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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey  iv. on this site for nearly a year now just looking at what's about the area and I really want to try having sex with other couples, iv been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. I really want to tell her but I don't know how too, can anybody give me any advice on what to say to her ??  |
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"Have you ever had passing thoughts about sex with another man?"
That'll get you a pretty good starting point for discussion, as either a 'yes' or 'no' or 'maybe' will be useful.
You can always say you read something in a mate's newspaper about it. There's something in one of the crappy papers every couple of days about swinging. |
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Have she ever expressed an interest in a 4some, watched similar porn etc
We spoke aboutbit for years before we actually done anything
You definitely need to have a conversation if she found out you were on here without her knowledge I'm guessing she'd be hurt and your chances of fantasy becoming reality would be even slimmer |
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Thing is if you're even a bit committed to the idea you've gone beyond the "what do you think of this idea" stage. Something more substancial (but not being pushy) would be to suggest roleplaying as her favourite celebrity or something, get her intrigued by the idea of sex with a different person. Maybe watch porn together, especially featuring couple swapping... |
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Next time you are having sex whisper in her ear about her fucking another man or girl and see what her reaction is if she gets more turned on then your in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey iv. on this site for nearly a year now just looking at what's about the area and I really want to try having sex with other couples, iv been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. I really want to tell her but I don't know how too, can anybody give me any advice on what to say to her ?? "
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You gents who would like to get your partners to join you should know that successful swinging couples have excellent communication. That's the first place to start because if you're unable to even bring the subject up you won't be able to tell each other what you'd like to happen on a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You should bring it up when u having sex,you can blindfold her and say you are not her partner,say you are someone else and whisper in her ears everything you would want to do to her or with her!!see how it goes,if she's naughty and likes it then you have a good chance but if it doesn't do anything to her then it's your bad luck,some ppl have it some don't,she could just be shy and need you to open a door to it;)good luck mate |
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If you can't mention it directly, then seeing how she reacts to the idea in a non direct way. Like watching porn with couples, a joke about opening the window to let the postman watch while you're having sex, joke about threesome or chat about article in newspaper. If you bring it up when she's horny and not horny, you'll probably get different outcomes, and if you bring up what you want vs what she might want. I don't think anyone decides to be a swinger in a minute. |
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"You gents who would like to get your partners to join you should know that successful swinging couples have excellent communication. That's the first place to start because if you're unable to even bring the subject up you won't be able to tell each other what you'd like to happen on a meet. "
this..
and the normal order is to have the discussions before hand, respect not everyone does it that way but the issue when raised and talked about together is probably a lot simpler than saying 'guess what iv'e been up to behind your back'.. |
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"Next time you are having sex whisper in her ear about her fucking another man or girl and see what her reaction is if she gets more turned on then your in. "
Ur raw ! Straight in with the whisper ! That's like the devil babe |
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"Next time you are having sex whisper in her ear about her fucking another man or girl and see what her reaction is if she gets more turned on then your in. "
funny enough..
was very surprised at the response.. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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We both wrote down a list of fantasies with a yes no or maybe next to it as to whether we wanted to act them out or not. We then swopped lists and found we had a fair few that matched and it started from there. |
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"Hey iv. on this site for nearly a year now just looking at what's about the area and I really want to try having sex with other couples, iv been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. I really want to tell her but I don't know how too, can anybody give me any advice on what to say to her ?? "
You say..... Hey babe, do you know that i've realised that you are not enough for me sexually? I'd really fancy having sex with someone else and watching you with another bloke or his woman or both, maybe their neighbour too if the idea is really grabbing you.
I do realise that you haven't indicated that i'm not enough for you and let's face it that's never gonna happen cos i'm not the boring once a month and only missionary with the lights of person in this partnership now am I ?
So waddya say babe ? Shall we fuck other people ? You know you wanna .......  |
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"We both wrote down a list of fantasies with a yes no or maybe next to it as to whether we wanted to act them out or not. We then swopped lists and found we had a fair few that matched and it started from there."
I bet one of yours was watching him yellow to the elbows in marigolds with a brillo, a sink of steaming water and a stack of pans. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"We both wrote down a list of fantasies with a yes no or maybe next to it as to whether we wanted to act them out or not. We then swopped lists and found we had a fair few that matched and it started from there.
I bet one of yours was watching him yellow to the elbows in marigolds with a brillo, a sink of steaming water and a stack of pans. "
Too right  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"Hey iv. on this site for nearly a year now just looking at what's about the area and I really want to try having sex with other couples, iv been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. I really want to tell her but I don't know how too, can anybody give me any advice on what to say to her ??
You say..... Hey babe, do you know that i've realised that you are not enough for me sexually? I'd really fancy having sex with someone else and watching you with another bloke or his woman or both, maybe their neighbour too if the idea is really grabbing you.
I do realise that you haven't indicated that i'm not enough for you and let's face it that's never gonna happen cos i'm not the boring once a month and only missionary with the lights of person in this partnership now am I ?
So waddya say babe ? Shall we fuck other people ? You know you wanna ....... "
Spoken like many a singles have said before now on a swinging site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey iv. on this site for nearly a year now just looking at what's about the area and I really want to try having sex with other couples, iv been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years. I really want to tell her but I don't know how too, can anybody give me any advice on what to say to her ??
You say..... Hey babe, do you know that i've realised that you are not enough for me sexually? I'd really fancy having sex with someone else and watching you with another bloke or his woman or both, maybe their neighbour too if the idea is really grabbing you.
I do realise that you haven't indicated that i'm not enough for you and let's face it that's never gonna happen cos i'm not the boring once a month and only missionary with the lights of person in this partnership now am I ?
So waddya say babe ? Shall we fuck other people ? You know you wanna ....... "
Literally laughing like crazy.
How could she not say yes with a speech like that! 
Eve. X |
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"You gents who would like to get your partners to join you should know that successful swinging couples have excellent communication. That's the first place to start because if you're unable to even bring the subject up you won't be able to tell each other what you'd like to happen on a meet. "
^exactly^ |
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