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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?"
It depends on how long "quite soon " is.
Just because someone shows as online doesn't always mean to say they are as I know often it says I am on when I'm not |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looks like we're on said list lol.
You are too far away from me for me to message. lf l blocked, it was for something else.
OP, are you saying you block anyone to faw for you to travel to ?  "
No. Not at all. |
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?"
No it isn't. If it works for you I can't see a problem with it. |
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?
It depends on how long "quite soon " is.
Just because someone shows as online doesn't always mean to say they are as I know often it says I am on when I'm not "
Same here as we don't tend to log out and with couples they may want to discuss before replying so this could take a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?"
Why would you block them for not replying? Just dnt contact again
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?
Why would you block them for not replying? Just dnt contact again
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How would you remember who you had previously unsuccessfully contacted if you didn't block them? I should use my block button more lol |
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Personally I would only block if they have messaged back and stated no.
Other than that you can see at the top of a profile your previous interactions. If I have mailed before then I wouldn't do so again but you never know - they may have added you to their hotlist and are waiting for that rainy day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nobdy likes a pest.
but i know guys who have messaged me then blocked me before i've had time to even reply and check out their profile. if they expected a reply straight away though then tnat's fine coz that's not how i work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Use it how you see fit, but as others said how long do you wait? I suspect we always show up as online because of how we access the site but I might want to discuss a message with G before replying, and depending on work and family life that can be a couple of days.
Personally I wouldn't block for no reply, I do use the private notes function though, very useful! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?
Why would you block them for not replying? Just dnt contact again
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Blocking them removes them from my search and gives me a sense of finality. Plus I don't do changing your mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I take ages to reply sometimes, mainly because I can't be arsed keeping up with messages. I've replied to people days or even a week after an initial message and ended up meeting them. If they'd blocked me we wouldn't have met. But if that's a trait that bugs you then blocking seems a good tactic. |
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"I take ages to reply sometimes, mainly because I can't be arsed keeping up with messages. I've replied to people days or even a week after an initial message and ended up meeting them. If they'd blocked me we wouldn't have met. But if that's a trait that bugs you then blocking seems a good tactic. "
Hence why I would only block after receiving a no as you never know 
PS love the wetsuit pics! Never meet a diver like you in my scuba days  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I take ages to reply sometimes, mainly because I can't be arsed keeping up with messages. I've replied to people days or even a week after an initial message and ended up meeting them. If they'd blocked me we wouldn't have met. But if that's a trait that bugs you then blocking seems a good tactic. "
You'd get blocked in no time. |
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?"
If message is read, deleted and not replied to then I block, saves the profile popping up in future searches, if read but not deleted I don't block, as they may reply later or if it's a couple they could be waiting until both have read before replying, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Crack on with what works for you. Don't understand why some seem to need advice/justification in using site tools for their individual needs.
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You have misunderstood what l asked. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"I take ages to reply sometimes, mainly because I can't be arsed keeping up with messages. I've replied to people days or even a week after an initial message and ended up meeting them. If they'd blocked me we wouldn't have met. But if that's a trait that bugs you then blocking seems a good tactic. "
Exactly this. When my filters aren't on I sometimes leave messages for a week or so until I have a good hour clear with my laptop rather than my phone and get on with reading and either deleting or answering them then. I'll also sometimes save a message based on the preview that interests me ready to reply when I have the time and inclination to do so, but as far as the sender is concerned it's still unread. I state I do this on my profile so if anyone blocks me in the meantime then it saves me an admin task when I do deal with messages. I see it that we weren't compatible anyway since they would have messaged me due to pics rather than reading what I can actually offer or want (they'd have known I probably wouldn't reply immediately if that were the case) so neither of us has lost out. |
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"I take ages to reply sometimes, mainly because I can't be arsed keeping up with messages. I've replied to people days or even a week after an initial message and ended up meeting them. If they'd blocked me we wouldn't have met. But if that's a trait that bugs you then blocking seems a good tactic. "
Same for me too.
