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No wonder sgl guys get a bad rep!
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Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx |
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"Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx"
I haven't found this on my single profile or our couple one. My OH has a single profile also and he doesn't do this .... not sure who you are connecting with, OP |
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over a year ago
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We opened up our profile for 36 hours to see the type of messages we got.
99% of them were inane and some of those frankly insulting to our intelligence.
We also got over 200 winks and 38 unsolicited friend invites.
Needless to say all filters for guys are now back in place... |
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A guy I've been chatting on Skype with a few times and keeping in touch via Kik cancelled on me last night just as he was supposed to be leaving. A guy i'm meant to meet tonight who I have also Skyped with on several occasions and got along very well with has been on here an hour ago to post a meet for tonight and hasn't read or replied to my message.
I'm getting to the point where I really can't be bothered giving anybody a chance because even when I've done all the right things, they still end up being a time waster.
Thank goodness for a loving hubby (who has just brought me crumpets), think he may well be the only decent guy out there.
As I type this the guy in question for tonight has just messaged to say he has man flu. Well he had a meet last night and is advertising for another tonight so can't be that bad!  |
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"We opened up our profile for 36 hours to see the type of messages we got.
99% of them were inane and some of those frankly insulting to our intelligence.
We also got over 200 winks and 38 unsolicited friend invites.
Needless to say all filters for guys are now back in place... "
We must be highly unpopular as we never get that ... |
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"To be honest that's wot ive done as well, can't be bothered with the hassle"
Us neither,we seemed to be wasting 2 much time trying to filter out the idiots ,and im sure there is alot who are genuine who miss out x |
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over a year ago
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That's why we gave up on single guys on here. Endless enthusiasm from single guys in messages then they duck out at the last minute. So we only invite single guys we meet in clubs to play nowadays. |
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"Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx
I haven't found this on my single profile or our couple one. My OH has a single profile also and he doesn't do this .... not sure who you are connecting with, OP"
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"Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx
I haven't found this on my single profile or our couple one. My OH has a single profile also and he doesn't do this .... not sure who you are connecting with, OP"
Us neither lol ,maybe just need to look better |
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"A guy I've been chatting on Skype with a few times and keeping in touch via Kik cancelled on me last night just as he was supposed to be leaving. A guy i'm meant to meet tonight who I have also Skyped with on several occasions and got along very well with has been on here an hour ago to post a meet for tonight and hasn't read or replied to my message.
I'm getting to the point where I really can't be bothered giving anybody a chance because even when I've done all the right things, they still end up being a time waster.
Thank goodness for a loving hubby (who has just brought me crumpets), think he may well be the only decent guy out there.
As I type this the guy in question for tonight has just messaged to say he has man flu. Well he had a meet last night and is advertising for another tonight so can't be that bad! "
can I ask if you confirmed time and place and exchanged contact details that day as he might of tried messaging and got no response nor giving him an excuse but I have been out for a meet where I messaged my meet I was on way got to said meeting place and ended up on my lonesome because they didn't message back and didn't show and promptly disappeared from site |
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"A guy I've been chatting on Skype with a few times and keeping in touch via Kik cancelled on me last night just as he was supposed to be leaving. A guy i'm meant to meet tonight who I have also Skyped with on several occasions and got along very well with has been on here an hour ago to post a meet for tonight and hasn't read or replied to my message.
I'm getting to the point where I really can't be bothered giving anybody a chance because even when I've done all the right things, they still end up being a time waster.
Thank goodness for a loving hubby (who has just brought me crumpets), think he may well be the only decent guy out there.
As I type this the guy in question for tonight has just messaged to say he has man flu. Well he had a meet last night and is advertising for another tonight so can't be that bad! "
So not just us then |
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Eh, couples do the same. I just think the higher proportion of single guys on the site leads to a false impression that single guys do it more often. I can't really say about single women because our contact with them is minimal.
In fact, I would say that proportionately, couples are even worse than single guys for rude messages and the like (though not for no-shows). |
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"A guy I've been chatting on Skype with a few times and keeping in touch via Kik cancelled on me last night just as he was supposed to be leaving. A guy i'm meant to meet tonight who I have also Skyped with on several occasions and got along very well with has been on here an hour ago to post a meet for tonight and hasn't read or replied to my message.
I'm getting to the point where I really can't be bothered giving anybody a chance because even when I've done all the right things, they still end up being a time waster.
