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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
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A man who can express his views and feelings, honestly and clearly both on the forum and his profile.
That's the impression I get and what I've been told by women who have contacted me without me initiating anything.
I'm not a looker or hung like a donkey. I am good in bed, but everyone claims year on here and you can't tell if that's true online.
Put yourself in her position, she's getting upwards of 100+ messages a day. Most of them from total pillocks or people no different from each other. Most of us are average build and average sizes..
Stand out from the crowd a little.  |
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We do a lot of initial contact. Mrs will hunt for guys, read their profiles & if they have appealing photos she adds to the hotlist for us to message when we've both discussed.
Some guys don't reply which is fine as we assume we're not for them |
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"I would not message a man on here asking to meet. I will however message them to ask if they would like to chat further to see if there is a connection x"
Sorry should have mentioned this also. We never ask to meet spare of the moment either. Must have a chat & public social first. Way too many crazies in the online world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just over a week ago, I sent a wink to a likely looking suspect..
he returned the wink and I messaged him..
we met for a social yesterday and are now planning to meet up for some fun..
simples  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I have filters so I message first. Usually it's because there's something about his profile or something he's said that makes me keep going back to it. I go with my gut. What makes me message is a moment of bravery. Responses aren't always positive or forthcoming so it's take a deep breath time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would not message a man on here asking to meet. I will however message them to ask if they would like to chat further to see if there is a connection x
Sorry should have mentioned this also. We never ask to meet spare of the moment either. Must have a chat & public social first. Way too many crazies in the online world."
What do you look for in their profile that makes you want to make initial contact? I appreciate that it could be something indefinable. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"having all filters on like me to avoid the faf messages..so i always message first..
What is it that makes those profiles attractive to you?"
its a matter of me being very observant over a period of time if on the forum, i watch and interact and then it comes down to timing. the only way out of my inbox is a block. i don't like blocking people, so if on here, i want to make sure i have a mutual connection before messaging. sometimes, i host socials and if i am going to a club. i put it on my status, if people want to just say hello...they are welcome to..plenty of ways of meeting me, if someone is so inclined... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On fab, at my age, the opposite sex do not, or will not message me, or couples, As I am just another ageing perv.
But in real life, my hobby, that has been a part of my social life for quite a few years now. I have to fight off a lot of vanilla women, that want to go out with me.
What my hobby is I will keep secret.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On fab, at my age, the opposite sex do not, or will not message me, or couples, As I am just another ageing perv.
But in real life, my hobby, that has been a part of my social life for quite a few years now. I have to fight off a lot of vanilla women, that want to go out with me.
What my hobby is I will keep secret. "
is it your shagging machine?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"having all filters on like me to avoid the faf messages..so i always message first..
What is it that makes those profiles attractive to you?its a matter of me being very observant over a period of time if on the forum, i watch and interact and then it comes down to timing. the only way out of my inbox is a block. i don't like blocking people, so if on here, i want to make sure i have a mutual connection before messaging. sometimes, i host socials and if i am going to a club. i put it on my status, if people want to just say hello...they are welcome to..plenty of ways of meeting me, if someone is so inclined..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just happy to meet for a coffee !! Not even a sniff"
You will find that if you log on here and are in a negative mood this place can make it worse. Take a step away for a while. Think about what you're actually putting in to get meets , and come back when you're more positive. It's meant to be fun and not taken seriously. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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A lot of men don't realise the importance of a good profile and some decent enticing pictures! I would love to approach first but sadly, I am unable to!
Yesterday I had a male profile, no pics, no text, on site for 3 minutes and messaged me requesting a meet, I mean really?
Sometimes I wonder what the hell is their thought process   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes. They are usually quite lazy and just wink though
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I'm chatting to a lovely lady from up by you who winked me yesterday nowt up with a wink from the right person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
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Read profile, look at pics, chat for a bit. Then I'll will suggest a social xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I message men first but not instantly for a meet. Either way I've found some gems on here
It starts with what they say on the forums, then I might have a nose at their profiles, and normally message off a forum thread. Actually meeting can take up to a few months but we tend to talk a lot up to meeting, but so far it's always worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes. They are usually quite lazy and just wink though
I'm chatting to a lovely lady from up by you who winked me yesterday nowt up with a wink from the right person "
I don't usually respond to them. |
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"We do a lot of initial contact. Mrs will hunt for guys, read their profiles & if they have appealing photos she adds to the hotlist for us to message when we've both discussed.
Some guys don't reply which is fine as we assume we're not for them"
that's exactly how we do it olso. . |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It does happen OP and as others have said it all comes down to having a decent profile and pictures and things like how you interact on the forums. I've had a number of messages from ladies as a result of one or all of those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what you have to understand is that not everyone wants to talk to everyone! For some it may take longer but you just need to wait for the right person at the right time rather than thinking you are instantly entitled to someone messaging you for a meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On fab, at my age, the opposite sex do not, or will not message me, or couples, As I am just another ageing perv.
