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What do you prefer a meet up first in bar or go straight to room
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We meet for a quick drink and a chat see how things go if there's a spark, then happy to play straight away, not everyone's cup of tea, but we just don't have time to meet for a social and then arrange another meet to play
If we have met before then happy to get down to business |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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A social first for me, preferably after we've spoken a bit to see if there's anything to go on. I do occasionally play after the social depending on things. And for my sins, I have before skipped a social and went straight to the fucking whilst working in Edinburgh; we'd been speaking for long enough and I thought I'd take the chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Normally I'm a straight to the room kinda girl....sometimes a quick drink in the bar but I would have already sussed them out before agreeing to meet. I don't meet anyone I'm not really really sure about. |
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Always go for a social first, without exception..
(Unless you can give a compelling argument why we should skip the first step...
Examples of compelling arguments are:
-I fuck better than I drink
-If i don't have sex now I will die
-I am leaving on the Mars mission tomorrow
-I can suck a golf ball through a garden Hose.) |
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We usually meet in a bar first before going to a club for a no-pressure evening out. Prior to this we'll have spent a good while chatting online before we arrange to meet so we'll have a pretty good idea of how we get along.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always meet for a drink first.
Could be great to speak to through text but.
Some people are just different in person.
Luckily we've not had a bad meet yet and We have no issues playing on a first meet.. just don't be a di#khead 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meet socially 1st.
If that's not possible than a meet in the bar with a view of taking further if we click. Due to the length of time arranging to meet its very unlikely we wouldn't but the get out option is there just in case.
If it's a repeat meet then that just depends to what plans have been made / how we feel on the day.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have done both. The ideal is to meet in a hotel bar, then get a room if all goes well. Most of my meets these days come after lots of chatting and getting to know each other, so by the time we do meet, it's a fairly safe bet the other person is who they say they are. I haven't been misled yet on a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Either or. We don't mind .
If we have arranged to meet we are pretty sure we will play , assuming the people we are meeting are as they appear to be , clean and respectful .
So whether we meet in a bar and make small talk first or just go straight to the room it's all good .
We have gone straight to the room and said no thanks on a few occasions , for differing reasons , so saying we don't want to play is just as easy in the room or in a public place . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We prefer to get straight into action. We wouldn't arrange a meet with someone we're not sure about. We prefer keeping social and play completely separate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've learned now that the bar first is sensible as pictures can be deceiving. but if it's someone we already know then straight down to it is super duper! 
Ruby |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We meet for a quick drink and a chat see how things go if there's a spark, then happy to play straight away, not everyone's cup of tea, but we just don't have time to meet for a social and then arrange another meet to play
If we have met before then happy to get down to business"
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"We meet for a quick drink and a chat see how things go if there's a spark, then happy to play straight away, not everyone's cup of tea, but we just don't have time to meet for a social and then arrange another meet to play
If we have met before then happy to get down to business"
Same for me! If we like each other at the social, and have the time and a venue, then I'm happy to take things further! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done both in the past. Each has its merits.
Straight to the room can be a hell of a thrill and in the right sizzling hot.
But a social is nice too, getting to know someone in person with no pressure, it works on a much different level, and a little flirting is always fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer a chat meet to start with, you can get to know the people you are meeting, likes dislikes and so on. I am more than happy to play on a first meet but would prefer a nice get to know you chat first.
I have had occasions where it is meet get naked but was a bit mechanical to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't commit to anything untill I have met somebody
I'm more than happy to play on the first meet but I'm meeting them in public first for a drink and chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mixed but depends on how comfortable other person is. If it's a pure social as some insist in profile then I don't play even if it looks like it could go that way. That's usually because of time restraints as I'll have something else planned after the coffee. But this is made clear beforehand.....Can be a pain but knowing that means conversation has a different direction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really enjoy drinks first, the chat, flirting and teasing.
Having said that though I also did a fantasy of turning up to meet a complete stranger at his hotel room. He followed my instructions I'd said to him before hand, we didn't speak until he'd given me a mind blowing orgasm. Then we said hello.
That was a fantastic meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really enjoy drinks first, the chat, flirting and teasing.
Having said that though I also did a fantasy of turning up to meet a complete stranger at his hotel room. He followed my instructions I'd said to him before hand, we didn't speak until he'd given me a mind blowing orgasm. Then we said hello.
That was a fantastic meet."
Have done this 2x where they turned up and entered into hotel room blindfolded and another where they were blindfolded lying naked under a towel when I came to theirs. All the were first time meets.
