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Think some guys think the girls on here are prostitutes

By *itsAndTaff OP Couple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

& before all the guys get on the defensive, I do do meets & although I have only been on the site a short time I have met guys from this site who have all been lovely & respectful it's those who are just cocky & rude in their initial messages that get my back up & get blocked, so I am not taring you all with the same brush

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

can i book 30 mins tonight though?

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By *trongArms123Man over a year ago

South East

I'm still surprised when I hear that men approach in this way. I wonder how many times its worked?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Redbridge eh? What a coincidence......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)"

Only some guys??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...some are, or at least escorts lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

Only some guys??

yeah, some. many are perfectly lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown."

Flip your post around and substitute the word princess with 'being respected'

Being messaged with 'In hotel now wanna meet' does not show any respect in my eyes

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple over a year ago

Bedworth

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown."

And why shouldn't ladies on here expect to be treated as such? In case you hadn't noticed, single ladies are in the minority on here and thus the balance of power is not in your favour. If you don't like it or don't want to treat the ladies how they wish then you'd better make do with your right hand for company

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By *ed LipstickWoman over a year ago

Fucksville

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown.

Flip your post around and substitute the word princess with 'being respected'

Being messaged with 'In hotel now wanna meet' does not show any respect in my eyes

This

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By *ocketman20Man over a year ago

Douglas

"...some are, or at least escorts lol"

Seems to be loads now, I could name six off the top of my head but I won't, obviously.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Yep, some guys are jerks

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By *ed LipstickWoman over a year ago

Fucksville

I was messaged at 10.50pm one Wednesday night by a bloke that put something along the lines of.... hey hun I'm nearby you wanna meet up and drain my cock tonight (he was verified so this tactic must work)? This is the majority of messages I receive; hence the reason why I block all men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm glad you said some men OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You think thats weird, friend of mine other day got asked if she would fuck his dog for cash lol

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown.

Flip your post around and substitute the word princess with 'being respected'

Being messaged with 'In hotel now wanna meet' does not show any respect in my eyes

Nowt surprises me on here, disrespectful yes in my opinion but, I'm thinking this actually does work sometimes. This has to be one of the most common messages received on a weekend.

Him

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By *itsAndTaff OP Couple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

"I'm glad you said some men OP

It is only some men, like I said I have met some lovely guys from here but messages like that drive me & many others mad & is what makes some women & couples do a blanket block to all guys which I think is unfair & don't want to ever be pushed to do

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown.

Flip your post around and substitute the word princess with 'being respected'

Being messaged with 'In hotel now wanna meet' does not show any respect in my eyes

Nowt surprises me on here, disrespectful yes in my opinion but, I'm thinking this actually does work sometimes. This has to be one of the most common messages received on a weekend.

Him"

Well I have had 3 of those type of messages today alone, so obviously my profile has not been read and they also think I don't need any pictures of them in order to make a decision, so yes, they must think I am some kind of free prostitute who is gagging for sex 24/7 and any cock will do

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By *itsAndTaff OP Couple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown."

Absolutely nothing wrong with being a prostitute & if I was obviously id be getting paid and be more accommodating but I also I wouldn't be on here as it's not allowed

But I'm not a prostitute I'm a regular woman & 4 guys from here talked themselves into my knickers within a month so I'm guessing I'm not a princess either

I'm just someone who appreciates some normal chat/manners

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You should all see the texts I get.....hahaha. But it does not bother me at all. I think there are people for very different taste. I just do not reply if they insist I blocked them...easy!!! I still think we should not judge people with lack of social skills....That is my humble opinion...

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

I might have to disagree on that (did not read what you wrote) but on the other hand women and couple think in here is dial-a-cock.

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By *andi_shopWoman over a year ago

rotherham

Completely agree, if it's not blokes offering cash for services it's them expecting you to be free there and then to drain them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

We are horny and in your area now??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ironic really, all the single men are desperate to have women message them that they are in the area and just want cock right now

Damn, checked and my inbox is still empty........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the majority of men on here are like this. very few men are respectful. it's depressing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"the majority of men on here are like this. very few men are respectful. it's depressing."

