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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends, sometimes the situation can be very hot but if you decided to try some new condoms that turn out to be very tight, it may stop you from reaching the grand finale  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly I find it hard to cum 90% of the time. And that's just sex, never have from oral and only one person ever from a handjob. For me it's that I find it hard to switch off, so I'm not relaxed enough. It sucks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
When we had our first mff, I was the same.... spent the best part of 4 hours convincing myself I wouldn't cum
In the end I ended up pinned to a wall with two got females deeepthoating for about a half hour!! Eventually lol!! It's deffo psychological!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would do the same as your partner, he really wants the experience to go on for as long as possible and thats a good thing.
Although I love to cum, it really isnt a be all and end all for me...sometimes it enhances the overall experience knowing youre not going to. |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Yes. It's about the journey not the destination 
I'd rather enjoy the experience as a while rather than focus on the few seconds of climax. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking as someone with control and a repeater that stays hard, sometimes if I hold out I can go past the point of being able to cum. Especially if the play is for a few hours or more.
Maybe you are putting to much emphasis on your partner climaxing and they are finding hard to cum.
I read that in cosmo as advice to a guy for his girlfriend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While I try to make the experience last as long as possible, personally I want to cum at some point.
I used to have difficulties reaching orgasm during sex, mostly due to nerves. When I became more confident and comfortable, I was able to relax and let it happen.
But choosing not to orgasm at all? Seems a little strange to me. |
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?
When we had our first mff, I was the same.... spent the best part of 4 hours convincing myself I wouldn't cum
In the end I ended up pinned to a wall with two got females deeepthoating for about a half hour!! Eventually lol!! It's deffo psychological!! "
Jeez! That must have been such an ordeal for you lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hmm most the time I takes ages to cum and it's not out of choice that would require the mind of a guru
With partners I don't often mind as I enjoy giving them pleasure I know at somepoint my time will come but when it's someone you manage to get hold of on a night out and your dick pulls that kinda shit, it's just not on haha |
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Your OP is interesting.
I know a few men who can cum more than once in one session, however, once I have mine, I'm done and close the door behind you.
The pressure on both sexes to see cumming as the ultimate goal should be abandoned, can't we just enjoy the whole process? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I, the female half of the couple rarely cums when we've been swinging or at a club, it doesn't reflect on the meet or the fun I've had. After when we are on our own I will orgasm loads. I'm sure I'm not the only female this happens too but I do find it odd how much more emphasis seems to be put on the male orgasm than the female?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's called anorgasmia
It can happen to those on SSRI antidepressants
It can also happen to people that have literally out - masturbated their ability to orgasm
There are other reasons ... and sometimes no reason at all |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun. "
You realised you asked him this straight after sex. What he meant to say was; "I've just put in a massive performance, I don't know how my body works but it was great. Thank you for letting me use your pussy".
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By *exatooCouple
over a year ago
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"I, the female half of the couple rarely cums when we've been swinging or at a club, it doesn't reflect on the meet or the fun I've had. After when we are on our own I will orgasm loads. I'm sure I'm not the only female this happens too but I do find it odd how much more emphasis seems to be put on the male orgasm than the female?
Ginger "
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This is mostly me  apart from the odd play that makes me cum, but story changes when I'm on my own with B afterwards. I think it's mainly because there is just so much going on to watch and being done to me a switch flicks off and there's just too much info/feelings going on my body switches off orgasm mode |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?
When we had our first mff, I was the same.... spent the best part of 4 hours convincing myself I wouldn't cum
In the end I ended up pinned to a wall with two got females deeepthoating for about a half hour!! Eventually lol!! It's deffo psychological!!
Jeez! That must have been such an ordeal for you lol "
Yeah it's a hard life |
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I tend to hold out longer in clubs than I would just at home. I know that once I've cum then it's pretty well nap time  As another poster has mentioned, if I hold out for too long then the moment passes and I find it hard to cum and can even lose my erection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whether a mans cums, or he doesn't, isn't the be all and end all.