Have to remember also your message may have gotten lost in their inbox OP if they get loads they might not even be able to see it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean hasty because I could be getting a reply if l never blocked so quickly.
So how quickly do you block them then ? "
If they are online, within an hour, easy. Otherwise it could be a day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean hasty because I could be getting a reply if l never blocked so quickly.
So how quickly do you block them then ?
If they are online, within an hour, easy. Otherwise it could be a day."
That's possibly a bit hasty to give someone an hour to reply. You could well be missing out on some potentially very good meets |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I mean hasty because I could be getting a reply if l never blocked so quickly.
So how quickly do you block them then ?
If they are online, within an hour, easy. Otherwise it could be a day.
That's possibly a bit hasty to give someone an hour to reply. You could well be missing out on some potentially very good meets "
Not really, it's flagging up an incompatibility. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean hasty because I could be getting a reply if l never blocked so quickly.
So how quickly do you block them then ?
If they are online, within an hour, easy. Otherwise it could be a day.
That's possibly a bit hasty to give someone an hour to reply. You could well be missing out on some potentially very good meets "
The way I see it, I only want to meet someone who is eager and promt. |
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"I mean hasty because I could be getting a reply if l never blocked so quickly.
So how quickly do you block them then ?
If they are online, within an hour, easy. Otherwise it could be a day.
That's possibly a bit hasty to give someone an hour to reply. You could well be missing out on some potentially very good meets
The way I see it, I only want to meet someone who is eager and promt. "
Lol but how do they know to be eager and promt when you haven't given them the chance to read you message.
And as for being online I can be online and not even look at my messages I'll be in the forum somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mean hasty because I could be getting a reply if l never blocked so quickly.
So how quickly do you block them then ?
If they are online, within an hour, easy. Otherwise it could be a day.
That's possibly a bit hasty to give someone an hour to reply. You could well be missing out on some potentially very good meets
The way I see it, I only want to meet someone who is eager and promt.
Lol but how do they know to be eager and promt when you haven't given them the chance to read you message.
And as for being online I can be online and not even look at my messages I'll be in the forum somewhere. "
They could be eager (that's why I asked this Question) but promt, they were not. Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There could be many potential meets who are eager and prompt as you say. Women get many messages each day and messages are left unopened for a while and not replied to due to the time factor.
It takes ages to wade through messages,check profiles etc etc so if you're in such a rush for a reply then you won't get many meets.
Meets can also take an age to arrange re commitments so if you're in a rush to just get a reply goodness knows what it would be like for someone trying to arrange a meet with you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do what works for you 
I don't reply quickly & I've been blocked before because of it. I just think if it annoyed him enough to press the block button then we weren't compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There could be many potential meets who are eager and prompt as you say. Women get many messages each day and messages are left unopened for a while and not replied to due to the time factor.
It takes ages to wade through messages,check profiles etc etc so if you're in such a rush for a reply then you won't get many meets.
Meets can also take an age to arrange re commitments so if you're in a rush to just get a reply goodness knows what it would be like for someone trying to arrange a meet with you. "
I am not desperate for a meet. If they have such little time to reply, then it's not even worth the chat. I've notice this : hurried, one line replies. Even when they show interest. Just puts me off making an effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't see the point in closing doors. People have varied and changing situations and circumstances. For example we aren't doing private meets at the moment for a number of reasons. That might change. People can block us if they like to save us coming up on searches just because we are not in a position to meet at the moment. Or they can block us because we won't meet privately at the moment, and then we meet by chance in a club and hit it off - only to discover they blocked us. After a couple of years on the scene I've realised people come and go and come back again. New interests are generated where didn't exist before. Some of my liaisons have taken over a year. Should they not have bothered? Of course not we had fun when it eventually happened. Just chill.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't see the point in closing doors. People have varied and changing situations and circumstances. For example we aren't doing private meets at the moment for a number of reasons. That might change. People can block us if they like to save us coming up on searches just because we are not in a position to meet at the moment. Or they can block us because we won't meet privately at the moment, and then we meet by chance in a club and hit it off - only to discover they blocked us. After a couple of years on the scene I've realised people come and go and come back again. New interests are generated where didn't exist before. Some of my liaisons have taken over a year. Should they not have bothered? Of course not we had fun when it eventually happened. Just chill.
