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"However surely they have as much right to decide if they are attracted to you before there's an agreement to meet?"  | |||
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"Not if you don't make it a problem. " I don't make it a problem but I'll often receive abusive messages. There is just no need. | |||
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"However surely they have as much right to decide if they are attracted to you before there's an agreement to meet?" Obviously. That's why I said in my post that I only send out pictures to those I intend to meet. If they don't like me then that's fine. | |||
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"I don't know why anyone would be offended. If someone refuses to send a face pic early on then it's no big deal. I just won't continue chatting with them. " I'm the same | |||
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"However surely they have as much right to decide if they are attracted to you before there's an agreement to meet?" This | |||
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"I like a face, I like to see who I'm chatting to and to wonder what it would look like between my legs "I'd like to get between your legs  | |||
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I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners | |||
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"I like a face, I like to see who I'm chatting to and to wonder what it would look like between my legs
I'd like to get between your legs "Classy! | |||
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"However surely they have as much right to decide if they are attracted to you before there's an agreement to meet? This "I've already said of course they do. Anything else would be sheer stupidity. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners "I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see. "You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not? Not very fair and very one sided don't you think? I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one. I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate. That is fair and considerate in my opinion. But you are you I suppose | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
"It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you? My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous."Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me "I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway."we won't be meeting anyway.... That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
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"Some people are different, I always send a pic with the message. I do like to receive one, if I don't get one in return then it doesn't mean I won't still chat. I would like one before a meet however because there does need to be an attraction. "This goes without saying. I wouldn't expect anyone to meet me without seeing my face picture. | |||
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"Some people are different, I always send a pic with the message. I do like to receive one, if I don't get one in return then it doesn't mean I won't still chat. I would like one before a meet however because there does need to be an attraction.
This goes without saying. I wouldn't expect anyone to meet me without seeing my face picture." | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation." Do you chat with every guy who sends you a face photo and messages you ? I doubt that very much? You will select who you wish to speak to by their profile and photograph. So why not offer the same respect and exchage your photo to the guys your have chosen to chat to ? You expect a face photo from them but unwilling to return the gesture. That in my opinion is selfish unfair and one sided which ever way you wish to dress it up ! | |||
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"We were in a situation where we winked first and he messaged with no face pic. We accepted that we had initiated contact to sent our clear face pics (with no dark glasses). He replied with huge compliments for me, but failed again to send his face pic dispite our profile being very clear that we expect face pics. At that point we felt a bit cheated. We had shown ours, he'd commented on ours, he was interested. But he clearly wasn't ready to show his. That's a very unequal situation. We deleted his messages and left it at that. Has to be a 2 way process for us. " Agreed | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Do you chat with every guy who sends you a face photo and messages you ? I doubt that very much? You will select who you wish to speak to by their profile and photograph. So why not offer the same respect and exchage your photo to the guys your have chosen to chat to ? You expect a face photo from them but unwilling to return the gesture. That in my opinion is selfish unfair and one sided which ever way you wish to dress it up ! " See it as you want. But once again, I do things how I do them, and it works for me. People respect me when I explain, so there really is no issue here at all. | |||
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"We were in a situation where we winked first and he messaged with no face pic. We accepted that we had initiated contact to sent our clear face pics (with no dark glasses). He replied with huge compliments for me, but failed again to send his face pic dispite our profile being very clear that we expect face pics. At that point we felt a bit cheated. We had shown ours, he'd commented on ours, he was interested. But he clearly wasn't ready to show his. That's a very unequal situation. We deleted his messages and left it at that. Has to be a 2 way process for us. " I don't blame you for doing that. We all have our own ways of how we deal with things on here. That's the joy of everyone being different. | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Do you chat with every guy who sends you a face photo and messages you ? I doubt that very much? You will select who you wish to speak to by their profile and photograph. So why not offer the same respect and exchage your photo to the guys your have chosen to chat to ? You expect a face photo from them but unwilling to return the gesture. That in my opinion is selfish unfair and one sided which ever way you wish to dress it up ! See it as you want. But once again, I do things how I do them, and it works for me. People respect me when I explain, so there really is no issue here at all." My only observation on the matter is - why start a thread about it if it's not an issue at all? | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation." Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Do you chat with every guy who sends you a face photo and messages you ? I doubt that very much? You will select who you wish to speak to by their profile and photograph. So why not offer the same respect and exchage your photo to the guys your have chosen to chat to ? You expect a face photo from them but unwilling to return the gesture. That in my opinion is selfish unfair and one sided which ever way you wish to dress it up ! See it as you want. But once again, I do things how I do them, and it works for me. People respect me when I explain, so there really is no issue here at all. My only observation on the matter is - why start a thread about it if it's not an issue at all? " Out of interest, the same reason a lot of other threads are started | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? " Yes I would. | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? Yes I would. " In that case, unless you're messaging people who you don't intend to meet, I should think there wouldn't be an issue. | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? Yes I would. In that case, unless you're messaging people who you don't intend to meet, I should think there wouldn't be an issue. " My whole point, as stated right at the very start, is why is there any need for people to send abusive messages. | |||
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"Who you send your face pic to is your own decision. If you only send your face pic to those you wish to meet then that is fine. If others can't handle that then that is their business." | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? Yes I would. In that case, unless you're messaging people who you don't intend to meet, I should think there wouldn't be an issue. My whole point, as stated right at the very start, is why is there any need for people to send abusive messages." Well, it was about getting abuse because of not sending face pictures, hence the replies... | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? Yes I would. In that case, unless you're messaging people who you don't intend to meet, I should think there wouldn't be an issue. My whole point, as stated right at the very start, is why is there any need for people to send abusive messages. Well, it was about getting abuse because of not sending face pictures, hence the replies..." I know that.  | |||
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"I like a face, I like to see who I'm chatting to and to wonder what it would look like between my legs "Pick me, pick me. | |||
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"I don't know why anyone would be offended. If someone refuses to send a face pic early on then it's no big deal. I just won't continue chatting with them. I'm the same "Same here | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners "You'd be surprised at the amount of guys that message me asking to fuck without even seeing what I look like! Some people just don't care as long as they get sex | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
