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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I learnt about sex from
1.Science or S.E. Lessons at school
2.Finding a 70s porn Vid of some white dudes with afros shafting a couple of chicks who were butters.
3.Feeling around and go with it with first girl
NOWADAYS : 1000'S OF PORN SITES showing massive knobs, asses that take a RSJ full of cock, bukkake, dogging etc
Pressure to conform over social media
Its the "norm" to want anal beads, Barbed wire pants, in a gimp mask fucking in a layby when your just 16 or so ys old
Glad I was 80s 90s child and not a kid today
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Possibly, although the 70's & 80's seem to have been restricted in terms of how openly people could discuss their wants & desires.
Although I agree that internet porn can encourage an unrealistic perception of women/men it has also helped change attitudes towards sex, giving platform for sites like this to be created, thus offering people a greater variety of desires to fulfil, which I feel is great.
The only concern id have is exposure at too young an age |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's the way of things now, I just glad I learned to walk before I could run.
And yes, this site is god thing when real swingers use it, but dating apps b sites make it easy for two timing hubbys,and mental cases trying to be mental on our doorstep |
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the level of porn that children can access is far too graphic, unrealistic and when you add in the pressures that social media does apply to some (not only young) people to conform to what is 'sexy, beautiful, successful etc' its not good.. |
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would say that sex and sexuality has always been confusing and a period of uncertainty for some young people long before the web..
some aspects of the web eg. support groups are a positive thing for some to access.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hard for children who see porn to realise it's a fantasy and that there is much better ways of having amazing fun than what's seen in a lot of porn ?
Thankfully we have met people who have made some fantasies come true as well as finding a sexy lady who makes mine come true !
But would I have all this if all I'd grown up with internet porn ? Who knows |
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It must be very difficult for them.
I (Mr) have spoken to my teenage son and said he should see porn in the same way as any other film, e.g what happens in action films 'can' happen, but isn't the norm.
That was embarrassing enough for him, but how do you say don't pull out and spunk in your girlfriends face or ask for a threesome with her best mate as soon as you start? |
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I don't think we give kids enough credit. Porn these days isn't any different to porn when I was a kid (they haven't invented new things for the internet age). It's just easier to get hold of.
I remember being desperate for erotic material, even going to the extent of wanking off over the lingerie section of Kay's catalog. It was like finding buried treasure when we found a discarded porn mag, And even then it was likely to be Fiesta or escort which compared to what's available to day are hardly rude at all.
Kids are curious about sex but are also growing up in an age where information about everything is more freely available. We live in a post truth age where nothing should be taken at face value be that political statements or sexual hijinks. I think that the younger generation are innately aware of this more so that people of earlier generations. |
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I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym. |
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym. "
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
For a teenager he's quite open. But I bow to your superior knowledge of my son "
I don't know your son, but I have been a son for nearly half a century. And I have been the father of a son for over a quarter of a century.
I could be wrong, but I find it unlikely that he would be discussing his masturbational habits or what kind of thing gets him going with you.
But obviously we all know everything there is to know about our children don't we.
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
For a teenager he's quite open. But I bow to your superior knowledge of my son
I don't know your son, but I have been a son for nearly half a century. And I have been the father of a son for over a quarter of a century.
I could be wrong, but I find it unlikely that he would be discussing his masturbational habits or what kind of thing gets him going with you.
But obviously we all know everything there is to know about our children don't we.
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Not all boys are sexually aware/active as teenagers so I'd say it's perfectly feasible for him to be just as his Dad says he is, perhaps with pornography being so readily available and living in a much more sexualised society it doesn't hold the mystery anymore for teens so for some it may make them more chaste? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
For a teenager he's quite open. But I bow to your superior knowledge of my son
I don't know your son, but I have been a son for nearly half a century. And I have been the father of a son for over a quarter of a century.
I could be wrong, but I find it unlikely that he would be discussing his masturbational habits or what kind of thing gets him going with you.
But obviously we all know everything there is to know about our children don't we.
Not all boys are sexually aware/active as teenagers so I'd say it's perfectly feasible for him to be just as his Dad says he is, perhaps with pornography being so readily available and living in a much more sexualised society it doesn't hold the mystery anymore for teens so for some it may make them more chaste? "
Maybe if he's 13 probably not if he's 17
The point about being chaste, that's exactly the opposite of what everyone is saying, the common held belief is that easy access to porn corrupts our children and turns them all into pervs.
Where as the truth is porn has nothing to do with it, your a perv or your not. If you like it you will consume it.
