"It all depends who they both are. Some people are/get more jealous, despite what they said initially."
When I told them about the site they suggested it but I'm dubious and scared it could cause issues. Long time friends too |
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"It all depends on the dynamic. I have a few friends where I have had sex with their partner, either in the past or recently, and it doesn't spoil the friendship. "
You mean with other partner knowing one assumes? |
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over a year ago
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Nope, I'm a firm believer of not pooping where I eat for lack of a better term.
It could go wrong, we would never know until after and then it's too late.
Our friends are all far too scared to try anything like this anyway so not a worry for us.
Eve. X |
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"Nope, I'm a firm believer of not pooping where I eat for lack of a better term.
It could go wrong, we would never know until after and then it's too late.
Our friends are all far too scared to try anything like this anyway so not a worry for us.
Eve. X"
Hi Eve, thanks for reply. Yes I agree, it may be nice at the time but it could get tricky thereafter I think? |
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"It all depends on the dynamic. I have a few friends where I have had sex with their partner, either in the past or recently, and it doesn't spoil the friendship.
You mean with other partner knowing one assumes?"
Oh yes.
But then a lot of my friends are swingers or otherwise identify as non-monogamous. On occasions I can be in a room of friends and it's easier to talk about who hasn't fucked who.
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We had a male friend who was invited to join us for 3somes.
Went on for a couple of years of good fun, until he started developing feelings for Velma.
Haven't seen him for 2 years now. Friendship obliterated.
As long as you all know the risks. |
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"We had a male friend who was invited to join us for 3somes.
Went on for a couple of years of good fun, until he started developing feelings for Velma.
Haven't seen him for 2 years now. Friendship obliterated.
As long as you all know the risks."
Yes that is the worry and all for the sake of a bit of fun. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
One or two we would but only because we know where they stand already.
In your situation if it was the night you told them about this place?
No, not in a million years, let them ponder it & let them get back to you..
S |
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I don't lead a double life, and neither do most of my swinging friends. I would say that it does depend on the dynamic.
Have they shared sex with friends before? Are they experienced swingers or is this their first experience?
Mind you, 13 years on we are still friends with my wife's first lover. There are people who can go from friends, to FWB, and back again. My best mate is someone who's wife I used to fuck years ago. |
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"One or two we would but only because we know where they stand already.
In your situation if it was the night you told them about this place?
No, not in a million years, let them ponder it & let them get back to you..
S"
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I think it really does depend on the friends. Whatever you do, spend more time talking about it with them. Especially if this is new to them.
I am friends with quite a few men who have had sex with my wife, and I am friends with quite a few men who's wives/partners I have had sex with...but I have always been relatively open about this as a lifestyle. When I am with my best mate, we occasionally "compare notes". When I go out to dinner with him and his wife, sometimes the talk is of experiences we've had. I think you need that level of openness for it to work with friends.
On the other hand, if any of you feel it's something to do and then never mention again....it will always be there, the elephant in the room. |
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"I think it really does depend on the friends. Whatever you do, spend more time talking about it with them. Especially if this is new to them.
I am friends with quite a few men who have had sex with my wife, and I am friends with quite a few men who's wives/partners I have had sex with...but I have always been relatively open about this as a lifestyle. When I am with my best mate, we occasionally "compare notes". When I go out to dinner with him and his wife, sometimes the talk is of experiences we've had. I think you need that level of openness for it to work with friends.
On the other hand, if any of you feel it's something to do and then never mention again....it will always be there, the elephant in the room. "
Thank you for your valuable input. |
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We have had threesomes with two of our girl friends, both times have been brilliant and we are still very good friends with both. Think you just have to set out exactly what you all want so there are no misunderstandings.
If your friendships are deep enough then it's just fulfilling a need, what are friends for if not to help each other out  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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HUGELY erotic when a long term vanilla friend finally gets to sleep with Mrs Cooljee. It's happened a couple of times now with us and has been really, really horny every time.
It's also super horny when we host a dinner party and Mrs Cooljee wears no knickers. Subtly being fingered under the table by one friend, whilst trying to keep a straight face and hold a conversation with another is quite a challenge. |
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"We have had threesomes with two of our girl friends, both times have been brilliant and we are still very good friends with both. Think you just have to set out exactly what you all want so there are no misunderstandings.
If your friendships are deep enough then it's just fulfilling a need, what are friends for if not to help each other out "
Yes boundaries and expectations |
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"HUGELY erotic when a long term vanilla friend finally gets to sleep with Mrs Cooljee. It's happened a couple of times now with us and has been really, really horny every time.
It's also super horny when we host a dinner party and Mrs Cooljee wears no knickers. Subtly being fingered under the table by one friend, whilst trying to keep a straight face and hold a conversation with another is quite a challenge."
Wuuuuuu very interesting concept x |
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lost one of my oldest and best friends that way . d*unken night out mrs was feeling horny and wanted a threesome with him. great horny night. but afterwards he would not stop looking for more and kept turning up when i was away and trying it on. in the end she told me to tell him to keep away, |
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"lost one of my oldest and best friends that way . d*unken night out mrs was feeling horny and wanted a threesome with him. great horny night. but afterwards he would not stop looking for more and kept turning up when i was away and trying it on. in the end she told me to tell him to keep away, "
Told them I'm out and if they want that then to join here and fill your boots. I only mentioned the site and I was actually shocked when they asked me |
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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago
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Our first threesomes were with a close friend. The friendship dynamic didn't change at all until he found a lady-friend of his own, then things got weird.
She decided that even coming to our house meant we were going to pounce on her like sexual deviants. She also forbade his seeing us. Haven't seen/talked to him in over 24 months now. |
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"Our first threesomes were with a close friend. The friendship dynamic didn't change at all until he found a lady-friend of his own, then things got weird.
She decided that even coming to our house meant we were going to pounce on her like sexual deviants. She also forbade his seeing us. Haven't seen/talked to him in over 24 months now."
Oh dear not good, loving all the different outcomes though, very interesting thank you |
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