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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

How ever you choose to use it.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

It attracts all sorts and they use it as they wish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people actually are using it as a dating site, but I think they're in a minority tbh. Usually when I see complaints about "it's not a dating site!" it's because someone has been rejected and therefore it must be because the rejector is looking for a relationship, not just that they don't want to have sex with them.

So long as everyone is upfront about what they're looking for you know which profiles to go for and which to avoid.

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

there have been guys lately contacting me saying about going out on dates and booking me in like they are taking me out....

but i use it as a sex site

but it is a site for people to use how they see fitt as long as its not abusive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe report them for it as it's against site rules?

...oh. wait.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

The main functions are:

1) women should jump into their cars and drive fast to meet any man with a 2 word profile and get f**ked by him

2) women should call a Taxi and tip the driver to drive as fast as he can to meet any man with a 2 word profile and get f**ked by him

3) As (2) but use a bus instead

Those are the main functions of this site

Other ancillary functions are to start threads asking if this is a dating site because nobody wants to meet someone

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By *oo hotCouple over a year ago

North West

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

Is it not for Swingwers to arrange to meet each other - kind of like making a date to meet up.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

As long as people are honest about their intentions,does it matter?.

I met jack here as a single,neither of us were looking for more,but sometimes it happens.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

anyone can use this site for whatever reason they want..

don't let it bother you OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

The main functions are:

1) women should jump into their cars and drive fast to meet any man with a 2 word profile and get f**ked by him

2) women should call a Taxi and tip the driver to drive as fast as he can to meet any man with a 2 word profile and get f**ked by him

3) As (2) but use a bus instead

Those are the main functions of this site

Other ancillary functions are to start threads asking if this is a dating site because nobody wants to meet someone"

You're very funny

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

The main functions are:

1) women should jump into their cars and drive fast to meet any man with a 2 word profile and get f**ked by him

2) women should call a Taxi and tip the driver to drive as fast as he can to meet any man with a 2 word profile and get f**ked by him

3) As (2) but use a bus instead

Those are the main functions of this site

Other ancillary functions are to start threads asking if this is a dating site because nobody wants to meet someone

You're very funny

No, I was serious.

Some folk are just way too picky and want to have a conversation and look at the person to see if they like them or not and all kinds of 'time-wasting' and 'dating' antics

Me: I just jump in a car and ............

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a site for people that want casual sexual liaison. A swinger or "wife swapper" is a person that wants to be abe to experience sex with other people whilst still being in a relationship with a significant other.

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Everone has their own reasons for being here however, I wouldnt recomend it as a place where you will find a commited monogamous relationship. That being said if you were looking for some one with which to share the "swinging lifestyle" It probably beats match.com hands down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

With all respect, and not wishing to troll, if you're not finding this site is doing what you expect, perhaps take some time to work on your profile?

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

People are free to use Fab as anything. Personally I'd consider it a dating site for a man I think I'd like to date and a fuck site for men I'd like to fuck. A third use of Fab for me is a social site for chit chat site with people who I'd date, fuck, do both or do neither with. No doubt on here the "fuck site" category wins out but why create labels lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

Yup. Plenty of single women do, worst thing is that they fucking deny it like dolts only to come back a week later asking..."Can you have a relationship with someone from fab??"

I would laugh if it wasnt so pathetic.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

People use the site how they wish to. As long as there's honesty I really don't see why people can't use it to find others to date if that's what they wish to do.

If it doesn't affect you, don't let it start bothering you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its a site for people that want casual sexual liaison. A swinger or "wife swapper" is a person that wants to be abe to experience sex with other people whilst still being in a relationship with a significant other.

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

This is NOT a dating site. But people will try and use it as one anyway....and then complain that men "only want them at their beck and call" when their desires are not reciprocated. I honestly dont see why people take issue with men asking people to come straight to meet for sex. Its as if these same people want to be taken on dates before they're shagging...isnt that a date then??

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

I don't need a date. But I won't f**k with some gormless idjit either, whether he is here or in the big wide world

Trouble is that creeps'n'freaks think that just because this is a swinging site, it somehow increases their chances of getting sex here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not wanting to meet men immediately for sex is not the same as wanting to date.

A relationship is the last thing I want, I'm fucking married. If I fancy going for a pint with someone before dropping my knickers, I don't think that's evidence of a misguided desire to be taken on a date.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

People take issue because they want to know a bit about the person first, to see if they want to fuck with them, and also for safety reasons too.

I find it the other way around, men I fuck think I,m their new fucking partner and want exclusive regular fucks. Not what I,m here for. XXX

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By *hetalkingstoveMan over a year ago

London

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

A date is a meeting to see if you might want to form a romantic relationship.

Meeting up to see if you want to have casual sex is not a date. It's sensible and prevents awkward situations where you turn up for sex only to find that one of you doesn't actually fancy the other one, or that one of you has lied about their age or appearance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

A date is a meeting to see if you might want to form a romantic relationship.

In swinging parlance it's called a social meet not a date, but it amounts to the same thing. You get to see each other face to face to see if you like that person enough to go to the next level. In the vanilla world it might be the movies or dinner. In the swinging world its a right good rogering

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it. "

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

But if a particular butcher is only selling bread and you are desperate for beef, then would you:

A) stand there and argue your case until he chucks you out of the shop?

B) go to another butcher?

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By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

A date is a meeting to see if you might want to form a romantic relationship.

I think a lot of blokes forget about the element that all women have to consider, safety.

It's generally not something that crosses our minds. Jumping in a car to go shag someone you've chatted to for 2 minutes seems reasonable...

Until you look at it from a woman's perspective, and the fact they need to at least take some minimal safety precautions. Even if that is just to "sound" someone out a little bit longer.

Crime statistics would probably emphasise why the two sexes have slightly different approaches to the above.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

But if a particular butcher is only selling bread and you are desperate for beef, then would you:

A) stand there and argue your case until he chucks you out of the shop?

B) go to another butcher?"

Go to Tesco

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I want my next relationship (not that I'm in a rush to find it) to be a swingers relationship. I'd say I've got more chance of that here that a vanilla dating site, wouldn't you OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

If bread was on offer while you were in the butchers, then even if you're there for meat you'd still pick up a loaf if you were there and needed bread. It might not be the bread specialist but if it's there, why not buy it?

