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Who's making an effort

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So having used the phrase 'im not bothered, if it happens it happens' when referring to Meeting anyone on here.

I'm intrigued, how many others have lost the initial excitement of the prospect of meeting others from here?

When I first joined the prospect of hitting it off with someone is there. There's lots of sexy people, I'm Messaging and flirting, But now, Not so much.

Is anyone else the same, treating this as just another social site, hitting the forums and lost the enthusiasm to push the question. Maybe something might happen?

Or are you using it for what it was intended (i think) - To contact and arrange swinging socials/meets?

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

i'd rather have a wank anyway, and anyone who remembers me from when i first joined will know how boring i used to find that and how it did nothing for me and i needed dick every fucking day more than once and got that.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Should we hi5 each other or hang our heads in shame? I'm unsure how we should react.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you should probably engage in some kind of fist pump.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Should we hi5 each other or hang our heads in shame? I'm unsure how we should react.

both maybe.

i mean it's kind of good i'm not pandering to my addiction but my faith in men... well...

i know its not all men but it's really starting to feel like it is all men. idk if i'm just fucking stupid and too naive for this game.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Should we hi5 each other or hang our heads in shame? I'm unsure how we should react.

both maybe.

i mean it's kind of good i'm not pandering to my addiction but my faith in men... well...

? How/why have they put you off.

(I've just come to realise everyone I live to effin far away on here. So my mojo is sulking

)

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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Should we hi5 each other or hang our heads in shame? I'm unsure how we should react.

both maybe.

i mean it's kind of good i'm not pandering to my addiction but my faith in men... well...

? How/why have they put you off.

(I've just come to realise everyone I live to effin far away on here. So my mojo is sulking

) "

i really can't be arsed to listen to their crap, lies, and bullshit. and it's not just fab, it's everywhere where men think they might be able to access your vadge.

and then when you find any that might be friends material and seem like they're nice they just get jealous of other guys and start giving you shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not really making an effort to find new people to meet as I simply don't have the time. I've been lucky enough to meet people that I can arrange repeat meets with.

The initial 'kid in a candy shop' appeal has been jaded over the years. I'm a lot more cynical when reading messages & my BS radar works in overdrive.

Overall though I'm happy with my lot & the site works for me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*just read my post back, badly composed with meet, meet, meets....

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

I'm still happy with the site overall - still a good mix of chat, socialising and sex! Found it hard to find just a few really good fwb's though - which is a shame as I'm somewhat bored with the 'shiny new fuck' concept now! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

? How/why have they put you off.

(I've just come to realise everyone I live to effin far away on here. So my mojo is sulking

)

i really can't be arsed to listen to their crap, lies, and bullshit. and it's not just fab, it's everywhere where men think they might be able to access your vadge.

and then when you find any that might be friends material and seem like they're nice they just get jealous of other guys and start giving you shit."

That's a really negative view of 'men'. (I'm not saying it's wrong for you to have it, but it is a view that doesn't make men attractive)

I can see why your not enthusiastic, if I put all women in a category where the label is 'pile of shit lying b,stards. I'd probably not be hyped up to meet them either.

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By *omerladyWoman over a year ago

Taunton

In all honesty, I feel it's going really well for me at the moment.

That's not to say that it wasn't hard work getting to this point. I have to block single men from messaging me and be selective in whom I initiate contact with. It took me 7 months before I met a single guy from this profile. He has now become a fantastic friend too and this has opened up new avenues of social fun as well.

I've met some great couples and they more than make up for those couples that have not been so good.

There is a lot of men bashing go on within these forums and sometimes it is unfair. But then I read the local updates and comments like "some girls need to understand this is a sex site and start having some sex" remind me that a lot of men don't understand what this site is about, for me anyway.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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? How/why have they put you off.

(I've just come to realise everyone I live to effin far away on here. So my mojo is sulking

)

i really can't be arsed to listen to their crap, lies, and bullshit. and it's not just fab, it's everywhere where men think they might be able to access your vadge.

and then when you find any that might be friends material and seem like they're nice they just get jealous of other guys and start giving you shit.

