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100% straight, no bi guys, DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT!
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By *LUK OP Couple
over a year ago
Loughborough |
Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
no it doesn't mean to say they will freak out if accidentally touched etc they just not interested in bi play. Straight seems to have lost it's meaning on here for men so they may have to emphasize that fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, it would completely put me off - even as a straight woman. Overly negative profiles and declarations like that in general put me off, even if I fit their criteria, if the way they've expressed it is awful then I'm not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only got as far as the hairy arse man bit before I started to feel queasy ....
So I'm gonna go with whatever turns out to be the popular answer on this one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
Certainly. We prefer all to have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Yes but I don't say that because I'm a bi guy,I can play straight and be respectful, but why would I play straight.
I have had meets with couples who have had a 'straight' male half who ended up being let's say not so straight. My point is in this world anything can happen so if the approach is as you said I'd never meet them
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
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Our profile reads pretty similar regarding him being totally straight.
Personally, when I read it on profiles, I respect the honesty, the same as I do with men saying they are bi or bi-playful. Some wouldn't be so honest because they feel it may put people off and limit them.
I tend to read between the lines and "assume" that totally straight male means no sexual contact with a man but is fine to be close to/naked with/limbs touching etc.
I probably assume this because guys/couples we've met state on their profile that they are looking for dp/dvp. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't meet bi guys but I don't think our profile reads as overly negative. We've been involved in foursomes and moresomes and the boyfriend is completely comfortable being naked around and accidentally bumping into other men... there's a huge difference between being next to someone whilst pleasuring a woman, and being involved in bi play. |
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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago
Leicester |
I challenge you to set up a bisexual profile and see how many straight people message you !
There are far too many people on here who will change their sexual orientation to suit .
Anyway rant over ......bi and proud xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a complete no no from us. If they are that freaked out by a bi guy, we have no desire to be anywhere near them.
We have no wish to "molest" a straight guy,but in a group situation body parts can mistakenly touch.
Be live me, if I'm making a real nice on a guy:
1. We will have already clarified that they are open to it.
2. It won't feel like an accident |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it."
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It puts me off. They come across like they are concerned about catching the 'gay' or would be judgemental to others of a different opinion. "
I almost lost a mouthful of tea @ 'catching the gay'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
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It is being negative using caps lock and multiple exclamation marks and the like. If it's usually ignored anyway, and puts other decent people off, what's the point? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
It is being negative using caps lock and multiple exclamation marks and the like. If it's usually ignored anyway, and puts other decent people off, what's the point? "
If it puts others off then obviously they aren't the people you would be compatible playing with anyway.
So no loss on either side . |
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
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That's where we have to disagree. It screams negative and frustrated to me. But if it's working for you and people who you might like to meet don't find it negative then all is well. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
If that was the exact language used in SHOUTY CAPITALS we'd probably give a wide berth as its not warranted.
Most just say they are straight but not bothered by close proximity..which is fine and enough really.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
It is being negative using caps lock and multiple exclamation marks and the like. If it's usually ignored anyway, and puts other decent people off, what's the point?
If it puts others off then obviously they aren't the people you would be compatible playing with anyway.
So no loss on either side ."
Fair enough. You're correct - the way people go about expressing their preferences says a lot about them. It's probably best that they're negative upfront on the profile, to avoid finding that out at a later stage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It wouldn't be them freaking out that would put us off, it would be the fact that that are obviously a total twat to have written that in the first place that would make us hit the block button "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
It is being negative using caps lock and multiple exclamation marks and the like. If it's usually ignored anyway, and puts other decent people off, what's the point?
If it puts others off then obviously they aren't the people you would be compatible playing with anyway.
So no loss on either side .
Fair enough. You're correct - the way people go about expressing their preferences says a lot about them. It's probably best that they're negative upfront on the profile, to avoid finding that out at a later stage. "
Yes better to not have those who find it negative contacting you as you wouldnt be compatible.
So works as a good filter all round.
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By *LUK OP Couple
over a year ago
Loughborough |
"Fair enough. You're correct - the way people go about expressing their preferences says a lot about them. It's probably best that they're negative upfront on the profile, to avoid finding that out at a later stage. "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It wouldn't be them freaking out that would put us off, it would be the fact that that are obviously a total twat to have written that in the first place that would make us hit the block button
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I really see no need. But if it works for them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It puts me off. They come across like they are concerned about catching the 'gay' or would be judgemental to others of a different opinion.
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I'm bi and we have it on our profile, so I'm pretty sure neither of us are judgemental or concerned about "catching" anything... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It puts me off. They come across like they are concerned about catching the 'gay' or would be judgemental to others of a different opinion.
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I'm bi and we have it on our profile, so I'm pretty sure neither of us are judgemental or concerned about "catching" anything..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts us off. It's just very passive/aggressive.
We get it, you're a REAL man! Grrrrr, welcome to the gunshow!  "
Well I guess my username says who I am so I don't really go in for straight lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously."
in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that "
I find this interesting, We have a subTV. With no intended disrespect to anyone they pass for a female better than a good few ladies on here, I do not see myself ever going with a bi-guy & never get a twitch looking at a guy. Do I fit your "Won't play with bi-guy"?? Category?
Just curious..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I find this interesting, We have a subTV. With no intended disrespect to anyone they pass for a female better than a good few ladies on here, I do not see myself ever going with a bi-guy & never get a twitch looking at a guy. Do I fit your "Won't play with bi-guy"?? Category?
Just curious..
S
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depends if you have played with a cock.. if so then yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know why some straight guys think that a gay, bi or bi curious guy will want to jump on them any more than a straight guy finds every woman with a pulse attractive. "
ive never met a straight guy that thinks that..
