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"There will be some gentleman that would love just a drink and a chat, they are rare but they do exist. I hope you find someone who appeals to you and you have a nice time." Thank you. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "Hopefully out of the hundreds of what will you be wearing and will you be giving it up messages? You may get one or two half normal guys message you ? | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
Hopefully out of the hundreds of what will you be wearing and will you be giving it up messages?
You may get one or two half normal guys message you ?"I do hope so as I'm choking for a pint! What's wrong with my shell suit and Nike air max?  | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "I would never approach a prospective meet like that. It's arrogant, bad mannered & disrespectful. I love meeting people in this lifestyle, wether we have sex or not, it's about being able to talk & communicate on the same level, knowing that person has similar interests to you, even if the conversation isn't around sex. If nothing happens then it has been an enjoyable social with a lovely lady or nice couple. NO expectations. Steve x  | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
Hopefully out of the hundreds of what will you be wearing and will you be giving it up messages?
You may get one or two half normal guys message you ?
I do hope so as I'm choking for a pint! What's wrong with my shell suit and Nike air max? "Plenty! Everyone knows you wear whit stilettos with a shell suit  | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified." Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet!  | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified. Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet! "That's fair enough if that's what they want. We like social only meets with nothing else on the agenda too but it's very difficult to achieve. | |||
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"I had a Fab friend visiting from London and she put up a social only meet at a pub offering verifications. The number of messages she got expecting sex was unbelievable. We got one guy turning up. One!" Yes I remember that . | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "op I was called fake in the week because my veries are only socials its a case of your dammed anyway because its all dependent on the attitude of others . that's why I only concern myself with what I'm hoping to find not what others tell me I should be doing while I'm looking nor how I should go about looking for what I want . | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
I would never approach a prospective meet like that. It's arrogant, bad mannered & disrespectful. I love meeting people in this lifestyle, wether we have sex or not, it's about being able to talk & communicate on the same level, knowing that person has similar interests to you, even if the conversation isn't around sex.
If nothing happens then it has been an enjoyable social with a lovely lady or nice couple. NO expectations.
Steve x "That's right. I mean, I don't have a face pic up so who even says they'll fancy me? I need it to be comfortable with mutual attraction. | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified. Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet!
That's fair enough if that's what they want.
We like social only meets with nothing else on the agenda too but it's very difficult to achieve."I do enjoy social meets with nothing on the agenda. As said above it's great meeting new like minded people. Also if you do hit it off you never know what might happen after further socials! Hell you might even end up with a friend or friends! | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified. Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet!
That's fair enough if that's what they want.
We like social only meets with nothing else on the agenda too but it's very difficult to achieve.
I do enjoy social meets with nothing on the agenda. As said above it's great meeting new like minded people. Also if you do hit it off you never know what might happen after further socials! Hell you might even end up with a friend or friends! "Don't get me wrong, if a social turned in to more the same day then good, but I don't want to give out that impression for anyone to become disappointed. | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified. Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet!
That's fair enough if that's what they want.
We like social only meets with nothing else on the agenda too but it's very difficult to achieve.
I do enjoy social meets with nothing on the agenda. As said above it's great meeting new like minded people. Also if you do hit it off you never know what might happen after further socials! Hell you might even end up with a friend or friends! "We always meet socially first with no exceptions and never play on that day. It puts too much pressure on me and if I'm pressured it ain't happening no matter how well we all get on. So far only one guy has behaved badly and we've been able to observe some dodgy dynamics that we'd sooner not be involved in. As yet we haven't made long term friends with anyone because they nearly all expect sex as part of the package. | |||
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"I've put up a similar status and had the same issues. They don't realise it takes so long to look at the messages/check the profiles out. In the end I think I said fuck this shit and didn't bother! "I always let guys know that I won't be 'dressed for sex'. I'll never forget the time I was sat in a bar in a basque, heels and holdups with my flasher mac over the top, only to be stood up | |||
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"I've put up a similar status and had the same issues. They don't realise it takes so long to look at the messages/check the profiles out. In the end I think I said fuck this shit and didn't bother! "Couple I met once did this, posted what bar they were going to, what she was wearing and when they got there posted where they were sitting. Over 100 messages saying they were going to turn up, two of us actually turned up. We looked round the bar as we were chatting & suspected a couple had turned up for a look, but didn't have bottle to approach lol. In the end it was their loss, as we had a great night
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"Maybe this is where we are going wrong ! When we advertise a meet , the last thing we want is someone expecting a social ....... So perhaps from now we might put up on our status that we are looking for a social meet , a drink or two and no more than that "You're a couple. I'm on about ladies..... Thanks for your input though. | |||
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"I've put up a similar status and had the same issues. They don't realise it takes so long to look at the messages/check the profiles out. In the end I think I said fuck this shit and didn't bother!