That's a really negative view of 'men'. (I'm not saying it's wrong for you to have it, but it is a view that doesn't make men attractive)

I can see why your not enthusiastic, if I put all women in a category where the label is 'pile of shit lying b,stards. I'd probably not be hyped up to meet them either.

i'm just bothering with the wrong men and being too naive, realistically i know that.

i sort of get why women are told they shouldn't get a 'reputation', it's because once certain men find out they act just like the above.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't been on here too long but the "if it happens it happens" approach is the best way, some people are pushy. That being said the effort is still there and I engage in good conversation but to expect anything from the site is probably the first mistake. As a fairly new single male member anyway. Some great people on here though

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My problem is I took a break late last year and found it very difficult to get back into arranging meets. Then this year I made an effort and... nothing. Apart from one notable exception I've been stood up, cancelled on, and watched my meet go off with someone else at a social, and I'm not sure I can carry on getting routinely disappointed.

I get a lot of messages promising the earth, moon, and stars, but I just don't trust anyone enough to mean what they say. Why bother arranging to meet someone if they can't be bothered to be honest with me?

I'm fine with the forums though, and I live in hope.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My last social meet was last week so I'm still making some effort, although it is minimal.,

My problem ATM is that I have very little time with which to plan things so I just tend to chat to people I wouldn't have much interest in meeting anyway

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Problem for me is most guys don't make any effort. If someone wants to meet me I want to feel that they're really interested at least! Even had a guy looking for a relationship contact me twice and both times couldn't event put the effort in to read my profile on either occasion. You get disillusioned with it after a while

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm still happy with the site overall - still a good mix of chat, socialising and sex! Found it hard to find just a few really good fwb's though - which is a shame as I'm somewhat bored with the 'shiny new fuck' concept now! X"

This

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

We are pretty much "See what happens" now, use the forums, chat to peeps we have or may meet at socials. Reply to the odd message, send the odd one.

Have a social & at least one meet planned for March so far.

Expect nothing but the unexpected is our motto now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So having used the phrase 'im not bothered, if it happens it happens' when referring to Meeting anyone on here.

I'm intrigued, how many others have lost the initial excitement of the prospect of meeting others from here?

When I first joined the prospect of hitting it off with someone is there. There's lots of sexy people, I'm Messaging and flirting, But now, Not so much.

Is anyone else the same, treating this as just another social site, hitting the forums and lost the enthusiasm to push the question. Maybe something might happen?

Or are you using it for what it was intended (i think) - To contact and arrange swinging socials/meets? "

We use the site for arranging socials and meets. We don't have to search for that though as we get plenty of guys sending us messeges although not all are suitable or what we are looking for. We do well here. I do post on the forums at times but mostly we use the site to meet guys for sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My problem is I took a break late last year and found it very difficult to get back into arranging meets. Then this year I made an effort and... nothing. Apart from one notable exception I've been stood up, cancelled on, and watched my meet go off with someone else at a social, and I'm not sure I can carry on getting routinely disappointed.

I'm fine with the forums though, and I live in hope.

I've had issues with couples arranging a meet and cancelling an hour or so beforehand, it does knock you back but I find my biggest issue comes from the fact I'm a single male and my age, with so many issues seeming to come from single males it's even worse as a younger male simply because people assume I'm not mature. I can somewhat understand that but even so it should be a decision made well before arranging a meet.

Forums are good fun though

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I'm chatting to a couple of people I'm very interested in meeting - one in particular. So as a whole, yes I can still be bothered with making an effort and the site is 'working' for me as outlined in the OP.

My issue currently is the lack of actual interest in meeting me, if that makes sense? I feel like the majority of those who make contact with me are just interested because I have a fanny, not because it's me. I do have one offs and I enjoy those but I still want to feel like I am not just servicing someone when they are horny.

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By *ivinefoxWoman over a year ago

Coventry

Tired of making smalltalk and having mediocre sex. Would rather be on the sofa with a glass of wine and my cat...!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So having used the phrase 'im not bothered, if it happens it happens' when referring to Meeting anyone on here.