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I find this interesting, We have a subTV. With no intended disrespect to anyone they pass for a female better than a good few ladies on here, I do not see myself ever going with a bi-guy & never get a twitch looking at a guy. Do I fit your "Won't play with bi-guy"?? Category?
Just curious..
S
depends if you have played with a cock.. if so then yes. "
Nope..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a women I see that on profiles it puts me right off them, if they can't be bothered to use their filters and shout about it it's not someone I want to meet. it's such a useful profile bypass. |
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"We don't meet bi guys but I don't think our profile reads as overly negative. We've been involved in foursomes and moresomes and the boyfriend is completely comfortable being naked around and accidentally bumping into other men... there's a huge difference between being next to someone whilst pleasuring a woman, and being involved in bi play. "
But having someone in the room who is Bi does not mean that Bi play will happen.
I really like beef, and I really like lamb. But I can eat a lamb pie without having to eat beef. Furthermore I do not demand that my cows taste like lamb when they want to just taste like cows.
Having someone in the room who has no problem playing with guys does not mean that they have to do it, it does not mean that they will do it.
It just means that if the opportunity arises where everyone is happy with it, they may want to take part. |
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that "
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed."
Yep although in a lot of cases men just want the sex there still has to be something appealing about them. Generally I am attracted to honest open genuine people whether male or female x |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"I don't know why some straight guys think that a gay, bi or bi curious guy will want to jump on them any more than a straight guy finds every woman with a pulse attractive. ive never met a straight guy that thinks that.. "
I have - and they are usually guys who are the most unattractive to anyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I challenge you to set up a bisexual profile and see how many straight people message you !
There are far too many people on here who will change their sexual orientation to suit .
Anyway rant over ......bi and proud xx "
I know a few who have 2 profiles a bi and straight to get round that, I've seen veri's linked to the straight one woman stating absolutely no bi guys and I know they met them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed."
because i dont find the idea of a guy with a guy attractive.. it makes them instantly not for me. Sex starts in the mind.... for me its an instant turn off..
Attraction isnt just about looks..
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No it doesn't bother me either way. Each one to his own preferences. There's plenty of "fab fuckers" to go around that will fit any and all criterias.
What really annoys me though, is people going around saying that writing in capitals is screaming.
IS NOT SCREAMING, IT'S HIGHLIGHTING...
Screaming is a vocal thing used by your throat and your mouth. On paper/online and in Space, no one can hear you scream.
And if you write in capitals in the woods, even if someone is around, still doesn't make a sound.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't meet bi guys but I don't think our profile reads as overly negative. We've been involved in foursomes and moresomes and the boyfriend is completely comfortable being naked around and accidentally bumping into other men... there's a huge difference between being next to someone whilst pleasuring a woman, and being involved in bi play.
But having someone in the room who is Bi does not mean that Bi play will happen.
I really like beef, and I really like lamb. But I can eat a lamb pie without having to eat beef. Furthermore I do not demand that my cows taste like lamb when they want to just taste like cows.
Having someone in the room who has no problem playing with guys does not mean that they have to do it, it does not mean that they will do it.
It just means that if the opportunity arises where everyone is happy with it, they may want to take part."
I see what you're saying, but in our case there's the additional factor that bi guys aren't my thing either (i'm the female). Just like the other lady posting, i'm not attracted to bi guys, it's just my preference. I'm bi myself, so there's nothing hinky about it, and obviously if I don't know then I don't know, but if I do know a guy is bi or gay I instantly don't fancy them.
So for us, if I don't fancy bi men, and my boyfriend is straight, then it makes sense to put it on our profile.
As for the person who said about using filters... as far as I'm aware there isn't a way to filter MF couples with a bi male? |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S"
nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough. "
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough. "
I'm not sure about the "manly enough" bit, but if my boyfriend wanted to suck a guys cock I wouldn't fancy him. Like you, it's just not for me. In the same way that some guys get turned on at the thought of two women together, some women get turned off at the thought of two men together. I have absolutely nothing against bi or gay men, I just don't fancy them, and there's nothing wrong with that. |
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I'm not sure about the "manly enough" bit, but if my boyfriend wanted to suck a guys cock I wouldn't fancy him. Like you, it's just not for me. In the same way that some guys get turned on at the thought of two women together, some women get turned off at the thought of two men together. I have absolutely nothing against bi or gay men, I just don't fancy them, and there's nothing wrong with that. "
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.. we are all our own people |
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough. "
I wonder how you would feel if that prejudice was turned around on you and men said they wouldn't play with you before you're bi-curious and therefore not feminine enough? |
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I wonder how you would feel if that prejudice was turned around on you and men said they wouldn't play with you before you're bi-curious and therefore not feminine enough?"
wouldn't bother me as id just focus on those that were into me. |
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I'm not sure about the "manly enough" bit, but if my boyfriend wanted to suck a guys cock I wouldn't fancy him. Like you, it's just not for me. In the same way that some guys get turned on at the thought of two women together, some women get turned off at the thought of two men together. I have absolutely nothing against bi or gay men, I just don't fancy them, and there's nothing wrong with that. "
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I'm not sure about the "manly enough" bit, but if my boyfriend wanted to suck a guys cock I wouldn't fancy him. Like you, it's just not for me. In the same way that some guys get turned on at the thought of two women together, some women get turned off at the thought of two men together. I have absolutely nothing against bi or gay men, I just don't fancy them, and there's nothing wrong with that. "
There are plenty of people with all different interests on here to go around. It's not a bad thing to be specific - it's a good filter to get the right type of person. There's someone for everyone out there - it's just finding them that can be the challenge |
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I'm 100% straight but I understand that if a bed is "crowded " there will be some sort of contact but I wouldn't want a guy constantly asking to touch me or suck me. My experience is a lot of bi /curious guys are a bit pushy |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"I'm 100% straight but I understand that if a bed is "crowded " there will be some sort of contact but I wouldn't want a guy constantly asking to touch me or suck me. My experience is a lot of bi /curious guys are a bit pushy "
In that case it's best not to go to meets where bi or bi curious guys are going to be present or just be firm with them if u have no control over who is going to be there. If a guy tells me they're not interested in men then that's fine - there are enough out there who are. |
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"I'm 100% straight but I understand that if a bed is "crowded " there will be some sort of contact but I wouldn't want a guy constantly asking to touch me or suck me. My experience is a lot of bi /curious guys are a bit pushy
In that case it's best not to go to meets where bi or bi
curious guys are going to be present or just be firm with them if u have no control over who is going to be there. If a guy tells me they're not interested in men then that's fine - there are enough out there who are."