You'd be surprised at the amount of guys that message me asking to fuck without even seeing what I look like! Some people just don't care as long as they get sex "Unfortunately Im not suprised imherex but not my thing personally. I like to think theres more about me than behaving like an animal. | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem?" I think it's rude if one is requested, I reply with it... And don't get one in return. It's a vulnerability and respect thing. I've been brave enough to share, you should do likewise, even if it's accompanied by a polite, thanks but no thanks. If I got that reply, I'd think, fair play, at least she's shown me a little respect. If they don't, then I've had a lucky escape from a bit of a Twat. That's my opinion. | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem? I think it's rude if one is requested, I reply with it... And don't get one in return. It's a vulnerability and respect thing. I've been brave enough to share, you should do likewise, even if it's accompanied by a polite, thanks but no thanks. If I got that reply, I'd think, fair play, at least she's shown me a little respect. If they don't, then I've had a lucky escape from a bit of a Twat. That's my opinion. " It's not being a twat. There is no point in sending a picture just for the sake of it. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
You'd be surprised at the amount of guys that message me asking to fuck without even seeing what I look like! Some people just don't care as long as they get sex
Unfortunately Im not suprised imherex but not my thing personally. I like to think theres more about me than behaving like an animal. "Well it's nice to know some have standards | |||
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"If a guy messages me first then I ask for a face pic and then if I'm interested I'll send one back. If I contact first then I'll send one and go from there. If I'm not interested in him then I'll not send one as I don't see the point. It's a bit like saying here's what u could of had "Exactly. And it often leads on to further conversation about why I won't meet them. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
"Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets' | |||
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"If a guy messages me first then I ask for a face pic and then if I'm interested I'll send one back. If I contact first then I'll send one and go from there. If I'm not interested in him then I'll not send one as I don't see the point. It's a bit like saying here's what u could of had
Exactly. And it often leads on to further conversation about why I won't meet them. "Yes and they can then become shitty. I've also noticed on the rare occasion I've sent a pic out of politeness even Though I wasn't interested they've not handled the rejection and started calling u me,ugly etc even tho they'd said they liked me before. I'm not here for abused | |||
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"I don't know why anyone would be offended. If someone refuses to send a face pic early on then it's no big deal. I just won't continue chatting with them. " | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem? I think it's rude if one is requested, I reply with it... And don't get one in return. It's a vulnerability and respect thing. I've been brave enough to share, you should do likewise, even if it's accompanied by a polite, thanks but no thanks. If I got that reply, I'd think, fair play, at least she's shown me a little respect. If they don't, then I've had a lucky escape from a bit of a Twat. That's my opinion. It's not being a twat. There is no point in sending a picture just for the sake of it. " Just because I think someone is a Twat, it doesn't make them one. Like I said, it's just my opinion. I think more of people who respect my feelings. Even though I'm one of a billion single guys on here. I put up with that treatment, because I have to, I don't like it. | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem? I think it's rude if one is requested, I reply with it... And don't get one in return. It's a vulnerability and respect thing. I've been brave enough to share, you should do likewise, even if it's accompanied by a polite, thanks but no thanks. If I got that reply, I'd think, fair play, at least she's shown me a little respect. If they don't, then I've had a lucky escape from a bit of a Twat. That's my opinion. It's not being a twat. There is no point in sending a picture just for the sake of it. Just because I think someone is a Twat, it doesn't make them one. Like I said, it's just my opinion. I think more of people who respect my feelings. Even though I'm one of a billion single guys on here. I put up with that treatment, because I have to, I don't like it. " I don't think it's reasonable to send a face pic if not interested. That's just pointless. We will respectfully delete face pics sent to us if we are not interested and we assume they will remove their photos too. But if both parties are interested then we go with the view that face pics should be exchanged from the moment of first interest. | |||
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"I don't have a problem with sending a face pic if I am interested in meeting someone, if they don't like what they see it's better to know. I don't always ask for a face pic of men, as I find they may not be attractive but may be nice blokes and good at sex. I prefer to decide on how the conversation goes and what they are into ect. The photo requirements are a bit like saying only the best looking members are allowed to meet for sex, if you're ugly jog on. There's more to meets than looks XXX" But what do you think to those that expect a photo but dont return the gesture? That ok with you? | |||
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"I don't have a problem with sending a face pic if I am interested in meeting someone, if they don't like what they see it's better to know. I don't always ask for a face pic of men, as I find they may not be attractive but may be nice blokes and good at sex. I prefer to decide on how the conversation goes and what they are into ect. The photo requirements are a bit like saying only the best looking members are allowed to meet for sex, if you're ugly jog on. There's more to meets than looks XXX But what do you think to those that expect a photo but dont return the gesture? That ok with you?" I find the ones who don't want to send a photo, don't ask for one themselves. X | |||
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"That is why I only meet in clubs. There are so many liars here who send photographs which are 10+ year old. When I ask them to webcam on Skype, they suddenly go quiet or the aliens have abducted their webcam Then there are those who are really fat but claim to be average body shape. Or those who are less than 6' short but claim to be 6'. All these issues are avoided by meeting in a club. If he isn't exactly how he has described himself, I simply just walk away and find someone else who I find attractive" Yes that's another thing old pics, works both ways I guess XXX | |||
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"That is why I only meet in clubs. There are so many liars here who send photographs which are 10+ year old. When I ask them to webcam on Skype, they suddenly go quiet or the aliens have abducted their webcam Then there are those who are really fat but claim to be average body shape. Or those who are less than 6' short but claim to be 6'. All these issues are avoided by meeting in a club. If he isn't exactly how he has described himself, I simply just walk away and find someone else who I find attractive" I hate going on camera for anything! So I'd refuse to, doesn't make me a liar. I find it horribly embarrassing. | |||
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"That is why I only meet in clubs. There are so many liars here who send photographs which are 10+ year old. When I ask them to webcam on Skype, they suddenly go quiet or the aliens have abducted their webcam Then there are those who are really fat but claim to be average body shape. Or those who are less than 6' short but claim to be 6'. All these issues are avoided by meeting in a club. If he isn't exactly how he has described himself, I simply just walk away and find someone else who I find attractive I hate going on camera for anything! So I'd refuse to, doesn't make me a liar. I find it horribly embarrassing. " That is their right as it is mine to assume that they are uglies and liars | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'"Very valid point, that has been ignored. | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me "Well of course there's not going to be any public face pics on their profile. Neither are these women expecting men to have public face pics. These woman are asking for face pics to be attached privately. Most men ask the same but don't have publically displayed pictures. why would you even compare the attaching a picture with a private message to having publically displayed pictures? | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored."Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread?? It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos. Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site. Thats why the option is there. My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation. | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me "I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point. | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me
I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point. "Exactly. But some people as they mentioned on this thread expect to receive a face photo but not to return the gesture. I personally think thats unfair and wouldnt procced any further with that person.. But each to their own. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
"Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph "Incorrect! You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before. Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option."You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile  | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile"Whats that got to do with anything? | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?"oh she's just on the wind up lol | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?"It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none! | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!"You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up? Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts?? Dear dear | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!