Does it affect people's behaviour towards one another, people were shitty to one another long before the internet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
For a teenager he's quite open. But I bow to your superior knowledge of my son
I don't know your son, but I have been a son for nearly half a century. And I have been the father of a son for over a quarter of a century.
I could be wrong, but I find it unlikely that he would be discussing his masturbational habits or what kind of thing gets him going with you.
But obviously we all know everything there is to know about our children don't we.
Not all boys are sexually aware/active as teenagers so I'd say it's perfectly feasible for him to be just as his Dad says he is, perhaps with pornography being so readily available and living in a much more sexualised society it doesn't hold the mystery anymore for teens so for some it may make them more chaste?
Maybe if he's 13 probably not if he's 17
The point about being chaste, that's exactly the opposite of what everyone is saying, the common held belief is that easy access to porn corrupts our children and turns them all into pervs.
Where as the truth is porn has nothing to do with it, your a perv or your not. If you like it you will consume it.
Does it affect people's behaviour towards one another, people were shitty to one another long before the internet. "
I'd still say your judging him on your behaviours as a teenager, I know a number of people who as teenagers never really got into sex either doing it or having the desire to until they were 19/20 now they are a lot older they have no reason to lie. I do think that to some youngsters porn will damage their views on what's acceptable and what's not. When I first started viewing porn as a teen it was much different to what's out there now, it used to more about mutual pleasure now much of it; in my view, is derogatory towards women all hair pulling, ass slapping and spitting. I wouldn't fancy losing my virginity to someone who has grown up thinking that's all normal.
Additionally, I think the 50 shades books haven't helped much either, as even a lot of adults seem to think you have to be either sub or dom and "vanilla" seems to be looked upon as being bad and "kinky" is normal |
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
For a teenager he's quite open. But I bow to your superior knowledge of my son
I don't know your son, but I have been a son for nearly half a century. And I have been the father of a son for over a quarter of a century.
I could be wrong, but I find it unlikely that he would be discussing his masturbational habits or what kind of thing gets him going with you.
But obviously we all know everything there is to know about our children don't we.
Not all boys are sexually aware/active as teenagers so I'd say it's perfectly feasible for him to be just as his Dad says he is, perhaps with pornography being so readily available and living in a much more sexualised society it doesn't hold the mystery anymore for teens so for some it may make them more chaste?
Maybe if he's 13 probably not if he's 17
The point about being chaste, that's exactly the opposite of what everyone is saying, the common held belief is that easy access to porn corrupts our children and turns them all into pervs.
Where as the truth is porn has nothing to do with it, your a perv or your not. If you like it you will consume it.
Does it affect people's behaviour towards one another, people were shitty to one another long before the internet.
I'd still say your judging him on your behaviours as a teenager, I know a number of people who as teenagers never really got into sex either doing it or having the desire to until they were 19/20 now they are a lot older they have no reason to lie. I do think that to some youngsters porn will damage their views on what's acceptable and what's not. When I first started viewing porn as a teen it was much different to what's out there now, it used to more about mutual pleasure now much of it; in my view, is derogatory towards women all hair pulling, ass slapping and spitting. I wouldn't fancy losing my virginity to someone who has grown up thinking that's all normal.
Additionally, I think the 50 shades books haven't helped much either, as even a lot of adults seem to think you have to be either sub or dom and "vanilla" seems to be looked upon as being bad and "kinky" is normal"
Every one is different, I don't know the lad so yes I am remembering what I and others I knew were like when we were teenagers. Some people are less interested in sex others more, but generally young lads/guys are horny the amount of single guys on fab testify to that.
As for porn changing, it's not changed there was always porn that degraded and mistreated women, it's just easier to get hold of.
A lot of porn still is people having a lovely time together, at least the stuff I have seen.
I've never read the 50 shades books, so couldn't really comment. |
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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago
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It's a real worry for me. Things are different. Jacking off to a lingerie catalogue is not the same as doing it to watching two guys with huge cocks DP some screaming woman who's gagging on another cock. We might watch it because we are adults and can contextualise it, but I worry that young people may see this as "normal".
I have daughters. Their first boyfriends should be hoping to get a cuddle and a kiss out of them, not hoping to fuck their every orifice and cum in their faces.
It normalizes extreme situations but also gives access to really sick people who see all this overt sexual interaction going on and think that their paedophilia is more acceptable.
I have seen comments on these forums that crossed the line and reported them, usually someone testing the water over receptiveness to criminal acts of abuse. And their profiles disappear in minutes.