That's how it should b,a bit of mutual respect |
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over a year ago
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
I'm straight but get what you mean. But a little male male contact has never freaked me out. Even had one husband who was '100% straight NO BI EVER' that used to hold my cock to guide it in to his wife.  |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?
I'm straight but get what you mean. But a little male male contact has never freaked me out. Even had one husband who was '100% straight NO BI EVER' that used to hold my cock to guide it in to his wife. "
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
They should all shave their hairy arses, problem solved XXX |
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I wonder how you would feel if that prejudice was turned around on you and men said they wouldn't play with you before you're bi-curious and therefore not feminine enough?"
I'm surprised no one has mentioned "real men" yet. I've had sex with straight men and bi men and, mindblowingly, there was no difference in their "manliness" when they were with me. What a load of bollocks. |
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I wonder how you would feel if that prejudice was turned around on you and men said they wouldn't play with you before you're bi-curious and therefore not feminine enough?
I'm surprised no one has mentioned "real men" yet. I've had sex with straight men and bi men and, mindblowingly, there was no difference in their "manliness" when they were with me. What a load of bollocks."
As i said sex starts in the mind... once i know.. its a none starter... people asked why.. that's why for me. Its not bolloxs for me its just how it is |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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What a thought, to shag a guy thinking he was straight and manly enough to then discover he has played with a cock.
How upsetting to then think of Graham Norton ploughing away at your hole whilst he was thinking of a full manscape and eyelash tint.
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"What a thought, to shag a guy thinking he was straight and manly enough to then discover he has played with a cock.
How upsetting to then think of Graham Norton ploughing away at your hole whilst he was thinking of a full manscape and eyelash tint.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"What a thought, to shag a guy thinking he was straight and manly enough to then discover he has played with a cock.
How upsetting to then think of Graham Norton ploughing away at your hole whilst he was thinking of a full manscape and eyelash tint.
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Witty fucker
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"Yes it puts me off.
Negativity breeds negativity and I am turned off by it regardless of its target. It is entirely possible to express your preferences without resorting to it.
Unfortunately sometimes you have to SPELL IT OUT in here otherwise some Bi men think they may be in for a bit of bi play as some seem to think STRAIGHT doesn't mean STRAIGHT !
Thats why people feel it has to be pointed out LOUDLY on their profiles. Even then its usually ignored ?
Its not being negative at all.
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And then in a puff of smoke he is gone...
I sometimes wonder if the people with the most strongest opions are the ones who never actually meet.
I think the totally str8 guys just get on and meet totally str8 people.
The bi members get out and meet others of the same mindsets and stop worrying about the wording on profiles.
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed. because i dont find the idea of a guy with a guy attractive.. it makes them instantly not for me. Sex starts in the mind.... for me its an instant turn off..
Attraction isnt just about looks..
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I don't find the prospect of someone squeezing out a massive shit attractive. But it has no effect on the people when I get my hand on them. They are not shitting generally at that stage.
What they do in the comfort of their private lives has no bearing on me. Or you.
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"I'm wondering whether for some of the ladies saying they don't like to play with biguys a part of it is the awareness that there just may be a chance that the biguy may be more attracted to their partner than them? And may well be eyeing their guy rather than them to keep "interested".
For some I can imagine even the thought of that happening being unwanted and so it is never allowed to happen..either consciously or unconsciously.
Just an idle thought..
S nope i just find it a turn off the thought of two guys together. Sorry but thats why for me and rightly or wrongly i dont see them as manly enough.
I wonder how you would feel if that prejudice was turned around on you and men said they wouldn't play with you before you're bi-curious and therefore not feminine enough?
I'm surprised no one has mentioned "real men" yet. I've had sex with straight men and bi men and, mindblowingly, there was no difference in their "manliness" when they were with me. What a load of bollocks.
As i said sex starts in the mind... once i know.. its a none starter... people asked why.. that's why for me. Its not bolloxs for me its just how it is"
It's fair enough. Not liking homosexual acts and treating those who indulge in them differently as a result has been around for a long time. It's quite ingrained in a lot of people. |
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed. because i dont find the idea of a guy with a guy attractive.. it makes them instantly not for me. Sex starts in the mind.... for me its an instant turn off..
Attraction isnt just about looks..
I don't find the prospect of someone squeezing out a massive shit attractive. But it has no effect on the people when I get my hand on them. They are not shitting generally at that stage.
What they do in the comfort of their private lives has no bearing on me. Or you.
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it does when its a preference.. some seem to struggle to understand that...