Mrs"
I will never go to a swingers club. Thank you for the thorough reply though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Little theoretical situation here!
What if you were to message someone and in this case they weren't eager and prompt, not replying within the hour.
However you don't block them.
Then you accidentally/on purpose message the same person again, however this time they have got time to reply and they do so in a spritely fashion.
Do you forgive the previous misdemeanor and meet them or do you hold a grudge against their previous sluggishness and choose to have a wank instead?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think it's to hasty to block people if they don't reply quite soon when l message them?
ln the past l've just blocked people who never replied (to remove them from any searches). ls that too hasty?"
A few do that why it's worth waiting to reply it can save time from replying later |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Little theoretical situation here!
What if you were to message someone and in this case they weren't eager and prompt, not replying within the hour.
However you don't block them.
Then you accidentally/on purpose message the same person again, however this time they have got time to reply and they do so in a spritely fashion.
Do you forgive the previous misdemeanor and meet them or do you hold a grudge against their previous sluggishness and choose to have a wank instead?
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It would depend how they replied to me before I'd considering saying 'no thank you'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not desperate for a meet. If they have such little time to reply, then it's not even worth the chat. I've notice this : hurried, one line replies. Even when they show interest. Just puts me off making an effort. "
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In that case you've answered you're own question, you're not interesting in considering what the other person maybe upto. You want instant attention back and not suited. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am not desperate for a meet. If they have such little time to reply, then it's not even worth the chat. I've notice this : hurried, one line replies. Even when they show interest. Just puts me off making an effort.
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In that case you've answered you're own question, you're not interesting in considering what the other person maybe upto. You want instant attention back and not suited."
I expect to get it what l give in. I'm not going to jump through hoops for someone that will not reciprocated. If they won't do that, then I block and the no one loses |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Little theoretical situation here!
What if you were to message someone and in this case they weren't eager and prompt, not replying within the hour.
However you don't block them.
Then you accidentally/on purpose message the same person again, however this time they have got time to reply and they do so in a spritely fashion.
Do you forgive the previous misdemeanor and meet them or do you hold a grudge against their previous sluggishness and choose to have a wank instead?
It would depend how they replied to me before I'd considering saying 'no thank you'."
Fair enough!
So in the battle to find out who's soaking vaj gets graced with the weighty proportions of your gentleman's sausage, which would tickle your wedding veg?
"aye, moan then big boy, fling it right intae me!"
Vs.
"yes, I would be very interested in setting up some form of meeting in order to get to know each other on a more social basis, possibly progressing to activities of a more sexual nature at a later date"?
Still a no thanks? |
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"There could be many potential meets who are eager and prompt as you say. Women get many messages each day and messages are left unopened for a while and not replied to due to the time factor.
It takes ages to wade through messages,check profiles etc etc so if you're in such a rush for a reply then you won't get many meets.
Meets can also take an age to arrange re commitments so if you're in a rush to just get a reply goodness knows what it would be like for someone trying to arrange a meet with you.
I am not desperate for a meet. If they have such little time to reply, then it's not even worth the chat. I've notice this : hurried, one line replies. Even when they show interest. Just puts me off making an effort. "
Maybe they aren't desperate for a meet either. We don't typically message for meets as what we are after is a little to niche .... prefer to set up rendezvous and clubs so if it doesn't work out, we can part company .... we are out this evening ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am not desperate for a meet. If they have such little time to reply, then it's not even worth the chat. I've notice this : hurried, one line replies. Even when they show interest. Just puts me off making an effort.
