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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi all
im in a dilema, i have 101 guys wanting to meet me but im scared as the last new guy i met turned out to be an arse hole the meet didnt go well at all.
so im thinking do i arrange to meet a new guy while im out with friends having a drink is this a good idea or bad idea??
first meet is just to get to know each other |
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Hi,
Sorry you had a bad experience. Do your friends know you swing? If not it could all get a bit messy if he also turns out to be an arsehole! If they do know, then it may be a good idea, at least you'd have the back up from your friends.
Other than that, arrange to meet in a busy but not too noisy place.
Hope you get better luck next time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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try talking more first angel you don't have to meet someone straight away just make sure your comftorble with him first see how you get on .Certainly if your friends know that you swingvcould be good idea to meet under those circumstances too as they'll give there opinion aswell tgc of yourself good luck   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi. Don't be put off by one guy that's in a minority - meet others and you will soon get your confidence back. As said above, meet somewhere neutral and then you can always make an exit. As for meeting with friends as a back up, I agree with what was said but do tell the guy otherwise he may feel intimidated  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thanks everyone for your kind words and helpful hints the friend im going out is a swinger her self i met her through swinging.
i think it will b a good night
thanks again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've now met 2 ladies initially on a 'meet for coffee with no expectations' basis! Pleased to say that on both occasions it didn't finish with the coffee!!
But personally, I think it's a good way to meet. Arrange to meet for a coffee/drink in a public place, on the basis that if one doesn't fancy the other then each goes their separate way.
I suspect that some, probably guys, won't be happy with the idea so you're able to out a few without meeting at all! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"its a good idea to meet these men when your out with M, because that is a lot safer hun and she can help vet them too lol, hope you have fun fallen x"
thanks gorgeous one day it will b your turn
fallen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its a good idea to meet these men when your out with M, because that is a lot safer hun and she can help vet them too lol, hope you have fun fallen x
thanks gorgeous one day it will b your turn
fallen "
i know i cant wait sexy
steve x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All the above is good advice, but I'd also say listen to your own instinct, if something doesn't feel quite right don't meet! Sorry can't be more constructive than that, but instinct works for me ..........! |
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I would totally agree about instinct.
It's far better to not meet someone you're not sure about and be safe than to risk it and end up in trouble.
Also please always let someone (preferably someone from here) know where you're going and who with.
Wild xxx |
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Totally support Wild's advice above and would add to it: have someone you trust available to take or make a call on your mobile some time into the date/meet, so that 1) they know you're OK and the person you've met appears to be genuine and not an axe murderer, but also 2) gives you an opportunity for an instant get-out if things aren't going how you'd hoped/expected..
Better safe than sorry!
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By (user no longer on site)
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just a arrange a quick 5 minute hello meet in a car park...then you are in control....you can quickly establish if you're comfortable around them....and theres always the opportunity for a nice snog if the hello goes well!!
again make sure you have chatted for a while before agreeing to a meet and never let yourself be pressured into anything you're not happy with...i have learned that sometimes being polite just doesnt work....just be honest
better luck xx |
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