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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
Hi all
I'm looking at biting the bullet and planning to host a fab social event local to me in Doncaster
While Im a fairly confident person so don't worry about hosting capabilities, I just wondered if people could share their experiences of elements they enjoyed from social events they've attended over the years, to hopefully help me plan an evening that would appeal and be enjoyable to a diverse range of people.
Thanks in advance
 curvy
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"We've been to a couple of organised socials. The things we appreciated were a comfortable venue and hosts who made sure everyone was included.
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Yes I've made some appointments to view some venues this coming week as I want one with a nice relaxed environment |
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Expect at least half the people to not turn up.
Go out of your way to make everyone feel included.
Have something for an icebreaker if necessary.
Keep the venue quiet till the day before and only send it to people who have confirmed  |
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Curvy mama - I hope you get some good advice and pointers. Unfortunately i cant help advice wise sorry and i'm not close enough to lend a hand with logistics.
Princess Peach - lovely to have offered support if you could. Its the thoughts that counts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have been to some at York and Newcastle both very different but both good the hosts are very nice people and I don't think they would mind you messaging them and asking any questions you mite have xx |
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"We've been to a couple of organised socials. The things we appreciated were a comfortable venue and hosts who made sure everyone was included.
Yes I've made some appointments to view some venues this coming week as I want one with a nice relaxed environment "
Are you going to tell them why you want the venue?
Another thing we appreciated was that it was social only...no play at all. |
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"Expect at least half the people to not turn up.
Go out of your way to make everyone feel included.
Have something for an icebreaker if necessary.
Keep the venue quiet till the day before and only send it to people who have confirmed "
Isn't that the case for any party though plan for and 100 expect 50
I've done a few house parties on a smaller scale so hosting doesn't worry me I just need to make sure I'm circulating well and I'm sure that side will be fine
The venue tip was a good one if no considered though so thanks for that
Any good Ice breaker suggestions that work on a grander scale? |
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"We've been to a couple of organised socials. The things we appreciated were a comfortable venue and hosts who made sure everyone was included.
Yes I've made some appointments to view some venues this coming week as I want one with a nice relaxed environment
Are you going to tell them why you want the venue?
Another thing we appreciated was that it was social only...no play at all."
See that another good question I wasn't quite sure on the etiquette for telling the venue or not but I do want it to be a social only event so I would hope people respect that |
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"We've been to a couple of organised socials. The things we appreciated were a comfortable venue and hosts who made sure everyone was included.
Yes I've made some appointments to view some venues this coming week as I want one with a nice relaxed environment
Are you going to tell them why you want the venue?
Another thing we appreciated was that it was social only...no play at all.
See that another good question I wasn't quite sure on the etiquette for telling the venue or not but I do want it to be a social only event so I would hope people respect that "
The people who organised the socials we went to told them it was a meeting of people from an internet forum.
You need to make it very clear that its social only because there's always one  |
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"We've been to a couple of organised socials. The things we appreciated were a comfortable venue and hosts who made sure everyone was included.
Yes I've made some appointments to view some venues this coming week as I want one with a nice relaxed environment
Are you going to tell them why you want the venue?
Another thing we appreciated was that it was social only...no play at all.
See that another good question I wasn't quite sure on the etiquette for telling the venue or not but I do want it to be a social only event so I would hope people respect that
The people who organised the socials we went to told them it was a meeting of people from an internet forum.
You need to make it very clear that its social only because there's always one "
At the moment I've not said much beyond that I'm lmwabting to look at their venue for a social mixer
And yes as I've said I've done smaller scale house parties so not above laying down the law on the social front |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Hi all
I'm looking at biting the bullet and planning to host a fab social event local to me in Doncaster
While Im a fairly confident person so don't worry about hosting capabilities, I just wondered if people could share their experiences of elements they enjoyed from social events they've attended over the years, to hopefully help me plan an evening that would appeal and be enjoyable to a diverse range of people.
Thanks in advance
curvy
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Make sure no single guys are invited?  |
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"Hi all
I'm looking at biting the bullet and planning to host a fab social event local to me in Doncaster
While Im a fairly confident person so don't worry about hosting capabilities, I just wondered if people could share their experiences of elements they enjoyed from social events they've attended over the years, to hopefully help me plan an evening that would appeal and be enjoyable to a diverse range of people.
