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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Just wondering what women class as a dom guy. As I would say I am a dom guy but not sure when people ask for a dom guy what they are looking for?"
Some use punishment and some use a reward system |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means "
No they don't, they think it's control by force and they can do what they want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think women should really try and help us poor men out.
When you say you like something _ explain fully what you mean by that.When one says they like it rough, it is not always the same thing they are referring to as the next person. Us poor sods will probably get it wrong most of time, not because we are thick, stupid or don't care. We just plain and simply do not understand, your interpretation. So to help youselves, please help us. We are not always clueless, it just seems that way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means "
I totally disagree with you on that Madam ...x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means "
not sure after reading your statement you have ever met a dominant male, sounds to me you have found just abusive ones.
first of all, the Dom will always ensure that his sub is happy and well. Both have needs in a Dom/sub relationship.
If it is a Dominant male in a cuck relationship he has even more work to do ensuring both are happy.
A true Dom, male or female, does not cater for just the needs of themselves, they will ensure the needs of those they are with are fulfilled and even surpassed. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I think women should really try and help us poor men out.
When you say you like something _ explain fully what you mean by that.When one says they like it rough, it is not always the same thing they are referring to as the next person. Us poor sods will probably get it wrong most of time, not because we are thick, stupid or don't care. We just plain and simply do not understand, your interpretation. So to help youselves, please help us. We are not always clueless, it just seems that way.
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Or you could always try communicating with them first to understand what they are looking for and desire   |
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"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means
not sure after reading your statement you have ever met a dominant male, sounds to me you have found just abusive ones.
first of all, the Dom will always ensure that his sub is happy and well. Both have needs in a Dom/sub relationship.
If it is a Dominant male in a cuck relationship he has even more work to do ensuring both are happy.
A true Dom, male or female, does not cater for just the needs of themselves, they will ensure the needs of those they are with are fulfilled and even surpassed. "
I think that's what they were trying to say , a lot of men who claim they are dom actually have just been watching too much porn and think it's all about them and their wants and being rough.
A true Dom has understanding on what is needed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that's what they were trying to say , a lot of men who claim they are dom actually have just been watching too much porn and think it's all about them and their wants and being rough.
A true Dom has understanding on what is needed "
Sometimes it is all about their wants and being rough. It just depends what they want. That's why communication first is so important. Don't forget to talk before getting naked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering what women class as a dom guy. As I would say I am a dom guy but not sure when people ask for a dom guy what they are looking for?
Some use punishment and some use a reward system"
I think it's best to use a bit of both |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering what women class as a dom guy. As I would say I am a dom guy but not sure when people ask for a dom guy what they are looking for?"
I think most women would have a slightly different answer so you would have to ask each individual. For me it would be someone who knows what they want, is able to articulate that to me, someone who makes me feel safe and protected. Someone who can take charge in a respectful way. They would get bonus points if they knew what they were doing when it came to impact play and rope but I am negotiable on that. On an odd occasion I have played with men who have limited experience and had some good scenes. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means "
Usually liille guys calling themselves 'masta'. Or those self=proclaimed 'alpha-males'. Or the loud-mouths |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Domination can take place in many forms... Bdsm/Sado domination, physical control, mental control, thought control. A dom can find out what a sub loves to do and then restrict the sub from doing it unless given permission and that permission is the subs reward.
For the dom to be a successful and not just a lazy demanding lover, the dom must know what the sub wants... Even if the sub never gets it, or if the sub just wants to allow free reign the dom should still make the sub feel valued. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
I engage in D/s fun I enjoy exploring the limits of another persons sexuality . For me its about power my own power to deliver mind blowing experiences of a sexual nature .
The physical act of spanking a woman doesn’t turn me on in fact no physical act turns me on but the mental play of having the sexual control and power over another does turn me on .
Simply I get off on the mind play the mental teasing , domination and sexual control of another human beings sexual needs.
Trust intimacy turn me on ,when a partner trusts me enough to share her true dark secrets ,the dark secret she uses during masturbation to guarantee a orgasm I am empowered because I can then use that secret to mind fuck her drive her into a state of not only physical arousal but true mental arousal to .
You can not get a woman into a place know as sub space to subs unless you combine mental and physical sexual stimulation .as my own sexual well being is based around and dependent on feeling empowered I naturally will seek out partners who want to be dominate and controlled, who wish to be striped of there own power to make decisions of a sexual nature .
Such woman empower me sexually and by doing this they turn me on which inspire me to take them on a journey of self discovery for the both of us .