But other posters make valid points - the chance for consenting sexual minorities to engage is great. I can't imagine how hard it was for a gay guy in a small conservative community 50 years ago trying to meet other guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a real worry for me. Things are different. Jacking off to a lingerie catalogue is not the same as doing it to watching two guys with huge cocks DP some screaming woman who's gagging on another cock. We might watch it because we are adults and can contextualise it, but I worry that young people may see this as "normal".
I have daughters. Their first boyfriends should be hoping to get a cuddle and a kiss out of them, not hoping to fuck their every orifice and cum in their faces.
It normalizes extreme situations but also gives access to really sick people who see all this overt sexual interaction going on and think that their paedophilia is more acceptable.
I have seen comments on these forums that crossed the line and reported them, usually someone testing the water over receptiveness to criminal acts of abuse. And their profiles disappear in minutes.
But other posters make valid points - the chance for consenting sexual minorities to engage is great. I can't imagine how hard it was for a gay guy in a small conservative community 50 years ago trying to meet other guys.
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Why Is it different, I remember being desperate to find pornogrphic material when I was younger. Believe me being able to have a little look on my phone or laptop at readily available titilating material is better than what used to happen when I was a young un.
Also we should be teaching our kids what's appropriate behaviour, we should be setting boundaries and making damn sure they know what's right and wrong. Blaming porn is just a cop out.
Also I can guarantee your daughters first boyfriends will be after more than a kiss and a cuddle. We are all here looking for sex, that's not a drive that suddenly turns on when we are all 21.
I guess what I am saying is porn is here whether we like it or not, it's up to us as parents and a society to sex context and define what's appropriate. My son used to watch power rangers when he was little, he didn't grow up to wear a day glow spangley body suit expecting to fight giant aliens every 5 minutes.
Because I told him that's make believe.
Just like he doesn't expect to shag a girl up the arse on a first date while choking her and pulling her hair. Because I taught him respect.
As an aside I have actually shagged a woman up the arse on a first date whilst chocking her and pulling her hair, she seemed more than pleased about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a teenage son and he has no real interest in sex at all yet. He says it is just a distraction from his studies. He doesn't appear to be interested in porn at all and spends his free time chatting and gaming with his mates, playing footy and going to the gym.
Yeah cos I used to tell my dad I liked porn, and my son also used to tell me he liked porn too. Cos it's only natural you would want a parent to know your knocking one out hourly
For a teenager he's quite open. But I bow to your superior knowledge of my son "
I have a good dialogue open with mine, we have had lots of discussions about sex, etc. However, I am aware he doesn't tell me everything, like I don't tell him I am on here. 
Interestingly, his dad (we are thankfully divorced) had a chat with him a couple of years ago and told him about getting a 'special sock', into which he ought to "enjoy himself". I made the point that if he did have one like his dad suggested, he didn't put it fully loaded into the washing basket for me to find. He assured me that wanking into a sock wasn't his thing. He didn't elaborate and I didn't ask, there are just some things a mum ought not to know.  |
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"I don't think we give kids enough credit. Porn these days isn't any different to porn when I was a kid (they haven't invented new things for the internet age). It's just easier to get hold of.
I remember being desperate for erotic material, even going to the extent of wanking off over the lingerie section of Kay's catalog. It was like finding buried treasure when we found a discarded porn mag, And even then it was likely to be Fiesta or escort which compared to what's available to day are hardly rude at all.
Kids are curious about sex but are also growing up in an age where information about everything is more freely available. We live in a post truth age where nothing should be taken at face value be that political statements or sexual hijinks. I think that the younger generation are innately aware of this more so that people of earlier generations. "
A hundred or so years ago I was a lingerie model for kays/littlewoods/free mans etc! Really glad I didn't know then just how often it was used as wanking material! I honestly thought people just looked at them to choose/buy the underwear we modelled! |
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For me the problem is deeper ,parents in a rush for kids to grow up ,kids that think there grown up at 13 ...peer pressure ...can we not get back to kids being kids somehow ?....innocence lost to soon |
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"I don't think we give kids enough credit. Porn these days isn't any different to porn when I was a kid (they haven't invented new things for the internet age). It's just easier to get hold of.
I remember being desperate for erotic material, even going to the extent of wanking off over the lingerie section of Kay's catalog. It was like finding buried treasure when we found a discarded porn mag, And even then it was likely to be Fiesta or escort which compared to what's available to day are hardly rude at all.
Kids are curious about sex but are also growing up in an age where information about everything is more freely available. We live in a post truth age where nothing should be taken at face value be that political statements or sexual hijinks. I think that the younger generation are innately aware of this more so that people of earlier generations.