I dont find bi men sexually attractive... doesnt mean i think they are some sub species or beneath me. I just prefer not to fuck them. |
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile? no it doesn't mean to say they will freak out if accidentally touched etc they just not interested in bi play. Straight seems to have lost it's meaning on here for men so they may have to emphasize that fact."
or those that feel the need to make a big issue with it need to come to terms with their own sexual identity and orientation and not fixate on the issue or have the egotistical concern that any bi man or gay man is going to fancy them ...
doth they protest too much ? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"What a thought, to shag a guy thinking he was straight and manly enough to then discover he has played with a cock.
How upsetting to then think of Graham Norton ploughing away at your hole whilst he was thinking of a full manscape and eyelash tint.
And they say you can't write sarcasm! "
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile? no it doesn't mean to say they will freak out if accidentally touched etc they just not interested in bi play. Straight seems to have lost it's meaning on here for men so they may have to emphasize that fact.
or those that feel the need to make a big issue with it need to come to terms with their own sexual identity and orientation and not fixate on the issue or have the egotistical concern that any bi man or gay man is going to fancy them ...
doth they protest too much ?"
no I think they are genuinely straight they just need to make it clear because saying straight on this site seems to mean nothing. People lie to decieve others to not lose out on meets or are in genuine denial. The different interpretations of straight on here are unbelievable. |
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed. because i dont find the idea of a guy with a guy attractive.. it makes them instantly not for me. Sex starts in the mind.... for me its an instant turn off..
Attraction isnt just about looks..
I don't find the prospect of someone squeezing out a massive shit attractive. But it has no effect on the people when I get my hand on them. They are not shitting generally at that stage.
What they do in the comfort of their private lives has no bearing on me. Or you.
it does when its a preference.. some seem to struggle to understand that...
I dont find bi men sexually attractive... doesnt mean i think they are some sub species or beneath me. I just prefer not to fuck them. "
No, no, you will find we do understand it.
Preference is another word for choice.
Choosing is another word for discriminating.
What is different about a guy after you learn that he has touched another man's penis? What changes?
Is it that you are not comfortable with the thought of homosexual acts?
If not, other than just calling it a preference, what is it?
It seems rather difficult not to describe it as a dislike for homosexuality and the presumed acts therein.
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed. because i dont find the idea of a guy with a guy attractive.. it makes them instantly not for me. Sex starts in the mind.... for me its an instant turn off..
Attraction isnt just about looks..
I don't find the prospect of someone squeezing out a massive shit attractive. But it has no effect on the people when I get my hand on them. They are not shitting generally at that stage.
What they do in the comfort of their private lives has no bearing on me. Or you.
it does when its a preference.. some seem to struggle to understand that...
I dont find bi men sexually attractive... doesnt mean i think they are some sub species or beneath me. I just prefer not to fuck them.
No, no, you will find we do understand it.
Preference is another word for choice.
Choosing is another word for discriminating.
What is different about a guy after you learn that he has touched another man's penis? What changes?
Is it that you are not comfortable with the thought of homosexual acts?
If not, other than just calling it a preference, what is it?
It seems rather difficult not to describe it as a dislike for homosexuality and the presumed acts therein.
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its simply about sexual attraction... Nothing more or less and as for the acts.. plenty of people frown or look unfavourably at many things that we enjoy sexually.
Like the fetish stuff. I just am turned off by guys with guys. Same as some admit if a guy spanked them or spat on them they would be turned off.
Stop looking for something that isnt there. Sexual attraction and chemistry starts in the mind... and sorry but once that switch is flipped its off.
Same happens with a lot of things.
Im just open enough to admit my preference and try to explain . Doesn't mean I find the people or the acts abominable.. or disgusting. I just find it not sexually for me.. no more.. no less. And im in the minority as many women enjoy it.. |
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously. in our case its me the lady that doesnt want to meet a bi or curious guy as it just isn't attractive for me .. same way I'm not attracted to quiet shy guys or submissive guys... it just flips my turn off switch if someone says and thats that.
Yeah I know in hindsight we have met and played with guys that we later find out they are bi or curious but if I dont know it doesn't bother me but once i do.. sorry its a no. Cant explain it more than that
I don't see how being Bi makes a guy more or less attractive.
They look and act the same irrespective of whether or they have or will be happy playing with guys.
I think it could be quite easy to explain a little more. But it would probably cause an argument and I can't be arsed. because i dont find the idea of a guy with a guy attractive.. it makes them instantly not for me. Sex starts in the mind.... for me its an instant turn off..
Attraction isnt just about looks..
I don't find the prospect of someone squeezing out a massive shit attractive. But it has no effect on the people when I get my hand on them. They are not shitting generally at that stage.
What they do in the comfort of their private lives has no bearing on me. Or you.
it does when its a preference.. some seem to struggle to understand that...
I dont find bi men sexually attractive... doesnt mean i think they are some sub species or beneath me. I just prefer not to fuck them.
No, no, you will find we do understand it.
Preference is another word for choice.
Choosing is another word for discriminating.
What is different about a guy after you learn that he has touched another man's penis? What changes?
Is it that you are not comfortable with the thought of homosexual acts?
If not, other than just calling it a preference, what is it?
It seems rather difficult not to describe it as a dislike for homosexuality and the presumed acts therein.
its simply about sexual attraction... Nothing more or less and as for the acts.. plenty of people frown or look unfavourably at many things that we enjoy sexually.
Like the fetish stuff. I just am turned off by guys with guys. Same as some admit if a guy spanked them or spat on them they would be turned off.
Stop looking for something that isnt there. Sexual attraction and chemistry starts in the mind... and sorry but once that switch is flipped its off.
Same happens with a lot of things.
Im just open enough to admit my preference and try to explain . Doesn't mean I find the people or the acts abominable.. or disgusting. I just find it not sexually for me.. no more.. no less. And im in the minority as many women enjoy it.. "
I understand what you are saying, but all the examples you have cited a similar ideas only have an effect when manifest at that time.