We're not all bad, some of us are polite

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"the majority of men on here are like this. very few men are respectful. it's depressing.

We're not all bad, some of us are polite

A lot are polite in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

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By *xoticMermaidWoman over a year ago

NORTH WEST

I do believe that 'some' women are just as bad n do the same. Ive been told that 'some' love the idea of having a stranger turn up, fuck them silly n leave cos hubby/bf/kids are due back later. Its not my cup of tea but this is where some of the guys who has had meets like this n assume all women just want 'fuck n go'. This site does have more men but bet if u ask a guy, bet they've received a few messages from women who wants them to go over now n fuck them! They ruin it for some of the single women who would like to spend quality time with a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want to book 1hr tonight and I want "a level", owo and cim lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The last time I had a squiz at the female profiles in my area enough of them did seem to be prostitutes, advertising their websites or paid gang bangs that I almost can't blame the men for getting confused

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown."

Just because I don't want to f**k with some tubby little old man doesn't mean that I think I am a 'princess'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

Totally agree with you

When are your legs opening is another one

Seriously??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do believe that 'some' women are just as bad n do the same. Ive been told that 'some' love the idea of having a stranger turn up, fuck them silly n leave cos hubby/bf/kids are due back later. Its not my cup of tea but this is where some of the guys who has had meets like this n assume all women just want 'fuck n go'. This site does have more men but bet if u ask a guy, bet they've received a few messages from women who wants them to go over now n fuck them! They ruin it for some of the single women who would like to spend quality time with a meet.

I can safely say I have not received a "fuck me now message" from anyone.

Maybe I'm too polite.....feeling all left out now

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

oh this is interested...moral compass on fabswingers....grabs popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've had a few last minute fuck & go meets. It's the only thing we use Fab for really.

We've had a couple with Twirl tied to the bed, bloke came, fucked and left.

So I guess we treat some blokes like whores

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Given the ratio of single women to single men it is inevitable that women will receive more of these kind of messages but there are plenty of men on here to whom single women/couples show an equal lack of respect.

Disrespectful..... delete/block and move on.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

That is why reading a profile is important rather than just think you are catalogue shopping! My profile clearly says I am not a fuck a go, so at times I feel I have the right to respond with 'Fuck Off'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown.

Flip your post around and substitute the word princess with 'being respected'

Being messaged with 'In hotel now wanna meet' does not show any respect in my eyes

Nowt surprises me on here, disrespectful yes in my opinion but, I'm thinking this actually does work sometimes. This has to be one of the most common messages received on a weekend.

Him

Couldn't have put it better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, fancy that, people's preferences and tastes differing from others, and then some how that spoils the experience for others.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

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its a swinger site..if you want instashag go to to a sex club. swingers clubs are different..as advertised this is a swingers site..the difference between should be obvious, although some guys/ couples don't like it...you are not entitled, to anything on here..

an attitude that suggests that people think this is a sex site, including 'fancy a fuck now', messages is the biggest drawback on this site. if there are escorts on here, i wish all the entitled ones would look for them, maybe then i wouldn't have to have my filters up all the time.

if by 'princess' you mean i assert my choice to meet with whom i want...i suggest you change that to 'queen'. i am in charge of my body and what i do with it on here, and whom i do it with..funny that, but so 21st century..

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

its a swinger site..if you want instashag go to to a sex club. swingers clubs are different..as advertised this is a swingers site..the difference between should be obvious, although some guys/ couples don't like it...you are not entitled, to anything on here..

^^ Well said

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By *lassy pairCouple over a year ago

Greenwich London

And by the way OP that does not happen to single women it happen to couples too, as we get that all the time in fact last night we got " both horny would you guys come around now for a bit of fun " and guess what they were 140 miles away our answer was hold on we getting to out helicopter right now and we will be there in a jeffy followed by another message saying sorry guys no petrol in enough to get there so helicopter is grounded sorry we could not make it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

I don't think it's the sexual propositions that are the issue, it's the way in which they are delivered.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