You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up?
Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts??
Dear dear
"Nope; actually you are now backed into a corner and lashing out with schoolboy reverse psychology | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
oh she's just on the wind up lol
Yes ive noticed.
Makes her look very silly "
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!
You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up?
Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts??
Dear dear
Nope; actually you are now backed into a corner and lashing out with schoolboy reverse psychology "Again you assumptions are unfounded. Please back up your posts with some real facts or you just make yourself look ridiculous and an angry argumentative person. | |||
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"I understand that the attitude of swopping face pictures is very different between men and women. I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. Surely that is totally understandable by anyone who can respect myself and my situation. Wouldn't you send a reply with a face picture to those that you're interested in meeting? Yes I would. " I'm exactly the same...I don't send face pics unless I'm attracted to the person and interested in meeting up. And I certainly never send one to those I'm not interested in out of courtesy - absolutely pointless! I've never received abuse for it, but if I did it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If I'm not planning on meeting a guy, his opinion of me has no relevance | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!
You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up?
Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts??
Dear dear
Nope; actually you are now backed into a corner and lashing out with schoolboy reverse psychology
Again you assumptions are unfounded.
Please back up your posts with some real facts or you just make yourself look ridiculous and an angry argumentative person.
"Actually, I have backed everything up. Look at my earlier comments. You are just hoping to bury those with your silly posts so that people won't read those as I have just exposed you as like that silly man who complains that there aren't enough photographs on profiles when all he has is a silhouette on his. Same difference | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!
You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up?
Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts??
Dear dear
Nope; actually you are now backed into a corner and lashing out with schoolboy reverse psychology
Again you assumptions are unfounded.
Please back up your posts with some real facts or you just make yourself look ridiculous and an angry argumentative person.
Actually, I have backed everything up. Look at my earlier comments. You are just hoping to bury those with your silly posts so that people won't read those as I have just exposed you as like that silly man who complains that there aren't enough photographs on profiles when all he has is a silhouette on his. Same difference"You comments are ridiculous and make no sense ? People can read all there is to read on here and other posts and none of what you are personally saying about me hold any weight as you have nothing to back it up with ?? The only thing you have succeeded in is making yourself look very silly indeed and trying to make an argument of nothing ?? The thread and my posts are about the exchange of facial photographs while chatting with view to meeting. And how some people ask to see facial photos but wont return the gesture and if people think that is acceptable or not as I personally think its unfair. But you've hopped onto this thread to create a situation out something that doesnt exist. Throwing crazy unfounded unvalidated accusations at me. Crazy | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!
You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up?
Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts??
Dear dear
Nope; actually you are now backed into a corner and lashing out with schoolboy reverse psychology
Again you assumptions are unfounded.
Please back up your posts with some real facts or you just make yourself look ridiculous and an angry argumentative person.
Actually, I have backed everything up. Look at my earlier comments. You are just hoping to bury those with your silly posts so that people won't read those as I have just exposed you as like that silly man who complains that there aren't enough photographs on profiles when all he has is a silhouette on his. Same difference
You comments are ridiculous and make no sense ?
People can read all there is to read on here and other posts and none of what you are personally saying about me hold any weight as you have nothing to back it up with ??
The only thing you have succeeded in is making yourself look very silly indeed and trying to make an argument of nothing ??
The thread and my posts are about the exchange of facial photographs while chatting with view to meeting. And how some people ask to see facial photos but wont return the gesture and if people think that is acceptable or not as I personally think its unfair.
But you've hopped onto this thread to create a situation out something that doesnt exist.
Throwing crazy unfounded unvalidated accusations at me.
Crazy "Your comments are absolutely ridiculous . You were hoping that nobody would mention the Emperor's clothes. I did; other people saw it and commented You go ahead with your hidden profile asking folk to exchange facial photographs with you; how crazy is that
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me "Because men send more initial messages than women. I've only sent about 2 initial messages. So if you're wanting to talk to me then it's what I require. If it were the other way round I'd have no problem sending a pic with my message | |||
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"I don't have a problem with sending a face pic if I am interested in meeting someone, if they don't like what they see it's better to know. I don't always ask for a face pic of men, as I find they may not be attractive but may be nice blokes and good at sex. I prefer to decide on how the conversation goes and what they are into ect. The photo requirements are a bit like saying only the best looking members are allowed to meet for sex, if you're ugly jog on. There's more to meets than looks XXX" On dating sites I'd go by that but just for sex I've got to be physically attractive to me. They also do have to be able to have a conversation too | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
I'm not selfish, I just act out of self preservation. If you care to read my verifications you will see that I am far from selfish. But then, I don't actually care what pre concepted wrong opinions you have formed of me as we won't be meeting anyway.
we won't be meeting anyway....
That is one thing I can certainly agree with you on
Forget about 'face piccies'; your profile is hidden. Or is this a sock puppet profile with your 'other' profile where you get the 'meets'
Very valid point, that has been ignored.
Me choosing to hide my profile has got nothing to do with my posts on this thread??
It doesnt stop me chatting to people I want to chat to or exchanging private photos.
Lots of choose to have their profiles hidden and still successfully enjoy this site.
Thats why the option is there.
My point was the mutual exchange of photos when in conversation.
Hidden profiles cannot be contacted. So, if any messaging takes place, then it must be you initiating contact. My take is, whoever initiates contact, sends their photograph first. If the recipient finds them attractive and wants to meet them, then they might chose to reply with their photograph. If the recipient finds them unattractive, then there is no point in replying with a photograph
Incorrect!
You can message people with hidden profiles even if you haven't spoken before.
Like I said that works perfectly well me and for alot of people who choose to use the hide profile option.
You must be looking for men, TVs and couples as women are blocked on your profile
Whats that got to do with anything?
It has everything to do with your stance on this thread. You are like the guy who complains about the lack of photographs on profiles when he himself has none!
You making unfounded assumptions again that you cant back up?
Because you are backed into a corner and cant justify your posts??
Dear dear
Nope; actually you are now backed into a corner and lashing out with schoolboy reverse psychology
Again you assumptions are unfounded.
Please back up your posts with some real facts or you just make yourself look ridiculous and an angry argumentative person.
