FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Casual empty sex

Casual empty sex

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I am fed up with the casual empty sex that only leaves you feeling used and worthless...

This was from an article I read in a paper and it pretty much sums up how I feel now about sex...Sex is only great when part of a continuing relationship and when there are some feelings involved. I have stopped having sex on fab for that reason and am now.concentrating on my kink/Dom side (i enjoy Dom sessions) and/or meeting someone on fab with a view to having a long term relationship/friends with benefits. I have no doubt I am doing the right thing. Do any of you feel the same?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Casual sex is one thing, relationship sex with someone you love is quite another and beyond compare.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am fed up with the casual empty sex that only leaves you feeling used and worthless...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Casual sex is one thing, relationship sex with someone you love is quite another and beyond compare.

"
you can have casual meaningful sex without love and relationships though x

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Yes

Now I only want sex with my boyfriend and occasionally swap with another couple in a club in the same room

I find most single men, especially in the swinging scence, unattractive and boring and sex with them is marginally worse than using a vibrator

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree. At first the thrill of sex with someone unknown was amazing, and it has to be said, for me a confidence boost after a marriage breakdown. But now, I need that little bit more. Someone who can hold a conversation about stuff and not just sex, can do social stuff too.

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *oyuer99Man over a year ago

PRESTON

Unfortunately sometimes sex fails to live up to our unrealistic expectations.Not only on this site and with more casual encounters but it can happen in marriage as well.

HUGS. X

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I don't feel that way, possibly because we're a long time married so have the meaningful bit.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know what you mean OP but it depends on how you are treated on a meet.

It sounds like you have had some bad experiences - and casual sex isn't what you want.

If you're looking for a relationship then I'm not telling you what to do - but fab is probably the wrong place!

It's the worst place to be if you're feeling lonely.

Hugs xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Totally agree. At first the thrill of sex with someone unknown was amazing, and it has to be said, for me a confidence boost after a marriage breakdown. But now, I need that little bit more. Someone who can hold a conversation about stuff and not just sex, can do social stuff too.

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

I completely agree. For me, the bits in between sex are just as important as the sex. I need to be able to have a conversation with someone, have a laugh with them as well as enjoy having sex with them. I have got this with someone at the moment but they're not from Fab

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

I'm meeting a non fab person at the weekend, who at the moment who looks like he could provide all the extra bits I need. No sex talk so he doesn't know about this side of me yet

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *laymateMJMan over a year ago

CENTRAL LONDON

I think if anyone feels the way the OP does then they should be more selective about who they pick to meet.

In my opinion sex is far more than just sex, there is a whole experience starting with simple chat, discovering who a person is and what they like, fantasising about the meet. I want any person I meet to be excited about it, nervous even. The meet that follows should be entirely satisfying and any meet I have always puts the other person(s) as a priority.

I get excited about pleasing people and giving them what they want, that way I find the same is received and the connection built means that this isn't a one off and the door is opened to a sexual relationship that has the legs to go much further than just sex.

Any person who wants to meet up for quick and simple gratification is just as well booking an escort for 1 in 1 out production line style sex!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don't want love and serious relationships from fab. Definitely not, but I really do want the mental connection and feelings of some kind...I want to see the same person perhaps monthly and enjoy great company and sex. I did have this before with someone but he in turn became too serious which I drew back from so probably something in between is great!

However I do love the kink and dom side so don't mind casual liasons with just that by itself..

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes I do the same.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

I'm meeting a non fab person at the weekend, who at the moment who looks like he could provide all the extra bits I need. No sex talk so he doesn't know about this side of me yet

Good luck, I hope it goes well xx

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Yes I do the same."

*feel

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

"Casual sex is one thing, relationship sex with someone you love is quite another and beyond compare.

you can have casual meaningful sex without love and relationships though x"

I agree. I have some absolutely fantastic and mind blowing sessions. Mainly with people I have built up trust and a friendship with. My meets allowed me to explore my kinky side.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i actually enjoyed a lot of casual sex that was meaningless, the guys were hot and the sex was mostly good (even if that was only because i was enthusiastic). i never enjoyed selfish guys, for obvious reasons.

i've also changed though and don't want that now. i still want meaningless men and orgasms but don't want to fuck anyone.

hope you find what you want.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I think if anyone feels the way the OP does then they should be more selective about who they pick to meet.