I always let guys know that I won't be 'dressed for sex'. I'll never forget the time I was sat in a bar in a basque, heels and holdups with my flasher mac over the top, only to be stood up " .
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"Maybe this is where we are going wrong ! When we advertise a meet , the last thing we want is someone expecting a social ....... So perhaps from now we might put up on our status that we are looking for a social meet , a drink or two and no more than that "Yep, that will probably work.  | |||
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"I've put up a similar status and had the same issues. They don't realise it takes so long to look at the messages/check the profiles out. In the end I think I said fuck this shit and didn't bother!
I always let guys know that I won't be 'dressed for sex'. I'll never forget the time I was sat in a bar in a basque, heels and holdups with my flasher mac over the top, only to be stood up "Oh nooooo! 
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them " Ditto | |||
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them " Apparently that's not how we should do it! We should be waiting with our mouth open and arse cheeks apart ready to please strangers | |||
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"I've put up a similar status and had the same issues. They don't realise it takes so long to look at the messages/check the profiles out. In the end I think I said fuck this shit and didn't bother!
I always let guys know that I won't be 'dressed for sex'. I'll never forget the time I was sat in a bar in a basque, heels and holdups with my flasher mac over the top, only to be stood up
Oh nooooo!
Have a nice time today whatever "Thank you | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "I sympathise to a large extent op - but I still think the single guys have it a lot harder than the single fems on here! - (marginally) better to be inundated than to be ignored I imagine - even if the quality of messages we receive leaves something to be desired at times! Xx | |||
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"We have the same problem time after time. To us a social means meeting in a pub or cafe for a drink and a chat and to see if we all want to meet up sonetime to play. To most guys it seems to mean meet up for a drink and chat for about 5 mins then they expect to come back to our home to fuck although we make it clear thats not going to happen and we only play in clubs. Failing that they suggest we go into the disabled loo and fuck there or even in the car in the car park lol. Luckily i usually suss this out before actually arranging a social !" It's difficult to even get to a social as a lot of the guys (and women) are married which means they'll not be out seen in public. | |||
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"There will be some gentleman that would love just a drink and a chat, they are rare but they do exist. I hope you find someone who appeals to you and you have a nice time." When I'm away in hotels I've suggested i would love and be happy with a drink and chat but alas no that's not got a reply | |||
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"Surely there'll be other people messaging to go for a pint? " I'm single own house can accommodate but would still love a lemonade with a lady !! Still no takers !! Lol | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "So much easier if you include all this crucial info in your meet requirements. Saves a lot of time and time wasters | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
So much easier if you include all this crucial info in your meet requirements. Saves a lot of time and time wasters "I believed the 'anyone fancy a drink' status would have been enough | |||
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"I've often posted a meet request for a social meet, food/drinks etc. Unless sex is on the table, the local men are not interested! If they do show an interest, guaranteed within a few messages they try and turn the conversation into sex talk. I've near enough given up on the site now "Exactly this. | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified. Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet! "I find our north east region seriously lacks decent men. Yorkshire seems to have a few gents, maybe head south a little with your search. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "It's hard work for some of us couples as well. We put a meet up last week looking for a female to join us for drink and a chat social. Got no replies. Least you had replies even if they wasn't what you wanted to see and read. | |||
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them Apparently that's not how we should do it! We should be waiting with our mouth open and arse cheeks apart ready to please strangers "I never expect anything on a social, I do like a flirt and if the lady brushes her hand against my leg or touches my hand I may flirtatiously place a hand on her knee or hand at the judged moment, still doesn't mean she's going to jump in to bed or go round back of pub with me. Also if husband is present, then would ask his permission too or look for an acknowledging nodd, to give go ahead
Though I do know where you're coming from as there are those animals on here that would see that as an open invitation. | |||
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"I had a Fab friend visiting from London and she put up a social only meet at a pub offering verifications. The number of messages she got expecting sex was unbelievable. We got one guy turning up. One!" this unfortunately is the case mostly, even the ones who start off sounding interested in just the social then go on, after a bit of a chat, to the "so will you be without knickers" or "will you be touching and teasing me or other way round" blah blah blah.... it can be very off putting and make you feel, as the op said, like an unpaid escort 