Actually, I have backed everything up. Look at my earlier comments. You are just hoping to bury those with your silly posts so that people won't read those as I have just exposed you as like that silly man who complains that there aren't enough photographs on profiles when all he has is a silhouette on his. Same difference
You comments are ridiculous and make no sense ?
People can read all there is to read on here and other posts and none of what you are personally saying about me hold any weight as you have nothing to back it up with ??
The only thing you have succeeded in is making yourself look very silly indeed and trying to make an argument of nothing ??
The thread and my posts are about the exchange of facial photographs while chatting with view to meeting. And how some people ask to see facial photos but wont return the gesture and if people think that is acceptable or not as I personally think its unfair.
But you've hopped onto this thread to create a situation out something that doesnt exist.
Throwing crazy unfounded unvalidated accusations at me.
Crazy
Your comments are absolutely ridiculous . You were hoping that nobody would mention the Emperor's clothes. I did; other people saw it and commented
You go ahead with your hidden profile asking folk to exchange facial photographs with you; how crazy is that
Ta ta"Your inaccurate yet again I havent asked anyone to exchange facial photographs with me that Im not in coversation with ?? And me chosen to hide my profile has no bearing on this thread or my posts? Again you have said nothing to validate any of your posts against me?. The only thing you have proven is how you have tried to create a situation/argument where one wasnt there in the first place. Silly bullish behaviour really but only thing you've succeeded in is making yourself look very foolish. | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem?" I get this. Id like to get to know someone a bit first before committing to face pic sharing. If also find that the first message requesting a face pic rather off-putting. If face pics up front are that important, does that mean someone will want to meet based only on your appearance, regardless of wether you have a personality to match? | |||
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"The regards to the hidden profile versus face pic discussion, I think whether a profile is hidden is irrelevant. I'm assuming that those with a hidden profile would unhide their profile when in a situation where it is relevant to exchange photos. I'm also assuming that those with hidden profiles who expect to receive a face pic with first message would send one privately in return irrespective of whether their profile is hidden or not. " Exactly | |||
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"I've made my face pics public for a week to see if it makes any difference." If we were actively looking and you were closer there is a high chance we would contact you based on those face pics. Would would not contact you if we didn't know what you looked like. Any help? Give it longer than a week though, and if you are comfortable with your face pic in public then there's no reason to change that. | |||
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"I think it's rude to message people and refuse to send a picture. " It is. I had this recently from someone with a singular poor photo who messaged first asking for one. Unsurprisingly, I wasn't interested. | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. " I'm either reading this wrong or you're saying that if someone messages me with a face pic and I'm NOT interested, I should reply with a face picture to say no thanks!? | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I'm either reading this wrong or you're saying that if someone messages me with a face pic and I'm NOT interested, I should reply with a face picture to say no thanks!? " No I'm saying if you spent some time chatting, as some people prefer to first.. Then you ask to see his face.. Then find yourself unattracted.. To do what I said. Not reply to Everyone who sends you their face unasked for. | |||
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"I say no one should send a face pic because no one gets back when people do send one "I do but I usually chat a little first. | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I'm either reading this wrong or you're saying that if someone messages me with a face pic and I'm NOT interested, I should reply with a face picture to say no thanks!? No I'm saying if you spent some time chatting, as some people prefer to first.. Then you ask to see his face.. Then find yourself unattracted.. To do what I said. Not reply to Everyone who sends you their face unasked for. " If someone sent their pic to me but said they weren't interested, I'd find that a little weird. | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. " I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not | |||
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"I say no one should send a face pic because no one gets back when people do send one
I do but I usually chat a little first. "Probably something a single lady can get away with. But for a single man, who's likely to be struggling as it is, he'll be fishing in a much smaller fishpond, because he has automatically eliminated all those who don't want to chat to someone when they don't know what they look like. | |||
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"I say no one should send a face pic because no one gets back when people do send one
I do but I usually chat a little first.
Probably something a single lady can get away with. But for a single man, who's likely to be struggling as it is, he'll be fishing in a much smaller fishpond, because he has automatically eliminated all those who don't want to chat to someone when they don't know what they look like. "Agreed, which is why men should get used to it.. Doesn't make it right though does it? | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not" So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem?" nope | |||
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"I've met many women and couples, I can understand why some people would not want to reply in the way I've suggested. But it's the way I roll when someone I'm not attracted to messages me with a photo first. Made a few friends that way. Fab is Fab, it is what it is, anyone on here using forums and actively online more than a year knows how it works. Us men are performing seals till you get to know us for who we are.. If you bother. I perform to a point, begrudgingly. At least I can joke about it with the people I meet who bother getting to know me, not my body. " It's funny how men think they get treated like performing seals. Women often feel they get treated like prostitutes. | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol" Because if he messages me first then he is clearly attracted to something about me to want to meet me, i HAVE to be attracted facially to meet, the only thing im hiding is the crazy ass bastards who stalk women on here because they 'think' they've recognised someone on here. At the end of the day as a woman even with filters I could choose to sleep with multiple men a day even without them ever seeing my face whereas most men do not have that option. You seem so aggrevied that women want to protect themselves from possibly stalkers, rapists etc. And i block them as its easier than them repeatedly messaging again again or becoming abusive. Same way if someone messages me with a hidden profile i block them | |||
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"I've met many women and couples, I can understand why some people would not want to reply in the way I've suggested. But it's the way I roll when someone I'm not attracted to messages me with a photo first. Made a few friends that way. Fab is Fab, it is what it is, anyone on here using forums and actively online more than a year knows how it works. Us men are performing seals till you get to know us for who we are.. If you bother. I perform to a point, begrudgingly. At least I can joke about it with the people I meet who bother getting to know me, not my body. It's funny how men think they get treated like performing seals. Women often feel they get treated like prostitutes. " I dont get involved with women who treat men like performing seals and I dont treat women like whores and prostitutes either. This obviously limits my options to a certain degree but I'd much prefer to have that if that means more quality mutually respectful encounters . | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol Because if he messages me first then he is clearly attracted to something about me to want to meet me, i HAVE to be attracted facially to meet, the only thing im hiding is the crazy ass bastards who stalk women on here because they 'think' they've recognised someone on here. At the end of the day as a woman even with filters I could choose to sleep with multiple men a day even without them ever seeing my face whereas most men do not have that option. You seem so aggrevied that women want to protect themselves from possibly stalkers, rapists etc. And i block them as its easier than them repeatedly messaging again again or becoming abusive. Same way if someone messages me with a hidden profile i block them" Not aggreived at all. I just wondered how it would work if a guy is just as guarded as giving out his photo as you are ? Like you if you didnt get a photo off the guy I would also not be interested if I never got a photo from the women. So looks like that would create a stalemate situation. Which would be fine for me as I wouldnt pursue interest in her any further. Im only asking how some women think its ok for then to require a photo from a guy first and are not prepared to do the same? I find that unfair and one sided personally. Thats all i mean | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 26/02/17 17:11:58] If you don't understand how that would help the other person from what I said already. I'm not going to waste any more fingerprints trying to explain. If you're not confident in your looks or body.. It's a very vulnerable position to put yourself in. " Who said I wasn't confident?? | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol Because if he messages me first then he is clearly attracted to something about me to want to meet me, i HAVE to be attracted facially to meet, the only thing im hiding is the crazy ass bastards who stalk women on here because they 'think' they've recognised someone on here. At the end of the day as a woman even with filters I could choose to sleep with multiple men a day even without them ever seeing my face whereas most men do not have that option. You seem so aggrevied that women want to protect themselves from possibly stalkers, rapists etc. And i block them as its easier than them repeatedly messaging again again or becoming abusive. Same way if someone messages me with a hidden profile i block them Not aggreived at all. I just wondered how it would work if a guy is just as guarded as giving out his photo as you are ? Like you if you didnt get a photo off the guy I would also not be interested if I never got a photo from the women. So looks like that would create a stalemate situation. Which would be fine for me as I wouldnt pursue interest in her any further. Im only asking how some women think its ok for then to require a photo from a guy first and are not prepared to do the same? I find that unfair and one sided personally. Thats all i mean "There wouldnt be a stalemate at all, if i dont get a facepic in the opening message its deleted and no conversation is ever begun. Its in my profile and if the man chooses to not do that then he doesnt get any opportunity to meet at all, pretty simple really and negates your argument. | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me
I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point.