It's all about enjoying the moment. If men feel pressurised that they have to cum, then that can be enough to put them off.
Sex is in the mind. |
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With "bonking" so much as a couple and that's "bare" so can coax out spunk, find it hard to ejaculate with a condom on. Love the sex, adore the ladies, get really hard, ladies so happy, and orgasming all over the place - which is satisfying as a male. I love it, feel really privileged to be doing sex with these ladies, etc.
The ladies are often OK with the idea that my partner is "the cat that got the cream". Something about being good with the special partner idea.
OTOH, we are not happy with single guys who don't ejaculate when playing. That seems very disrespectful.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OTOH, we are not happy with single guys who don't ejaculate when playing. That seems very disrespectful.
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 no pressure there then ! I wasn't aware men were performing seals. |
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"Depends, sometimes the situation can be very hot but if you decided to try some new condoms that turn out to be very tight, it may stop you from reaching the grand finale "
You need the right size condoms then |
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OTOH, we are not happy with single guys who don't ejaculate when playing. That seems very disrespectful.
no pressure there then ! I wasn't aware men were performing seals."
Meant in context of the guys who say "I don't want to cum yet!" when female of this partnership has already put considerable effort into wanking him off. She has had to point out that she is not their fluffer.
We say let them go save their load for whoever, but don't waste our time and effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never had problems cumin. Yeah it takes 4-10 minutes per fuck but I cum at least twice per fuck. If a good fuck 3-5 times.
But I know we're different and I know I will slow down as I get older too. Until then fuck fuck away lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I, the female half of the couple rarely cums when we've been swinging or at a club, it doesn't reflect on the meet or the fun I've had. After when we are on our own I will orgasm loads. I'm sure I'm not the only female this happens too but I do find it odd how much more emphasis seems to be put on the male orgasm than the female?
Ginger "
i hardly ever orgasm with a meet... and yes i enjoy it.. yet still feel put out and that it was pointless if a meet doesn't cum for me. Hypocritical... yup.. but i enjoy multiple partners for multiple cum shots... so that is my reason for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it's all about the guy cumming , so we prefer to meet guys and couples who are stress free , willing and able to just enjoy a session with a happy ending .
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By (user no longer on site)
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OTOH, we are not happy with single guys who don't ejaculate when playing. That seems very disrespectful.
no pressure there then ! I wasn't aware men were performing seals.
Meant in context of the guys who say "I don't want to cum yet!" when female of this partnership has already put considerable effort into wanking him off. She has had to point out that she is not their fluffer.
We say let them go save their load for whoever, but don't waste our time and effort."
Isn't sex a 2 way thing though? About mutual pleasure? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum 
It's harder for us to fake it too  "
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Sometimes its just not happening and pushing it is just going to make it sore or unenjoyable.
Also a lot of anti depresants (citalopam for one) can mske it nesr impossible for a giy to cum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum
It's harder for us to fake it too
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world."
when we have met single guys as a bukkake finish is what we ask for.. so cumming is part of it. Not selfish just fulfilling what I am looking for. No one is tricked and it would be obvious what we want |
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I sometimes don't cum from sex, but to be perfectly honest, I still enjoy it. It still gives me the release mentally that would normally go alongside the physical orgasm and it leaves you free to play again later in the night. Only occasionally, when I have known we would get up to more later, or if I was teasing N, would I make the decision not to cum yet, but can't imagine choosing to not at all. Though I wouldn't say it's a bad thing
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By (user no longer on site)
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I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
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Precisely that word, choose. Some men do choose not to cum and that is their choice to make. Why force them to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum
It's harder for us to fake it too
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world."
It's not selfish at all , it's a preference !
Some people prefer to socialise , some prefer bbw , some slim , blonde , etc....
We prefer to meet guys who cum , and that's not selfish at all . They love to cum , S loves to receive it and I like to see it . |
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum
It's harder for us to fake it too
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world."