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"I've often posted a meet request for a social meet, food/drinks etc. Unless sex is on the table, the local men are not interested! If they do show an interest, guaranteed within a few messages they try and turn the conversation into sex talk. I've near enough given up on the site now " | |||
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"Having a social meet with a couple or lady is great, openly chatting about experiences etc.without expecting to play can be a lot of fun, but there are some top class Dick heads around here " | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. :- It's hard work for some of us couples as well. We put a meet up last week looking for a female to join us for drink and a chat social. Got no replies. Least you had replies even if they wasn't what you wanted to see and read. " You have each other though. No ones saying anyone has it easy. Also, looking for a single bi fem to meet a couple is VERY difficult. I'm having a little moan about my messages this morning, that's all. | |||
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"They're missing a trick then because it's an ideal opportunity to get verified. Most round here believe it's pointless meeting unless it means getting their cock wet!
I find our north east region seriously lacks decent men. Yorkshire seems to have a few gents, maybe head south a little with your search."Lol Now come on, there are a few of us, admittedly not many lol | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like "I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that. | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that. "so it's not just a social free for all then? Maybe if you were more specific in your requirements you would be able to a suitable candidate out ... | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
so it's not just a social free for all then?
Maybe if you were more specific in your requirements you would be able to a suitable candidate out ... "Maybe the fact I'm a straight woman looking for men may give it away? Ah you didn't check that did you? | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "See i hear that as "i wanted a man to buy me a coffee while i talk at him". That ain't swinging. Imo. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. :- It's hard work for some of us couples as well. We put a meet up last week looking for a female to join us for drink and a chat social. Got no replies. Least you had replies even if they wasn't what you wanted to see and read. You have each other though. No ones saying anyone has it easy. Also, looking for a single bi fem to meet a couple is VERY difficult. I'm having a little moan about my messages this morning, that's all. " Yes we do have each other and accept that it is hard to find a bi lady who would like to join us. Your entitled to have a little moan whenever you feel like. Hopefully things will get better and we'll all get the responses we're looking for. Enjoy the day. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
See i hear that as "i wanted a man to buy me a coffee while i talk at him". That ain't swinging. Imo."You heard wrong! I've never expected a man to buy my coffee | |||
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them " Same but I pretty much never even get to the social stage. They put me off in messages.  | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. :- It's hard work for some of us couples as well. We put a meet up last week looking for a female to join us for drink and a chat social. Got no replies. Least you had replies even if they wasn't what you wanted to see and read. You have each other though. No ones saying anyone has it easy. Also, looking for a single bi fem to meet a couple is VERY difficult. I'm having a little moan about my messages this morning, that's all. Yes we do have each other and accept that it is hard to find a bi lady who would like to join us. Your entitled to have a little moan whenever you feel like. Hopefully things will get better and we'll all get the responses we're looking for. Enjoy the day. "A couple will never understand unless of course the fem has her own separate profile. | |||
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"I've often posted a meet request for a social meet, food/drinks etc. Unless sex is on the table, the local men are not interested! If they do show an interest, guaranteed within a few messages they try and turn the conversation into sex talk. I've near enough given up on the site now "  | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
See i hear that as "i wanted a man to buy me a coffee while i talk at him". That ain't swinging. Imo.
You heard wrong! I've never expected a man to buy my coffee "But you were disappointed that men on a swinging site were angling for something sexual... | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
See i hear that as "i wanted a man to buy me a coffee while i talk at him". That ain't swinging. Imo.
You heard wrong! I've never expected a man to buy my coffee
But you were disappointed that men on a swinging site were angling for something sexual..."What's wrong with that? I'm entitled to announce I'd like a social meet without having to explain my outfit. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
See i hear that as "i wanted a man to buy me a coffee while i talk at him". That ain't swinging. Imo.