A hundred or so years ago I was a lingerie model for kays/littlewoods/free mans etc! Really glad I didn't know then just how often it was used as wanking material! I honestly thought people just looked at them to choose/buy the underwear we modelled! "
Ahh the catalogue queen many a boys saviour...thought I'd recognised that body ...on behalf of a lot of teenage boys ..thank you  |
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"I don't think we give kids enough credit. Porn these days isn't any different to porn when I was a kid (they haven't invented new things for the internet age). It's just easier to get hold of.
I remember being desperate for erotic material, even going to the extent of wanking off over the lingerie section of Kay's catalog. It was like finding buried treasure when we found a discarded porn mag, And even then it was likely to be Fiesta or escort which compared to what's available to day are hardly rude at all.
Kids are curious about sex but are also growing up in an age where information about everything is more freely available. We live in a post truth age where nothing should be taken at face value be that political statements or sexual hijinks. I think that the younger generation are innately aware of this more so that people of earlier generations.
A hundred or so years ago I was a lingerie model for kays/littlewoods/free mans etc! Really glad I didn't know then just how often it was used as wanking material! I honestly thought people just looked at them to choose/buy the underwear we modelled!
Ahh the catalogue queen many a boys saviour...thought I'd recognised that body ...on behalf of a lot of teenage boys ..thank you "
Ha! Thanks! Fortunately I didn't realise they were used as wanking catalogues until I joined fab! I was a virgin when I first started modelling and I'd have been horrified! Xx |
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"I don't think we give kids enough credit. Porn these days isn't any different to porn when I was a kid (they haven't invented new things for the internet age). It's just easier to get hold of.
I remember being desperate for erotic material, even going to the extent of wanking off over the lingerie section of Kay's catalog. It was like finding buried treasure when we found a discarded porn mag, And even then it was likely to be Fiesta or escort which compared to what's available to day are hardly rude at all.
Kids are curious about sex but are also growing up in an age where information about everything is more freely available. We live in a post truth age where nothing should be taken at face value be that political statements or sexual hijinks. I think that the younger generation are innately aware of this more so that people of earlier generations.
A hundred or so years ago I was a lingerie model for kays/littlewoods/free mans etc! Really glad I didn't know then just how often it was used as wanking material! I honestly thought people just looked at them to choose/buy the underwear we modelled!
Ahh the catalogue queen many a boys saviour...thought I'd recognised that body ...on behalf of a lot of teenage boys ..thank you
Ha! Thanks! Fortunately I didn't realise they were used as wanking catalogues until I joined fab! I was a virgin when I first started modelling and I'd have been horrified! Xx"
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I was a Virgin until 16 but before that I was a horny oversexualised little perv desperate to get my first sexperience.
Sex is used to sell entertain and memorise and the more.you see.the more.you want
I'm glad that there was not so much easy access to that when I was younger or I might have wanked myself sore |
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Trouble is nowadays young people struggle with whats fantasy and reality and where lines are blurred.
Gone from spanking to donkey punching etc and young people think it's normal young girl's thinking more.guys equals more love or.street cred which turns to crud and a bad name as soon as they mature  |
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"I don't think we give kids enough credit. Porn these days isn't any different to porn when I was a kid (they haven't invented new things for the internet age). It's just easier to get hold of.
I remember being desperate for erotic material, even going to the extent of wanking off over the lingerie section of Kay's catalog. It was like finding buried treasure when we found a discarded porn mag, And even then it was likely to be Fiesta or escort which compared to what's available to day are hardly rude at all.
Kids are curious about sex but are also growing up in an age where information about everything is more freely available. We live in a post truth age where nothing should be taken at face value be that political statements or sexual hijinks. I think that the younger generation are innately aware of this more so that people of earlier generations.
A hundred or so years ago I was a lingerie model for kays/littlewoods/free mans etc! Really glad I didn't know then just how often it was used as wanking material! I honestly thought people just looked at them to choose/buy the underwear we modelled! "
I'd of probably been having sex with ladies by the time you were modelling, but never fear I'll have a wank over you now |
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"I learnt about sex from
1.Science or S.E. Lessons at school
2.Finding a 70s porn Vid of some white dudes with afros shafting a couple of chicks who were butters.
3.Feeling around and go with it with first girl
NOWADAYS : 1000'S OF PORN SITES showing massive knobs, asses that take a RSJ full of cock, bukkake, dogging etc
Pressure to conform over social media
Its the "norm" to want anal beads, Barbed wire pants, in a gimp mask fucking in a layby when your just 16 or so ys old
Glad I was 80s 90s child and not a kid today
Fair comment ?"
Things were so much simpler back then |
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