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 I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest | |||
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"Would like to hear from people about BDSM, clubs, experiences, workshops, kinks, fetishism, just general chat among like minded people welcome too "I was a house domme in Glasgow. I've not looked since moving down here but I'd guess there are a range of dungeons and clubs. Europe has a lot more than the UK tho. | |||
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"Ok so just spent 1hr reading through last lot of bdsm forum and people mentioning munch and people not accepting swingers etc. Well this is a lie with the one I went to at least, as I was kindly invited to a munch event and got on well with everyone and I'm a swinging and only just deciding to look into bdsm. It's not fair to put all experience in same category. I feel the problem lies for a lot who practice bdsm with the fact you get people who have no idea on true d/s dynamics is playing it and not actually looking into true involvement. It's same with bi in swinging world but not in vanilla and assuming most are the same. It's lack of discussion. However if you asked 20 people what's swinging you'd get at least probably 5-10 different answers. However I've gone off topic a little my point to it being an issue with kinksters and swingers is rubbish from what I've experienced, this may be fact that at munch I didn't act like I knew what I was talking about, I asked questions and fed off the knowledge. A few asked me about swinging to. Nothing judgemental at all. My point being don't run before you walk and just enjoy what you enjoy and no need to involve everyone as long as you having fun x " I guess different people places and times can give differing experiences where the two are concerned it's become apparent from what iv heard recounted that sometimes there is prejudice and other times there isnt and from the things said it flows both ways too. Yes I'm sure there are plenty out there "playing at D/s" as with 50 shades their is a heightened awareness again of the scene even if presented correctly or not in the story's, indeed communication is key as with most other things get that right and the rest is often easier. Yes I understand that often people's approach or reactions affect the way an experience goes but also sometimes it doesn't all circumstances are possible and I don't doubt each account of people's experiences as they would be just as diverse as people are
However that was the previous thread I was curios because had heard differing views so put it to the populous, here on in this is for people to chat about BDSM kink fetish etc for everyone as all are welcome in friendliness and peace | |||
"Would like to hear from people about BDSM, clubs, experiences, workshops, kinks, fetishism, just general chat among like minded people welcome too
I was a house domme in Glasgow. I've not looked since moving down here but I'd guess there are a range of dungeons and clubs.
Europe has a lot more than the UK tho."Wow another experienced person thank you for contributing I am new to this and learning constantly, I have been told HDZ is great by a few people and a few others too | |||
"I'm in Although technically we're not swingers, we just like to use your facilities "It matters not all are welcome here for positive interaction, good to see you again too | |||
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"I'm interested in contributing too although I've stepped back from the BDSM scene somewhat " That's great and appreciated too, your knowledge and experience is welcome here | |||
"Thank you I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest "the support for a BDSM sub forum is ongoing in the forum for feedback to fab, havent heard a dicky bird, either publically or privately despite the numbers in support of this. i blur the boundaries between fet and swinging with my Dom at swingers clubs, usually where there is a dungeon. what kind of discussion did you want? do you mean here on the thread? youll haveto be more specific and keep it within the fab forum general rules, but if i see anything, ill join in x | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun." Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way "chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage | |||
"Thank you I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest
the support for a BDSM sub forum is ongoing in the forum for feedback to fab, havent heard a dicky bird, either publically or privately despite the numbers in support of this.
i blur the boundaries between fet and swinging with my Dom at swingers clubs, usually where there is a dungeon.
what kind of discussion did you want? do you mean here on the thread? youll haveto be more specific and keep it within the fab forum general rules, but if i see anything, ill join in x"Ahh ok brilliant I will look for it and add my support thank you for brining it to my attention, yes I think the two intermingle often without realisation, I am yet to visit a dungeon but definitely want to I am at the beginning of my journey I will admit and doing so much research and chatting with people on the scene privately for advice, for this thread I would like people interacting, offering advice or experiences, sometimes reading others thoughts can help people, general chat in the area is also welcome, I prefer positive conversation but accept at times recounting a negative experience can have its value too, very good advice thank you, I must go back over the forum rules a few times to ensure things remain within the boundaries set out. Ok so a question from me. What advice and help is out there for new Doms and subs? | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage "Ooo sounds very nice | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage "That sounds very interesting, how do you feel when you do that? Is there alot of people watching? Sorry for the questions, im a beginner and its nice to get the feedback from people that have experienced it. | |||
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"ive been to a few fetish parties ..i felt very normal there ..dont feel like i really fit in tho thats probably me being shy and a little awkward in a strange environment" Hey how are you, that's great iv yet to attend any and looking to broaden my horizons with knowledge and experiences | |||
"Thank you I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest
the support for a BDSM sub forum is ongoing in the forum for feedback to fab, havent heard a dicky bird, either publically or privately despite the numbers in support of this.
i blur the boundaries between fet and swinging with my Dom at swingers clubs, usually where there is a dungeon.
what kind of discussion did you want? do you mean here on the thread? youll haveto be more specific and keep it within the fab forum general rules, but if i see anything, ill join in x
Ahh ok brilliant I will look for it and add my support thank you for brining it to my attention, yes I think the two intermingle often without realisation, I am yet to visit a dungeon but definitely want to I am at the beginning of my journey I will admit and doing so much research and chatting with people on the scene privately for advice, for this thread I would like people interacting, offering advice or experiences, sometimes reading others thoughts can help people, general chat in the area is also welcome, I prefer positive conversation but accept at times recounting a negative experience can have its value too, very good advice thank you, I must go back over the forum rules a few times to ensure things remain within the boundaries set out.
Ok so a question from me.
What advice and help is out there for new Doms and subs?"talking to other Doms and subs is of sound value, either online of fce to face at socials (called munches) or at fet events. most of us dont mind discussing the subject or scene after all its a passion of ours right?. screw the roses , bring me thorns, the topping book, the bottoming book are all great reading and can be found free pdf off of the internet. BDSM dynamics are as wide and varied as the people who partake in the scene.So terminology was created to describe aspects of BDSM. it helpful to research what is meant on the scene rather than assuming what the word means. for example, what constitutes a 'daddy' dom and how that may have no bearing at all, on the specific fetish of 'age play'... . i would also recommend going to do a BDSM quiz online which asks questions of you psychologically as determines your aptitudes according to your answers, this really can bring up interesting revelations and gives you a starting point of exploration for yourself first..BDSM is primarily a journey of self discovery imo. keeping this is mind will enhance your whole experience, throughout the journey. someone else or others, enabling you to do that exploration...is amazing...x | |||
"Thank you I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest
the support for a BDSM sub forum is ongoing in the forum for feedback to fab, havent heard a dicky bird, either publically or privately despite the numbers in support of this.
i blur the boundaries between fet and swinging with my Dom at swingers clubs, usually where there is a dungeon.
what kind of discussion did you want? do you mean here on the thread? youll haveto be more specific and keep it within the fab forum general rules, but if i see anything, ill join in x
Ahh ok brilliant I will look for it and add my support thank you for brining it to my attention, yes I think the two intermingle often without realisation, I am yet to visit a dungeon but definitely want to I am at the beginning of my journey I will admit and doing so much research and chatting with people on the scene privately for advice, for this thread I would like people interacting, offering advice or experiences, sometimes reading others thoughts can help people, general chat in the area is also welcome, I prefer positive conversation but accept at times recounting a negative experience can have its value too, very good advice thank you, I must go back over the forum rules a few times to ensure things remain within the boundaries set out.