You heard wrong! I've never expected a man to buy my coffee
But you were disappointed that men on a swinging site were angling for something sexual..."So which is it? Your response that is? Thinking I want a guy to buy me a coffee or is it the sexual thing? | |||
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"OP, language is open to interpretation. If there's something you specifically want, put that and you're more likely to find it." Was hoping for a social possibly leading to more. Past experiences have shown me to not indicate that as a lot of guys have left disappointed when I've admitted there was no attraction an My behalf. I'd like to keep it as simple as possible and wait to see how things pan out. | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
so it's not just a social free for all then?
Maybe if you were more specific in your requirements you would be able to a suitable candidate out ...
Maybe the fact I'm a straight woman looking for men may give it away? Ah you didn't check that did you?"Yes I did but you weren't very specific in your status.. If you wanted a social with a man to see if there was any chance of taking things further then that's what you need to put.. Being vague on here gets you nowhere ... and as you have noticed, it is always open to interpretation | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
so it's not just a social free for all then?
Maybe if you were more specific in your requirements you would be able to a suitable candidate out ...
Maybe the fact I'm a straight woman looking for men may give it away? Ah you didn't check that did you?
Yes I did but you weren't very specific in your status..
If you wanted a social with a man to see if there was any chance of taking things further then that's what you need to put..
Being vague on here gets you nowhere ... and as you have noticed, it is always open to interpretation "Ok. If I set my profile to looking for men, only men will be able to read my status. Secondly, I am open to chat in PM about what I am hoping for. I'm not about the explain what I'll be wearing, will I drop my knickers or what's my tipple, on my status'. | |||
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"There will be some gentleman that would love just a drink and a chat, they are rare but they do exist. I hope you find someone who appeals to you and you have a nice time." ...and peanuts | |||
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them Apparently that's not how we should do it! We should be waiting with our mouth open and arse cheeks apart ready to please strangers "Oh I kmow, how dare we do it this way! | |||
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them Apparently that's not how we should do it! We should be waiting with our mouth open and arse cheeks apart ready to please strangers
Oh I kmow, how dare we do it this way! "Sometimes just a friendly word in your ears girls | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that. "So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc. Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site. | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site. "And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men). Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours. | |||
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"All my meets start of as socials. If it leads to more then great but until I'm in that persons company I don't know if I'll want sex with them " | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours. "So what is the right attitude that would allow us to be more successful in meeting women on a sex site? lol | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours.
So what is the right attitude that would allow us to be more successful in meeting women on a sex site? lol
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site. "My meets start as a social just in case I'm not attracted to the guy in person, but if I am then we have fun on that meet. Most men on pof are looking for sex anyway and from the guys I've met on here they say they have more luck on pof with sex meets than here | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours. " | |||
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours.
So what is the right attitude that would allow us to be more successful in meeting women on a sex site? lol
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours.
So what is the right attitude that would allow us to be more successful in meeting women on a sex site? lol
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours.
So what is the right attitude that would allow us to be more successful in meeting women on a sex site? lol
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"I'm meeting up with a couple of ladies off here on Tuesday for lunch and shopping .. oh and hopefully some juicy gossip... that's the kind of social I like
I have my real life friends for that. I'm hoping for a social which could turn into more. I don't fuck my friends though, so use Fab for that.
So right, if all they want is social meets, then join match.com, plenty of fish etc.
Single men seem to attract a lot of grief on here for wanting to meet people for sex in what primarily is a sex site.
And with the right attitude towards women, you men would get a lot more of it! (Some men).
Just because I'm on a site where people meet for sex, does not mean I'll open my legs before I'm at ease. Chatting online is different to chatting face to face. I'm in charge of my own body thanks, just as you are in charge of yours.