Others label me I don’t label myself the term dom is just a word to describe someone who gets turned on by controlling the sexual play both physically and mentally.
A sub is just a word to describe someone who gets turn on by not having any control physically and mentally when it comes to sex .
What form that physical and mental sexual interaction takes is down to the two people involved what the dominate is happy with and finds a turn on as well as what the submissive is happy with and finds a turn on . |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means "
Bang on the Nail i am afraid. And these type give the rest of us a bad name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dominant guys know what they want, you shouldn't be asking what women are expecting!! Dominant guys tell us what they want to do not the other way around! |
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A Dom isn't necessarily something I'm seeking - as to me a dom is someone who takes complete control both physically and mentally!
I'm up for being restrained, teased, spanked, whipped lightly etc by someone I trust - and I certainly like a man who's confident in the bedroom - but to me that's not being dominated as I can/do stop it or switch things around when I like - and I'd never relinquish mental control to someone!
Confident lovers though - come hither!  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Dominant guys know what they want, you shouldn't be asking what women are expecting!! Dominant guys tell us what they want to do not the other way around!"
Within previously discussed boundaries of course..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dominant guys know what they want, you shouldn't be asking what women are expecting!! Dominant guys tell us what they want to do not the other way around!
Within previously discussed boundaries of course..
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Obviously!! I just hate it when a guy says he is dominant then doesn't tell me what he wants to do! Just tell us!! If you are too extreme for our tastes we will say |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
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"Self-proclaimed t*ssp*ts are just t*ssp*ts. Every time I read dom, alpha-male, master, sir or such nonsense on a profile, I class Him as just a silly little w*nk*r"
For some i am sure your on the money. But again those are the people who give Me a bad name.
I put it on my profile so people know not to brag. |
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"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means
Bang on the Nail i am afraid. And these type give the rest of us a bad name. "
By "the rest of us" do you mean Doms? |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means
Bang on the Nail i am afraid. And these type give the rest of us a bad name.
By "the rest of us" do you mean Doms?"
Yes iwas refering to real ones who know what they are doing and what the limits controls actually are. Pysical domination is only one type pyc anouther. Spirtual Dom (oppressive possessive dehuminising) is not Dom that is abuse. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means
Bang on the Nail i am afraid. And these type give the rest of us a bad name.
By "the rest of us" do you mean Doms?
Yes iwas refering to real ones who know what they are doing and what the limits controls actually are. Pysical domination is only one type pyc anouther. Spirtual Dom (oppressive possessive dehuminising) is not Dom that is abuse."
i don't want to get into a debate here fella but abuse is only abuse if no consent is given , a sub can stop proceedings at any time so can a dom by just refusing to participate .
abuse is when one person has no say has no power and is being subjected to something they have no wish to be subjected to
a D/s BDSM relationship can never be a abusive one because its all based around a mutually beneficial dynamic,
a D who tries to abuse a sub over step and deliver something they do not want will soon find themselves devoid of a sub and that goes the other way a sub who can not give a D what they desire will soon find themselves looking for a new D.
its a intimate partnership mutually beneficial to both parties and as such is open to be abused by one of the parties like any other relationship and like any other relationship will fail with out mutual respect and commitment .
I think its time we all stop using the word abuse when it comes to D/s BDSM dynamics for the simple reason it cant not be abuse when consent and trust are involved and play such a important part of the dynamic .
people who abuse other people will abuse anyone and everyone and that fact has very little to do with there sexuality but more to do with there lack of empathy towards anyone but themselves in my humble opinion .
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By *X guyMan
over a year ago
Skegness |
"In my experience guys who claim to be dom are rough lazy lovers with no care what so ever about their partners wants, likes or need, they just expect you to do as they say
But i also think those type of dom men also have no idea what being dom means "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And i simply cannot stand the essays about this whole nonsense "
Don't feel obliged to comment on threads that do not interest you. Simple.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I engage in D/s fun I enjoy exploring the limits of another persons sexuality . For me its about power my own power to deliver mind blowing experiences of a sexual nature .
The physical act of spanking a woman doesn’t turn me on in fact no physical act turns me on but the mental play of having the sexual control and power over another does turn me on .
Simply I get off on the mind play the mental teasing , domination and sexual control of another human beings sexual needs.
Trust intimacy turn me on ,when a partner trusts me enough to share her true dark secrets ,the dark secret she uses during masturbation to guarantee a orgasm I am empowered because I can then use that secret to mind fuck her drive her into a state of not only physical arousal but true mental arousal to .