Thank goodness for a loving hubby (who has just brought me crumpets), think he may well be the only decent guy out there.
As I type this the guy in question for tonight has just messaged to say he has man flu. Well he had a meet last night and is advertising for another tonight so can't be that bad! "
Genuine guys don't need to Skype loads. The Skypers are just often cam wankers not meeters. |
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"Not all guys are rude unintelligent uncouth retribates just their dick does their thinking sometimes
Im not saying they all are,just difficult for those that are genuine when so many arent "
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"A guy I've been chatting on Skype with a few times and keeping in touch via Kik cancelled on me last night just as he was supposed to be leaving. A guy i'm meant to meet tonight who I have also Skyped with on several occasions and got along very well with has been on here an hour ago to post a meet for tonight and hasn't read or replied to my message.
I'm getting to the point where I really can't be bothered giving anybody a chance because even when I've done all the right things, they still end up being a time waster.
Thank goodness for a loving hubby (who has just brought me crumpets), think he may well be the only decent guy out there.
As I type this the guy in question for tonight has just messaged to say he has man flu. Well he had a meet last night and is advertising for another tonight so can't be that bad!
So not just us then "
I think this happens to single guys too. My OH had more single meets with couples before we got together and told me of a fair few times when he was mucked about .... not any more though, as those who ignored him as a single guy, or let him down last minute now want to meet as we are a couple. I think many are guilty of letting people down at the last minute. Maybe couples and women can blame it on families and kids, but guys meeting can also have these issues |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had the same problem. You ask questions ect they say yes yes yes to everything. Then you agree to a meet then all of a sudden it's no no no or they just stop replying. We've had a few that agree to meeting at their place. Set a day and time then they refuse to give us their address on the day of the meet |
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"Eh, couples do the same. I just think the higher proportion of single guys on the site leads to a false impression that single guys do it more often. I can't really say about single women because our contact with them is minimal.
In fact, I would say that proportionately, couples are even worse than single guys for rude messages and the like (though not for no-shows)."
the maths is far too easy to work out.
and no offence OP, but some people have pretty shit choice making too, or indeed even during messages I will sometimes just pass up a meet because I dont like how I've been approached(or how the conversations went).
I've had that many say "msg you back at the end of the week", like I'm gonna sit waiting all week to get some kind of confirmation of my weekend plans? will I fuck, being left in the dark sucks for anyone...then to sit in waiting on that confirmiation on that day...and nothing comes lol...I'm pro-active. |
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over a year ago
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We have never had a problem . One or two cancellations but that's bound to happen with anyone .
And I don't think anyone gives other people a bad name as We treat all people as individuals
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Also had the same here. If a single guy cannot construct a normal sentence then I block. Some are lovely. But as we are a couple profile,you wld think they would read our profile. Same with single woman , read profile. Genuine singles fall through the cracks. Connect with your mind and not the dick |
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"Also had the same here. If a single guy cannot construct a normal sentence then I block. Some are lovely. But as we are a couple profile,you wld think they would read our profile. Same with single woman , read profile. Genuine singles fall through the cracks. Connect with your mind and not the dick "
single women.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry I don't understand how you can arrange a meet ,then disrespect anyone by not turning up without a genuine reason and the offer of rescheduling at another date ...time is precious |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I say I Skype with these guys I don't mean sex Skyping. Usually chat away for around half an hour to see if our personalities click. Like I would at a social, it's a chance to make sure they are the same as their photos as see how easy they are to chat to. As for the guy last night, we'd already chatted a far while on Skype yesterday and then were messaging on Kik discussing where to meet and at what time. Then he messaged to say he was just about to leave, then got the message to cancel. At least he did cancel where so many others just ignore or delete. Now unless somebody is in almost constant communication then I don't get ready and leave. Still can get caught out with that but don't usually leave the house until I've confirmation that they've arrived at the agreed place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it does seem to be getting worse in recent months,maybe fab being in the press has created a whole new generation of dreamers,we joined this site nearly 3 years ago and only had 1 timewaster,in 2017 we have had atleast 10 cancellations ,no shows or gone unlos after organising a meet,3 in 1 week, but fingers crossed for this week. |
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By *km45Man
over a year ago
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I'll probably get a bashing for this but from my view a guy who has never failed to attend a meet even when ill, I have been let down my numerous single ladies and couples. Its part and parcel of the site. Because single guys out number everyone that's why we get a bad reputation. I bet if you worked out the percentages it would most probably be pretty even for all who let everyone down. Annoying as it is move on. |
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"I'll probably get a bashing for this but from my view a guy who has never failed to attend a meet even when ill, I have been let down my numerous single ladies and couples. Its part and parcel of the site. Because single guys out number everyone that's why we get a bad reputation. I bet if you worked out the percentages it would most probably be pretty even for all who let everyone down. Annoying as it is move on. "
You won't get a bashing from me. It's pretty similar to what I said above.