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In that case you've answered you're own question, you're not interesting in considering what the other person maybe upto. You want instant attention back and not suited.
I expect to get it what l give in. I'm not going to jump through hoops for someone that will not reciprocated. If they won't do that, then I block and the no one loses "
that was what I meant by not suited |
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If you expect ab immediate reply then maybe,not everyone will answer as quickly as you want.I hated it on my single profile when someone messaged,then 5 mins later sent another one asking why i hadnt answered,just looks pushy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I know someone who does it, allegedly for the same reasons. If it works for you then go ahead. I often block people who I know I'm never going to meet, saving their time and mine. It's a useful filter, and not just to stop unpleasant messages. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you expect ab immediate reply then maybe,not everyone will answer as quickly as you want.I hated it on my single profile when someone messaged,then 5 mins later sent another one asking why i hadnt answered,just looks pushy.
Miss"
I often find there is a disconnect between how much effort people exert in messaging and replying than they expect in recieving. |
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Your block list use it how you like
Ive had it happen to me, funny thing was I was engaged in a forum debate, then checked mail, read his profile, went to reply and then was blocked, when I went back to my inbox there was a charming message telling me what an ignorant person I was. The original message was only 7 minutes old at this point, so I suppose it could be harsh dependant on the timeframe you're using |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile."
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all "
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your block list use it how you like
Ive had it happen to me, funny thing was I was engaged in a forum debate, then checked mail, read his profile, went to reply and then was blocked, when I went back to my inbox there was a charming message telling me what an ignorant person I was. The original message was only 7 minutes old at this point, so I suppose it could be harsh dependant on the timeframe you're using "
But aren't you grateful when that happens I think christ what would they have been like to meet |
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"Your block list use it how you like
Ive had it happen to me, funny thing was I was engaged in a forum debate, then checked mail, read his profile, went to reply and then was blocked, when I went back to my inbox there was a charming message telling me what an ignorant person I was. The original message was only 7 minutes old at this point, so I suppose it could be harsh dependant on the timeframe you're using
But aren't you grateful when that happens I think christ what would they have been like to meet "
Oh yes I'd rather them show their true colours early on so I don't make the mistake of meeting them |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but..."
he wants to complain Lib, let him do so. People should prioritise replying before life and there's no excuse not to.
I really don't see any point in getting so hung up on it OP. |
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but..."
Come on lib, you should know by now that the forum isn't the place for that kind of logic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Get a grip and move on with your life OP, intead of crying or not crying, or whatever is it you do!
No one cares about your existential issue with your block list. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but..."
Funny, I thought it was a conversation and l took it as such. I wasn't particularly looking for one answer. Did you think your three line story would completely solve the problem you thought l had? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get a grip and move on with your life OP, intead of crying or not crying, or whatever is it you do!
No one cares about your existential issue with your block list. "
And yet you cared enough to comment. Thank you. |
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but...
Funny, I thought it was a conversation and l took it as such. I wasn't particularly looking for one answer. Did you think your three line story would completely solve the problem you thought l had? "
His story was a bit longer than three lines
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You can block whoever you like ....
But remember that yours is not the only message they will get ...some folks take time to trawl through all the messages and in between that ... go to work, and have family stuff to deal with ..... be nice OP .... give people time
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but...
Funny, I thought it was a conversation and l took it as such. I wasn't particularly looking for one answer. Did you think your three line story would completely solve the problem you thought l had?
His story was a bit longer than three lines
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He should change his name to Lib Brontë. |
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Just to add as a thought OP. As said above it's hard to answer every message, there's a fella I've been meeting over a period of about three years, who just kept gently messaging, I was able to answer eventually and we got along nicely. I can see there's merit in both approaches though. |
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"Just to add as a thought OP. As said above it's hard to answer every message, there's a fella I've been meeting over a period of about three years, who just kept gently messaging, I was able to answer eventually and we got along nicely. I can see there's merit in both approaches though. "
I'm sure there is. Like he name btw. I bet you played Ecco the Dolphin on the Sega. Haha. |
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but...