I see very few people using this as purely a dating site. But there are lots who are clear they're here for sex but open to more if it came along.

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By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

"...I see very few people using this as purely a dating site. But there are lots who are clear they're here for sex but open to more if it came along. "

Unless you are 100% no interested in a "relationship", then the right person can come from anywhere.

Generally it does no harm to have interests in common, when it comes to sex I would suggest a similar mindset would be a real boon.

So in short every site is a dating site to a degree. Even uktrainspotters.co.uk!

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

But if a particular butcher is only selling bread and you are desperate for beef, then would you:

A) stand there and argue your case until he chucks you out of the shop?

B) go to another butcher?

Go to Tesco

Well done

So, off you go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

I see very few people using this as purely a dating site. But there are lots who are clear they're here for sex but open to more if it came along. "

What is your point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

But if a particular butcher is only selling bread and you are desperate for beef, then would you:

A) stand there and argue your case until he chucks you out of the shop?

B) go to another butcher?

Go to Tesco

Well done

So, off you go"

Who are you??

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

But if a particular butcher is only selling bread and you are desperate for beef, then would you:

A) stand there and argue your case until he chucks you out of the shop?

B) go to another butcher?

Go to Tesco

Well done

So, off you go

Who are you??

Someone who is suggesting that you take your own excellent advice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

Maybe they want to date a swinger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

from dating to swinging .. a gradual move up the adult world food chain

its the perfect site .. glad I found it ,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We use it as a swingers site. But as swingers we enjoy the social aspect as much as the sexual, therefore a meet will normally have a 'date' like element to it. I suspect if I were single I would not get away with this, but as a part of a couple it's understood that we can hardly use a dating site to meet our needs.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

I see very few people using this as purely a dating site. But there are lots who are clear they're here for sex but open to more if it came along. "

Our butchers sell vegetables as well as meat. It's still a good butchers though. Maybe not the best selection for veg. Like Fab, excellent as a swingers site, with a few options for other genres.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

However you choose to use it.

This is true, but you wouldn't go to a butchers to buy bread,

You have a choice here different people want different things hense my comment.

I've no idea what your butchers offers mate so couldn't say mine on the other hand offers cakes too so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

A date is a meeting to see if you might want to form a romantic relationship.

I don't agree. If I go out for a few drinks with one of my playmates, I regard it as just as much as a date as if I were single and looking for a romantic exclusive attachment. My husband is the same if he sees a lady alone. Just because it's a sexual relationship doesn't mean we want to spend the whole time in bed. It's nice to go out too.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think one of the beauties of fab is that it's interchangeable for many of us. For instance I first came on here looking for sex and something more then what I was getting at the time. Then fab turned into just a wank site for me and now fab is a place I come to to chat with my friends and put picsome on of myself that I wouldon't be able to get away with putting on Facebook. I'm sure in the future fab for me will evolve again. Xxx

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By *earboynottinghamMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I always thought the main purpose of the site was as a BBC finder.

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I think a lot of blokes forget about the element that all women have to consider, safety.

It's generally not something that crosses our minds. Jumping in a car to go shag someone you've chatted to for 2 minutes seems reasonable...

Until you look at it from a woman's perspective, and the fact they need to at least take some minimal safety precautions. Even if that is just to "sound" someone out a little bit longer.

Crime statistics would probably emphasise why the two sexes have slightly different approaches to the above."

THANK YOU !! For pointing this out. I take a very long time before meeting and many blokes get really cheesed off. I take that time to vet them out before meeting, usually for coffee first then play at mine. If I'm bringing someone to my home I need to be sure. I never meet new blokes at odd hours of the night no matter how much I want (and I've had some really horny moments LOL). Again, for the same reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in a relationship with the other half of this couples profile, so we literally use Fab to find couples or bi fems to join us.

However before I met him, i was on here as a single female, as well as being on pof, tinder etc. I did have on my profile on here that I was open to dating as well as just sex, because in the real world i was looking for a relationship. In the end i met him not through Fab and slowly introduced him to it. Threesomes and group sex were something i wanted to happen within whatever relationship i had, so meeting someone through Fab would have been a way of possibly getting that.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

Err safety is a big deal for single females on here .you could be inviting anyone to your home,I used to laugh at men who wouldnt invite me to theirs when i had a single profile.They would quite happily try and come to mine after 1 or 2 messages .Its not suprising people are cautios and want to get to kbow someone first.Doesnt mean they are after a relationship .

I honestly don't get why people are so concerned with how others use fab.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So it this site a swingers site, a sex site for one-on-one hookups, or an NSA dating site? The title suggests it's a swingers site. But some people choose to use it as a sex site for one-on-one hookups, and some people choose to use it as NSA dating site. Others use it as a swingers site. But the only times I've ever heard complaints about it being used as a dating site, are from men who use this site as a sex site. That seems a bit hypocritical to complain about people using this site for non-swinging purposes, when they are non really using this site for swinging themselves. The thing is dating, swinging and sexual one-on-one hookups all overlap in this wonderful phenomena that I call sexual liberation. People can choose whatever emphasis they want. Where is the rule that if you meet a friend for sex, that you can't go out to dinner before you shag?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it the other way around, men I fuck think I,m their new fucking partner and want exclusive regular fucks. Not what I,m here for. XXX"

I never quite know to believe this...or whether people here are just full of it. I, for one, do wonder how a man who is willing to get serious with the first woman he meets on a swinging site can really be someone of any remote appeal.

Seems like a lot of you need to be more selective

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

A date is a meeting to see if you might want to form a romantic relationship.

Sounds like a date to me. And the usual self delusion which goes on here. Or maybe its just me...I, for one, would immediately lock off anyone who even entertained me meeting them for drinks or coffee on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

I honestly don't get why people are so concerned with how others use fab.

Miss"

I really hate this nonensical safety excuse I see popping up a lot. Its like those who claim their "drink was spiked" when they simply are irresponsible and lacking control of their liquor.

You are statistically much more likely to be raped by your partner/family member than by some random stranger on Fab who has a record of a chat and whereabouts log on both his computer and his smartphone.

