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over a year ago
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i really shouldn't judge, but i've now known of 3 women who's had a kid from one nighters and kept it. i agree the guys should use protection. though 1 i know said they couldn't get pregnant. the other 2 were people on fab. i don't know if the other two had similar things or accidental or planned
I shouldn't judge but it still feels harsh on the guy especially if there's an element of trust.
and feels more harsh on the kid?
What do you think about accidents?
Am i wrong feeling this way?
i'm not a father btw  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i really shouldn't judge, but i've now known of 3 women who's had a kid from one nighters and kept it. i agree the guys should use protection. though 1 i know said they couldn't get pregnant. the other 2 were people on fab. i don't know if the other two had similar things or accidental or planned
I shouldn't judge but it still feels harsh on the guy especially if there's an element of trust.
and feels more harsh on the kid?
What do you think about accidents?
Am i wrong feeling this way?
i'm not a father btw "
Firstly if the said woman is on here I'm sure she'd love to hear that your "not judging "
But what I don't understand is if you're not the one that she's slept with ..what's the problem?
Everyone has there on reasons for being on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The other two were on fab and didn't use protection and got pregnant, they went bareback because the girl said she was using contraception? Their own fault for believing, not only got her pregnant but could have caught an STI too, so I think it's their fault just as much as the girls. Even if the girl was using contraception there's always a chance of falling pregnant, so if you dont want a baby then take extra precautions and stick something on the end of it. Don't worry about STIs though  |
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"i really shouldn't judge, but i've now known of 3 women who's had a kid from one nighters and kept it. i agree the guys should use protection. though 1 i know said they couldn't get pregnant. the other 2 were people on fab. i don't know if the other two had similar things or accidental or planned
I shouldn't judge but it still feels harsh on the guy especially if there's an element of trust.
and feels more harsh on the kid?
What do you think about accidents?
Am i wrong feeling this way?
i'm not a father btw "
Harsh on the man? He can choose not to have a child, as much as the woman can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tough to bother getting involved when there's kids involved
They made there bed sort of thing
I don't agree with being tricked or anything but
It happens everyday
No one has to have unprotected sex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You know there's these wonderful inventions called confirms that men can use to help prevent this from happening
*condoms
Bloody auto correct "
totally agree! Though if you were to say only see one person and say become fuck buddies, at what point if ever would you not use one? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Mainly because the idea of that happening to me would just freak me out a little i think. Though i'll just use condoms, if i was with someone regularly, i'd prefer without |
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"You know there's these wonderful inventions called confirms that men can use to help prevent this from happening
*condoms
Bloody auto correct
totally agree! Though if you were to say only see one person and say become fuck buddies, at what point if ever would you not use one? "
Unless I'm in a relationship I use them
And people are usually more happy to have babies if settled in a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know there's these wonderful inventions called confirms that men can use to help prevent this from happening
*condoms
Bloody auto correct
totally agree! Though if you were to say only see one person and say become fuck buddies, at what point if ever would you not use one? "
That'd be something you and her would need to consider. Like stated, not all contraception is 100%, some women deceive and there's a risk of catching an STI. So there you have it, just don't be shocked if you get a call to say you're going to be a dad, because you decided not to take precaution too, it's both of your responsibility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could be wrong but we don't know whether it was her intention or not. Sometimes these things happen and having had quite a few meets from here, not one guy has asked whether I'm on contraception and only one has ever asked to use a condom. Why are we still assuming that it's only the womans job to prevent a pregnancy?
It takes two to tango as they say, therefore it should take two people to be responsible. Be it for the protection beforehand or the consequences after. |
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"You know there's these wonderful inventions called confirms that men can use to help prevent this from happening
*condoms
Bloody auto correct
totally agree! Though if you were to say only see one person and say become fuck buddies, at what point if ever would you not use one? "
Well my last relationship started out as fuck buddies. We had a scare after about 4 months when a condom split and I had to take the morning after pill. It was a stressful and worrying time for both of us waiting for me to get my period. I had a mirena coil put in very soon afterwards just to be sure. We kept using condoms for a while but switched to bareback within about 4 weeks so in all a little over 5 months into our relationship. We were exclusive and both tested so no concerns about sti's.