My point is having had bisexual experiences in the past does not alter what you get in any way whatsoever.
Men who have touched willies do not act in a particular way. They don't carry out different sex acts.
If someone does something you don't like to you, fair enough being turned off. But if a guy did something two weeks before even meeting you, it has no effect on you whatsoever.
For instance we have no desire to be involved in watersports and the thought is not a nice one, but someone who had been urinated on a month previous would have no effect on us. Presumably they had washed in that time and if they had not, there would be a more pressing issue that turns us of.
I am not denying your right to have whichever preferences you want to have. But I am questioning the reasons behind them. That is a perfectly acceptable thing to do. |
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I have to say bi/gay guys have no manners when they send messages to straight guys.
They usually consist of offering to pay to suck your cock... offering to come around to theirs and stick your cock in a gloryhole, and my favorite come around to theirs no talking , sit and watch porn in a very dark room or put a blindfold on while they suck you off.
Now I'm sure these same bi/gay guys aren't offering single women and couples these dodgy scenarios. Maybe that's why people are turned off and put these shouty disclaimers in their profiles. They might not be bigots or homophobic at all , just a thought.
Disclaimer to the bigot/homophobic police... I have no problems with people's sexual orientation. I'm just making a honest statement of emails I've received during my time swinging.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I have read in these forums people declaring they are psychically sick at the thought of male on male sex.
Glad to see people have moved on and they no longer have that psychical reaction. |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi."
Wow.
Literally no straight men ever cross your path? |
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"I have to say bi/gay guys have no manners when they send messages to straight guys.
They usually consist of offering to pay to suck your cock... offering to come around to theirs and stick your cock in a gloryhole, and my favorite come around to theirs no talking , sit and watch porn in a very dark room or put a blindfold on while they suck you off.
Now I'm sure these same bi/gay guys aren't offering single women and couples these dodgy scenarios. Maybe that's why people are turned off and put these shouty disclaimers in their profiles. They might not be bigots or homophobic at all , just a thought.
Disclaimer to the bigot/homophobic police... I have no problems with people's sexual orientation. I'm just making a honest statement of emails I've received during my time swinging.
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You make a good point, but I dont understand why people dont just turn messages from other men off. |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi.
Wow.
Literally no straight men ever cross your path?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think my profile is clear that I'm straight. But there is nothing rants about bi guys.....I've played with numerous couples/groups which include bi guys. I've had dp with ladies with a bi guy.... at the time they are not trying to get it on with me or anything like that....I don't see a problem.
I do, however see the problem you may have with some profiles such as you describe.
Scared of catching the "ghey"? Insecure in their own sexuality? Could be a number of reasons...but you have a right to avoid should you so wish. |
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over a year ago
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"I have to say bi/gay guys have no manners when they send messages to straight guys.
They usually consist of offering to pay to suck your cock... offering to come around to theirs and stick your cock in a gloryhole, and my favorite come around to theirs no talking , sit and watch porn in a very dark room or put a blindfold on while they suck you off.
Now I'm sure these same bi/gay guys aren't offering single women and couples these dodgy scenarios. Maybe that's why people are turned off and put these shouty disclaimers in their profiles. They might not be bigots or homophobic at all , just a thought.
Disclaimer to the bigot/homophobic police... I have no problems with people's sexual orientation. I'm just making a honest statement of emails I've received during my time swinging.
You make a good point, but I dont understand why people dont just turn messages from other men off."
yeah I do it depends if you get on the scene an go clubs etc you can make friends with other single guys and talk on here. Possibly forum talking aswell. The 1's who don't do any of that perhaps like the attention, may be bi or just don't know how to use the filters. |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi
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I've read some total bollocks on these forums...usually in politics it must be said. But this takes the biscuit....wins the bollock speak gold medal....comedy classic! |
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over a year ago
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi."
I want some of them drugs you are on to completely escape from reality. |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi
I've read some total bollocks on these forums...usually in politics it must be said. But this takes the biscuit....wins the bollock speak gold medal....comedy classic!"
I think we do protest too much. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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I don't get it, your not here to make male drinking buddies or find mates to go out with on a Saturday night & neither are you interested in getting your tool wet in some guys orifice, so block the fuckers & stop whinging.
Its not blooming hard..
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By *unknSoulCouple
over a year ago
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Think alot of us need to get off this fake world of the forum and move into the real world of meeting real people. Meet them see them chat to them. If you fancy them and want to play you will if they feel the same bi or not. |
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"Think alot of us need to get off this fake world of the forum and move into the real world of meeting real people. Meet them see them chat to them. If you fancy them and want to play you will if they feel the same bi or not. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile says straight and looking for couples. My profile reads as it does, hopefully giving a little bit of my personality away. I don't go into details though, I'd like to think if a couple stumbled across my profile that they'd feel they could ask me anything.
If they did, they'd see I have no issue rubbing hairy arse's by accident. That I'm not home phobic and will meet and play with bi-couples.
Provided they are equally as communicative and respectful of my wishes too. I guess it depends on how well I get on with the couple.
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"Think alot of us need to get off this fake world of the forum and move into the real world of meeting real people. Meet them see them chat to them. If you fancy them and want to play you will if they feel the same bi or not. "
We meet a lot my preferences are my own. And sorry but your last sentence doesn't apply to me. |
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over a year ago
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I'm straight and always felt a bit out of place in a gangbang!! I've been to 2 gangbangs in my time, But all these blokes and one woman and you having to wait your turn!! It can be like waiting in a queue at Alton towers!! One time I was one of the last ones left and it took me ages to cum!! When I finally went I shot so hard I missed the sexy lady and hit a guy on the other side of the bed  !! I did say sorry to him but he wasn't happy at all I haven't been to a gangbang since.  |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi."
rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it"
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"Its an occupational hazard that in an mmf situation, body contact is going to happen. A straight guy really needs to chill out about it tbqh. Just because a guy may be bi or curious does not mean he's going to leap on to the straight m.