You can not get a woman into a place know as sub space to subs unless you combine mental and physical sexual stimulation .as my own sexual well being is based around and dependent on feeling empowered I naturally will seek out partners who want to be dominate and controlled, who wish to be striped of there own power to make decisions of a sexual nature .
Such woman empower me sexually and by doing this they turn me on which inspire me to take them on a journey of self discovery for the both of us .
Others label me I don’t label myself the term dom is just a word to describe someone who gets turned on by controlling the sexual play both physically and mentally.
A sub is just a word to describe someone who gets turn on by not having any control physically and mentally when it comes to sex .
What form that physical and mental sexual interaction takes is down to the two people involved what the dominate is happy with and finds a turn on as well as what the submissive is happy with and finds a turn on ."
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"And i simply cannot stand the essays about this whole nonsense
Don't feel obliged to comment on threads that do not interest you. Simple.
Different strokes for different folks. "
The subject interests me; but some of the comments don't
Are you the new FabS police? If not, then ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I engage in D/s fun I enjoy exploring the limits of another persons sexuality . For me its about power my own power to deliver mind blowing experiences of a sexual nature .
The physical act of spanking a woman doesn’t turn me on in fact no physical act turns me on but the mental play of having the sexual control and power over another does turn me on .
Simply I get off on the mind play the mental teasing , domination and sexual control of another human beings sexual needs.
Trust intimacy turn me on ,when a partner trusts me enough to share her true dark secrets ,the dark secret she uses during masturbation to guarantee a orgasm I am empowered because I can then use that secret to mind fuck her drive her into a state of not only physical arousal but true mental arousal to .
You can not get a woman into a place know as sub space to subs unless you combine mental and physical sexual stimulation .as my own sexual well being is based around and dependent on feeling empowered I naturally will seek out partners who want to be dominate and controlled, who wish to be striped of there own power to make decisions of a sexual nature .
Such woman empower me sexually and by doing this they turn me on which inspire me to take them on a journey of self discovery for the both of us .
Others label me I don’t label myself the term dom is just a word to describe someone who gets turned on by controlling the sexual play both physically and mentally.
A sub is just a word to describe someone who gets turn on by not having any control physically and mentally when it comes to sex .
What form that physical and mental sexual interaction takes is down to the two people involved what the dominate is happy with and finds a turn on as well as what the submissive is happy with and finds a turn on ."
Thank you for explaining. Shed some light. |
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"Domination can take place in many forms... Bdsm/Sado domination, physical control, mental control, thought control. A dom can find out what a sub loves to do and then restrict the sub from doing it unless given permission and that permission is the subs reward.
For the dom to be a successful and not just a lazy demanding lover, the dom must know what the sub wants... Even if the sub never gets it, or if the sub just wants to allow free reign the dom should still make the sub feel valued."
All of this. Each dynamic is different and communication is key. You can't guess when you're entering a power exchange. Lots and lots of talking before anything else happens. Personally, I need to trust my dom so a casual hook up is never going to be in that dynamic. You know nothing about my limits.
Unless you're just talking about women who want a man to be a bit rough in bed, in which case 'rough' will have different meanings for different people. It's too vague when you need clarity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
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It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r  |
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r "
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in"
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you |
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r "
I don't really understand the 50SOG snobbery. I enjoyed the book, it was an interesting work of fiction. It inspired me to seek out some particular things in my own BDSM life, and has given me ideas for some new things to try myself.
I'm also really thrilled that it became mainstream and it introduced lots of new people to BDSM and kink, because there's now a much wider variety of people to get out there and meet, and I find that people are far more accepting of the fact that I'm into BDSM. |
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you "
You're way too tall and smart for me... I like my women dumb and short |
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you "
Met one of those in a club recently. He even got in the hot tub clutching his crop like a blankie. Poor bloke looked petrified. |
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
I don't really understand the 50SOG snobbery. I enjoyed the book, it was an interesting work of fiction. It inspired me to seek out some particular things in my own BDSM life, and has given me ideas for some new things to try myself.
I'm also really thrilled that it became mainstream and it introduced lots of new people to BDSM and kink, because there's now a much wider variety of people to get out there and meet, and I find that people are far more accepting of the fact that I'm into BDSM."
When it became popular in the USA, everyone called it porn for housewives... so that might be the genesis of the bad stigma |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
I don't really understand the 50SOG snobbery. I enjoyed the book, it was an interesting work of fiction. It inspired me to seek out some particular things in my own BDSM life, and has given me ideas for some new things to try myself.
