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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"I like it that way but I rather like doing a bit of the chasing myself  "
yes I like to chase but its a fine line you don't want to be considered desperate when your not nor do you wish to take up someone time who maybe wishing to flirt with someone else at that time .
I'm not easy I freely admit it the first sign of non mutual behaviour I walk if I'm honest by that i mean I stop saying hello I'm here in the hope of maybe arranging a meet when both our diaries align , |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"If I didnt do the chasing I wouldn't get a meet on here.
not surprized I heard you bash them over the head and that's the last anyone ever sees of them again  "
I assure you, I'm a fucking delight in real life. |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"If I didnt do the chasing I wouldn't get a meet on here.
not surprized I heard you bash them over the head and that's the last anyone ever sees of them again
I assure you, I'm a fucking delight in real life."
isn't that what Charles mason says to his groupies  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"If I didnt do the chasing I wouldn't get a meet on here.
Well I can't see your profile so I guess that would be the way "
Seeing as I'm in Cambodia right now I'm very definitely not meeting at the mo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I didnt do the chasing I wouldn't get a meet on here.
Well I can't see your profile so I guess that would be the way
Seeing as I'm in Cambodia right now I'm very definitely not meeting at the mo."
Bit of a trek |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
"Chasing I don't do. Message someone who attracts me yes.
ok
if you wouldn't mind could you define what you would consider as chasing ."
The word chasing for me sounds very much like on a hunt. To follow them and wear them down. Sometimes I'm erratic, sometimes I'm very prompt in messaging.To show interest doesn't mean chasing. Chasing makes me think of being in school playground. Too old to play games. I message when I want, I don't conform to the wait until he messages back or wait 30 minutes to reply. We are all at times like rubber bands, one pulls back and the other pulls towards. We message equally and stay stretched. This is good until one decides they don't want to pull towards anymore and pulls away also and then the band snaps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't happen often but I had introduction messages from couples and single females over the weekend and profile peeves from a forum hottie which I'll assume was an accident |
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"On here? No. If I'm interested I'll attempt to let the person know. "
Agreed. Nothing against the guys chasing, there's just too many of them and it makes it a lot harder sorting out the ones that suit us. So we prefer to do the chasing. |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Chasing I don't do. Message someone who attracts me yes.
ok
if you wouldn't mind could you define what you would consider as chasing .
The word chasing for me sounds very much like on a hunt. To follow them and wear them down. Sometimes I'm erratic, sometimes I'm very prompt in messaging.To show interest doesn't mean chasing. Chasing makes me think of being in school playground. Too old to play games. I message when I want, I don't conform to the wait until he messages back or wait 30 minutes to reply. We are all at times like rubber bands, one pulls back and the other pulls towards. We message equally and stay stretched. This is good until one decides they don't want to pull towards anymore and pulls away also and then the band snaps."
totally agree in the beginning I message one for one don't message me back with in a few days I don't send follow up messages .
I'm going to let you into a secret here this post was brought on by one annoying instance today out of two annoying instances ,
but the annoying instant that lead to this post was this,
i got told by a so called sub on another site that u wasn't what i seemed because i wasn't chasing her or banging on about meeting her so i must be fake 
I've been called fake twice online today all because i conduct myself but my rules not the rules of others 
oh well it is what it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good for you Handson, stick to your guns. That's what I like to hear. Have also been called fake, however, each to their own! Enjoy the site and have fun I say, cause ultimately that's what it's all about.
I'm not saying there aren't fakes out there either, just in case the fakes start screaming at me  |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
"Chasing I don't do. Message someone who attracts me yes.
ok
if you wouldn't mind could you define what you would consider as chasing .
The word chasing for me sounds very much like on a hunt. To follow them and wear them down. Sometimes I'm erratic, sometimes I'm very prompt in messaging.To show interest doesn't mean chasing. Chasing makes me think of being in school playground. Too old to play games. I message when I want, I don't conform to the wait until he messages back or wait 30 minutes to reply. We are all at times like rubber bands, one pulls back and the other pulls towards. We message equally and stay stretched. This is good until one decides they don't want to pull towards anymore and pulls away also and then the band snaps.
totally agree in the beginning I message one for one don't message me back with in a few days I don't send follow up messages .