Although I will say that I have cancelled when I was sick. I think it's the right thing to do.  |
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"When I say I Skype with these guys I don't mean sex Skyping. Usually chat away for around half an hour to see if our personalities click. Like I would at a social, it's a chance to make sure they are the same as their photos as see how easy they are to chat to. As for the guy last night, we'd already chatted a far while on Skype yesterday and then were messaging on Kik discussing where to meet and at what time. Then he messaged to say he was just about to leave, then got the message to cancel. At least he did cancel where so many others just ignore or delete. Now unless somebody is in almost constant communication then I don't get ready and leave. Still can get caught out with that but don't usually leave the house until I've confirmation that they've arrived at the agreed place. "
Being honest here, I would think this was too full on and controlling. Just arrange to meet at a club and no worries if they dont turn up ....i would be worried about someone this demanding |
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Last five or six guys we connected with have had no idea how to converse and engage with couples. It's fine if they are more up for NSA with single women, but if they are genuinely wanting to meet couples, they need to try a little and understand the dynamics.
We honestly think most guys on here see it as more like a Tinder style situation. They then like the idea of meeting a hotwife or for MMF, but either don't "get it" or bottle it.
Unfortunately that ruins it for the genuine single guys who like couples and for couples who love MMF. |
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over a year ago
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In fairness, I don't think it is true single guys who are the problem. It's the married/attached ones. The midnight cowboys (because they come on after their wives have gone to bed) |
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"In fairness, I don't think it is true single guys who are the problem. It's the married/attached ones. The midnight cowboys (because they come on after their wives have gone to bed) "
Have you been let down by a lot of single guys? |
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Its like some have said its not just single guys this happens to ppl with, but we see so many saying they struggle to get a meet,i just wonderer if they get overlooked because so many seem not genuine,dunno if ive worded that quiet right lol but by no means am i having a go at sgl guys,i know theres good ones out there its finding them lol xx |
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"Last five or six guys we connected with have had no idea how to converse and engage with couples. It's fine if they are more up for NSA with single women, but if they are genuinely wanting to meet couples, they need to try a little and understand the dynamics.
We honestly think most guys on here see it as more like a Tinder style situation. They then like the idea of meeting a hotwife or for MMF, but either don't "get it" or bottle it.
Unfortunately that ruins it for the genuine single guys who like couples and for couples who love MMF."
Absolutely spot on!! |
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"Last five or six guys we connected with have had no idea how to converse and engage with couples. It's fine if they are more up for NSA with single women, but if they are genuinely wanting to meet couples, they need to try a little and understand the dynamics.
We honestly think most guys on here see it as more like a Tinder style situation. They then like the idea of meeting a hotwife or for MMF, but either don't "get it" or bottle it.
Unfortunately that ruins it for the genuine single guys who like couples and for couples who love MMF."
this is kinda what we were trying to say |
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"Last five or six guys we connected with have had no idea how to converse and engage with couples. It's fine if they are more up for NSA with single women, but if they are genuinely wanting to meet couples, they need to try a little and understand the dynamics.
We honestly think most guys on here see it as more like a Tinder style situation. They then like the idea of meeting a hotwife or for MMF, but either don't "get it" or bottle it.
Unfortunately that ruins it for the genuine single guys who like couples and for couples who love MMF.
this is kinda what we were trying to say "
Yep; "most guys", not all, thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are women who don't show too iv had a few not show and then block you I don't see point my self if you're hear just to chat then say so dont try blag it just be honest |
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There are, as we all know, more single guys here than anyone else. But pound for pound we are no worse behaved than anyone else. There are plenty of women and couples on here that pull all the no-nos that single guys are branded with.