That's obviously where communication and discussing the boudaries has to come in. If a straight guy says to a bi guy strictly guys on girl, then the bi guy will stick to that.
In most cases... obviously."
Pretty much this .
As a straight male I don't get them feels about other guys but don't feel the need to assert it on our profile and I'm completely comfortable meeting bi men so long as they know not to try play with me I don't see the issue. I find it off putting though like the OP said I don't want someone kicking off because we accidentally touched.
Either that or I've caught the "fab ghey" already an I'm just in denial |
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People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding. |
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By *unknSoulCouple
over a year ago
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"Think alot of us need to get off this fake world of the forum and move into the real world of meeting real people. Meet them see them chat to them. If you fancy them and want to play you will if they feel the same bi or not.
We meet a lot my preferences are my own. And sorry but your last sentence doesn't apply to me. "
Great that your getting out there in the real world and your preferences are your own. |
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over a year ago
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"You obviously can't read it in context darling, as I am speaking personally from my experience no one else's. As for drugs try leaving the alone for a while. "
It was a joke and a bad 1 I apologise, I can see you probably meet a lot of guys who call themselves 'straight' which could lead you to making statements that people deem sweeping though. |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding."
no i can read perfectly well and since I was about 2 actually but when you see silly sweeping statements like no man is really straight.. well |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding. no i can read perfectly well and since I was about 2 actually but when you see silly sweeping statements like no man is really straight.. well "
Context dear, good grief. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know what everyone it's a free world if people don't want something they don't have to have it.
I have had great times with bi gay and straight people in and out of bed. If you see something on the profile you don't like move on.
People know what they want and we should respect that. |
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile? no it doesn't mean to say they will freak out if accidentally touched etc they just not interested in bi play. Straight seems to have lost it's meaning on here for men so they may have to emphasize that fact.
or those that feel the need to make a big issue with it need to come to terms with their own sexual identity and orientation and not fixate on the issue or have the egotistical concern that any bi man or gay man is going to fancy them ...
doth they protest too much ? no I think they are genuinely straight they just need to make it clear because saying straight on this site seems to mean nothing. People lie to decieve others to not lose out on meets or are in genuine denial. The different interpretations of straight on here are unbelievable."
can I just say I've had 23 straight guys on today asking for a meet. I'd just like them to be open and STRAIGHT with me |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding. no i can read perfectly well and since I was about 2 actually but when you see silly sweeping statements like no man is really straight.. well
Context dear, good grief."
You try some perspective and we will try some context.
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding. no i can read perfectly well and since I was about 2 actually but when you see silly sweeping statements like no man is really straight.. well
Context dear, good grief.
You try some perspective and we will try some context.
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I think clearly you are not capable of either. |
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over a year ago
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding. no i can read perfectly well and since I was about 2 actually but when you see silly sweeping statements like no man is really straight.. well
Context dear, good grief.
You try some perspective and we will try some context.
I think clearly you are not capable of either."
I have to say I have had some of the straightest guys suddenly want to have some fun.. couples with straight male half can get caught up I've experienced it first hand so I actually do believe all of us male or female have a hidden bi side.. but let's just agree never say never |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it
People just can't grasp the skill of reading I guess, and feel the need to defend there sexuality without any understanding. no i can read perfectly well and since I was about 2 actually but when you see silly sweeping statements like no man is really straight.. well
Context dear, good grief.
You try some perspective and we will try some context.
I think clearly you are not capable of either."
Lol. Why do you say that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to say bi/gay guys have no manners when they send messages to straight guys.
They usually consist of offering to pay to suck your cock... offering to come around to theirs and stick your cock in a gloryhole, and my favorite come around to theirs no talking , sit and watch porn in a very dark room or put a blindfold on while they suck you off.
Now I'm sure these same bi/gay guys aren't offering single women and couples these dodgy scenarios. Maybe that's why people are turned off and put these shouty disclaimers in their profiles. They might not be bigots or homophobic at all , just a thought.
Disclaimer to the bigot/homophobic police... I have no problems with people's sexual orientation. I'm just making a honest statement of emails I've received during my time swinging.
You make a good point, but I dont understand why people dont just turn messages from other men off."
I would never turn messages off from men... how the hell would I know my email is working
But honestly I don't block single men on the off chance that a guy wants to message me for a mfm.
Most gay/bi guys that message me aren't rude |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
Appears that straight men are a minority.
Did a quick experiment, with minority groups in mind and took out straight and in place put black in where straight was.
Made me wonder what other labels would have come out? |
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
All part of setting the boundaries up front. If no bi play is made clear then any accidental contact is just that. |
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over a year ago
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"There are guys I have met in Swinging that I instantly thought 'fuck I hope he's straight'.....
Haha, yes indeed
Not sure what that means"
Then my return to the forums has been a successful one. |
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"There are guys I have met in Swinging that I instantly thought 'fuck I hope he's straight'.....
Haha, yes indeed
Not sure what that means
Then my return to the forums has been a successful one. "
Haha seems so!!! Congratulations x |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi. rubbish... Mr is totally straight.. no thoughts.. no secret desires at all. And plenty of other guys like it"
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My profile says I'm not looking to meet (in my book play) with men.
Enough said and I think there's no need to get shouty about it.
Then somebody says there's no such thing as a straight bloke and I'm left thinking of those daft men who say all a lesbian needs is a meet with them to "turn them."