In my experience, the look of enjoyment in a woman's eyes as I cum for her, either internally bare or bagged, or externally wherever she asks for it, that gives me as much pleasure as I take from the orgasm myself. Give me time to catch my breath, and it'll be time for Round 2 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum
It's harder for us to fake it too
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world. when we have met single guys as a bukkake finish is what we ask for.. so cumming is part of it. Not selfish just fulfilling what I am looking for. No one is tricked and it would be obvious what we want "
I understand in a bukkake scenario as that what it is about. But other sexual scenarios, I just don't see the need to put a man under pressure to cum. I'd this was a man complaining that a woman didn't cum, there would be uproar here in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum
It's harder for us to fake it too
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world.
It's not selfish at all , it's a preference !
Some people prefer to socialise , some prefer bbw , some slim , blonde , etc....
We prefer to meet guys who cum , and that's not selfish at all . They love to cum , S loves to receive it and I like to see it . "
It is selfish if men are feeling under pressure to cum though. |
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I understand in a bukkake scenario as that what it is about. But other sexual scenarios, I just don't see the need to put a man under pressure to cum. If this was a man complaining that a woman didn't cum, there would be uproar here in the forums."
I agree with you here
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jeez......so pleased I'm not a man, being expected to cum
It's harder for us to fake it too
You shouldn't have to be made to feel you have to cum. It's ridiculous. Some very selfish people in the swinging world.
It's not selfish at all , it's a preference !
Some people prefer to socialise , some prefer bbw , some slim , blonde , etc....
We prefer to meet guys who cum , and that's not selfish at all . They love to cum , S loves to receive it and I like to see it .
It is selfish if men are feeling under pressure to cum though."
To be fair , we do make it pretty clear what we are looking for when meeting , and so far so good .
We don't put pressure on the guys we meet , they seem to love to cum so it's all good |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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We can play for ages then move on to the deed go back to playing etc & sometimes I won't. Doesn't bother us in the slightest.
I rarely come from oral (probably five times with H) and zero times through her wanking me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
I'm not fussed what happens on a play meet as long as we both have a good time. From my point of view there is no pressure to do anything at all. Relaxed sensual meet is the absolute best x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a tricky one to gauge. So I'm gonna be completely truthful.
I've only struggled on a couple of occasions. Mostly when it wasA couple and the guy was a bit of a knob. I'd have to go more into this to explain how but I won't.
Generally i am fine and I can loose myself in the girl and that moment will come as I should do. Even if there is another guy prevent.
Sometimes the guys also feel the need to direct like it's a bloody porn movie. For some of them it may be but for a lot of us tripwire real life.
We are not actors. We are kinky buggers.
Most of us require no director |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a tricky one to gauge. So I'm gonna be completely truthful.
I've only struggled on a couple of occasions. Mostly when it wasA couple and the guy was a bit of a knob. I'd have to go more into this to explain how but I won't.
Generally i am fine and I can loose myself in the girl and that moment will come as I should do. Even if there is another guy prevent.
Sometimes the guys also feel the need to direct like it's a bloody porn movie. For some of them it may be but for a lot of us tripwire real life.
We are not actors. We are kinky buggers.
Most of us require no director"
Sorry for type errors, kinda sleepy. Night all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I absolutely can orgasm repeatedly while having sex but most seem to think that orgasm = ejaculation. But they are not one and the same.
I'm quite a noisy lovemaker and that's because I tend to ride just near the peak of orgasmic waves without ejaculation making my orgasmic period last longer. It's better to think of ejaculation as the end of orgasming for those who ride the waves and stay at the edge. It feels sooo damn good.
This is different for those who are having trouble reaching orgasm which has happened to us all at some point if you're used to controlling.
Usually if I'm choosing not to ejaculate it's either because I have more partners waiting their turn or I just want to enjoy one for longer or preserve my energy for work etc. A man's cum is his energy. It's a vital resource. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I absolutely can orgasm repeatedly while having sex but most seem to think that orgasm = ejaculation. But they are not one and the same.
