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Can you go vanilla after swinging?
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"I guess there are some that can and some that can't. Only you can ultimately decide if giving it up is something you can do. Guess it may also depend how much you're into this guy? Have you tried talking to him about swinging, what you like about it, and how perhaps it could be something you could enjoy together? Perhaps his concern is that you'll still want to play alone, but may be open to the idea of it being something you share?" I could Yes Made no friends on here and never will I can leave fab when ever I feel like it I don't do relationships on here or in the vanilla world | |||
"Thats it i know its not mind blowing..sounds shallow but dont think I cant go back to sex just for the sake of it. I need excitement " I think you've answered your own question then OP  | |||
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"Stop swinging i could do yes, cut all contact with everybody associated with it no, i have made a few close friends through swinging, one lady in particular i regard as one of my closest friends and i would never be with a guy who wouldn't allow me to choose who im friends with based on how i met them " Totally agreewirh the above statement...not dumping friends for anybody. | |||
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"Stop swinging i could do yes, cut all contact with everybody associated with it no, i have made a few close friends through swinging, one lady in particular i regard as one of my closest friends and i would never be with a guy who wouldn't allow me to choose who im friends with based on how i met them Totally agreewirh the above statement...not dumping friends for anybody." | |||
"I've been swinging for only about 8 months. Recently had a man wanting to have a relationship with me but he's not a swinger. I'm not sure a can be in a vanilla relationship now. He knows about Fab and wants me to come off here and cut contact with anyone associated with it. Has anyone managed it at some point? Or once a swinger always a swinger?" I started way back in the late 80's as a single guy and then for a while with a FB. I then got into a 3 year vanilla relationship and for the whole of that time I didn't do anything or even really think about it. However after we broke up I was very quickly back into the lifestyle as a single guy again but then got into a 4 year relationship with another swinger. We were on a few of the early swinger sites as Diagram69 and regulars in Cupids if anyone remembers us. After that broke up I moved abroad and didn't really do anything again for a while. When I met the current Mrs we were fully vanilla for 3 years before it came up in discussion and she wanted to give a club a try. That was over 7 years ago and we are still going strong. So can you give up for a while? Yes, I've done it twice. Can you give it up forever? I'm really not sure, but as the years catch up with us I suppose one day we will have to. | |||
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"Thank you manhunter "That meant to say go with what your heart says....bloody phone l | |||
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"I've been swinging for only about 8 months. Recently had a man wanting to have a relationship with me but he's not a swinger. I'm not sure a can be in a vanilla relationship now. He knows about Fab and wants me to come off here and cut contact with anyone associated with it. Has anyone managed it at some point? Or once a swinger always a swinger?" I think I'd give up on a man who seems so controlling rather than give up swinging | |||
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"Stop swinging i could do yes, cut all contact with everybody associated with it no, i have made a few close friends through swinging, one lady in particular i regard as one of my closest friends and i would never be with a guy who wouldn't allow me to choose who im friends with based on how i met them " this for me too!
I could fall for a non-swinger and be monogamous if he was 'Mr right' - but he'd have to trust me and accept that I'd still be on the forums, still keep friends from here, and still socialise from here!
He'd be welcome to join me - but if he can't trust me - or finds 'my world' abhorrent - then the relationship couldn't work anyway! | |||
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