Ok so a question from me.
What advice and help is out there for new Doms and subs?talking to other Doms and subs is of sound value, either online of fce to face at socials (called munches) or at fet events.
most of us dont mind discussing the subject or scene after all its a passion of ours right?.
screw the roses , bring me thorns, the topping book, the bottoming book
are all great reading and can be found free pdf off of the internet.
BDSM dynamics are as wide and varied as the people who partake in the scene.So terminology was created to describe aspects of BDSM. it helpful to research what is meant on the scene rather than assuming what the word means. for example, what constitutes a 'daddy' dom and how that may have no bearing at all, on the specific fetish of 'age play'...
.
i would also recommend going to do a BDSM quiz online which asks questions of you psychologically as determines your aptitudes according to your answers, this really can bring up interesting revelations and gives you a starting point of exploration for yourself first..BDSM is primarily a journey of self discovery imo. keeping this is mind will enhance your whole experience, throughout the journey.
someone else or others, enabling you to do that exploration...is amazing...x"Wow where have you been hiding
That is awesome advice rich with help self help and direction! I can not thank you enough and will be looking into these things today!! This is of fantastic value to all interested in these things.
I may be new to this and quite inexperienced but must admit there is no other feeling like it, intoxicating, addictive and takes to sexual levels of stimulation and excitement that I hadn't imagined before and that's just from my lowly beginners experiences, I am without a doubt loving this experience and can see that its either for you or its not, definitely is for me  | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That sounds very interesting, how do you feel when you do that?
Is there alot of people watching?
Sorry for the questions, im a beginner and its nice to get the feedback from people that have experienced it. "i am kept very safe with my trusted Dom whom i've now known for nearly a year. at that point i am in sub space, which is a place subs find through various methods, its an altered state and this is found through finding the right Dom or Domme for you, who carefully cultivates it over time and through trust. personally, i am in my internal world and at that point have given over my reasoning filters to the experience, it brings out a 'wanton woman ' aspect which i do not display in daily life. The cage in this state, heightens that feeling as a prop, but as also a safety measure for my psychological...i am safe being like that, because i hve bars between me and others and my Dom wouldn't let anything happen to me..only he would let me out..so i am safe to be what i am being.. i know we have watchers, sometimes i heard them in my peripheral, but as you are in like a dreamy state most of the time they don't intrude into my zone. occasionally we slide the door on a dungeon until i am in that zone, but mainly we dont mind respectful watchers..but being honest i dont notice them, as my role is to get into zone and stay there..i know i am looked after so i don't have to take notice of them x hope this answered some of your questions, if you have any more, don't hesitate to ask x and remember they are my experience, getting other answers from other subs is valuable, not everyone is the same x | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That sounds very interesting, how do you feel when you do that?
Is there alot of people watching?
Sorry for the questions, im a beginner and its nice to get the feedback from people that have experienced it. i am kept very safe with my trusted Dom whom i've now known for nearly a year. at that point i am in sub space, which is a place subs find through various methods, its an altered state and this is found through finding the right Dom or Domme for you, who carefully cultivates it over time and through trust.
personally, i am in my internal world and at that point have given over my reasoning filters to the experience, it brings out a 'wanton woman ' aspect which i do not display in daily life. The cage in this state, heightens that feeling as a prop, but as also a safety measure for my psychological...i am safe being like that, because i hve bars between me and others and my Dom wouldn't let anything happen to me..only he would let me out..so i am safe to be what i am being..
i know we have watchers, sometimes i heard them in my peripheral, but as you are in like a dreamy state most of the time they don't intrude into my zone. occasionally we slide the door on a dungeon until i am in that zone, but mainly we dont mind respectful watchers..but being honest i dont notice them, as my role is to get into zone and stay there..i know i am looked after so i don't have to take notice of them x hope this answered some of your questions, if you have any more, don't hesitate to ask x and remember they are my experience, getting other answers from other subs is valuable, not everyone is the same x
"Thank you very much, I have been looking for a sub to chat with you sound ideal. This thread has helped in the way that active subs are writing on here and making themselves known. Thank you very much for taking the time to reply to me | |||
"Thank you I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest
the support for a BDSM sub forum is ongoing in the forum for feedback to fab, havent heard a dicky bird, either publically or privately despite the numbers in support of this.
i blur the boundaries between fet and swinging with my Dom at swingers clubs, usually where there is a dungeon.
what kind of discussion did you want? do you mean here on the thread? youll haveto be more specific and keep it within the fab forum general rules, but if i see anything, ill join in x
Ahh ok brilliant I will look for it and add my support thank you for brining it to my attention, yes I think the two intermingle often without realisation, I am yet to visit a dungeon but definitely want to I am at the beginning of my journey I will admit and doing so much research and chatting with people on the scene privately for advice, for this thread I would like people interacting, offering advice or experiences, sometimes reading others thoughts can help people, general chat in the area is also welcome, I prefer positive conversation but accept at times recounting a negative experience can have its value too, very good advice thank you, I must go back over the forum rules a few times to ensure things remain within the boundaries set out.
Ok so a question from me.
What advice and help is out there for new Doms and subs?talking to other Doms and subs is of sound value, either online of fce to face at socials (called munches) or at fet events.
most of us dont mind discussing the subject or scene after all its a passion of ours right?.
screw the roses , bring me thorns, the topping book, the bottoming book
are all great reading and can be found free pdf off of the internet.
BDSM dynamics are as wide and varied as the people who partake in the scene.So terminology was created to describe aspects of BDSM. it helpful to research what is meant on the scene rather than assuming what the word means. for example, what constitutes a 'daddy' dom and how that may have no bearing at all, on the specific fetish of 'age play'...
.
i would also recommend going to do a BDSM quiz online which asks questions of you psychologically as determines your aptitudes according to your answers, this really can bring up interesting revelations and gives you a starting point of exploration for yourself first..BDSM is primarily a journey of self discovery imo. keeping this is mind will enhance your whole experience, throughout the journey.
someone else or others, enabling you to do that exploration...is amazing...x
Wow where have you been hiding
That is awesome advice rich with help self help and direction! I can not thank you enough and will be looking into these things today!! This is of fantastic value to all interested in these things.