But in real life, my hobby, that has been a part of my social life for quite a few years now. I have to fight off a lot of vanilla women, that want to go out with me.
What my hobby is I will keep secret.
is it your shagging machine? "
No can you actually see a vanilla woman riding my shagging machine, with a 10 inch dildo up her. I can smell bacon cooking  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes. They are usually quite lazy and just wink though
I'm chatting to a lovely lady from up by you who winked me yesterday nowt up with a wink from the right person
I don't usually respond to them."
it depends who it's off. if i like the sound of them, i do, if i don't, i don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Us as a couple would not ask a complete stranger for a meet. But there have been 2 or 3 occasions when we have sent a wink to a man that I fancy. Obviously I have to know what someone looks like in order to fancy him.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I message men first but not instantly for a meet. Either way I've found some gems on here
It starts with what they say on the forums, then I might have a nose at their profiles, and normally message off a forum thread. Actually meeting can take up to a few months but we tend to talk a lot up to meeting, but so far it's always worth it."
A Ballet of Laughter ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use winks now instead of the message system because ladies get hordes of messages and most ive spoke to delete in bulk and won't even see ur message half the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
Googly eyes on your cock "
There's a minion, on one of my cock pics... Perhaps I should make it public
I've tried googly eyes but they keep falling off - lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually get messages from single fems and couples because I've expressed an interest in music, film, TV, games on the forum. And then chatted about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've said it before but I very rarely message first as the rate of response is so low it's not a good use of my time. Majority of my meets have come from ladies messaging first, it's great as at least you know when chatting that they are genuinely interested. |
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By *otswapsCouple
over a year ago
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"A profile plenty of cock pictures from different angles.."
Women don't like lots of cock pics!!
If someone messages me with and all he has is cock pics he gets ignored.
One or two are ok but face and body pics are good. Oh and trout pouts are not good!! Nothing wrong with a nice happy face pic!! |
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I (Sophie) messaged Steve around 7 years ago when we both had single profiles. My reasons for selecting him were as follows (no particular order!):
He lived quite a distance from me and I wanted NSA so that appealed (Ha! We've definitely got strings of sorts attached now!)
He had cock pics which appealed to me greatly - as did other pics he had, but the cock pics were definitely important for me.
He was literate and openly expressive in his profile text.
I liked the way he expressed his desires on his profile.
I made an informed choice and clearly (7 years on) it was a good one! |
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It's rare, but will to admit to sending one or two when I first joined.
Needs to be an appealing friendly profile and no cock pictures, plus I could feel daring enough to message after a couple of drinks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had a couple of ladies and couples message me but they did turn out to be time wasters but there are some genuine ladies out there.
Maybe I'm not what there looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know. I have never sent the first message to any man here with a view to meeting him
Neither have I but then I've ended up with some great Fab chums out of it "
I can't message you because I am out of your age range  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
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A couple of phrases spring to mind:-
When Hell freezes over...
Pigs might fly...
And not a snowballs chance in Hell...
Sadly it just doesn't happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
A couple of phrases spring to mind:-
When Hell freezes over...
Pigs might fly...
And not a snowballs chance in Hell...
Sadly it just doesn't happen "
It does happen. I was on here previously and twice had females contact me first resulting in meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
A couple of phrases spring to mind:-
When Hell freezes over...
Pigs might fly...
And not a snowballs chance in Hell...
Sadly it just doesn't happen
It does happen. I was on here previously and twice had females contact me first resulting in meets "
It did used to happen on here in the dim and distant past of Fab, when it was a site for genuine people who like to enjoy sexual encounters with others who think the same way. I too was on here a few years back, and received first contact from a couple of ladies, but not anymore.
Unfortunately, the way Fab is today, full of chancers and with a much younger member profile using Kik etc, it just doesn't happen now...rocking-horse shit, hen's teeth, etc...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
A couple of phrases spring to mind:-
When Hell freezes over...
Pigs might fly...
And not a snowballs chance in Hell...
Sadly it just doesn't happen "
What twaddle.
Yes it does happen...my last couple of meets was the result of me messaging first. |
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
A couple of phrases spring to mind:-
When Hell freezes over...
Pigs might fly...
And not a snowballs chance in Hell...
Sadly it just doesn't happen
What twaddle.
Yes it does happen...my last couple of meets was the result of me messaging first."
Agree , all be it my husband does the arranging etc. I do message if somebody stands out, sadly after initial message a few never make it to hotlist |
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"What, if anything, makes a woman on here, message a guy to ask for a meet?
ooh tough question, I'd say Chocolate? "
In my experience shoes are a much source of interest, that or asking for help with dealing with a glis glis.
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