Any person who wants to meet up for quick and simple gratification is just as well booking an escort for 1 in 1 out production line style sex! "

I think there is room for all kinds of meets within the swinging scene. I'm happy with my relationship and don't feel the need or want to bond with others during sexual encounters. There are plenty on the swinging scene that are also happy to play that part, without the need to book escorts. That would cost a bloody fortune for my greedy girl sessions

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *laymateMJMan over a year ago

CENTRAL LONDON

"I think if anyone feels the way the OP does then they should be more selective about who they pick to meet.

Any person who wants to meet up for quick and simple gratification is just as well booking an escort for 1 in 1 out production line style sex!

Sex can still be casual and somewhat meaningless from a relationship stand point, just should involve a fantastic experience that is remembered and shared.

I've decided that as I enjoyed writing my first story on these forums yesterday that I may write more about any future encounters, but I'd sooner have a story to tell than got in, got out and left! I like to provide context and set the scene to capture an entire experience, else it's just porn in words, which reminds me, would anyone like me to fix the refrigerator

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

As previously said, you can still get what you're looking for on here. Most of my meets are repeat meets. I am friends with them all away from fab now too, even though we all still use the site (all but one couple)

I know I've been lucky, and I'm thankful. I'm extremely picky though, and must have a connection before even considering a meet.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I have felt like that at times in the past after meeting certain people, i take it for what it is now a bit of company and some pleasurable sex if im lucky enough to meet someone nice. I dont meet often enough to get too bored with it, i have other things to ocupy my time.

I am quite easily pleased in some ways and going without for a long time can make it more enjoyable if you meet the right person. I suppose if i thought it was that good i would make more of an effort to find time to meet people.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't"

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am fed up with the casual empty sex that only leaves you feeling used and worthless...

No .

We've never felt used and worthless .

Every meet we have had has it's own merits , and we have each other for the depth and emotional needs .

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab"

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

I'm meeting a non fab person at the weekend, who at the moment who looks like he could provide all the extra bits I need. No sex talk so he doesn't know about this side of me yet

Are you going to tell him?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

Didn't refer to the ladies on here tbh. Haven't came across desperate ladies

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

Didn't refer to the ladies on here tbh. Haven't came across desperate ladies"

i was half kidding, as a female i'll never be that desperate luckily.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

Me too.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

Me too.

Me three. Thank god i was beginning to feel like a freak

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

Me too.

i like you mrs blobby.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Casual sex is one thing, relationship sex with someone you love is quite another and beyond compare.

you can have casual meaningful sex without love and relationships though x

I agree. I have some absolutely fantastic and mind blowing sessions. Mainly with people I have built up trust and a friendship with. My meets allowed me to explore my kinky side.

"
yup thats the best way to be

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am fed up with the casual empty sex that only leaves you feeling used and worthless...

Yes I feel the same and thats why its very rare for me to find someone I would like a sexual relationship with.

I was a bit of a whore from 14 until i got to about 38 then I just decided it wasnt for me and I was behaving like that for all the wrong reasons.

So I just changed my lifestyle and now I wait for someone special to come into my life.

It can be a bloody long lonely wait until you find the right person but I personally think its worth it.

This means I can spend long periods without sex but you learn to adapt after a while and it makes it all the more worthwhile when you do eventually meet someone who you have that special connection with.

Thats just my opinion from my personal experience.

May not works for others?

But certainly works for me and thats the main thing.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *cunnylassCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"Most men will have meaningless sex with anything and anybody

Most women wouldn't

And you are right...Lots of desperados on fab

i'm sometimes one of the desperados.

There is nothing wrong with desperadoes.They are our bread and butter!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Casual sex is one thing, relationship sex with someone you love is quite another and beyond compare.

"
this and for me both have their place

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *abcouple11Couple over a year ago

Truro

"Casual empty sex" - lot of blokes on here would volunteer to fill you up

Sorry!

You were meaning

"Empty casual sex"?

Many ladies would disagree and say that is exactly what they are looking for in swinging, it needs to be said.

We do have "mating of the frogs" moresomes where we get approached by people who say "we meet six weeks ago at ..." and it can be difficult to remember them.

OTOH, we do enjoy the company of many of the folk we meet when "playing".

There is no "one size fits all" behind the point you are thinking about.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

LOL I remember saying something similar about how most of the single women on here were masquerading their need for companionship with swinging. Its amusing and transparent...even more so considering how many people in this very thread were claiming thats not the case.

The problem with a lot of people here is that this site and others like it attracts addicts. You're addicted to the meaningless high that casual sex gives you...the only time you question how damaging that high can be is when the inevitable scumbag comes singing your praises in his opening salvo only to end up having used you for sex by the time the experience is over.