I may be new to this and quite inexperienced but must admit there is no other feeling like it, intoxicating, addictive and takes to sexual levels of stimulation and excitement that I hadn't imagined before and that's just from my lowly beginners experiences, I am without a doubt loving this experience and can see that its either for you or its not, definitely is for me "i believe aspects of BDSM are not for everyone, however i do believe everyone has their preferences to how they are treated and its a fine line, divisible only by perception, between a 'preference' and a 'fetish'. i prefer to be sub, but i have Dommed as well, a specific type of sub, can i ask, what 'side' you are exploring at this time, that gives you joy? x | |||
"Ok so just spent 1hr reading through last lot of bdsm forum and people mentioning munch and people not accepting swingers etc. Well this is a lie with the one I went to at least, as I was kindly invited to a munch event and got on well with everyone and I'm a swinging and only just deciding to look into bdsm. It's not fair to put all experience in same category. I feel the problem lies for a lot who practice bdsm with the fact you get people who have no idea on true d/s dynamics is playing it and not actually looking into true involvement. It's same with bi in swinging world but not in vanilla and assuming most are the same. It's lack of discussion. However if you asked 20 people what's swinging you'd get at least probably 5-10 different answers. However I've gone off topic a little my point to it being an issue with kinksters and swingers is rubbish from what I've experienced, this may be fact that at munch I didn't act like I knew what I was talking about, I asked questions and fed off the knowledge. A few asked me about swinging to. Nothing judgemental at all. My point being don't run before you walk and just enjoy what you enjoy and no need to involve everyone as long as you having fun x " Fair point | |||
"Thank you I think there was a thread started previously a while back but not sure where it went anyway I think there is a place for this as seems to be enough interest
the support for a BDSM sub forum is ongoing in the forum for feedback to fab, havent heard a dicky bird, either publically or privately despite the numbers in support of this.
i blur the boundaries between fet and swinging with my Dom at swingers clubs, usually where there is a dungeon.
what kind of discussion did you want? do you mean here on the thread? youll haveto be more specific and keep it within the fab forum general rules, but if i see anything, ill join in x
Ahh ok brilliant I will look for it and add my support thank you for brining it to my attention, yes I think the two intermingle often without realisation, I am yet to visit a dungeon but definitely want to I am at the beginning of my journey I will admit and doing so much research and chatting with people on the scene privately for advice, for this thread I would like people interacting, offering advice or experiences, sometimes reading others thoughts can help people, general chat in the area is also welcome, I prefer positive conversation but accept at times recounting a negative experience can have its value too, very good advice thank you, I must go back over the forum rules a few times to ensure things remain within the boundaries set out.
Ok so a question from me.
What advice and help is out there for new Doms and subs?talking to other Doms and subs is of sound value, either online of fce to face at socials (called munches) or at fet events.
most of us dont mind discussing the subject or scene after all its a passion of ours right?.
screw the roses , bring me thorns, the topping book, the bottoming book
are all great reading and can be found free pdf off of the internet.
BDSM dynamics are as wide and varied as the people who partake in the scene.So terminology was created to describe aspects of BDSM. it helpful to research what is meant on the scene rather than assuming what the word means. for example, what constitutes a 'daddy' dom and how that may have no bearing at all, on the specific fetish of 'age play'...
.
i would also recommend going to do a BDSM quiz online which asks questions of you psychologically as determines your aptitudes according to your answers, this really can bring up interesting revelations and gives you a starting point of exploration for yourself first..BDSM is primarily a journey of self discovery imo. keeping this is mind will enhance your whole experience, throughout the journey.
someone else or others, enabling you to do that exploration...is amazing...x
Wow where have you been hiding
That is awesome advice rich with help self help and direction! I can not thank you enough and will be looking into these things today!! This is of fantastic value to all interested in these things.
I may be new to this and quite inexperienced but must admit there is no other feeling like it, intoxicating, addictive and takes to sexual levels of stimulation and excitement that I hadn't imagined before and that's just from my lowly beginners experiences, I am without a doubt loving this experience and can see that its either for you or its not, definitely is for me
i believe aspects of BDSM are not for everyone, however i do believe everyone has their preferences to how they are treated and its a fine line, divisible only by perception, between a 'preference' and a 'fetish'.
i prefer to be sub, but i have Dommed as well, a specific type of sub, can i ask, what 'side' you are exploring at this time, that gives you joy? x"Would you mind discussing this privately with me? I'm not sure it's appropriate to bare so much on thread publicly, no offense intended | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage "That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger | |||
"Ok so just spent 1hr reading through last lot of bdsm forum and people mentioning munch and people not accepting swingers etc. Well this is a lie with the one I went to at least, as I was kindly invited to a munch event and got on well with everyone and I'm a swinging and only just deciding to look into bdsm. It's not fair to put all experience in same category. I feel the problem lies for a lot who practice bdsm with the fact you get people who have no idea on true d/s dynamics is playing it and not actually looking into true involvement. It's same with bi in swinging world but not in vanilla and assuming most are the same. It's lack of discussion. However if you asked 20 people what's swinging you'd get at least probably 5-10 different answers. However I've gone off topic a little my point to it being an issue with kinksters and swingers is rubbish from what I've experienced, this may be fact that at munch I didn't act like I knew what I was talking about, I asked questions and fed off the knowledge. A few asked me about swinging to. Nothing judgemental at all. My point being don't run before you walk and just enjoy what you enjoy and no need to involve everyone as long as you having fun x Fair point " | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That sounds very interesting, how do you feel when you do that?
Is there alot of people watching?
Sorry for the questions, im a beginner and its nice to get the feedback from people that have experienced it. i am kept very safe with my trusted Dom whom i've now known for nearly a year. at that point i am in sub space, which is a place subs find through various methods, its an altered state and this is found through finding the right Dom or Domme for you, who carefully cultivates it over time and through trust.
personally, i am in my internal world and at that point have given over my reasoning filters to the experience, it brings out a 'wanton woman ' aspect which i do not display in daily life. The cage in this state, heightens that feeling as a prop, but as also a safety measure for my psychological...i am safe being like that, because i hve bars between me and others and my Dom wouldn't let anything happen to me..only he would let me out..so i am safe to be what i am being..
i know we have watchers, sometimes i heard them in my peripheral, but as you are in like a dreamy state most of the time they don't intrude into my zone. occasionally we slide the door on a dungeon until i am in that zone, but mainly we dont mind respectful watchers..but being honest i dont notice them, as my role is to get into zone and stay there..i know i am looked after so i don't have to take notice of them x hope this answered some of your questions, if you have any more, don't hesitate to ask x and remember they are my experience, getting other answers from other subs is valuable, not everyone is the same x
Thank you very much, I have been looking for a sub to chat with you sound ideal. This thread has helped in the way that active subs are writing on here and making themselves known. Thank you very much for taking the time to reply to me "you are welcome, i haven't been on the forums recently as i am so busy in my life but questions can be directed on here and you will find people willing to talk about their experiences, publicly or indeed by private message...i can only be reached for 'sub chat' on my couple profile or, on the forum and may be a delay due to life at the moment, but ill do my best to interact when i can, and when i see, the threads xx | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger "Ooo nice | |||
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"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger "i would like a thick suede and faux fur one, with a long drop..very thuddy, very 'kitty purring'.... | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger i would like a thick suede and faux fur one, with a long drop..very thuddy, very 'kitty purring'.... "Oh that sounds gooooood | |||
"Where do we find local munches though? they are found on other site do do with 'kink' type in your area and munch and a group will pop up answering that question x The Fet one? I couldn't get my head round that one and gave up. 