Absolute shite! If that is how you treat people then crack on! As I am a single female I lay out quite clearly in my profile how I do things, if they choose to ignore them then they can fuck off as well, it seems some couples think of there meets as play toys whether they are male or female, so you obviously just think of them as add on's and your play thing, so yes go to a sex site if that is what you are looking for

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

People are free to use the site as best suits them, not how you dictate. If you don't like the messages you receive use the filters and blocks. If you don't want sexual propositions try a flower arranging forum instead."
i have my filters on. i do the messaging and the meeting and the playing..i dont have any complaints about my social or my sex life thanks. i manage perfectly well.. so take your own 'bollocks' and fondle them in your own hands, if you are frustrated, its really not my deal..nor any other womans on here..

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By *xoticMermaidWoman over a year ago

NORTH WEST

Totally agree. Like u Im single too. I dont have a hubby or bf to go home to after a meet so in all fairness, women in a couples profile can go ahead n arrange a fuck n go scenario. Its their preference but just wish guys dont treat us single women the same. Read profile..that solves a lot of wasted time.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

And might just MIGHT stop the dis-respectfulness, yes females in couples might enjoy a fuck and go but me as others as single females do not, so please respect that is all I am asking!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

People are free to use the site as best suits them, not how you dictate. If you don't like the messages you receive use the filters and blocks. If you don't want sexual propositions try a flower arranging forum instead. i have my filters on. i do the messaging and the meeting and the playing..i dont have any complaints about my social or my sex life thanks. i manage perfectly well.. so take your own 'bollocks' and fondle them in your own hands, if you are frustrated, its really not my deal..nor any other womans on here.."

I personally would prefer this site to be just for swinging, and maybe have another site that is a sex site. I don't know what the original intention was, and maybe there are sites out there that are more specialised. But Fab has served us well, and enabled us to become well connected with couples and singles in the swinging community, so we would be reluctant to change now. We have our filters and the way we've worded our profile has brought messages from single guys looking for free easy sex down to a minimum. But it is a shame that there are so many guys with no interest in swinging looking for what seems to be a free prostitute.

Mrs

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By *rs DCouple over a year ago

far

Guys on fab dont want to pay for it, they want it for free, why pay if you can get it for free

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guys on fab dont want to pay for it, they want it for free, why pay if you can get it for free

Presumably because they are still incapable of getting it for free, or too impatient

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

People are free to use the site as best suits them, not how you dictate. If you don't like the messages you receive use the filters and blocks. If you don't want sexual propositions try a flower arranging forum instead. i have my filters on. i do the messaging and the meeting and the playing..i dont have any complaints about my social or my sex life thanks. i manage perfectly well.. so take your own 'bollocks' and fondle them in your own hands, if you are frustrated, its really not my deal..nor any other womans on here.."

Because everyone's just dying to know all about your sex life!

No thanks.

I mentioned nothing of frustration. I pointed out that we happen to use the site for NSA sex, not as the romantic dating site others expect it to be.

What I see is the usual moaning women who feel entitled to dictate how men use the site complaining about some men's sense of entitlement.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"People ask for sex on a sex site. How very dare they

Sorry, but bollocks.

People are free to use the site as best suits them, not how you dictate. If you don't like the messages you receive use the filters and blocks. If you don't want sexual propositions try a flower arranging forum instead. i have my filters on. i do the messaging and the meeting and the playing..i dont have any complaints about my social or my sex life thanks. i manage perfectly well.. so take your own 'bollocks' and fondle them in your own hands, if you are frustrated, its really not my deal..nor any other womans on here..

Because everyone's just dying to know all about your sex life!

No thanks.

I mentioned nothing of frustration. I pointed out that we happen to use the site for NSA sex, not as the romantic dating site others expect it to be.

What I see is the usual moaning women who feel entitled to dictate how men use the site complaining about some men's sense of entitlement.

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use it for that..but its not that you have to change, its just your attitute.as you are entitled to use the site the way you want, others are equally entitled to do as they please and i dont dictate to men, i suggest theyd be more successful on here if they had a more considered approach to the swinging scene, ive never forced anyone to take on board my suggestions, however i can dictate who gets near me, thats my perogative and those men who treat women like a piece of meat, dont get a look in..simple..have fun babes and a lovely christmas x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But we don't take those messages seriously anyway. Block & move on. No big deal.