I'm also really thrilled that it became mainstream and it introduced lots of new people to BDSM and kink, because there's now a much wider variety of people to get out there and meet, and I find that people are far more accepting of the fact that I'm into BDSM."
Agree with all of that
Unfortunately it also meant that people who had only ever read a book started to behave in the most stupid manner. You should read some of the messages I used to receive from these 'Doms' here
Now, if I want to re-live that experience, I visit a non-mainstream dungeon; not the plethora of clubs which either have the silly men giggling like school-girls or the ill-mannered loud-mouths
Just because the book is mainstream does not mean that the interest is; the interest generated is just an excuse for some lazy kinky sex |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you
You're way too tall and smart for me... I like my women dumb and short "
I could kneel and call you, oooooh 'Master' |
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over a year ago
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"Self-proclaimed t*ssp*ts are just t*ssp*ts. Every time I read dom, alpha-male, master, sir or such nonsense on a profile, I class Him as just a silly little w*nk*r
For some i am sure your on the money. But again those are the people who give Me a bad name.
I put it on my profile so people know not to brag."
"Me"??
Oh dear...... |
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you
You're way too tall and smart for me... I like my women dumb and short
I could kneel and call you, oooooh 'Master' "
Can I keep my socks on? |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you
You're way too tall and smart for me... I like my women dumb and short
I could kneel and call you, oooooh 'Master'
Can I keep my socks on?"
You should DEMAND to keep your socks on just like the true 'Masters' do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with all of that
Unfortunately it also meant that people who had only ever read a book started to behave in the most stupid manner. You should read some of the messages I used to receive from these 'Doms' here
Now, if I want to re-live that experience, I visit a non-mainstream dungeon; not the plethora of clubs which either have the silly men giggling like school-girls or the ill-mannered loud-mouths
Just because the book is mainstream does not mean that the interest is; the interest generated is just an excuse for some lazy kinky sex"
Must be a London thing - the fetish clubs in Birmingham are excellent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you
You're way too tall and smart for me... I like my women dumb and short
I could kneel and call you, oooooh 'Master'
Can I keep my socks on?
You should DEMAND to keep your socks on just like the true 'Masters' do "
Yes .... you're right .... I miss that chapter in 50 shades of grey... |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
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Agree with all of that
Unfortunately it also meant that people who had only ever read a book started to behave in the most stupid manner. You should read some of the messages I used to receive from these 'Doms' here
Now, if I want to re-live that experience, I visit a non-mainstream dungeon; not the plethora of clubs which either have the silly men giggling like school-girls or the ill-mannered loud-mouths
Just because the book is mainstream does not mean that the interest is; the interest generated is just an excuse for some lazy kinky sex
Must be a London thing - the fetish clubs in Birmingham are excellent. "
I think it may be. The dungeons I visit (or rather used to) are a long way away from London and not much publicised; these are run on a non-commercial basis and the entrance fee is based on per-person; couples are two people, single people are well, single. And in any case the fee is pretty much nominal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Agree with all of that
Unfortunately it also meant that people who had only ever read a book started to behave in the most stupid manner. You should read some of the messages I used to receive from these 'Doms' here
Now, if I want to re-live that experience, I visit a non-mainstream dungeon; not the plethora of clubs which either have the silly men giggling like school-girls or the ill-mannered loud-mouths
Just because the book is mainstream does not mean that the interest is; the interest generated is just an excuse for some lazy kinky sex
Must be a London thing - the fetish clubs in Birmingham are excellent.
I think it may be. The dungeons I visit (or rather used to) are a long way away from London and not much publicised; these are run on a non-commercial basis and the entrance fee is based on per-person; couples are two people, single people are well, single. And in any case the fee is pretty much nominal"
Sounds familiar - I suspect we go to the same places. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
I don't really understand the 50SOG snobbery. I enjoyed the book, it was an interesting work of fiction. It inspired me to seek out some particular things in my own BDSM life, and has given me ideas for some new things to try myself.
I'm also really thrilled that it became mainstream and it introduced lots of new people to BDSM and kink, because there's now a much wider variety of people to get out there and meet, and I find that people are far more accepting of the fact that I'm into BDSM."
I think most people bitching about the 50 Shades books haven't even read them, especially the men claiming to be Mr Grey. More like they read the hype and came to some very strange conclusions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think women should really try and help us poor men out.