Thank you. Love your posts, you're really helpful x"I'm over there two blue same name as on here its very sterile though so i don't use it much xxx | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger i would like a thick suede and faux fur one, with a long drop..very thuddy, very 'kitty purring'....
Oh that sounds gooooood "yeah right eh?..;) .im thinking of starting to make the damn things they are so hard to find... | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger i would like a thick suede and faux fur one, with a long drop..very thuddy, very 'kitty purring'....
Oh that sounds gooooood yeah right eh?..;) .im thinking of starting to make the damn things they are so hard to find... "Good equipment is a 'mare. I got my cuffs through etsy and paid as much for shipping and customs from the US as the cuffs! Bloody love them though | |||
"We went to Chams last night with some friends. They have a well equipped bdsm area and we really enjoyed ourselves. Judging by the spectators there isn't much of a problem between the two groups. Lots of people trying things out and having fun. Brilliant, I have heard great things about chams too I must get there and experience it. That's how I have heard it described there too, friendly fun and a good time, the last thread was more for the bdsm and swinging concept this has evolved now into a general chat about BDSM, kink, fetish etc etc all are welcome to contribute in a positive friendly or experience based way
chams is one of our haunts, can often find me there collared, cuffed, blindfolded and in the cage
That was me apart from the cage I have a new blinker blindfold which I love. Not a chink of light. Might need to upgrade our flogger i would like a thick suede and faux fur one, with a long drop..very thuddy, very 'kitty purring'....
Oh that sounds gooooood yeah right eh?..;) .im thinking of starting to make the damn things they are so hard to find...
Good equipment is a 'mare. I got my cuffs through etsy and paid as much for shipping and customs from the US as the cuffs! Bloody love them though "great to get beautifully made and looking equipment..i agree x | |||
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"Ok so just spent 1hr reading through last lot of bdsm forum and people mentioning munch and people not accepting swingers etc. Well this is a lie with the one I went to at least, as I was kindly invited to a munch event and got on well with everyone and I'm a swinging and only just deciding to look into bdsm. It's not fair to put all experience in same category. I feel the problem lies for a lot who practice bdsm with the fact you get people who have no idea on true d/s dynamics is playing it and not actually looking into true involvement. It's same with bi in swinging world but not in vanilla and assuming most are the same. It's lack of discussion. However if you asked 20 people what's swinging you'd get at least probably 5-10 different answers. However I've gone off topic a little my point to it being an issue with kinksters and swingers is rubbish from what I've experienced, this may be fact that at munch I didn't act like I knew what I was talking about, I asked questions and fed off the knowledge. A few asked me about swinging to. Nothing judgemental at all. My point being don't run before you walk and just enjoy what you enjoy and no need to involve everyone as long as you having fun x " i'm not even a swinger, so i never brought the topic up and there are some people who look down swinging. same as on here there are people who look down on others, you'll get this everywhere. like i said i'm not sure why they brought it up for if they hate it/swingers so much? idk. i know some of the BDSM clubs are on here also, this might be why they don't like it coz swingers are 'infiltrating' their space and changing things. many people do no like change. | |||
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"I've been to a sadistic rope workshop this afternoon
How was it? I'm intrigued by rope play..."Fun!! You know you're in the right place when someone says and this can really hurt, cue scream and the whole room laugh and try it out
Not all rope is sadistic and it's actually not for use with many people. I just have a new bunny who's a pain slut so it'd be rude not to | |||
"I've been to a sadistic rope workshop this afternoon
How was it? I'm intrigued by rope play..."I've loaded two pics but let's see if they're accepted or rejected. If not you can find me in another popular place under the same name with more extreme pics | |||
"I've been to a sadistic rope workshop this afternoon "Nice | |||
"I've been to a sadistic rope workshop this afternoon
How was it? I'm intrigued by rope play...
Fun!! You know you're in the right place when someone says and this can really hurt, cue scream and the whole room laugh and try it out
Not all rope is sadistic and it's actually not for use with many people. I just have a new bunny who's a pain slut so it'd be rude not to "Oooo hehe does sound fun  | |||
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"We really do need a dedicated BDSM board here. There's such a cross over (despite some snobbery on both sides) especially since 50 Shades of Drivel and the more correct and positive kink information out there, the better. Especially as the Fet website that shan't be named has no forum. Personally, my favourite clubs are those that successfully combine kink and fucking. In London, my party Submission did that. Subversion Noir nailed it at The Hoist (RIP). Bi-Kink is fun despite a few wanky men from the Zombie Wanking Squad " It seems there is genuine interest in exactly that I'm happy to be a part of it
Absolutely part of why I opened this thread to get genuine actual experiences from people varying from beginners to experienced greatly and advice, I believe we cam always learn from each other no matter the level of experience
That does sound very horny indeed combining it with sex
Some great info there to consider another dimension added to the kink sex! Is this for others perhaps many or is it more for the few? | |||
"We really do need a dedicated BDSM board here. There's such a cross over (despite some snobbery on both sides) especially since 50 Shades of Drivel and the more correct and positive kink information out there, the better. Especially as the Fet website that shan't be named has no forum. Personally, my favourite clubs are those that successfully combine kink and fucking. In London, my party Submission did that. Subversion Noir nailed it at The Hoist (RIP). Bi-Kink is fun despite a few wanky men from the Zombie Wanking Squad " | |||
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"I tried one of those bdsm test things very interesting indeed the outcome, if answered honestly it's quite perceptive "Honestly it was quite a shock how accurate it is  | |||
"I tried one of those bdsm test things very interesting indeed the outcome, if answered honestly it's quite perceptive
Honestly it was quite a shock how accurate it is " did it bring up anything you hadnt considered? | |||
"I tried one of those bdsm test things very interesting indeed the outcome, if answered honestly it's quite perceptive
Honestly it was quite a shock how accurate it is did it bring up anything you hadnt considered?"It was remarkable how suited I apparently am to my journey based on the results and how accurate compared to my beliefs that it was alarming | |||
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"The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmer; Rope Bondage and Power edited by Lee Harrington; The New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy. The perennial favourite of Screw the Roses, Give me the Thorns Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. All on Amazon." And to add to this SM 101 by Jay Wiseman or anything from Greenery Press who do some great books on specific aspects (e.g. flogging) -Matt | |||
"Where do we find local munches though?" ask and we will tell... | |||
"The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmer; Rope Bondage and Power edited by Lee Harrington; The New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy. The perennial favourite of Screw the Roses, Give me the Thorns Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. All on Amazon." Just ordered Screw The Roses. Might be good to read together | |||
"The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmer; Rope Bondage and Power edited by Lee Harrington; The New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy. The perennial favourite of Screw the Roses, Give me the Thorns Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. All on Amazon. And to add to this SM 101 by Jay Wiseman or anything from Greenery Press who do some great books on specific aspects (e.g. flogging) -Matt" Can't you recommend anything specifically for the dominant partner? | |||
"Where do we find local munches though? ask and we will tell... "I'd love to know | |||
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"Where do we find local munches though? ask and we will tell...