I'm quite a noisy lovemaker and that's because I tend to ride just near the peak of orgasmic waves without ejaculation making my orgasmic period last longer. It's better to think of ejaculation as the end of orgasming for those who ride the waves and stay at the edge. It feels sooo damn good.
This is different for those who are having trouble reaching orgasm which has happened to us all at some point if you're used to controlling.
Usually if I'm choosing not to ejaculate it's either because I have more partners waiting their turn or I just want to enjoy one for longer or preserve my energy for work etc. A man's cum is his energy. It's a vital resource. "
Jaysos sometimes I wished I were a bit younger, I love noisy love maker! |
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Well I always enjoy myself. Have to be honest though sometimes I want to do something else and lose my will to try and orgasm. I like to switch things to enjoy so just say what I want and hope we agree. It's all about communication |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My cock tends to be very sensitive,sometimes with just the right light touches I can feel myself starting to cum so have to pull away,also condoms which I don't like but have to use make me cum too soon,so I try to carry on before my cock goes limp ,but on the other hand there's been occassions especially when having a BJ that I try to hold off from cumming,and then what happens I have to try really hard to cum ,obviously you can't fake it with a BJ. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When in a group in a club I rarely come x preference to safe for a more intimate play x tend to hold back long has I can so to please the lady x sometimes having to stop dead in my tracks ha ha and please her other ways x it's about me pleasing her then me coming x x MINDSET x x |
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Depends on the situation.
If I've been screwing for ages and ages after a long sexy build up then it becomes more difficult to cum and needs considerable effort.
Sometimes it might be a relatively short session and so can cum easily.
If you're making a full night of it then you don't want to cum early but enjoy things.
Unless of course you're considerably younger than me and can get up again in 5mins!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is different for every guy. I think what your fella is doing is purposely edging. I do the exact same. I could cum everywhere in 2 mins but I choose to keep going and going.. I quite happily don't cum in order to maintain that crazy horn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Repeat cumming may be like squirting, i can totally confirm that if the male wants it to last he may choose not to cum, and do so several times, there must be some psychological thing to it as if i choose to delay it, climaxing becomes much more difficult. Which is no problem though as it is my choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find I usually cum quick (not too quick may I add) first round and then struggle to cum again and can go on for hours much to the delight of my partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't like it if a man didn't cum with me .Never has happened but I would be thinking I had failed in exciting him and turning him on . 
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Not always, sometimes you can hold out for too long and lose the edge but it still feels good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your OP is interesting.
I know a few men who can cum more than once in one session, however, once I have mine, I'm done and close the door behind you.
The pressure on both sexes to see cumming as the ultimate goal should be abandoned, can't we just enjoy the whole process?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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If really excited will cum 1,2 sometimes even 3times in 1 session. But if i had a cheeky wank before our fun might not cum (tank empty) or if I'm cold (esp feet) or tired or put off by something it won't be champagne showers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Better to hold on to it, than to shoot in 10 seconds and lose interest.
Women can cum over and over and over again
I normally only manage once, so if I want to satisfy the lady I am with then I hold off.
Often if I know we will have sex the next morning I'll not cum at night.
It's the pay off between the satisfaction of an orgasm weighed against the satisfaction of performing well in bed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
I can see where he's coming from. He's resisted to make sure you get 100% satisfaction. That's a top man. I'm all about pleasing too and it's something I would sort of do expect once you cum I would expect you and who ever joined you to make me shoot my load too |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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" I have never had problems cumin. Yeah it takes 4-10 minutes per fuck but I cum at least twice per fuck. If a good fuck 3-5 times.
But I know we're different and I know I will slow down as I get older too. Until then fuck fuck away lol "
You stud, you! |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"when guys don't cum,,,,,,stick a finger up their bum
LOL!
B. wondered why a guy "shot his load" in about 10 seconds - turned out another guy was fingering his prostate as he fucked her.