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But some people as they mentioned on this thread expect to receive a face photo but not to return the gesture.
I personally think thats unfair and wouldnt procced any further with that person..
But each to their own."If I was interested I would send a face picture. But if I wasnt then there would be no point the conversation continuing anyway, so why send a face picture? Here's what I look like anyway just so you know ? That's is pointless. | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me
I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point.
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But some people as they mentioned on this thread expect to receive a face photo but not to return the gesture.
I personally think thats unfair and wouldnt procced any further with that person..
But each to their own.
If I was interested I would send a face picture. But if I wasnt then there would be no point the conversation continuing anyway, so why send a face picture? Here's what I look like anyway just so you know ? That's is pointless."That is totally pointless agreed | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol Because if he messages me first then he is clearly attracted to something about me to want to meet me, i HAVE to be attracted facially to meet, the only thing im hiding is the crazy ass bastards who stalk women on here because they 'think' they've recognised someone on here. At the end of the day as a woman even with filters I could choose to sleep with multiple men a day even without them ever seeing my face whereas most men do not have that option. You seem so aggrevied that women want to protect themselves from possibly stalkers, rapists etc. And i block them as its easier than them repeatedly messaging again again or becoming abusive. Same way if someone messages me with a hidden profile i block them Not aggreived at all. I just wondered how it would work if a guy is just as guarded as giving out his photo as you are ? Like you if you didnt get a photo off the guy I would also not be interested if I never got a photo from the women. So looks like that would create a stalemate situation. Which would be fine for me as I wouldnt pursue interest in her any further. Im only asking how some women think its ok for then to require a photo from a guy first and are not prepared to do the same? I find that unfair and one sided personally. Thats all i mean
There wouldnt be a stalemate at all, if i dont get a facepic in the opening message its deleted and no conversation is ever begun. Its in my profile and if the man chooses to not do that then he doesnt get any opportunity to meet at all, pretty simple really and negates your argument."Yes thats exactly what I would do if a woman expected a face pick off me first without exchanging hers. So it would be a none starter. | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues." On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. | |||
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" It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you? My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous." Complaining about getting abusive messages is working for you? | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol Because if he messages me first then he is clearly attracted to something about me to want to meet me, i HAVE to be attracted facially to meet, the only thing im hiding is the crazy ass bastards who stalk women on here because they 'think' they've recognised someone on here. At the end of the day as a woman even with filters I could choose to sleep with multiple men a day even without them ever seeing my face whereas most men do not have that option. You seem so aggrevied that women want to protect themselves from possibly stalkers, rapists etc. And i block them as its easier than them repeatedly messaging again again or becoming abusive. Same way if someone messages me with a hidden profile i block them Not aggreived at all. I just wondered how it would work if a guy is just as guarded as giving out his photo as you are ? Like you if you didnt get a photo off the guy I would also not be interested if I never got a photo from the women. So looks like that would create a stalemate situation. Which would be fine for me as I wouldnt pursue interest in her any further. Im only asking how some women think its ok for then to require a photo from a guy first and are not prepared to do the same? I find that unfair and one sided personally. Thats all i mean
There wouldnt be a stalemate at all, if i dont get a facepic in the opening message its deleted and no conversation is ever begun. Its in my profile and if the man chooses to not do that then he doesnt get any opportunity to meet at all, pretty simple really and negates your argument.
Yes thats exactly what I would do if a woman expected a face pick off me first without exchanging hers.
So it would be a none starter."So if you message a woman first send her picture and she thinks you are ugly and doesnt want you to meet you then you expect her to send a face picture saying thanks but no thanks but hey if you are a bit unhinged here's my face so i now feel so much less safe thats there's a crazy guy knowing who i am. No-one has said that if the face pic they receive is to their liking and they want to meet they will tell the guy that but not send a pic back, | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me
I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point.
Exactly.
But some people as they mentioned on this thread expect to receive a face photo but not to return the gesture.
I personally think thats unfair and wouldnt procced any further with that person..
But each to their own.
If I was interested I would send a face picture. But if I wasnt then there would be no point the conversation continuing anyway, so why send a face picture? Here's what I look like anyway just so you know ? That's is pointless.
That is totally pointless agreed "Pointless? You can't see how responding the way you do.. By not. Can make the other person feel awkward, fret if they've been 'had' by someone they know, or a previous person who has given them problems might be at it again? No? That's about right, totally pointless.. to people that only think about themselves. It really doesn't bother me that much anymore. I like fab, despite its many flaws and flawed people. I'm only answering the OPs question. You want an answer as to why men get annoyed sometimes? The sad fact is.. It's because the majority of everyone on here wants to be treated better than they're prepared to treat other people.. Post and pre meet. That's a sorry state of affairs really. But that's Fab for you.. Till you meet enough nice people for it to not matter anymore. | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me
I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point.