I'd love to know "then please make sure your profile is open for private messages ..but remember.. bondage is knot for everyone.. | |||
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"Until quite recently we had a very active D/s relationship. Tried to incorporate it into a 24/7 lifestyle but only variably successful. Has to be an ethereal mindset in conjunction with the physical and sexual elements. " Do you mind me asking why you've stopped? | |||
"Does anyone have any D/s books suggestions? Would like to do some more reading than blogs etc." | |||
"The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmer; Rope Bondage and Power edited by Lee Harrington; The New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy. The perennial favourite of Screw the Roses, Give me the Thorns Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. All on Amazon." Awesome thank you | |||
"The Heart of Dominance by Anton Fulmer; Rope Bondage and Power edited by Lee Harrington; The New Topping Book by Dossie Eaton and Janet Hardy. The perennial favourite of Screw the Roses, Give me the Thorns Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. All on Amazon. And to add to this SM 101 by Jay Wiseman or anything from Greenery Press who do some great books on specific aspects (e.g. flogging) -Matt" Again great stuff thanks | |||
"Where do we find local munches though? ask and we will tell... "Absolutely pm conversation | |||
"Where do we find local munches though? ask and we will tell...
I'd love to know
then please make sure your profile is open for private messages ..but remember.. bondage is knot for everyone.. "Yes please I would like.to know as well | |||
"Where do we find local munches though? ask and we will tell...
I'd love to know
then please make sure your profile is open for private messages ..but remember.. bondage is knot for everyone..
Yes please I would like.to know as well "inbox hun..at last someone with a open profile enjoy | |||
"Until quite recently we had a very active D/s relationship. Tried to incorporate it into a 24/7 lifestyle but only variably successful. Has to be an ethereal mindset in conjunction with the physical and sexual elements. Do you mind me asking why you've stopped?" Just pm'd you. | |||
"Where do we find local munches though? ask and we will tell...
I'd love to know
then please make sure your profile is open for private messages ..but remember.. bondage is knot for everyone..
Yes please I would like.to know as well
inbox hun..at last someone with a open profile enjoy "Thank you for the advice | |||
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"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead." For us it's a journey, where we're learning and having an amazing time as we discover more about ourselves and each other | |||
"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead. For us it's a journey, where we're learning and having an amazing time as we discover more about ourselves and each other "And have an absolutely brilliant time exploring. Stay safe. | |||
"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead." Great description love it | |||
"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead. For us it's a journey, where we're learning and having an amazing time as we discover more about ourselves and each other "Yes this too very much | |||
"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead. For us it's a journey, where we're learning and having an amazing time as we discover more about ourselves and each other
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"Anyone had experience of using a violet wand or similar? What is it like? " Yes but I can't post about it on here as Too extreme | |||
"Anyone had experience of using a violet wand or similar? What is it like? Yes but I can't post about it on here as Too extreme" Ah ok thank you for letting me know would you be happy to pm me about it? | |||
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"I tried one of those bdsm test things very interesting indeed the outcome, if answered honestly it's quite perceptive
Honestly it was quite a shock how accurate it is did it bring up anything you hadnt considered?
It was remarkable how suited I apparently am to my journey based on the results and how accurate compared to my beliefs that it was alarming "chuckles | |||
"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead." thats a lovely way of putting it. and i guess its a process for those who are new and exploring together.. when you know what you need and want its more of sitting on your knees and waiting to be asked to dance..and of course patience is a discipline x | |||
"Anyone had experience of using a violet wand or similar? What is it like? " i dislike it intensely but then i get flashbacks of being hit by lightning. one day i may try again, but its unlikely to become one of my things... | |||
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"I did an online bdsm questionnaire recently and found out I am 98% rope bunny lol. Mostly I wasn't surprised by the results (other than being 25% switch - which is a lot higher than I'd put myself). I had to google what a rope bunny was but found some interesting pages with good information in the process. " and thats how exploring begins..i want to be a rigger one day, a good one, but i love been a rope bunny when i get the opportunity..suspension is my goal x | |||
"I did an online bdsm questionnaire recently and found out I am 98% rope bunny lol. Mostly I wasn't surprised by the results (other than being 25% switch - which is a lot higher than I'd put myself). I had to google what a rope bunny was but found some interesting pages with good information in the process. and thats how exploring begins..i want to be a rigger one day, a good one, but i love been a rope bunny when i get the opportunity..suspension is my goal x" I have a new bunny and we're currently on a journey together to suspension | |||
"I did an online bdsm questionnaire recently and found out I am 98% rope bunny lol. Mostly I wasn't surprised by the results (other than being 25% switch - which is a lot higher than I'd put myself). I had to google what a rope bunny was but found some interesting pages with good information in the process. and thats how exploring begins..i want to be a rigger one day, a good one, but i love been a rope bunny when i get the opportunity..suspension is my goal x I have a new bunny and we're currently on a journey together to suspension "nice..enjoy xx | |||
"I tried one of those bdsm test things very interesting indeed the outcome, if answered honestly it's quite perceptive
Honestly it was quite a shock how accurate it is did it bring up anything you hadnt considered?