Thanks in advance
curvy
Make sure no single guys are invited? "
What except you? |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Hi all
I'm looking at biting the bullet and planning to host a fab social event local to me in Doncaster
While Im a fairly confident person so don't worry about hosting capabilities, I just wondered if people could share their experiences of elements they enjoyed from social events they've attended over the years, to hopefully help me plan an evening that would appeal and be enjoyable to a diverse range of people.
Thanks in advance
curvy
Make sure no single guys are invited?
What except you? "
you said it. Not me!  |
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"We've been to a couple of organised socials. The things we appreciated were a comfortable venue and hosts who made sure everyone was included.
Yes I've made some appointments to view some venues this coming week as I want one with a nice relaxed environment
Are you going to tell them why you want the venue?
Another thing we appreciated was that it was social only...no play at all.
See that another good question I wasn't quite sure on the etiquette for telling the venue or not but I do want it to be a social only event so I would hope people respect that
The people who organised the socials we went to told them it was a meeting of people from an internet forum.
You need to make it very clear that its social only because there's always one
At the moment I've not said much beyond that I'm lmwabting to look at their venue for a social mixer
And yes as I've said I've done smaller scale house parties so not above laying down the law on the social front "
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We've only been to one organised social and although we enjoyed it, it was tricky to break into some of the groups once they'd all settled round a table. We'd arrived an hour or so after the start so the people who knew each other had grouped off for a catch up. We got some drinks and then wandered around the room looking for a group to join. Fortunately some of the hosts saw us and broke us in
My general experience of parties and socials is that if they have lots of small tables with seats all around then it can make for these closed off bubbles. Too much seating also tends to make people get settled and stay put, not circulating. So you almost want enough seating for half the people so there's always people on their feet and milling about.
Try and recruit a hosting team of people who are happy to engage with people they don't know and to introduce them to people who they think might get on with them. That's obviously easier to do if you have a socially active local fab group who know each other.
Fab name badges could help as an ice breaker although it could give the game away to the bar staff
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"We've only been to one organised social and although we enjoyed it, it was tricky to break into some of the groups once they'd all settled round a table. We'd arrived an hour or so after the start so the people who knew each other had grouped off for a catch up. We got some drinks and then wandered around the room looking for a group to join. Fortunately some of the hosts saw us and broke us in
My general experience of parties and socials is that if they have lots of small tables with seats all around then it can make for these closed off bubbles. Too much seating also tends to make people get settled and stay put, not circulating. So you almost want enough seating for half the people so there's always people on their feet and milling about.
Try and recruit a hosting team of people who are happy to engage with people they don't know and to introduce them to people who they think might get on with them. That's obviously easier to do if you have a socially active local fab group who know each other.
Fab name badges could help as an ice breaker although it could give the game away to the bar staff
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Thank you I had thought about the numbers/seating arrangements dilemma already as a learning curvy I've picked up from the previous house parties I've done, but of course it's adapting that on the grander scale to try and get the balance right.
Names badges was something I'd also considered to help with ice breaking but just for first names not usernames as I thought attendees would probably prefer to discuss that amongst themselves for discretional purposes |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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Don't have one icebreaker - that would only work if everyone arrived together, which is unrealistic.
Maybe have a couple of them, but do them after a while, as a means of reshuffling people around. |
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Names badges was something I'd also considered to help with ice breaking but just for first names not usernames as I thought attendees would probably prefer to discuss that amongst themselves for discretional purposes "
That's a good point, actually! Maybe just provide blank 'my name is' stickers and leave the guests to put what they want?