Exactly.
But some people as they mentioned on this thread expect to receive a face photo but not to return the gesture.
I personally think thats unfair and wouldnt procced any further with that person..
But each to their own.
If I was interested I would send a face picture. But if I wasnt then there would be no point the conversation continuing anyway, so why send a face picture? Here's what I look like anyway just so you know ? That's is pointless."Youve picked up on another posters comment and attaching it to mine? Im not asking anyone to send me a face photo from the off ?? As i also dont send face photos either unless I feel the conversation is going well. And if it is I would appreciate an exchange of photos so we can both see who we are talking to? To ask for a photo first from someone when you arnt prepared to show yours I think is unfair whether it applies to a male or female. Thats my view on it and a the view of a few other posters on here . Im not talking about firing photos off left right and centre to everyone who messages you ? Im saying a mutual exchange of photos after conversing for a while seems appropriate and fair in my opinion. To expect someone to send you face photo but for you not to do the same I feel is unfair. But like another poster mentioned theres plenty of performing seals in here who will pander to the unfair requests of some women. But tjankfully some guys like myself wont. | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved." Well said and exactly what I am trying to say. | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. " Are you for real? what respect must to do with send a face picture? I don't send to everyone! just who intrest me! | |||
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"To people who thinks it's acceptable to receive a face picture on here, but not reply in kind, if there is zero attraction. Fab may seem anonymous, but there is still another person on the end of the line. I used to hide my pic, be very scared of showing it. I was married at the time, judge as you will. Not I'm not, I don't always give it freely, it depends on my mood. Right now, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. So it's out for all to see. The other person you're talking to, could be married and hiding, married and open, bisexual or gay and struggling with being open about it. They may have an important job, or friends or family they care would find out. When you take into account all those very real concerns about privacy. It's a tiny little bit of RESPECT to another human being to a) reply with a kind thanks but no thanks. And b) Grow up and show your own, so the other can relax a little about their privacy. Some people WILL question it, or get snotty. If they do, block them! If everyone on here was a little more respectful and empathetic.. (fellow men, I'm mainly talking to you) This will become a much better place. I nearly always send my face pic on first messages to people. As is FAB way, to avoid this whole issue. I ask for a face picture to see if i am actually attracted to the person, i delete the message and block if no attraction so i dont get the abuse the thanks but no thanks message usually brings, I most certainly living in a small market town would not dream of saying no thanks and sending my face pic back so they can stalk me or abuse me in person thats just opening it up for harrassment. Its also acts as a massive filter for me as I tend to find the guys who dont want to send a face pic are hiding something (usually a relationship) and I definitely wouldnt meet them regardless if good looking or not So you want a guy to send you a face pic first but unless you find him attractive you will block him ? And if he doesnt send you a pic youd think he was hiding something? But its ok for you not to send a photo first ? He might think that you're hiding something etc ? So how would that work then ? Lol Because if he messages me first then he is clearly attracted to something about me to want to meet me, i HAVE to be attracted facially to meet, the only thing im hiding is the crazy ass bastards who stalk women on here because they 'think' they've recognised someone on here. At the end of the day as a woman even with filters I could choose to sleep with multiple men a day even without them ever seeing my face whereas most men do not have that option. You seem so aggrevied that women want to protect themselves from possibly stalkers, rapists etc. And i block them as its easier than them repeatedly messaging again again or becoming abusive. Same way if someone messages me with a hidden profile i block them Not aggreived at all. I just wondered how it would work if a guy is just as guarded as giving out his photo as you are ? Like you if you didnt get a photo off the guy I would also not be interested if I never got a photo from the women. So looks like that would create a stalemate situation. Which would be fine for me as I wouldnt pursue interest in her any further. Im only asking how some women think its ok for then to require a photo from a guy first and are not prepared to do the same? I find that unfair and one sided personally. Thats all i mean
There wouldnt be a stalemate at all, if i dont get a facepic in the opening message its deleted and no conversation is ever begun. Its in my profile and if the man chooses to not do that then he doesnt get any opportunity to meet at all, pretty simple really and negates your argument.
Yes thats exactly what I would do if a woman expected a face pick off me first without exchanging hers.
So it would be a none starter."You have your face on show though so you aren't bothered about discretion issues. Perhaps that why you arent understanding my points of view. | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. Well said and exactly what I am trying to say. "Exactly this. But my point was the abusing messsges a lady can receive when she doesn't send a face picture back to the man. But if she doesn't find him attractive and wouldn't want to meet him, then why should he still get to see a face picture? What exactly would that achieve? | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. Well said and exactly what I am trying to say.
Exactly this. But my point was the abusing messsges a lady can receive when she doesn't send a face picture back to the man. But if she doesn't find him attractive and wouldn't want to meet him, then why should he still get to see a face picture? What exactly would that achieve?"nothing playful some guys think there entitled which of coarse there not when they are the ones doing the first approach ,I would say its a bit different if the lady is making the first move though . its just entitled guys spitting out there dummies because they lack the self believe to allow others free choice and the maturity level need to respect another persons choice even if its a negative one towards them . | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. Well said and exactly what I am trying to say.
Exactly this. But my point was the abusing messsges a lady can receive when she doesn't send a face picture back to the man. But if she doesn't find him attractive and wouldn't want to meet him, then why should he still get to see a face picture? What exactly would that achieve?
nothing playful some guys think there entitled which of coarse there not when they are the ones doing the first approach ,I would say its a bit different if the lady is making the first move though .
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"I've made my face pics public for a week to see if it makes any difference. If we were actively looking and you were closer there is a high chance we would contact you based on those face pics. Would would not contact you if we didn't know what you looked like. Any help? Give it longer than a week though, and if you are comfortable with your face pic in public then there's no reason to change that." Thank you. I take that very much so compliment. | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem?" People get offended when I do send them face pictures | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me "hang on a minute I have my own way of doing things just like playful and you know what. any woman thinking my way of going about swapping face pictures is unfair , or how I go about arranging meets and what happens on them meets is not for her ,you know what she has the right to question me on why I do things that way and I have the right to answer of not , she then has the right to move on or agree to my way of doing things its exactly the same when I have contact with a woman if I don't like what she's asking for or wants I can just move on . no one is forcing anyone into anything or here we have free choice and I'm sure you want your free choice respected so don't you think its best to just except others free choice to . | |||
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"Are you famous? Are all your work mates on here? Are all your neigjbours on here? Are all you friends on here? Is all your village on here? Xxxxx Even if so, they would never tell I hope, a code of conduct exists. I work in a big office and one a year at the xmas party a female colleague says "hows fab" we both know, we both seen our naked bits, we never played, and we never ever ever tell. Xxx" A code of conduct? Believe me, some people would revel in telling people that I'm on here. No one can be trusted. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
hang on a minute I have my own way of doing things just like playful and you know what. any woman thinking my way of going about swapping face pictures is unfair , or how I go about arranging meets and what happens on them meets is not for her ,you know what she has the right to question me on why I do things that way and I have the right to answer of not , she then has the right to move on or agree to my way of doing things
its exactly the same when I have contact with a woman if I don't like what she's asking for or wants I can just move on .
no one is forcing anyone into anything or here we have free choice and I'm sure you want your free choice respected so don't you think its best to just except others free choice to .