When you say you like something _ explain fully what you mean by that.When one says they like it rough, it is not always the same thing they are referring to as the next person. Us poor sods will probably get it wrong most of time, not because we are thick, stupid or don't care. We just plain and simply do not understand, your interpretation. So to help youselves, please help us. We are not always clueless, it just seems that way.
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"And i simply cannot stand the essays about this whole nonsense "
So it's not you're thing maybe. Sure we get it, it's you're right. but not all D's are what you think of them. As has been said different strokes for different folks. We for one love the intense pleasure it gives us both and the paradox that it brings compared to our daily work lives. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
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Agree with all of that
Unfortunately it also meant that people who had only ever read a book started to behave in the most stupid manner. You should read some of the messages I used to receive from these 'Doms' here
Now, if I want to re-live that experience, I visit a non-mainstream dungeon; not the plethora of clubs which either have the silly men giggling like school-girls or the ill-mannered loud-mouths
Just because the book is mainstream does not mean that the interest is; the interest generated is just an excuse for some lazy kinky sex
Must be a London thing - the fetish clubs in Birmingham are excellent.
I think it may be. The dungeons I visit (or rather used to) are a long way away from London and not much publicised; these are run on a non-commercial basis and the entrance fee is based on per-person; couples are two people, single people are well, single. And in any case the fee is pretty much nominal
Sounds familiar - I suspect we go to the same places."
I think we probably do
Whilst it is easier for me to get to the 'Popular Mechanics' type BDSM clubs, these are of little interest to me. For anything that I am interested in requires a trek outside of London
There was a serious meeting place in South London but that closed down over 10 years ago. Places like TG have been around forever but that is basically a 'posing party'. I am not about to change my handle to 'Sub_Slut_Slave_Josie' just to fit in with that 'in' crowd nor will I ever be interested in some pudgy bloke with a handle like 'Master_Strict_Top_Dom'
Whilst London caters well for the Swinging and Fetish scene, it leaves anyone interested in D/s with litte choice. But then again, I have always preferred small gatherings, which were in homes, compared to places such as AntiChrist or Subversion Noir, which are basically an excuse for kinky sex and exhibitionism
For a tom-boy ladette like myself who is likely to rip off the dog-collar and use the leash to rope his b*lls and drag him out kicking and screaming, I am in the wrong place
PS. The 'Dom' tying a sheep-shank or a timber hitch never impressed me as I could always do it faster and better |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
After 50 shades of grey every man with a blindfold and handcuffs , thought he was a dom...it's a funny world we live in
That is the US model
In the UK, it is carrying a riding crop with a pissed-off look on ones' face
You have a lot to learn about us; I'll teach you
You're way too tall and smart for me... I like my women dumb and short
I could kneel and call you, oooooh 'Master'
Can I keep my socks on?
You should DEMAND to keep your socks on just like the true 'Masters' do
Yes .... you're right .... I miss that chapter in 50 shades of grey..."
Never admit that you are wrong. You must glare at me sternly and tell me to eat my dinner out of a dog-bowl for daring to suggest remedial action on your part |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any true dom man knows that it's essential to have read and fully understand ......Fifty shades of grey as the Bible to having a successful D/S relationship.
Most of these men will put some reference to this book in their profile... Such as I can be your Mr. Grey .... This will let the sub females know you're serious about your craft and not just a wannabe poser. Similarly in the swinging world true swingers usually have pampas grass in their yards to alert other real swingers of their presence.
It used to be the 'Story of O'. Everytime a 'Dom' mentioned that he had the 'original reprint' (how can a reprint be an orginal?) I knew that I had just come across another super-duper w**k*r
I don't really understand the 50SOG snobbery. I enjoyed the book, it was an interesting work of fiction. It inspired me to seek out some particular things in my own BDSM life, and has given me ideas for some new things to try myself.
I'm also really thrilled that it became mainstream and it introduced lots of new people to BDSM and kink, because there's now a much wider variety of people to get out there and meet, and I find that people are far more accepting of the fact that I'm into BDSM.
I think most people bitching about the 50 Shades books haven't even read them, especially the men claiming to be Mr Grey. More like they read the hype and came to some very strange conclusions. "
The non cliché complaints tend to focus on two things.
1. Consent issues.
2. The often terrible writing in the book. Not the story. For example EE James doesn't know the meaning of the word subconscious. And the constant out there outrageous thoughts in the protagonist head make no sense and are hilarious. It surpasses even Dan Brown and that is a tall order. |
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