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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm curious to how many messages people actually get daily!! I see profile updates of people saying they can't cope with the state of their inbox to many messages!! I'm lucky if i get 1 a day but I'm a bloke!! I'm wondering on average what does everyone else get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm curious to how many messages people actually get daily!! I see profile updates of people saying they can't cope with the state of their inbox to many messages!! I'm lucky if i get 1 a day but I'm a bloke!! I'm wondering on average what does everyone else get."
I usually seem to get 4-5 messages a day |
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Depends. If we don't have a status, meet post or put new pics on like sit in silent could be between 30-50. If we have a meet status, meet event or post new photos 50 to 100 depending on time of day.
Worth noting it's easy to fall being if you have a couple of conversations going as when you're online messages keep coming from new people. And that makes messages drop off the page as the inbox only shows the most recent 75 messages received until you delete the newer messages.
Mrs solo profile is another story altogether. Take the above and double it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends. If we don't have a status, meet post or put new pics on like sit in silent could be between 30-50. If we have a meet status, meet event or post new photos 50 to 100 depending on time of day.
Worth noting it's easy to fall being if you have a couple of conversations going as when you're online messages keep coming from new people. And that makes messages drop off the page as the inbox only shows the most recent 75 messages received until you delete the newer messages.
Mrs solo profile is another story altogether. Take the above and double it. "
Now heres a second question! How in the world do you decide which is the right one to reply to because surely i't impossible to read them all and reply?? |
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All the ones that we and see by the message preview saying "hi how are you" or contain words to put us off like "wanna fuck" or "meet me now" we delete without opening. Plus those who don't have the verified tick or a photo attachment. We then read the profiles of those remaining. If profile takes our interest we read the message.
However, when we do fall behind any messages over say a week old we'll delete as they've probably lost interest and moved on or they'll usually message back a few weeks/months later and we'll maybe catch it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All the ones that we and see by the message preview saying "hi how are you" or contain words to put us off like "wanna fuck" or "meet me now" we delete without opening. Plus those who don't have the verified tick or a photo attachment. We then read the profiles of those remaining. If profile takes our interest we read the message.
However, when we do fall behind any messages over say a week old we'll delete as they've probably lost interest and moved on or they'll usually message back a few weeks/months later and we'll maybe catch it. "
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I average around 4 or 5 from people I've messaged before since I have filters on. But that's 4 or 5 conversations rather than messages; I'm not counting a message trail with one person as separate messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I average around 4 or 5 from people I've messaged before since I have filters on. But that's 4 or 5 conversations rather than messages; I'm not counting a message trail with one person as separate messages."
Very sexy bum! Needs spanking
excuse the quick perv through your pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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TBH I only really get messages if I make an effort to sent a few out
N when I say a few
I'm probably lying a bit
I should say it takes A lot of outgoing to get a few incoming
Too many men on here I sort of give up and if someone comes along then great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Few a day here on average. Sometimes none...sometimes a few more.
Worse I saw was a girl from Gloucester, staying over night at mine summer 2015. Checked her mail at 12.30 am....deleted all messages. Checked at 8.30 next morning...over 300. Ridiculous! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I get none but on average between 3-6
Nooo way?! Your pics are enough to make me wanna message xx"
Seriously. My profile acts as a great filter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I get none but on average between 3-6
Nooo way?! Your pics are enough to make me wanna message xx
Seriously. My profile acts as a great filter "
Women with strap ons though... Sod's law would have it in out of your age range and on the other side of the country -.- x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No more than 1 or 2 from new contacts and maybe 15 - 20 from existing ones but it can vary a lot. What filters you have obviously makes a big difference,judging by the amount of bi guys who fab my pics I guess I could easily treble my amount of messages if I changed my preferences. |
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I'm lucky if I get a couple of messages a day most off the time I don't really get any ??
I may up to 20 + looks a day on a good day ??
It's all down to what you're looking for though. As I'm not looking for guys or other TV's then of course my views will be limited.
But this is Better than me waisting your time messaging me though ????
That's my view ????
Good luck to you if want 100s of messages a day of which I'm sure most are pointless ones ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I average about 10 new messages a day and 2 or 3 conversations with friends..
that obviously goes up when I post new pics but I have active filters..