It was remarkable how suited I apparently am to my journey based on the results and how accurate compared to my beliefs that it was alarming chuckles "All good though | |||
"Great thread, I just struggle at the implication it a process, to me it's a dance, I lead, however the elegance is with who is being lead.thats a lovely way of putting it. and i guess its a process for those who are new and exploring together.. when you know what you need and want its more of sitting on your knees and waiting to be asked to dance..and of course patience is a discipline x" I'm loving the descriptives makes it far more emotive | |||
"Anyone had experience of using a violet wand or similar? What is it like? i dislike it intensely but then i get flashbacks of being hit by lightning. one day i may try again, but its unlikely to become one of my things..." Omg I totally get why too | |||
"I did an online bdsm questionnaire recently and found out I am 98% rope bunny lol. Mostly I wasn't surprised by the results (other than being 25% switch - which is a lot higher than I'd put myself). I had to google what a rope bunny was but found some interesting pages with good information in the process. " I thought the online test was pretty good | |||
"I did an online bdsm questionnaire recently and found out I am 98% rope bunny lol. Mostly I wasn't surprised by the results (other than being 25% switch - which is a lot higher than I'd put myself). I had to google what a rope bunny was but found some interesting pages with good information in the process. and thats how exploring begins..i want to be a rigger one day, a good one, but i love been a rope bunny when i get the opportunity..suspension is my goal x" Oh yes! All those patterns and lines there's beauty in those shapes it's very interesting indeed | |||
"I did an online bdsm questionnaire recently and found out I am 98% rope bunny lol. Mostly I wasn't surprised by the results (other than being 25% switch - which is a lot higher than I'd put myself). I had to google what a rope bunny was but found some interesting pages with good information in the process. and thats how exploring begins..i want to be a rigger one day, a good one, but i love been a rope bunny when i get the opportunity..suspension is my goal x I have a new bunny and we're currently on a journey together to suspension " | |||
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"Anyone know if the bdsm test has changed in the last few years? When I did mine it didn't even mention rigger or bunny so maybe they've incorporated new elements. " Sounds like it then It's probably good to re try every now and then too as people may discover evolutionary things about themselves | |||
"Anyone know if the bdsm test has changed in the last few years? When I did mine it didn't even mention rigger or bunny so maybe they've incorporated new elements. " yep, and pet...great as part of a reviewing time, i found x | |||
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"Kiss and fuck....no question " does someone get a spanking first?
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"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
"We meet again Suzy | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy "mwhahaha hello lovely xxx | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx"Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat "i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx "You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead | |||
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"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead "chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx | |||
"Well you kinky lot I'll be at hitchin bitches with my rope tomorrow if anyone's going "sounds like alot of fun xx | |||
"I was into BDSM/Fetish for over 30 years and plan to write a book on it one day as I am very interested in the scene. I was however not a player it was never a game it was real,maybe not for this site" whats real? my dynamic is real, my Dom is real, i play for real...your point is? | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx"Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock "im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy "You ahould take it as a compliment, as well another thing you should be taking once i get you out of that cage | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy
You ahould take it as a compliment, as well another thing you should be taking once i get you out of that cage "i just do as im told, im a good kitty | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy
You ahould take it as a compliment, as well another thing you should be taking once i get you out of that cage i just do as im told, im a good kitty "
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"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy
You ahould take it as a compliment, as well another thing you should be taking once i get you out of that cage i just do as im told, im a good kitty
You say you are until you get your claws out and i have to use some force "why would i do that? and my Dom is in charge...submission isnt always about rough sex you know x | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy
You ahould take it as a compliment, as well another thing you should be taking once i get you out of that cage i just do as im told, im a good kitty
You say you are until you get your claws out and i have to use some force why would i do that? and my Dom is in charge...submission isnt always about rough sex you know x"Very true, theres some tricks i shoild learn off your dom xx | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
We meet again Suzy mwhahaha hello lovely xxx
Fancy seeing you in a BDSM chat i know, im practicing for the dungeon next weekend xx
You dont know how much i am jealous of you. I will be out in a nightclub instead chams as Kitty next friday...if you see a woman in a cage at the nightclub, think of me, wont you? xx
Wont be able to stop thinking abour you when the key is out and getting lubricated for the lock im assuming thats a compliment, naughty boy
You ahould take it as a compliment, as well another thing you should be taking once i get you out of that cage i just do as im told, im a good kitty
You say you are until you get your claws out and i have to use some force why would i do that? and my Dom is in charge...submission isnt always about rough sex you know x
Very true, theres some tricks i shoild learn off your dom xx"i'm sure he'd be pleased to show you. he likes others to collude with | |||
"Kiss and fuck....no question does someone get a spanking first?
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"I was into BDSM/Fetish for over 30 years and plan to write a book on it one day as I am very interested in the scene. I was however not a player it was never a game it was real,maybe not for this site"  did I miss something | |||
"I was into BDSM/Fetish for over 30 years and plan to write a book on it one day as I am very interested in the scene. I was however not a player it was never a game it was real,maybe not for this site whats real? my dynamic is real, my Dom is real, i play for real...your point is?" | |||
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"We have a visitor for the weekend. First time for ages we have to be in vanilla mode for an extended period of time. Fending off the blues "Bet that's difficult at times if not used to it too | |||
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"We have a visitor for the weekend. First time for ages we have to be in vanilla mode for an extended period of time. Fending off the blues
Bet that's difficult at times if not used to it too "Yeah. We can't play as we'd like and I can't defer to Sir the way I normally would. Feels very strange. Have to be careful not to say Sir | |||
"We are really interested in this and going to our first event next Thursday ! They have a little workshop and demonstrations ! Deciding what to wear is the hardest part! X" Ooo please do let us know how things went if you wouldn't mind | |||
"We have a visitor for the weekend. First time for ages we have to be in vanilla mode for an extended period of time. Fending off the blues
Bet that's difficult at times if not used to it too
Yeah. We can't play as we'd like and I can't defer to Sir the way I normally would. Feels very strange. Have to be careful not to say Sir "Ah I see there's ways you can learn to be that way through predetermined learnt mutual gestures which symbolises what's conveyed and apparently works well in public as others don't know what you mean | |||