You'll question yourself, end up blaming it on the "bad guys of Fab" and go right back to doing the same thing.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"LOL I remember saying something similar about how most of the single women on here were masquerading their need for companionship with swinging. Its amusing and transparent...even more so considering how many people in this very thread were claiming thats not the case.

You'll question yourself, end up blaming it on the "bad guys of Fab" and go right back to doing the same thing. "

Theres only one person who can break the cycle you're in and thats yourself.

That of course is if you really want to ?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both of us would love to develop friendships with a select few others with whom we can more fully connect, have great sex, and try out all sorts of erotic adventures together like group holidays etc. However, we're starting to wonder if this is too much to hope for with other couples and whether we may need to branch out and find singles we connect with. The only problem with this is how asymmetrical this is likely to be... with the queue to get in Mrs pants stretching around the block whilst I stand alone with a megaphone shouting "notice me please"

I think we'll just have to be patient and see what bubbles up over time

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *entileschiWoman over a year ago

Norwich

"I am fed up with the casual empty sex that only leaves you feeling used and worthless...

After a few years of wild adventures, I have come back around to the truth of what you say.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *D835Man over a year ago

London

You'll question yourself, end up blaming it on the "bad guys of Fab" and go right back to doing the same thing. "

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most men on here just Want cold sex .Quick sex ,meaningless sex.This is why a lot have one offs . So they don't get feelings.

Not for me I try and avoid these men .

Some women might prefere this as well .Each to there own it's what people prefere .

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with the OP. Am much more choosy than in my 20's/30's who I engage with sexually. It's a cliche, but quality much more important than quantity and a click or connection is key. No strings sex is very different to 'empty' sex. Respectful play partners who connect but don't want to own me or me them are what I seek these days...but we mutually care about how the other feels.

Seems like this is too much to ask of most on Fab...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

Aww glad you've got someone

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I am fed up with the casual empty sex that only leaves you feeling used and worthless...

Absolutely not. I LOVE casual sex with an attractive man. Sorry if it's being honest but if I see an attractive person my first thoughts are "he'd be nice to fuck". Obviously don't go through with it with everyone but sometimes wish !

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most men on here just Want cold sex .Quick sex ,meaningless sex.This is why a lot have one offs . So they don't get feelings.

Not for me I try and avoid these men .

Some women might prefere this as well .Each to there own it's what people prefere ."
thats my prefered.. quick.. one off group meets. No names most of the time.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No we enjoy having casual sexual relationships. And we love group sex at a party. We're quite fussy about who we play with though, so we never feel it's meaningless or that we're being used. We predominately play with people we regard as friends, so that probably helps.

Mrs

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *reedy_for_funCouple over a year ago

My House

We're on this site for meaningless, casual sex. It's different for singles I suppose, but I'm not not single

We've got one or two guys we've met multiple times but on the whole, singles guys are good for one thing only

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have some very fulfilling casual sex. It's much better than any I had with my husband.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We're on this site for meaningless, casual sex. It's different for singles I suppose, but I'm not not single

We've got one or two guys we've met multiple times but on the whole, singles guys are good for one thing only

lol maybe but I'm single yet I prefer the more sensual meets (verification to prove it too) it's all about building the moment up, you don't have to be married to still have passionate sex..I guess it comes down to personal preference?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv not had sex for 3 months

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't want love and serious relationships from fab. Definitely not, but I really do want the mental connection and feelings of some kind...I want to see the same person perhaps monthly and enjoy great company and sex. I did have this before with someone but he in turn became too serious which I drew back from so probably something in between is great!

However I do love the kink and dom side so don't mind casual liasons with just that by itself.."

I had someone a couple of years ago who I met maybe a couple of times a month, a really lovely lady around 11 years older than myself, from Mid Wales. It was a quite simply wonderful having someone on the same wavelength, someone who thought the same way and was interested in the 'friendship' side of this...proper conversation and social interaction as well as great sex (probably the best sex I've ever had, as we were so comfortable with each other and knew what each other really liked). Sadly 'B' is no longer my friend and lover, but if I could turn the clock back I most definitely would. Cherish what you have...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *herealdeal90Man over a year ago

Huddersfield

They can both get boring and feel empty. Casual sex is great at first. And relationship sex is amazing but can get boring with the same girl every night

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Swinging lifestyle allows me to enjoy both and everything else in between

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No i dont agree.