An extension to that could be to provide different coloured name tags or small ribbons to signify sexuality? Again, on a voluntary basis if people want to display that. Green for gay, blue for bi, scarlet for straight.... May be a good icebreaker and could help connect people easier? |
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One of the best socials I've been to is the Blackpool weekender. It's a simple formula that works but it's always fab. Usually 3 days. Fri - club visit, Sat - night out round town, sun - drag act. Stay for as long as you wish. Always well attended. There is another one in May, but just Fri and Sat. So why does this work so well? I'd say - good transport links, alot of cheap hotels, a simple, structured model (you can't please every one so don't try, go for the majority. Stick to the plan), plenty of variety, advertise well in advance and a host that is confident and friendly. Good luck and enjoy. |
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An organised social sounds great. Will it be a day or evening event? I'd want a bar and the opportunity to buy food because I'm a greedy mare Privacy, so not a shared venue, and some music. We'd appreciate a 'no play' rule social and I'm sure other newbies would feel the same. Tbh I think anyone should be able to attend, single or not. Oh, and give some idea of a dress code. I want to fit in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps surprisingly lots of people find the social a very nerve-wracking thing.
And be clear about the fact it is a social and no play if that's your intention "
There's play at the Newcastle socials. We have a BJ corner |
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
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Names badges was something I'd also considered to help with ice breaking but just for first names not usernames as I thought attendees would probably prefer to discuss that amongst themselves for discretional purposes
Oh I like that idea a colour code system would probably work quite well for people thank you
That's a good point, actually! Maybe just provide blank 'my name is' stickers and leave the guests to put what they want?
An extension to that could be to provide different coloured name tags or small ribbons to signify sexuality? Again, on a voluntary basis if people want to display that. Green for gay, blue for bi, scarlet for straight.... May be a good icebreaker and could help connect people easier? "
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"An organised social sounds great. Will it be a day or evening event? I'd want a bar and the opportunity to buy food because I'm a greedy mare Privacy, so not a shared venue, and some music. We'd appreciate a 'no play' rule social and I'm sure other newbies would feel the same. Tbh I think anyone should be able to attend, single or not. Oh, and give some idea of a dress code. I want to fit in "
Yes as this would be my first large event so I think just starting as an evening event to test the waters as I don't see many socials advertised for Doncaster so I'm not sure what interest there would be
As yes I'm looking for no play social so looking at vanilla venues to encourage that, was considering a cocktail/mocktail upon arrival and doing the first part of the evening like a cocktail hour to allow people to get introduced and to mingle with some low music to set ambience then as the night moves on having a bit more of a disco element to allow people to dance as let's face it most of us ladies love a good boogie! |
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By *urvymama OP Woman
over a year ago
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"One of the best socials I've been to is the Blackpool weekender. It's a simple formula that works but it's always fab. Usually 3 days. Fri - club visit, Sat - night out round town, sun - drag act. Stay for as long as you wish. Always well attended. There is another one in May, but just Fri and Sat. So why does this work so well? I'd say - good transport links, alot of cheap hotels, a simple, structured model (you can't please every one so don't try, go for the majority. Stick to the plan), plenty of variety, advertise well in advance and a host that is confident and friendly. Good luck and enjoy."
When I e hosted my house parties they've been weekend events and usually are very successful and people that have attended have said they'd be interested in a larger event even if only social, which is why I'm considering/looking into it |
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"An organised social sounds great. Will it be a day or evening event? I'd want a bar and the opportunity to buy food because I'm a greedy mare Privacy, so not a shared venue, and some music. We'd appreciate a 'no play' rule social and I'm sure other newbies would feel the same. Tbh I think anyone should be able to attend, single or not. Oh, and give some idea of a dress code. I want to fit in
Yes as this would be my first large event so I think just starting as an evening event to test the waters as I don't see many socials advertised for Doncaster so I'm not sure what interest there would be
As yes I'm looking for no play social so looking at vanilla venues to encourage that, was considering a cocktail/mocktail upon arrival and doing the first part of the evening like a cocktail hour to allow people to get introduced and to mingle with some low music to set ambience then as the night moves on having a bit more of a disco element to allow people to dance as let's face it most of us ladies love a good boogie! "
Sounds great! Let us know if it goes ahead |
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"Perhaps surprisingly lots of people find the social a very nerve-wracking thing.
And be clear about the fact it is a social and no play if that's your intention
There's play at the Newcastle socials. We have a BJ corner "
And the rest lol... But it is advertised as an erotica now not just a social  |
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