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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet? |
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If it feels right - yes!
You have to bear in mind you're in a relationship already op - so your needs/wants are different to some (not all) singles!
I tend to go with the flow - I like it rough and hard - but along with that I've had some amazingly intimate, sensual sex!
The joy of fab is that you CAN have everything - just with different people!  |
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"If it feels right - yes!
You have to bear in mind you're in a relationship already op - so your needs/wants are different to some (not all) singles!
I tend to go with the flow - I like it rough and hard - but along with that I've had some amazingly intimate, sensual sex!
The joy of fab is that you CAN have everything - just with different people! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it feels right - yes!
You have to bear in mind you're in a relationship already op - so your needs/wants are different to some (not all) singles!
I tend to go with the flow - I like it rough and hard - but along with that I've had some amazingly intimate, sensual sex!
The joy of fab is that you CAN have everything - just with different people! "
Are my needs different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
I once saw a T-shirt that read "Make love" in bold lettering. Below that in small print it read "That's what my girlfriend does while I'm fucking her".
Back to the original question though, no. Meets are for fucking. That doesn't mean it can't be sensual etc etc. To me, making love involves deeper feelings, that's not what swinging is about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
Surely the word 'love' is the important bit?.... If two people met on here and fell in love, it's possible, but more likely it's lust, and so fucking is the best way forward.... lots of fucking   |
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?
I once saw a T-shirt that read "Make love" in bold lettering. Below that in small print it read "That's what my girlfriend does while I'm fucking her".
Back to the original question though, no. Meets are for fucking. That doesn't mean it can't be sensual etc etc. To me, making love involves deeper feelings, that's not what swinging is about. "
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Just out of curiosity, may I know the difference between 'making love - without being in love" and "fuck" in a fabs meet?
Is it the presence/absence of kissing, emotion, post-coital cuddling, post-coital drinks/meal etc?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One guy I've met on fabs did make love to me. Was the best meet I had. Shame he got all possessive afterwards, I'd have gone back for more  "
Maybe that's a future warning? Can too much affection/loving breed attachment? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Back to the original question though, no. Meets are for fucking. That doesn't mean it can't be sensual etc etc. To me, making love involves deeper feelings, that's not what swinging is about. "
I think that to some fucking would only imply rougher, more animalistic sex. Making love would be a more sensuous experience. It's another case of the subjective nature of language. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One guy I've met on fabs did make love to me. Was the best meet I had. Shame he got all possessive afterwards, I'd have gone back for more
Maybe that's a future warning? Can too much affection/loving breed attachment?"
Maybe that's what I want?!?. I'm married but get no affection whatsoever at home. |
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"If it feels right - yes!
You have to bear in mind you're in a relationship already op - so your needs/wants are different to some (not all) singles!
I tend to go with the flow - I like it rough and hard - but along with that I've had some amazingly intimate, sensual sex!
The joy of fab is that you CAN have everything - just with different people!
Are my needs different?"
Most (not all) people in relationships get affection/intimacy with their partners - hence it doesn't tend to be something they crave in a meet!
And yes - I'm aware I'm generalising - but I've been around a while and found it tends to be true in most cases!
The exceptions tend to be those who are on here primarily because they don't get the physical intimacy they need at home! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it feels right - yes!
You have to bear in mind you're in a relationship already op - so your needs/wants are different to some (not all) singles!
I tend to go with the flow - I like it rough and hard - but along with that I've had some amazingly intimate, sensual sex!
The joy of fab is that you CAN have everything - just with different people!
Are my needs different?
Most (not all) people in relationships get affection/intimacy with their partners - hence it doesn't tend to be something they crave in a meet!
And yes - I'm aware I'm generalising - but I've been around a while and found it tends to be true in most cases!
The exceptions tend to be those who are on here primarily because they don't get the physical intimacy they need at home! "
The last part is totally me. I'm a selfish bitch, want men to make love to me but don't want them to tell me to leave my family for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have never made love with anyone I've met...and that includes the times that sex has been intimate, sensuous and gentle. It's still fucking to me.
Making love requires emotional attachment, and beyond 'I like you and fancy the pants off you' I don't have any with guys on here. |
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"I have never made love with anyone I've met...and that includes the times that sex has been intimate, sensuous and gentle. It's still fucking to me.
Making love requires emotional attachment, and beyond 'I like you and fancy the pants off you' I don't have any with guys on here. "
Yeah I'd agree with a lot of what you say! I think a large part of this discussion is based on semantics! Some of think of 'fucking' as just the rough impersonal stuff - and 'naming love' as the intimate side!
As long as we all have fun and no-one is left feeling hurt, it's all good! |
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"I have never made love with anyone I've met...and that includes the times that sex has been intimate, sensuous and gentle. It's still fucking to me.
Making love requires emotional attachment, and beyond 'I like you and fancy the pants off you' I don't have any with guys on here.
