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The 'thruple' expereince
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My fantasy would be to have two boyfriends, who know about each other and we all get along great. I've wanted that since I was 20! I've had variations on it, but not quite. But it's an awesome fantasy! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My fantasy would be to have two boyfriends, who know about each other and we all get along great. I've wanted that since I was 20! I've had variations on it, but not quite. But it's an awesome fantasy!"
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We've never really had it like you describe. We've had mfm, fmf, lots of m's for me lol but it's always been about the sex. I think we'd love to try the idea of having a guy, girl or even couple to spend an evening with, not promising a shag but just a laugh etc. I think that would be nice tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have something similar with a couple I used to meet
Although we almost invariably ended up in bed at the end of the evening, during the day there would be lunch out and shopping .. and occasionally trips to the cinema ..but it was always nice and relaxed and no pressure.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP stick it on your profile. There are loads of couples who would be up for this. My boyfriend and I lean towards sexual friendships and have met couples like this, both separately and together. It is not a far-fetched fantasy, it is simply a case of finding the right people. |
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I spent two years living with 2 guys as a thruple (hate that term).
The guys were straight but we only had one bed for the two years and lived competely as a 3 person relationship. It's worked really well and only came to an end when one of the guys got a job away so we all decided to bring it to an end together rather than 2 of us carry on.
The sex was great and plentiful for me being one of two guys in the relationship seemed to spur each other on, but not in an overly competative way - but both made maximum effort when it came to sex, which was great for me
It was a happy time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I spent two years living with 2 guys as a thruple (hate that term).
The guys were straight but we only had one bed for the two years and lived competely as a 3 person relationship. It's worked really well and only came to an end when one of the guys got a job away so we all decided to bring it to an end together rather than 2 of us carry on.
Wish I'd had your experience! Sounds wonderful!
The sex was great and plentiful for me being one of two guys in the relationship seemed to spur each other on, but not in an overly competative way - but both made maximum effort when it came to sex, which was great for me
It was a happy time. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am looking for something like this too.
I find meets with couples a bit weird and there are far too many rules- it puts me off!
But I'd love to have a sexy friendship where we all get along REALLY well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP I think you've pretty much summed up what we're ideally looking for at some point down the line... a situation where we all find each other attractive, have great sex, but are really fundamentally friends... though not so familiar that there isn't any charm and romance to it any more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I think you've pretty much summed up what we're ideally looking for at some point down the line... a situation where we all find each other attractive, have great sex, but are really fundamentally friends... though not so familiar that there isn't any charm and romance to it any more "
I wish I was nearer to you.
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By *f4loanMan
over a year ago
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"My fantasy would be to have two boyfriends, who know about each other and we all get along great. I've wanted that since I was 20! I've had variations on it, but not quite. But it's an awesome fantasy!"
This is the ideal  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I think you've pretty much summed up what we're ideally looking for at some point down the line... a situation where we all find each other attractive, have great sex, but are really fundamentally friends... though not so familiar that there isn't any charm and romance to it any more
I wish I was nearer to you.
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Well I almost added to the end "a bit like a holiday romance that happens every now and then" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I was sort of in something like this at one point but it's something I'd like to explore again.
Joining a sexy couple for this? I think that would be perfect as long as there was no jealousy.
I'd love to get to the point where I could move in with the couple... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I spent two years living with 2 guys as a thruple (hate that term).
The guys were straight but we only had one bed for the two years and lived competely as a 3 person relationship. It's worked really well and only came to an end when one of the guys got a job away so we all decided to bring it to an end together rather than 2 of us carry on.
The sex was great and plentiful for me being one of two guys in the relationship seemed to spur each other on, but not in an overly competative way - but both made maximum effort when it came to sex, which was great for me
It was a happy time. "
This sounds awesome! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I find meets with couples a bit weird and there are far too many rules- it puts me off!
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Tell me about it...
Not asking to be an equal in relationship terms, but an equal in the bedroom please! |
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Yes, I (R) am currently involved in a triad type relationship with another couple - it's really nice having that emotional connection too. Generally, we prefer finding friends that we can hang out with and also have the option of play if we all want to rather than just meeting up with someone/people for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex."
Yup - is very nice, being first and foremost, all good friends - relaxed and comfortable company. Anything naughty which might happen, is the delicious cherry on top. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
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there is a thruple who regally attend the affinity social. |
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By *Q_GentMan
over a year ago
Manchester, City Centre |
"Yes, I (R) am currently involved in a triad type relationship with another couple - it's really nice having that emotional connection too. Generally, we prefer finding friends that we can hang out with and also have the option of play if we all want to rather than just meeting up with someone/people for sex."
Really hope it works out for you all...I'd love to get back into a similar situation...
With everyone being open and honest...it does make you see relationships in a different light when there's more than two of you |
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"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
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would love to hang out with 2 guys! Then fun would be amazing! But that's in the fantasy world! |
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"I spent two years living with 2 guys as a thruple (hate that term).
The guys were straight but we only had one bed for the two years and lived competely as a 3 person relationship. It's worked really well and only came to an end when one of the guys got a job away so we all decided to bring it to an end together rather than 2 of us carry on.