I'm intrigued, how many others have lost the initial excitement of the prospect of meeting others from here?

When I first joined the prospect of hitting it off with someone is there. There's lots of sexy people, I'm Messaging and flirting, But now, Not so much.

Is anyone else the same, treating this as just another social site, hitting the forums and lost the enthusiasm to push the question. Maybe something might happen?

Or are you using it for what it was intended (i think) - To contact and arrange swinging socials/meets? "

I make the site work for me, and use it for NSA sex as I always have done. I put effort in when I want something to happen.

I'm never desperate to meet anyone, and have a handful of guys who I've been playing with for a few years - the excitement hasn't gone or I wouldn't meet them again, and I'm sure they wouldn't either.

I don't understand women who persist in 'all men are bastards' single-male bashing either. I'm never used and abused, maybe because my ego is intact, I have an abundance of self-respect, and I treat men how I expect to be treated myself. And if it's a persistent occurrence, then I'd be looking at the common denominator...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think at first most people find this place a "Novelty"?

They like the attention the naughtiness the ego boost.

Then when the novelty wears off and its no longer shiny and new?

We see it for what it really is...

A load of Cacky Babba !

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Problem for me is most guys don't make any effort. If someone wants to meet me I want to feel that they're really interested at least! Even had a guy looking for a relationship contact me twice and both times couldn't event put the effort in to read my profile on either occasion. You get disillusioned with it after a while "

this is exactly it for me too. some say they want exactly the same and yet think just because they say it that's enough . if a bloke messages me every few weeks with "when are you free" its not convincing that we are on same page.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used other swinging sites before i found this one so i was already well established in my swinging life before i started using this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No effort from me at present. Just here for the forums / banter.

If and when the mojo comes back in the Spring / Summer (get a bit of sunshine on me and I'm sure it will!

) then I might actually get my arse into gear. Until then? Meh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been here almost 5 years, on and off and I'm using it the same way I did when I first joined.

I wasn't excited or expectant when I first joined; I made a profile and waited.

I have changed my profile text a few times but still get similar amounts of messages, when I allow it.

Occasionally, someone pops up who I'm interested in, we chat and meet up.

I'm still, and always have been, an if it happens it happens person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't be bothered. I don't message and hardly ever respond to winks now.

If they sent a message and expect me to solely carry the conversation, I don't bother.

Majority of the women who messaged me can't compose anything other than "Hi, how are you".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered. I don't message and hardly ever respond to winks now.

If they sent a message and expect me to solely carry the conversation, I don't bother.

Majority of the women who messaged me can't compose anything other than "Hi, how are you"."

Same here old boy

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

havnt had sex for 5 months now so am starting to feel like it. I never did get that excited about meeting anyone though because i had been meeting people from other sites, i dont expect anything because you dont know what it will be like until youre with someone. Am not in any hurry to meet someone as i need to feel sure about them.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

We mainly use the forums,its rare we find couples weboth want to meet these days ,on fab anyway.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Majority of the women who messaged me can't compose anything other than "Hi, how are you"."

Yes. I get that. That's the icebreaker that you hope leads to something.

. I find those I talk to off the forum are more inclined to hold a good conversation. I met a lovely woman from the forum last week and shared lunch together (thank you

)

But that came from general chit chat here.

This forum is a saving grace for arranging a social. As someone said above. 'Women generally think men are only trying to meet when they're horny'

Funnily enough. I'd prefer that coffee first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Tired of making smalltalk and having mediocre sex. Would rather be on the sofa with a glass of wine and my cat...!"

Shortest answer on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Even as a bi single male, I've become more picky since I started on this site.... I even turn people down. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Majority of the women who messaged me can't compose anything other than "Hi, how are you".

Yes. I get that. That's the icebreaker that you hope leads to something.

. I find those I talk to off the forum are more inclined to hold a good conversation. I met a lovely woman from the forum last week and shared lunch together (thank you

)

But that came from general chit chat here.