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"There has been a number of comments on the benefits of a swinging fetish crossover, with a certain amount of negative comments about "pure fetish" events. A couple of years ago I commented in a thread about kink and sex being connected. I got completely hammered on that thread and was told in no uncertain terms that the two were not connected and it was because I was a single man that I saw a connection. Even though my experience was that my female play partners liked sex with their kink. It is interesting to see the sea change. Although I believe there is no "true way" to do kink, and I still think that kink connected to sex is fun, I am not sure about sex orientated kink events. I agree that there are kink events where people stand modeling, however there are a number of events where public sex is not permitted but at these fetish events there a lot of fun things going on Club Subversion comes to mind. Possibly because I used to swing and regularly attend swing events and parties I do not find people having sex in public at all kinky. Good lord at this kink event there is a women sucking a load of cocks, I have not seen that before...not! There's a woman being gangbanged that is unusual... not. Even interracial gangbangs...oh yawn! Possibly if some rope was introduced that would perk things up, as I did one night at an event. People complain about men they call the wanking zombie squad, when you introduce sex into a kink event you get these types. You also get the half naked shrieking banshee squad, who seem to think g strings and naked breasts outside of a D/S situation is kinky and the rules of decorum do not apply to them. Sorry two women kissing is tired not kinky. The only place where in my view public sex and kinked worked was at Subversion Noir, there was things happening that I had not seen at any swing event. As someone who loves kink in both its pure and practical forms, I am trying to say that I think the non sexual kink events should not be knocked if kink occurs. The concern about mixing swinging with kink is that the event becomes more about sex and it becomes little more than a swinging event with a little latex." Either way if people are happy and getting what they want is either of the ways an issue? Once people find out a certain way is not for them surely as is the way with threads they can just gravitate towards which ever suits them and pass by those that don't
That way things are not compartmentalised or narrowed down for popular opinion and there remains something for everyone via various types of event | |||
"There has been a number of comments on the benefits of a swinging fetish crossover, with a certain amount of negative comments about "pure fetish" events. A couple of years ago I commented in a thread about kink and sex being connected. I got completely hammered on that thread and was told in no uncertain terms that the two were not connected and it was because I was a single man that I saw a connection. Even though my experience was that my female play partners liked sex with their kink. It is interesting to see the sea change. Although I believe there is no "true way" to do kink, and I still think that kink connected to sex is fun, I am not sure about sex orientated kink events. I agree that there are kink events where people stand modeling, however there are a number of events where public sex is not permitted but at these fetish events there a lot of fun things going on Club Subversion comes to mind. Possibly because I used to swing and regularly attend swing events and parties I do not find people having sex in public at all kinky. Good lord at this kink event there is a women sucking a load of cocks, I have not seen that before...not! There's a woman being gangbanged that is unusual... not. Even interracial gangbangs...oh yawn! Possibly if some rope was introduced that would perk things up, as I did one night at an event. People complain about men they call the wanking zombie squad, when you introduce sex into a kink event you get these types. You also get the half naked shrieking banshee squad, who seem to think g strings and naked breasts outside of a D/S situation is kinky and the rules of decorum do not apply to them. Sorry two women kissing is tired not kinky. The only place where in my view public sex and kinked worked was at Subversion Noir, there was things happening that I had not seen at any swing event. As someone who loves kink in both its pure and practical forms, I am trying to say that I think the non sexual kink events should not be knocked if kink occurs. The concern about mixing swinging with kink is that the event becomes more about sex and it becomes little more than a swinging event with a little latex." there's room for everything in my view, i don't knock fet only events, but, i don't play at them, this is because i don't do things casually. i like my dynamics and protocol, but thats just me. . there are 'players' in both scenes, there are the 'serious' in both scenes and then there are the serious and casual who blur the boundaries and do what suits them.. . maybe people would be happier if we labelled it a fetish, then either side could do or not do as they do with any other type of 'preference' x | |||
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"There has been a number of comments on the benefits of a swinging fetish crossover, with a certain amount of negative comments about "pure fetish" events. A couple of years ago I commented in a thread about kink and sex being connected. I got completely hammered on that thread and was told in no uncertain terms that the two were not connected and it was because I was a single man that I saw a connection. Even though my experience was that my female play partners liked sex with their kink. It is interesting to see the sea change. Although I believe there is no "true way" to do kink, and I still think that kink connected to sex is fun, I am not sure about sex orientated kink events. I agree that there are kink events where people stand modeling, however there are a number of events where public sex is not permitted but at these fetish events there a lot of fun things going on Club Subversion comes to mind. Possibly because I used to swing and regularly attend swing events and parties I do not find people having sex in public at all kinky. Good lord at this kink event there is a women sucking a load of cocks, I have not seen that before...not! There's a woman being gangbanged that is unusual... not. Even interracial gangbangs...oh yawn! Possibly if some rope was introduced that would perk things up, as I did one night at an event. People complain about men they call the wanking zombie squad, when you introduce sex into a kink event you get these types. You also get the half naked shrieking banshee squad, who seem to think g strings and naked breasts outside of a D/S situation is kinky and the rules of decorum do not apply to them. Sorry two women kissing is tired not kinky. The only place where in my view public sex and kinked worked was at Subversion Noir, there was things happening that I had not seen at any swing event. As someone who loves kink in both its pure and practical forms, I am trying to say that I think the non sexual kink events should not be knocked if kink occurs. The concern about mixing swinging with kink is that the event becomes more about sex and it becomes little more than a swinging event with a little latex.there's room for everything in my view, i don't knock fet only events, but, i don't play at them, this is because i don't do things casually. i like my dynamics and protocol, but thats just me. . there are 'players' in both scenes, there are the 'serious' in both scenes and then there are the serious and casual who blur the boundaries and do what suits them.. . maybe people would be happier if we labelled it a fetish, then either side could do or not do as they do with any other type of 'preference' x" I genuinely believe there is no true way to do kink. Although for me kink needs that extra ingredient of being unacceptable to the mainstream and mainstream swingers (which I admit may be a circular definition). There is room for every permutation of play, provided in my view, the advertising for any event is clear the crowd that the event is trying to cater. An event can cater for different crowds so even events such antichrist has a "couples room" off the main area. | |||
"There has been a number of comments on the benefits of a swinging fetish crossover, with a certain amount of negative comments about "pure fetish" events. A couple of years ago I commented in a thread about kink and sex being connected. I got completely hammered on that thread and was told in no uncertain terms that the two were not connected and it was because I was a single man that I saw a connection. Even though my experience was that my female play partners liked sex with their kink. It is interesting to see the sea change. Although I believe there is no "true way" to do kink, and I still think that kink connected to sex is fun, I am not sure about sex orientated kink events. I agree that there are kink events where people stand modeling, however there are a number of events where public sex is not permitted but at these fetish events there a lot of fun things going on Club Subversion comes to mind. Possibly because I used to swing and regularly attend swing events and parties I do not find people having sex in public at all kinky. Good lord at this kink event there is a women sucking a load of cocks, I have not seen that before...not! There's a woman being gangbanged that is unusual... not. Even interracial gangbangs...oh yawn! Possibly if some rope was introduced that would perk things up, as I did one night at an event. People complain about men they call the wanking zombie squad, when you introduce sex into a kink event you get these types. You also get the half naked shrieking banshee squad, who seem to think g strings and naked breasts outside of a D/S situation is kinky and the rules of decorum do not apply to them. Sorry two women kissing is tired not kinky. The only place where in my view public sex and kinked worked was at Subversion Noir, there was