I'm going to let you into a secret here this post was brought on by one annoying instance today out of two annoying instances ,
but the annoying instant that lead to this post was this,
i got told by a so called sub on another site that u wasn't what i seemed because i wasn't chasing her or banging on about meeting her so i must be fake
I've been called fake twice online today all because i conduct myself but my rules not the rules of others
oh well it is what it is "
No I don't message one for one. Sometimes I see something on forums or a bit of news I know they will be interested in.People have lives outside of the web and to wait until they have answered previous message is a bit daft if you have a connection with them.There are many people who enjoy the chase a lot is down to their self worth makes them feel wanted and admired. The wording of chase for me is not what I do. I can flirt,tease and converse but bugger me if I'm going to chase a man in my heels. |
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Most of my message are just some friendly chatting to see if we get on, I don't send message after message for a number of reasons, I don't want to come across desperate, I stop if she only responds with dead end conversations, And in most cases she will be receiving a lot of messages so if she is interested she will message me,
So no I don't do the chasing I just try and make her aware that I am interested in taking it further then chatting |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Chasing I don't do. Message someone who attracts me yes.
ok
if you wouldn't mind could you define what you would consider as chasing .
The word chasing for me sounds very much like on a hunt. To follow them and wear them down. Sometimes I'm erratic, sometimes I'm very prompt in messaging.To show interest doesn't mean chasing. Chasing makes me think of being in school playground. Too old to play games. I message when I want, I don't conform to the wait until he messages back or wait 30 minutes to reply. We are all at times like rubber bands, one pulls back and the other pulls towards. We message equally and stay stretched. This is good until one decides they don't want to pull towards anymore and pulls away also and then the band snaps.
totally agree in the beginning I message one for one don't message me back with in a few days I don't send follow up messages .
I'm going to let you into a secret here this post was brought on by one annoying instance today out of two annoying instances ,
but the annoying instant that lead to this post was this,
i got told by a so called sub on another site that u wasn't what i seemed because i wasn't chasing her or banging on about meeting her so i must be fake
I've been called fake twice online today all because i conduct myself but my rules not the rules of others
oh well it is what it is
No I don't message one for one. Sometimes I see something on forums or a bit of news I know they will be interested in.People have lives outside of the web and to wait until they have answered previous message is a bit daft if you have a connection with them.There are many people who enjoy the chase a lot is down to their self worth makes them feel wanted and admired. The wording of chase for me is not what I do. I can flirt,tease and converse but bugger me if I'm going to chase a man in my heels. "
All you posted makes sense I will be more particular so you know she messages I respond she says Id love to meet you so I reply with sort out a couple of dates and a place you will be comfortable at and I will have a social with you to see if there a spark in the flesh .
Over a week passes with me seeing no reason to message her so I didn't I then get a message berating me saying if I was real I'd have chased her up about our meet by now .sorry but as far as I was concerned I had left the ball in her court I call that calling a subs bluff as there are lots of subs out there who are only subs in there heads and only want dirty chat about what you will do to them so they can finger there fanny in the safety if there bedroom  |
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All you posted makes sense I will be more particular so you know she messages I respond she says Id love to meet you so I reply with sort out a couple of dates and a place you will be comfortable at and I will have a social with you to see if there a spark in the flesh .
Over a week passes with me seeing no reason to message her so I didn't I then get a message berating me saying if I was real I'd have chased her up about our meet by now .sorry but as far as I was concerned I had left the ball in her court I call that calling a subs bluff as there are lots of subs out there who are only subs in there heads and only want dirty chat about what you will do to them so they can finger there fanny in the safety if there bedroom "
I would of explained that to her in one final message, You left it with her to get back to you about times and places to meet what more can you do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All you posted makes sense I will be more particular so you know she messages I respond she says Id love to meet you so I reply with sort out a couple of dates and a place you will be comfortable at and I will have a social with you to see if there a spark in the flesh .
