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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many single females/males see this site as a dating site?
And I don't mean socials etc I mean dating.. 3 dates before fun etc"
Loads of single females say they aren't but they really are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It seems that way.. however the ladies above are pretty adamant that it's not haha.."
I thought the question was for males and females! Suddenly is females only directed.
I had to guys e mailing asking for relationship even though my profile states I am not looking for one! If I was looking would be my own business and would not have a problem to admit it! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It seems that way.. however the ladies above are pretty adamant that it's not haha..
I thought the question was for males and females! Suddenly is females only directed.
I had to guys e mailing asking for relationship even though my profile states I am not looking for one! If I was looking would be my own business and would not have a problem to admit it!"
it is for males and females... the first couple to reply was females and I was referring to the gents message... I know some guys are looking for that exclusive one.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here. |
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha"
See there's were you went wrong - the word "date" on a swinging site is completely out of place.
If someone wants to date there are ample sites out there to meet that desire without using Fab. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
You really have an exceptional sized chip on your shoulder  . Women look for it on here because why can't they? Maybe they want someone to share this lifestyle with or someone who is understanding about it and won't be as judgemental. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
..wow. I don't even. Wow. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
See there's were you went wrong - the word "date" on a swinging site is completely out of place.
If someone wants to date there are ample sites out there to meet that desire without using Fab."
my thoughts exactly.. I was just putting out there.. she was pretty adamant that she wasn't a swinger.. and I thought I was on the wrong site for a few minutes and I thought the word was in the title haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here.
You really have an exceptional sized chip on your shoulder . Women look for it on here because why can't they? Maybe they want someone to share this lifestyle with or someone who is understanding about it and won't be as judgemental."
Yeah not saying they can't just saying why I think they do. I don't think it is a good place to look though. You see it a lot aswell these types of women just get burned. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here.
You really have an exceptional sized chip on your shoulder ."
You beat me to it   |
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
How wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
Wow that's one hell of a stereotype |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some dating sites are used by people who are not looking to date...just want nsa ect, fab can be used any way the user intends to so if she was looking for a date she wasnt doing any wrong ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha"
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not for me 
I like a social which is normally just a drink and chat. If we get on we then arrange a play meet.
I don't want to be wined , dined and dated by anyone thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!"
You started the sex talk first. It's on your profile.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!
You started the sex talk first. It's on your profile. "
Seriously?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!
You started the sex talk first. It's on your profile.
Seriously? "
Yes, seriously. I read it. You mentioned sex in the first paragraph.
You know I'm keeping this light hearted. I'm not looking for a fight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a married fem
I see this site as a sex site and not a swinging site anymore
But...I see more and more profiles men and women saying things like..maybe looking for more ...
Or drinks and dinner...erm nooo chat social then sex..not looking to be wined and dined |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!"
Like him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!
Like him? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A dating site?? For me it's simple.
1. Have social
2. Arrange a sex meet if we both like each other.
3. Arrange another sex meet if we enjoyed ourselves.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!"
haha erm thanks for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she's been upfront about it, what's the big deal? If it's not what you're looking for just move on. No harm, no foul.
I've been active on the swinging scene for over a year, meeting men, women and couples. Lots of club visits, but private meets would *always* have a social first. At no point was I wanting "more". Now I'm in the mind set to look for a partner, so why not look here? I know I want someone who's sexually adventurous and open minded, and ideally would consider introducing swinging into the relationship further on....try explaining that on a vanilla dating site!
The only issue I have is when people aren't upfront about their intentions, both here and in the vanilla scene. Just state your preference then all parties can make informed decisions. |
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"How many single females/males see this site as a dating site?
And I don't mean socials etc I mean dating.. 3 dates before fun etc"
My now OH did, when we met ... I thought it was an NSA meet, he treated it as a date. No sex for the first three meets ... and here we are three years later ... |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
And in response to this nugget of opinion, I wouldn't touch someone with a bargepole if they viewed children as baggage, and if by "exceptional" you mean the uber gym boys, they're not my type at all, either for dating or swinging.  |
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if you want to meet for sex- tell the meet. if you want to find more of a relationship- tell them that's what you are looking for.
I don't meet with people who want a relationship as I am not looking for one. and I have no idea about women on here- but a lot of men are looking for more than a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!