These are the same people who will criticize people for not taking too kindly to gangbangs with randoms who now want to jump and pretend safety is a priority for them

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"So it this site a swingers site, a sex site for one-on-one hookups, or an NSA dating site? The title suggests it's a swingers site. But some people choose to use it as a sex site for one-on-one hookups, and some people choose to use it as NSA dating site. Others use it as a swingers site. But the only times I've ever heard complaints about it being used as a dating site, are from men who use this site as a sex site. That seems a bit hypocritical to complain about people using this site for non-swinging purposes, when they are non really using this site for swinging themselves. The thing is dating, swinging and sexual one-on-one hookups all overlap in this wonderful phenomena that I call sexual liberation. People can choose whatever emphasis they want. Where is the rule that if you meet a friend for sex, that you can't go out to dinner before you shag?

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This specification has been relaxed some what for Fab to include anyone that is interested in casual sexual encounters.

Thank you.

A date is a meeting to see if you might want to form a romantic relationship.

I agree with you. I call that a date. But, as you'll see from my other posts on this thread, we're in favour of including a date as part on an NSA sexual experience, and I'm not ashamed to admit that. And however strange that sounds for a swingers site, the amount of NSA fun we have, nobody could possibly accuse us of not using the site appropriately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use it to boost my self esteem with the hundreds of messages I get from all kinds of women ......

Oh no wait I just get men asking if I want my cock sucked ...........

I may just give up lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

Maybe they want to date a swinger

Don't confuse them with logic!!!

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By *-angel-XWoman over a year ago

hell

Because I want to

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

People can use the site as they see fit as long as they remember that others may use it differently

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People can use the site as they see fit as long as they remember that others may use it differently

X"
makes sense

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By *nequeenslutWoman over a year ago

rugeley

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

How ever you choose to use it. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What I've always wondered about the guys who are so against having a social/date (whatever you want to call it). Would they rather stay at home and masterbate, than spend an hour in the pub followed by fantastic sex. Funny thing is, it's nearly always the unverified guys who protest 'but this is a sex site, not a dating site!' It's usually the same guys who won't go to a club too. Yes, if you want this to be a sex site, get off your arse, get to a club, or have a social with a lady or a couple, and you might actually find you get the NSA sex you are looking for. Unless masterbating is more enjoyable (but that's certainly not the purpose of this site).

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By *lakieWoman over a year ago

Oxford

I personally love this site and would much rather see a nice lover of bbw's from here than pic some stranger ive just met in a pub up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Taking basic common-sense safety precautions is "paranoia" now? Fuck me I've heard it all. I assume you'll all be publishing your full names and addresses on your profiles from now on?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not. If I was to find a relationship on here, I would consider myself lucky.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Let me explain the internet to you.

Are you sitting comfortably?

The internet, primarily (apart from being a vast library of porn) is a medium via which, people can communicate.

People will communicate about whatever they wish to, and there is very little you can do to stop them.

People end up dating other people on all sorts of sites, not just those intended for it, and here is no exception.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed loads of posts so if youve quoted then they have gone too sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This went well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Superfreak, however ridiculous you find the concept of a social prior to sex, and however ridiculous you find the reasons that women have for wanting a social, it is in fact the norm to do things this way. It is not the norm for meets to take place without some sort of social first. You may disagree, and that is your right, but there is nothing you can do about it. You can dig your heals in and refuse to do a meet that involves a social, or you can compromise and maybe stand a better chance of having some fun via this site. But sex with no social, outside a club situation, really is very very rare, and that's just the way it is. You have to decide for yourself if you want to have some fun through this site, or if the effort required to get that fun isn't worth it for you.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

This is all well and good but a lot of this forum just exist to tell the female fabbers what they want to hear...because how else will one get laid in a 20:1 ratio?? "

I don't think anyone has ever accused me of "telling people what they want to hear" (this may be a slight understatement), and yet.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love this site. I have received some recipies for banana bread, info on good curry houses, near the hotels I stay at. I get losts of advice, some is even useful.

It is what you want it to be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find it the other way around, men I fuck think I,m their new fucking partner and want exclusive regular fucks. Not what I,m here for. XXX"

I agree with you have had it happen, It's not gender specific

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd like to go on a date but only for a coffee with sex afterwards please.

Offers to my inbox with the heading "bloody hell steve you're a sexy hot stud" and pics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is all well and good but a lot of this forum just exist to tell the female fabbers what they want to hear...because how else will one get laid in a 20:1 ratio??

I don't think anyone has ever accused me of "telling people what they want to hear" (this may be a slight understatement), and yet.....

To my knowledge none of the "telling people what they want to hear" crew have ever got laid by me. It's pretty offputting.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Ok here we go

Yes I use this site for sex. Do I drop my boxers at first women who asks no. Do I keep in contact with people inplayed with - most.

Do i go to clubs meet people and then follow it up on here yes.

If I found a swinger who we both wanted a relationship would I have one - yes

I also perv profiles when horny, talk to friends, talk random shit as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Superfreak, however ridiculous you find the concept of a social prior to sex, and however ridiculous you find the reasons that women have for wanting a social, it is in fact the norm to do things this way. It is not the norm for meets to take place without some sort of social first. You may disagree, and that is your right, but there is nothing you can do about it. You can dig your heals in and refuse to do a meet that involves a social, or you can compromise and maybe stand a better chance of having some fun via this site. But sex with no social, outside a club situation, really is very very rare, and that's just the way it is. You have to decide for yourself if you want to have some fun through this site, or if the effort required to get that fun isn't worth it for you."

Sex without a social is rare? Not for me it isnt. But then women will bend the rules depending upon how desired certain traits are. Remember, there is a big userbase which DOES not participate in the political correctness that you tend to find on the forums.

You're right about one thing though, you can use this site however you like. BUT remember what starts conversations like these, people getting offended that men dont see this site as a place for socials and chit chat. If anything, I found (on the forums mind you) that men who complained about not getting attention are asked to attend socials.

Hmmm...I wonder why...

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why..."

Women don't bend the rules depending on how desired a trait is. They do what they want. So if I choose to fuck someone after a coffee that's my perogative. Likewise if I choose to fuck someone when they come to my hotel.

