round the site and maybe take her in the chatrooms on cam. This could be a good confidence booster for her to feel bettet about her figure as others will see her on cam. |
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"You could as a suggestion show her fan and let her have a look round the site and maybe take her in the chatrooms on cam. This could be a good confidence booster for her to feel bettet about her figure as others will see her on cam. "
Im thinking to get some ultra classy sexy pics done for her and seeing the reaction on here as a boost? |
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over a year ago
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"Should bring her to Secrets. See you've met my friend Elegant. We'll look after her!
Im sure all in good time haha"
well I hope so. Good luck! Rooting for ya  |
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"You could as a suggestion show her fan and let her have a look round the site and maybe take her in the chatrooms on cam. This could be a good confidence booster for her to feel bettet about her figure as others will see her on cam. "
Or take some gorgeous classy erotic pics of her and post them on here, see the feedback? Confidence boost is the key |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
I would let her have a look at this site.
You may have to accept that it could just stay a fantasy for her. She may not actually like to swing but just to talk and fantasise over.
Don't show any of her photos without her knowledge or consent though. |
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"I would let her have a look at this site.
You may have to accept that it could just stay a fantasy for her. She may not actually like to swing but just to talk and fantasise over.
Don't show any of her photos without her knowledge or consent though. "
Id never show her photos without consent I could accept her keep[ing swinging as a fantasy and she knows I long since turned it into a reality.
Hence the dilemma. Id never coerce her, but equally she makes it clear she needs encouraging. |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"You could as a suggestion show her fan and let her have a look round the site and maybe take her in the chatrooms on cam. This could be a good confidence booster for her to feel bettet about her figure as others will see her on cam.
Or take some gorgeous classy erotic pics of her and post them on here, see the feedback? Confidence boost is the key"
You'd have to ask her for permission to post pics of her on here before doing it. You might have to change your profile to a couples profile if she does allow you and you put them on. Still thonk the chatrooms and forums on here would be a good start as it'll give her a chance to speak to other like minded people. |
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You'd have to ask her for permission to post pics of her on here before doing it. You might have to change your profile to a couples profile if she does allow you and you put them on. Still thonk the chatrooms and forums on here would be a good start as it'll give her a chance to speak to other like minded people."
I'd never post pics without permission next time I see her I'll show her Fab, she knows I'm on here but has never looked. |
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"I would let her have a look at this site.
You may have to accept that it could just stay a fantasy for her. She may not actually like to swing but just to talk and fantasise over.
Don't show any of her photos without her knowledge or consent though.
Id never show her photos without consent I could accept her keep[ing swinging as a fantasy and she knows I long since turned it into a reality.
Hence the dilemma. Id never coerce her, but equally she makes it clear she needs encouraging. "
Tread warily. This is something that people need to be absolutely clear that they want to do. If she's making it clear she needs encouragement I would suggest that she wants to do it but doesn't want to bear further responsibility for the decision. If after frank, honest discussion she is still saying she needs encouragement I would tell her that you will still be there once she's made her decision and leave her to make it. I could be wrong and apologies if I am but often people want others to encourage them to remove responsibility from themselves if things go wrong. |
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Tread warily. This is something that people need to be absolutely clear that they want to do. If she's making it clear she needs encouragement I would suggest that she wants to do it but doesn't want to bear further responsibility for the decision. If after frank, honest discussion she is still saying she needs encouragement I would tell her that you will still be there once she's made her decision and leave her to make it. I could be wrong and apologies if I am but often people want others to encourage them to remove responsibility from themselves if things go wrong."
I think you are spot on and part of the reason for starting this thread is because I think introducing a friend to swinging needs careful consideration. In this instance we've been friends for years and have discussed the lifestyle on and off. It's just that she has been far more inquisitive just lately. We'd be friends whichever way the chips fall but my main concern is that any introduction to the scene would enhance and not diminish her body confidence. |
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Tread warily. This is something that people need to be absolutely clear that they want to do. If she's making it clear she needs encouragement I would suggest that she wants to do it but doesn't want to bear further responsibility for the decision. If after frank, honest discussion she is still saying she needs encouragement I would tell her that you will still be there once she's made her decision and leave her to make it. I could be wrong and apologies if I am but often people want others to encourage them to remove responsibility from themselves if things go wrong.
I think you are spot on and part of the reason for starting this thread is because I think introducing a friend to swinging needs careful consideration. In this instance we've been friends for years and have discussed the lifestyle on and off. It's just that she has been far more inquisitive just lately. We'd be friends whichever way the chips fall but my main concern is that any introduction to the scene would enhance and not diminish her body confidence. "
Many women have had their body confidence enhanced by swinging but I think it depends on the reason for low body image in the first place. |
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Many women have had their body confidence enhanced by swinging but I think it depends on the reason for low body image in the first place."
I totally agree and who can ever know for sure as we are all different. That's why how to proceed or not is something to be considered and discussed thoroughly |
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