This forum is a saving grace for arranging a social. As someone said above. 'Women generally think men are only trying to meet when they're horny'

Funnily enough. I'd prefer that coffee first.

I don't mind it being an ice breaker but anything afterwards is usually a one word reply.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!"

one guy keeps trying to dirty chat me so i told him i'm not into that, so then he says he's wanting to meet and i know he's only said that so i'll talk to him with dirty chat. or he thinks i will.

really can't be arsed. it's shit like this, lie to get what they want, i'm missing chatting to guys but cba with their bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Majority of the women who messaged me can't compose anything other than "Hi, how are you".

Yes. I get that. That's the icebreaker that you hope leads to something.

. I find those I talk to off the forum are more inclined to hold a good conversation. I met a lovely woman from the forum last week and shared lunch together (thank you

)

But that came from general chit chat here.

This forum is a saving grace for arranging a social. As someone said above. 'Women generally think men are only trying to meet when they're horny'

Funnily enough. I'd prefer that coffee first.

I don't mind it being an ice breaker but anything afterwards is usually a one word reply."

Only happened to me a couple of times. Your right. It's off putting. But a quick indication if it's worth carrying on or not. For both parties. Imagine that happening face to face?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!

one guy keeps trying to dirty chat me so i told him i'm not into that, so then he says he's wanting to meet and i know he's only said that so i'll talk to him with dirty chat. or he thinks i will.

really can't be arsed. it's shit like this, lie to get what they want, i'm missing chatting to guys but cba with their bullshit."

Personally I prefer a chat.... Can't be arsed to talk dirty with people I'd never meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In sending messages, I put in very little effort. I put in quite a lot of effort to those that interest though.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!

one guy keeps trying to dirty chat me so i told him i'm not into that, so then he says he's wanting to meet and i know he's only said that so i'll talk to him with dirty chat. or he thinks i will.

really can't be arsed. it's shit like this, lie to get what they want, i'm missing chatting to guys but cba with their bullshit.

Personally I prefer a chat.... Can't be arsed to talk dirty with people I'd never meet."

same for me. well, there's a couple of guys off the forums i do that with rarely but that's coz they're alright guys and they do turn me on mentally and didn't just jump in and expect dirty chat, it just happens.

loads of guys are only here for that, most are direct about it but many are not. it's the ones who aren't who are wasting their time. it's fairly insulting that they think we're that stupid also.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't be bothered anymore, too much fantasy, too many men with unrealistic expectations, too many couples wanting a free sex toy, getting Shit off men on a non adult site too...."I thought we matched yesterday" Man left site as I didn't reply instantly. My FWB who I thought was my BF has fked off with a vanilla woman, the swinging, mmff ect was his idea. . My mum just died, still not had funeral. Pissed off with life, pissed off with Fab and all sites. Not interested in meeting atm, would be more fun to buy a new vibrator XXX

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I think you should probably engage in some kind of fist pump."

Do they sell those on Lovehoney?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear that MA, my condolences. I had a similar issue last year, lost 3 family members in three months and the ex waited to receive my gifts on valentines day ( whilst in the other end of the country on holiday with her) to ditch me. I got down about it but in retrospect I dodged a bullet. Haven't spoken with you before but I'm sure you're worth more than that. Got to keep your chin up and retain self worth, can't let anyone take that from you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!

one guy keeps trying to dirty chat me so i told him i'm not into that, so then he says he's wanting to meet and i know he's only said that so i'll talk to him with dirty chat. or he thinks i will.

really can't be arsed. it's shit like this, lie to get what they want, i'm missing chatting to guys but cba with their bullshit.

Personally I prefer a chat.... Can't be arsed to talk dirty with people I'd never meet."

Same here, id rather have a decent chat, and be interested in the person im chatting with. Dirty talk has it's place, and its ok in the right circumstances. But id rather have a decent natter, and if it develops into something, then its bonus.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!

one guy keeps trying to dirty chat me so i told him i'm not into that, so then he says he's wanting to meet and i know he's only said that so i'll talk to him with dirty chat. or he thinks i will.

really can't be arsed. it's shit like this, lie to get what they want, i'm missing chatting to guys but cba with their bullshit."