So what is the right attitude that would allow us to be more successful in meeting women on a sex site? lol
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"This is so weird. I can honestly say I have only ever had a handful of socials and I can only think of only 2 that didn't lead to sex on the same day but were rearranged to meet another time, so I am guessing these would be socials in the purest sense. I can understand the need for people to know who they are meeting and if pictures match faces. To have a spark of interest and obvious safety but this conversation seems to be going round and round the houses like people aren't interested in any type of physical contact. If you want to go for an afternoon drink that's all you need to put as a status. If you want it to lead to lead to potentially more later if things go well, add that too! It's not difficult. If you are looking to meet the man of your dreams on a sex site you are looking in the wrong place - the likelihood is, that your trajectories are going slightly out and whilst you'll have fun for a while, it wont last as there is always something to see or do (if you excuse the drinks pun). I'm not saying it doesn't happen simply, being ambiguous or not sleeping with someone until the third date on here wont make you any more desirable." I wouldn't say I am a third date wonder at all. I like a social to see if I actually like the person and that they like me, then it's a play meet at mine, at a later date. Seeing as I am the one giving out my personal information (ie address etc) it's a more relaxed and non hurried meet where both parties can relax and have fun for as long as we both want, I don't think it is too much to ask to be honest. | |||
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"If you want to go for an afternoon drink that's all you need to put as a status." To be fair, that's what the OP did. | |||
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"I love a good social meet. Nice country pub , a couple of drinks and a good flirt can lead to fun times ahead. I also find it takes the awkward first meet "hi, what's your name" out of the equation when it's play time. I do often have daft questions of "will you be wearing stockings " and a few that have expected blow jobs in the car park after ! " Heavens! | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "turn it around and ask them to wear the holdups... | |||
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"If you want to go for an afternoon drink that's all you need to put as a status. To be fair, that's what the OP did." To be fair what she wrote was "could be tempted", meaning, everybody mail with your best pick up lines. She then goes on to say that it could have led to more later it was only him saying wear this that made her feel somehow used on the site. As the poster states above - she meets, if she wants, if she likes them she arranges for another day. It's quite easy. | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far." same. | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far." That's the best way , to be honest and up front . We would be the ones asking if it would go further if we get on with a potential meet , and would far prefer to know if it wasn't . Then we could cancel the social | |||
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"I put up I was tempted to go for a social - And? I was put off by most of the messages asking if I'd be dressing which put me off! If it's a bloke I've met before, then it would be for a play. I'm entitled to ask for a face to face before I make any decisions to take things further, as does the guy who meets. " get yourself to the next Fab social whenever that is. They're a good way of meeting other stingers and having a great time without any expectations. | |||
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"I put up I was tempted to go for a social - And? I was put off by most of the messages asking if I'd be dressing which put me off! If it's a bloke I've met before, then it would be for a play. I'm entitled to ask for a face to face before I make any decisions to take things further, as does the guy who meets. get yourself to the next Fab social whenever that is. They're a good way of meeting other stingers and having a great time without any expectations. " stingers?! of course I meant swingers | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far." i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
Hopefully out of the hundreds of what will you be wearing and will you be giving it up messages?
You may get one or two half normal guys message you ?
I do hope so as I'm choking for a pint! What's wrong with my shell suit and Nike air max? "Brilliant nearly choked on our pints. | |||
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"I put up I was tempted to go for a social - And? I was put off by most of the messages asking if I'd be dressing which put me off! If it's a bloke I've met before, then it would be for a play. I'm entitled to ask for a face to face before I make any decisions to take things further, as does the guy who meets. get yourself to the next Fab social whenever that is. They're a good way of meeting other stingers and having a great time without any expectations. " I've attended a few socials and have a few men I meet when schedule allows. Today I fancied a new face | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so." I didn't reply to any of them guys either. A social drink suddenly turns into tearing each other's clothes off? I think not | |||
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"I put up I was tempted to go for a social - And? I was put off by most of the messages asking if I'd be dressing which put me off! If it's a bloke I've met before, then it would be for a play. I'm entitled to ask for a face to face before I make any decisions to take things further, as does the guy who meets. get yourself to the next Fab social whenever that is. They're a good way of meeting other stingers and having a great time without any expectations. I've attended a few socials and have a few men I meet when schedule allows. Today I fancied a new face "try again when you're in the mood I'm sure it'll happen for you | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so." Yep. It's only happened a few times though, usually after a social has been arranged and their true colours show. One bloke even tried gaslighting me and insisted I was the one who wanted it to go further! | |||