People don't get offended that men don't see this as a place for socials. What I've noticed in the forums is annoyance occurs when men say it's a sex site. And then there is the entitlement that goes with it. That's what annoys people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why..."

You present yourself basically as a muscly BBC stunt cock. Of course the majority of people who contact your profile are looking for that, and not a social plus one to one meet/regular thing. I don't present myself as a hole for hire, so the majority of serious approaches that I get *are* men who are on board with a social meet first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why..."

If you are getting all these meets with no socials then you haven't got anything to complain about. You would not be in the slightest bit bothered by women who 'bend the rules' because you are getting so much fun with all these women. Yet not one of them has given you a verification. How did you manage to stop these women writing you a veri?

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS over a year ago

london

Hmmm...I wonder why..."

The irony is, your manner here serves as an apposite reminder for one to be careful with whom one meets. Thanks for that x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Hmmm...I wonder why...

The irony is, your manner here serves as an apposite reminder for one to be careful with whom one meets. Thanks for that x

Couldnt agree more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

EVERYONE bends the rules for people they desire. I know we all must pretend we're this magically enlightened species on here...but, ultimately, you will find that the more desirable men on here work a lot less hard for sexual liaisons. I mean, are we really denying this??

"People don't get offended that men don't see this as a place for socials. What I've noticed in the forums is annoyance occurs when men say it's a sex site. And then there is the entitlement that goes with it. That's what annoys people."

And that is exactly why I say women should STOP thinking that men will change because they're on fabswingers. Do you honestly think men on here would choose to attend a coffee/drink session before a sexual encounter?? On fabSWINGERS??? How delusional are you people??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah...but I also think you're the typical singleton on Fab desperate for a relationship and pretending not to be. It seeps through your posts and your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah...but I also think you're the typical singleton on Fab desperate for a relationship and pretending not to be. It seeps through your posts and your profile. "

That's novel - I'm usually being derided as one of the married cheating scum. Excellent profile reading skills, my friend.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Yeah...but I also think you're the typical singleton on Fab desperate for a relationship and pretending not to be. It seeps through your posts and your profile. "

Haha, you're quite a funny one! She's married. On her profile it even states that... but evidently she's desperate for a relationship. Fuck me, this thread has rapidly become absurd.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why...

Because I dont care. I literally could not give one iota about a verification. Its had little to no effect on my ability to meet people either. Take a look at the "do you meet unverified people" thread and you will find (for the right person rather unironically) plenty are prepared to meet someone who is unverified. I also dont perpetually go UNLOS and return so that kinda ties into me not giving much of a fuck.

I have a habit of never talking to people I meet on here after we have had sex. Its not really much of a surprise there is little desire to verify.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The same reason people use POF to find no string sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah...but I also think you're the typical singleton on Fab desperate for a relationship and pretending not to be. It seeps through your posts and your profile.

That's novel - I'm usually being derided as one of the married cheating scum. Excellent profile reading skills, my friend.

Can't hurt to have two husbands

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah...but I also think you're the typical singleton on Fab desperate for a relationship and pretending not to be. It seeps through your posts and your profile.

That's novel - I'm usually being derided as one of the married cheating scum. Excellent profile reading skills, my friend.

Can't hurt to have two husbands

I can't be arsed with more than one, they'd just annoy me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah...but I also think you're the typical singleton on Fab desperate for a relationship and pretending not to be. It seeps through your posts and your profile.

That's novel - I'm usually being derided as one of the married cheating scum. Excellent profile reading skills, my friend.

Can't hurt to have two husbands

I can't be arsed with more than one, they'd just annoy me "

I'm very happy with zero. I must be one of the few single women on here not looking for a boyfriend.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

My point was that there were no rules in place for those women. Women do what they want. Those who are stereotypically attractive do well. It doesn't mean the Fassbender lookalike trucker offering a bareback fuck in a layby is going to find it easier though.

And not delusional in the slightest. I think you fail to grasp that it's a swingers site not a sex site. If you began to understand that perhaps you wouldn't experience the hatred you do towards women desiring socials.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I do think some men choose to attend a social they may even instigate it. Otherwise you're implying all men will fuck everything & anything & I know for a fact some men don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" She's married. On her profile it even states that"

LOL. Doesnt negate what I said. At all. Trust me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I dont care. "

For someone who doesn't care a lot you do seem to get het up a lot on the treads you post on speaking for other instead of just yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" She's married. On her profile it even states that

LOL. Doesnt negate what I said. At all. Trust me. "

Except it does. Because I'm patently not "a singleton". And you may wish to apply that GCSE psychology of yours to my relationship and decide I'm still desperate for a relationship, but don't waste your time typing it because your assumptions will be entirely wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Otherwise you're implying all men will fuck everything & anything & I know for a fact some men don't."

Do you know what I find amusing about here...how statements vary in validity depending on who is saying them. I read a thread yesterday where a bunch of posters were complaining about the very thing you mentioned...now we're going to sit here and pretend men actually want to attend socials.

Yes, there is a small subsection of men who like socials. There is very likely a small contingent of men who like being defecated on. But its a SMALL CONTINGENT. You cant start crying when a site doesnt find itself chock full of men who wont act like a minority of them.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

You can't speak for all men,you might not keep in touch after meets or like a social ,but plenty do.

Many enjoy the social side of swinging

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I quite like some of the dates i've had from here. Meet at a prearranged time and place, have some food, drinks, a giggle in good company, sex and then back to our own respective lives the day after.

I'm not gonna stop doing that just because 'it's not a dating site '

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Kind of works for those that see a bigger picture beyond message a shag site.

Wonder which, statistically, are more successful....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I dont care.

For someone who doesn't care a lot you do seem to get het up a lot on the treads you post on speaking for other instead of just yourself "

And participating in the forum improves my verifications now? OK.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now

Yup. Plenty of single women do, worst thing is that they fucking deny it like dolts only to come back a week later asking..."Can you have a relationship with someone from fab??"

I would laugh if it wasnt so pathetic.

Charming

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kind of works for those that see a bigger picture beyond message a shag site.

Wonder which, statistically, are more successful....

