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over a year ago
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I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am making changes to my life make it more happy. I am going out to shows and the cinema and stuff now. I go by myself because nobody I know wants to do exciting stuff. XXX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am making changes to my life make it more happy. I am going out to shows and the cinema and stuff now. I go by myself because nobody I know wants to do exciting stuff. XXX"
Good for you, that's the spirit  |
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After my marriage of 19 years broke down ....so did I ...but 18 months later and I have made some MASSIVE changes to my life . I'm so much happier and confident that I have really surprised myself . Onwards and upwards |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
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When all this story is ending and I look back, I hope to find that every second of my life was worthy and deserved to be lived.
Maybe I will regret for some bad decisions, but not for refraining of living exciting adventures. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"After my marriage of 19 years broke down ....so did I ...but 18 months later and I have made some MASSIVE changes to my life . I'm so much happier and confident that I have really surprised myself . Onwards and upwards "
Give yourself a pat on the back. Changes can be scary but things always seem to have a way of working themselves out if you can manage to think positively. Well done and good to hear you're happy. |
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"After my marriage of 19 years broke down ....so did I ...but 18 months later and I have made some MASSIVE changes to my life . I'm so much happier and confident that I have really surprised myself . Onwards and upwards
Give yourself a pat on the back. Changes can be scary but things always seem to have a way of working themselves out if you can manage to think positively. Well done and good to hear you're happy."
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I can get frustrated when people don't make changes if, they could. However I do understand that its often easier said than done. Many reasons stop people taking the first steps. Sadly sometimes it then seems impossible.
While its true life is short, its also true that fear is sometimes bigger. |
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"I can get frustrated when people don't make changes if, they could. However I do understand that its often easier said than done. Many reasons stop people taking the first steps. Sadly sometimes it then seems impossible.
While its true life is short, its also true that fear is sometimes bigger. "
fear can be much bigger  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can get frustrated when people don't make changes if, they could. However I do understand that its often easier said than done. Many reasons stop people taking the first steps. Sadly sometimes it then seems impossible.
While its true life is short, its also true that fear is sometimes bigger. "
Very true. But that is where PMA plays a big factor. |
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The way I see it is, you can only piss with the dick you got.
So for me what ever happens in life all I can do is the best with what I have. So likewise what cant do/get I don't worry about.
Positivity is my life blood and it serves me well. Like is all about perception and how you spin it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can get frustrated when people don't make changes if, they could. However I do understand that its often easier said than done. Many reasons stop people taking the first steps. Sadly sometimes it then seems impossible.
While its true life is short, its also true that fear is sometimes bigger.
Very true. But that is where PMA plays a big factor."
A PMA is all very well if you have a sunny and bright disposition, and lots of friends and family around you to help you get back on top..
but some people don't have that network to gee them on and to say 'you can do it', and they often aren't strong enough to do it on their own..
and a lot of it is down to mental health issues so there is never a quick fix
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There are degrees of happiness and I believe you have to find a level you can live with.
I'm far from as happy as I could possibly be but at present I just cannot make any changes to my life to improve my level of happiness. I'm a full time carer for my mum and as much as I would like to be able to work full time, go on holidays and have fun I can't. I sacrifice some of my happiness in order to look after someone I love. I could also turn it around and say if I didn't look after my mum I wouldn't be happy. I would be far to worried about her to be content just living my own life and leaving her to it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? "
I'm happy..........a proper sunshine girl! Always have a positive outlook on life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? "
Some times you have to sacrifice your own happiness to do what you think is best for some others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about?
Some times you have to sacrifice your own happiness to do what you think is best for some others"
I did that for many years with my ex, my life was so unhappy with him but everytime I wanted to go my kids would get upset, I'd feel guilty for taking them away from their dad and I wasn't prepared to leave my kids so I stayed with him for them
Life isn't always black and white |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can get frustrated when people don't make changes if, they could. However I do understand that its often easier said than done. Many reasons stop people taking the first steps. Sadly sometimes it then seems impossible.
While its true life is short, its also true that fear is sometimes bigger.
Very true. But that is where PMA plays a big factor.
A PMA is all very well if you have a sunny and bright disposition, and lots of friends and family around you to help you get back on top..
but some people don't have that network to gee them on and to say 'you can do it', and they often aren't strong enough to do it on their own..
and a lot of it is down to mental health issues so there is never a quick fix
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I agree, but there is professional help for those who are struggling alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about?