Over a week passes with me seeing no reason to message her so I didn't I then get a message berating me saying if I was real I'd have chased her up about our meet by now .sorry but as far as I was concerned I had left the ball in her court I call that calling a subs bluff as there are lots of subs out there who are only subs in there heads and only want dirty chat about what you will do to them so they can finger there fanny in the safety if there bedroom
I would of explained that to her in one final message, You left it with her to get back to you about times and places to meet what more can you do"
When someone leaves me to get back to them I normally assume they're not overly bothered |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
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All you posted makes sense I will be more particular so you know she messages I respond she says Id love to meet you so I reply with sort out a couple of dates and a place you will be comfortable at and I will have a social with you to see if there a spark in the flesh .
Over a week passes with me seeing no reason to message her so I didn't I then get a message berating me saying if I was real I'd have chased her up about our meet by now .sorry but as far as I was concerned I had left the ball in her court I call that calling a subs bluff as there are lots of subs out there who are only subs in there heads and only want dirty chat about what you will do to them so they can finger there fanny in the safety if there bedroom
I would of explained that to her in one final message, You left it with her to get back to you about times and places to meet what more can you do"
After I'm insulted I always walk away no more contact on my end . I feel no need to explain my actions to someone who is not asking for a explanations instead of that the choose to name call and insult me instead |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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No in our opinion the guys shouldn't.
With regard to your scenario John, we chat, we say when we are free giving plenty of notice & a few dates, we advise once, we don't ask again about meeting if no date is forthcoming & if its not mentioned we will gradually let the conversation die. We are here to meet people after all, endless chat we can do on Facebook.
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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All you posted makes sense I will be more particular so you know she messages I respond she says Id love to meet you so I reply with sort out a couple of dates and a place you will be comfortable at and I will have a social with you to see if there a spark in the flesh .
Over a week passes with me seeing no reason to message her so I didn't I then get a message berating me saying if I was real I'd have chased her up about our meet by now .sorry but as far as I was concerned I had left the ball in her court I call that calling a subs bluff as there are lots of subs out there who are only subs in there heads and only want dirty chat about what you will do to them so they can finger there fanny in the safety if there bedroom
I would of explained that to her in one final message, You left it with her to get back to you about times and places to meet what more can you do
When someone leaves me to get back to them I normally assume they're not overly bothered "
You can look at it that way or you can look at it like this they have said they will meet you at a time and place you feel comfortable with so there fore they are interested but are not the type of person to go over board over anything . Which means there super safe to meet as there restrained controlled . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I didnt do the chasing I wouldn't get a meet on here.
Well I can't see your profile so I guess that would be the way
Seeing as I'm in Cambodia right now I'm very definitely not meeting at the mo."
if you see a five foot nothing rasta looking woman with a cockney accent and the biggest boobs you've ever seen say hi, that's my pal...last seen in some bar eating snake (not like that, she's gay) |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"do all the chasing ....?
well girls couples what do you say
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Catch me if you can
But seriously, I've blocked all new messages from everyone and message people I like. If I get a reply that's awesome |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"No in our opinion the guys shouldn't.
With regard to your scenario John, we chat, we say when we are free giving plenty of notice & a few dates, we advise once, we don't ask again about meeting if no date is forthcoming & if its not mentioned we will gradually let the conversation die. We are here to meet people after all, endless chat we can do on Facebook.
S"
I agree if someone says to me I can meet you but not untill lets say around the end if next month . I would reply with that's ok I will message you every now and again so you don't forget to give me a firmer date nearer the time .
If they didn't responded to my messages after that I'd let it go untill they contact me again if they ever do then I will ask fir a explanation about what happened last time. I can behave like this because I'm genuine end off which cant be said of all on sites like this .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happy to chase, only if it's mutual! I see and hear a lot about people making an effort, well that goes both ways. You get out what you put in, in moderation of course!
Kiss chase anyone? |
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By *andsonjohn OP Man
over a year ago
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"I wish someone would chase me for a change "
oh no you don't trust me such people have a high chance of becoming a stalker especially if you turn them down after a social .
such people are the reason i now swap most of my messages on a social app that with holds my mobile number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must admit...Iv never chased
Fear of rejection
but you will happily reject others. I have no fear of ether being rejected or doing the rejection its a fact of life so why fear it .
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wouldn't say happily reject?
I'm on here to meet so dissapointed when someone messages me that's obviously hasn't read the profile but messages anyway
Time wasted on both parts
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