Yeah I'd agree with a lot of what you say! I think a large part of this discussion is based on semantics! Some of think of 'fucking' as just the rough impersonal stuff - and 'naming love' as the intimate side!
As long as we all have fun and no-one is left feeling hurt, it's all good! "
Making love! Doh!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's quite nice to make love occasionally. Horny contrast from the unadulterated sex I usually enjoy. Also quite kinky 'making love' with someone who is not my husband - the 'wrongness' is quite a turn-on for us.
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
I do some outrageously kinky filthy thing that those looking in from the outside would call abuse ,I can and do say some outrageously filthy and kinky things during sex but I only do these things with some one I like and respect so it not mere fucking because everything i do is tailor to for fill but our needs . when you've had a woman at her most vulnerable giving you everything she can you cant help but to bond with that person to some degree so op i make love i just do it differently to how others see making love to be . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm just as intense and passionate, sensitive and responsive, affectionate and attentive with all the women I have sex with as I am with Mrs Freespirit. For me this is just great sex and I don't have another "not such great sex" gear that I go down to on a meet.
But, despite there being no outward difference, it's not love making, never could be, because I'm not in love with them. But I'm happy to call it "love making". I don't have any hang ups about it. We see romancing and seducing our meets as just part of the delicious role play of it all. It isn't threatening to us. It's just part of the play  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's quite nice to make love occasionally. Horny contrast from the unadulterated sex I usually enjoy. Also quite kinky 'making love' with someone who is not my husband - the 'wrongness' is quite a turn-on for us.
Mrs"
This for me. ....when I have a regular guy my hubby likes to hear about us making love as well as fucking. ..there's something about it that is a turn on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
I (WB) was single (fucking) for 3 years before I met HB. She asked me to make love to her after a few weeks of being together, after about a minute and a half she whispered in my ear "You are fucking me again"
She says I'm getting better at it, but I'm not sure if I can make love. Old dogs new tricks n all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely you have to have passionate and emotional feelings to make love to someone!! Sex is something completely different!! I have to admit though I know what I prefer when I have had it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's quite nice to make love occasionally. Horny contrast from the unadulterated sex I usually enjoy. Also quite kinky 'making love' with someone who is not my husband - the 'wrongness' is quite a turn-on for us.
Mrs"
'Wrongness' is such a good feeling, it always feels right to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Define the difference between having sex and making love...
kissing, cuddling, occasional massage lots of foreplay and oral plus penetrative sex... I do and enjoy all of it ...
But, which is that? Cos i'm damned if I know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X"
So true! x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X"
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it."
They should really call it something other than making love in that case?
You don't make love if you aren't in love. It's that simple. You can have sensual sex and emotional sex but making love is just that.
Also, there is something very different in the physical aspect of it.
Having sex with the one person who completes you and sharing that amazing bond that is love, it's something completely different.
Eve. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't call it making love but I generally prefer more intimate sensual sex, passionate and intense without being rough. But there is definitely a time and place for hard and nasty fucking. Think the key is judging the moment, judging your partner and obviously how you feel at the time, get all 3 in sync and bingo! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it.
They should really call it something other than making love in that case?
You don't make love if you aren't in love. It's that simple. You can have sensual sex and emotional sex but making love is just that.
Also, there is something very different in the physical aspect of it.
Having sex with the one person who completes you and sharing that amazing bond that is love, it's something completely different.
Eve. X"
I've previously discussed this in a different thread. The consensus was it should be known as "Fab love" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't call it making love but I generally prefer more intimate sensual sex, passionate and intense without being rough. But there is definitely a time and place for hard and nasty fucking. Think the key is judging the moment, judging your partner and obviously how you feel at the time, get all 3 in sync and bingo!"
You sound my type of man |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it.
They should really call it something other than making love in that case?
You don't make love if you aren't in love. It's that simple. You can have sensual sex and emotional sex but making love is just that.
Also, there is something very different in the physical aspect of it.
Having sex with the one person who completes you and sharing that amazing bond that is love, it's something completely different.
Eve. X"
I've experienced sex whilst in love, and sex whilst not in love, I definetley dont need to be in love to make love. That I can guarantee. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it.
They should really call it something other than making love in that case?
You don't make love if you aren't in love. It's that simple. You can have sensual sex and emotional sex but making love is just that.
Also, there is something very different in the physical aspect of it.
Having sex with the one person who completes you and sharing that amazing bond that is love, it's something completely different.
Eve. X
I've experienced sex whilst in love, and sex whilst not in love, I definetley dont need to be in love to make love. That I can guarantee."
We are never going to agree doll as we have very different ideas of being in love and what being in love should entail, which is cool. Each to their own. 
Eve. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it.
They should really call it something other than making love in that case?
You don't make love if you aren't in love. It's that simple. You can have sensual sex and emotional sex but making love is just that.
Also, there is something very different in the physical aspect of it.
Having sex with the one person who completes you and sharing that amazing bond that is love, it's something completely different.
Eve. X
I've previously discussed this in a different thread. The consensus was it should be known as "Fab love""
Making fab love? That seems like a good way to phrase it ha ha.