All agreed that it made it to be high on the list of best first meets they had. I'll say the same for me in terms of first meets too.
The combination of uncertainty and anticipation of many things heightens the senses and body responds amazingly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We meet for a quick drink and a chat see how things go if there's a spark, then happy to play straight away, not everyone's cup of tea, but we just don't have time to meet for a social and then arrange another meet to play
If we have met before then happy to get down to business"
a bit like us. Trying to get a free night away is hard work. We are ok with socials but then it might take another 4 or 5 months before we can organise a play date |
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"I always prefer a social first, I find it's too cold just to have sex with a stranger."
Can I ask - when you do/did your porn shoots - did the participants and crew meet up to get to know each other first (if they don't know each other already) or were they expected to 'just get on with it'? Xx |
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"I always prefer a social first, I find it's too cold just to have sex with a stranger.
Can I ask - when you do/did your porn shoots - did the participants and crew meet up to get to know each other first (if they don't know each other already) or were they expected to 'just get on with it'? Xx "
Just something I wonder about it when I watch it! |
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"Normally I'm a straight to the room kinda girl....sometimes a quick drink in the bar but I would have already sussed them out before agreeing to meet. I don't meet anyone I'm not really really sure about. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always prefer a social first, I find it's too cold just to have sex with a stranger.
Can I ask - when you do/did your porn shoots - did the participants and crew meet up to get to know each other first (if they don't know each other already) or were they expected to 'just get on with it'? Xx "
Surely that's an employment situation and therefore, one would hope, manifestly different to a fab meet? |
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"I always prefer a social first, I find it's too cold just to have sex with a stranger.
Can I ask - when you do/did your porn shoots - did the participants and crew meet up to get to know each other first (if they don't know each other already) or were they expected to 'just get on with it'? Xx
Absolutely! I'm just genuinely curious! Only started watching porn just before joining fab - and I'm curious about what goes on behind the scenes - ie guessing some have known each other/been friends in the industry for years etc - some I'm guessing have genuine chemistry and some not so much - it intrigues me!
I'd actually love to watch a porn shoot purely out of curiosity - but no wish at all to take part in one!
Surely that's an employment situation and therefore, one would hope, manifestly different to a fab meet? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of our play as been done at clubs we always thought that a social would be good but we have had a couple of meets of here recently where it's been last min we've gone to there's had a quick glass of wine to break the ice then straight into the fun. We were surprised how good them meets were. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always no pressure social first. Have learnt my lesson like other posters too. Has to be that spark.
Have one or twice meet for social and played on the same day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bar. 100%. What if there is no chemistry or the photos are not what they look like now, or even at all. Much easier to say, "We are not just that into it tonight" at a bar than in the hotel room. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My preference is meeting at a hotel bar, relax and have a drink so myself and my meet can relax. I like having a laugh, flirting........ one meet removed her thong when she went to the bathroom and when she returned she dropped it in my lap! Very hot. Then onto the room for lots of intense fuckery 
I always feel sorry for the maid when I check out lol |
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Done both and but prefer straight into the room.
Before the meet a lot of messages would've already been exchanged.
Sometimes I've met in the hotel bar and gone to the room if things are good.
Other occasions straight to the room.
A lot of the couples I have like me to get straight to so I'm not complaining |
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Why on earth not. If you're not sure that you can communicate the sex could be pretty awful. I guess the only exception would be if you've chatted to them a LOT already, swapped photos, and when you meet just can't keep your hands off each other! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why on earth not. If you're not sure that you can communicate the sex could be pretty awful. I guess the only exception would be if you've chatted to them a LOT already, swapped photos, and when you meet just can't keep your hands off each other!"
Our point entirely if you're meeting up you should already have done your homework and know exactly how you're gonna play things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Either..I like to leave it up to whoever I'm with.
I do however prefer a gin and a chat first.