things happening that I had not seen at any swing event. As someone who loves kink in both its pure and practical forms, I am trying to say that I think the non sexual kink events should not be knocked if kink occurs. The concern about mixing swinging with kink is that the event becomes more about sex and it becomes little more than a swinging event with a little latex.there's room for everything in my view, i don't knock fet only events, but, i don't play at them, this is because i don't do things casually. i like my dynamics and protocol, but thats just me. . there are 'players' in both scenes, there are the 'serious' in both scenes and then there are the serious and casual who blur the boundaries and do what suits them.. . maybe people would be happier if we labelled it a fetish, then either side could do or not do as they do with any other type of 'preference' x I genuinely believe there is no true way to do kink. Although for me kink needs that extra ingredient of being unacceptable to the mainstream and mainstream swingers (which I admit may be a circular definition). There is room for every permutation of play, provided in my view, the advertising for any event is clear the crowd that the event is trying to cater. An event can cater for different crowds so even events such antichrist has a "couples room" off the main area. " do you just do kink to be a rebel against society then? quite frankly i dont think about how other people feel about my sex life, they probably dont care. know of any places that do 'pet' shows though?..id like to enter one | |||
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"To do kink to rebel would in my view be childish. When I look back I realise I was attracted to kink and doing kink without knowing it, I suspect this applies to many kinky folk. The added ingredient is the techy in me trying to find the element in kink to cover those in kink who love various types of kink from pet play, rubber, cross dressing, impact and edge play, 50s wives, violet wands and D/S. It was an attempt to define and extract that magic element that makes kink different and it is not about the kinkster but is an attempt at an objective explanation of what makes kink what it is. Someone else could come up with another definition." i doubt im classified as kinky, i have a sense of humour ..oh well | |||
"To do kink to rebel would in my view be childish. When I look back I realise I was attracted to kink and doing kink without knowing it, I suspect this applies to many kinky folk. The added ingredient is the techy in me trying to find the element in kink to cover those in kink who love various types of kink from pet play, rubber, cross dressing, impact and edge play, 50s wives, violet wands and D/S. It was an attempt to define and extract that magic element that makes kink different and it is not about the kinkster but is an attempt at an objective explanation of what makes kink what it is. Someone else could come up with another definition.i doubt im classified as kinky, i have a sense of humour ..oh well "Obviously far too subtle a sense of humour to be kinky! Wearing black removes the ability to smile. unfortunately the only pet shows I know are down south. | |||
"To do kink to rebel would in my view be childish. When I look back I realise I was attracted to kink and doing kink without knowing it, I suspect this applies to many kinky folk. The added ingredient is the techy in me trying to find the element in kink to cover those in kink who love various types of kink from pet play, rubber, cross dressing, impact and edge play, 50s wives, violet wands and D/S. It was an attempt to define and extract that magic element that makes kink different and it is not about the kinkster but is an attempt at an objective explanation of what makes kink what it is. Someone else could come up with another definition.i doubt im classified as kinky, i have a sense of humour ..oh well
Obviously far too subtle a sense of humour to be kinky! Wearing black removes the ability to smile.
unfortunately the only pet shows I know are down south. "maybe you should wear nothing then..maybe thats my secret, wear as little of possible and laugh at the folly of being a human cat. im east. i dont evaporate when i travel south you know | |||
"To do kink to rebel would in my view be childish. When I look back I realise I was attracted to kink and doing kink without knowing it, I suspect this applies to many kinky folk. The added ingredient is the techy in me trying to find the element in kink to cover those in kink who love various types of kink from pet play, rubber, cross dressing, impact and edge play, 50s wives, violet wands and D/S. It was an attempt to define and extract that magic element that makes kink different and it is not about the kinkster but is an attempt at an objective explanation of what makes kink what it is. Someone else could come up with another definition.i doubt im classified as kinky, i have a sense of humour ..oh well
Obviously far too subtle a sense of humour to be kinky! Wearing black removes the ability to smile.
unfortunately the only pet shows I know are down south. maybe you should wear nothing then..maybe thats my secret, wear as little of possible and laugh at the folly of being a human cat. im east. i dont evaporate when i travel south you know "Ip lived in Ipswich and I know people do evaporate once past Colchester, fact! My nude suit is not my best suit! Whereas a cat suit... | |||
"To do kink to rebel would in my view be childish. When I look back I realise I was attracted to kink and doing kink without knowing it, I suspect this applies to many kinky folk. The added ingredient is the techy in me trying to find the element in kink to cover those in kink who love various types of kink from pet play, rubber, cross dressing, impact and edge play, 50s wives, violet wands and D/S. It was an attempt to define and extract that magic element that makes kink different and it is not about the kinkster but is an attempt at an objective explanation of what makes kink what it is. Someone else could come up with another definition.i doubt im classified as kinky, i have a sense of humour ..oh well
Obviously far too subtle a sense of humour to be kinky! Wearing black removes the ability to smile.
unfortunately the only pet shows I know are down south. maybe you should wear nothing then..maybe thats my secret, wear as little of possible and laugh at the folly of being a human cat. im east. i dont evaporate when i travel south you know
Ip lived in Ipswich and I know people do evaporate once past Colchester, fact! My nude suit is not my best suit! Whereas a cat suit...
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"I tend to have a bow on my dickie when I go casual. I went to a party on a canal barge on the Orwell a few years ago. I get the impression that Suffolk kinksters are private souls. "Love it  | |||
"I tend to have a bow on my dickie when I go casual. I went to a party on a canal barge on the Orwell a few years ago. I get the impression that Suffolk kinksters are private souls. "cute i just live here, i dont come from here..maybe thats why i travel, alot | |||
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"I tend to have a bow on my dickie when I go casual. I went to a party on a canal barge on the Orwell a few years ago. I get the impression that Suffolk kinksters are private souls. cute i just live here, i dont come from here..maybe thats why i travel, alot "So do the people who live there! Usually down the road to Mingles or up the Annexe | |||
"I tend to have a bow on my dickie when I go casual. I went to a party on a canal barge on the Orwell a few years ago. I get the impression that Suffolk kinksters are private souls. cute i just live here, i dont come from here..maybe thats why i travel, alot
So do the people who live there! Usually down the road to Mingles or up the Annexe
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"A fab life well travelled. It is a shame about Fab ducking the bdsm forum. Understandable in the current climate and the Digital Economy Bill but not helpful, given the interest all things bdsm, it is a shame there is no half way house on fab." Absolutely agree with this, however perhaps some of the issue is perhaps the support doesn't come across as consistent enough, the contributions to these threads seem sporadic mainly which doesnt I guess inspire the necessity to meet said need, we really need to try and get more who are into the scene to post and contribute more just keeping it within the rules and boundaries set out to prevent issues | |||
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"Hi All, We combine heavy fetish and swing - no problem combining the two in our minds but we have encountered some prejudice at straight swing parties. We are empathetic and by no means push it in peoples' faces, but it is ironic how judgemental some conventional swingers are. R&C x" Always some who could ruin it for the rest in every area best not to let them though | |||
"Hi All, We combine heavy fetish and swing - no problem combining the two in our minds but we have encountered some prejudice at straight swing parties. We are empathetic and by no means push it in peoples' faces, but it is ironic how judgemental some conventional swingers are. R&C x Always some who could ruin it for the rest in every area best not to let them though "Bump Great debate and forum | |||