Eve. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Adam is the only man I would let make love love to me.
I would hope that he wouldn't make love to any women that we meet either.
Key word being love here. I think you have to be in love to really make love, it's about the connection of emotions and physicality.
Eve. X
I disagree. You can have a really strong connection of emotions without being in love, and as for the physicality, well as sex is always physical so that doesn't really come into it.
They should really call it something other than making love in that case?
You don't make love if you aren't in love. It's that simple. You can have sensual sex and emotional sex but making love is just that.
Also, there is something very different in the physical aspect of it.
Having sex with the one person who completes you and sharing that amazing bond that is love, it's something completely different.
Eve. X
I've experienced sex whilst in love, and sex whilst not in love, I definetley dont need to be in love to make love. That I can guarantee.
We are never going to agree doll as we have very different ideas of being in love and what being in love should entail, which is cool. Each to their own.
Eve. X"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
Yes. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't call it making love but I generally prefer more intimate sensual sex, passionate and intense without being rough. But there is definitely a time and place for hard and nasty fucking. Think the key is judging the moment, judging your partner and obviously how you feel at the time, get all 3 in sync and bingo!"
This is how I feel too.
I also hate the term making love, it has always made me cringe and I am a soppy old romantic! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me fab is about enjoying sex with different people with different techniques and styles....Mark makes love to me so not looking for the emotional attachment
....but I love kissing and the sensual side with a stranger too (although only if im attracted to them) so why not broaden your horizons in terms of techniques etc through Fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
Nope, fuck only... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it feels right - yes!
You have to bear in mind you're in a relationship already op - so your needs/wants are different to some (not all) singles!
I tend to go with the flow - I like it rough and hard - but along with that I've had some amazingly intimate, sensual sex!
The joy of fab is that you CAN have everything - just with different people!
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Couldn't agree more...
I have and do....but then I've a polyamorous relationship with someone. |
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Panther and I make love, at a club it's just sex/playing.
In my opinion to make love you need to love and be in love with the other person.
You can have very sensual sex with a playmate bit it's still just sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to mix it up a bit..... but I love intimacy so I prefer to make love and make sure my partners happy. I like to go above and beyond the call of duty. I like to explore my partners needs "
mr is very much like this with ladies he plays with... but it led to them feeling that if he could be that intimate with them that he must feel something for them.. even though its just how he is.
I dont do sensual or intimate with meets because it makes me uncomfortable for reasons even i cant always explain...I would possibly enjoy it more but for me its something i keep solely for my Partner x |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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I've only made love to two people. First was years ago when I was married at that time I wasn't a swinger. Second was with a FB who I knew for years and we definitely had a very deep relationship. He was married so a LTR was never on the table but that didn't stop the the intimacy. I've fucked several hundred others over the years and loads of those fucks were full of intimacy but weren't love making.
The difference in my opinion is that when you make love some very deep emotions arise during sex. I think the second difference is (for me at least) when you make love you are more concerned about whether he felt good or not. When I fuck I'm a selfish bitch LOL! |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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We chatted on this last night & we don't do anything different with playmates to what we do with each other. We are in love but we do not make love, we have sensual playful sex and as that is what we prefer that is how we are with others.
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We are in a long term loving, secure relationship but still make love with swinger partners. We don't look for affairs. If you are scared of getting romantically involved and cant handle it, don't swing. Some of it is vanity. You may think you are irresistible to all who meet you. Then again you might just want a shag. Some people expect more. Quality not quantity. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We are in a long term loving, secure relationship but still make love with swinger partners. We don't look for affairs. If you are scared of getting romantically involved and cant handle it, don't swing. Some of it is vanity. You may think you are irresistible to all who meet you. Then again you might just want a shag. Some people expect more. Quality not quantity."
Exactly this. I don't have any fears of becoming emotionally involved. That's not why I joined Fab. |
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That's all just word definitions. To me, making love, fucking, sex, nookie, shagging etc all mean the same thing if it's not actually generally to create new life.
It is essentially an indulgence of our fetishes if you see the term fetish as simply meaning a sexual act that definitely won't or is not intended to lead to conception. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?"
You can't make love to somebody you don't love can you
If by making live you mean sensual, passionate sex I love that, I love all the tenderness, kissing etc but I don't class that as making love
To me making love is a mind sex not an act, you can have the roughest, nastiest sex and still be making love if you have that mental connection and feelings towards the person |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never make love on a meet, I only ever fuck.
I haven't met many men that have wanted to make love either.
I meet people to have the wild, adventurous and kinky sex that would be hard to find in the vanilla world.
Is making love something you'd enjoy on a meet?
You can't make love to somebody you don't love can you
If by making live you mean sensual, passionate sex I love that, I love all the tenderness, kissing etc but I don't class that as making love
To me making love is a mind sex not an act, you can have the roughest, nastiest sex and still be making love if you have that mental connection and feelings towards the person "
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