Its telling that you consider having sex as "success".

Beggars and chooser and all that I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can't speak for all men,you might not keep in touch after meets or like a social ,but plenty do.

Many enjoy the social side of swinging"

I am sure plenty do. Hence why they have more verifications. I dont speak for anyone in that sense. Just saying, the less hoops a man has to jump, the better.

Women here need to remember...most of the most successful dudes on here ARE NOT on the forums. The attitudes which pervade really are not shared by many of the people I meet. Its all a little too sanitized.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I dont care.

For someone who doesn't care a lot you do seem to get het up a lot on the treads you post on speaking for other instead of just yourself

And participating in the forum improves my verifications now? OK."

??? what who's talking about verifications

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"You can't speak for all men,you might not keep in touch after meets or like a social ,but plenty do.

Many enjoy the social side of swinging

I am sure plenty do. Hence why they have more verifications. I dont speak for anyone in that sense. Just saying, the less hoops a man has to jump, the better.

Thanks for reminding me. I was beginning to worry I'd just be stuck fucking my way through the forums.

As for the most successful - is that by those who have had the most sex? 'Cause you just mocked that.

And I've fucked a few successful ones (I'm going with ones who are fucking a lot) who aren't on the forums and guess what? I had a coffee/drink with each of them before we did so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why...

I have a habit of never talking to people I meet on here after we have had sex. Its not really much of a surprise there is little desire to verify. "

Lots of people don't care about verications. Lots of people hide their verifications for privacy reasons. But you don't even have a green tick! At least one of those women would have verified you without you asking, because that's what people do on Fab. And it's always the guys without a green tick who complain the loudest. The reason they complain is because they ain't getting meets. But it's very easy to say 'I don't care about veris'. I can assure you, if you have met a number of women via Fab, someone will have verified you whether you wanted it or not, then you would choose whether or not to display it. But you would never be able to get rid of that green tick.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Kind of works for those that see a bigger picture beyond message a shag site.

Wonder which, statistically, are more successful....

Its telling that you consider having sex as "success".

Beggars and chooser and all that I guess."

No it was a simple question, to me success is a positive outcome for all parties, not competing - surely that wasn't a lamppost pissing comment, was it. I'll disengage if it is and let you get on with what I thought was a debate- have fun .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I dont care.

For someone who doesn't care a lot you do seem to get het up a lot on the treads you post on speaking for other instead of just yourself

And participating in the forum improves my verifications now? OK.

??? what who's talking about verifications

Did you even read that post??

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd like to go on a date but only for a coffee with sex afterwards please.

Offers to my inbox with the heading "bloody hell steve you're a sexy hot stud" and pics. "

Crikey!! It worked!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kind of works for those that see a bigger picture beyond message a shag site.

Wonder which, statistically, are more successful....

Its telling that you consider having sex as "success".

Beggars and chooser and all that I guess.

If you're going to present an argument own it. Dont speak about lamppost pissing contests and then talk about perceived success in the preceding comment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Otherwise you're implying all men will fuck everything & anything & I know for a fact some men don't.

Errrr why would I start crying exactly?!

Because for me it's pretty simple to get sex elsewhere with men who do want to meet for a social as well as a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why...

I have a habit of never talking to people I meet on here after we have had sex. Its not really much of a surprise there is little desire to verify.

I knew you would resort to this. Thats right, I dont have a green tick because I never get meets. And i'm just ooooh sooo bitter about it.

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Kind of works for those that see a bigger picture beyond message a shag site.

Wonder which, statistically, are more successful....

Its telling that you consider having sex as "success".

Beggars and chooser and all that I guess.

If you're going to present an argument own it. Dont speak about lamppost pissing contests and then talk about perceived success in the preceding comment. "

Wow who made you forum police. I will ALWaYs talk tongue in cheek, however there will alway be a naming . Think I need a step ladder.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe some are inspired by the Rhianna song 'we found love in a hopeless place'

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't really care if people want to use fab to date. I also don't care if they want socials, no socials, or whatever else they want. It doesn't confuse me when people use a general product for different but related activities. It isn't too hard to find what I'm looking for and to let others find what they want, too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So that's married women (desperate for a relationship), single women (desperate for a relationship), all men who have ever had a drink with someone before sticking their dick in (pandering to the crowd, they really just want a hole, any hole)...have I missed any?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe some are inspired by the Rhianna song 'we found love in a hopeless place'

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

My vagina is super valuable ta $

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Me personally will not fuck anyone without talking to them face to face in a safe place that includes clubs and to me the talking getting to know each other part is the social part wherever or however I choose to do it there will always be a social first.

If a guy won't do that that's fine he can jog on, hasn't happen yet mind but you never know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My vagina is super valuable ta $"

Mine's cheap as owt. That's probably why I'm a desperate singleton, looking for love in all the wrong places.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because I dont care.

For someone who doesn't care a lot you do seem to get het up a lot on the treads you post on speaking for other instead of just yourself

And participating in the forum improves my verifications now? OK.

??? what who's talking about verifications

Did you even read that post??"

To be honest you take over threads seem very het up and bitter and speak for others all the time so no I didn't read it makes treads hard work to read with all the quoting etc.

So I try and bypass as much as possible to get others comments I just thought it was funny for someone who doesn't car you seem to care so much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My vagina is super valuable ta $

Mine's cheap as owt. That's probably why I'm a desperate singleton, looking for love in all the wrong places. "

I've got a bag of crisps and a cider. Is that enough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest, when I first joined I used it primarily to meet people for sex. I still do, but my _iews have changed somewhat. I enjoy the banter on the forums, I have people on my friends list from all corners of the country and I enjoy using the site.

This site can be used however you want it to be.

If I wasn't married, I wouldn't object to meeting someone from here and going on a "proper" date in the hope it may lead to a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My vagina is super valuable ta $

Mine's cheap as owt. That's probably why I'm a desperate singleton, looking for love in all the wrong places.

I've got a bag of crisps and a cider. Is that enough? "

Just the crisps would do

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By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

It's a website, a bucket full of code, a tool to be used however one sees fit.

You don't get too many people complaining when someone uses a screwdriver to open a tin of paint.