Love to build up the anticipation of what fun could be had |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess it depends on the scenario. Generally I prefer a drink and a flirt first but it's not unknown to welcome a woman with a drink when I open my hotel room door... |
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"We meet for action not to socialise"
I don't get this at all ... surely has to be a spark with someone whom you would get naked with ? So surely a social is a must .... if not .. then surely doesn't even matter about who you meet ? May as well just fuck a blow up doll |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We meet for action not to socialise
I don't get this at all ... surely has to be a spark with someone whom you would get naked with ? So surely a social is a must .... if not .. then surely doesn't even matter about who you meet ? May as well just fuck a blow up doll "
I don't get this attitude at all. Yes there's more than a spark. No there's no need for a social. ..yes it does matter who I meet thank you. I chat extensively with those I meet. I just know that I want to get naked with them ...then I agree to meet. It's very condescending to assume that your way is the only way to do things.  |
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"We meet for action not to socialise
I don't get this at all ... surely has to be a spark with someone whom you would get naked with ? So surely a social is a must .... if not .. then surely doesn't even matter about who you meet ? May as well just fuck a blow up doll
I don't get this attitude at all. Yes there's more than a spark. No there's no need for a social. ..yes it does matter who I meet thank you. I chat extensively with those I meet. I just know that I want to get naked with them ...then I agree to meet. It's very condescending to assume that your way is the only way to do things. "
Excuuuuse me ..... have a look at what u just wrote Miss condescending herself !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We meet for action not to socialise
I don't get this at all ... surely has to be a spark with someone whom you would get naked with ? So surely a social is a must .... if not .. then surely doesn't even matter about who you meet ? May as well just fuck a blow up doll
I don't get this attitude at all. Yes there's more than a spark. No there's no need for a social. ..yes it does matter who I meet thank you. I chat extensively with those I meet. I just know that I want to get naked with them ...then I agree to meet. It's very condescending to assume that your way is the only way to do things.
Excuuuuse me ..... have a look at what u just wrote Miss condescending herself !! "
what did I say that was condescending. I never said anything derogatory about the way you meet. ....you said that those that don't meet socially first may as well fuck a blow up doll! |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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I much prefer to tease build anticipation ,I control my libido no one else and it doesn't control me.
first meet if things go well a hot petting session .
second meet a hot petting session finishing with a orgasm for her .
third meet I bring my bag of toys or i use who toys to deliver on all the promises i have made in every chat we have ever had.
i like to play ideally liked that as it builds trust and lust at the same time which means the third meet never disappoints in my experience  |
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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago
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"I insist in a no pressure social in a public place. "
Absolutely this. It's amazing how many guys think they'll be able to just arrange a meet and have sex there and then. No thanks it's coffee or a drink then on second or even 3rd meet it might happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely definitely meet in the bar / at a local bar.
It really builds up the mood and sexual tension as Sara loves that flirty feeling when the meet is right - If the meet isnt right then you'd be stuck in the room! No lose situation for everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chat first.
Far too often the banter in messaging does not cross over into real life.
Yet often chatting in real life has led to far more fun than a message has conveyed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a social... how can you know whether you'll find a person attractive enough to sleep with until you meet them in person?  "
just because you don't doesn't mean others don't. I just know. I've not been wrong in 5 years so I'd say it's completely possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always a social... how can you know whether you'll find a person attractive enough to sleep with until you meet them in person?
just because you don't doesn't mean others don't. I just know. I've not been wrong in 5 years so I'd say it's completely possible. "
Yeah that's true, we're all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Straight to the room for sure, the anticipation of that knock at the door.
But what happens if the door knocker isn't to your taste?"
I've once found the door knocker not quite to my taste and shagged them anyway. Turned out alright |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Straight to the room for sure, the anticipation of that knock at the door.
But what happens if the door knocker isn't to your taste?
I've once found the door knocker not quite to my taste and shagged them anyway. Turned out alright "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely have a social first. When I do it's because they want one. I used to have social meets early on, without much talking but found that mostly meant they wanted a blow job in their van/car or alley near the pub.
Now, I talk a while, sometimes months, before agreeing to meet them. It works so much better this way. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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The first guy I ever met, from a different site, asked me if I wanted to meet him in reception. I chose to go straight to his room. We had been chatting for a while though, we had a great time. I was quite naive then. Not sure I'd do it again! |
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"Normally I'm a straight to the room kinda girl....sometimes a quick drink in the bar but I would have already sussed them out before agreeing to meet. I don't meet anyone I'm not really really sure about. "
I chat with some lovely people but that doesn't always equate to a spark when we meet for a brew....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first guy I ever met, from a different site, asked me if I wanted to meet him in reception. I chose to go straight to his room. We had been chatting for a while though, we had a great time. I was quite naive then. Not sure I'd do it again!"
You just like perving while you chat..... |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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" We prefer a meet up in the bar first
To see how land lays
Before action
We no it's not for everyone .....
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I have done both. It felt naughty just having sex straight away without a chat first which added to the excitement.
But it's ticked off my bucket list now. Meeting socially is better as you can tease each other in public. |
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