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Wish someone would finger mine! |
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This sometimes happens to me after a very long session where I've been holding off. I seem to get over stimulated and cannot cum. But it's not like I didn't have fun.
Holding off sounds completely altruistic but it isn't. I'm having a great time and I'm prolonging it deliberately. |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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Great thread! I edge a lot and so usually cum at a meet unless I get over excited and then lose it. However, I think most are understanding when that happens. There some who get pleasure from watching others cum but save themselves for perhaps a more exciting situation - that's a bit selfish, but hey ho it takes all sorts to make a world! |
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Many women can get so hung up on this subject but men don't always have to cum. It's nice to please someone and also enjoy ourselves doing so.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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To be clear, he has no issue cumming usually, he deliberately chooses not to. He often has to pull out and stop in order to control it.
I'm only asking because I want him to have the best time possible. I'd hate for him to miss out in anyway. This is only an issue in a club situation. |
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
This happens. There have been instances where I've waited to cum when alone with Roo. This has mainly been in group sessions. I dont know about anyone else, but when Roo is "in the zone" and having an awesome time, I go into protective mode a bit. I'm still joining in and getting a massive kick out of seeing Roo emersed in the filth she enjoys soooo much. But I also want to make sure it's safe and fun. Silly maybe but that's how I am. Also I prefer to cum one on one with her. That's the intimacy I want to share with her. Never feel cheated if I dont cum in a group session. But also love to cum during MMF when Roo demands it. |
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"Depends, sometimes the situation can be very hot but if you decided to try some new condoms that turn out to be very tight, it may stop you from reaching the grand finale "
^ THIS!
Exactly that. EVERY goddamn guy on here should resonante with that, because I sure as fuck do. |
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"Depends, sometimes the situation can be very hot but if you decided to try some new condoms that turn out to be very tight, it may stop you from reaching the grand finale "
Just to add...I've used Viagra in the past for this.
Condoms are always so fucking tedious to put on. |
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Yeah and guys who take ages to come piss me off to be honest....Many guys have a play before they meet with you as they want to last longer when having sex .. |
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It's a pressure thing sometimes with me I get so excited I try not to cum too quickly and then because I've delayed it it seems to take ages and the I worry and that so does not help but get there in the end... lol |
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"I wouldn't like it if a man didn't cum with me .Never has happened but I would be thinking I had failed in exciting him and turning him on . "
A man not cummin isn't a sign of failing. Many men can have mind blowing sex without cumin, that is just the final action. It's what happens before that moment that is important. |
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"This sometimes happens to me after a very long session where I've been holding off. I seem to get over stimulated and cannot cum. But it's not like I didn't have fun.
Holding off sounds completely altruistic but it isn't. I'm having a great time and I'm prolonging it deliberately. "
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i hardly ever come with a condom on so it is a way of prolonging penetration. I've never come through oral sex but love being wanked off. Sometimes I delay coming for so long I think I just get too tired. |
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Only been re-adjusting to condoms since July but still unable to finish in one, using one that fits better has made it more enjoyable but still unable to finish. I've never cum from oral or getting a hand job, feels wrong having to finish myself off when eveything I've been doing with a partner/s has felt so much better. I'm hoping this changes soon |
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I'm on s medication and one of the side effects is that it takes a longer time to climax...i feckin hate it to be honest though most women I've been with love it ?? |
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"I wouldn't like it if a man didn't cum with me .Never has happened but I would be thinking I had failed in exciting him and turning him on .
A man not cummin isn't a sign of failing. Many men can have mind blowing sex without cumin, that is just the final action. It's what happens before that moment that is important. "
not for me. The cum is the soul reason i do this. No cum equals no point. |
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"Only been re-adjusting to condoms since July but still unable to finish in one, using one that fits better has made it more enjoyable but still unable to finish. I've never cum from oral or getting a hand job, feels wrong having to finish myself off when eveything I've been doing with a partner/s has felt so much better. I'm hoping this changes soon"
Don't look at the condom and think "Oh bloody Hell, not these things again!" Think "Fucking Hell, I'm having horny sex with a stranger I met off the internet!" Associating condoms with fun will soon have you worrying over premature ejaculation before you know it |
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" not for me. The cum is the soul reason i do this. No cum equals no point.