Personally I don't want to shag everyone, and those who I do I actually like to get to know, if only a little bit. So for me a social meeting seems the obvious approach.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You can't speak for all men,you might not keep in touch after meets or like a social ,but plenty do.

Many enjoy the social side of swinging

I am sure plenty do. Hence why they have more verifications. I dont speak for anyone in that sense. Just saying, the less hoops a man has to jump, the better.

Who are the dudes you're talking about? People you meet at events or people you have never met, but read the profiles?

I've met a lot of men from the site. All, barring a couple of them, wanted to see me again; some I met more than twice, some up to 10 times. The very few social meets I had were at the request of the man, not myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We use it strictly for swinging sex and only sex. Like our pictures being fabbed too. But can see its going down hill this site single males that message hi......omg that made you stand out from the rest made f so wet and horny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My vagina is super valuable ta $

Mine's cheap as owt. That's probably why I'm a desperate singleton, looking for love in all the wrong places.

I've got a bag of crisps and a cider. Is that enough?

Just the crisps would do

Cheap indeed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why...

I have a habit of never talking to people I meet on here after we have had sex. Its not really much of a surprise there is little desire to verify.

I knew you would resort to this. Thats right, I dont have a green tick because I never get meets. And i'm just ooooh sooo bitter about it.

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Lidl have some stunning, hang on, cheep crisps, never tried them....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm...I wonder why...

I have a habit of never talking to people I meet on here after we have had sex. Its not really much of a surprise there is little desire to verify.

I knew you would resort to this. Thats right, I dont have a green tick because I never get meets. And i'm just ooooh sooo bitter about it.

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

I am more than a vagina.

Although, I'm quite glad I have one, as it got a lovely licking, the last time I had sex

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

"Lidl have some stunning, hang on, cheep crisps, never tried them....

I have they are yummy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing."

Yes. I dont like someone thinking I will waste my time having play dates on a swinging site. As said most of you associate with male fools who will do anything to get laid. The pathetic associating with the pathetic.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I am not interested in social meets

I am not interested in dating

I don't have any concern what others do

I do think the people who are looking to date might be disappointed, but hey... enjoy looking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Waste your time on play dates ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

Do you know whats funny:

"Since I've been using the forums, I've noticed some men complain about women or couples requiring a social meet prior to sex, on the basis that this is not a dating site. This is not something we have personally come across, as we have specifically sought out men who share our more 'friendship' based approach to swinging. And besides, when meet a man for a social it always develops to sex anyway, and preferably the same night!

However, something was said to me on the forums that made me wonder if some men would refuse to meet if a social was required. I wondered why that was. Surely if there is a choice between an hour or so in the pub followed by a high chance of sex, or staying at home with zero chance of sex, it would be more productive to turn the charm on a put a bit of effort towards having some fun. Are there any women or couples who have been rejected because a social was requested first? What do the guys think?"

Interestingly enough, this topic cropped up before. By you. So, I think you know what I am talking about. Sadly, the men in there were a lot less vacuous and sycophantic than the ones here today. And do you know what many suggested? They felt social meets seemed to be nothing more than an additional filter and excuse to get a free coffee/meal.

There are ALOT of timewasters here. A lot. The experience makes me stedfast in meeting anyone proposing some kind of "flirtation test" before we have sex. Its all hoop jumping, due to the power afforded to people here due to the lopsided ratios. I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention.

If any single man on here is truly honest, he has experienced a time waster/no show/UNLOS/fab fantasist. There seem to certain calling cards that many of those types have in common.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Waste your time on play dates ?"

He's on the charm offensive tonight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Waste your time on play dates ?"

Its an American term for parents who get their children to hang out with other children.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Waste your time on play dates ?

He's on the charm offensive tonight. "

I dont consider you remotely attractive. So why would I be trying to charm you? Is that what you want though? For me to say nice things that I dont actually believe??

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS over a year ago

london

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

You have exposed yourself as a very mean person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

You have exposed yourself as a very mean person.

I am. And I love it.

Love your pictures BTW

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Oooh catty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

Do you know whats funny:

Since I've been using the forums, I've noticed some men complain about women or couples requiring a social meet prior to sex, on the basis that this is not a dating site. This is not something we have personally come across, as we have specifically sought out men who share our more 'friendship' based approach to swinging. And besides, when meet a man for a social it always develops to sex anyway, and preferably the same night!

If any single man on here is truly honest, he has experienced a time waster/no show/UNLOS/fab fantasist. There seem to certain calling cards that many of those types have in common. "

A free coffee......really?! I personally don't have the time or the inclination to meet someone just to get a free coffee.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention"

Here's a question. And it's a real question with no other motive. And I'm not insulting you so please try to afford the same in your response...If you believe the words above, and I think that you, why are you here on this site? Why get sex from less attractive swingers when there are prettier non-swinging women out there?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Waste your time on play dates ?

He's on the charm offensive tonight.

I dont consider you remotely attractive. So why would I be trying to charm you? Is that what you want though? For me to say nice things that I dont actually believe??"

Oh gosh. You don't find me remotely attractive. Fuck, my life is over.

What I want I can't actually post. And nor do I want you to charm me, please don't flatter yourself to think I have a smidgeon of desire for that to occur.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"My vagina is super valuable ta $

Mine's cheap as owt. That's probably why I'm a desperate singleton, looking for love in all the wrong places. "

You are super gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

Do you know whats funny:

If any single man on here is truly honest, he has experienced a time waster/no show/UNLOS/fab fantasist. There seem to certain calling cards that many of those types have in common.

A free coffee......really?! I personally don't have the time or the inclination to meet someone just to get a free coffee.

It's easier to reject a guy on a social. If they want to think we wanted free coffee then let them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

We really don't. I'm quite easy to get into bed.

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

A date is a number that you put against a day on a calendar do you can distinguish it from other days more easily. ( 1st, 2nd, 3rd and so on)

It's quite a useful way of making sure that you arrive at a meeting ( any sort of meeting) on the correct day as arranged.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

Do you know whats funny:

If any single man on here is truly honest, he has experienced a time waster/no show/UNLOS/fab fantasist. There seem to certain calling cards that many of those types have in common.