I have had a look at the profiles on here where the posters say they get a lot of mail, and I notice their age range is usually between 20-45, and they are obviously looking for men with no filters on..
I would guess there are more 20-45 yr olds on here than any other age range so maybe that's why they get so much mail |
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"I don't really count. They do fall off the page though. If I put a pic up, that's when the crazy numbers come in. "
I'm not surprised at you get lots of messages as absolutely gorgeous xx
Hope you find lots of friends on here too xxx |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"With filters on maybe 2 or 3 a day. If we allow messages from all then too many to keep up. "
Even when I allow messages mine never gets too crazy. I just wait until they build up and read them all then. Occasionally finding one worth replying to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really count. They do fall off the page though. If I put a pic up, that's when the crazy numbers come in.
I'm not surprised at you get lots of messages as absolutely gorgeous xx
Hope you find lots of friends on here too xxx"
That is really sweet! Thank you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm curious to how many messages people actually get daily!! I see profile updates of people saying they can't cope with the state of their inbox to many messages!! I'm lucky if i get 1 a day but I'm a bloke!! I'm wondering on average what does everyone else get."
I've blocked everyone from contacting me unless I contact them first. I still get about 15 a day from men I'm chatting to x |
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By *vadownMan
over a year ago
Wickham |
TBH I only really get messages if I make an effort to sent a few out
N when I say a few
I'm probably lying a bit
I should say it takes A lot of outgoing to get a few incoming
Too many men on here I sort of give up and if someone comes along then great
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"TBH I only really get messages if I make an effort to sent a few out
N when I say a few
I'm probably lying a bit
I should say it takes A lot of outgoing to get a few incoming
Too many men on here I sort of give up and if someone comes along then great
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you could be right but how many genuine people left this site because of the low responds here? |
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By *vadownMan
over a year ago
Wickham |
"TBH I only really get messages if I make an effort to sent a few out
N when I say a few
I'm probably lying a bit
I should say it takes A lot of outgoing to get a few incoming
Too many men on here I sort of give up and if someone comes along then great
you could be right but how many genuine people left this site because of the low responds here?"
TBH I'm starting to get bored of the struggle of this site. Not a pushy guy but I seemed to not be that attractive to woman or couples on here. Must learn to shine through the chaff |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
secret town |
"I'm curious to how many messages people actually get daily!! I see profile updates of people saying they can't cope with the state of their inbox to many messages!! I'm lucky if i get 1 a day but I'm a bloke!! I'm wondering on average what does everyone else get."
About 20 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I emptied my in box 2 days ago and I have 513 unread messages now. I don't know how many in total though as I do read and reply to some messages but it's impossible to read all of them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have an almost blank profile, so I don't get many random messages.
Messages I get tend to be about forum stuff, or I may get a few messages if I upload some new photos. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends.if you put up new pic you get more.I deleted 1300 last week and have loads agsin but also not many girls on irish site"
Well I must be doing something wrong I might get one a day , when online I might 2 or 3 messages ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually around 3-4 but 90 percent it is Men or Women wanting to meet for sex with money getting paid to them I have reported multiple. Men also tend to tell you what will happen even if after you explain you are straight. |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
I get about 20 to 30 daily and that's with single men blocked. When I've unblocked them it's more 150 plus. I block them to stop the random fancy a fuck messages plus I like to reply and chat to people I can't do that with an inbox 150 messages. I tried typing non stop for 30 mins and ended up with 180 lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I don't update my status or go in the chat rooms maybe between five and ten on average.
If I log on in the early hours because I'm up at 4 or 5am, I'll almost instantly get about 30-40 right then. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Depends.if you put up new pic you get more.I deleted 1300 last week and have loads agsin but also not many girls on irish site"
this number of messages is the reason why I don't send any messages to random woman .