Funny, I thought it was a conversation and l took it as such. I wasn't particularly looking for one answer. Did you think your three line story would completely solve the problem you thought l had? "
It wasn't a conversation, it was the equivalent of those of one of those sheets of paper covered in outlined drawings accompanied by a small pack of cheap crayons that you get in family restaurants to keep children amused so the adults can talk. |
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"I logged on to Fab once while at work and had a message from someone I'd never spoken to before. I read it and then went in to a meeting. I didn't really have a chance to reply until later that day and when I went to reply and had blocked (and I'm guessing that's why).
Do what you like - it's your profile.
I don't mind when that happens to me. I dish blocks out after all
I didn't mind at all - I was just trying to point out that people have lives away from Fab.
I thought a little story might help, but...
Funny, I thought it was a conversation and l took it as such. I wasn't particularly looking for one answer. Did you think your three line story would completely solve the problem you thought l had?
It wasn't a conversation, it was the equivalent of those of one of those sheets of paper covered in outlined drawings accompanied by a small pack of cheap crayons that you get in family restaurants to keep children amused so the adults can talk."
Appalling comeback mate. And l was calling you Lib Brontë as well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And for the record, I did say that it was usually for those who were online, not people off living their lives. Thanks for the misrepresentation though.
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"Just to add as a thought OP. As said above it's hard to answer every message, there's a fella I've been meeting over a period of about three years, who just kept gently messaging, I was able to answer eventually and we got along nicely. I can see there's merit in both approaches though.
I'm sure there is. Like he name btw. I bet you played Ecco the Dolphin on the Sega. Haha. "
Haha no, I hadn't heard of it, just coincidence. As an aside I've literally just been blocked for saying I wasn't meeting today. Ah life |
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"And for the record, I did say that it was usually for those who were online, not people off living their lives. Thanks for the misrepresentation though.
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Being online doesn't mean someone's checking messages though
I leave fab open and up often and get but you where online, no I was doing something else just my page refreshes itself so it appear that way. |
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"Just to add as a thought OP. As said above it's hard to answer every message, there's a fella I've been meeting over a period of about three years, who just kept gently messaging, I was able to answer eventually and we got along nicely. I can see there's merit in both approaches though.
I'm sure there is. Like he name btw. I bet you played Ecco the Dolphin on the Sega. Haha.
Haha no, I hadn't heard of it, just coincidence. As an aside I've literally just been blocked for saying I wasn't meeting today. Ah life "
I jinxed you. Lol. |
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The arrangement my husband and I have is that he processes all messages from new people, particularly single men. But I could be on-line dicking around on the forums thus leaving a message unread, and people might wonder why the message isn't being opened. Then when Mr steps out for a coffee when he's at work he might open any messages that come through. He makes the decision whether to delete or leave for me to have a look at. If it warrants a reply we will probably reply together if it's a single man, but that won't be until at least that evening if not the next day because we have to wait until we are both free to reply together. Ironically if we are interested in the man we will probably take a bit longer to reply, because we want to get the reply right and really impress. If it's a couple enquiring about our house parties, I will reply. But there may be a time delay from him opening to me/us replying. That's the problem with couples - 2 people have to see the message before something can be done.
Fundamentally i think as long as people using this site are having fun, then that's all that matters. To me, a delayed reply has no bearing on the fun someone might have. I don't even think a delayed reply is a reflection on how keen someone is. It takes time for interest and attraction to be generated and I feel it's unrealistic for that level of keenness to be in place from one message. Blocking someone for not being prompt enough at the first message, to me would be cutting off my nose to spite my face. Personally I'd rather have some sexy fun with someone I really fancy, than missing out because they took too long to reply.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Block whoever you want, some nights, I'm not in the right frame of mind to answer messages so might come across as a right cunt if I did, so you might be missing out on some people....then again you might not |
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