Why is it the male of the species thinks with his cock whether gay or straight? |
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"Education is a wonderful thing shame some haven't had any."
Disagreeing with you does not necessarily signify a lack of education.
It signifies that they think you may not be correct.
Nothing more.
In this context, that is quite defensible.
From the different perspectives available here, you have been informed that there are a great many straight males.
Therefore, from your perspective, you now know that not all guys are bisexual.
Unless you choose to ignore it.
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"My profile says I'm not looking to meet (in my book play) with men.
Enough said and I think there's no need to get shouty about it.
Then somebody says there's no such thing as a straight bloke and I'm left thinking of those daft men who say all a lesbian needs is a meet with them to "turn them."
Why is it the male of the species thinks with his cock whether gay or straight?"
They don't.
But a number of males don't appear to have anything else to think with. |
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"Education is a wonderful thing shame some haven't had any.
Disagreeing with you does not necessarily signify a lack of education.
It signifies that they think you may not be correct.
Nothing more.
In this context, that is quite defensible.
From the different perspectives available here, you have been informed that there are a great many straight males.
Therefore, from your perspective, you now know that not all guys are bisexual.
Unless you choose to ignore it.
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This is because I am talking about my experience on here and various other sites. Of course there are straight guys, I am not that naive, it was a remark on my experience of contact from guys who claim there straight of whom I have had messages from. I get a very large volume of messages everyday from guys and 90% of them claim they are straight and 10% Bi or gay. Now forgive me if I am wrong but surely they would be Bi if they want to hook up with me. I just find all these labels are just that something to hide behind. A little honesty is all I am asking for, I have no issues with straight guys but it just makes me laugh when you read some of there profiles and messages. So in conclusion this is an observation on my part and other people will have a different prospective. |
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"Education is a wonderful thing shame some haven't had any.
Disagreeing with you does not necessarily signify a lack of education.
It signifies that they think you may not be correct.
Nothing more.
In this context, that is quite defensible.
From the different perspectives available here, you have been informed that there are a great many straight males.
Therefore, from your perspective, you now know that not all guys are bisexual.
Unless you choose to ignore it.
This is because I am talking about my experience on here and various other sites. Of course there are straight guys, I am not that naive, it was a remark on my experience of contact from guys who claim there straight of whom I have had messages from. I get a very large volume of messages everyday from guys and 90% of them claim they are straight and 10% Bi or gay. Now forgive me if I am wrong but surely they would be Bi if they want to hook up with me. I just find all these labels are just that something to hide behind. A little honesty is all I am asking for, I have no issues with straight guys but it just makes me laugh when you read some of there profiles and messages. So in conclusion this is an observation on my part and other people will have a different prospective."
But if you use that as the bellwether for if there are straight guys in the world. (Let's not forget that your original statement was that as far as you could see, there were no straight guys) then obviously every one who contacts you looking for sex is going to be reasonably assumed to have bisexual feelings even if they call themselves straight.
That is like the owner of a car garage saying that as far as he can see, everyone on earth drives a car because everyone he deals with every day has a car, because the context he exists in has cars. It is a wholly fatuous statement and has no value.
Obviously if someone contacts you on a site where you contact people looking for sex, they are probably going to be looking for sex. But that does not mean that every male on earth is only ever looking for sex. That is ridiculous. |
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I think this has gone way out of context
I believe the post about on this site no man is straight is based on the fact us bi guys and TVs etc regularly get messaged by guys who have straight on their profile and then say oh but I'm bi really. I imagine bi couples get it even worse.
I have been in situations with straight guys who then get involved with other guys.
Does that make them bi probably not but it also suggests they aren't totally straight either.
Let's just say never say never as people desires wants and pleasures are ever changing. |
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"Education is a wonderful thing shame some haven't had any.
Disagreeing with you does not necessarily signify a lack of education.
It signifies that they think you may not be correct.
Nothing more.
In this context, that is quite defensible.
From the different perspectives available here, you have been informed that there are a great many straight males.
Therefore, from your perspective, you now know that not all guys are bisexual.
Unless you choose to ignore it.
This is because I am talking about my experience on here and various other sites. Of course there are straight guys, I am not that naive, it was a remark on my experience of contact from guys who claim there straight of whom I have had messages from. I get a very large volume of messages everyday from guys and 90% of them claim they are straight and 10% Bi or gay. Now forgive me if I am wrong but surely they would be Bi if they want to hook up with me. I just find all these labels are just that something to hide behind. A little honesty is all I am asking for, I have no issues with straight guys but it just makes me laugh when you read some of there profiles and messages. So in conclusion this is an observation on my part and other people will have a different prospective.
But if you use that as the bellwether for if there are straight guys in the world. (Let's not forget that your original statement was that as far as you could see, there were no straight guys) then obviously every one who contacts you looking for sex is going to be reasonably assumed to have bisexual feelings even if they call themselves straight.
That is like the owner of a car garage saying that as far as he can see, everyone on earth drives a car because everyone he deals with every day has a car, because the context he exists in has cars. It is a wholly fatuous statement and has no value.
Obviously if someone contacts you on a site where you contact people looking for sex, they are probably going to be looking for sex. But that does not mean that every male on earth is only ever looking for sex. That is ridiculous. "
Your argument makes no sense whatsoever and you are making a mountain out of a mole hill frankly. |
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"Education is a wonderful thing shame some haven't had any.
Disagreeing with you does not necessarily signify a lack of education.
It signifies that they think you may not be correct.
Nothing more.
In this context, that is quite defensible.
From the different perspectives available here, you have been informed that there are a great many straight males.
Therefore, from your perspective, you now know that not all guys are bisexual.
Unless you choose to ignore it.