A free coffee......really?! I personally don't have the time or the inclination to meet someone just to get a free coffee.

And thats great. But a lot of men know what I am talking about. Its amazing how many people may be super up for a meet in the morning and then feel ugly later in the evening and want to cancel at the last minute. That happens a lot. Its not about safety, its about insecurity...everyone wants to pretend that swinging doesnt have any emotional pitfalls, but it does. And it reflects in the amount of flux and no-showing exhibited by many on here. I've had many female friends tell me they have cancelled dates for all kinds of random reasons.

I can appreciate someone cancelling before I have set off. What I have no time for is doing Starbucks date only for someone to tell me that they "dont think it will work". Never have. Never will.

Some may complain, but I actually like the stuntcock look...hence why I meet with mostly couples within an hour or two of us arranging the meet.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

If you were into say tennis and wanted a partner into the same you would look at tennis clubs etc...exactly the same thing here. Where in the rules does it say you can't look for a partner?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Lmfao you will hurt peoples feelings man stop it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not interested in social meets

I am not interested in dating

I don't have any concern what others do

I do think the people who are looking to date might be disappointed, but hey... enjoy looking

Neither am not, but some men insist on them, so I have to oblige and waste my time and money on drink, just to get a fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

We really don't. I'm quite easy to get into bed."

And thats...an achievement??? Shame, I didnt know Fab was about swinging not how low ones standards were

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By *rs mischiefWoman over a year ago

Manchester

i use it as a site to explore my sexual fantasy both alone and with a partner. thing is i only meet in clubs so to be honest dont get many arranged meets as the men who message expect a cheap club entry! but the men in the clubs are great

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can appreciate someone cancelling before I have set off. What I have no time for is doing Starbucks date only for someone to tell me that they "dont think it will work". Never have. Never will. "

Is it better to meet for the first time at a hotel and then go 'I don't think it'll work' and fuck off?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

" If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Lmfao you will hurt peoples feelings man stop it

Shush, it's amusing! We can't have him disappear on us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not interested in social meets

I am not interested in dating

I don't have any concern what others do

I do think the people who are looking to date might be disappointed, but hey... enjoy looking

Neither am not, but some men insist on them, so I have to oblige and waste my time and money on drink, just to get a fuck

Oh I see. I get it, you're just as horny as men, just as kinky, just as funny...lemme guess you can guzzle more pints than your male friends and not get d*unk to amirite?? You really are one of the lads!!

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"I am not interested in social meets

I am not interested in dating

I don't have any concern what others do

I do think the people who are looking to date might be disappointed, but hey... enjoy looking

Neither am not, but some men insist on them, so I have to oblige and waste my time and money on drink, just to get a fuck

You seem to dislike women...there is always fabguys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention

For the couples. You know, the MAJORITY of people who swing??

And, interestingly enough, I have found Tinder a lot more straight forward for casual sex than here. I dont think people have any idea how much the lopsided ratio can damage the dynamics for meets.

You know this as good as I do, you can pretend as if you dont because I put the point across assholishly, but there are A LOT of attention seekers here. On a site like Tinder, you're competing with VERY attractive young women...offering the prospect of easy sex is not enough. Here though, you can dangle carrots pretty well due to the sheer amount of men here for a perceived quick and easy shag. The good ole okie doke.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm very disappointed I haven't been subjected to more personalised cod psychology since I revealed my relationship status

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention

For the couples. You know, the MAJORITY of people who swing??

And, interestingly enough, I have found Tinder a lot more straight forward for casual sex than here. I dont think people have any idea how much the lopsided ratio can damage the dynamics for meets.

Cool story bro!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

Waste your time on play dates ?

He's on the charm offensive tonight.

I dont consider you remotely attractive. So why would I be trying to charm you? Is that what you want though? For me to say nice things that I dont actually believe??

Oh gosh. You don't find me remotely attractive. Fuck, my life is over.

What I want I can't actually post. And nor do I want you to charm me, please don't flatter yourself to think I have a smidgeon of desire for that to occur."

I would care, but this would require me finding you attractive soooo....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not interested in social meets

I am not interested in dating

I don't have any concern what others do

I do think the people who are looking to date might be disappointed, but hey... enjoy looking

Neither am not, but some men insist on them, so I have to oblige and waste my time and money on drink, just to get a fuck

You seem to dislike women...there is always fabguys"

No, he dislikes men as well. They're pathetic, apparently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is the main function of fabswingers because im getting confused now "

FAB = Friends And Benefits.

Long as everyone respects site rules then anyone can use this site for however they see fit.

Most importantly, this ISN'T just a sex site.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Purely for forum interest and understanding, define swinging from your persprlestive, sermantics are slipper suckers....

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

I am not looking to date, a relationship wouldn't fit in with my lifestyle right now. However if my circumstances change and i do decide i want to date then i will look on here.

The reason for this? Its because i love the swinging lifestyle and would want to find a partner who also enjoyed it and was happy to share it with me. The chances of finding this out in the real world are slim. Most men would run a mile if i told them what i wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not interested in social meets

I am not interested in dating

I don't have any concern what others do

I do think the people who are looking to date might be disappointed, but hey... enjoy looking

Neither am not, but some men insist on them, so I have to oblige and waste my time and money on drink, just to get a fuck

You seem to dislike women...there is always fabguys"

So wait, do only gay men dislike women? How homophobic

I should report you!!!!

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

" I would care, but this would require me finding you attractive soooo....

My heart well and truly bleeds. I was hoping to lure you in to one of those pesky socials, have you pay for coffee and a meal and you make sweet passionate love to me and then we will start dating but I guess today is not my luck day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

Do you know whats funny:

If any single man on here is truly honest, he has experienced a time waster/no show/UNLOS/fab fantasist. There seem to certain calling cards that many of those types have in common. "

Yep those were my words! Anyway, my husband and I aren't timewasters - no that's something we definately can't be accused of.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention

For the couples. You know, the MAJORITY of people who swing??

And, interestingly enough, I have found Tinder a lot more straight forward for casual sex than here. I dont think people have any idea how much the lopsided ratio can damage the dynamics for meets.

this is fantasy fab land reality is not wanted here.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I'm very disappointed I haven't been subjected to more personalised cod psychology since I revealed my relationship status

I'll flag this and hopefully he will get around to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not looking to date, a relationship wouldn't fit in with my lifestyle right now. However if my circumstances change and i do decide i want to date then i will look on here.