I have regular fwbs some of which ive now been with longer than any real relationship.

But i still like 1 off meets as they're usualy really good fun and full of passion as it's new.

But i find that nearly everyone tends to want to meet again but with my rwgular friendsa and the odd new meet i dont really have time for semi regular

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *rueone71Man over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

You'll question yourself, end up blaming it on the "bad guys of Fab" and go right back to doing the same thing.

You know what..alleluya..someone said it aluod...there should be a statue made for you!!

Bad apples are not included just in one gender.

In my experiences we can all have meaningless sex..or..maybe we can also start from it..and developpe something more.

My best partner I had since my divorce I started cos she asked me specifically to be one night only!!. She went home before lunch...and...later that night she texted me if she could come back! We had a great time for two years..and..Lol..although we kept on saying we was an open relationship..neither I or her felt like looking for someonelse all the time

...except if we swinged..

It can happen..yes..it can!! It only depends how you feel with your partner

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all your replies. I remain in the meantime, ever hopeful of meeting a new long term fwb on fab!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Casual empty sex doesn't sound very appealing does it. Let's hope we all find something like a FWB.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for all your replies. I remain in the meantime, ever hopeful of meeting a new long term fwb on fab! "

If you are prepared to wait for the right person for you then its worth it in my opinion

Some people are here for just sex nothing more.

Others are looking for something more than that.

Do what makes you truly happy and you won't go far wrong

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

When I first started I just wanted sex, nothing more as I didn't want or need any kind of connection: I had an itch, it got scratched.

I can't pinpoint when I felt empty and unfulfilled after sex, but it happened, I wanted more, not a relationship, just wanting to chat and have a coffee after sex instead of getting dressed immediately/sending them on their way.

I then changed to social meets first and that worked for me. My playmates became friends with benefits. We'd socialise, go out...one even let me stay in his Cheshire home so I could be near my dad who was dying. He drove me to the hospital in Chorley and picked me up everyday. He even offered his home to my sister and her husband to use as a base as they live in Italy but Wilmslow was too far from Chorley for them: I'll never forget his kindness.

I have a partner now, but still need to have a connection, want to spend time afterwards with playmates.

It's finding what works for you...trust you find it op.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most men on here just Want cold sex .Quick sex ,meaningless sex.This is why a lot have one offs . So they don't get feelings.

Not for me I try and avoid these men .

Some women might prefere this as well .Each to there own it's what people prefere . thats my prefered.. quick.. one off group meets. No names most of the time. "

Does nothing for me those type of meets .

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

I totally agree. I have been feeling like the OP for a while now. I visit clubs but just find it really difficult to engage in random sex. Guys regularly send hopeful messages but my reluctance prevents things going further most of the time.Perhaps it is just a phase...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most men on here just Want cold sex .Quick sex ,meaningless sex.This is why a lot have one offs . So they don't get feelings.

Not for me I try and avoid these men .

Some women might prefere this as well .Each to there own it's what people prefere ."

See i woulsnt say one offs are cold.

One offs tend to be full of passion and excitement as everything is new and exploratory.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most men on here just Want cold sex .Quick sex ,meaningless sex.This is why a lot have one offs . So they don't get feelings.

Not for me I try and avoid these men .

Some women might prefere this as well .Each to there own it's what people prefere .

See i woulsnt say one offs are cold.

One offs tend to be full of passion and excitement as everything is new and exploratory. "

I used to feel that way in my 20s and 30s.. quite a few frenzied sex sessions with virtual strangers and it worked out well for me at that time..But now I get nothing out of it

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

I think there's room for both types, really. Like with food. A really well prepared, home cooked Sunday dinner is fantastic and makes you doze off in front of the fire after you've done all the washing up. But sometimes you just want fast food that fills a gap and comes in a wrapper that you can throw away after. So to speak...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

It would appear that the majority of people disagreeing with the OP, have a relationship to provide the "meeting of minds" she seems to be missing.

Whilst those agreeing are mostly single. Really not a surprise, we are sophisticated animals, more than just sex is needed to survive mentally!

I have turned down a couple of meet requests lately, that did not want to also socialise.

I am in the FWB market, not the faceless shag market I realise.

But each to their own, and there may well be a point where a random quickie will be welcome. But it will be backed up with other "relationships"...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Thanks for all your replies. I remain in the meantime, ever hopeful of meeting a new long term fwb on fab! "

I joined this site to have 'meaningless sex'. And just when I was getting bored with it all, met someone in 2015 who wanted more than just sex. We ended up in a relationship where we spent the first few months getting to know each other, going on holidays, meeting the families, etc.