Do exactly the same with the "couples" 'he has a free pass' tonight messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Awfully lot of ranty slut shaming going on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a lovely fuck and go meet last week with a couple on here. TBH I have been one to be critical of women/couples who expect the whole "dial4blackcock" thing...but I found the meeting somewhat refreshing. They were cool and laid back and local which made things pretty easy.

TBH we have to remember that this is still a swinging site...I dont really get the women who seem to think that they're gonna be running into guys looking to treat them to meals out and dates. If you want that you need to take yourself to POF.

Being cheesed off at blatant disrespect is understandable but, at the same time, I think alot of people just want sex without the bullshit. Sadly, in the anglicized world especially, preceding monetary exchange seems to be the only (outside of drugs/alcohol) of eliminating much of the excess baggage that comes with heterosexual casual sex. It is not really a surprise that interactions on here can seem similar.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also, by some distance, I think single females are BY FAR the worst users of Fab in general and part of the reason why I think a lot of single women simply are not cut out for swinging. Way too many seem to want to turn Fab into a dating site and the few I met who did have some inclination toward meeting were easily the worst offenders of the UNLOS crime.

Call me sexist, I dont care. But I think swinging is really for couples. Most of us single guys tend to be looking for an easy shag and the single women tend to think they can somehow win male affection through being as "kinky" as possible.

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

You see, by far the biggest drawback is......an elephants foreskin.

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By *cot611Man over a year ago

carterton

Just spent half an hour on adultwork and must have seen at least ten girls, who's pictures I'd seen on here. Does not matter one little bit though in my opinion. Just means those girls are now back on the list of possibles, probably would have spent similar money on hotel or drinks on a mutual meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Darling you aren't the only one - at 20 messages a day arrive from guys with one to five words ranging from Skype? Cam? to Meet now?

Delete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a lovely fuck and go meet last week with a couple on here. TBH I have been one to be critical of women/couples who expect the whole "dial4blackcock" thing...but I found the meeting somewhat refreshing. They were cool and laid back and local which made things pretty easy.

That's great that you had an enjoyable 'fuck and go', and that has its place within the swing scene, and I'm not saying I've never done that. But a huge aspect of the swing scene incorporates a social side. Couples like ourselves, who thrive on 'fucking our friends', are likely to be a disappointment to so many of the guys who are searching for something that is relatively hard to find on a swinging site, and certainly more instantly attainable on an escort site. With regards using POF, for women like myself who want to go for a few drinks prior to sex - well that's all very well for single ladies playing as a single. But what are woman who are meeting a guy as part of a couple supposed to do? POF, or any of the dating sites, are only for singles! So we have to use a swingers site when we are looking for men to join us for an evening.

Mrs

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By *armersWoman over a year ago

castle bromwich

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

Totally agree it's these kinda guys that stop me messaging the genuine ones as I become dispondant xx

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By *armersWoman over a year ago

castle bromwich

"Also, by some distance, I think single females are BY FAR the worst users of Fab in general and part of the reason why I think a lot of single women simply are not cut out for swinging. Way too many seem to want to turn Fab into a dating site and the few I met who did have some inclination toward meeting were easily the worst offenders of the UNLOS crime.

I agree it is better to swing in a couple and easier if I'm honest but when you are single finding a match you can swing with and doesn't get jealous possessive or demanding is hard. Yes talking from experience been a swinger now for nearly ten years.

The nightmare for me is having to change my profile reinvent the wheel due to exes then spying on my activity thinking because I swing I'm an easy shag to hook up with x

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

Do you really think all single women are after male attention? And they seek this by being 'super freaky'? You dont think women have a sexuality and know their own needs and desires? Do women not think for themselves or is everything they do framed by and for men? I speak as a single women on this site for four years before I met my OH. I did not swing during that time to 'hook' a man, indeed I had to often restrict meets with very demanding men who wanted me on tap and to be a regular thing whereas I just wanted NSA. I still swing alone and with my partner, although less so now as other things come first. Swinging at that time, when I was single, scratched an itch and didn't interfere with the rest of my life, it kept it in a box ... I certainly dont think I am the only women who has her own mind. In my experience, though, its generally men who are more threatened by this though, at least find it difficult to understand. My OH is, I think, fairly unique in this ...