I know that seems hard to believe but its true,
even when my spider sense tells me we are a match I don't bother .
reason why is best explained like this one of my best ever fwbs gave me that spider sense before we became friends ,
i sent her a polite interesting message that was never read never opened . so now your asking yourself how did we become friends well simple one day she sent me a message out of the blue after reading a piece of writing of mine the rest is history .this and other similar experiences lead me to come to the conclusion that random messages are a waste of time no matter how much effort you put into such a message ,
so I now only respond to and message people about forum posts that resonate with me or in response to those who make the first contact with me .
this approach has worked wonders for me and id recommend all guys try it as long as your not desperate and willing to take a more leisurely approach to this game it does work far better as a way of starting conversations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends ... yesterday and the day before.. over 100. Due to new pics and had a met up... average day 15/20 ish .. and I do answer everyone even if it's a no thanks.. I do have filters on my account too |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm curious to how many messages people actually get daily!! I see profile updates of people saying they can't cope with the state of their inbox to many messages!! I'm lucky if i get 1 a day but I'm a bloke!! I'm wondering on average what does everyone else get."
I get a handful of new messages. Maybe 5/6 from friends I've made on the site and known a while.
I don't know how single women with no pics get 50-100 messages a day. Most I've ever had in a day was around 60 and they were predominantly conversations. |
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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
"I don't really count. They do fall off the page though. If I put a pic up, that's when the crazy numbers come in. " we usually get mid teen to thirtyish .but this poster is spot on if we put up pics with story in forum [of what k had on ]while we where out .it can go mad to many to ans private.its not a problem k is flattered .by them as there are so many pretty females on fab [inc last poster]
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get 30+ most days but if I post a new pic, its' in the hundreds. I had 9,500 people view my profile in one day with the latest pics so that generated rather a lot of messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends day to day
I've been logged on about an hour now and have received 24 messages already
If i post new pics i get more, if i go in chat on cam i can get litterary hundreds in a short space |
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"All depends how "active" I am that day.
I'm sitting at 696 unread messages at the moment, but I'd say between 50-300+ a day" I get inundated everyday.I can't always reply to every one.if you speak right to people you have a good chance of finding someone. Dont send one word intros or act like a troll |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single, straight male, looking for women, expect zero speculative messages and if you're lucky, you'll get 100 times that amount!
If I chat to someone I obviously can get a lot of messages in one day. If I do a new search and send out my own speculative messages, I might get a handful of replies. If you put the effort in, you reap the rewards.
If you're a single female, just a blank profile is required to ensure you are inundated - details, updates and photos and you'll be swamped!
Couples, somewhere in-between, I imagine? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One or two - depends how lucky I am. Usually from men asking if I want discreet meets.
I know your answer - put the filters on! However I usually chat with blokes from the forums about more than getting my cock sucked in a glory hole which has the door on the latch.
The whole site is a community and I like it that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We rarely get 1 or 2 a week. To be honest we're not very active i.e. Uploading new pics, updating status or sending messages etc... You reap what you sow I guess ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been having a couple of conversations today so 80-100 so far. But that's just a bit of back and forth.
A female friends of mine had well over 1000 in a few hours after posting some pictures on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Approx 50 a day I recon on a busy day maybe 80. I delete my inbox daily cos I'm not meeting I just scan it first for messages off friends. When I'm meeting I don't delete I read everyone then that's when it escalates. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My old profile for various reasons I didn't deleted and is just hidden I've not logged onto it for over six months but the email notifications are on it still gets up to 3 messages a week.
I don't get why people are sending winks and messages to it, but seems still more than some guys get |
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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
because of this thread we counted this morn.23.4 from friends that message every day.7 from couples .rest from guys most about k pics or when we going cinema or dogging ect again? [ha not doing it again mean counting em,] |
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Hardly any, just had one this morning but it was so long that it was obviously copied and pasted and I got bored half way through! I've just replied with a "well done on reading our profile!" As it was all about how I was turning up at his house and fucking him etc when out profile says we don't full swap and we don't play alone. I mean, credit to him for trying! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get about 2-5 daily from men
1 a week from couples or single females....
It's good to know you have option "
No it's usually some guys asking to suck me off or couples trying to see my friends only pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we aren't doing anything no meet up or anything, I'd say average 2 a day some days none
If we have a meet up maybe 50 actually new messages not counting on going conversations but we do have a lot of filters in place which does reduce it, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I currently only have age filters on and only men can message me, I get about 30 a day. Was a lot different when I first joined. It also alters when I upload new pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I currently only have age filters on and only men can message me, I get about 30 a day. Was a lot different when I first joined. It also alters when I upload new pics. "
I now hide new pics for the first week in private so they don't go on local updates etc. to stop that happening. |
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