Now we have started visiting clubs again where.he is quite happy having meaningless sex and I am quite happy watching

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

OP, clearly swinging isn't for you now / anymore.

Stop, and find what you are looking for 1:1 with a partner.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are looking for a permanent FWB OP that's perfectly natural. Have you explored other sites? I would question whether a swinging/sex site is the best option for fir you are looking for. Unless you are looking for a FWB to go swinging with?

Mrs

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *rueone71Man over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

"Thanks for all your replies. I remain in the meantime, ever hopeful of meeting a new long term fwb on fab! "

Keep on kissing frog!!! one day one will turn in to the price your are looking for. Trust me on this

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"Thanks for all your replies. I remain in the meantime, ever hopeful of meeting a new long term fwb on fab!

Keep on kissing frog!!! one day one will turn in to the price your are looking for. Trust me on this

B*ll*x; different DNA

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *oxesMan over a year ago

Southend, Essex

IMO if the seeds enjoyable maybe that's the calling for you to leave the scene and search for who will be able to meet your needs.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *rueone71Man over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

"Thanks for all your replies. I remain in the meantime, ever hopeful of meeting a new long term fwb on fab!

Keep on kissing frog!!! one day one will turn in to the price your are looking for. Trust me on this

B*ll*x; different DNA

lol

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ready to get shot down but I've been in a few long term relationships and as they progress the sex gets less and less varied and less and less frequent. I like the frisson of meeting someone new, finding out what they like, having them find out what /I like and having a great time. If we never see each other again, well we still had a great time. Also if it doesn't work out, you can stop, leave and never worry again. I never feel used, but maybe I'm the one using them...(men usually)

In a relationship just saying the wrong thing can sour a whole day or weekend. Even playing your music too loud can cause an atmosphere...when you're just having fun, well, its fun and you don't have to worry about tomorrow.

Isn't that what Fabs is for?

Sorry if I upset anyone...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP, clearly swinging isn't for you now / anymore.

Stop, and find what you are looking for 1:1 with a partner."
..

Well I do enjoy the social meets and the kink meets...Where there is no sex involved. I have.met a few friends on fab I see socially but there is no sexual chemistry. I am happy with these meets however but want to enjoy great sex again!

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you are looking for a permanent FWB OP that's perfectly natural. Have you explored other sites? I would question whether a swinging/sex site is the best option for fir you are looking for. Unless you are looking for a FWB to go swinging with?

Mrs"

Yep I had that..He is on my earlier Verifications. However HE became too serious and became very jealous of.me with anyone, even for kink meets. So I ended it.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm ready to get shot down but I've been in a few long term relationships and as they progress the sex gets less and less varied and less and less frequent. I like the frisson of meeting someone new, finding out what they like, having them find out what /I like and having a great time. If we never see each other again, well we still had a great time. Also if it doesn't work out, you can stop, leave and never worry again. I never feel used, but maybe I'm the one using them...(men usually)

Isn't that what Fabs is for?

Sorry if I upset anyone..."

Nobody should be upset as those have been your personal experiences. And if you wanted more of of the relationship, then you've been meeting the wrong kind of partners. Not everyone has the same relationships which you have experienced. But since that is what you have experienced, you are doing the right thing for yourself now

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Speaking as female half some of the guys and even couples on here tend to ignore the fact that we are a couple and play as a couple, it does make me feel like a piece of meat sometimes when they ignore the male half.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't that what Fabs is for?

Sorry if I upset anyone...

Thanks babe for understanding. I think I've made the right choice but it always seems to be the wrong one and I get stuck in something I can't get out of...

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Casual sex is one thing, relationship sex with someone you love is quite another and beyond compare.

Indeed.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm ever hopeful that it will happen

I've just found it and from fab of all places. I'm on a happy girl high.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Isn't that what Fabs is for?

Sorry if I upset anyone...

Thanks babe for understanding. I think I've made the right choice but it always seems to be the wrong one and I get stuck in something I can't get out of..."

The really lucky ones bump into the right one the first time around. For mere mortals like myself, it takes a few 'trial runs'

Don't give up, but in the meantime, this place is a good 'filler'

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

.isnt a permanant fwb jist a partner?

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

.isnt a permanant fwb jist a partner?"

I meant 'long term' not 'permanent' as that was what the OP said she was looking for.

Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote or View forums list

» Add a new message to this topic