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

We all get messages asking to fuck now but I just politely say no. Only block if they become irritating constantly asking why.

I have been very lucky and met some fabulous men on here who are polite and just plain lovely.

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By *armersWoman over a year ago

castle bromwich

It is very hard to find people who are as like minded as you I love my boxes and it's easy for me not to let them overlap keeps things simple.

But at the same time I'm my own person not just some sexual property or to be seen as easy because of my lifestyle choices either.

I think this will get a lot of single women's back up if I'm honest xx

We have just as much right as you men to pick choose and fuck who we want when we want and how we want too!

There are people on here who let both sides down but we aren't all like that!

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

I am not looking for 'male affection'; I have a very nice boyfriend for that. But I am not looking for complete a**h*les either. They can go f**k themselves and usually, with their attitudes, that is all they end up doing here

There are too many decrepit men who think they are going to get an instant shag from any woman here. They can't get a woman in the big-wide world and guess what; they can't get one here either; now, that is a surprise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Awfully lot of ranty slut shaming going on here. "

Also why get so upset about unsuitable messages? It takes a second to delete. So some bloke who doesn't know you thinks you might want to go to his hotel tonight, and you don't want to. Delete the message. He doesn't know you. Who cares.

I'm not going to get offended by people messaging me wanting to have sex with me, while I'm here with my tits out on a site where I'm looking to meet men for sex. If they started messaging my LinkedIn profile inviting me to suck them off at the side of the A19, that would be the time to be shocked or upset. On here? Not so much. Delete delete delete. They'll either find someone else who IS into that, learn a more fruitful approach, or leave. No biggie.

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By *nfamyMan over a year ago

Goole

I'm lovely

, my Gran said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't get lots of fancy a meet now messages but have had a run of, I'm in a hotel near you type thing. A quick read of my profile would tell these guys messaging that I'm not looking for random hook ups or available to do so! It's not flattering really to get messages like that and it just stinks of desperation which isn't an attractive trait.

Everyone is entitled to use this site as they choose and from reading posts on the forums, most are happy with how they use it and the experiences that they have. There isn't a one size fits all approach and people need to be respectful of that.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

RTFP; read the f**kin' profile

Some women, whether in a couple or single, will sh*g anything in trousers. Send them messages like those

Others get annoyed after they receive their hundredth such message of the day when they clearly are looking for NSA sex but not in some bl**dy lorry or lay-by with Quasimodo's second cousin!

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

"RTFP; read the f**kin' profile

Some women, whether in a couple or single, will sh*g anything in trousers. Send them messages like those

Others get annoyed after they receive their hundredth such message of the day when they clearly are looking for NSA sex but not in some bl**dy lorry or lay-by with Quasimodo's second cousin!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown."

Jerk.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

When I met men as a single female I always wanted 'fuck and go' and it was the men I met who usually wanted more, which caused too much baggage. I think it suited both sides when it worked completely as an nsa ... now I meet men with my partner, we are both after similar as we dont need any type of relationship or friendship with anyone we meet for sex. We keep friends for the 'real world'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people behave badly online, face to face in a social situation most men we have met have been polite and respectful. If they have not been then we don't play.

The annoying thing about online communication is that is takes up valuable leisure time, often feels like a chore not a pleasure and you can never be absolutely sure the person genuinely means what they have typed. There are no body language signals, tone of voice, visual signs to read.

That said - the good thing about messages on fabs is that you get to meet some lovely people in the flesh sometimes!

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By *100Man over a year ago

Essex

Not me I have a lot of respect for the ladies on here and in the real world and wish you all a very merry Christmas xxxxxx

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"& that our legs should be wide open & waiting for them 24/7

I'm just shocked at the amount of messages I get literally just saying

'I'm horny & in your area now' Do they honestly think that'll make me drop to my knees

Or if arranging a meet I say I'm free on tonight, they reply 'what not right now?' I apologise that I have a life & commitments & cant drop my knickers as soon as your message drops into my inbox

Anyway apologies that's my little rant over I feel better now haha

(I'm sure none of the guys from the forum send messages like those above but just incase you do, maybe change your approach as I'm guessing I'm not alone in finding those kind of messages a turn off)

And what is wrong with a female being a prostitute?