Some times you have to sacrifice your own happiness to do what you think is best for some others
I did that for many years with my ex, my life was so unhappy with him but everytime I wanted to go my kids would get upset, I'd feel guilty for taking them away from their dad and I wasn't prepared to leave my kids so I stayed with him for them
Life isn't always black and white"
No it isn't. I understand your situation completely. It's not an easy one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sadly some things in our life's that make us unhappy can't be changed
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Circumstances we and events do happen, but then it's up to the person how they deal with the emotional side of things. I appreciate not all things are easy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about?
Some times you have to sacrifice your own happiness to do what you think is best for some others
I did that for many years with my ex, my life was so unhappy with him but everytime I wanted to go my kids would get upset, I'd feel guilty for taking them away from their dad and I wasn't prepared to leave my kids so I stayed with him for them
Life isn't always black and white
No it isn't. I understand your situation completely. It's not an easy one."
He ended up leaving me in the end for another woman, so every cloud has a silver lining, lucky for me he didn't put the kids first or I'd still be stuck with him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about?
Some times you have to sacrifice your own happiness to do what you think is best for some others
I did that for many years with my ex, my life was so unhappy with him but everytime I wanted to go my kids would get upset, I'd feel guilty for taking them away from their dad and I wasn't prepared to leave my kids so I stayed with him for them
Life isn't always black and white
No it isn't. I understand your situation completely. It's not an easy one.
He ended up leaving me in the end for another woman, so every cloud has a silver lining, lucky for me he didn't put the kids first or I'd still be stuck with him "
Glad to hear you are happy now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? "
Sometimes they need assistance with what to do, as they could be stuck in a cycle they don't know how to break. |
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about?
Some times you have to sacrifice your own happiness to do what you think is best for some others
I did that for many years with my ex, my life was so unhappy with him but everytime I wanted to go my kids would get upset, I'd feel guilty for taking them away from their dad and I wasn't prepared to leave my kids so I stayed with him for them
Life isn't always black and white
No it isn't. I understand your situation completely. It's not an easy one.
He ended up leaving me in the end for another woman, so every cloud has a silver lining, lucky for me he didn't put the kids first or I'd still be stuck with him "
Same boat. My Ex wife did the same and luckily for me left me litterally holding the baby (youngest kid 6 months old at time). I would have been so unhappy (although not half a busy) if she took the kids with her (especially because she lives 2hrs drive away). The idea of not having my kids around me is horrible. The kids are a constant source of my happiness. The world is not black and white as you say. Change doesn't always bring happiness. Most of us have to consider that any changes we make for our self has consequences for others around us. Like is complex and depends on individual circumstances.
Still I find a positive outlook on life is the best tool to success. Despite everything life is actually really good (and knackering). |
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about?
Sometimes they need assistance with what to do, as they could be stuck in a cycle they don't know how to break."
Oh I am def stuck in the routine for years and forgotten how to be Me , quirky and bubbly . Working full time and being a single parent with no support at all wasn't an easy job but I managed and never moaned .
My child is now the age where I can start thinking of myself more . I admit I will need a little push to be more spontaneous from now on . |
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It isn't always possible to make changes.
I've been through some very unhappy periods in my life where changing the situation has been outside of my control and I just had to wait it out.
I wish life was as easy as that. I think its key that I always tried to maintain a positive attitude and maybe thats a change that some unhappy people could attempt. However I dont think a recently bereaved person for instance would benefit from that advice. |
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? "
Agreed .. and your status is perfect |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? "
How can you tell they aren't happy in their lives?
I'm happy In my life and I post negative posts on here just to see who bites first  |
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I made changes
I now go to gym several times a week
Eat far better (more than once a day)
And I look for the things that make me smile, rather than all the negatives in the world.
I also make sure I see wiggles arse every morning and every night. |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I've seen a few posts in here where people obviously aren't happy in their lives.
Why do people just moan about it instead of making changes. You are the responsible for your own happiness. I've made changes and have no regrets. I'm not saying it's always easy to make some changes but isn't happiness what life is about? "
Everyone needs an outlet to let off a little steam and share an experience with people. Sometimes strangers can make your day with some positivity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was extremely unhappy with my life and I made changes - those changes improved certain aspects but then showed me true happiness can't be achieved as my core problems can't ever be solved, I just have to live with them and accept them. |
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