This is because I am talking about my experience on here and various other sites. Of course there are straight guys, I am not that naive, it was a remark on my experience of contact from guys who claim there straight of whom I have had messages from. I get a very large volume of messages everyday from guys and 90% of them claim they are straight and 10% Bi or gay. Now forgive me if I am wrong but surely they would be Bi if they want to hook up with me. I just find all these labels are just that something to hide behind. A little honesty is all I am asking for, I have no issues with straight guys but it just makes me laugh when you read some of there profiles and messages. So in conclusion this is an observation on my part and other people will have a different prospective.
But if you use that as the bellwether for if there are straight guys in the world. (Let's not forget that your original statement was that as far as you could see, there were no straight guys) then obviously every one who contacts you looking for sex is going to be reasonably assumed to have bisexual feelings even if they call themselves straight.
That is like the owner of a car garage saying that as far as he can see, everyone on earth drives a car because everyone he deals with every day has a car, because the context he exists in has cars. It is a wholly fatuous statement and has no value.
Obviously if someone contacts you on a site where you contact people looking for sex, they are probably going to be looking for sex. But that does not mean that every male on earth is only ever looking for sex. That is ridiculous.
Your argument makes no sense whatsoever and you are making a mountain out of a mole hill frankly."
It makes a lot of sense. It just argues against you so by the law of Internet forum debate, anything which disagrees with a particular person or may show them to be wrong has to be ridiculed and dismissed as nonsense.
Fair enough.
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"Your agrument make no sense as you are Bi, as stated on your profile. Hardly a wealth of experience either with just one verification."
What has any of that got to do with the topic?
The number of verifications we have has no bearing on the topic whatsoever and smacks at unpleasant sniping at people just to try and belittle them in the eyes of the onlookers.
Pretty sorry to see that but hey.
Additionally you have no way to know which one of the couple is writing this.
Most important of all, my argument has not anything to do with the personalities, more of basic logic.
If you think that the way to judge a whole sex's sexual practices is through a website where by definition people are going to act in a particular way regarding sexual desires and moreover those who contact a male looking for sex who themselves are male, are most likely to be bisexual or gay (irrespective of what their profile says).
If, subsequently you draw your entire conclusion on male sexuality from that very narrow and skewed perspective then it is not a great surprise that you have come to the conclusion you have.
Furthermore it is not at all surprising that people criticise your conclusion as being basically worthless as it is from so narrow and skewed a background as to give no value whatsoever to the original discussion.
Stop with the unpleasant sniping attacks and discuss the topic like a proper grown up and everyone will have a better time. |
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"Now I (male half) am straight but I think "Not for us" when I see this on a profile.
We've been doing this a while now and we know shit happens. At some stage of the night I might have a hairy arse erroneously rubbing against my thigh, my hairy arse might be doing the same later on, legs might be touching etc. Stick 4 people on a bed and it's impossible to not end up touching at some point.
My worry is that the bloke who is "100% straight, no bi men, ever, don't even think about it, I AM STRAIGHT" might have a freak out if we come onto contact and ruin the atmosphere so I just avoid it when possible.
Anyone else put off when they see this in a profile?"
I just KNOW those profiles guarantee they'll get lied to. A LOT |
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"No such thing as a straight guy now in my experience, take my word for it. Just another meaningless term bandied about in case they put someone off them for being Bi
I've read some total bollocks on these forums...usually in politics it must be said. But this takes the biscuit....wins the bollock speak gold medal....comedy classic!
I think we do protest too much."
I totally agree with the OP. In that such a ratty, shouty profile would put many off...me included.
I have no problem being in group situations with guys of any sexual orientation. But while physical contact (bumping against etc.) is no problem it would not involve any sexual contact with me....
The thing I am laughing at is the post that there is no such thing as a straight guy....that is complete bollocks! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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We aren't put off at all as we only want a straight-as-a-yardstick kinda guy in a three-some. I am only interested in bisexual men when meeting men on my own or when in a three-some where my boyfriend is not present or when we are meeting a couple for a straight swap |
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we would be more concerned as to whether or not the guy was telling the truth as in our experience, we have more 'straight' guys who have messaged us and when we pointed out that we were BOTH Bi, they turned around and informed us that they were Bi, but just didn't want to put bi on their profile incase it put the straight ones off.
Instant BLOCK for us as it proves they were all liars.
don't understand your concerns anyway as your profile says your Bi. |
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"we would be more concerned as to whether or not the guy was telling the truth as in our experience, we have more 'straight' guys who have messaged us and when we pointed out that we were BOTH Bi, they turned around and informed us that they were Bi, but just didn't want to put bi on their profile incase it put the straight ones off.
Instant BLOCK for us as it proves they were all liars.
don't understand your concerns anyway as your profile says your Bi. "
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I have something the same written on my profile.
Badicakly i eas sick of recieving mails that read:
Want me to suck your cock, no one will ever know.
Hi i know your straight but i suck better than ny woman, want to test me?
And other shit like that.
Im straight have enjoyed 3sum's etc i have no problem meeting couples and yes sometimes both guys will touch. But i will not have another man suck my cock wank me off or fuck me. I also wont perform any of those either.
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"I have something the same written on my profile.
Badicakly i eas sick of recieving mails that read:
Want me to suck your cock, no one will ever know.
Hi i know your straight but i suck better than ny woman, want to test me?
And other shit like that.
Im straight have enjoyed 3sum's etc i have no problem meeting couples and yes sometimes both guys will touch. But i will not have another man suck my cock wank me off or fuck me. I also wont perform any of those either.
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What seems to be a common topic is that it would do everyone good if people had enough respect only to send messages seeking an introduction to people who were looking for what you offer.
Men, women and couples would do well to show a little respect and courtesy before spamming. |
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