Flip your post around and similarly far too many females on here think they are Princesses and expect to be treated as such.

Guys.....feel free to fire into me for posting my thoughts. After all it's all about ingratiating yourself in the hope of wearing the crown."
and how is that _iew on the situation working out for u on here

.personally me (the guy) thinks that all good woman should be respected or treated like a princess as u put it until i find out through interaction if they are an asshole and if so they just get ignored and move on.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I might have to disagree on that (did not read what you wrote) but on the other hand women and couple think in here is dial-a-cock.

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but to be completely honast it is though

i could put a status up now saying looking for cock and will have loads of msgs within a couple min.fab is most definitely a woman's world weather guys like that or not. ( mr ).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Difficult to understand because its an outlier. Its like trying to use gay/bisexual men as the barometer for male sex behaviour whilst forgetting to acknowledge that gay men dont make up much of the population.

Men find it threatening? Of course we do, especially considering we have been heavily socialized by a society peppered with christian dogmatic influence. BUT I find it rich when women will claim they're sex lives arent that different men even though its clear to anyone with an understanding of women that they go about sex in remarkably different ways. Most women participating in casual sex are still far more selective and place greater importance of personality than men do, simply because biologically the outcomes and expectations of women from sex are vastly different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Also, FYI, ask the many men who have experience losing their female partners to other men whose casual sex turned into real bonafide affairs. That happens alot and there are plenty of men who can attest to it. I have no idea why so many on here want to pass off this idea that they're just as casual about sex as men are but then will start asking for men to be "respectful" and patient and "willing to meet for socials/dates". Thats fundamentally different to how men treat casual sex, as we are far less picky about both looks, behavior and circumstance through which an experience can occur.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

Not all men are the same; some will sh*g anything that moves, others are more selective

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

I just delete,and think twat

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

Not all men are the same; some will sh*g anything that moves, others are more selective"
so you have to be living with someone to be in a relashinship even though you spend weekends and and couple week days together

.does your "boyfriend" know about what else you get up too on here. i only ask as in your ranty profile you say if you find out guys are attached you will be very indiscreet and make sure there wifes find out.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

Not all men are the same; some will sh*g anything that moves, others are more selectiveso you have to be living with someone to be in a relashinship even though you spend weekends and and couple week days together

If you had read my 'ranty' profile (selective profile) you will have noticed that he too has his profile here

Yes, for me, to be a couple means that one lives together. Your _iew may be different and so be it

I do not want to meet attached men; my choice. If any lying toad tries to get around that then, yes, I will be very indiscreet

So, what was the point you were trying to make?

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By *rs DCouple over a year ago

far

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

I think bi men make up a lot more of the male population than anyone lets on and I also think these boundaries are fluid. I don't think everyone's experience of Christian culture is the same either, to be honest. I am always up for a quick and easy tuck, but luckily I have my partner for that ....

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

If you had read my 'ranty' profile (selective profile) you will have noticed that he too has his profile here

Yes, for me, to be a couple means that one lives together. Your _iew may be different and so be it

I do not want to meet attached men; my choice. If any lying toad tries to get around that then, yes, I will be very indiscreet

So, what was the point you were trying to make?"
that is good if you to edit him in there eh

.your kind of contradicting yourself as it olso says you have a boyfriend who is more than a fb or fwb.to be honast i dont really care its just the whole being indiscreet and tracking down wifes thing in your profile i found a bit weird and annoying so yea peace out and have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't speak for any other women on here but I'm not here to win anyone's affections. I'm here for sexual gratification, with men who turn me on. I use my brain, instincts and conversation to decide who to meet. My sex life is very rewarding.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

I am intrigued by the idea that at least one mannered thinks women's sex lives and behaviour revolve around trying to get a man, so I have started another thread to see what women say about it ... including the bi ones oerhaps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As for the easy shag, yes there are some people on here for that. I'm not one of them, so I politely decline any invitations of draining someone's bollocks (not that I have received many of those).