I respect your honesty. But I genuinely dont think there is a massive difference between vanilla men and many who are on here. It does happen, but from the couples I have seen...very, very few started as swingers and ended up still together. Very few.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't speak the truth on here too much or the clique will get you

this is fantasy fab land reality is not wanted here."

Sad isnt it. A clique of saddos so desperately running from the truth.

What really irritates me is the sycophantic "men" who offer support to the foolishness. Amusingly enough they always have tons of "social meet" veris.

Its painfully transparent.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"On a site like Tinder, you're competing with VERY attractive young women...offering the prospect of easy sex is not enough. Here though, you can dangle carrots pretty well due to the sheer amount of men here for a perceived quick and easy shag. The good ole okie doke. "

I do really well on Tinder though. I guess I can dangle my carrots well on both sites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention

For the couples. You know, the MAJORITY of people who swing??

And, interestingly enough, I have found Tinder a lot more straight forward for casual sex than here. I dont think people have any idea how much the lopsided ratio can damage the dynamics for meets.

I haven't pretended anything. I have already had a discussion today about my feelings on this subject on another thread and it's a bit of a boring argument, in my opinion. I was just curious why a man who obviously thinks highly of himself would remain on a site where he has a disregard, bordering on contempt, for the women who are on that site.

So you stay for the couples but still find the attitudes of unattractive single women, mostly in the forums, annoying enough to have debate after debate about and with them. Crystal clear. Thanks for the explanation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it makes u feel better. I swear, some of your desperate to inflate the value of your vaginas.

Finally, the real reason you're so worked up about socials. Amazing.

We really don't. I'm quite easy to get into bed.

And thats...an achievement??? Shame, I didnt know Fab was about swinging not how low ones standards were

Oh, I have high standards, but I don't expect the men I'm attracted to to have to work hard to get me into bed. Mutual attraction is a wonderful thing you know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once or twice I've had a meet without a social but those men have come a cross to me as very polite men and mostly are travelling business men. If on a rare ocassion this has happened my best friend has been on the phone with me for a few mins to make sure I'm happy. Sometimes he listens in if my meet agrees. Also a have a few hidden wepons in my flat.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of women here are sad and feed off the attention that prettier non-swinging women get...hence much of the sex becomes obfuscated by those desperate for said attention

For the couples. You know, the MAJORITY of people who swing??

And, interestingly enough, I have found Tinder a lot more straight forward for casual sex than here. I dont think people have any idea how much the lopsided ratio can damage the dynamics for meets.

this is fantasy fab land reality is not wanted here."

Says the man hiding in the shadows

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

As long as they state what they want up front don't see the issue. Use it how they want. Strings obviously isn't going to be for everyone on here.

Plus if you want a swinging partner at least you don't have to have 'that conversation' with someone on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many "swingers" would actually still be a on this site if they had to pay a membership fee of say £30-40 a month like some other sites?

That would show you who are actually serious swingers and not just here to pass the time because its a free site.

Wouldn't suprise me if no more than 25-30% actally remained?

If that ?

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

Boring, production line, faceless, emotionless sex ... not for us, I am afraid.

We met on here, neither were looking, but my OH was reluctant to have sex first two meets as considered they were dates. I didn't .... my MO was to meet with no social prior. One interesting this that certain posters are putting across is that all men are the same, all women are the same .... is this really true? Or are individuals individual?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I am not looking to date, a relationship wouldn't fit in with my lifestyle right now. However if my circumstances change and i do decide i want to date then i will look on here.

Similar, but not even looking for a partner to share it with me. I am happy single, am more successful single, and therefore plan to remain single. However I would never comment on other people's desire to find a swinging partner on here.

I'm also not sure why the usual suspects have come out to have a pop at the women on here. If I had a shag for every time I see a bloke saying 'If I ever get into a relationship I'll never share her' etc I wouldn't be able to walk. So men are obviously looking for a woman for relationships, they're just not looking on here. At least women are being honest about it.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

So OP, much to the chagrin of a few angry men, people use the site how they wish. But be careful, most of the women are after relationships. Even the married ones.

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

And that's why I suggested that you compromise in order to get a meet. Get to a swing club, or have a drink with a lady or a couple, finish off with a good shag, Bob's your uncle.

Do you know whats funny:

If any single man on here is truly honest, he has experienced a time waster/no show/UNLOS/fab fantasist. There seem to certain calling cards that many of those types have in common. "

Again, funnily enough, I've had nobody waste my time, ever. I've had the occasional postponement, suitably far in advance.

I'm a guy who likes a social, though - I honestly have no idea if I want to fuck someone based on a photo, all I know from a photo is that they have the sort of physical features that I like. I've had maybe only two or three meets in my time here that didn't have a social first, all of which went well, but then, I'd been texting them for a while.

I'm also pretty picky and decidedly not a sycophant, and I certainly don't see fabs as a "how many women can I fuck" contest.

But then, I also don't see myself as a stunt cock. That is quite a boring notion to me.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So OP, much to the chagrin of a few angry men, people use the site how they wish. But be careful, most of the women are after relationships. Even the married ones."

How very dare we!

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By *quirrelMan over a year ago

East Manchester

Reading from the first to the last post I have come to to the conclusion that the majority of the men are only interested in fulfilling their sexual needs, they are showing their sexual frustration by questioning why the women on here aren't dropping their drawers and rushing out in the middle of the night to throw themselves on their cocks. The womens reaction to the frustrated males unable to put another notch on their bedpost is to remind them that they're not here to satisfy their needs, and that they're independent of mind and body. And for that they're being harassed and belittled. My own personal experience is that great sex begins with gaining the ladies trust by touching her soul, treated as an equal but also as a teacher it leads to a better more fulfilling relationship. There's a time and a place for wham bam, thanks you ma'am sex, but a good relationship can be better than sex and lasts longer, so if anyone wants to use this site as a dating site or to chat then no one's got the right to question if they're allowed to use it for that purpose.

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