I tell men I do do fantasy sex talk, to discourage those that need it. I come across as blunt otherwise, because there isn't really any other way to reply to something pertaining to sex, if you're not replying in a sexual manner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't be bothered anymore, too much fantasy, too many men with unrealistic expectations, too many couples wanting a free sex toy, getting Shit off men on a non adult site too...."I thought we matched yesterday" Man left site as I didn't reply instantly. My FWB who I thought was my BF has fked off with a vanilla woman, the swinging, mmff ect was his idea. . My mum just died, still not had funeral. Pissed off with life, pissed off with Fab and all sites. Not interested in meeting atm, would be more fun to buy a new vibrator XXX"

Did you do the MMFF and other stuff just because he wanted you to ?

Would you have preffered not to have participated ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People wrongly assume because we are on a sex site all we want to do is flirt or talk about sex. It becomes mind-numbingly boring when you talk to lots of people.

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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"me, i'm not bothered either. too many guys full of shit on here so access to my fanny is denied.

men, you have succeeded in making a sex addict go off sex. congrats.

Ditto - impotent timewasters!!

one guy keeps trying to dirty chat me so i told him i'm not into that, so then he says he's wanting to meet and i know he's only said that so i'll talk to him with dirty chat. or he thinks i will.

really can't be arsed. it's shit like this, lie to get what they want, i'm missing chatting to guys but cba with their bullshit.

how does it discourage them? interested and not questioning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People wrongly assume because we are on a sex site all we want to do is flirt or talk about sex. It becomes mind-numbingly boring when you talk to lots of people. "

Ive never indulged in sex chat for wanking purposes or whatever you do ?

Its never interested me in the slightest.

Obviously its good to get an idea of each others likes and dislikes but thats as far as it goes for me.

Id rather have proper conversations to see if we get on and click etc.

The sex part usually falls into place when you are together with the right person in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered. I don't message and hardly ever respond to winks now.

If they sent a message and expect me to solely carry the conversation, I don't bother.

Majority of the women who messaged me can't compose anything other than "Hi, how are you".

Same here old boy "

Many men say the same thing but i never respond and simply block them.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I get really excited chatting to someone new once the deal breakers are out of the way. Probably because it rarely happens so I'm all 'wooohoooooooo'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have met 3 guys that post on the forums. One is a guy i knew via another site 10 years ago and who we met at chams and he is a great friend. Another is a guy we frequently chat to at club 29. Two lovely people.

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By *assybitchWoman over a year ago

around the world

"So having used the phrase 'im not bothered, if it happens it happens' when referring to Meeting anyone on here.

I'm intrigued, how many others have lost the initial excitement of the prospect of meeting others from here?

When I first joined the prospect of hitting it off with someone is there. There's lots of sexy people, I'm Messaging and flirting, But now, Not so much.

Is anyone else the same, treating this as just another social site, hitting the forums and lost the enthusiasm to push the question. Maybe something might happen?

Or are you using it for what it was intended (i think) - To contact and arrange swinging socials/meets?

I make the site work for me, and use it for NSA sex as I always have done. I put effort in when I want something to happen.

Its still works for me after nearly 4 years although im abroad for part of the year so maybe that break keeps winters in uk fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont. I just use the forum now, it is comedy gold

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always make sn effort!

Shoot for the moon...if you miss you will still be amongst the stars..thats my thoughts here anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I've kind of accepted I'm just not what people are looking for maybe it's my profile? My pics? Or just not looking in right places but always try as you never know

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Always make sn effort!

Shoot for the moon...if you miss you will still be amongst the stars..thats my thoughts here anyway!"

Damn. I'm inspired. You are a Fab muse!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't look for meets on here, We are still active though sometimes and go to clubs occasionally. We use it to keep in touch with people we have met from here and in clubs,check events and read the forums. I fab and perve pics and that's it nowadays.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We're still trying to get meets, we find lots of interesting people we'd like to meet. Haven't done the clubs yet. Also like using the forums.