I'm also not a princess and don't want to be treated as one. Mutual respect goes a long way, and when the chemistry is there, the sex is good, great, amazing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll have a look.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

If you had read my 'ranty' profile (selective profile) you will have noticed that he too has his profile here

Yes, for me, to be a couple means that one lives together. Your _iew may be different and so be it

I do not want to meet attached men; my choice. If any lying toad tries to get around that then, yes, I will be very indiscreet

So, what was the point you were trying to make?that is good if you to edit him in there eh

You have me confused now

Yes, I have a boyfriend; yes, he has his profile here; yes, I mention him on my profile; yes, I have photographs of the both of us together on my profile and he, on his profile; yes, I don't like liars and will expose them; yes, I will choose who I want to meet and I don't want to meet attached men

Once again, what was the point you were trying to make?

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By *lassy pairCouple over a year ago

Greenwich London

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

If you had read my 'ranty' profile (selective profile) you will have noticed that he too has his profile here

Yes, for me, to be a couple means that one lives together. Your _iew may be different and so be it

I do not want to meet attached men; my choice. If any lying toad tries to get around that then, yes, I will be very indiscreet

So, what was the point you were trying to make?that is good if you to edit him in there eh

You have me confused now

Once again, what was the point you were trying to make?"

Well the point is, there is no point

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

If you had read my 'ranty' profile (selective profile) you will have noticed that he too has his profile here

Yes, for me, to be a couple means that one lives together. Your _iew may be different and so be it

I do not want to meet attached men; my choice. If any lying toad tries to get around that then, yes, I will be very indiscreet

So, what was the point you were trying to make?that is good if you to edit him in there eh

You have me confused now

Once again, what was the point you were trying to make?

Well the point is, there is no point

That was slowly dawning on stupid ole me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are plenty of couples like us who truly use fab to arrange sexual encounters which are literally just that . So a guy who just wants to unload and go would get a positive response from us if he was the type we fancied meeting .

Sometimes we arrange five or six meets in one night , as that's what we fancy . If that's perceived as my wife being treated like a prostitute , so be it . But if that's our thing on that night , it floats our boat too , so it isn't really is it ?

It really is a case of something for everyone on here . A guy may want a more meaningful meet . A drink or two , a bit of a flirt , build up the connection and meet again and again with the same people . There are plenty who like this approach . And there are those who prefer to establish the connection with a couple of messages , meet and have great sex without really knowing the other people involved . Probably never meeting again , and leaving with the memory of a truly spontaneous NSA adrenaline fuelled sexual encounter .

As the popular saying in here goes - each to their own .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

Not all men are the same; some will sh*g anything that moves, others are more selective"

Does he say the same thing? Its pretty well known that "cheater" are not looked highly upon so its already a little odd when you claim you have a boyfriend and that you're single in the same thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

Thank you.

It blows my mind how many people here are caught up in their own dishonesty.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

If you have a boyfriend then you're not really single are you??

Since we don't live together and meet once or twice a week and spend weekends together, yes, I am still single

I don't want sex with men who I find unattractive. If all I want is a quick orgasm then I have a selection of vibrators to choose from

Not all men are the same; some will sh*g anything that moves, others are more selective

Does he say the same thing? Its pretty well known that "cheater" are not looked highly upon so its already a little odd when you claim you have a boyfriend and that you're single in the same thread

You guys need to start reading before hitting the reply button

We have only known each other a year; we do not live together; we are not married, so yes, I am single

He knows I am meeting others; I know thathe is meeting others

He has his own profile here; I mention him on my profile when meeting couples and he mentions me on his profile when meeting couples. We have photographs of both together on each others profiles

We have much more to our relationship than FabS. We have met each other's famalies/parents, etc

I do not want to meet attached men as I do not want to meet short men as I do not want to meet fat men. If anyone lies to me to meet me then I will expose them

Which part are you having difficulty comprehending?