"Who you talking to? And what you rambling on about ?? I suggest you read the thread from the very start carefully. And not pop in trying to white knight when theres no issue here. Good night old chap. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
hang on a minute I have my own way of doing things just like playful and you know what. any woman thinking my way of going about swapping face pictures is unfair , or how I go about arranging meets and what happens on them meets is not for her ,you know what she has the right to question me on why I do things that way and I have the right to answer of not , she then has the right to move on or agree to my way of doing things
its exactly the same when I have contact with a woman if I don't like what she's asking for or wants I can just move on .
no one is forcing anyone into anything or here we have free choice and I'm sure you want your free choice respected so don't you think its best to just except others free choice to .
Who you talking to? And what you rambling on about ??
I suggest you read the thread from the very start carefully.
And not pop in trying to white knight when theres no issue here.
Good night old chap."to right I'm white knighting fella you are questioning another on how they choose to go about there business . your questioning playful choices and them criticising with lines like this . Not very fair and very one sided don't you think? I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one. you sound like you think your entitled and with the line above you are inferring those who don't see it your way are selfish . you need to learn to just except other people choices and if I want to white knight I will that's my choice ,again do you get that or is it to much for you to get your head around . | |||
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"I like the way women say on there profile "I will only respond to face pics" then you look and they don't have any face pics Personally I would like to see a face pic, but tbh is more about personality than looks But maybe that's just me
I ask for a face pic on first message as I find that I have to be attracted to someone. It's rather a waste of time having a conversation to then find out they really aren't your type. More than happy to send one back too and most days I do have one on public at some point.
Exactly.
But some people as they mentioned on this thread expect to receive a face photo but not to return the gesture.
I personally think thats unfair and wouldnt procced any further with that person..
But each to their own.
If I was interested I would send a face picture. But if I wasnt then there would be no point the conversation continuing anyway, so why send a face picture? Here's what I look like anyway just so you know ? That's is pointless.
That is totally pointless agreed
Pointless? You can't see how responding the way you do.. By not. Can make the other person feel awkward, fret if they've been 'had' by someone they know, or a previous person who has given them problems might be at it again?
No? That's about right, totally pointless.. to people that only think about themselves.
It really doesn't bother me that much anymore. I like fab, despite its many flaws and flawed people. I'm only answering the OPs question. You want an answer as to why men get annoyed sometimes?
The sad fact is.. It's because the majority of everyone on here wants to be treated better than they're prepared to treat other people.. Post and pre meet. That's a sorry state of affairs really.
But that's Fab for you.. Till you meet enough nice people for it to not matter anymore. "I think you may be on your own in this thinking. Sending a face picture to someone you're not interested in, just to maybe appease them, is a little pointless. This is mainly just the way of online dating/meeting sites. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
hang on a minute I have my own way of doing things just like playful and you know what. any woman thinking my way of going about swapping face pictures is unfair , or how I go about arranging meets and what happens on them meets is not for her ,you know what she has the right to question me on why I do things that way and I have the right to answer of not , she then has the right to move on or agree to my way of doing things
its exactly the same when I have contact with a woman if I don't like what she's asking for or wants I can just move on .
no one is forcing anyone into anything or here we have free choice and I'm sure you want your free choice respected so don't you think its best to just except others free choice to .
Who you talking to? And what you rambling on about ??
I suggest you read the thread from the very start carefully.
And not pop in trying to white knight when theres no issue here.
Good night old chap."Rambling ? Is this because yet again someone doesn't agree with your own opinions so you feel the need to try and criticise and belittle that person? Just accept everyone has different ideas. That is what the rest of us do. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
hang on a minute I have my own way of doing things just like playful and you know what. any woman thinking my way of going about swapping face pictures is unfair , or how I go about arranging meets and what happens on them meets is not for her ,you know what she has the right to question me on why I do things that way and I have the right to answer of not , she then has the right to move on or agree to my way of doing things
its exactly the same when I have contact with a woman if I don't like what she's asking for or wants I can just move on .
no one is forcing anyone into anything or here we have free choice and I'm sure you want your free choice respected so don't you think its best to just except others free choice to .
Who you talking to? And what you rambling on about ??
I suggest you read the thread from the very start carefully.
And not pop in trying to white knight when theres no issue here.
Good night old chap.
to right I'm white knighting fella you are questioning another on how they choose to go about there business . your questioning playful choices and them criticising with lines like this .
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
you sound like you think your entitled and with the line above you are inferring those who don't see it your way are selfish .
you need to learn to just except other people choices and if I want to white knight I will that's my choice ,again do you get that or is it to much for you to get your head around .
"I get that you succeed in making yourself look like an idiot and this is one of many of such instances. My posts have been nothing but general grounded well rounded and valid to the nature of this posters original thread. And everyone else can see that who have been following this thread. So I suggest you run along and try your tiresome needless white knighting elsewhere as there is no issue here to white knight and I have nothing further to say to you apart from goodbye. | |||
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"How on earth can you decide if you want to meet someone without seeing what they look like? If Im chatting to someone I like to see who Im talking to. Not a headless corpse
I have no problems exchanging facial photos with someone Im chatting to.
I think above anything its good manners
I do exchange but only if I've decided im interested and physically atttacted to them. I always see their face pictures first. There is no way on earth I would display my face picture for everyone to see.
You want to see his face photo first to see if you find him attractive ? And based on that you will decide whether to send him hour photo or not?
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
I think its only fair to exchange photos at the same time when you both feel its appropriate.
That is fair and considerate in my opinion.
But you are you I suppose
It may not seem fair to you but it's how I do things, and what is more, it works. Out of curiosity, does your system work well for you?
My discretion is paramount to me. I won't take unnecessary risks with strangers on a sex site. That would be ludicrous.