He remains the only person I've barebacked in over 10 years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You are right OP, you really shouldn't judge. It takes two to make a baby. I never understand why it is the woman's fault if she falls pregnant. Why didn't the men wear condoms if they were that concerned? We are in control of our own sexual health etc. Why would someone trust the word of someone they are having a one nighter with? If someone told me they had tested negative for sti's, I'd still ask them to pop something on the end of it. It's common sense. Oh and just for the record, I can't think of anyone who's actually asked me if I'm on a form of contraceptive on here... But a fair few have asked if I'd be willing to go bareback.. Go figure... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You know there's these wonderful inventions called confirms that men can use to help prevent this from happening
*condoms
Bloody auto correct "
Totally agree...
Bloody auto correct! |
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"I could be wrong but we don't know whether it was her intention or not. Sometimes these things happen and having had quite a few meets from here, not one guy has asked whether I'm on contraception and only one has ever asked to use a condom. Why are we still assuming that it's only the womans job to prevent a pregnancy?
It takes two to tango as they say, therefore it should take two people to be responsible. Be it for the protection beforehand or the consequences after. "
agree totally, I have a lady friend who is desperate for a child before she's too old, she genuinely just wants a fuck and go sperm donor. Is that fair on him or the child? Thoughts please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's everybodies choice whether to bareback or not but it's for reasons like this that I feel the choice for me is an easy one when meeting people from Fab.
What I have found more tricky is deciding when to stop using condoms when in a monogamous relationship, even if I trust and care for somebody it takes a big leap of faith to let them be in sole control of whether I become a father or not. |
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"I have a lady friend who is desperate for a child before she's too old, she genuinely just wants a fuck and go sperm donor. Is that fair on him or the child? Thoughts please "
This is simple. She needs to be honest with her intentions, the same as him so that everyone is fully aware of the interaction that will take place. If everyone is satisfied then it goes ahead, if not then it doesn't.
If it is discussed, then it is fair on all parties and no one is to blame as you had the opportunity to back out when all facts were presented.
If two people can't have a conversation about what their intentions are then they are responsible enough to be having sex, regardless of age. |
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I find honesty to be the best policy by all parties!!! If wanting to find a donor,defo not wanting kids or any accidents that may occur!! But all in all if you don't wanna get caught out lads/ladies take precautions!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i really shouldn't judge, but i've now known of 3 women who's had a kid from one nighters and kept it. i agree the guys should use protection. though 1 i know said they couldn't get pregnant. the other 2 were people on fab. i don't know if the other two had similar things or accidental or planned
I shouldn't judge but it still feels harsh on the guy especially if there's an element of trust.
and feels more harsh on the kid?
What do you think about accidents?
Am i wrong feeling this way?
i'm not a father btw "
I think most people reading this can see that you are very much judging them. Claiming not to be is laughable |
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"I could be wrong but we don't know whether it was her intention or not. Sometimes these things happen and having had quite a few meets from here, not one guy has asked whether I'm on contraception and only one has ever asked to use a condom. Why are we still assuming that it's only the womans job to prevent a pregnancy?
It takes two to tango as they say, therefore it should take two people to be responsible. Be it for the protection beforehand or the consequences after. agree totally, I have a lady friend who is desperate for a child before she's too old, she genuinely just wants a fuck and go sperm donor. Is that fair on him or the child? Thoughts please "
Not fair on the man but as has been stated previously if a man doesn't want to be a father he'd better be making sure he uses contraception. Fair on the child, hmmm I tend to think that as long as they're looked after properly it's fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope to God the poor woman in question isn't reading this.
As if getting accidently knocked up by one of these morons isn't bad enough... now you're all saying she did it on purpose. |
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