No cum equals disappointment surely? The guy would hardly set out to deliberately not cum  "
very but if a guy says he cant or wont cum then i lose interest and if a guy doesn't then it feels like i wasted my time. As i will not have got any satisfaction.
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Sometimes its just not happening and pushing it is just going to make it sore or unenjoyable.
Also a lot of anti depresants (citalopam for one) can mske it nesr impossible for a giy to cum"
I absolutely refuse to believe you'd struggle to cum! |
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"Honestly I find it hard to cum 90% of the time. And that's just sex, never have from oral and only one person ever from a handjob. For me it's that I find it hard to switch off, so I'm not relaxed enough. It sucks. "
I hear you. I dont come easily and I think guys think i have when they hear me moaning from oral. I think for me..if a guy cums I think i have turned him on. Im disappointed if he doesn't  |
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Fully. I often take ages to cum, more than an hour, and if time runs out I don't get there. However, I love a woman cumming, enjoying me, and certainly don't feel cheated.
Of course, there is the occasion of lots of foreplay, lots of passion, a really, really turned on hungry woman and I've been known to cum in a couple of minutes.
All is good, its about giving pleasure not taking my pleasure for me.
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"I hear you. I dont come easily and I think guys think i have when they hear me moaning from oral. I think for me..if a guy cums I think i have turned him on. Im disappointed if he doesn't "
But, cumming is not the all and be all, it's wrong to think a guy didn't enjoy it because he didn't cum. |
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Very few women understand that for men orgasms and ejaculation are two different things. Men can cum just as wildly as women if stimulated right, or simply ejaculate without enjoyment if their reflexes are triggered.
If you are worried about your partner, I say don't talk to us but him. |
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God woman (OP) you've got it all wrong!
As the poster above said: For a guy orgasm and ejaculation are two different mechanisms -medical (current research)FACT!
So just because he didn't cum doesn't mean he didn't orgasm So he said he really enjoyed it and got to the point of wanting it to "last forever" -Why not believe him?
Believe me that a fucking GREAT HIGH Although I love to cum, it really isnt a be all and end all for me. In fact cumming before you mentally want to can, and is, in those circumstances a total pain in the arse!. So much so it has actually left me feeling disappointed (bit like a teenage premature ejaculation) you feel betrayed by your cock. -This is something no women will ever fully understand as you just don't have the gear and the brain wiring to appreciate it beyond an academic level.
As another poster said: Sometimes it enhances the overall experience knowing your not going to.
Accept your partners HONESTY.
So stop beating yourself and him up over it. Doing so will just damage that relationship on multiple levels, and turn a perfectly natural thing into a phobia. -been there done that -got the Tee shirt - no wait she actually got the tee shirt along with the LP's, house, etc...
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"Couple of times on meets my bf hasn't cum. Once before the guy we were playing with didn't either.
When I asked my bf, he said it was his choice not to because he wanted the experience to go on for as long as I wanted it to, not because it wasn't hot or fun.
I know guys can't always orgasm repeatedly like women do, so I understand about wanting the experience to last, but to choose not to at all?
He assured me he didn't feel cheated or that he lost out in anyway.
Do you menfolk feel the same?"
Some men,as I do, enjoy the journey more than getting to a destination. . . reaching orgasm isn't my aim.
Orgasm is just a small part of a larger experience. |
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" not for me. The cum is the soul reason i do this. No cum equals no point.
No cum equals disappointment surely? The guy would hardly set out to deliberately not cum very but if a guy says he cant or wont cum then i lose interest and if a guy doesn't then it feels like i wasted my time. As i will not have got any satisfaction.
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Exactly the same here |
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