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By *cunnylassCouple over a year ago

Exeter

We are still making an effort.We had a social last Saturday and have arranged to play with the guy this Wednesday.Fingers crossed !We also have two socials arranged for this weekend.We won't travel far for a social and if people don't turn up it's not the end of the world.We don't have unrealistic expectations and simply use Fab to enhance our sex life..

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"So having used the phrase 'im not bothered, if it happens it happens' when referring to Meeting anyone on here.

I'm intrigued, how many others have lost the initial excitement of the prospect of meeting others from here?

When I first joined the prospect of hitting it off with someone is there. There's lots of sexy people, I'm Messaging and flirting, But now, Not so much.

Is anyone else the same, treating this as just another social site, hitting the forums and lost the enthusiasm to push the question. Maybe something might happen?

Or are you using it for what it was intended (i think) - To contact and arrange swinging socials/meets? "

last year the forums became a cold shower for me...so ive had many breaks. atm i am manically busy, and the ones who bother with me privately, are the ones who i count as genuine, will get my time and attention first, after it calms down.. there are a few i would dearly love to meet up with who i haven't managed to see yet, but they are not forgotten, i only hope they don't go unlos, before i can give them the attention they deserve x

meanwhile, i meet the lovelies that are out and about, when i am x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Always make sn effort!

Shoot for the moon...if you miss you will still be amongst the stars..thats my thoughts here anyway!

Damn. I'm inspired. You are a Fab muse!

Curious phrase though isnt it? Given that the moon is much nearer than the stars....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Always make sn effort!

Shoot for the moon...if you miss you will still be amongst the stars..thats my thoughts here anyway!

Damn. I'm inspired. You are a Fab muse!

Curious phrase though isnt it? Given that the moon is much nearer than the stars.... "

Now I'm confused. Where should I have aimed. I'll be honest. I took my shot a few hours ago, I'm afraid I might have aimed for the wrong celestial object.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Always make sn effort!

Shoot for the moon...if you miss you will still be amongst the stars..thats my thoughts here anyway!

Damn. I'm inspired. You are a Fab muse!

Curious phrase though isnt it? Given that the moon is much nearer than the stars....

Now I'm confused. Where should I have aimed. I'll be honest. I took my shot a few hours ago, I'm afraid I might have aimed for the wrong celestial object.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm trying to make more of an effort to meet people now than before.

As someone i chatted to on here told me, if you want something you have to go get it.

Although it is an effort for me.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have been on site for over 7 years now, and basically the last 2 years for me have been pretty shite.

This is mainly due to the influx of new men who have very low opinions of the women on here and basically see us as free prostitutes (this is my opinion based on the messages I receive) so whilst I am trying very hard to meet new people, it has been a real struggle to find decent, honest and respectful men in my area.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have little time and opportunity to meet so would rather invest time here making sure that those I can meet are right.

I enjoy wandering around the forums sharing nonsense with the rest of you and if I get the chance to meet up with someone, great. If not, I'm in no worse position.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have little time and opportunity to meet so would rather invest time here making sure that those I can meet are right.

I enjoy wandering around the forums sharing nonsense with the rest of you and if I get the chance to meet up with someone, great. If not, I'm in no worse position."

. Good attitude.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

I like to make an effort for a person who give me an attention and is nice with me .

But it's give and take game and if the one is not ready to compromise and be patient , I don't bother .

If someone let me down once and lie to me , I just cross it off and move on without looking back .

I don't have time for people like that .

I hardly even meet for a social nowdays as people don't even read my profile or are interested to have a conversation with me .

However , I have some good friends who I met through Fab and I keep in touch with them away from this site .

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

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decided to make an effort to have a meet. tell one guy i am up for meeting him, his profile is ok but no face pic. i'm fine with not seeing it...except when i see one i see my stalker is back on fab. yay me.

dunno why i fucking bother. told him a million times on every profile he makes i don't wanna see him again.

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