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"many men see anything as an opportunity to get what they want. use that to your advantage. figure out why they are interacting with you. asking you what you'll be wearing means they want sex chat, not even to fuck you or treat you like an escort, but to treat you like a sex chat line. do you want sex chat? no, then ignore them. my profile is aimed now at intelligent men. most guys obviously do not read it, or ignore what i want. it makes a great filter. i've got several offers of a social today already in my inbox and i do not ask for that...coz intelligent men don't just rush in asking for a fuck or go on about their dick and their needs to women who don't present themselves as looking for only that. up your game and the men who contact you will do that also." That's great advice, why should we settle for anything less than what we want at the time?!? | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. That's the best way , to be honest and up front . We would be the ones asking if it would go further if we get on with a potential meet , and would far prefer to know if it wasn't . Then we could cancel the social "Obviously some are more picky than others. Your way works for you and mine for me. The last thing I want is to meet someone for sex only to regret it later on. | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so. I didn't reply to any of them guys either. A social drink suddenly turns into tearing each other's clothes off? I think not "my socials pretty much always turn into play, that doesn't bother me. the fact they presume it will is the problem as far as i'm concerned. | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so. I didn't reply to any of them guys either. A social drink suddenly turns into tearing each other's clothes off? I think not
my socials pretty much always turn into play, that doesn't bother me. the fact they presume it will is the problem as far as i'm concerned."Most of mine have too, but that's after we've built a bit of a connection and not before. | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so. Yep. It's only happened a few times though, usually after a social has been arranged and their true colours show. One bloke even tried gaslighting me and insisted I was the one who wanted it to go further!" can't stand guys like that. i've never ever promised sex to anyone from a social, i won't even dirty chat anyone before i've met them so there's no misunderstanding either. | |||
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"My first meets are always socials only. Full stop. I've had a couple of blokes ask if it will go further if we get on so I cancel the social. It's worked bloody well so far. i don't even reply back to guys like that. they're clueless and can remain so. I didn't reply to any of them guys either. A social drink suddenly turns into tearing each other's clothes off? I think not
my socials pretty much always turn into play, that doesn't bother me. the fact they presume it will is the problem as far as i'm concerned.
Most of mine have too, but that's after we've built a bit of a connection and not before.
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved " If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! | |||
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"This is so weird. I can honestly say I have only ever had a handful of socials and I can only think of only 2 that didn't lead to sex on the same day but were rearranged to meet another time, so I am guessing these would be socials in the purest sense. I can understand the need for people to know who they are meeting and if pictures match faces. To have a spark of interest and obvious safety but this conversation seems to be going round and round the houses like people aren't interested in any type of physical contact. If you want to go for an afternoon drink that's all you need to put as a status. If you want it to lead to lead to potentially more later if things go well, add that too! It's not difficult. If you are looking to meet the man of your dreams on a sex site you are looking in the wrong place - the likelihood is, that your trajectories are going slightly out and whilst you'll have fun for a while, it wont last as there is always something to see or do (if you excuse the drinks pun). I'm not saying it doesn't happen simply, being ambiguous or not sleeping with someone until the third date on here wont make you any more desirable." Don't you think the guys are pushy enough without me stating things 'could' go further? You're a bloke, you're safe! I'm a little lady all on my own meeting strangers. Who mentioned meeting the man of their dreams? Someone with manners who isn't pushy and a spark between us is good enough. I pay for my own drinks/taxi's etc etc..... What's wrong with a little respect between potential fuck pals?? | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! " Ooohhh..... get you 
This kind of statement really gets my goat ....
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
This kind of statement really gets my goat ....
Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't "I don't think I'm better than anyone. I've stated a true fact. I am particular, some people aren't. But if the shoe fits..... | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "its a swingers site,,so what do you expect | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! " Yes you can be choosy, but that doesn't make you any better than people who play lots and there is no need to make comments like that, just as advise, most males on here are not particularly choosy so.... | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink.
its a swingers site,,so what do you expect"I expected some sensible messages. Didn't expect to have to explain my outfit. I've explained this already. | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Yes you can be choosy, but that doesn't make you any better than people who play lots and there is no need to make comments like that, just as advise, most males on here are not particularly choosy so...." i used to play loads and was more choosy then than i am now. now i'm open to a lot more things because i take my time and think more about who i'm meeting and why. | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Yes you can be choosy, but that doesn't make you any better than people who play lots and there is no need to make comments like that, just as advise, most males on here are not particularly choosy so...." I'm absolutely no better. Just my way is my way. Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
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Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't
I don't think I'm better than anyone. I've stated a true fact. I am particular, some people aren't. But if the shoe fits....."That's us out if this thread , and the shoe doesn't fit thanks ...... | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
This kind of statement really gets my goat ....
Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't
I don't think I'm better than anyone. I've stated a true fact. I am particular, some people aren't. But if the shoe fits.....
That's us out if this thread , and the shoe doesn't fit thanks ...... "But you're the one saying you wouldn't bother meeting at all if fun wasn't on the cards, which is your choice. My choice is different! | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
This kind of statement really gets my goat ....
Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't "I'm also particular about who I drop mine for as well...they have to be female and alive...lol. As a single male it seems that's the opinion of most females and couples on here...I actually always prefer a social no pressure meet first...it has on occasion led to more but generally it's a nice opportunity to see if you get on and would be happy to go further...but I don't put myself on some sort of pedestal...I like sex and I like people...but I only like sex with people I like...can't do that without a meet! Just meet and go with the flow...if it leads to more at GE time or on another meet great...if it doesn't you've still had a drink and a chat with someone... can't complain about that x | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
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Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't
I'm also particular about who I drop mine for as well...they have to be female and alive...lol.
As a single male it seems that's the opinion of most females and couples on here...I actually always prefer a social no pressure meet first...it has on occasion led to more but generally it's a nice opportunity to see if you get on and would be happy to go further...but I don't put myself on some sort of pedestal...I like sex and I like people...but I only like sex with people I like...can't do that without a meet! Just meet and go with the flow...if it leads to more at GE time or on another meet great...if it doesn't you've still had a drink and a chat with someone... can't complain about that x"Exactly the reason I prefer to meet without expectations. I'm not saying if nothing more happens it'll always be my choice. Nothing worse than being under pressure imo. | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
This kind of statement really gets my goat ....
Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't
I don't think I'm better than anyone. I've stated a true fact. I am particular, some people aren't. But if the shoe fits.....
That's us out if this thread , and the shoe doesn't fit thanks ......
But you're the one saying you wouldn't bother meeting at all if fun wasn't on the cards, which is your choice. My choice is different! "We NEVER meet if fun is not a possibility on the meet, never any pressure either way though, can't think of anything as boring, cold calculating, tedious as a social only meet, if the spark is there when you meet people then you want to rip each other's clothes off, snog the hell out of them and ravish each other, that's a far greater connection than a social (job interview) saying all the right things then arranging a play meet for another time, yawn! | |||
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"guess being swinging site gives them ideas that sex maybe involved If we're lucky!! Doesn't have to be sex though. I'm particular who I drop my knickers for, some people aren't! Ooohhh..... get you
This kind of statement really gets my goat ....
Like you put yourself up there on that pedestal and look down on others as if you have standards so high and they don't ! It's totally unnecessary , and you could so easily have left it at the being particular who you drop your knickers for , without suggesting that others aren't
I don't think I'm better than anyone. I've stated a true fact. I am particular, some people aren't. But if the shoe fits.....
That's us out if this thread , and the shoe doesn't fit thanks ......
But you're the one saying you wouldn't bother meeting at all if fun wasn't on the cards, which is your choice. My choice is different!