Yes being fair with people and treating them equally and respectfully and not selfishly does work for me
hang on a minute I have my own way of doing things just like playful and you know what. any woman thinking my way of going about swapping face pictures is unfair , or how I go about arranging meets and what happens on them meets is not for her ,you know what she has the right to question me on why I do things that way and I have the right to answer of not , she then has the right to move on or agree to my way of doing things
its exactly the same when I have contact with a woman if I don't like what she's asking for or wants I can just move on .
no one is forcing anyone into anything or here we have free choice and I'm sure you want your free choice respected so don't you think its best to just except others free choice to .
Who you talking to? And what you rambling on about ??
I suggest you read the thread from the very start carefully.
And not pop in trying to white knight when theres no issue here.
Good night old chap.
to right I'm white knighting fella you are questioning another on how they choose to go about there business . your questioning playful choices and them criticising with lines like this .
Not very fair and very one sided don't you think?
I prefer mutual respect and a level playing field with a person I'm talking with not a selfish onesided one.
you sound like you think your entitled and with the line above you are inferring those who don't see it your way are selfish .
you need to learn to just except other people choices and if I want to white knight I will that's my choice ,again do you get that or is it to much for you to get your head around .
I get that you succeed in making yourself look like an idiot and this is one of many of such instances.
My posts have been nothing but general grounded well rounded and valid to the nature of this posters original thread.
And everyone else can see that who have been following this thread.
So I suggest you run along and try your tiresome needless white knighting elsewhere as there is no issue here to white knight and I have nothing further to say to you apart from goodbye."Where has he made himself look like an idiot? White knight? He is stating an opinion which is allowed on these forums. | |||
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"Why do people get so offended when I won't sends face picture? I only send face pictures to those people I intend on meeting. I need to be discreet and don't want to risk my face picture being publicly shown around to all and sundry. Is that really a problem?" Same here. I think I odd when people I think I am only having banter with want a face picture x | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. Well said and exactly what I am trying to say.
Exactly this. But my point was the abusing messsges a lady can receive when she doesn't send a face picture back to the man. But if she doesn't find him attractive and wouldn't want to meet him, then why should he still get to see a face picture? What exactly would that achieve?"What you don't understand is that the abusive messages are a reaction to your abuse of power. As a single woman you are in a position to demand a face picture on the first message, and you exercise this privilege to the detriment of your communications. The men who are abusive to you comply with your demand in the hope of being considered. When you don't consider them, they realise they have exposed themselves pointlessly - just to use this word that has been popping up. When a profile says "no face pic, no reply", for many the logical conclusion will be "face pic, reply". . Are they right to abuse? No, do report them. But do remember that if you disparage others they may react negatively. | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. Well said and exactly what I am trying to say.
Exactly this. But my point was the abusing messsges a lady can receive when she doesn't send a face picture back to the man. But if she doesn't find him attractive and wouldn't want to meet him, then why should he still get to see a face picture? What exactly would that achieve?
What you don't understand is that the abusive messages are a reaction to your abuse of power. As a single woman you are in a position to demand a face picture on the first message, and you exercise this privilege to the detriment of your communications.
The men who are abusive to you comply with your demand in the hope of being considered. When you don't consider them, they realise they have exposed themselves pointlessly - just to use this word that has been popping up. When a profile says "no face pic, no reply", for many the logical conclusion will be "face pic, reply". . Are they right to abuse? No, do report them. But do remember that if you disparage others they may react negatively."Abuse of power ? That's rather OTT
As a single fem I need a quick elimination process because of sheer volume of messages. It's nothing to do with power. It's a method of handling my needs efficiently and effectively. What's more it works. The majority of people are totally respectful and understanding about why I do t send face pictures. It's the minority who see it as a issue and have to resort to childish abusive messages. | |||
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"I get hundreds of face pictures sent to me a week. If I responded to these messages with sending a face picture, then hundreds of people would have my face picture which could be detrimental to my discretion issues. On your profile in block capitals you request that single men attach face pics on their first message. You have created a situation where you receive hundreds of face pics - as per your demands. You ask for understanding to your need for privacy but you care not a dot about that of the single men who message you. Seeing everyone's face on the first message is not necessary. A vast majority of these men won't meet your requirements anyway, so there is no need for them to show you their face on the first message. Like, at all. Swap face pics with those you would consider meeting only. Problem solved. Well said and exactly what I am trying to say.
Exactly this. But my point was the abusing messsges a lady can receive when she doesn't send a face picture back to the man. But if she doesn't find him attractive and wouldn't want to meet him, then why should he still get to see a face picture? What exactly would that achieve?
What you don't understand is that the abusive messages are a reaction to your abuse of power. As a single woman you are in a position to demand a face picture on the first message, and you exercise this privilege to the detriment of your communications.
The men who are abusive to you comply with your demand in the hope of being considered. When you don't consider them, they realise they have exposed themselves pointlessly - just to use this word that has been popping up. When a profile says "no face pic, no reply", for many the logical conclusion will be "face pic, reply". . Are they right to abuse? No, do report them. But do remember that if you disparage others they may react negatively.
Abuse of power ? That's rather OTT
As a single fem I need a quick elimination process because of sheer volume of messages. It's nothing to do with power. It's a method of handling my needs efficiently and effectively. What's more it works. The majority of people are totally respectful and understanding about why I do t send face pictures. It's the minority who see it as a issue and have to resort to childish abusive messages."*why I don't send | |||
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"I'm confused by this whole thread, OP. Are you saying you get abuse because people send you face pictures in an opening message and you don't reply? If so, it happens to us all - It's that rejection that people can't seem to deal with. It's got nothing to do with not sending a face picture. Or, are you saying that you refuse to send a face picture first or even at all, even when you're in contact with someone? " I'm not saying either of those. I'm simply saying, that if I respond to a message, for example, to say I'm not interested, but I don't attach a face picture, then I sometimes receive an abusive messsage back. | |||
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"Is this still going???" Afraid so | |||
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"Is this still going??? Afraid so "Not long to go, nearly 175 posts now. | |||
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"I rarely get asked for face pics. Most guys want to meet without it seems, but my stance is whoever makes the first contact should send a face pic." I need to be sure I don't recognise them before I send my picture. | |||
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"Is this still going??? Afraid so
Not long to go, nearly 175 posts now. "This will maybe get it closed | |||
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"Is this still going??? Afraid so
Not long to go, nearly 175 posts now.
This will maybe get it closed "Post 175 The thread will closeth Happy to oblige | |||
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