My point is. It's a people thing. Not a guy thing
Instead of waiting for a decent, genuine guy to land on your plate, why not seek one out? |
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"There are, as we all know, more single guys here than anyone else. But pound for pound we are no worse behaved than anyone else. There are plenty of women and couples on here that pull all the no-nos that single guys are branded with.
My point is. It's a people thing. Not a guy thing
Instead of waiting for a decent, genuine guy to land on your plate, why not seek one out?"
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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in my time in the scene i would say that I am pretty good at spotting time wasters. I have had about 2 in 10 years but I also only meet someone when I know 100% they are going to be there
The club scene kinda helps in that respect. If they don't turn up I can always meet others.
In last year I probably only met one person at a hotel that I hadn't met before all others were a social first or club. It meant that i got to at least see how things were |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are wankers and then there are some real fuckers...hence we stick to club visits - never been disappointed and options galore ( pick and choose the ones you like) - saves the hassle of endless chatting... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't find it a problem, have had many meets on previous profiles and never let anyone down.
Don't really care about the men who do they don't affect me.
Been working a lot lately so no free time to meet, when I do get some time I will arrange some meets, build up my veri's and be seen as a reliable, single man which makes it easier to get meets, so no worries for me |
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"There are wankers and then there are some real fuckers...hence we stick to club visits - never been disappointed and options galore ( pick and choose the ones you like) - saves the hassle of endless chatting..."
But that's assuming there are some attractive guys to pick from! |
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"Its like some have said its not just single guys this happens to ppl with, but we see so many saying they struggle to get a meet,i just wonderer if they get overlooked because so many seem not genuine,dunno if ive worded that quiet right lol but by no means am i having a go at sgl guys,i know theres good ones out there its finding them lol xx"
Yep, people are so unreliable on and off FAB, even family members. Can be very disheartening knowing the majority of people don't put in as much effect and show as much respect as you do.  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx"
I knew the name looked familiar so I went and looked at my who perved me list... and you guys were on it... so I went and looked at your profile again... and remembered why I passed
Demands demands demands....
For me a meeting is supposed to be fun... it didn't scream fun for me.....
If you aren't attracting people you seek... then can your narrative or you do the chasing |
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"Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx
I knew the name looked familiar so I went and looked at my who perved me list... and you guys were on it... so I went and looked at your profile again... and remembered why I passed
Demands demands demands....
For me a meeting is supposed to be fun... it didn't scream fun for me.....
If you aren't attracting people you seek... then can your narrative or you do the chasing "
Fair comment,we're not everyones cup of tea ,who is,we do do the chasing aswell,i was just commenting on how many say they struggle to get meets and get overlooked,not slating them |
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"Like alot of others we get lots of msg's from single guys,who want to meet us,yet on the day all the excuses come out why they cant make it,or they go offline,or put another meet up,people do change their minds we know but then they msg us the next day asking for a meet when we're out!lol,we now have a select few who we know are genuine so tend to stick with them,no wonder its hard for genuine guys to get a meet,anyone else find this seems to be the norm?xx
I knew the name looked familiar so I went and looked at my who perved me list... and you guys were on it... so I went and looked at your profile again... and remembered why I passed
Demands demands demands....
For me a meeting is supposed to be fun... it didn't scream fun for me.....
If you aren't attracting people you seek... then can your narrative or you do the chasing "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Genuine guys will shine through so I don't buy the idiots spoiling it for the good guys theory "
Neither do I! However, I'm sick of men contacting me after supposedly reading my profile, we get chatting all seems great then trying to change how I meet, I clearly state I only meet weekends, but they turn around and say I am being unreasonable because they want to meet during the week and weekends are hard for them. Well tough shit, I am open and upfront about how and when I meet, so don't contact me if it doesn't suit!
Maybe this should have been on the rant thread.....Ooops  |
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"Eh, couples do the same. I just think the higher proportion of single guys on the site leads to a false impression that single guys do it more often. I can't really say about single women because our contact with them is minimal.
In fact, I would say that proportionately, couples are even worse than single guys for rude messages and the like (though not for no-shows)."
spot on
Fab has its faults whatever group your in, the single guy bashing threads are getting beyond a joke |
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Like I said above, decent people will stand out from the dross.
So if you're not standing out you may be part of the dross yourself.
Flimsy profiles, not good pics, poor messages will be what you provide and other guys have no bearing on this whatsoever. |
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