You started the sex talk first. It's on your profile.
Seriously?
Yes, seriously. I read it. You mentioned sex in the first paragraph.
You know I'm keeping this light hearted. I'm not looking for a fight. "
Sorry didn't meant to sound grumpy or out for a fight. I was hungry.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!
Like him? "
Men that don't want to meet women as described in his post that I quoted. What don't you understand? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only know of one successful relationship, through meeting on this site......trust is always an issue from the start.
I couldn't do a swinging relationship, but admire those that do. Seen to many dramas though, to think it can actually work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
This is hilarious.
You really do have us all figured out, don't you... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not looking to date, I'm looking for people to have sex with who I really get on with and find attractive.
However, I am tired of people laying out exactly what they want sex-wise, in their first message. I find it a turn-off. |
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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago
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"How many single females/males see this site as a dating site?
And I don't mean socials etc I mean dating.. 3 dates before fun etc"
No I wouldn't say so. Though if I connect with someone I'd like to think a date wasn't out of the question |
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I don't see myself as a traditional swinger, in that I am not about partner swapping at this point, but one of the things I love about this site is that I don't have to apologise for liking sex as a woman. I meet someone, if we want to we fuck - it's that simple and that drama free.
When I am at a point of wanting a relationship, I will use this site for that too, as I want a guy with a high sex drive who is happy to play outside of the relationship. When I reach that point though it will be very clear on my profile - I can't abide all the playing games crap that goes on. Far too many women on here are looking for their happy ever after but for some reason refuse to just be upfront about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't see myself as a traditional swinger, in that I am not about partner swapping at this point, but one of the things I love about this site is that I don't have to apologise for liking sex as a woman. I meet someone, if we want to we fuck - it's that simple and that drama free.
When I am at a point of wanting a relationship, I will use this site for that too, as I want a guy with a high sex drive who is happy to play outside of the relationship. When I reach that point though it will be very clear on my profile - I can't abide all the playing games crap that goes on. Far too many women on here are looking for their happy ever after but for some reason refuse to just be upfront about it."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here."
And what's your theory about why single men come in here?
And just for your information I would never introduce I man I met on a sex site to my children so why would I be here looking for a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here.
And what's your theory about why single men come in here?
And just for your information I would never introduce I man I met on a sex site to my children so why would I be here looking for a relationship "
That is so right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
Sounds like me. Always a social first with no chance of sex. If they start any kind of sex talk before we even meet I find that rude and I won't chat anymore.
I couldn't give a fuck what men like you think of me!
You started the sex talk first. It's on your profile.
Seriously?
Yes, seriously. I read it. You mentioned sex in the first paragraph.
You know I'm keeping this light hearted. I'm not looking for a fight.
Sorry didn't meant to sound grumpy or out for a fight. I was hungry. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not sure if people see it as a dating site per se but I've definitely seen women / men comment on past threads they'd be up for a date if they met Mr / Mrs Right.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha"
I can understand someone nit wanting to talk about sex. There are plenty of men on here just looking for wank fodder |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha"
I also think plenty on here aren't swingers. Looking for 1 on 1 sex isn't swinging regardless of what site you use to facilitate that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a theory that single ladies look for relationships on here because they are no longer a commodity in the real world. They can be attractive but 30+ with kids etc (baggage). If they go on normal dating sites they don't attract the type of men they desire you know the type 'Exceptional male' so they think they can maybe lure 1 on here.
And what's your theory about why single men come in here?
And just for your information I would never introduce I man I met on a sex site to my children so why would I be here looking for a relationship "
Read again I didn't say every single lady i mean just the 1's that do. Some men seek the same yes but I'd say the more 'Exceptional male' just wants to bang as many babes as possible. Again your last statement is irrelevant because you don't come under who I was referring too then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The reason I'm asking as I "was" messaging a female.. and it was getting all about where on a first date etc... and if i mentioned anything about sex.. I was being rude.. then she claimed she wasn't a swinger.. but looking for dates.... erm.. okayyyy.. awkward silence haha
I can understand someone nit wanting to talk about sex. There are plenty of men on here just looking for wank fodder "
agree with this. Massive turn off, and just screams immaturity to me. Especially if they then moan about it on the forums lol. |
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