The sex was great and plentiful for me being one of two guys in the relationship seemed to spur each other on, but not in an overly competative way - but both made maximum effort when it came to sex, which was great for me
It was a happy time.
This sounds awesome!"
Absolutely awesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well we've sort of done it.... ended up with the sex side of things being left behind... We've all friend zoned ourselves now!! It was fun while it lasted |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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This is our ultimate aim but in truth we do not see them coming from Fab
We had it with a work colleague of H's so a friend first, then a hangout buddy, then more & more time in each others houses, eventually a few stay overs & it just evolved. Sex didn't happen every time we'd hangout and didn't have to.
They'd come with us when out with the kids too & she'd even take them out on her own so we could have date nights ourselves.
Be great to even come close to it tbh.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have a couple of couples who we do this with,we go for a drink, meal,or cinema and may have sex later on its more relaxed as we have known each other for awhile so that's what we look for people who want the same as us.xxx
P.s take a look at us always looking for friends to have a laugh with and maybe great relaxed sexual fun. |
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"I spent two years living with 2 guys as a thruple (hate that term).
The guys were straight but we only had one bed for the two years and lived competely as a 3 person relationship. It's worked really well and only came to an end when one of the guys got a job away so we all decided to bring it to an end together rather than 2 of us carry on.
The sex was great and plentiful for me being one of two guys in the relationship seemed to spur each other on, but not in an overly competative way - but both made maximum effort when it came to sex, which was great for me
It was a happy time.
This sounds awesome!
Absolutely awesome "
Its was fine at that point in time of all our lives, but realistically it was never going to be a life long thing as reality is that it's hard to square life goals of 3 people.
But at that point all 3 of us were young and the dynamic worked perfectly and it felt natural. We had quite a lot of hostility from family, work colleagues etc but nearly all of our friends just sort of went with it.
I probably had more sex in that 2 years than I've ever had, that side of things was amazing as both guys seemed constantly horny lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think this sounds ok for 3 single people coming together but not for a married couple having a single guy/girl join them 24/7.
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Ah, but, I am not talking about 24/7. I'm talking about the thruple 'experience'. Ya know, like the gf / bf experience.
Where the third isn't just a human shaped sex toy to spice up a couple's life. Where, for an evening, you hang out as if all three of you are dating each other. Flirt, get intimate and see where it leads.
Aka not just another sex meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I spent two years living with 2 guys as a thruple (hate that term).
The guys were straight but we only had one bed for the two years and lived competely as a 3 person relationship. It's worked really well and only came to an end when one of the guys got a job away so we all decided to bring it to an end together rather than 2 of us carry on.
The sex was great and plentiful for me being one of two guys in the relationship seemed to spur each other on, but not in an overly competative way - but both made maximum effort when it came to sex, which was great for me
It was a happy time. "
God I would so love this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
would love to hang out with 2 guys! Then fun would be amazing! But that's in the fantasy world!"
So would I! Two guys in Manchester...anyone?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we don't go looking for this dynamic per se but the vast majority of our swinging friendships with couples and some single females seem to naturally evolve into something along these lines...we go out and stay in for meals, drinks, dancing and often end up in a big pile of naked people with our friends...it enhances our life enormously and is fabulous fun but wanting that dynamic isn't a requirement to us meeting, we'd rather it evolved naturally purely through the mutual attraction on other levels than just sexual |
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By *Q_GentMan
over a year ago
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"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
would love to hang out with 2 guys! Then fun would be amazing! But that's in the fantasy world!
So would I! Two guys in Manchester...anyone??"
If only I was within your age range |
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We actually discussed the merits (and pitfalls) of entering into a permanent relationship with another female. We've had a bi male FB for a few years now and C was hoping to entice a lady to be our polygamous partner. We got very keen on the idea for many months, especially if she got on with or FB (which would not be a problem, trust us).
We decided against pursuing it in the end, preferring the occasional swing to something full-time. That being said, we're still open to the idea of a regular bi female FB for board games, movies and occasionally sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
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Done this often with regular fuck buddys. Awesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So kinda like the 'boyfriend / girlfriend experience' where it's not all about the sex, but with a threesome.
Does anyone have experience of this?
I like the idea of hanging out with a couple, watching a movie, chilling out and it all possibly leading to sex. Not with any commitment, but without it all being about the sex.
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I think that would be lots of fun |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Thing that worked well for us was that because it wasn't all about sex if our friend came round or went out down the park/pub/shopping whatever with either of us it didn't matter.
Basically a g/f for both of us either individually or together.
Be great to find similar again..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think this sounds ok for 3 single people coming together but not for a married couple having a single guy/girl join them 24/7.
Ah, but, I am not talking about 24/7. I'm talking about the thruple 'experience'. Ya know, like the gf / bf experience.
Where the third isn't just a human shaped sex toy to spice up a couple's life. Where, for an evening, you hang out as if all three of you are dating each other. Flirt, get intimate and see where it leads.
Aka not just another sex meet."
This is exactly what we are hoping to find/create.
A fun mutual friendship with the option of sex. No 'rules' but an organic relationship that just goes where it flows! |
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