We NEVER meet if fun is not a possibility on the meet, never any pressure either way though, can't think of anything as boring, cold calculating, tedious as a social only meet, if the spark is there when you meet people then you want to rip each other's clothes off, snog the hell out of them and ravish each other, that's a far greater connection than a social (job interview) saying all the right things then arranging a play meet for another time, yawn!"And that's absolutely your choice. | |||
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"I don't find this hard work. If I did I wouldn't be here. " Wouldn't the world be dim if we were all the same | |||
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"So, I'm led to believe that, because I'm on a swinging site, I have to be dressed like a cheap tart and expect to be pawed in a pub, by a horny man, who is driven by his dick? " Oh yes, because we shouldn't be on the site if we don't 'give out' instantly | |||
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"So, I'm led to believe that, because I'm on a swinging site, I have to be dressed like a cheap tart and expect to be pawed in a pub, by a horny man, who is driven by his dick? Oh yes, because we shouldn't be on the site if we don't 'give out' instantly "The expectations on here by some people is ridiculous, at times. | |||
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"So, I'm led to believe that, because I'm on a swinging site, I have to be dressed like a cheap tart and expect to be pawed in a pub, by a horny man, who is driven by his dick? Oh yes, because we shouldn't be on the site if we don't 'give out' instantly
The expectations on here by some people is ridiculous, at times. "Single women should not meet men for socials and not expect to be shagged because we're on a sex/swinging site. Single women should not attend clubs without opening our legs to anyone who shows an interest because we're in a sex/swinging club!!! Makes sense doesn't it | |||
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"i'd just love for someone to approach me in an intelligent way. like not go on about my looks, it's obvious they like them if approaching me, plus i'm offering them more than looks. not go on about i like this and that coz you do, they could go into more detail (without sounding like sex chat) so i feel like they genuinely want that with me. idk. and it's not just on here, it's everywhere. so many haven't a fucking clue when it comes to women. why not?" Instagram. The word instant is the issue. No time to get to know people. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "Personally I can't see anything wrong with a coffee and a chat, as along as you are decent I don't care what you wear. BTW I would be I male mode of course lol | |||
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" It's difficult to even get to a social as a lot of the guys (and women) are married which means they'll not be out seen in public." I always start with a social | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. " This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... | |||
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"i'd just love for someone to approach me in an intelligent way. like not go on about my looks, it's obvious they like them if approaching me, plus i'm offering them more than looks. not go on about i like this and that coz you do, they could go into more detail (without sounding like sex chat) so i feel like they genuinely want that with me. idk. and it's not just on here, it's everywhere. so many haven't a fucking clue when it comes to women. why not? Instagram. The word instant is the issue. No time to get to know people." yeah maybe. i am lucky i have a lot of free time now.  | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... " It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing. | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing. "Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on "What was the deal breaker? Thanks for keeping the post running | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running "Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you. I take it, it wouldn't..? | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?"Well obviously! It's personality and a good attitude that gets my juices going | |||
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"So, I'm led to believe that, because I'm on a swinging site, I have to be dressed like a cheap tart and expect to be pawed in a pub, by a horny man, who is driven by his dick? " Apparently | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?"it would for me, i'd just presume he's after a wank. | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?
Well obviously! It's personality and a good attitude that gets my juices going "Just thinking for a second that he might have wanted a meet with a well turned out woman. He might have been choosy too. To play devils advocate. | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?
Well obviously! It's personality and a good attitude that gets my juices going
Just thinking for a second that he might have wanted a meet with a well turned out woman. He might have been choosy too. To play devils advocate. "Ah I'm always well turned out. That's by the choice of myself, not some stranger from fab. | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?
Well obviously! It's personality and a good attitude that gets my juices going
Just thinking for a second that he might have wanted a meet with a well turned out woman. He might have been choosy too. To play devils advocate. "A woman has to be wearing stockings to be well turned out? | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?
Well obviously! It's personality and a good attitude that gets my juices going
Just thinking for a second that he might have wanted a meet with a well turned out woman. He might have been choosy too. To play devils advocate.
Ah I'm always well turned out. That's by the choice of myself, not some stranger from fab. "OP, snap! I'm always in dresses, smart/ casual clothes and heels. I never ever wear tracksuits, jogger bottoms nor trainers. Doesn't take much effort to brush hair and look nicely turned out. | |||
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"Others' prefer to fuck without chemistry, I don't. This for me is key. Got to know a little about someone before hopping into bed... It's good to know I'm not that odd! Most agree a social is a good starting point and most agree people shouldn't be questioned about what they'll be wearing.
Granted it's an odd thing to ask. But would it still have been a deal breaker if he matched all your preferences, looked like a sex god and he was making sure you were worth turning up for? .. As this thread is going on and on
What was the deal breaker?
Thanks for keeping the post running
Would it have been a deal breaker if he looked like a sex god, matched all your preferences but asked, would you be wearing stockings and whatever else annoyed you.
I take it, it wouldn't..?"Some women aren't here for men who look like Gods. Some of us want men who can be turned on by more than a flash of stockings and tits pushed up out of their bra, for a cheap thrill. | |||
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"So, I put up a status 'Could be tempted to a social, anyone fancy a couple of drinks?'. Have received message after message asking me what I'll be wearing! Will I have holdups on? Will I be wanting fun as well? Some men think we're unpaid escorts by the sounds of it! I only wanted a chat and a drink. "I totally get you.. some men(and I repeat..some) think that just because this is a website for sex...rules of engagement don't applies. Idiots | |||
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